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[@riiroiro]

"i didnt find a date but you know what i did find? a sponsor" JSDHFKLDSFJ EVE

[@charlotted1321]

💀💀💀

[@FarzanasLaw]

I literally died when she said that :PPPPP

[@slk9862]

"I wish people were as excited and supportive about women's career milestones, personal development and travel journeys as they were about pregnancies and engagements" I'm a law student and super excited to kick-off my career, however, my family (especially my grand parents) don't give a f about my academic achievements. It kinda hurts that all they want to talk about is my (non-existent) love life.

[@dhev5187]

CONGRATULATIONS!! Law is bloody hard and i'm sure you killed it! Good luck!

[@anita5518]

I am 15 year old girl that has just started high school. I love to read and play sports and am interested in world problems, human rights and politics. But the only thing my family wants to talk to me about is whether there is some boy or gossip from my school. Like I am not interested in that at all but they see nothing else in me. On the other hand my brother is asked about his school and sport achievements all the time and no one asks him when he is gonna get a girlfriend.

[@futuristicPastgirl]

What sort of things do they ask? Lots of parents can be like this its so so annoying

[@advocateriddhimalik]

UGH SAME!

[@walasami9030]

Honestly, it's a cultural issue and I feel you I am going to be 30 at the end of the year and through out my 20's all I remember is people celebrating the engagements and weddings so much and not my degrees that much. The weirdest thing is when my own family assumed that I would settle by 26 or 25 instead here I am trying to get a legal career instead of this.

[@mikesmic]

the way you spilled

[@tarae6587]

directed by: eve cornwell written by: eve cornwell featuring: eve cornwell wardrobe: eve cornwell *eve, you are a woman of many talents and I love you for that*

[@abdullaannoman5256]

Ha ha!

[@tarae6587]

@Vanesa what is this lmao

[@itsmojito4088]

i wish we would normalize people having their own journeys instead of comparing/judging each other, i for one am tired

[@tahlidawson7445]

“I not scared of commitment, I just wasn’t with the right person and I couldn’t see us taking things any further”. THIS. Everything about this is so important

[@anousha9287]

pov: you are watching this after eve's announced she has a girlfriend 🥺🌈🌈

[@saketsharma2958]

Yusss! 🌈

[@gluestickangel333]

yes ! 🥺

[@eviemorris-newell6666]

omg i was about to comment this 😂🌈

[@UU-mt4wv]

where did she announce that?:)

[@sheilaya2257]

ASDFGHJKL!!! Where did she announce that??

[@daphnequerleu4590]

As a 20 year old who's been in a relationship since I'm 15, it was so refreshing to hear someone say that you don't need to be single to be independent. It's always so annoying and also kinda hurtful when people tell me they don't understand how I can be dating someone for so long and that it's not very feminist of me to have never been an "independent" woman. My relationship status does not define me!!!!

[@daiishi_kinyoubi]

🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@danielleborgess]

exactly!

[@athena774]

ahhh this!!!

[@liljaschumann7533]

yaaasss!!

[@AshTanya]

Whoever said that to you has a very toxic view of feminism.

[@sumedhgadham5020]

From a guy's perspective itd be cool to normalize milestones that are often considered feminine. We like tht shit too

[@ctoutbleu8202]

I completely understand what you mean, but I would argue that it would be much more beneficial to everyone if these rules were eliminated rather than spread and further normalised. This way, everyone could simply mind their own business, without worrying about external judgement or pressure. That shouldn't take away from the significance of things usually considered as milestones, such as finding a relationship or having a baby, (you should be able to count on yourself and your friends to celebrate what matters to you, even without society telling you it's important), but it should take away from societal (and thus capitalist) standards which profit off that pressure.

[@julieannelovesbooks]

I think it should really be up to you. I think if those milestones weren't there and you could just make your own and everyone could just make their own everyone would be a lot happier. Not everyone want to get married and have children and settle down. In the current society stuff like that is looked down upon (especially for women). So without those milestones, people can stop looking down on each other. I know it's not as easy as I'm making it sound, but it should really be a goal. But yeah, be excited about things you want to be excited by and don't feel ashamed for it.

[@sumedhgadham5020]

@@ctoutbleu8202 I agree, but I can't foresee us removing norms in society as they get broken down and formed over again with a sort of collective consciousness. Also capitalist profits out of milestone celebrations aren't really a bad thing is it

[@sumedhgadham5020]

@@julieannelovesbooks tru tru, its kinda easy to say that we shud celebrate or feel normal with our choices but its impossible to stop feeling judged for those decisions

[@julieannelovesbooks]

Sumedh Gadham it takes a lot of work and effort to be comfortable with yourself like that. People are going to judge you whatever you do. It doesn’t matter. So you doing you is the most important thing. Just have to have a thick skin to dare to be yourself completely.

[@clarariedel5754]

„i‘m not searching for my better half because i‘m not a half“

[@UnJadedJade]

oh mate i loved this, you're my icon

[@daisy319]

SAME

[@onabalcony]

I actually am asexual, and realised I wasn't attracted to anyone when I was in first year of uni. Now I have been out of uni for a year, that's 4 years knowing this about myself, and I still question if I'm just "waiting for the right person" or "have commitment issues", like society has convinced me there's no way that I could just not want a relationship. Obviously I'm open to my identity changing, but I really have to catch myself when my brain tried to invalidate the way i really feel, because that's just the voices of every film, tv show, etc etc that has told me that sex and love are the end goal. I think I'll be a lot happier living in a nice little studio flat with a cat.

[@CinnamonToast]

I'm the same way! Never wanted to date anyone, never felt attraction, never understood what other girls were talking about when they said a boy is "cute". Finding out that asexuality is a real thing and I'm not just incredibly undesirable was a relief. It is still a struggle though when everything you encounter in media and from well-meaning family members is "don't worry, you'll find someone" 😒like they can't even fathom it being okay to not want that

[@Ella-ks7jp]

Not to invalidate you at all, but would aromantic feel like a more fitting term? just from reading about your own experiences, and how you feel like you don't experience romantic feelings, it might be something to look into, that could help with figuring out your own identity. I've honestly struggled through the asexuality spectrum myself, and have finally found a term that feels right to me, so I only mean to help you too. (Also, just as a side note, you can be both aromantic and asexual! it's really whatever term you feel represents your own identity and feelings the most

[@pinkseonghwa]

Am an ace person currently living alone with 2 cats. It’s heaven.

[@onabalcony]

@@CinnamonToast ABSOLUTLEY!!! heteronormativity in the media can really mess with your head when you don't fit that mould!

[@onabalcony]

@@Ella-ks7jp Yeah I am asexual aromantic I just never say both haha! It took me a while as a teenager, but I have come to terms with it now. I basically meant I let the voice of the media try and convince me I'm broken but I know deep down that that's how i truly feel.

[@pegs9951]

eve: moves mic my earbuds: sound goes riiiight, sound goes leeeft

[@liesvanespen292]

Yeah, she’s holding it too close. It makes it sound very rough as well.

[@zainabk7396]

literally the emphasis that you don't need anYONE. ilysm

[@charlottehudders1]

a video of eve taking care of herself while I’m suffering from the worst, self-induced hangover in history is what we LOVE to see x

[@aquarocks2980]

ME TOO

[@sazburt]

Going into uni feeling like I need to throw myself into a relationship just because its uni. Definitely needed this video at this moment in my life.

[@rabbit5000]

I just finished my first year of uni and felt the same pressure you did and also got into a relationship that ended quickly. it's overrated! all the best for freshers. put yourself first always and trust the universe, it will send you the right people at the right time x

[@angelabourne7096]

sazburt same here! First day I was hoping that something would happen and I’d be in a relationship by the end of the year, just because I felt I had to. Half way through sem 2 and I’m pretty happy with myself as I am, and I’ll know when I actually want a relationship. Idk if that made sense

[@javierafigueroamoraga8316]

I did and it turned out awful 😂😂 now I know better tho

[@matilda4500]

"Jigsaw" by Daniel Sloss is a stand up special on Netflix and is a great extension of this conversation and speaks a lot on the societal pressures to get into a relationship from a young age and what it does to people who force themselves to be in a relationship. I really recommend watching it! (the relationship stuff is from the halfway mark if you don't enjoy his comedy)

[@aquarocks2980]

yes omg I love it

[@anetarejman783]

Yeees! I literally forced all me friends to watch it and they all loved it ❤️👌

[@leannereilly]

Matilda Sutherland Oh this sounds cool. I’ll add it to my list.

[@TheVirtualLab]

I came here to recommend the same thing, also all of his other specials are really good

[@anetarejman783]

TheVirtualLab YES I saw the new one Live and was blown away how he can always mix silly jokes with serious subjects and actually give you some insightful content

[@Powerof923]

The best part of Eve's entire channel is that she's at the literal same stage of life as me. Related so hard to her just not being interested in dating throughout school and uni, to the extent that I've often blamed it on a fear of intimacy/commitment. Watched this vid at 10 in the morning, had a shower and mid-date with myself. Loving it, 10/10 would recommend time with me

[@bothi00]

Lads She's working for Linklaters-one of the biggest and most prestigious global law firms in the world. Not only are the hours long but they are demanding and incredibly draining. I do not blame her at all for taking a break from KZbin or doing other things with her time in life and only wish her the absolute best in what she endeavours :))

[@daisy7278]

lmao the commitment issues line reminded me of when i was younger "dating" boys and i would get uncomfortable and just run away from them or hide or something and then tell my friends hehe i just have commitment issues no homie u just don't like boys

[@annawangensteen1827]

"no homie" 😂 mood

[@riiroiro]

when you said "single+alone but actually very happy" i felt my heart flutter EVE IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU.

[@RevisionWithEve]

why could I relate to pretty much everything in this hahahaha!!! Loved this video

[@seneca983]

Including the Skillshare sponsorship?

[@-undecided-1663]

@@seneca983 yeah I have a crippling skillshare addiction, what of it?

[@paminaheermann4704]

yes yes yes! been struggling a lot with the concept that you "have" to be single to be successful as a female. This is just utterly untrue, but as soon as someone sees, realizes, or assumes you are successful they automatically think you are single as well. At the same time when you are in a relationship and are the more successful person in a heteronormative relationship, you get questions about how does that makes your boyfriend feel that you are successful. And it hit home so hard when she mentioned that there are very different standards for what is deemed successful for men and women... thank you eve for sharing this!

[@liljaschumann7533]

could not agree more!!

[@ashleytodd1444]

Rumor has it she became so independent she didn’t need youtube anymore

[@emiloberg2110]

This video made me feel so much better about myself. There is a lot of pressure on young people, both romantically and professionally, and that is very damaging. For me it resulted in focusing on my career, like you, and all that pressure coming from media made me feel really bad about myself for not being that interested in having a romantic relationship. I'm still finding out who I am and I don't think that anyone should put any pressure on me to do that more quickly. I'm graduating next summer and then I will take it from there. I will find my place in life, and there is no rush. Thank you for helping me realize that

[@Ambs2023]

My boyfriend’s grandmother was the first woman to drive a car in her part of the country and she got a job later in life after her 6 kids grew up. She was a lovely mother and grandmother, served her community in various voluntary ways, and had a highly intellectual job. At age ~ 70. In heels yet. Her husband supported her all the way. Independence IN relationships is so so so possible. Femininity and independence are what YOU make of them.

[@carmijngerritsen2872]

If she would make a podcast, I would definitely listen to it. She has such great opinions and a really nice voice to listen to💗

[@fernmacfarlane2877]

She is already in a podcast called the wooden spoon

[@carmijngerritsen2872]

Yeah I know but I think it would be so interesting to see her talk about serious topics in a solo podcast if you get what I mean

[@sophiesmith3195]

Also love this gender neutral explanations like “them” and “people” and “person”❤️

[@nv6288]

pannormativity ✨

[@klevelty611]

She bi/gay

[@sophiesmith3195]

Klevelty yeah we all been knew x

[@mikailacore]

@@klevelty611 when did she say?

[@daisyinthelife]

@@sophiesmith3195 like how do you know thou?

[@thesevenstudent]

EVE NEEDS HER OWN NETFLIX SHOW!!!!

[@sophiesmith3195]

Hey eve this is the future now and you have a girlfriend💕 after a few deep breaths u tweeted about it in a totally chill way but having been there we all know you were not chill in your head aha and so a MASSIVE CONGRATULATIONS!❤️ it’s bloody scary stuff announcing shit like that even in 2020 when no one cares lmao but even when just you, 1 person, steps up to say who they are thousands of girls and aspiring lawyers feel more accepted in the world. Thank you eve we love you always ✨✨✨✨

[@faheemahammed6480]

Waiting for Eve's Videos.....

[@thesevenstudent]

Also, can we all agree on the fact that Eve’s EDITING is completely INSANE🔥? I just -

[@leiladebiasi4494]

I REALLY needed the "you can be an independent woman even if you're in a relationship" thing. Like you, I've always thought I had commitment issues (even if I'm no stranger to long term relationship), because every time I find someone I like, I struggle to let myself go and accept to be in a new relationship. Thanks to you I now understand that the real issue here is the fear of losing my independence, or, even worse, to be PERCEIVED by others as "less independent". Thanks Eve!! I have a lot of reflecting to do now lol

[@rishikamalwankar7483]

I feel so bad for those that aren’t comfortable with being alone! I remember telling some of my friends that I go to a dessert parlour on my own, once a month! (No regrets whatsoever). And their response being ‘that just sounds so sad’ and I couldn’t help but think they’re missing the hell out of life😋

[@____7752]

I love this! You just made my day!

[@hugitkissitloveit8640]

Please please please tell me what a dessert parlor is, and if you order all the deserts 😆

[@zek.g7059]

All of Eve’s romantic intrests watching this 👁👄👁

[@drwatsonca6945]

They should watch this so they can have a feeling for what she is like and accept her for who she is.

[@calkompromat1710]

"More good women have been lost to marriage than war, famine or disease. You've got talent - don't squander it."

[@davidgrant7729]

Eve: So lets just have a girly chat Me 24 male straight single: ... Also me: So what colour you gonna dye your hair next!?

[@koteswarris8949]

❤️❤️❤️

[@andreamarsili3466]

actually same

[@localbisaster]

WE LOVE TO SEE IT keep up the good work :))

[@hiroaki4254]

same same lmao

[@peuimporte2225]

So wholesome ❤❤❤❤

[@em6153]

eve my queen i miss you

[@sofie9763]

I just started law school, and I really relate to the whole "only having space for myself". It's been like that for years now. I remember not bothering making friends or romantic relations in High School because I was moving soon anyway, and I was just too caught up with my grades

[@tonitalks]

100% agree- there’s so much pressure put on people finding their ‘true loves’ in uni and honestly imo it pushes people to get into relationships they don’t fully want to be in for the sake of fitting the ideology. If people find their soulmates at uni then great for them but this unnecessary pressure needs to be lifted, life and uni are hard enough already!!

[@koteswarris8949]

Girl where you at ? I miss your videos !!!!

[@nesssssa23]

“the reason you don’t see a future with them is because you’re just not into them” THIS wow eve thank you for saying this

[@starryxblue]

The idea of independence coexisting with being in a relationship should be obvious and yet it wasn't at all for me. It's definitely something I believe but I've always used the whole 'strong independent woman' thing to describe myself when single or say to friends after a breakup. It's so clear that independence shouldn't be tied to any kind of status, including single. We should always be striving for it or at least have the choice no matter what our love life is like. The food for thought is real tasty this morning lol, thanks Eve!

[@Hyuzuka]

My queen, you know very well I would never criticise a Cornwell -and I intend not to overstep my boundaries-, but, may I say, the audio qualities were particularly harsh on me ears this time around.

[@sophialouisew]

"get my grades get my job and leave" not even started uni and this is a MOOD at the thought of dating when i start 🤣

[@MrShodeez]

Eve with dyed blonde hair *omg I also want to go black to blonde* *me, dyes hair blonde* Eve, the week after I did this, goes brunnette *me 👁️👄👁️*

[@kenjq9160]

Watching this after you got a girlfriend hits different, congrats ❤️

[@Sophie-if5oc]

she ain’t single anymore!!

[@UU-mt4wv]

whaaaaat where did she say that?

[@elli7260]

@@UU-mt4wv yes !! on twitter hehe

[@Sophie-if5oc]

S K twitter!!!, super happy for her!!!

[@EloiseG_31]

ahhh I SO needed this! While I've had "things" with people in the past it definitely took me until I was about 20/21 as well to really have the emotional capacity to even want a partner. I always wondered the same thing that maybe I just wasn't attracted to people and I often struggled with it- it's so nice to hear it spoken about that others have experienced the same! I'm 22 now and covid hasn't exactly helped but I also really struggle to meet people that I'm interested in and now I'm starting to feel like I SHOULD be with someone... but really I still have so much within myself that I want to do and focus on and I'm so fine with being on my own, I've travelled 11 countries completely on my own and know that I can do so much as an "independent woman", but also, like, it would be nice to have someone you know :// It's such a strange feeling. ALSO, anyone I actually AM interested in is never interested in me ahaha RIP

[@EloiseG_31]

Apologies just using KZbin to journal all my feelings ahahah thanks Eve

[@EloiseG_31]

Also also, I'm about to Graduate and legit it's like what do I even do with my life now ahaha help...

[@dearjem]

yeah i think defo everyone has their own timelines and there should be no pressure whatsoever to be in a relationship/engaged or whatever asap or anything. and achievements like paying off mortgage, promotion, etc. as you mention I think also are celebrated more now! but yeah societal standards that things like love etc should be achieved by a certain time is bs. you do yoU!!

[@MarMar-yf2bb]

EVE I MISS YOU, I HOPE YOU'D BACK SOON

[@lilyantoma3599]

POSTTTT IVE BEEN CHECKING EVERYDAY FOR THE PAST 3 MONTHSDDD YOUR KILLING MEEE🥺 pwes and thank u♥️

[@jacknewbold2937]

Finally she’s back!

[@hannahwallis1908]

I recently came out to people afte 6 years, as being asexual and aromantic and so this really helped me show love to myself and now i want to take myself on a date! Keep well eve!

[@laurenjill1247]

this was really comforting for me - I’m an aroace girl and the traditional relationship milestones are pretty much out of the question for me. it’s intimidating to feel surrounded by people who measure life progress and judge life satisfaction by things I can’t experience, and it’s nice to hear that other kinds of milestones can be more valuable, even to people who can enjoy romance. it makes me feel like my sexuality isn’t a burden that will prevent me from being happy or finding purpose.

[@mariiesth]

your taste in music is SUPERIOR eve and it really shows in almost every single one of your videos 🥺

[@FromLifeToHeaven]

What you're saying about not having the energy/emotional capacity (or even just the time) to actually think about anything related to romantic and/or sexual relationships throughout uni or even the first years of my professional life, hits right home. I always (and still do) have invested myself 100% into my education/job because i truly love it, and for me the milestones that are important are in this area of my life, getting my first job as a clinical psychologist was and to this day is my greatest achievement, being able to be financially independent, and actually having the means to (in the next couple of years) be a home owner before entering my 30s is what i've always worked for. but unfortunately (We LiVe in A SociETy) societal pressure is making me think the greatest achievement, or like the only way to truly be satisfied, is a stable relationship.

[@littlew0men]

thank you for discussing these topics, i honestly feel the same now as you did. i never wanted a relationship and although sometimes i'd like to be with someone else i feel like i'm not attracted to anyone. i def feel more "normal" now !

[@amyukulele]

i TOTALLY relate to the feeling like you didn’t have feelings for anyone at all- it took me a good three years to work out that i wasn’t asexual, i was just a lesbian in denial 😬😬

[@jessicasmith701]

I love this eve !! I was in a serious, toxic relationship at a young age and then a year ago I came out of a messy, on/off weird 3 year relationship so this year was the first year I’ve spent by myself and I’ve loved it!! You are never too old to start dating as I’ve only just started thinking about it again at 21💖💖

[@juanmoliner6667]

Anyone just rewatching this because they Miss Eve, I need you to save me from this second lockdown 😭

[@wellknown1204]

Same dude! However, I think it's good that she take time for herself, and whatever that she does now.

[@juanmoliner6667]

@@wellknown1204 yes she’s clearly so busy too!!

[@milllestrange3984]

I definitely 100% relate to the idea that in university you’re independent in a very controlled environment! Even in graduate school, it feels totally different to undergrad because while the structure is still there (in terms of classes, exams, etc.) it’s overall much looser. At least this has been my experience in a biomedical program in the US. It’s almost like having to grow up again and I absolutely feel like I need to “grow a personality,” haha. It feels freeing but also daunting at the same time.😆

[@Ellie5552597]

I didnt realize how much i needed this. I feel like i relate so much to everything you said, from not being that interested to being kind of afraid to committing and people a people pleaser... i always thought there was something wrong with me. For a while now i have been interested in being in a relationship but it just hasn’t happened for me and i get stressed about it and the pressure to be with someone, but really most of that pressure is external.. i guess i really just always put my life and my goals first and i guess theres really nothing wrong with that.

[@tflynn6175]

Love the conversation you’ve started. I hate when people assume that because I’m small and female i must be hunting for someone because ‘nobody is actually content being single’ and that I must hate being alone. To a certain degree this is definitely internalised on my end but I adore how bluntly you’ve validated that ‘you do you’ essentially. I loved being in a relationship and I love exploring myself while being single. Happiness is not intrinsically tied to your relationship status. Love you so much xxx

[@juanmoliner6667]

OMG yes been waiting for this for so long you are back YESSSS - also when is your millennial coffee club website going to be up again ❤️

[@camilleloyer3926]

I’m a trainee lawyer as well and I feel so much what you said regarding becoming independent . Since I left uni I’m just constantly in that « what do I do now » state. I have a job, I guess I have a professional purpose (not even sure tho lol) but I’m lost in what my goals are supposed to be now. It used to be to have good grades, graduate, get that internship I’ve wanted for a year... But know that I’ve « made it », I struggle to find new objectives and I sort of miss this « next challenge » way of life I’ve known my whole life until now. Great video Eve, it really is nice to know other young adults feel the same way! (And anyway, climate change will destroy us all in a few years so what’s the point of having goals we won’t be able to reach 🙃)

[@000AnnA000D]

how about goals to better yourself? for example have a goal for working out, learning to cook new recipes, learning an instrument or any other new skill or reading

[@camilleloyer3926]

AnnaDaA that’s actually a very good point, I think it’s just a bit new for me to have goals that mean working on myself and my personality rather than having a more « professional » or « academic » goal but that’s definitely something to consider! Thank you :)

[@holoitsme4854]

Thanks for taking about this Eve! I resonate with your identity revolving around school, I think cause we spend so much of our time in school from kindergarten to uni, its like a part of our identity so its hard to think about what we are without out. Also I think its really important to talk about these expectations from society to do things at a certain age to be successful or happy.

[@tessxpink]

i honestly love just listening to you expressing your ~thoughts and feelings~ on topics like this! i relate to a lot of what you said, especially the part about dating yourself and independence. your channel truly is a safe space like we’re all just best friends!! you’re powerful whether you’re dating or single but let me just say: the person who gets to date you is SO LUCKY SIS 😤✨🤍

[@channatornlund6601]

this is the first time i heard someone talking about dating in a way i can relate to, really thought it was just me

[@thesevenstudent]

I was just sat there literally addicted while binging all of your old videos and this popped up!!!

[@finnicole3837]

I agree with this SO MUCH; for context, I am 21, I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I bought a house at the age of 20 and it is my biggest achievement in my entire life. BUT if people in my family see me or people I am meeting for the first time, I ALWAYS get asked about my bf and when we'll get married or have kids.... listen, I'm 21 years old that is not on my radar please celebrate what I HAVE done, not ask me about what I plan (or don't plan) to do

[@m00nsheep]

there are so many good points here eve, i admire you so much!! i’ve always thought i was “independent” because of my upbringing then now with uni, i realize that i only have an illusion of independence because i can function within this controlled environment. it makes me terrified of graduating but also excited to actually “grow a personality”. and what you said about “single independent women” 👏👏👏👏 thank you!! i also tell myself and others that i’m just not into commitment but deep inside i always feel pressured to find a relationship. thank you for introducing me to the idea that my independence as a woman isn’t defined by my relationship status, and i feel like that’s a mindset that my uni friends (and everyone else) should realize. there’s so much pressure to live a certain way and stigma when you don’t and it’s so exhausting

[@nadianasir2104]

I LOVE THIS AESTHETIC

[@angela-dm8oq]

OMG this intro music, Eve has good taste

[@ren.2374]

What song is it???

[@angela-dm8oq]

@@ren.2374 nikes on by healy

[@riiroiro]

i think this video was extremely important ,,,,, i might not love myself entirely yet but i think i am growing to become the person i am supposed to be, all by myself and for myself, and i hope you are too eve!

[@Monica-lu6gb]

Thank you so much for this!! Literally been crying myself to sleep thinking there must be something wrong with me for not being in a relationship even when I’m 20 y/o and also kind of not interested in getting one and not interested in the people that talk to me, saying I have commitment issues is also what I justify myself with even though I just say it so my friends don’t think there’s something strange with me. It’s so refreshing seeing people in the comments who feel the same way :’)

[@sarahcook6487]

Yay so happy you’re back. I’ve been binging all your vids this week! How are you going ? xx

[@kiayah]

As someone who hasn't been single for 6 years, I really appreciate your point about independent women not needing to be single❤️I've always felt like I can't really identify with that label bc I'm not single but you made me feel better, thank u💕also just graduated so feeling the need to find a personality outside of the education system😂🙌🏼thanks again Eve🥰

[@foreverjoanie21]

Oh Eve, you really spoke to me with this one. I've had such a similar experience it's crazy, I've had no interest in dating, I'm now 23 and I'm honestly okay...I've improved my mental state and I've almost got an undergraduate degree for christ sakes (I'm killing it ✌). I think it's so important to work on yourself if that's what you need. So glad you made this video, I know there are so many people out there who share your feelings and experience. It's nice to feel less alone in your choices ❤ love you, love this video.

[@barbaramizioek4806]

Thanks for this video, Eve! It was actually very relatable for me. I had this sort of romantic awakening at 19, so last year, in the first year of my medical school (it's different in Poland, it's 6 years long) and long story short, it turned everything upside down and helped me realise that med school is very much not for me. Currently I've switched unis to something that I'm really passionate about. I also very much agree with your point about "maybe not single, but still independent", how being financially independent is more important than e.g. being engaged and that point about the society's pressure on dating and the "milestones" it creates. It's a crazy world we live in as young women, full of contradictory expectations and stupid rules. We just have to keep going and do what we feel is right, because no one can take care of us as much as we can.

[@maisie2162]

To think that on OCTOBER 4TH, 5 DAYS AFTER THIS VIDEO she got herself a girlfriend. Well done Miss Cornwell

[@MsLivinglegend19]

Who’s her gf

[@idkwhatnametoput6830]

Use this button as a “I’ve been waiting for this video since forever” button

[@airportbordeom]

I really needed to hear this, thank you! Yesterday one of my friends was like "you need to find a man" and it got to me because I'm the "single friend" in the majority of my friend circles, but the cherry on top is that I don't look for love because I want to grow as a person and know myself better. Just something I wanna work with is hard to find, so love is not something I focus on really if I meet someone I like that's great but I haven't yet and that's fine. For now I wanna continue to grow as a person and I can't let expectations that no one asked for ruin that.

[@alina3953]

I love the points you made Eve! they happen around us all the time but no one says anything. Being independent is the most amazing thing and you never lose that even when you're in a relationship.

[@azlifah95]

A lot of this resonates with me. I've never really look at people and I questioned myself but I've found that yeah lol no I was just really focused on getting in and getting out of school, getting a job, etc. I'm extremely introverted and I have a very busy life so the spare time that I do have for myself I don't think I want to spend it on something as exhausting as dating. I'm 25 and have never dated and idk if it'll happen for me, I'm prepared to be a spinster tbh.

[@leilanimoke7287]

THE QUEEN UPLOADED

[@deanna.n]

love this so much! it's so important that these things are discussed more openly and i'm so happy that you did this!

[@thaisgomes9328]

PREACH, SISTER! ❤️ absolutely love your channel and your videos!

[@Pumpkiwi47]

Never look for your "other half" to "complete you" , always look for your "another full" who can "double you" ;) I firmly agree with loving yourself first before giving that love to someone else. I am in a steady relationship right now but I would still take myself out for a coffee and read a good book at a café or just visit some places. So you see I can still enjoy my independent life despite being in a relationship and that's exactly what my partner does as well. He has his own life and I have mine but in the end we have each other so you're 💯 right, being independent should not be attached to the relationship status :) You go girl, go out alone and have fun. I started doing that when I was single and I haven't stopped now even though I'm in a long steady relationship ;)

[@littlew0men]

the queen is back 😌

[@calvinpittser2975]

Tbh, I cant describe how much this video helped me

[@MsSevenfolder]

I'm watching this as I think back at the time I told my friends that I was going to get my degree in a month and they said: "Well, now why don't you get a boyfriend?". This video was very much needed (even if 5 months late) :)

[@l4kshaya]

i clicked so fast when i saw the notification, and i haven’t even started it yet but i’ve missed your content and hope you’re doing well. ❤️

[@nivritisriram2465]

HI LAKSHAYA

[@srushtikaushik806]

Miss you eve. Come back soon with videos❤️

[@aliciahaider6520]

I cannot explain with words how much i needed this video and it felt like every time you brought up a new point you were talking directly to me and my friends and all the conversations we’ve been having about relationships and life goals and plans as we are seniors in uni and i just....~truly~ cannot express how much I appreciated this. thank you.

[@rosiebutler7931]

it always feels like i have a big sister when i watch your videos, especially this one. For a while i've been craving a relationship but i've realised that i still need to value myself and that a relationship doesnt change my own value. your videos truly inspire me, i want to be be able to feel like i can be my own person and your words really help. thank you x

[@emma-ye3ji]

my whole life i've been desperate to date somebody. in middle school i was obsessed with a boy who made it clear he didn't like me back, but i still based all of my happiness and self worth on him. it destroyed my self confidence. i thought i could never be loved, and i believed i was ugly, uninteresting and worthless. it was all the same in high school, even though i was aware i was being irrational, i couldn't help having stupid crushes that literally almost ruined my present. also, i realised in high school that i'm actually gay lol. and last year, my first year at uni, i met my favourite person in the world. i didn't even realise what was happening to me, but i fell in love with her. like, properly in love. i didn't expect it at all. i didn't look for it, i didn't think about it, and it just happened. she went from being a friend to the best friend i'd ever had to the person i'd loved the most in the world. it was finally when i stopped desperately waiting for it that it happened. and it turns out i am not unlovable.

[@NiamhAllStar21]

This made me feel comforted and terrified at the same time

[@kayliescalze737]

I love what you said about independence and also its relation to education. I grew up in a small town bubble and then went off to a "big city university" where I thought I finally had really started to find my independence. Then, I moved to a much bigger city and took a year off from school and it was crazy the amount of growth I went through and how different things are when you don't have that microbiome as you put it. Also, I dated a very toxic guy throughout all of school and one of the hardest parts of that relationship was how threatened he was by my independent nature. Fortunately, years later, I'm now dating someone who encourages it. I think it's a very essential part of a healthy relationship, even among friends so I love that you highlighted that.

[@rosiepruden8784]

This spoke to me so much, and I really needed to hear someone else feeling a similar way about this stuff. Thank you !