What are the Romantic Compatibilities of the 16 Personalities?

[@janarashwan2604]

"Feelers get their feelings hurt when the thinkers.. Start thinking" Nothing more relatable than that.

[@malakashraf2801]

اخيرا حد تبعنا هنا ، فينك يا بنتي من زمان

[@mariochavez3834]

@@malakashraf2801 yeah I think the same

[@greatwavefan397]

Thinking: I missed the part when that was my problem.

[@NeraNotes]

Literally no truer words ever spoken

[@ConvenientlyShapedUsername]

_He is speaking the language of the gods_ and yes that is true, my overthinking has ruined my life and hurt my feels :')

[@missrobinhoodie]

Summary: everyone can be „your type“ as long as you’re both willing to work on yourself and on the relationship 👍🏻

[@Supergamer-hu5mp]

Big time save, thanks

[@Fulano.de.Tal.]

Incorrect on a massive scale.

[@Natalye1997]

@@Fulano.de.Tal. br? Apparently.

[@tasinyt5077]

Yeah it doesn't matter what their personality type is

[@maipai]

@Fire tears ? Everyone has some level of each cognitive function. Our MBTI type does not entirely define us. Some functions can be over or under developed and two people of the same type appear differently. At the end of the day it all comes to communication and a natural “connection”

[@canigetayeehaw3484]

I’m an ENFP female dating an INTJ male for 5 years and he is literally my best friend. He is the only one that truly understands me(honestly better than I know myself) he has taught me so much, to be more analytical and more disciplined vs I’ve brought him out of his comfort zone and he’s thanked me for it :,) His mind is just so interesting to me and honestly I think he’s a bit autistic (I actually have ADHD as well) and we balance each other. When I’m floating to far you he is what grounds me and brings me back down.💓 I just love this man so damn much.

[@jamalcole1985]

😁😀 intj here. I know an enfp woman, very magnetic (wink wink) mentally & physically.. good friends..

[@briannabunny3446]

AWWWW

[@jam9064]

sameeeeeeeeeeeee as an enfp (im not sure if i have adhd but he thinks i may possibly have it, as i do too) my intj fiance understands me in ways that i didnt even understand of myself. love him. i want to be a better person and grow everyday for me, and him

[@soapheshinobi5801]

lol i theorize since autism has altered cognitive ability, there are types that are more likely to be autistic. i specifically think intj

[@petalspemberley5300]

So true! I’m an INFP woman (or ENFP with autism which skews the I/E results so I’m not sure - I’m around the middle somewhere) and I’m married to an INTJ man; we have been together for 7 years and I agree 100% with everything you said. My best friend, the only one who fully understands me and our goals are the same. I’m gonna be a SAHM and he’s got the career. He’s just got a new job which means I’m exiting the work force (at long last!) in the next few weeks. I’m so excited to start a family with him 🤍

[@superstylemeblog]

This wasn’t a romantic relationship, but I’m an INFP and I had an awesome roommate of 6 years who’s an INFJ. She was more organized and had better routines than I did and it helped to keep me from going completely feral. I think having the opposite cognitive functions was complementary, and although INFJs like to give advice and INFPs tend to not take it well, she was good at telling me what she thought in a nuanced way.

[@nlm6183]

I'm an infp and my best friend of 15 years is an infj. Best personality mix EVER.

[@obstineahwarrior2874]

My best friend is also an infj and I’m an infp :D

[@achu2424]

All you INFPs here, and here I am an INFJ being lonely.....

[@clemenceguillet7605]

Omg just like mine which just ended last month 🥺😭 best roommate ever 😊❤️ INFPs are just the cutest 😊

[@sh1r_c0hen]

Infjs are the besttt

[@irinacan3492]

INFP happily married to ENTP. With years I've become more logical. My husband now pays more attention to feelings. It's really interesting how people can influence each other😃

[@didi6816]

I would like to know how you did that. I live with my ESTP friend and it's so hard sometimes I iust want to move out. She seems to not Care about émotion and just want facts everytime. It's to much for my INFP heart

[@joaquinsantillan4130]

@@didi6816 the xNxx are more likely to change or adquire new perspectives and traits, maybe that is why

[@sourgrapes7482]

INFPxENTP is my otp

[@offsetsface2135]

That’s so great!

[@marekb1556]

@@didi6816 Well ENTP here, I've never had INFP girlfriend (yet) but I have lived with my INFP sister for like 18 years now. Unfortunately, I don't have any constructive advice for you, cuz I think the reason we get along so well is that we are both intuitives. It's not that we stop being polar opposites when it comes to this feeling and thinking thing, it's just that thanks to both being N doms we enjoy it because we understand where the other one is coming from. I think that being N dom just helps you to lay back and appreciate other personalities while knowing that you would 100% do things differently. I do hope that you will find your own tricks to handle your sensor tho, ESTPs can be tough to shape Edit: just realised you weren't talking about relationship either lol, but I think it doesn't change anything in this matter

[@panlis6243]

As an INFP guy it's bold of you to assume that I will ever get into a relationship

[@Bj1z2l3]

Dude I love how we’re both INFPs and we both have foxes for profile pics 😂

[@mahziyartavakoli8330]

@@Bj1z2l3 foxes are beautiful

[@j.1759]

I'm an INFP and I hope to meet my ideal partner one day, one day lol

[@jemcarstairs8479]

This is so relatable it hurts - a fellow INFP

[@noorzuhair6858]

Agreed!

[@gamingbud926]

Timeline breakdown: the pairs of identifiers for the 16 personality types Pair 1: *I* / *E* at 2:48 Pair 2: *N* / *S* at 3:43 Pair 3: *T* / *F* at 4:40 Pair 4: *J* / *P* at 6:09 Decision-making: *FJ* / *TP* at 8:53 *FP* / *TJ* at 9:30 Oh, this was 8 months ago. Welp. Here's this for the fellow viewers who suddenly have this appear on their recommended. EDIT: Apparently that's a lot of people, lol. Thanks for the likes. Ay! Frank put it in the video too. Cool!

[@crochetedfromTheRose]

Good job 👍

[@frank88664]

thanks buddy

[@FireFoxie1345]

Oh, it’s been another 11 months ago. Oh well

[@thewholeyou]

Thx u so much

[@dubstepfrenzy]

INFP female, been with an INFJ male for a little over a year. I absolutely love it. Every disagreement is a discussion, not an argument. We understand and balance each other really well. Same sense of humor, same values.

[@DogOnAKeyboard]

I was wondering about this type combo, seems it has potential 😊

[@arina_lovely]

The four horsemen of being misunderstood: INFP, INTP, INTJ, INFJ People who understand each other: INFP, INTP, INTJ, INFJ Conclusion: We're all best bros or dating!

[@seetsamolapo5600]

Intp here and can only date infj in that group. The rest are good as bros

[@frangipanisandgirl]

So true! Infj here and my best friends are either other Infjs or infps (don’t know if I know any intjs) and have romantically liked at least one intp.

[@Drawingum]

My ex (of ten years) and my best friend are both INFP, as an INFJ I relate to this post

[@TheInnerSpark]

Totally ! My best friend is an intp The fictional character I am in love with is an infj And the protagonist in the story I am writing is an infj And there's this girl who I feel like is an intj , and I really would like to be her friend, she doesn't know that :) -infp

[@markoselendic9633]

Yes!!! My best friends are all one of those! Also, a shoutout to ENTPs and ENFPs, they're doing their best xD

[@syd7801]

Yes but thinkers get their thinking hurt when the feelers start feeling. -ENTJ.

[@kellydcruze9389]

And they will finally become so indignant towards us when they no longer need us yo take care of their shit and get them results

[@annaperello432]

agreed- entj

[@katrinaleahu9369]

@@kellydcruze9389 so relatable bestie

[@JosefinSefijonDaleberg]

This is so relatable it's scary. - ENTJ

[@elysejones9953]

lol yep, agreed

[@unprofessionalcritic3107]

INTP female, 26 with ENFP husband, 26. He's a really special person who'd listen to me going on tangents for hours whereas making even a small conversation with other people is hard for me. I talk very slowly and deliberately, thinking before uttering each word which makes most people lose interest. But not him. Incredibly attentive and caring guy.

[@alyssaanguiano5821]

INFP in a very happy relationship with my INTJ boyfriend. I absolutely agree with everything Frank said in this video. Especially when he was talking about needing balance in a relationship. We both definitely help each other in our weaker areas, him being the goal-oriented thinker and me being the people-understanding feeler (obviously there's much more to it). But we both feel very much alike when it comes to both being introverted and intuitive. For us, it's a perfect balance

[@shelleyroper588]

I'm am INFP married to an INTJ. We've been together for almost 17 years and married almost 14 years. We are PERFECT for each other! Over the years our duality has become our strength. 😍

[@Beardless-Soul]

PLEASE do a video on the 16 personalities' sense of humor. Not only would the skits be amazing, but the usefulness of that kind of information would be nearly unparalleled within the context of the 16 personalities. Sincerely, INTJ

[@BimepWind]

I'm also interested. INTJ I think it is processed by N function

[@sofiereads]

I know for certain that I don't have a great sense of humor and when I do make a joke it is a pun or a bad dad joke😅.... but I do love listening to other people's jokes tho🥰 -ISFJ. 2w1

[@the-letter-k]

also very interested -a fellow INTJ

[@Multitudes_]

I agree that a skit would be fun, but as far as usefulness goes... frankly, I don't think accurate insights about the types are Frank's strength. I'd recommend checking out Love Who's recent video "What kind of humour does your MBTI type have?" and, even more usefully, reading the comments underneath from real people of various types.

[@ApplePi._.]

You have earned my like -sincerely INTP

[@J0iNekura]

INTJ being the feeler in the relationship is strange yet cute

[@jurikuran333]

yeah, but its clearly not impossible. In fact, you could think like that sometimes "being the feeler is the more logical decision" in some situations 😅

[@end4567]

@@jurikuran333 Sometimes you'll realize that if you don't fake out empathy you cannot even feel, everyone would think you're a jerk and ostracize you from society even more. That's how you become an emotional INTJ. Fake it your entire life to please the masses.

[@viveleshistoires4874]

@@end4567 My INTJ brother is VERY emotional, he just values logic above everything else, so he acts very little on his emotions. I wouldn’t even know that he is emotional if I weren’t his sister.

[@jamiehenderson6387]

My husband is INTJ and much more empathetic than I am (ENTP) I don’t think he’s the “feeler” between us. But it is interesting. I’ve known a few INTJs with well developed Fi. They are usually much more aware and empathetic. But will still make their choices based on logic.

[@alimushtaq2367]

I'm not sure whether I should be happy or feel underestimated

[@elusivemayfly7534]

My husband is an ENTJ, I’m an ENFJ. We make a great team. We also seem to have fewer thinking / feeling clashes over the years. I think we’ve helped each other become more well-rounded.

[@mxleedy]

I have a partner and we're both INFP's. Which is a pain when you realize we won't communicate our relationship issues and try to work through them ourselves. Yep, we try to work through RELATIONSHIP issues, BY OURSELVES.

[@Marwadear512]

The best comment ever. I understand.

[@planetoii]

2 years later ... did this relationship last?

[@mxleedy]

@@planetoii no, for these exact reasons 💀💀😭

[@stvbrookie]

I’m an INFP and married for 21 years to an ENFP. I truly feel like he’s the only person who really, truly gets “me.” We’re two sides of the same coin, so to speak. I can’t imagine my life without him and I can’t imagine being with anyone else. If he passes away before I do, I doubt I would pursue another relationship. Who else could ever compare to my lifelong love?

[@aley29mina88]

awwwww i hope one day i can find a love like yours .

[@ciggytwiggy]

so beautiful

[@firstlegend5105]

This straight out sounds like a match made from heaven :)

[@Haruuu0.0]

I envy u🥺 i hope i could have enfp or maybe infj man -infp

[@palalba882]

Awwwww so cuteeeee 😍😍😍👏👏

[@chocolate-almond]

🐴 I’m INFJ and my boyfriend is INTJ, and it works really well. We’re both plan-ahead people, and pretty introverted nerds. The only difficulty for me is the extroverted thinking vs extroverted feeling. I just had to learn that when he defaults to logic in situations that to me are really feelings-heavy, it’s not that he doesn’t care. That’s just his way of working through problems. I love him very much ❤️

[@nadadishouAr]

Ohhh, so sweet 🥺🥺💕

[@Tomnes]

That's something i was going to say. As an INTJ, i really appreciate the impact that the INFJ can have in my life. The super random (yet incredible)conversations that only 2 Ni Doms can have, are my "go to". Also, even if i don't usually admit it, i love the way that the INFJ makes me feel good for having "cute emotions", and brings me close to them. I know that she knows that, on the inside, i like it. And she knows that i know that she knows it.

[@kwonsettmi555]

I am INFJ , my recent love interest is INTJ and I can't express how this comment and a reply light me up(although they aren't interested in me)!

[@ilovenature9077]

It also depends on the enneatype. I am INFJ 4 and I like intense and nonconformist people like my enneatype.

[@dragonmeteor1057]

On the other hand, my INFJ ex was a black box of absurd emotions and she couldn't communicate with me rationally. It didn't work.

[@wydjayaferyyn7327]

🦉French ISFP here, with INTJ (gifted) husband. We met 17 years ago in a mmoorpg and share the same geeky hobbies, the same values and sense of humor. Complementarity work very well for us and communication is the key. Him and our first son (intj too! ) are the brains of the house (good for my poor memory) so I can have the gentle chaotic and artistic side. I find him easy to understand even if other people find him tough and I admire his ability with words and logic (or the "Te-blast" to restore controle of a situation). Patience and comprehension win. ☘

[@jennabonnichsen]

As an infp, I would argue that dating your opposite for balance and growth might feel too clinical and forced. To meet your similar match allows you to take action and responsibility on your own personal growth at your own pace. Love is free then.

[@lejua9243]

but the duality it is can make you see things differently and open different doors for you that you haven’t even realized.

[@jennabonnichsen]

@@lejua9243 yes I agree so much, I'm learning this

[@lejua9243]

@@jennabonnichsen of course meeting the match of you, who feels like you acts like you is incredible too. It gives you that comfort, courage and rhythm naturally. but the opposite person can make you see things differently especially when you think about we’re living in a world of so many different people who are opposite. But I think this is the nature it is. If anyone work on themselves and the communication, bond they have more consciously, you can make things i think so much more different than the reality you have. of course there will be misunderstandings and pain on the way, but isn’t it exilarating and exiting? to find something you haven’t even looking for I think is a reality changing thing completely. but of course if anyone willing to see that and and brave and ready enough to get out their comfort zone bravely, from the things you use to. but you know a little pain doesn’t worth it? even though things don’t go right at the end (cause let’s be honest things don’t go the way we want them to be always) but we all suffer for some reason. why shouldn’t it be this journey? but I think the pain comes from cause we run away from ourselves, we run away from the feeling it is we feel within, the feeling we’re gonna face. we run away from the meaning we put on things, the tags and this thing is totally consciousness, thinking. cause mind works this way, with duality like the nature it is. we just don’t see the things the way it is. It is actually pretty plain but mind just talking. sometimes (and by sometimes im talking about maybe a lifelong journey) it gets a certain amount of effort and awareness to make everything plain and magnificent again. like the childhood. pure and joyful with no reason. just comes within. sometimes I can’t exactly explain things and sometimes I be so down. but then I get cheerful out of a sudden. without any reason, like the children themselves and that gives me strength. to be able to see things gives me strength. this idea of things gives me strength and hope for seeing and accepting the things the way it is. Not with pity or any negative feelings along the way just accepting magnificently things the way it is. cause in this weird world even the pain you have is magnificent. Just part of something.

[@lejua9243]

@@jennabonnichsen I am an enfp by the way. It is great to have this convo with you 😊 I’m just here using this space to clear my mind and understanding things for the better for myself. and learning together is great too! I’m sorry if i was a little too chatty. I am leaving myself a note ;)

[@lejua9243]

but maybe you’re right maybe we shouldn’t be rush things out and with a person like us and that person can make the growth done for both of these people more naturally with our own pace. I’ve been in this paradox? for a while and I have been questioning these things in real life. But I do really feel we value the same things and we are the same person at inside, internally. But the way our personalities are different. The methods we’re using is different. The perspective we have on things is kinda different. the vibration we have is different (the vibe?). I feel like he’s keeping things, the energy at himself and I’m different, opposite. Not so different but different.

[@piccolopagalingling6284]

frank: "so you intp's don't go typing that the sponsor made me do this... oh yeah, i'm only attacking one personality type. but i only attack people who deserve it." me, an intp: i have never felt so personally attacked, yet so logically satisfied because of how accurate this is.

[@ApplePi._.]

Same bro

[@clash3279]

Ikr

[@shinetropolis4175]

“You just insulted my entire race of people, but yes.”

[@SabirTheHuman]

Same here

[@leah_nebula]

What an INteREStiNG name you have there. Seems a little... sacrilegious 🎻🎻🧋🧋

[@JimmyBasquiat]

I love when he's laughing at his own jokes... so genuine xD

[@jessenceq3250]

Ngl, I do this all the time too. It's the one part I quite like about myself, like having a hilarious best friend inside my head. - Truly an INFJ 😜

[@greatwavefan397]

@@jessenceq3250 Sadly relatable. - INTJ

[@ellenalves1857]

What’s his mbti?

[@macng201]

@@ellenalves1857 he's an infj

[@claystahl7002]

Infjiusedtospendlotsoftimeridingmymotorcycleinthecontry

[@danaportnoy9153]

I am an ENFP who happily functions as a magnet for, predictably, INTJs. Me and my current INTJ are 2 years in December. We are both ambitious and goal oriented, and help each other grow. He has learned that showing emotion is ok, that when I’m distressed thinking for me does not help, and he is much more outgoing and sociable than when we first met. I’ve learned to be a bit more organized, and use my big picture perspective to come up with solutions to problems, instead of only analyzing how the problems came to be, then not knowing what to do with that information. One thing that I will say about the romanticized ENFP/INTJ pairing: watch out for differences in power dynamic. In a parent/child setting, the parent needs to let their decision-making opposite child learn the time management habits that work best for them. Their parents’ method is not the only correct one. In a relationship, if you feel like you’re doing all the talking, I can almost guarantee it’s because the other party feels silenced or drastically taken aback by something you’re saying. Slow down and take the time to articulate yourself well, and check in with them, ask questions and actively listen to their answers.

[@Enya_Totem]

As an INFJ girl, dating an INFP boy can lead to super deep and also mind shuttering conversations. But his calmness, optimism and inner power of PEACE always drag me back down from my damn overthink-and-be-scared cloud, so Iam really glad to have met him and stayed with him for ten years now. We both respect each others opinions in conversations, my trust issues are long gone and our sensation of each others mood and feelings is incredible. Love it. Would do again.

[@ElectroDrives]

I (INFP male) have a crush on a new girl at work who is INFJ. I went up and introduced myself and we hit it off and a great conversation for like an hour. Also, I'm more of an extraverted INFP. We are both interested in photography and connected over that. Reading these comments and seeing a lot of INFJ-INFP relationships gives me hope hahaha. I need to build a lot of trust first though, and I'm sure she is the same. We'll be working together occasionally, so I'll ask her for a lunchtime walk some time soon.

[@annmarie_]

As an INFJ, my best relationship has been with an INFP. I absolutely love and adore everything about them...

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

💞🥲 me reading this as an INFP - my sister is INFJ and we’re best friends

[@jessenceq3250]

My bestie of ten years is INFP. - INFJ

[@martasavasta6157]

@@KatErina-ii6ru same!

[@f.h.k773]

As a member of the INFP community, I would like to tell you on the behalf of everyone else, THAT WE LOVE Y'ALL TOO!!!💞💞💕💕

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

@@f.h.k773 even when the INFJs get what I call “squidy” 🐙 Like they become squidward from spongebob 🤣🤣 we still LOVE them!! 💞

[@Phairyn.]

As an INTP dating an ENFJ I am feeling hella validated rn. I mean I already knew we were a good match, but I love having a concrete analysis of why lol

[@fridaal634]

Lmao

[@blandon93]

I feel like I had only one crush in my life. I am not sure what's her type, ESFP/ENFJ are two most likely choices. She instantly became friends with ESTJ girl.

[@sephe8192]

Aww that's sweet I'm an enfj and have a small crush on an intp :)) I rlly like intps

[@lav-kitty]

exact same situation, all I have to say is yes, and maybe the only thing i'd add: they're extremelly good friends as well, at least in my experience

[@abitbitter]

An INTP so much in love with an ENFJ. I thought I could get along only with introverts and thinkers. I was so wrong. My ENFJ is so deep and insightful.

[@ly869]

I'm INTP and my gf is ISFP. I love how our relationship works based on respect for each other's space and time and how we can just talk for hours about the things we like. we've been dating for 2 years now and I really hope it lasts

[@MrBassface06]

I’m in the same boat. This love is simply addictive. The spark never dims! Never a dull moment! She gets me out of my head and I keep her interested in every date. I believe it’s a really good match. We have our conflicts, but as long as the INTP can lead and take charge (which I have no problem doing) she will gladly follow, and it will last.

[@ly869]

@@MrBassface06 I strongly agree with you! I dare say it's the perfect match of thinking and feeling. it's so cool how we can understand each other so well even when we're so different in so many things, sometimes I'm fascinated by my own relationship

[@MrBassface06]

@@ly869 Exactly! She loves how I’m witty with my jokes and how multi-faceted our conversations can be. I love how she’s so relaxed and chill (on her good days) and how she really brings out the feels in me (which makes for great intimate moments). We can talk about everything under the moon on one hand and yet be completely silent with ease on the other. She recently moved in and I’m honestly enjoying it. We both live the same style, but we just see things a different way. It’s weird, but really intriguing. As long as we can appreciate and honor our differences, I really see it going the distance. We are going on 3 years, and even with our conflicts (although necessary), we still find ourselves falling deeper in love. What I find odd is that not only do we have entirely different functions, but they are in the complete opposite order (TiNeSiFe vs. FiSeNiTe).

[@norayr3975]

I'm an INTP and I find ISFP women incredibly attractive. I'm glad to see both of your relationships are working out. The INTP-ISFP Superego Pair is a good one. Very underrated, but with a high potential.

[@Illusionary_INTJ]

It's been 4 years now. Did you last?

[@feebzcheez]

INFP dating a fellow INFP here! because our type can be easily misunderstood, having the same type has really strengthened our bond and understanding of each others' minds. and i really feel like i haven't been able to relate to anyone else more than i do to him. i think what frank said about how it can be better in the long-term for the relationship if one was a thinker and one was a feeler, is very true. even though i'm an INFP, i'm on the very cusp of being an INTP due to my results. and i do think with both my head and my heart as an even mix. my partner however, is very much on the feeling side of the spectrum. so we oppose each other with that sometimes. but i think it's perfect! in conclusion, i believe dating someone with the same personality type as you, as long as you both also have general compatibility, is always a win heh.

[@m2pozad]

Ugh! I/E NTP wants your INFP female. I/E NTP man knows what is best for woman. Ugh...

[@m2pozad]

@@Navi405 Yeah, not my best work.

[@m2pozad]

@@Navi405 That the type could be much, much better, than 2 INFPs. But individuals take the day no matter what type, thus the crude caveman act.

[@m2pozad]

@@Navi405 That's exactly what, "individuals take the day, no matter what type", means. Anything else?

[@m2pozad]

@@Navi405 That's a shame. Anything else?

[@andrielisilien]

I'm an INFJ and my hubby is ENFP. When dating we took off so well in our relationship. We grew up in very different family environments and experiences but we understand each other and want the same thing. We each bring to the relationship what thr other is seeking. We have been married 3 years now and it's wonderful.

[@randomfornow]

Good for you!!!

[@jadeyu7197]

jake and amy 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@amber5694]

I am an ENFP and I've been dating my INFJ girlfriend for about a month, and this makes me so happy ☺

[@Beautifuldreammg]

YES THERE ARE OTHERS lol I'm an infj and my husband is enfp we've been married for 7 years and its the easiest relationship I've ever been in. ☯️

[@randomfornow]

@@Beautifuldreammg Easy? For an INFJ? that sounds too good to be true lol.

[@rosemarygilmore19]

"Stay cool and attractive" I'm trying Frank, I'm tryinggggg!! 😩👍

[@frenchieanndionisiokurokaw9036]

The feeling is so real

[@Sleexty]

ENFP female married to an ENFJ male, its a great match ❤ Both types can handle intensity, have the same empathetic vision of the world, can get deep and goofy at the same time, have this childlike spirit and also really feel and concern for the problems of humanity, putting our values above everything. The best match in my opinion. (Also because I am disorganised as hell and ENFJ can help me not be so chaotic) And yes, Frank is right, when you have two feelers, one will have to compromise and be the thinker, in our case it’s me 😩 I turn my “ISTJ mode” and deal with documents, finances, etc… but as an ENFP, its easy for me to “pretend im super interested” on these “serious adult stuff” for a minute, and he as an ENFJ can help me organise a schedule and have a… actual sense of time (which I don’t). Its great!

[@CreateNColour]

I’m an INFJ female with an ISFJ man and we are such a good match! We have different degrees of introversion, feeling and judging so we understand each other, but balance each other out too. The scale doesn’t tip too far in any direction, except maybe for the avoidance of spontaneity 😅 We understand and appreciate each other so much and our communication is so good! We both love planning and learning new things, both super curious and love sharing what we learn or know. We have great conversations about all sorts of things and we both listen and take interest in each other’s passions and ideas. I’ve never felt so understood, valued and supported. ❤

[@LeeLynn-vq8yq]

I'm an ISFJ female married to an INFJ man. I concur with your breakdown of compatibility!

[@LeeLynn-vq8yq]

The conversations are very interesting, especially after being together for a long time, and you develop your own language of sorts. We often comment on how odd our conversations would sound to an outsider.

[@anitasordo1525]

I'm an INFP with an ESTP boyfriend. I would never have though that we could make a good couple but boy, was I wrong. We're utterly different but we share the same core, the same desire for freedom and thirst for life and I feel I can grow everyday with him. I abandoned that stupid idea that I need an Intuitive in my life to be understood, bullshit. It always depends from person to person but trust me, do yourself a favor and close that typology book when searching for a romantic partner because you could miss out incredible people while busy searching for that perfect theoretical match that only exists in you head.

[@lauracasartelli3233]

Im an infp, and my best friend Is an estp❤️

[@rachelwilliams7262]

Couldn’t agree more! I’m INFJ and my hubby is ESTP. We met and fell in love long before I discovered MBTI. It’s so true that opposites attract but we share the same common core and values so we are on the same page at the end of the day. We both bring out the best in each other and help each other grow. It’s not to say that’s there aren’t challenges and sometimes you just want to bang your head against the wall, but I’m so thankful for our relationship and what we have.

[@sash8099]

Estp and Infp are a common pairing because they are a bronze marriage pairing. If not careful can lead to destructive enabling behavior since one ignores the other being irresponsible or stagnant. Other pairings pose more of a challenge especially the Golden pair.

[@MrLuigiFercotti]

Se can work with N because Se types are likely to be high on openness. ESTP married to a ENFJ.

[@sash8099]

@@MrLuigiFercotti It's not about openness but it works for some because the functions compliment but keep in mind "some".

[@bruhmomento2592]

I'm an INFJ and my perfect person was always someone who is honest and trustworthy, well-mannered, loyal, nurturing, humble and understanding. Not materialistic and someone who valued and appreciates vulnerability like I do. After I realized I wasn't gonna get my ideal person (because let's face it) I've come to the conclusion that I have to be that person for someone else, because there's somebody out there who needs such a person in their lives.

[@joaostcgomes]

So basically your perfect person is your own type. The sad part is that finding other INFJ isn't easy at all... I'm one and I feel the same way, but you know what? Being there for everyone makes way happier than actually having everyone there for me.

[@private648]

I'm an INFJ and thought the same. Found me an ENFJ and he is all those things. Plus, I get to be those things to him cause he needs to feel appreciated for all the goodness he brings. It's wild honestly.

[@sophiavastra74389]

An ESTP may surprise you, as an INFJ they are my favourite personality type to date

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

@@sophiavastra74389 I was ina relationship with an ESTP. he was your normal ESTP, who in time became a toxic monster who ruined my health and my self esteem. Heartless, selfish, not really loving me nor caring about me. Stay away from all ESTPs ESPECIALLY if you are an Infj! Stay away!

[@sophiavastra74389]

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 Trust me I know other INFJs that have had horrible relationships but I also know others that have worked out. It completely depends on their morals in the first place

[@mmmhmmm_7]

I'm INFJ and my bestie is INTP and we are so similar while also being direct opposites. It's been so complimentary. We like to sit and discuss things for hours over drinks and make great companions on adventures because I keep important things organized and they keep me spontaneous. We offer each other growth and both like to analyze and discuss everything under the sun, while offering some different insights. I love learning and pondering everything so I love INTP intelligence and knack for understanding and explaining. The growth part comes with bumps because TP can hurt my FJ feelings a lot and FJ can frustrate the TP. Which is basically all the points you made in the video. As INFJ, I married an INFP and we felt so understood and seen by each other, it allowed such a closeness. But both being INFs, weakend us too because sometimes we needed a contrasting personality to help pull us out of our darker lower feelings. It sure feels great to be around another INF because much of my family is very different personality types and I always felt like there was something faulty about me until I learned about the types and learned to appreciate my strengths and functions. Fun video as always.

[@DarlingIRealize4ever]

Infp here married to an istj. So apart from both of us being introverts, we're polar opposites... And it works perfectly, we actually complement each other in every way. My inferior cognitive function is his auxiliary cognitive function, and his inferior cognitive function is my auxiliary cognitive function. We're constantly helping each other strengthen our weaknesses. The most important thing we have to take into consideration is the major difference in our type of communication, this is where most of our conflicts, if not all, start, just mainly misunderstanding each other. But if you work on this, together, it is definitely worth the trouble. Partnering up with an opposite type has made us both much stronger and more versatile. I wouldn't want it any other way!

[@miriamschmitz394]

INFJ with ENFP here: Y'all know this relationship takes the cake. Best friends, lovers, excellent communication, deep love and understanding, biiig loyalty, a loooot of humor, very honest and exclusive. The connection is just too good. Love it. Best relationship of my life😍😍🥰🥰

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

How are people finding people perfect for them? 😂I'm an INFJ male and only came across cold women or women who are too carefree/not loyal

[@kyurei4478]

ENTP might be better.

[@aideen2926]

Oh God I'm an ENFP and i really want to have INFJ boyfriend, so jealous

[@user-lb3up4rq2i]

@@thelegacyofgaming2928 im an infj women and I only find cold or unloyal men lol 😭

[@user-lb3up4rq2i]

Also good for you Miriam thatyou found your enfp ! It makes me happy to know there are still people happy and in love out there in this world lol

[@Suzie93]

🐴🐴 I’m an INFJ and I met my boyfriend this year who’s an ENFJ. I grew up feeling like I was so different from everyone else. Like I was an outcast or black sheep of the family. Weird and awkward. Until I recently looked into personality types and I felt like I can understand myself a lot more. When I met my boyfriend, I couldn’t believe how deep of a connection we were having. So surreal yet amazing! I have never felt like this with anyone before! I almost felt like I didn’t deserve this beautiful bond, but I realized that someone saw the worth I deserve. Truly blessed to this day. 2021 has changed my life. Just want to make a shoutout to my fellow INFJ’s out there, there is hope! Keep being your authentic self! Someone along the way will appreciate you for who you are. ❤️❤️❤️

[@ceetteet]

Was in a long relationship with an ENJF...definitely very compatible for the most part!

[@_Colie]

This is so cute, thanks for sharing 😊

[@syrah5131]

I've had the exact same thing happening as an INFJ! Thanks for the kind wishes!

[@aperson7210]

Thank you for this comment! Only INFJ's can understand how it feels like to be misunderstood and how much we wish we had a deeper connection with someone. Good luck to you all :)

[@yz8551]

First comment I’ve come across on ENFJ’s and I love it as an ENFJ myself

[@lilygrace298]

“Feelers get their feelings hurt when the thinkers..start thinking.” Not a romantic relationship, but that’s literally me and my twin brother. I’m an ENFP and he is an ENTJ and 90% of our arguments are because of that. 😂

[@trevor1688]

I'm an ENTP and I get along really well with introverts but relationship wise I think I'd be best with a introvert who feels more in the middle rather than completely introverted (My favorite type and the one I feel most compatible with is INFP)

[@thereasa4318]

Same!!♥️

[@isiajahhhahahababblvjylvjy1034]

as an ENTP with an INFP bestie, you'll probably get a bit annoyed because they're emotional (I sometimes do that) but an INFP friend is always worth having.

[@abeeralrayes]

@D. P. i am very interested, can you tell me more about your relationship?

[@luciealonso7075]

INFJ dating ENTP for more than five years now. Same core values, same longing for growth and developpement. I bring him empathy and structure, he brings me confidence and spontaneity. Plus, I worked on my introversion to catch up with him meanwhile he is a very calm extroverted that can meet with me in the middle. Honestly, once you're past the thinking/feeling conflict and understand how the other deals with situations, this is just a wonderful pair that just keeps improving themselves.

[@anime-ye1qs]

I'm an INTP and ENTP and INFP are the two most interesting types to be friends with Then again, i can't really get along that well.....I would prefer watching their daily life decisions than actually getting involved in it...

[@emi_g1024]

I’m an ENFJ and I seem to be an INFJ magnet in most of my closest relationships, haha! I love INFJs because we think about things so similarly but INFJs are more capable of detaching and helping me think logically and I can help them stay grounded in reality. We really help each other balance our 3rd and 4th functions and get to have fun daydreaming and problem solving!

[@Edith864]

Hey fellow ENFJ :)) I seem to feel attracted by INTJs, INFPs, INFJs. ;)

[@Kimbonessness]

Yes!! 100%

[@luciskies]

I attract INFJs and ENFPs. I totally get it as an ENFJ too 💜💜💜

[@Edith864]

Ok,. maybe INTP as well :))

[@Edith864]

And ISTP

[@docmars]

A quick guide: - *I vs E* -- the _style of processing_ the following (think internal vs. external expression of)... - *N vs S* -- alignment on sense of humor, interests/hobbies, agreeing on what is "normal" vs. unconventional, new ideas vs. predictability, adventure vs. tradition - *F vs. T* -- empathy vs. hard facts, comfort & safety vs. logic & solutions, true understanding vs. ideas, harmony vs. action, tactfulness vs. raw communication, authentic living (this makes me feel alive) vs. utilitarianism (this works well for me) - *P vs. J* -- letting it roll vs. accountability, being late vs. being on time, comfort in chaos vs. comfort from order, ruffling feathers vs. staying in line, class clown vs. teacher's pet But pay close attention to the last cognitive function of each type. The ENFP's is (Si) or Internal Sensing. They need to order their world. They need stability. However, they struggle to make it happen and feel insecure about it. Who can help order their world without pushing too many buttons? An ISFJ would drive an ENFP nuts if they're insecure, yet bring a strength in having predictable order and tradition in their lives, while the ENFP will be driven to adventure and shaking things up when they need to. INFPs share the same functions as ENFPs, but are a little better with (Si) and can bring just the right amount of order without overdoing it. So, hypothesis: 3rd functions help fulfill the needs of a weaker 4th function. We should test this out!

[@modernmusicofthedarkages296]

Amazing. Thanks!

[@_Colie]

😮

[@ApplePi._.]

"quick"

[@docmars]

@@ApplePi._. Haha, quick if you skim it 😜

[@teawithme8789]

Great guide!!

[@jaegeristsupremacy2038]

as an enfp, i think the best personalities are people who can keep us grounded. someone who can understand out thoughts and put them in their place.

[@frecklesandwine]

YESS!! 100% agree. mostly I feel like I'm validated and understood most by INFJs and ISTPs. I also love my ESFJs who relate but keep me in check and grounded. ESFPs, meanwhile, are just pure chaos and fun and some of the best flings I've had in my life. but possibly not sustainable from a long-term relationship perspective lol. but as friends I absolutely love my ESFP/INFPs like honeyyyy, we are different versions of the same people.

[@davidfreeman3083]

Don't know what you mean by 'grounded'. But doesn't sound exactly appealing to me as an ENFP though...

[@sarahbuchanan1200]

im an ENTJ and (not romantic but) one of my closest friends is an ISFP, it shouldn't work but it really does, we bring out the things we both want to be in each other. he helps me stay present minded and calm, i help him stay goal orientated and organised.

[@delta4325]

As an INTJ, even the thought of being in a relationship is very scary... I can't think of myself as someone's gf... I mean, what is love, can we eat it?

[@Yes-gu2wn]

love is a 4 letter word, thats mostly used in positive ways... not edible at all

[@monaanom2356]

What is love, baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me... No more 🎶

[@gabrieldossantos1116]

I feel you lmao I have pretended to be with some of my friends when they didn't want other man hanging around and even that was a huge stress for no reason at all. Like, what I'm I supposed to do if I ever get a girlfriend? I can't even think about it lmao Signed, A fellow INTJ

[@crystaltiger105]

I agree I am absolutely not prepared for a relationship at all. I might even say that I'm scared of relationships.

[@sash8099]

Lollll I'm not an Intj but I also ask in a similar manner - "What is this? Can we eat it or wear it?" I thought it was just me. Plus when I consider the whole logistics of two ppl living together for life I feel so tired and overwhelmed I want to take a nap.

[@Izabela-ek5nh]

Our INFP and ISTJ make almost a perfect match. But I always have a feeling he is looking at the ground studying every little rock when stars explode above his head and I try to make him look up to this wonderful spectacle and he tells me "Focus, please! Have you called them about the shipping costs? Tomorrow is Wednesday and..." etc

[@alam5055]

INFP & ISTJ match up here too :) Yes, it is sometimes frustrating when my hubby is being down to earth & pragmatic as well as it's sometimes frustrating for him, when I'm being unorganized and don't pay enough attention to mundane everyday stuff that needs to be done, but ultimately we complete each other so well and work great together as a team :)

[@Izabela-ek5nh]

@@alam5055 it was just yesterday he said he became more soft and sensitive and caring for people and for animals because of me.... I slowly become more organised but it's a hard task.

[@jennifersims5528]

I agree! INFP + ISTJ. Us INFP's need someone who can gladly take care of the day-to-day. My husband washes the dishes every day and I am forever grateful.

[@Izabela-ek5nh]

@@jennifersims5528 I can wash the dishes. But I need someone to remember about all the payments and other "important" stuff before I fall from the cliff. (Of couse those are very not important for me. In Rivendell where I normally live in my head we have no payments bills and taxes 😂 and this is so boring....)

[@ayo6739]

Its so cute to read this thread

[@inspiredmind6612]

I love how you broke down compatibility strengths and weaknesses. And the only way any relationship can get over tough times and weaknesses is by having the same morals and values as they guide each person. When morals and values are compromised for long periods or often, resentment, bitterness and anger harbor. Feelings and things in common only hold a relationship for so long before they fail.

[@sandrawojak4823]

INTJ female here married to an ENFJ male. I can't picture being married to any other type! I love that we are both intuitive and judging. I like my partner being open minded, future oriented and organized. However I absolutely wanted the feeling type even though I am 💯 the thinking type. I always appreciated the sensitive, caring guys over the macho, jock types. Nice guys finish first to this gal! My husband likes the thinking type females. He likes a confident, blunt woman who can take charge. 😊 Been together 17 years since we were 16 with 3 great kids.

[@cuttieangel411]

as an intj female this gives me hope ^^

[@TheKacperosss]

Też miałem narzeczona intj 5 lat. Sam jestem enfj. To co czytasz doskonale rozumiem. Niestety nam się nie udało

[@rosieschweebie]

I’m an ESFJ, and my husband is an INTP. We’ve been married for 32 years, and have learned the art of compromise.☺️🐴

[@deepthitr1830]

INTP here. Sometimes it is the feeling of alienation and the condition of being misunderstood that stands in the way of personal growth. That way a similar type, especially one with similar decision making functions, can make one feel home and bring lots of optimism and hope to life, making the pursuit of growth in our own terms and not as expected or defined by the society possible. My INFJ has done just that to me.

[@GaneshPutran]

Trueeeeeee 💯💯💯🥲🥲🥲 Feels happy to be understood sometimes.....

[@compequiet0584]

Same. INTP female here.

[@fernandoalvarado6084]

I took a trinity test and it gave me three results. INTP (very good match), ISTP (very good match), and ISFP (good match). Any idea which result is the most accurate according to that test?

[@SailorStudent]

@@fernandoalvarado6084 Really? Nice. 🤩What is the name of the site or app to do the test?

[@fernandoalvarado6084]

@@SailorStudent I meant to put it but the autocorrect smh. The truity test

[@Braenn666]

Me and bf are both INTJ. Synergy is great, we're almost reading each other minds at this point, being in relationship over 10 years. The only issue is whenever we have a problem which normally would cause emotions, we just start "court case" and throw arguments at each other XD Who needs feelings when you have 10 best logical arguments up in your sleeve.

[@suzancosta9830]

wow, i have never ever heard of an intj + intj couple, hope you two have and intj son/daughter, it would be so fucking amazing

[@Braenn666]

@@suzancosta9830 Chances are really slim, but yeah, it would be awesome :)

[@garrettwilson7795]

ENTP male here. the most memorable crush i’ve ever had and my current gf are ENFJ and INFJ, respectively. part of the reason they’re so memorable is because they’re so different from my everyday way of doing things, which makes them perfect for a guy who doesn’t always consider hurt feelings to be priority

[@linlin0563]

I'm so touched by your story ❤ I'm an Infj female, and I wish you the happiest with your partner ❤

[@jonathanbyington5997]

INFJ male married to INTP female for over 20 years. This video did a great job of explaining our synergy. Thanks ! Both introverts Same cognitive processes but given different priority for instant rapport and ability to communicate Natural roles that we fall into that are highly complementary very cool ! please continue to make relationship videos and what happens when two types collide.

[@iPIXEL64]

Tonikawa

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

I wish I could find a girl like that. :( -INFJ male

[@jonathanbyington5997]

@@thelegacyofgaming2928 INTP females are just as rare as INFJ males as most INTPs are dudes. Frank James has a great show about the benefits of an INTP girlfriend that is both hilarious and insightful: Math + Glasses = INTP Female kzbin.info/www/bejne/aZKnlqKgnr-KhZY For fun, my wife brushes up on Calculus on Khan Academy and learns Mandarin Chinese. For fun ! She does wear glasses when not in different colored contact lenses. ;) Perhaps give Ur My Type a go. It can't hurt. I have never used it but it could help you find that rare INTP female. ;)

[@em-gl1oc]

@@jonathanbyington5997 i’ve never met another female intp in my life and i don’t think i ever will lmfao it’s so fuckin weird, i think the stats we were given were 2-3% of the population, can’t remember

[@jonathanbyington5997]

@@em-gl1oc yes, that is correct. female intps are just as rare as male infjs.

[@gtgrandom]

INFJ in a long term relationship with an ISFP. We definitely have our challenges (mainly the J-P difference), but I’ve never had this deep of an emotional connection before. He’s so authentic, honest, and sensitive to people’s feelings, and we’ve become each other’s best friend. We also bond over Ni thoughts, politics, our future, and our personal values, and he helps me develop my Se! ❤️ Such a steady, loving relationship

[@palalba882]

Awww so cute!!! ☺☺☺ I'm an ISFP girl married with an INFJ guy, like you, I feel like I'm living with my best friend 😁😁😁 feeling so blessed to be honest. Thanks for sharing with us, I'm glad to find another ISFP-INFJ relationship on this chat 😁😁😁

[@shraddhaanikhindi620]

Hi Frank! In the comments section of a lot of ur vids, I see a lot of INFP x INTJ relationships, and this vid helped me understand why... so thx.

[@elusivemayfly7534]

So lovely reading about people’s love for their partners in the comments 😊

[@linlin0563]

I agree The matches are adorable ❤

[@Namari12]

INTP + INFP married => we're best friends and deeply in love, but also we're kind of a disaster. The house is never clean, no matter how hard we try. We're twin terrible procrastinators who are always late. I agree with your analysis--the T/F difference has been good for us, but we'd be way more functional as a couple if one of us was a J.

[@m2pozad]

The T needs to be male and the F female. Otherwise things most surely get messy.

[@BDSandM]

It's never too late to change bad habits. It'll take discipline, but it's possible.

[@Jul_ire]

oof same with my boyfriend but you know, i feel as P types we all do need the chill vibe, ability to be a bit messy and late, and if we were with J types we might've felt not completely comfortable, not completely at home if that makes sense. as long as the work is getting done, house is nice and not a huge mess, i think it's really fine

[@pigeondance687]

@@m2pozad what kinda middle ages bullshit-

[@m2pozad]

@@virginiarobards7810 Because of the natures of Fi and Ti and the standard roles men and women play in each other's lives, regarding emotional support, physical and circumstance attractions and security supports. btw- In Jung's day, he had never met a T type female. Back then all females were F types. Mind blowing!

[@abufzrman9580]

As an INFP I like the chaotic good energy of XNFP, and I find XNFJ so warm and loving which is always a plus, and I am heavily attracted to XNTJ love language and the way they show their love is just so cute and attractive.🐴🐎🦄

[@xandercostas1190]

XNTJs are great -yet another INFP

[@lunalunarhoflechner8413]

entjs are best

[@abufzrman9580]

@@itzz_ayoub9073 welcome xD

[@caramelfrapz]

I’m INFP an XNTJs attract me the most idk what it is

[@kaririuzumaki2778]

Ahh I got attracted to xntjs too but it kinda turned out to be toxic for both of us I guess. XDD but attracted yes.

[@cazzabojangles]

I'm an INTP with an INTJ and it's the most healthy relationship I've been in. We both have Autism, which helped- we're not worried about too much logic leading to bluntness- we're always blunt with each other and people around us. If we have a problem, we solve it, or compromise. We rarely do though, we have similar interests and similar ways of processing things- objectivity is best, drama is unnecessary, people are generally bastards and we both happen to get lost in our specialised subjects. The main difference is that his are generally career or future based, like taking up graphic design, mine are because they seemed interesting, like Victorian floriogrpahy. We're absolute stereo types- he's doing a degree in further maths and I'm doing a degree in sociology and a dissertation on Harry Potter. Not to toot my own horn, but we were essentially the two smart kids in school and we bonded over that- we'd play candlelit chess, scrabble and countdown together and eat a homemade meal in the privacy of our houses, maybe read a book together outside or go star gazing, where he's listing off the constellations and I'm trying to create new ones. We're pretty similar, but it's working so far :)

[@TheAlbertoh054]

I’m a ENTJ and my lady is ISFP ,we feel in love almost immediately 7 years 2 kids , I’ll be honest is a tough relationship but once you understand your opposite everything balances out and you learn

[@user-sky-you-shka]

NO WAY

[@Stickweeed]

I'm a ENFP and my bf is a INTJ. Known him for 9 years. I am always perplexed and in awe of the way his mind works and the way he goes about things. He helps me rationalize and understand my feelings better than I can myself. I really love spending time with him. I would hangout with him all day every day.... if he would let me 😔 DAMN YOU ALONE TIME/PERSONAL SPACE!!! Are any other ENFP's out there as clingy as I am? Or that a me issue?

[@alicake1759]

Me and my bf are the same exact type! Don’t worry though I’m also very clingy so it’s not just you.

[@saisusato2871]

I am and my infj girlfriend is really understanding :) Hope you can find someone who get you! (id suggest infj LOL)

[@catlover4915]

I'm an ENFP girlfriend as well and definitely relate to being clingy 😂 I haven't made him do the test yet, but I'd pin my bf as an ISTP. He's also pretty clingy, but we definitely have different ways to communicate and see the world ✌😌

[@andreas5341]

can attest to being clingy as hell edit: am EN*S*P though

[@achilleaben4761]

Hahaha same here but you do learn to accept that providing them with their space is also an act of care and love.

[@LimegreenSnowstorm]

“Apologies, but we cannot match you with people from other planets at this time.” INTPs looking for an alien girlfriend: Awwwww

[@jessenceq3250]

INxJs appear human, don't they? 😏

[@kavya4427]

🚴idk but this made me smile -intj

[@athos401]

INTJ are a bit aliens. Like us. -INTP

[@gretagrotto5858]

@@athos401 From experience, the INTJ's Fi can get Alien-weird, so you have to learn how to tread carefully. But as an INTP, I also find it fascinating. It informs how I can be more balanced.

[@harperreese264]

maybe someday :(

[@sherileecornaby725]

🐴 yesss! I watched the whole video! I’m and INFP married to an INTJ. Our first two letters are the same and our last two letters are opposite, just as the love doctor recommends, lol.

[@rubyairan755]

I'm INFP and I've been dating an ESTJ for almost 4 years (yup, we're the opposite) It's true that it was difficult to understand each other at first, but, we both put a lot of effort to understand each other and now our relationship is pretty strong. It was quite difficult for him to understand my feelings and, for me, he was kinda like a machine or something xD I learned how to be more logical and he learned how to understand my feelings and my point of view (ESTJ tend to be kinda narcissist too 😬)

[@wendykauffman7528]

Hopefully, you didn't marry. Not going to last long term very well.

[@muffinxx491]

ohhh I am info reading this comment and try to imagine, it would be hard for me dating with estj

[@andysgirl1766]

INFJ + INTP relationship here: Our relationship works well for the most part...I understand the overall forest of life and it's symbiotic relationship with the universe, and he identifies and classifies each individual tree for me...ironically, his hobby is astronomy-he's always gazing up at the universe....and I have to remind him (as a writer) not to forget our story that is right in front of him....though I gotta say, I have been gifted some beautiful shots of the cosmos....and both of us being smarties makes for brilliant conversations. We are that sickening couple that communicates without saying a word.

[@gemmameidia8438]

My bf is infj and Im an intp as well, I agree with what you say, especially the "conmunicates without saying a word" like its really true

[@jayjo1819]

I want this in my life

[@lklsd443]

@@jayjo1819 same

[@gemmameidia8438]

@una extraña en internet wish you guys find way to meet eachother one day and make it work

[@Ice52901]

I'm an INFJ and my crush is an INTP, we both have mutual feelings for eachother but we're taking things slow and have decided to stay friends for now. I haven't felt the way I do these days before I met him and now I'm wondering if he's the one, honestly I'd be glad if he is. To everyone out there, good luck with your relationships! :D

[@katieglamer]

INFP & ENFP relationship over here. We aren't the most organised people in the world 😆😆😆 But I think we have our own things we are better at, so it balances out pretty well. We just have to automate as much stuff as we can haha

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

I have two ENFPs in my family.. I’m INFP.. none of us are organized 😅🤣🤣🤣💞

[@padgettfarmer]

ENFP here, and this makes so much sense to me. I fall in love with like every INFP I meet I swear to God.

[@Rose-gy1cc]

As an INFP I totally agree with the organization part.

[@Fallograme]

@@carrots7216 as someone who has an unstable personality of ENFP-A to INFP-A, it is fun to hang around introverted people! It’s just sometimes I need actions y’know? 💖💀✨👑😍😭🍬🌈😩😂

[@padgettfarmer]

@@carrots7216 this is exactly it! Infp gets it! And enfp knows he gets it even though he likely doesn't quite say so. And he just lets us work through it out loud bc he knows we kinda must. What a wonderful world.

[@liyatyan4523]

ESTJ here dating for almost 4 years an INFJ bf, I think for couple like us which are on opposite sides of the MBTI the biggest problem is communication and difficulty to understand what are each other's values but with work, love, commitment and long conversations it's possible. As an ESTJ, I find the most difficult is to understand the emotions of my INFJ partner as well as the way he thinks is so different, which is fascinating and scary at the same time. So anyway, peace and love to everyone, and I believe when it comes to a relationship no matter your personality type, just give your best shot 🤘

[@finnkuudere3516]

We're similar. ESFJ (her) /INTP (me). We're both reversed. Your coupling: SeTiFeNi with NiFeTiSe My coupling: TiNeSiFe with FeSiNeTi Both couplings reverse each other which over simplified means where one is weak the other is strong. Our relationship was like "When worlds Collide". Remember the movie? It goes from apocalypse to paradise. The first month when we first got together our friends thought we were toxic. By the third month they understood, "they are really into each other!" The fifth month they asked, "what exactly are we witnessing?" We were married the 6th month. Now they call us a "power couple". 25 yrs married. long conversations - this right here is absolutely correct. One time we were going to meet some friends to go hiking. On the way another deep couple conversation started and I pulled off the side of the road at park. We ended up talking for about 5, 6 hours working different issues out. This happens periodically. We know each beyond finishing each others' sentences but more like preparing for each others actions the way he thinks is so different, which is fascinating and scary at the same time - Yes, I call it interdimensional living. She has a tendency to express herself/us grandly. "We'll be together forever" "Unconditional love" "I've loved you for 5000 years" This is real: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYKuc4umj9F8eK8

[@adirtyswarlos]

You make some excellent points! I’m an INFP and my husband’s an INTP. We are both P and I often found myself having to take on the judging function which I don’t love. For awhile it was like we were playing hot potato with certain responsibilities. We finally settles into our roles where I can handle travel and holiday plans and he can do paperwork and our taxes 😌

[@sabbaby4430]

Frank! Why don't you organize a zoom call with a person of each personality and REUNITE THE 16 PERSONALITIES IN REAL LIFE! It has never happened before! You can pick volunteers from your audience, quickly check that they are not mistyped, and you're good. It'd be so interesting and fun

[@irenedagami130]

So cooool. Good recommendation

[@nataliapelenkahu]

Good recommend 👍

[@nahiu]

I NEED THIS

[@ellybean7354]

Me: Has a huge crush and is desperately trying to figure out his type to see how compatible we are, even though I know it isn't the most importatnt thing

[@olivetree7430]

It is simple Ask him what is his mtbi type

[@olivetree7430]

Like directly ask

[@simpletomash]

It's more important than u and most people think

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

@@simpletomash for me the most important part is the nature of the person (like ideas, how easily they get angry etc..) and second personality type

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

Ella just ask “hey, have you ever taken a personality test?” 2 ways: “yes” “omg wow, which type are you?” “XXXX” “no” “do you want to take it?”

[@spemka]

INTP with an ISFJ boyfriend here, can’t say we don’t drive each other crazy from time to time lol but we also understand each other in a way other people don’t. I think we complement each other overall.

[@Muire2]

I'm INFJ and husband is ESTP and we're a great match. My weaknesses are his strengths and vice versa so we challenge each other in different ways all the time, which fortunately we both like! I think as long as you respect one another, any types can form an amazing and loving bond. I will say that since we both found out our types, some of the areas where we do fight, make a lot more sense and we now respect those differences too (e.g. we're a disaster doing DIY: I want to research and know everything and how to do it first, while he just wants to get it done and figure out how to fix the mistakes afterwards and we can't agree on an approach)

[@Beyou0120]

Can you please share what kind of girls an estp guy likes ? Anf how its like to be with an estp guy on a daily basis? What are they like? Please share

[@22pepperjack]

I’m an INFP drawn to ISFJ’s. Not entirely sure why but I think it’s the fact that they’re mostly grounded in reality, but not so different from my usual comfort zone to be a harsh contrast to what I like. They ground my balloon with a gentle tug on the line rather than a harsh pull.

[@sheilaholcomb9201]

INFJ. Same sentiment.

[@ruralaura]

INFJ, same. :) ISFJs "ground me" and remind me of reality, and with being INFJ its really hard to live in material real world... ISFJs totally remind us of the beauty of life in material reality, since we forget it again and again🙉 I believe its similar feeling to INFP.

[@22pepperjack]

@@ruralaura precisely, I struggle with how mundane reality can be sometimes, but ISFJ’s remind me that it’s all about perspective. They allow me to see the boring parts of life in a fun and interesting why. They basically act as a lens through which I can see the world. (Had a 3 hour convo with my ISFJ friend last week about accounting and wasn’t bored for a moment lol)

[@isabelalage6054]

This is exactly how I feel about isfj! -enfp

[@bunny_0288]

This is interesting because INFPs (I am also one) are considered very incompatible with all S types according to multiple things I've seen. I personally find relationships with S's to feel very shallow and superficial and honestly most S's really drive me crazy lol. I just always feel like I'm missing the depth that I get with fellow N types. I'm extremely happily married to an INTJ and have been for 11 years. In my opinion, we have an ideal ride or die type relationship. Like divorce is not an option for either one of us.... we WILL work it out no matter what lol.... and we have been through some truly traumatic life events and it's only brought us closer together. I just can't imagine ever being with an S type at all... Where is the depth? The introspection? I don't get the appeal lol (No offense to S types... you're just not for me lol)

[@ohmyohasparagus441]

As an INFP I’m mainly attracted to other INFPs, INFJs, INTPs, and INTJs, but I’m open to ISFPs, ISFJs, and ENFPs as well :)

[@sheyda752]

dude ur nearly open to every one😆😆

[@theoristsophist3304]

@@sheyda752 not when they start ghosting some of a sudden! well I didn't find a better word than ghosting but in a sincere sense "when they start taking time to recharge"

[@sheyda752]

@@theoristsophist3304 well i get it i know some ghosting people too it makes me so upset sometimes

[@docmars]

@@theoristsophist3304 Truth! There's no getting around that with an INFP (I am one)! Usually it's because an INFP has discovered an insecurity that's haunting them and they need time to process it thoroughly to get to a place where they feel comfortable with normal life again. Avoiding that personal time only makes it worse, with the risk of that insecurity or "demon" exploding later, which nobody wants. The best thing you can do is support that alone time and pivot your life temporarily to focus on YOU and seek interests, hobbies, other friends who can fill the gaps of missing your INFP partner. Keep letting them know you care, and that you're available to talk and process -- any topic is fair game. Even better, make plans with them a few days/weeks into the future. Once we've internalized our commitment to something, we have a harder time canceling those plans and understand that those plans are, in part, supporting that person. This is all easier said than done. I dated another INFP once, and ran into the same struggles because I was so fixated on her and all I wanted to do was spend time with her. At the _very least_ an INFP should be good at communicating and thoughtful about it. That makes all the difference.

[@greatwavefan397]

All the introverted types could make such great friends.

[@ajkooper]

INFJ guy married to (suspected) ISTP wife. In a very weird but comfortable way this is working very well. She loves to get off the couch and get her hands dirty and enjoying life by doing rather than thinking. While i'm plotting our long term plans like home, financials, efficient processes of chores and use of energy for example. We love to be with each other and had not a single fight. But we also guarantee each other to have some time for ourselves. Me in my own head or whatever and her going horse riding or whatever lol. We do have some differences in terms of interests. I say suspected ISTP because she doesn't care much for "that psychology stuff", but secretly she likes it when i do what i do and analyse everything and coming up with some new found theories and trivia. She's our practical force where i am our planner. Our difference is very clear when we visit something like a museum for example. I would look at an old object and be picturing how it has been used by a society in the distant past and how life must have been. She would walk past, take a glance over my shoulder and utter "very old fork..." and move on LOL

[@nihiladmirari6065]

Inside, she thinks the same as you.....she just thinks faster and doesn't get stuck....because she's in the moment. 😉(istp-girl)

[@ajkooper]

@@nihiladmirari6065 she does think faster and in the moment. She's great at getting things done. The flip side to it is she also overlooks details that turn out to be important later on. Meanwhile i'm like doctor Strange in the Avengers movie exploring all kinds of options and timelines trying to come up with the best course of action lol. In the end we're a good team.

[@nihiladmirari6065]

@@ajkooper I'm very happy for you as a couple! Take care of her! 😇

[@amazingmoy]

I watched a few of your videos, and you got an new INFJ subscriber.

[@WailandVic]

I’m an INFP being together with INFJ. We go really well together but sometimes a bit too much emotions gets involved where it doesn’t really need to be that much. However in the end we can talk through anything and solve whatever it is 😊

[@rebecka4715]

INTP living with an ISTP... The struggle about who's gotta be more organized is intense 😳 ... our place is a mess and both are frustrated about it 😂🙈

[@jessenceq3250]

Hire a maid? Or do a fun mind stimulating game as a reward after doing something so daunting as cleaning haha - INFJ with ISTP dad

[@rebecka4715]

@@jessenceq3250 haha that might have been a good idea cept maids barely exist in Sweden... Not to mention not being able to afford it or hating others going through my stuff ... It might be a mess, but it's my mess. We lack the discipline to make a game out of it as well, we just head straight to the fun part... at least he does, I might spend time I could have used cleaning contemplating different ways to do it or planning out how to furniture an imaginary future home

[@jessenceq3250]

@@rebecka4715 Don't allow games until chores are done, like discipling a kid. Create an imaginary nagging ESFJ or ESFJ robot! My dad has a real one to contend with though 😬😂

[@rebecka4715]

@@jessenceq3250 meh, we're good like this 😂

[@jessenceq3250]

@@rebecka4715 There's that stubborn Ti! 🤣

[@elmondo-s1e]

Hahaha that intro was everything, Frank James #2 was giving me so much of the joy

[@lobalee1873]

My husband is an INTJ and I'm a INFJ. I often feel like our relationship could be compared to Elizabeth Bennett and Mr. Darcy. Let me explain. When I first met my husband, I wasn't interested in him, because he seemed aloof and his quietness made him seem like he thought he was better than others. However, one day I heard him playing piano and I thought, a guy without feeling couldn't play the piano with that much emotion. I think I may have underestimated him. I decided to talk to him afterward, which seemed to surprise him (I thought he wasn't interested, but I found out later that he was just surprised a cute girl was starting a conversation with him and he didn't know what to do). We bantered a bit with me matching his sarcasm, and then I left. After that, he'd "randomly" happen to be around me at various social activities. Then he finally asked me out. I learned there was a lot I didn't see in him at a first glance. The more he let me in, the more I learned. I learned he was exceptionally loyal to his family, highly observant, appreciative of the small things in life, and endearingly romantic. He wrote me love letters because saying things in-person is hard. He is also very giving, but takes pains to make sure what he does is anonymous, because he doesn't want credit. He doesn't really like people in general, but he'll quickly go to bat for anyone he cares about. In our marriage, he helps me distinguish my emotions from logical thinking and I help him to be willing to be more social and recognize the needs of others. It's a good balance.

[@linlin0563]

I got butterflies ❤

[@whitepeony2703]

No one: FJ: I only attack people who deserve it Me an INTP 😒

[@sylvia470]

What is it? I'm an INTP and I love the idea of 'an eye for an eye' of Hammurabi law. If someone starts I am quick to answer. Could it be I am FJ because of that?

[@aghost8389]

@@sylvia470 I'm not sure what they mean, I agree with you.

[@-randomuser-4897]

@@sylvia470 I think there's a big misunderstanding here- I think they meant by "FJ" Frank James. He said at some point (jokingly) while attacking INTPs that he only attacked people that deserved it, so the person posting the comment, being INTP too, felt attacked when i think Frank was just joking :']

[@sylvia470]

@@-randomuser-4897 I see now! Thanks! I thought of XFXJ ;) Perhaps, I read more into that because lately I was confronting people so often I started to see myself as ENTJ or ENTP. Ahh... identity/existential crisis... it's always behind the corner with INTP. :D

[@jay5010]

Ladies and gentlemen, the council is now in order. We cannot let FJ go unscathed after such an umprompted ad hominem attack. Someone please summon the ENTPs, we must create some chaos and retaliate at once.

[@crazymetalbitch77]

INFP here 🙋‍♀️ In a happy relationship with an INTJ for more than 6 years. We really found each other. Nobody understands me like he does, and vice versa. We are both weird, but when two weirdos are together there's nothing more beautiful. 😄 Edit: Also, I think I developed my inferior Te because of him. And I'm helping him with his tertiary Fi.

[@chiloomeyy1313]

Why i found tht hard😭 there's must be a lot of conflict at first right😢 - infp

[@crazymetalbitch77]

@@chiloomeyy1313 Well, not so much... Of course, we had some difficulties until we got to know each other better. I learned not to take everything personally and he learned to be more carefull with words.

[@kamisamanoko]

Me too! 10 years together

[@Rose-gy1cc]

God bless. Hope I find someone one day. Fellow INFP.

[@kuramacabre]

You both are my boyfriend and I from a parallel universe lol. I am an INTJ female, he is an INFP and that is totally right, we are two weirdos that like napping together and have been together for 4 years.

[@elsadunand208]

I'm a French INFP with a German INTJ and I really enjoy our difference, I learn from him and he does from me :)

[@salomeeserol2129]

I am somehow thrilled because of how my OTP is so perfectly balanced with an ENFJ and a ENTP, even if, of course, you can't define a whole relationship by MBTI types but still ^^ 🐎

[@thaispeixoto4624]

ENTJ + INTP relationship here: A lot of debate, quality time and effort to be razonable about our feelings.

[@sash8099]

Just curious and no offense intended but does it ever get boring or stagnant? Or are you guys playful at times?

[@roze6211]

As an entj , I think I joke and play around the person I like the most, like teasing and going all childish. So being an entj is not boring and all work, but our life with no work will make us like soldiers with no fight

[@sash8099]

@@roze6211 Ah well that's good then. Life is too short to not have some fun at times.

[@iamrhazell]

The Higher Se the entj has the more fun it is.

[@ahhh4626]

Let's be personality nerds alone together

[@ann-camille]

INTJ female here, I’ve been in a 10 year relationship with an INFP male and it’s been pretty good, very rocky at times but overall good. We are polar opposite but I appreciate that about us. Everything I am and think he sees the world differently and gives me new perspective, he also helps me be kinder and more courageous because he’s a feeler and I help him be more organized and help him sort his feelings since I’m not a very emotional person. We complete each other in a way and I love that about us.

[@kassiavedoveli6607]

I'm INFJ and hubby is ISTJ. I tried changing his ways a bit, helping his develop some empathy towards other people feelings, but I've learned to accept him and love him for who he is. We balance each other. When I'm freaking about a situation, he pulls me back to earth.

[@asiyamo1]

My 3 year old insisted on watching "Fwank Tames" together with me. She thinks he looks like a kitty.

[@randomfornow]

🥰

[@jadeyu7197]

THAT'S SO CUTE 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@darijkah5763]

LOL So cute. :) I must agree here with your daughter. Frank is indeed a kitty. =^-^=

[@lifefan1]

Omg 😂

[@vyonneisabel]

Fwank tames😂

[@dpinchock]

I’m an ENFP married to an ISTP for 32 years. We’ve had our tense moments on rare occasions, but have each learned so much from each other. I’m the idea person and he’s the implementer. I protect his alone time from interlopers and he trusts me to make friends for the both of us since I’m good at weeding out the meanies and riffraff. 🐴😎

[@lonesoul17]

god this just sounds so cute i could throw up asdfghjk- "meanies and riffraff" lol i love you enfps never fail to crack me up. ~ an INFJ.

[@reececup84]

I'm an ENFP who just started dating an ISTP and we get along like a house on fire. I love it and I hope it lasts.

[@haelee9225]

i am an INFP and my husband is an ISFP; we argue sometimes, yet we able to make things up. no matter how big or small the argument was, we still able to fix it back.

[@LilShredd]

I'm an INFP with a crush on an ISFP. I made him take the quiz to see our theoretical compatibility 😂 I didn't tell him that though. I feel like the single letter difference is the "worst" combination compared to others (ENFP, INTP, INFJ). But I really like him. He's really nice, caring, and level headed. 🙂

[@hollyfox2932]

🐎 You said if we watched all the way to the end, leave a pony emoji.... 😜 Excellent video, as always. I like how you choose teacher clothes when doing an educational video.

[@keitumetsenkone8147]

I'm an INFJ and having an ENTJ boyfriend has helped me grow a lot because most of his strengths are my weaknesses 🤝

[@sabrinakurosawa5516]

As an entj I found this comment really cute and endearing. Good luck to you guys

[@piupiu2253]

I also an INFJ having an INTJ boyfriend. He snapped me back to reality and help me grow lol ♡ love him. Wish u two the best!

[@keitumetsenkone8147]

@@sabrinakurosawa5516 thank you 🤗

[@leah_nebula]

I'm an INFJ who also finds ENTJs very attractive for the same reason. We have enough in common that it helps things stay balanced while we learn from and grown with each other.

[@serulu3490]

Chances are you are an INFP, that makes more sense in Fi-Te

[@sandrakohbc9884]

Yes, I am an Intp with an Entj husband. He goes to work and earn the bucks. I stay at home with ample time alone until he comes back after work. Then we discuss random topics, his day, my day, his staff and work. I offer insights and analysis, he makes decisions for our future. Sometimes, we share housework. Never stepped on each other's toes. PERFECT BALANCE... 😁

[@kaycorea8229]

SAME HERE!!! Totally awesome!!!

[@iamrhazell]

I am talking to an intp. Female entj here. Conversations are fluid. And intellectual just how we entjs like it. 😂

[@BibySalcav]

Me being a ENTP and already knowing every thing that you just said, and that my perfect match would be a INFJ or ENFJ but also was specting that to be confirmed in the vid by you again with an easier infographic. (where not there btw) Hahaha lol I still watched the whole video and liked

[@michellehutchinson3027]

Love the "Love Lab" location/theme! I didn't watch thru most of it cause it seemed to be mostly alot of chatter (I like "heavy on the acting" best), but I wanted to mention that I thought it was a Mastermindedly thing to do it in the Love Lab! (INTJ)

[@rosieleaverton]

"Sensors are looking more at the 'concrete.' … but not the literal concrete." Dumb or not, you got a smile out of me, lol

[@amandabridget8706]

🐎 INFJ happily married to an ISFJ. We work well together. But I like what you said about types not being what primarily determines compatibility. Obviously it's a factor, but I think the main components of compatibility are shared values and a willingness to work together for the long haul. If you have those two things you can always work it out.

[@mikamelon5698]

my best friend is ISFJ and I love her since 17 years just as she is. despite there's high conflict potential the need for harmony is stronger - it can be a very rewarding relationship. :D

[@AlethrialTheElvenEmpress]

I’m an INFJ/INTJ (turbulent) and my husband is ISFJ (assertive) and we have a lovely marriage. I’m psyched to see another INFJ+ISFJ pairing!

[@amandabridget8706]

@@Yekulten Go for it! ISFJs are the best! They're so sincere, honest and hardworking. In my experience it's easy to relax with them because of their honesty, and they push me forward because of their hardworking nature. They're wonderful as a partner. ❤️

[@AlethrialTheElvenEmpress]

@@Yekulten This sounds a lot like how our relationship started. My husband liked me, but as a shy ISFJ, he never made the first move. I started by asking for his number. We texted a bit, and a couple days later, he asked me out for dinner at a thai place. Six months later he proposed to me. If you don’t have her number, you can always ask. If it’s easier, you can say “I really enjoy your company. Can we exchange numbers and text?” If the relationship progresses, you can always ask her out for coffee or something casual. Then go from there. But really it’s up to you. I hope it works out. Keep us updated!

[@AlethrialTheElvenEmpress]

@@amandabridget8706 Absolutely!

[@Hazel-mv2ef]

intj dating an istp and the n/s is so on point for my relationship. we both love puzzle games and solving problems, but come at it from completely different directions. he tends to get super frustrated with me when we are comparing theories and i cant really explain my thought process behind my theories because i'm taking in possibles from so many different angles, while he believes that only straightforward conclusions and concrete facts should be used. it can lead to some raised voices but we never get too angry at each other and honestly i think we're a bit of an unstoppable team when we work our brains together. plus i'm usually right in the end anyway and i get to be smug about it :)

[@mattrivera8587]

My wife (ISFJ) and myself (ENTJ) have been together since 2009. We seldom fight. The arguments we have had are ones regarding how problems are solved. I am extremely "did you call them out on their bs?" and hold to "objective truth > your subjective feelings". She is far more passive and many times to a self detriment. Over the years she has learned to be more vocal and stand up for herself... I have entrenched myself in MBTI and learned different personality types so I can figure out ways to approach people. I have learned to use the socratic method, persuasion, and simply asking a series of questions that show the person "Here was my personal thought trail... Show me where you think I went off course..." This has proven to be far more effective than "The theory of the multiverse gives room for the possibilities of unicorns and plaid skies, but it doesnt leave room for your idea being a good one..." or "That was such a bad decision that you have to actually aim and set as a personal goal to suck at your job..." Yes... actual quotes...🤦‍♂️ Im not proud. I had a lot of work to be done...

[@maturitycomeswithexperienc3388]

Well, I found your self shaming uncalled for and your quotes funny. You remind me of the brother I mesh with the most. I'm an INTJ