The One Tool to Transform Your Relationships: The Let Them Theory

[@PolkaDots788]

Mel: "Anger & resentment can become a substitute for the love that you actually crave." Whoa!!! This.

[@ronda176]

This is really hard for me to listen to because it’s everything I wish could happen with me and my mom. Thank you so much Mel and Sawyer for sharing this deeply personal conversation with us. I’ve tried to start conversations like this with my mother but she immediately pushes back and gets defensive and has been emotionally unavailable my whole life. I’ve been trying to earn her love and affection my whole life but it’s finally sinking in that she’s not going to magically change and be the mother I needed. I really hope The Let Them Theory can teach me how to let her be who she is and let me finally stop chasing this dream and focus on building my life.

[@yvettebennett6170]

I can relate to your comment. I have been in therapy for about 2yrs. My mom is a narcisst. Has been my entire life. I am 55yrs old. She has not been diagnosed but she definately has a lot of symptoms of having a narcisstic personality disorder. I am learning about radical acceptance. I can't change who she is or how she is. I can only change myself.

[@kaylabrannen1331]

1000000%❤ same situation, and learning to love my mom and let her be who she is

[@patriciamcdowell9268]

Perhaps share this with them. Sometimes it's hard as an individual to be okay and say I made some bad decisions. At the same time it's sometimes the way we approach the conversation. With knives drawn and the pointing of fingers vs. an open conversation with the respect of each other's version of the chain of events. This conversation was impressive and a great way to walk towards healing.

[@ronda176]

@@patriciamcdowell9268 I would if I thought she would be open to it but I know she wouldn’t. My mom is 83 years old. She refuses to learn anything about computers and cell phones. She has no friends and when her family visits she complains instead of being grateful and excited to spend time with them. She makes zero effort to stay in touch with anyone including her kids and grandkids. Her life is watching tv in her pajamas every day. She couldn’t even be bothered to get dressed to go to thanksgiving dinner. She has always been very uncomfortable with emotions and avoids them at all costs. It’s how her mother was with her. It’s who she is and I’m so ready to let go of my anger and resentment towards her and let me move forward with my life.

[@jrox425]

I had a very difficult relationship with my mom. In my 30s we had a fight that was the icing on the cake for me and we did not talk for 2 years. In those 2 years I went to therapy where I learned how to love the little girl inside of me that didn't get what she needed. I also found myself realizing my mom did not get the love she needed when she was little. We reconnected 2 years later and I found myself reacting differently towards her, or maybe I should say I wasn't reacting like I normally would. I was softer... which then changed how she was with me. It was quite remarkable. I'm now in my 50s and ended up being her primary care giver the last 5 years of her life which I am so blessed to have had that time. I can still remember feeling like I was giving her the love she never received. She passed this last March '24, and I really miss her and miss what I wished we had when I was younger, but thankful we had what we did. I know everyone's situation is different, but if I could offer any advice, it would be to find a great therapist and love yourself and that little person inside of you. My biggest take away, just like Mel says... you can't change anyone but yourself. Sending love and peace for your heart!

[@SepidehDawnAghili]

I’m amazed at the fact that you opened up about the ups and downs of your relationship here and so honestly discussed it without hesitation. That is admirable.

[@lendyfifield1936]

I have suffered from anxious attachment since birth. I am now 52 years old and thanks to Mel Robbins and the Let Them Theory, I can say I feel healed. It’s created a sense of peace that I can not explain .

[@melrobbins]

Wow!! I am so happy to hear that you have found a sense of peace from The Let Them Theory. I'm sending you SO much love and support, my friend ❤xo

[@DailydevotionswithMJ]

I love how Mel acknowledged how her daughter felt and did not project, blame or deny! Big ups to both because sawyee definitely told the truth. Can be awkward but they did amazing. 🎊 I can see how this was healing! ❤️‍🩹

[@Mar-ME-s3h]

Sawyer is an intelligent, talented, articulate young woman. Just like her mom. Both beautiful inside & out 🌸.

[@melrobbins]

❤❤❤

[@rosemaryd284]

Agree 100%

[@margaretsmith5621]

Couldn’t agree more!

[@pattisteely4650]

This is priceless!

[@neenabuck9134]

Loved listening to both of you!

[@ladygoldfinch8945]

Wow! Sawyer's honesty was so raw and profound and articulated in such a mindful and mature way. Kuddos to both of you for being so honest from the heart to demonstrate to all of us that communication is so important in our relationships to make for a solid and loving relationship.

[@Chillaxingok]

This is such a powerful conversation. With the increasing trend of estranged adult children, this is the topic needed to help repair family relations. Without it we have so much to lose. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@catherinefriederich]

Love your family being so available to each other and sharing with us, the listeners.

[@janperrault]

Finally a dialogue that included both the mother and daughter perspective. I do find most social media about relationships with mothers forgets to acknowledge the mother’s perspective. To say her story is important is so refreshing to hear. Always important to walk in another’s shoes

[@loriegibson4341]

As disappointed as I am that the Amazon strike must be delaying the delivery of my book from today 12/24/24 to 1/16/25, I say LET THEM! Let them do what they feel is right. Meanwhile I have this podcast and an audio book! Thank you, Mel, and Merry Christmas!

[@juliebee61]

i wish i could have had a conversation like this with my dad. He's been gone a long time. Even having better conversations with my husband would be so great. its not for lack of trying. I love the maturity of Sawyer at age 25. i was certainly not as self aware or self possessed. this is a great conversation.

[@jamesross6663]

Although your dad isn't here in the physical realm, you can still have a conversation with him. This is for YOUR healing

[@suereinhatdt6458]

Sawyer is amazing! I love her sense of humor and her brightness.

[@gwendolyng9473]

I love that Sawyer gave specific examples of how she used the theory as you did the book. So valuable to see the theory in action ❤

[@meganlc17456]

Sawyer!!!! Wowww the way you worded your experience, wow. I resonated so much with this. Teared up. Thank you for your vulnerability ❤️

[@randahakim2579]

You both are such a smart Mum and daughter. Amazing episode reflecting love, honesty, maturity and civilization. Sawyer is a genius Mel. Thank you both for sharing.

[@yvettebennett6170]

I appreciate the honesty and vulnerability displayed in this podcast. It gave me the chills. I do not think this will work in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic mother. I have stopped tugging on the rope, trying to be kind, trying to let her talk and she is toxic and mentally and emotionally abusive. It's not healthy to allow someone to treat you badly as you try to have a better relationship with them and they do not think there is anything wrong with them but that it is all me. I am in therapy and sometimes you need to let them and let them go to keep your own sanity and peace in tact.

[@k8tina]

I have a toxic narcissistic mother who abused me throughout my entire life, no matter what psychological tools I have used (from my extensive psychology education and experience, as well as attending therapy over the years). So I can relate & understand your comment

[@yvettebennett6170]

​@k8tina Thankk you for sharing this with me. I feel the same. I have been in therapy for a couple of years now and I have gone almost no contact because she is so toxic and I need more peace in my life, not chaos. I can only change me, not her. Because I no longer tug on the rope, she always is saying I am mad at her, even when I tell her I am not mad at her, she wants to argue with me that I am. It's horrible.

[@FreyaGem]

Totally, you can say let them, then let me draw a boundary here and step away from mistreatment ❤ Not sure that Let Them will allow me to heal stuff with toxic family who won't take any accountability whatsoever, but it gives me hope for all the other relationships in my life.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

yeh, it's taken me 5 years to understand that my mother is unreachable because she doesn' twant to be close. she wants me to play the part she wrote for me, and if i scare her by having a 'self' or asking to be heard, she brands me crazy and gives me the silent treatment. She has trashed me to all of the relatives because she genuinely believes I behaved badly. There's no chink in the system for feedback, so nothing can change. I tried. I failed. There will never be reciprocal or sincere communication. We have no relationship but she blames me for that.

[@aerosmith186]

I haven't watched this segment yet but I will right now, but I wanted to comment before I watched, that OPEN COMMUNICATION is key! My father left us when I was 5 years old and I know it always bothered him. He was Sicilian and had a hard time expressing his feelings, so when he called me to say he wanted to talk, I knew he had cancer. I told him I loved him and although we didn't draw it up this way it is what it is. I wasn't a victim and told him I'd fly out to be by his side. I let him know how much he was loved and forgiven. It was time for him to forgive himself. He couldn't speak because he was crying and we had an open and best relationship until his death all because of OPEN COMMUNICATION and FORGIVENESS. What a wonderful feeling and time that was, although the circumstances weren't all that wonderful. Thank you Mel for spreading and sharing positivity!

[@aw41814]

Thank you for sharing this, Mel. I can only imagine how hard it may be to “let her” (Sawyer) share her perspective and trying to not defend or rationalize your own. My daughter is very young still but hoping we can have a strong and healthy relationship like you do with your kids. ❤ Can’t wait for my book to arrive by 1/5!

[@margaretsmith5621]

I never comment on social media but my mom,s heart went out to sawyer , I could see my older daughter in her. She beautiful inside and out has a very calming voice and articulate so well. If only our children could see themselves like we see them . She has nothing to compare to ,she is enough and more . Thanks for sharing the beautiful mother daughter relationship that you gave for each other . Can’t wait to read the book 📕

[@phemery1182]

My mother passed, had a lot of distance emotionally, i still struggle years later with her/us but truly wish i still had opportunity to have thus kind of resolution. Thanjs for doing this. Boston is very proud of you, Mel.

[@hiromikoshi9366]

This is one of the best mom-and-kid series I’ve seen. I have neglected my behavior toward my son, who grew up with a single mother. I work long hours with pleasure and pride, but at the same time, I didn’t have enough time for him when he needed it. Life has turned beautifully; my son now has kids of his own, and he is so attentive and mature. I will listen again and again to find the right path I should take. Thank you both for being insightful and open.

[@Thelisamuriel]

This such an authentic conversation between mother and daughter, but could apply to so many of my relationships..love it and can’t wait to read the book!

[@melrobbins]

I'm SO glad you loved it!! I can't WAIT for you to get your hands on the book ❤

[@barbara6840]

As a mom of 2 teens 16B 19G and I am going through the disconnect for sure. I know that this is normal, but damn do I feel that there could be points of no return if I can't figure out how to have a better relationship with my children.

[@carlyblankevoort3856]

100% how I feel.

[@SharonAgassiArt]

This whole outworking is just magic-from block A to block Z, what a magical process this has been for mother and daughter, and rippling out to the world. Pure magic! ❤👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@KristaLynch-i6r]

You are so brave and amazing for sharing your personal stories so authentically. I applaud your family so much for working hard on relationships and being so humble and willing to admit your struggles. The fact that you can genuinely take responsibility for your part in each struggle is so refreshing and also sends such a strong message to all people about the power of owning your part! Thank you for being such an example to everyone about how healthy relationships should function.

[@cathyellis767]

Expectations are pre-meditated Resentments. Appreciate your authenticity ladies! 🌲🙏🏼❤️✨️Comparison is truly the thief of Joy!

[@bobbypatterson765]

The whole Old Story - New Story is an amazing eye opener!

[@ginginr333]

Mel models recovery for Sawyer. It’s not a miracle but awareness. 🎉

[@renerakke4956]

I really love the way Mel explains things. The way she articulates, stops at the right moments, repeats the things that are the most important to remember and so on. And now I've seen her daughter do the exact same thing. Really remarkable how much they are alike... I know for sure that the 'Let them' theory is going to change many lifes and will help a lot of people, but I hope people won't forget to use the 'Let me' part, because I never did and I think this part of the theory is even stronger than just saying 'Let them'.

[@debrasegler5946]

Congratulations to your daughter and you, Mel for our gift of the "Let Them Theory!" This Morning, Mary Jo from Soulful Revolution gave you many fantastic "remarkable comments" on your book, great woman leader sharing a lot of her knowledge for the positive movement into our world. Also thank you, Mel for helping me look and learn more about 5 G love. Your guests on your podcasts are the top of of their field to heal our world. You really pay/pass it forward, thank you!!!!

[@KathleenFerno]

Firstly, I think it’s wonderful that the two of you shared the intimacy of your relationship. I understand debt and having to find a way out of it. Secondly,I am a teacher. Before deciding to try to have a baby, we decided that it was very important to be available for all seasons of her childhood, and to continue to have an income that we very much needed. We decided to start our own Montessori school so that if I became pregnant, I could keep our baby with me and I could customize the times that I opened and closed to coordinate with her activities and school hours. I gave up a teaching pension and the financial part of it was more difficult, but I didn’t miss a moment of my daughter’s growing up I’ve never regretted that decision. Glad you have found a way to heal your relationship ❤

[@deynaortega2020]

Mel I loved this interview with your daughter! How you both became very vulnerable and how your book "Let Them" has made a change and will continue to help you in your relationship with each other. Thank for being honest with each other and may God continue to bless you both.

[@themooon13]

I cried at 36:00 , it felt like you described my brain and how I am judging myself and stuck in my head all the time. Thanks Mel , amazing episode

[@jewelspencer577]

This conversation was deeply healing! Sawyer feeling invisible is so relatable. I actually closed my eyes when mel robbins was applogizing and heard it as my own mother and felt very soothed. Theres a spark of beauty when a mother truly understands their child for who they are. You can actually see these two grow closer in the moment.

[@memesfarmhousedesigns9254]

So grateful for you both and this honest & open conversation to help us all. 🧡

[@JacquiQ]

THIS ...I am 60, I have two grown children and I know that ALL kids want from their parents is their time and attention.They don't want the fancy stuff, the latest laptops, clothes or overseas holidays - well they do want them ( who doesn't) , but they really just want Mum and/or Dad to be with them, really with them, interested in them, spending time with them, focussed on them. When they are little just playing with THEM, not shipping them off to be babysat by someone else. Its pretty simple but its not so simple for adults to do sometimes. I know I wasn't perfect at this by any means, but I know its what kids want.

[@abovethewaves452]

Thank you for this comment as I know it’s something I can work on myself and seeing you say this makes me realize how little the things you give them(toys, etc) matter.

[@lovelife5646]

THIS HAS BEEN SUCH A GREAT CONVERSATION OF OPENESS. I APPRECIATE THE HONESTY YOU BOTH HAVE ALLOWED YOURSLEVE TO BE VULNERABLE TO WITH ONE ANOTHER AND THE WORLD. #iloveyouboth

[@k8tina]

I feel like things broke down after my husband and my only daughter's father died 18 months ago by suicide (military veteran with PTSD, depression, physical illness/pain from military service). It broke down with all three of my triplets (2 boys/1 girl) after he died. Devastating grief does contribute to the breaking down, but it was easier to come together and helping each other with my two sons. With my daughter its been sooo difficult. I've always thought/believed the relationship with my children was super close and healthy. Until their dad died and things just fell apart btwn her & I. Went to therapy and tried to utilize these 'lessons' with my daughter yet i always blocked in having a good loving relationship. I cry over not having this closeness especially to work through the grief process, with her. She shut me out. No families are 'perfect', i understand that. But it feels like 'a death by a thousand cuts' no matter what i have tried. Again, my sons and i were able and still able to work through the grief journey, and we are still close. I envy you having this opportunity to sit down and work through your issues. You are truly blessed.

[@snickerdoodlebug]

Sawyer is amazing! Thank you for this because this is a conversation I always tried but failed to have with my mother. She is gone now and I am left with these feelings of resentment and guilt. I have begun trying to "let them" in other areas of my life with my daughter and work. This was an essential conversation to listen to at this time in my life. Thanks for allowing us to watch and listen to one of your most intimate relationships.

[@rebekahmartin8228]

I love this podcast so incredibly much! It is such a breath of fresh air to observe such a healthy mature conversation! Gods blessings!

[@goddessannika2628]

I loooooove this episode. Shared with my clients today in Family Therapy. I love you Mel & Sawyer. Thanks for holding this crucial conversation to help change the lives of so many people.

[@Taashuzzz]

Great mom and Great daughter. God bless you more. Much much love and respect❤. Your energy brought me here. So powerful you are.

[@JF-rz3rh]

Love this conversation!! I normally don't follow any podcasts like this, and I don't catch alot of Mel's conversations, but when I do I love them! She is a great communicator and I feel like no matter your life, she is relatable! I have been obsessed with being present in my kids lives. I have lost and sacrificed too much to just be present. Thankful for my career, but I'll probably not be perfectly on track until they all get out of high school 🤪 But if I had a husband that stayed home, I'd let my career take off more too! Maybe! Just hoping my kids someday understand the sacrifices I made just to be present for them. I value the relationship with my kids more than anything, to a fault! Just being a working mom is hard enough, I can't imagine having little kids and gone 200 days a year. This talk made me more appreciate Despite so much struggle, being present for my kids is exactly where I am supposed to be and where I want to be. It is important., more than I understand, I hope!

[@timgill1557]

Listening to this… I love the honesty! I sense the ‘distance’ with one of my sons… I want to learn how to do this! Thanks for this podcast. I subscribed!!

[@daviswardsod1315]

As the grown daughter needing healing and seeking moms love still and my arms are crossed because of the past. Wow so much hope and healing here for this and other families 🙏

[@margiesmith8912]

I absolutely loved this episode & the open honest convo the both of you had! It made me appreciate both of my adult daughters & the ease of communication we have with each other. It's truly a treasure

[@passivelyobsessive5460]

i can't wait to read this book - the thing I appreciate most is how you say that the Let Them Theory doesn't create change or guarantee it but that it creates the space for it to potentially happen. Relationships are two way streets and we can do our part and control our response but we have to accept that we cannot control other people

[@Toffee2424]

Powerful episode Mel and Sawyer! So happy for both of your growth and honesty 🙌 Merry Christmas from Boston 🙏🎄

[@kirstyhunt891]

Thank you Sawyer… it was the Let Me that truly truly shifted things for me! Immediately after the Let them, I shift a gear to Let Me and it stops me getting embroiled and upset and spin but I feel empowered, energised, focused! Thank you, thank you!

[@carlyblankevoort3856]

This struck a chord in that the big issue in relationships is personal PERSPECTIVE, not necessarily 'reality'. Kids see our stresses as their parents and take it so personally as 'neglect'.

[@carolannstevens5814]

Mel, sounds like you are free spirit while Sawyer is very structured which is wonderful! We need both! What a great KZbin!

[@juliannevans6559]

This video was inspiring, heartwarming, and educational observing between a mother and daughter to work through stuff--that for some people--never get resolved or healed, little lone acknowledged and understood in their lifetime. So happy that you both have healed the past and "clean slated" it moving forward. It's awesome to see you work together and you, Mel...express to the world how you see your baby girl's gifts, talents, and strengths through the eyes of both a Mother and "Colleague." I can only imagine how validating, empowering, and healing that is/was for Sawyer. Doing that has made her feel like she matters, you are proud of her, you see her, you hear her, you value her, and most important...this healing has made you "emotionally safe" and a nurturing safe haven for her. As a Life Coach and Mother of 2 boys, one of which I lost to a motorcycle accident in 2007, I "noticed" that when your daughter was telling you from her heart about how she "sees you" and all that you do, and experiencing the "internal/infrastructure" part of your business...I felt there may have been missed opportunities on your part. If you play back this video of when she is pouring into you with her revelations, light bulb moments, thoughts, and challenging her own story about you, your response was a redirect to your audience, instead of a heartfelt validation/response as Sawyer's Mother--not Mel Robbins. Your podcast is amazing...this is just me being a hyper-sensitive Mother who has lost their child and a daughter who wished their Mother would have been my nurturing safe haven--as you are becoming to Sawyer. Beautiful to witness your growth & healing! God bless you for all that you do...

[@naomimclean4047]

THANK YOU SAWYER. You are incredible and as the sensitive oldest daughter with a dazzling younger sister, I could relate to every word you said and had tears pouring down my face. Thank you darling! Be your beautiful self always. 🙏🙏🙏

[@ruthstoan1153]

Listened and immediately shared with my siblings, adult daughters and my clients! I am so excited to get my copy of the book. Just hearing the interview with Sawyer and Oprah have changed me

[@corissastephanidis8654]

Wow what a beautiful pod cast, thanks ladies! Thank you for being vulnerable to the all of us trying to make changes and want better stronger relationship's. This is amazing what you two are doing this is absolutely beautiful!!!! Thanks again! God bless you and daughter and whole family!

[@KC-xk3ep]

Thank you for this ! I think every parent needs to sit with their adult child and Talk like this. I need this with my estranged daughter. I hope she sees this, I want to reconnect and this would be very healing. Listening to one another, letting each one talk is so important. Thank you to Mel and Sawyer.🙏❤️

[@mikaylaasfeld]

Hey Mel, just had to come check out this video because I heard your let them theory a long while back. I now see the idea exploding and think you deserve far more credit for it, but clearly your theory is incredible so let them steal it and spread the word ❤❤❤ thank you for another great episode!

[@kabel7985]

Amazing recognition of your daughter’s talent..I so know exactly what Sawyer is saying - about wanting to be Kendell - I felt similar growing up.

[@christidaughenbaugh9362]

Loved this episode! They you Mel and Sawyer for sharing this with us!

[@KimHarvey-cy5ji]

I wish I could share this and most of your podcast. I am alone on this journey. I have a 39 yr old daughter and we have been working in our relationship now hard for 6 yrs now. It’s getting better and this let them theory is perfect, thank u

[@fayeaustin1896]

What a tremendous and enlightening podcast. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your journey and exploring those experiences and challenges. Sawyer, you are brilliant, wise, and have a bright future ahead. Word of advice: stop up-talking. It makes you sound like a child and unsure about yourself. Let your confidence shine.

[@joylucas5476]

Mel THIS may be THEE BEST episode I’ve seen yet. All KINDS of powerful and insightful. I sent it to both my BFFs and asked them to watch. I am GOING to get a “Let Them” tattoo lol Sawyer ROCKS!

[@beckysmith6731]

Just watching/listening to the preview of this episode brought tears to my eyes. And I don’t do tears bc I mostly don’t feel things (due to depression, anxiety, insecurity, etc). I have a feeling this episode could change my life and relationships. Feels weird, but I’m feeling excited and nervous at the same time about this listen. Here I go… I’m jumping in!

[@karenking5910]

Having been in big debt I fully understand Mel’s drive for work due to fear of never being able to get out of debt plus build a nest egg to support her family. She has been truly admirable ❤ there is always sacrifice and price to pay and unfortunately usually it is family time and relationships… I am so happy for them having this incredible open conversation without blame and just so much love for each other ❤

[@mariatiscareno50]

Thank you, Mel! Thank you, Sawyer! Happy Holidays ❤️

[@DrMaryVision]

I love the fact that this method is exquisitely simple, and yet meaningful and impactful. The genuine interchange between you two showed honesty and respect even though the hurt in each of you was very obvious. I am a “fixer” so I will need to build these muscles and find the peace that I long for. Thank you.

[@gayanihettiarachchi6134]

This made me cry so hard I’m so glad that I listen to this before my little one grows up

[@conniemoore5137]

Mel & Sawyer! Thank you so very much for this! I’ve been in Launch 2 times and I’ve been hearing you say Let Them, and it has already been helping me! I’m widowed and live with my 21 year old daughter (only child) and I find myself wondering if she will ever be able to live on her own (anxiety/long Covid/POTS) and I often need to say let her figure this out on her own terms, and let me not judge her! ❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️

[@angelapaules-f1f]

The Let them Theory has really calmed my heart. Ive used it to deal with loneliness, jealousy and guilt feelings. I had a very difficult relationship with my ex mother in law. I want to be the best mother in law and this theory really helps

[@FreyaGem]

This talk and witnessing the dialogue between you and Sawyer made a mark on my heart and mind! Lots of healthy food for thought. Looking forward to testing Let Them in the field! I wish my dad was still around to share this video with.

[@dianarivera412]

After 9/11 it was amazing how the country came together as a nation. Sadly it was after an enormous tragedy, that our people realized we are on the same side. Great information!!! Looking forward to reading the book!!!

[@coachtifainedht]

I wish I had watched this video before my mum passed away. It would have helped us (my mum and i) better understand each other sometimes. I can so relate to you Sawyer. Thank you for sharing this

[@JillNawrocki]

OK, so I haven’t even listened to all of this and it’s so amazing. Thank you so much both of you for sharing. I have a 20 year-old daughter and twin boys that are 18 and went through a divorce with a very difficult personality type. I will leave it at that. I see moments of connection and then I feel and see a big chasm. I left everything in the divorce and the kids decided to stay with their dad because that was the house they knew. I did not feel worthy of the life. I was living because that’s what I was told so I did not fight, but in letting the kids do what they wanted to do they didn’t get a break from propaganda against me. It’s been an uphill battle, and I have done as many things as I could to help the situation and to repair my own wounds that made me even choose that life. I try to empower my kids, but I think sometimes it comes off as I know better than they do. I can’t wait to listen to the rest of this. I don’t think I was there in the way that my kids needed and I still don’t think I am so I thank you for this to help me connect with them and support them. They are beautiful incredible creatures and I am so eternally blessed and thankful for them and I’m so proud of them thank you, Mel and Sawyer from my toes.

[@carolmckay3104]

I needed this today especially after a contentious text thread with my siblings. I have been listening to you ever since a co-worker mentioned you and you do not disappoint.

[@carolannstevens5814]

Thank you for your transparency! It is a jewel! Mel you made it a safe space for Sawyer to share her heart.

[@nataliescully2028]

This is brilliant. Thank you Mel and Sawyer

[@aleismaxim6575]

I can't wait to get this book. This has also been a hard watch/listen for me because I hoped to one day be able to sit down and have a similar conversation with my mom. Unfortunately two years ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and at this point it just not possible to have a serious conversation with her at all. She hasn't started to forget us yet but I know it's coming. I feel like I need to read this book so I can work on forgiving her and letting it go because I will never get the resolution that I want.

[@AngelaAbbott-n1g]

Where do I even begin? Thank you for providing such an effective tool to help us heal and strengthen fractured relationships with our loved ones. Your specific examples truly bring clarity and depth to the process, painting vivid details on the canvas of my understanding. I’m so happy for you and your daughter as you embark on this journey together and find a fresh start in your relationship. The book can't get here fast enough! All the best!

[@helenstratigos4862]

Sawyer is such a thoughtful young lady. She deserves lots of love and should not blame herself one bit for feeling neglected growing up. ❤️

[@sharonkachel]

I went through the process of creating a job for myself when my daughter was 11. It reminds me of your conversation at the beginning. ❤🙏🏼forgiving myself and just being the best I can be now, saved our relationship. We had the best Christmas ever and I am so grateful to have survived the past. I hope you can relate ❤

[@hypnohippo4361]

Ever since Mel has talked about Sawyer introduced her to the ‘let them’ theory, I’ve used it a lot. I always thank Sawyer in my head for this method because it’s helped a lot.

[@simonematthews810]

Love the honesty and sharing, simply amazing. True connection. What I love even more is the closeness of your positioning here in the frame.

[@justbcusican230]

So weird. I'm the eldest of three daughters, and I was always the one that was overshadowed even though I was the one with all the accomplishments, because mom always had to pay more attention to the other to because of their loud personalities and neediness. Now I'm 70. Mom loves eight blocks away from me in a nursing home. The two younger ones both live out of state and are still spoiled brats. My mom was never a "Mel" but I so relate to sawyer! And this is helping me so very very very very very very much to understand myself and my mom. And now I can step aside and look at our relationship to a different lens. And realize our relationship has nothing to do with the two younger girls. It's our relationship and our relationship alone and I have to let Mom be who she is and let me be who I am

[@mattmarioni2481]

Thank you Ladies ! I didn't t like you Mel at first , but my friend kept sharing your IG clips and Islowly I started listening to you with an open heart and I am now a true fan of your work and have bought four copies of your newest book to share with friends and family. Thank you !!!!

[@patriciaspeers70]

I was crying at the first words out of your mouth on this episode 😮hit me right in the heart ❤️ I just think about the things I didn’t do or did do with my kids and how much it want to be as close as possible with them. The love is so huge I can’t get enough. The let them theory will definitely help me thank you ❤😊

[@Homer23D]

Healing ❤ God has gave you both a gift to write this beautiful book let them!! Will help a lot of families who watches this video or reads the book. I am a father Husband my wife sent to me I just listen to this with no distractions disturb Wow!! We just lived this message brought tears. Thank you 🙏🏽 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 May God continue to bless you both to work together and keep writing more books the purpose is happening. ☝🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@hanajumah8247]

Can’t be amazed more ladies! This is the best conversation I listen to in my life:) I appreciate your transparency, empathy and courage. I will definitely start using the let them.. let me theory 🎉I was waiting for such a tool manage work and family related dynamics

[@christiluv75]

Sawyer is absolutely beautiful! 🥰🥰🥰 Can’t wait to hear more from her.

[@IntuitiveEnigma1111]

Patiently waiting for the release! Wohoo! I’m so happy for you guys!

[@Beinghopeful]

I appreciate this episode I mean every episode that I’ve watched from you Mel but this one hit me. I’m still waiting of this book but I’m already excited to apply this in my life in the coming year. Well done!!!

[@sandrasaddleman581]

I love how you work together. This will help many people to work on barriers they have up.

[@ShanaGinsburg]

Love this so much! I always wondered what your dynamic was like with your kids, and it's nice to see an authentic portrayal of your relationship together. How beautiful to be able to work side-by-side like this and make such a massive difference for people!

[@jjgree2424]

Thank you, Mel, for this wonderful book. The Let Them Theory is truly inspiring & has been a complete game-changer for me. One of the most profound lessons I’ve learned is that it’s not our job to change anyone; instead, we should let them show their true character. By doing so, we keep our own power and can make thoughtful decisions about how to respond. It’s such an eye-opener to realize that trying to control others is not only futile but also drains your energy. This book has taught me to focus on my own growth and let others be who they are. I’ve been so inspired that I’ve started gifting this book to my family and friends! Maraming Salamat po & Mabuhay ka Mel Robbins! P.S. This is the review I left on Audible after listening to the book. It’s truly a great read! Thank you! 🙏❤️

[@johannafrohmadermedina4890]

Thank you so much, Mel and Sawyer, for both your perspectives so beautifully printed. I already thought of all the people I want to share 'The Let Them Theory' with. Big hugs!

[@sobraniengarin4935]

Thank you both I’m glad to hear that Sawyer opens up about her emotions even with let them theory, it helps me to move forward

[@Livingwideawake]

Mel this is amazing. It encouraged me to have conversations with my adult children. I still have two younger children that I would like to be better or attempt to do better. ❤️

[@AlexanderKidane-g7h]

Their communication as mother and daughter is incredible.

[@mariajulialima6287]

Excited to read it! Lovely episode, thank you, girls! xoxo 💋🇧🇷

[@spencerlily17]

I’m only 20 mins in and I’m in tears! Part of me is like Sawyer….wanting my Father to just show up for me. I’m 52 and he’s 80+ and still no relationship. He’s still married to my Mom who is my bestie next to my Hubby. I really want to be able to let him be where he is and not always feel guilty because he doesn’t try or know how to try to connect as my Father. WHAT A MESS! 😢