How to heal through relapses of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style

Relapses might be one of the hardest parts on your healing journey. In this video we'll go over how you can heal through them!
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[@LilachLavy]

I Bow to the vulnerability shown here ... Much gratitude... allot of practical wisdom as well....

[@nickyseize7097]

The comparison to being sober and drunk is sooooo good and helpful 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@dearbrave4183]

Thank you for this! ❤ Also 07:13 You look like a princess with your hair updo😊

[@matthewwonks2534]

You bring up such excellent points to remember, notably how healing doesn't mean you feel better all the time, and that feeling bad is part of being human.

[@K_-ox2pq]

Thank you so much for being so vulnerable with us!! So brave and helpful!♥️

[@Eirdis]

This was so brave and beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I have recovered most of my traumas. Extremely proud of the growth and clarity. Been in an incredibly good place for a long time, partly because I've finally been strong enough to be single as well as pursue my dreams. But i just got triggered because I guess i was feeling something for someone and it brought it all back and I've been panicking only because I am feeling something. Nothing has concretely happened. So i remembered this attachment style and found your video. I'll do what you suggested. Whim Hoff breathing techniques also help... I just hope I'll be able to let someone healthy into my life one day and feel secure. Relationships seem to trigger this feeling the most for me. Friendships as well sometimes. If you like art btw and are curious about my healing journey :) I've been making videos too, trying to spread the light in my own way ❤️ Keep up the amazing work. This warmed my heart

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Ah yes, relationships and feelings can definitely trigger this. But you have laid a foundation that will help you heal the stuff that comes up while approaching or being in a relationship! I'm so happy you are here, and I want you to know that there will come a day when even relationships seem easier and you can be in a good place IN a relationship! I will check out your art!

[@Eirdis]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 so wonderful to read your response. I feel the warmth. I really like your energy from your videos. Keep sharing in the authentic way that you are doing 🥰❤️

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Alright I'm watching one of your video's and I love how you're narrating it. 'As long as I have every color in front of me, I can make any shade that I want' And I immediately thought: you also have EVERYTHING inside you right now to create a happy life. Right now, you may be mixing the colors in a way that the shades are not what you want. But when you learn how, the exact same skills that create the pain, coping mechanisms and triggers, can create love, peace and happiness. Thank you for sharing your art, I love it, and I loved hearing how free you feel as you paint. It definitely is a beatiful metaphor for creating your life.

[@zzulm]

Thank you for being so vulnerable and I will try to practice what you shared.

[@candymountain6325]

So brave! Thank you for sharing. Tapping on resistance is such a good idea, a good place to start to face what is there. Thanks again! X

[@Tobi-pb2fk]

i have not enough words to say how i feel grateful for this video, many of your words just hit my heart and parts of me feel so seen and understood 💓💗

[@thehappiness2741]

Paulien I hardly appreciate your benefical content and the efforts that have done in it you are such God's gift to us as you are deeply understanding us and soothing our emotions Thank you so much and may God bless you ❤

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

You are so very welcome!! I am happy you are here and see my content as valuable!❤

[@ORCAP994]

Honestly Paulien I had to laugh at the "now I just feel a bit of unease..and this...and this...aaaaand maybe some panic..." Most relatable thing EVER.

[@annalisemaria2340]

i’m beyond blessed to have come across your channel and especially this video it’s helped me so much already. thank you thank you for sharing it means so much to me and many others i’m sure

[@Tobi-pb2fk]

"it's human to feel shitty" "life happen i dont have be perfect" "you don't have to work so hard" " you don't have to do something all the time" " your body is healing constantly, the more you get out of the way by allowing your feeling, the more" "i am good enough as i am" " i get to receive anything i want just because of who i am"

[@woodrosabigailkurfmanwolfo6261]

The tapping started at about 14:30! (I really needed that and didn't have enough capacity for the lead in so posting to share with others.) Thank you for sharing the tapping/EFT practice!

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Totally get it, and you're so kind for putting it here!

[@mishkah9893]

I just want to thank you!🙈🙈 your videos came at the most perfect time with something that I’ve been struggling with so deeply for the last year and a half...it’s been so hard...so thank you

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Ah I'm so happy you're here!

[@gloriecco]

I love this channel so much!! Thank you Paulien

[@Albert-bv5bw]

Great video on EFT, thank you. The look in your eyes before and after …. So recognizable.

[@feralcruz2093]

Thank you so much for this 🙏

[@avonleamontague2469]

Thanks for sharing! On an unrelated note, we have the same decor style. My bedroom was orange, dark wood furniture, and a tree 😋

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Haha love it!

[@omagrys]

Such a helpful video, thank you ❤

[@leenaalghattas1115]

That was so beautiful, thank you for sharing this❤, i have been struggling the past two years with exactly what you were saying and it was so hard to explain

[@valeweathers]

How often in one session do we have tap?

[@vaishaligupta880]

Hey!! Could you please please please please put up more tapping videos?

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

I will look into this!!❤

[@loveblooms2613]

When I tap I just feel lots of tenseness increasing in my chest but no releases or crying. Any tips?

[@kpoprocker2738]

What’s the difference from the crash state and the trigger state? Is it the spiraling?

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Yes! The crash state is feeling completely out of control, not being able to think clearly. Just triggered to the max. When you are triggered, you can also be triggered to such an extent that you can actually work through and heal the trigger, which is hard in the crash state. Does that make sense? :)

[@kpoprocker2738]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 Yes that make sense, thank you!

[@madalinav150]

Hi Paulien, Love your work! If you have any experience with insecurities affecting your relationship due to the FAA style (meaning feeling replaceable, feeling like you're insufficient when other attractive women are around your significant other, and having trust issues because of that) could you please make a video about it? I could not find it mentioned in other videos of yours:)

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Hi! I will definitely put this one on the list, thank you!