Fearful Avoidant Attachment Healing: Core Wounds & Eft Tapping For Emotional Freedom | HealingFa.com

Discover how to heal the core wounds of the fearful avoidant attachment style using EFT tapping techniques for emotional freedom. In this week's video, we won't just talk about healing; we'll actively practice a tapping round for transformative results. Share your experiences in the comments below!
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In last week’s video we talked about 5 core wounds of the fearful avoidant attachment style. In This week’s video, we are going to start healing them! It seriously helps to know which core wounds there are, but you definitely don’t have to keep lugging them around.
You can heal them and feel so much more freedom. In this video we won’t just talk about healing them, we’ll actually do a tapping round on it. Tapping is another name for EFT, The Emotional Freedom Technique. A very powerful tool to release fears, emotions and stored trauma.
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[@SaminSays]

because trauma becomes you; it's stored in your muscles, energy field, mind, emotions, etc... i love this holistic way of releasing trauma and not relying on just talk therapy

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Yes exactly! Talk therapy definitely has it's place, but releasing trauma definitely makes a really big difference when it comes to trauma!

[@tinywhiskers30]

I cry a lot during these tapping sessions but I like it because it feels like finally releasing these feelings that have been stored in me all my life and I finally get a chance to heal.

[@courage_to_learn]

I cried so hard while doing your tapping exercise. Very powerful, thank you so much. I look forward to more videos.

[@XxAreWeHavingFunYetxX]

You’ve been a godsend ever since I found your channel. You’ve given me real hope that true healing is possible. Thank you ❤️

[@Compassion3333]

I felt MASSIVE anxiety before the tapping and now I feel super calm and grounded. I cry every tapping session, this time it was “somebody is always upset with me” I deeply feel that. Like I can’t make everybody happy and I’m not perfect. And deeply I care about everybody but how I push them away and don’t know how to explain it and hurt them. Finding out I’m a fearful avoidant and that I can heal it is life changing and gives a lot of hope. I never knew why I was so complicated in relationships. I had healed the physical and verbal abuse from childhood so much I didn’t want to use it as an excuse for not being great at relationships at 30 years old. And yet this has been such a helpful tool! I can’t wait for your course in English!

[@zoeletlive]

Thank you for this. I literally cried and I feel so much better after! Grateful for you, we need you! 💗🦋

[@kondful]

Hi Paulien, could you make more tapping videos about the other core wounds? That would be amazing! Thank you so much for your helpful videos!

[@paulaflo]

Id be also very happy. Love your tapping videos

[@prashanthireddy2333]

There are so many tapping videos for each problem in her course❤

[@vaishaligupta880]

​@@prashanthireddy2333did you sign up for her course?

[@jenny84518]

4:00 tapping starts

[@purplecrayons96]

Thank you for guiding me through this. I wasn't able to talk this time, but i tapped along and received your affirmations. I felt that the mindfulness of connecting me to my body really calmed me and switched the channel on my stuck thoughts.

[@Itssimplyaisha]

I cried. This is my first time doing this particular one and I remembered when my mom was highly critical of me I could never do something and it will be appreciated and now I live with her and my grandma and I see where my mom got it. My grandma always nit picks at my mom and my mom looks sad and from then she’ll push herself harder. Although my mom was more gentle than how my grandma did to her I realize that this is all trauma and it can be let go of. I don’t allow her word get to me again because I know she’s acting the only way she ever could and I don’t try to uphold to her perfectionist standards which makes her so mad but I don’t really stress my brain again. I feel so blessed to have seen your channel please never stop posting you are helping people like me. This particular tapping was extremely releasing. I felt so sad but relieved. Thank you❤

[@annawolf4917]

I love these kinda videos, it really helps when you guide us through a tapping. Thank uu

[@freedomtownn]

This was so incredibly healing, please make more of these, I cannot explain in words how helpful the session was.

[@victoriaenglish2706]

Thank you this was perfect for me. Growing up everything I did was wrong. From the age of 9-18 I raised my 9 siblings almost single handedly (especially from 13 upwards). I washed cooked and cleaned our 6 bedroom home whilst my narcissistic mother partied and self medicated her issues with drink and drugs. Everything I did was wrong. I could never get to her standard of acceptance. If I cooked, cleaned, washed the clothes there was always something wrong. She would become verbally and/or physically aggresive and abusive with me so I always felt unsafe. I grew up into a perfectionist. Who always felt the need to be perfect, never happy with myself or my results. It's been a long painful journey. But since I found EFT it's been helping to release the stagnant, stuck trauma energy from my body. I feel so much lighter. There's still work to do but thanks to you and other eft coaches my life is changing for the better 🙏🏽✨💖🤗

[@starreborn6393]

Powerful testimony sis, I wish you all the very the best on your healing journey 🤍

[@meriemelb]

thank you so much im 17 yo and i just discovered this in myself 💕💕💕 and i started my healing journey

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Soo happy you are here!!

[@kalyanamitta8797]

Thank you Paulien. I’ve been listening to this video of yours every morning when I tap. It really helps me start the day. Is there anyway you can make more of these tapping sessions? I find your voice very calming.🧘🏻

[@vwbeep]

I started to cry mid way through and it subsided. At the end, I burped. 😂 Great video!

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Thank you for being here❤

[@chilloften]

It made me cry as I did it with you. I worry so hard it won’t help because evil does exist out here and I have met it, worked with it and lived with it. All while others denied it.

[@Nipponsuki]

Thank you Paulien

[@marcelinescoldfry]

im so glad there is some sort of therapy for me. just last week i suddenly lost all love for my boyfriend and i keep having mood swings about it. i know i want a future with him, but then i have those bad thoughts about completely pushing him away.

[@iamroanne]

I feel better, thank you❤

[@user-yx3zx8ht3l]

Thank you so much, Paulien! I used to save videos about the attachment style, but never used the knowledge, because it was painful and didn't resonate, until I found you... your content is deeply valuable to me and in this video I followed your instructions, cried it out and felt lighter! You gave me hope and that is something I will deeply cherish and remind myself to remember to help myself move on! Thank you! 💌

[@whiteoaksroad]

Please do more tapping videos - it is so helpful to do it with your words! Thank you!1

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

On what topics would you like tapping video's on?

[@whiteoaksroad]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 Hi Paulien, any topic you cover on fearful avoidant healing would be great to have a tapping video about : fear of rejection, abandonment, loss of control, the core wounds, fear of intimacy, feeling out of control of your intense emotions/inability to regulate emotions/being too reactive, fear of being alone, how to “fill your own cup” so you don’t need to feel okay only through another person, not feeling good enough as just yourself/the idea you need to earn love. I’ve been doing some tapping videos I’ve found online that are more generic, but it would be great to have you do ones specific to FA. Also the way you look at camera and your voice is so sincere while you are doing the tapping - it’s really helpful! Thank you so much for all of your videos. They are an incredible resource!1

[@devinzweifel8285]

@@whiteoaksroad @Paulien Timmer Fear of intimacy would be amazing

[@lbrty4all]

Been pushing away relationships all of my life. Good men, potential friendships. It's driving me crazy bc I just want a normal life with goals and hope for the future with someone. I truly want it.

[@theblackandwhitecate]

I teared up (release I think) and my throat got tight (anxiety). Thank you so much for posting this video. It's really helpful. I will go through this excise again in the future.

[@rainbowwarrior4995]

I feel good💚🙏🏾💜

[@douyenphan]

I cried during this. Thank you for what you are doing.

[@hannahkohl6053]

God I felt absolutely amazing after the tapping. Idk if I ever felt so calm and so happy before

[@jigyasaanand8404]

I cried, maybe I'll cry more daily after doing it. Thank you so much for this healing💜

[@koala01111986]

I was just talking about this yesterday in a webinar about the emotional processing tool...My mind understand what I write, all the steps of this tool but still my body can't and I can't regulate. Tapping helps a lot, I did 40 mins earlier and I feel much better

[@artofficialmakeupandphoto8005]

Wow so powerful

[@DOL3rd]

It's actually very relaxing. I didn't expect that

[@inanedreamz673]

This really triggered something… I feel a nearly innocent purity and a need to give fearfully-withheld dormant affection

[@Nonfiction.Reader]

Wonderful

[@sabrina1327w]

i cant thank you enough... this has been working. I didn't know how to explain what I was feeling for so long. THANK YOU

[@librenonlibre]

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@freekff6274]

Thanks... a lot emotions came up..

[@sandyhayes4412]

This was really amazing! I yawned so much through the tapping. Thank you for offering this because this is a huge pattern of mine that I didn't even realize. So happy I found your page!

[@avryhowes]

Thank you ever so much 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Newlifefornewhuman]

Thanks not enough indeed, your video encourage me to start my actual healing journey ❤️❤️

[@haihai5293]

Thank You i really feel better somehow.

[@alexandrahernandez886]

Thank you for everything that you do. I appreciate the help you offer for us Fearful avoidants, thank you for sharing your wisdom!

[@gloriecco]

This was amazing!! Thank you so much!! And please keep making more videos with etf exemples

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

I will! Thank you for being here!!

[@chandrabank4808]

I released a lot..Thank you!

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Oh I'm so happy to hear!

[@vicmin824]

Balling 😭😭😭 This was so helpful, thank you.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

I am so happy to hear it resonates with you. Thank you!

[@WezaMind]

What a beautiful person and gift. Thank you so much, I felt quite the shift.

[@L0VEisAmixtape]

I feel very wonderful after doing this exercise. THANK YOU

[@Sofia-zt7ck]

I feel much safer and happier thank you ❤ I did cry

[@nomid9902]

Hi Paulien so grateful for your work, thank YOU! I've just discovered your channel, and honestly it's giving me so much understanding and hope. I'm going to try this daily now. Please could you cover the other wounds too? 💕

[@ajourneythroughmecca]

Love this! I’m going to incorporate it daily

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Happy to hear! You can feel better and better really fast when you really dive deep into it!

[@ruarrr2694]

I always cry doing this, but it feels so right

[@_Saturnae]

just thank you

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Happy to have you here!❤

[@cellbiologyshorts9105]

Thank youu

[@MusicMedicineMC]

Thank you 🙏

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

❤

[@Melow55]

I'm just scared that I won't heal and keep feeling like I am disgusting, unlovable, weak and cringey as all my childhood they made me feel these way. As someone being called fat and ugly all my teenage years I thought being pretty is the solution but no matter how pretty I got I still feel disgusting sometimes and that I'm unlovable. When I feel confident I talk to people with such humour and everyone loves it but than again little things starts to make me feel triggered so badly that I went into crash state and I started fearing people. Sometimes I just wanna give up . Yesterday I was at the lowest point of my life but I watched your videos and that comforted me that I'm not alone and that you have healed yourself I can too. I get horrible nightmares and just can't sleep or relax . Can I ask you how long it took EF tapping to work for healing? I need hope.

[@andythebro5811]

It's really weird but you look just like my mom when she was young. Holy cow. Very big thanks for the videos.

[@jasonbowen8106]

It works

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

I am so happy to hear this is working for you!! ❤

[@EduardoOrtizFrau]

I’ve been really enjoying your videos, so thank you so much for making them. This one in particularly has been the most powerful cause it walks you through the exercise itself. Do you have this kind of video for each of the core wounds? Or only this one as the example? I would 100% love to see a video/exercise for each of the FA core wounds, as I’ve found this one to be super healing. Anyways, thanks again for the work you’re doing, it’s amazing!

[@ibukunoluwaogungbile9351]

It was really good for me, in spite of my prior knowledge of EFT. Thank you

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

So happy to hear Ibukunoluwa!

[@laghibli9127]

Do you still have more eft tapping videos? I love your voice!

[@sambusiello]

Hi Paulien , I am so happy that you exist. I am American and live in NY. Please do a workshop in English.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

So happy you are here! :) I have a complete program in English! It's called Healed and Happy: www.healingthefearfulavoidant.com/healedandhappy

[@Jsla25]

This video is great. Do you have any videos/courses for the other core wounds? Thank you 🙏

[@pragyakumar5601]

I cried a lot..

[@SD-vw8jd]

Hi Paulien! Thank you so much for your videos. I have a question, how do we create the scrips for the EFT sessions? I red that they have to be very specific for the person so the technique is effective...

[@yoyo-jt6yp]

I kinda always yawn whenever I start tapping and I cry (sometimes throughout) hope it's working. I feel lighter after tapping

[@kpoprocker2738]

Can there be more healing core wound videos?

[@jessicapatton2688]

Trauma based yoga can be helpful for releasing trauma from ur body

[@iamnoveee]

At first I didn't feel anything, but when I reached the middle of the video and talked about my childhood, I suddenly cried. This is the first time I did EFT and I cried, usually when doing EFT for other things I only feel physical sensations (but not crying). This is the first time I have discovered EFT specifically for fearful avoidants. How many times and how long can this EFT be repeated? 😃

[@brightprime4900]

I am so so pleased I found you. I have listened to many videos from different people and yours are by far the most helpful. Thank you so much 🥰

[@Foeipoes]

I cried a little 😅

[@leofee]

The script: "Even though I always feel like I'm doing something wrong, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I'm doing something wrong, even when I don't know it. People could point it out and they could get angry and I would be unsafe. I'm always doing something wrong and I always find out later. I'm so scared of doing something wrong. I don't want to, but it feels like I just can't help myself. There is always someone unhappy with me. I feel so guilty because of it. I want to do it right and so often I try so hard. And I just can't seem to get it right. I always do something wrong, even when I don't know it. I hate that feeling. I can feel it in my body now. That feeling of always doing something wrong. And I am open to letting it go. Because maybe it's not true. Maybe I'm not always doing something wrong. Maybe it just felt that way. Because someone was always unhappy when I was younger. But maybe that wasn't my fault. And I was actually doing things right. Just being myself. Being a wonderful, perfect child. Exactly as a child is. Maybe it wasn't my fault. And maybe it's okay to make mistakes. And being met with understanding and loving kindness when I do make a mistake. That's going to be my new normal. I allow that in. It's okay to make mistakes. And it's okay to still receive love when I do. That's normal and that's healthy. So, I'm choosing that as my new normal. And I'm releasing this fear of always doing something wrong. I release it out of my body and out of my system. And I allow understanding and loving kindness in. Because I deeply love and accept myself. Even when I make mistakes, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

[@selenasflowershop728]

💗💗

[@ViNtAgELovv11]

When i do the first one, tapping the outside of my hand, i feel nauseous and it...hurts in a way. i don't know how to explain it. but that one feels like too much.

[@Lygjugujkh9876]

3:50

[@LeosBeats]

How often should I tap? I did it yesterday and actually felt wonderful after shedding a few tears. Should I do it daily, weekly, or just when I have a trigger?

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

You can definitely do it daily! Just on things that come up. And then it is ALSO valuable to tap when triggered! Doing it daily will give you practice to be able to better handle the tapping during triggers, if that makes sense :)

[@medicinemusicmama3273]

Is there a reason you did one side once then the other side multiple times? Do you repeat a specific amount of times?

[@JohnSmith-in8uv]

How long did you tap for before you felt truly healed? Thank you for this video, I am tapping every night before bed.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

It is different for everyone! It depends on the triggers, th healing you already did do and how fast you're comfortable with tapping. I'm not going to say it's easy and it'll just take a couple of weeks, but you can feel better and better really fast when you really dive deep!

[@Michelle.roseyoga]

Hi Pauline, Why do you say ‘I am always doing something wrong’? I’m curious to know as it sounds like that’s wiring in what I don’t want. Thank you 🤓🙏🏼

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

You don't wire that in! You neutralize the negative associations that are stuck to that belief, so you end up letting it go. Your body doesn't want to hold on to negative beliefs, it only does that out of protection. So when you release or neutralize the negative associations around it, it is released!

[@ritwit80]

I did EFT for the first time yesterday, following a video on a different channel and i felt very emotional when doing it and my anxiety went up. I did this just before bed. When i woke up the in the morning, i felt great! Which i haven't felt in months, after going through a break up from a toxic relationship. Following your video, this time, same thing happened again. Feeling emotional, but this time the muscles in my jaw and around my throat tightened. I also feel like i've got a mild headache after i've stopped tapping. Does that mean it is working? I'm hoping to wake up feeling even better.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

It can definitely mean it is working/something is happening! Make sure you drink enough water and allow yourself the rest you need. Also, take it slow and when results go up and down, that's normal. Doesn't mean it's not working anymore!

[@ritwit80]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 Thank you. I did feel a lot better the next day. I'll be looking at signing up to your programme soon.

[@thehappiness2741]

The last phrase of the EFT was so emotional to me that made me cry afterwards is that a sign of release ?

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

This could definitely be a sign of release!

[@thehappiness2741]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 thank you soo much ❤️❤️

[@starydwumas7481]

What if I don't belive that it's not my fault? I don't belive in words which You say during tapping. I'm feeling so powerless in that... What can be done to change that ?

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

You actually don't have to believe it! What you are doing is releasing the emotional charge around those words, and as you do that more and more, it will become easier to believe it. You don't have to actively try to believe it, it's totally fine if you don't!

[@tasfiahnabani8719]

3:55 3:55 3:55

[@venus67venus]

Crying and yawning

[@mariecrowe8843]

Subscribed ❤️ My friend has a site called Headingforhappy She taught me this technique and other stuff besides