Feeling Stuck in Life // Life Advice (and more) Q&A

[@hellomayuko]

For all y'all starting your Software Engineering careers this summer/fall, (here comes the plug) I have a video series called "How to Kickstart Your Software Engineering Career" that walks you through everything from preparing for your first day, to navigating relationships with your manager/teammates, to creating a healthy relationship with your work. Check it out here! kzbin.info/aero/PL1hNTJtl-Vt5FGkgnfo3e0HjK-YPYCQzR

[@jennrabang6105]

Hi. I wanted to enter this career, and I am 31 yrs old already. I am currently an instructor, and i wanna explore this path but some stuffs is limiting me. any advice?

[@animesh72yearsago70]

Hey Mayuko, why don't u make a video on how u make yr YT videos. From the very basics of Scripting to editing to other stuffs .

[@ChristopherCricketWallace]

I appreciate that part about sleeping an entire day during the weekend. I fell into that for what feels like my first 3 years of being an engineer. I was kicking myself the entire time for not being strong enough to hack it. The thing is: WE NEED SLEEP.

[@shomasuda2105]

As an international student from Japan, learning to become part of the tech industry in North America, I can learn and sympathize a lot from your content. As I have been away from home since my teenage years, self-reflection like this is how I kept myself from giving up or falling into a depressive dilemma. Anyway, love your content!

[@daigih]

I didn't realize how living amongst tech people and tech culture was affecting my decisions and mental health until after I moved out of SF. I agree, there are so many other ways to live!

[@alyssaimani2664]

Watching your video feel's like having a big sister who help to calm down my anxiety thinking about life 🥺

[@hellomayuko]

i gotchu girl, everything's gonna be okay 💖

[@aaronmy]

I feel like everything you talk about is me in architecture. The profession is such a slow rewarding field and experience is the best teacher, so I’m just trudging along until more fun projects come along.

[@LifeHappened]

The key thing to remember when you are feeling stuck, however, is that it is just a feeling - it will pass.

[@goatofanger]

I hope you don't feel 'limited' to creating content around tech-related topics, because your approach and attitude towards life is honestly super refreshing. :') I don't even work in tech, but I'd listen to you talk all day about anything at all!

[@hellomayuko]

😭😭😭 Thank you!!! That means a lot

[@DmanX54]

A video about life after college would be really cool! I recently graduated and I don't know what do to after work lol

[@mariee_e]

Second this

[@denhemligafilmen]

SAME, save me

[@zedshockblade7157]

I'm about to graduate next month and I'm pretty anxious on my life after college. It's so much pressure and impostor syndrome always kicks in. I was planning to develop my communication and interpersonal skills during my internship because I'm a Introverted person, but we only did a work-from-home type of internship. Pandemic screwed all my plans.

[@CB-gi7kd]

If you work from home like me and are introvert. After work: You get food. Watch TV. Study. Sleep. Repeat.

[@AzizHasimmi]

but actually, I really hard to get hired, why am I always get rejected for more than one time it's hurting me hard even harder than I thought. and i was felt like so fuckin dumb

[@yourfriendintech]

Loved the bit about 🍊 => Vitamin C, 🍎 => Apple Pie 😄

[@SuperTipu10]

Your vids are really calming. Kinda like the opposite of motivational vids where you help us understand that it's okay to slow down for a while. Love these.

[@jasno_]

trying to pursue a tech career and ill say that subbing to you and listening to your insights about everything will turn out okay eventually is so comforting.

[@dwcapture]

Enjoyed your response to 'Comparing yourself with others.' Bottom line: it's a waste of time and has no basis. Because like you said, we're all incredibly varied and complex in personality, genetics, past experiences, childhood shaping, current family affects, stages in life, status of physical and mental health, overall self esteem... so many things come to mind. The primary result of allowing the mental loop of negative comparisons to continue, is killing your own motivation, discouragement, apathy, numbness, giving up, loss of inspiration - and all very quickly. So, notice the habit in yourself and realize there's absolutely no good about it, and no real friend would want you to do it. Be happy for what others can do. And definitely be happy with what you can do - as well as your own progress, even if it seems small. Clearing your head of negative comparisons will in itself help you do better work! :) The only contrasting advice is - don't be arrogant and full of yourself for anything, either. :) That's the opposite unhealthy mental condition, and has no more justification than viewing yourself as nothing. After all, even if a person is highly skilled or talented, if they are full of themselves and think only about themselves, what good is it? Humility is greater than ability. A note on your equipment. Nice setup :) Zoom H4N Pro recorders are excellent and a great price for the quality (especially if you get a Warehouse deal on Amazon.) The interface is a little annoying (especially at first): you must learn to accept the minor scroll-wheel frustrations. Also, you should use an 8GB or maybe 16GB card and not more, unless you want to wait a couple minutes for the thing to turn on! (No spontaneous fast recording is gonna happen!) :) Those things aside, the Zoom H4N records so stinking well, with highly professional quality. (Use WAV format for the best results.) Whether field recording, music jam sessions, capturing tiny little sounds, or simply conversations - it's a sweet recorder. :)

[@kirokyo]

The part about sleeping all weekend to recover from the work week hits home so hard LOL. What I personally hate about myself is putting work before myself, physically and mentally. When I fall into a bad cycle, it's really hard to get out of. It's easier to set minimums (like bare minimum workouts or not eating out more than x times per week) to help maintain myself. More often than not, I end up exceeding my minimums once I got going.

[@ojakgnuy3551]

17:27 would love a longer length video on transitioning out of college! (also congrats all 2021 grads lol)

[@ashwinkv3715]

I am in the "So like I stop working at 5 and have the whole evening to myself, what do I even do" phase now! Great vid Mayuko!!

[@sacdaabdurhman]

“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” Sharing some love from a small KZbinr

[@shaughnrightnow5529]

Blue Wednesday - Don't Let Go is probably one of my fav songs and the fact that you had it playing so subtlety in the background made this video even better

[@AssadJawaid]

Another valuable video. Definitely enjoyed the communication part at the end. So vital, especially for someone from the states living in with Japanese in Japan. Enjoy your weekend!

[@ChyanSie]

The insightfulness in this upload is too good. Vibe it out!

[@yuanfrank598]

Honestly, if my university offers a content creation class, it will be very popular one. And I am sure Mayuko will be ranked high in ratemyprofessor

[@kbsiva]

Hi mayuko. Your video was very relaxing and warm. Thank you.

[@Chloe-zj5bl]

your recent videos have been so comforting

[@MerciBro]

This channel made me get serious about my own tech channel, once upon a time. So, Thanks Mayuko! I think comparing yourself to other developers is a good thing as long as it's being done in a non-adversarial way

[@lindaoktavianty2688]

I'm learning code without CS degree and it's been a year (resigned from my past job then took coding classes to change career). I'm 32 already. I know it will be like difficult challenge to compete with generations below me. Recently I've got my first 3 coding tests from different companies in the same week just within 2 weeks after I submitted my applications but I failed in all. It feels a bit frustrating. Watching your videos is like tranquilizer for me. Thank you Mayuko...

[@margoarely7414]

boss shit, we love that keep going!!!

[@lindaoktavianty2688]

@@margoarely7414 thank you, it means a lot.. I'm trying to get back up

[@asmorglenmore]

Your english skill is awesome, you have alternative career path to become product owner or system analyst in multinational company where english skill is very valuable. Considering that you left your job and started pursuing your coding career, seems like you have huge passion on coding. I think it worth trying to get credit or reputation from hackerrank, to be listed on your resume

[@itshenreh7687]

If in a creative rut, have a conversation(s) with your very own creative community bubble. You know where we are.

[@thedudeandstuff169]

i'm not a tech person but I love your videos just talking about life. they are good stuff!

[@bluecarrot9491]

I started feeling stucked in my work, relationships and life in general, thanks to this video I realize that I need to complete One Piece anime asap. It is a long road, but that's how I'll advance in all the aspects of my life. Thanks.

[@garic4]

Hey Mayuko, first of all, keep with the great work you've been doing! I've been following your channel for some time and you make great content. As for your video ideas request, maybe you could review some game you've been playing in your free time, or your personal impressions on some hobby or step-by-step DIY any type of project you might be interested in - tech-related or not. In my honest opinion, I appreciate your content because it is not only interesting, but it is of great quality and it brings your personal opinion/impressions or ideas. The work you put in editing the video, bringing images or video cuts, doing some research... or even throwing in some jokes, is satisfying to watch and hear overall. Keep in mind that you don't need to make every video a life-changing-inspiring-coaching philosophic endeavor. We appreciate listening/watching your opinion on a wide range of subjects. Here are some actionable ideas to generate content: - play a videogame and review it - your impressions (VR, PS5, PC, anything, polemic Cyberpunk, etc) - pick a DIY tutorial and record your tries and the final product - read/comment news you've been following (tech-related or not) - what do you think about bitcoin - clickbait lol - more content from your hackathons or group studies, maybe going hands-on with some real project or code, talking about what do you understand, or maybe what you don't I know, maybe these are trash ideas but to be honest, I'd love to follow any of these subjects as long as they've got your take and insights. While we are on the subject, a long time ago I started to follow a guy talking about "how he became a self-taught programer" and his opinion and advice... it was super interesting at the time, but he's been talking about the same subject in different ways for years! The content is always the same, with just different clickbait titles and weird thumbnails... well sorry for the long post, here is a potato: .-"'"-. | | (`-._____.-') .. `-._____.-' .. .', :./'.== ==.`\.: ,`. : ( : ___ ___ : ) ; '._.: |0| |0| :._.' / `-'_`-' \ _.| / \ |._ .'.-| ( ) |-.`. //' | .-"`"`-'"`"-. | `\\ || | `~":-...-:"~` | || || \. `---' ./ || || '-._ _.-' || / \ _/ `~:~` \_ / \ ||||\) .-' / \ `-. (/|||| \||| (`.___.')-(`.___.') |||/ '"' jgs `-----' `-----' '"'

[@danielduong6605]

I have a PS5 btw.

[@efraincorpus8777]

im new to your channel and I already love you Mayuko! keep it up and keep the vids coming.

[@matasuki]

Inconsistency is the mark of an innovative mind. Very flexible and shifting interests

[@dspirit2]

Thank you for the video. You are very good at expressing real and personal aspects of your life.

[@JaykKeyyan]

Thanks for the authenticity!

[@vickythrasher436]

Video idea: Your favorite youtube channels. They could be related to your content or completely random that you just enjoy. Bonus points for small youtubers can use the extra boost.

[@jj1bdx]

About relationship: verbalizing or putting your thoughts and emotions into words is the first thing to do to get into a deeper relationship. :)

[@alexisbeaudoin1606]

Aye! Loved the vid! I’m transitioning to “real life work” in a year and I really feel anxious and stuck about it. As a developer, I don’t really feel professional and I don’t know what to do with my skills (meaning, what job to do). Would love a video on those subjects! 😇

[@kathy9124]

I loved "bask in the stuckness". I am currently basking in it! xD

[@takashi8572]

watching your videos makes me calm.

[@eggdogtim8593]

Perfect timing for this video as I've been feeling lost in life with coding my current job and trying to do content creation and streaming

[@danielduong6605]

A video regarding post undergrad is perfect for us. Especially that I am planning to graduate from CSULB Spring '22 with a Computer Science major. Still don't know what to do yet at the moment. Now have 107 units done.

[@cherolphoshoko8670]

I felt called out about the consistency lol. I also never finish most projects unless i really have a strong desire to which is rare coz i get bored very easily

[@yas1467]

omg you talking about your transition into work life from school is so me. I just started my first internship and it’s SO weird and a lot and overwhelming sometimes. I would love a video about this!! although I am sitting at a desk and wfh I feel SO exhausted, on top of having to take a summer class

[@PatrikKron]

Daily walks help me being less tired working from home.

[@jameshizon4861]

Lol we all have different unique strengths and weaknesses. It is a challenge to remember that another's skills should not make us feel insecure. It can inspire us and I personally need to remain humble about others even if they have more success than me and see it as inspiration and motivation to improve. Easier said than done.

[@mylinhho89]

Thank you for the messages in this video. I needed to hear it today 😄

[@rickytung2129]

Thanks Mayuko! Would love to hear more about the transition to real work life!

[@Alpha-fc3bo]

This video was really helpful and fun, thanks Mayoku!

[@syntaac]

Perfect timing, recently I've just not been feeling IT.. amazing video!

[@jon7079]

Hi mayuko , keep with the flow.

[@russellturner872]

Thanks Mayuka for an interesting and informative video. Great! Thanks to Eric Turner for sharing.

[@VickieEB]

Hi Mayuko, really helpful insights here, thanks. Please make a video about how to successfully work with arrogant/rude team members without losing your mind or self.

[@artbykryssi]

Perfect timing, really loved this video!

[@jhepoyc]

I live in San Diego and also in the tech field, I got an offer not too long ago to work in San Jose, I have to decline because SD is just so good to let go.

[@SatyadeepRoat]

Things I think every now and then and bang Mayuko makes a video about them

[@roymorales5523]

loved this video! great advice about career, life, work and relationship! 😀

[@ninjaz31]

Hey mayuko! Loved the vid so for video ideas: 1) Maybe more Q&A's (would it be possible next time to use KZbin's Community section to get Q's as I don't have instagram as want to detox from social media) 2) Mayuko Cooking Videos - I think this would be very intresting to watch 3) More DIY Videos 4) Vlogs However after saying all this any content you put out is good content so I dont really mind.

[@BlueTurtle23]

Great video! Also, thank you for the time stamps! Still watched the full video though lol

[@SaraiMtz96]

A video about finding mentors, or your opinion on that topic.

[@genimthw]

Thanks for this video mayuko😊

[@melissaslee0]

always love your q/a's mayuko 😊 would be cool to see a finance video sometime since its very lifestyle/tech related!

[@tonyyang3337]

thanks!

[@kathy9124]

I would like to see what helped you become more reflective. I see that you ask yourself questions and then ask questions about those questions. So I don't know what this would entail but I would like to see your thought process a little bit more on how you reflect on life decisions in the past. Something along those lines. :) Also, I would love to see a video from you talking about who you look up to and who inspires you. What books have you read that have had an impact on the way you look at life? What content do you watch or read or absorb in some other way that motivates you or inspires you?

[@Lothbrok1865]

Hey one suggestion , can you please make a video on some sort of investment strategies ? It would be great for people like us who are starting their career and get to know where we could invest.

[@Dennisvm82]

Hi Mayuko, great video and content. Many things you talked about are really relatable. I tend to stick to one thing at a time before moving on to the next problem. Using a scrum board (we work with GitLab) helps me a lot with this. I often look at stuff I have to do as small achievements or steps to reach the end. Finishing small(er) things (e.g. bug fixing, code improvements, etc.) gives me a sense of accomplishment (達成感ですね), hence keeps me motivated. My wife, who is also Japanese, has a completely different character. This makes us very compatible (I am blood-type O and she is B). I haven't watched all of your videos, but maybe do something related to the communication you mentioned in this video. I noticed (and know from experience) that effectively communicating with co-workers, team leaders, etc. can be a struggle. You could talk about character types and/or ways to improve work relationships, or how to work in teams (designers and developers look at stuff differently).

[@wthsajit]

i could really relate to that being stuck thing.

[@Live-hh6li]

8:04 Vitamin C and Apple pie 🤣 Such a great example

[@_Username__]

random guy: how do you stay consistent with bla bla Lovely lady: "frankly i'm not consistent" burst in laughter

[@wesleylim865]

Definitely feel the vibe about not finishing projects 😂 At least you're consistent at being inconsistent

[@DengueBurger]

tbh moving somewhere cheaper, but equally as safe/with the same amount of amenities would be epic

[@jacobmitchener]

That testimonial in the middle was absolutely hilarious. Another great video!

[@hellomayuko]

LOL nothing quite as honest as a husband's testimonial 😅

[@kaeyasstudio985]

Thank you for the advice really helpful ❤️❤️❤️

[@azaharia10]

Make an video on What's on my iPhone (Mid 2021)

[@sababatamanna2117]

Thank you so much for making this :))

[@techmk1]

Great video as always!

[@bryanfeliciano4102]

Feeling lost is part of it, you're guaranteed at least one of those and a midlife crisis. Just keep trucking on and you'll make it

[@xnajx]

Great video! Have you considered that you might have ADHD? A lot of what you talk about, habits, trying new things, focus, being stuck etc is very similar to what I deal with and others with ADHD. :D

[@dougb70]

18:48 Hello Mayuko

[@jonxu327]

Yay new video!

[@BenTaylorPostProduction]

Exercise helps me combat stress.

[@Aaron-hg8jo]

Mayuko is so cool.

[@luisewe5488]

I feel everything you say 🙏

[@hetmodi7352]

Just waiting for it.. ❤

[@lxrocha]

Referring to the question about feeling tired about after work. I currently working in management and my work is physically demanding and mentally demanding and my schedule can really be any time of the day from 6m-12pm. I still manage to balance everything out but do you think that the mental demand from doing a job as a software developer will be the same? I ask because I don't want to leave one industry for another to make less and still have a hard time balancing life.

[@itskingshon]

A vid about life after high school and the transition to college would be cool :)

[@westfield90]

Same here too. Feeling really stuck at a dead end job with useless uninspiring people around me bringing me down to their petty level.

[@antjekazimiers1050]

Hi mayuko, could you make a video about software management strategies like kanban and scrum and what you think about them? Kanban has Japanese roots so I thought it would be interesting to know what your thoughts are about it, and is there more, I heard about kaizen? I really like your videos, thanks for them.

[@ocramj6861]

stunning Mayuko ❤️

[@DesireG756]

Would love to hear more about your transition from College to work life,I'm goin through it rn😭

[@hellomayuko]

I gotchu! Working on a video about that right now. Stay tuned!!!

[@murtajiz545]

6:24 “If anytime I have *IDLE* time…” I see what you did there 😉

[@Vietnamcamping89]

I have followed you from 50k follower to now, so fast :D

[@zambulerdo1760]

great video!

[@GabeTheYabe]

Great video as always Mayuko! But ahhhhh, why is your Desktop on carpet!?

[@dougb70]

8:06 - apples are good for acetylcholine. There you go. I fixed it :)

[@companymen42]

What are your thoughts on the whole gamestock thing? Have you been following it?

[@yoshiu5167]

"Apple is great for apple pie" Awesome!

[@FrootNinja]

It's ok to try things

[@kosasigwalo1895]

I wonder what's the cost of living in US compared to japan? maybe, you could do your work/projects underneath a sakura tree, with a good view at some valley in kyoto. wouldn't it be nice? as for unfinished projects... maybe it would be best that you vlog it and share it with us. that's an additional content too! or how about this... learn something new like webassembly(using c++ and emscriptn), make a project, and we'll learn it together and ask us, your viewers, of what other features we could add up in the project! reward system - 'care to consider the punishment system? :D if you keep rewarding yourself or someone, someone's likely not gonna step up his/her game. but the punishment system will make'em. but that's just me.

[@jell-o6835]

Do you have a podcast?

[@rosiescrunchie5192]

Hi Mayuko, can you make a video of how you utilise your apple watch in your everyday life. 🙆🏻‍♀️

[@johncarlogamboa7331]

Hey Mayuko, I know you arent but dont be too hard on yourself with finishing projects. Some projects just stay WIP indefinitely while some gets finished prolly when it is work or paid for. What is most important is you get to code still on your free time...or actually do the things you like without commitments. I get that. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, dont forget to be awesome. -John

[@hellomayuko]

Truth! DFTBA, John ☺

[@clar331]

drop the skin routine :D!