Gary Vee & Jay Shetty ON How To Stop Caring What People Think Of You | ON Purpose Podcast Ep.19

On this special episode of On Purpose, I got to sit down with my good friend Gary Vee.
Gary is an investor, a serial entrepreneur and a 5 time New York Times bestselling author.
We got to talk in depth about how to stop caring what people think about you, why you should focus on happiness not hustle and why you need to contextualize advice before you decide to listen to it.
There are so many teachable moments in this episode and I know you will learn so much!
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[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

*Love seeing two such influential people sharing their knowledge together in one room.*

[@pavlasebikova109]

exactly!

[@MindNow]

*If you want to succeed, you need to believe in what you do. You will always have haters no matter what you do* 🙏

[@TeamGaryVee]

We hope this helps everyone watching and thank you so much for always being awesome Jay :) 1:59 - 2:43 | Conscious Competence 2:55 - 4:40 | Parenting Advice Predicated on Who We Were As Children 4:54 - 6:03 | Balancing out Humility and Energy 6:25 - 7:10 | Balancing celebration and not smelling the roses 7:13 - 10:42 | Not Letting Compliments get to your head and criticism get to your heart 11:05 - 11:40 | Judging Predicated on Intent 11:40 - 12:55 | Gary’s Super Power 13:00 - 15:39 | Entitlement in America and Lack of Perspective 16:38 - 18:50 | Avengers Talk 19:50 - 21:00 | Hot Takes and Judgments vs. Trying to Have the Context 21:00 - 24:26 | Gratitude, Optimism, Positivity vs. Curse Words 24:45 - 28:00 | Something Gary’s Been Thinking About 29:20 - 31:10 | Not Judging Ourselves and Holding Ourselves Accountable 31:23 - 32:26 | Work Ethic and Self-Awareness 32:27 - 34:50 | Jay Has Incredible Beautiful Eyes 35:18 - 36:23 | Getting to Happiness and Gary’s Shortcoming 36:35 - 38:27 | Focus on People’s Strengths For Yourself to be Optimistic 38:52 - 40:01 | Abundance in the Market 41:15 - 42:00 | Being Great with Competition 42:26 - 43:05 | Being the Best vs. First 43:20 - 44:40 | Be Thoughtful of Who’s Giving You The Advice 44:50 - 45:30 | Nobody is for Everyone 48:40 - 52:40 | Why GaryVee Likes Star Wars 55:00 - 55:45 | Call Someone You Haven’t Talked To 56:00 - 58:14 | Emotions Behind Gary’s Message 59:39 - 1:00:50 | Which Avenger is Gary 1:01:04 - 1:02:35 | Dumbest Thing Gary Has Bought 1:02:44 - 1:03:54 | Worst Advice in Social Media 1:03:55 - 1:04:00 | One Thing Gary is Most Proud Of 1:04:08 - 1:07:04 | One Big Game of Perspective

[@ThePragathes]

Really helpful dude, thank you so much. Have a great day!

[@shovitkhatiwada7238]

Hey garyvee team ..tell Gary not to interrupt in the middle of the sentence ...let jay finish what he want to say.🙏

[@a.m.7286]

Gary usually comes off anxious. This is the calmest I’ve seen him. Something about Jay is so peaceful - he makes people feel safe to just be themselves it seems!

[@devsanghvi1183]

Hi Jay, can you interview keeanu Reeves?

[@darshshah79]

Dev Sanghvi he’s hungry for wrinkles

[@nippieart]

OMG IF THIS HAPPENS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@stephanieochia2173]

That would be cool🔥😍😍

[@milliepadmanabhan2540]

I am honestly so proud that Jay is winning on so many levels. As someone who always wanted a role model to look upto, bullied for being different and being Indian. Wow, we have come such a long way! Jay is adding so much value in the world spiritually, mentally and energetically. I can't even explain the amount of gratitude I feel. Thank you, Jay

[@saverio29]

Indian people are some the biggest bullies especially against black people

[@milliepadmanabhan2540]

@@saverio29 Yes, most of them are colourists. Like any other country which was colonised by foreigners. Still doesn't make it right, but things are slowly changing!

[@edwarddonatus5888]

Gary Vee sounds like an inspirational fighter look his eyes and energy so powerful. Love him and Shetty so much

[@TristanDefeuilletVang]

Best feat on KZbin EVER 🙏🏽

[@komalv9599]

How the Hell is G so calm in this. I mean he's always full of energy and enthusiasm, he still has it here but it's kinda calm. Feels like watching G meditate.

[@studyme-selftaughtlife4958]

*Growth* comes from consistency.

[@monstermotivation8006]

Jay you are one of the most incredibly gifted, genuine, and inspirational human beings out there. Keep doing your thing, man. I inspire tons of people in person every single day and and am beyond grateful and blessed ... and your messages are just adding even more beautiful positivity to my life. Please share some feedback with Gary to invest in a pen and and paper during these talks so that instead of interrupting you countless times, he can jot small notes down so he can remember to bring his points up AFTER you finish your thoughts. Gary is a great guy with some good information to share, but he’s so encompassed with going on rants and responding immediately to whatever is being discussed... maybe you can show him a better way to manage his oral communication skills. Great topic, great discussion - keep up the tremendous work fellas 🙏💪

[@voicevamp]

This is GOLD! 🤩 Thank you, Gary Vee. Thank you, Jay Shetty.

[@osse1n]

*What others think of us is non of our business* Others opinions are just an air of nonsense. If you about those, you have no will, no life. Focus INWARDLY and compete with only yourself.

[@winnersneverquits2570]

🙏

[@matodzi01]

“Being thoughtful of everything you consume, not every advice is good advice.”

[@me2724]

Garry love you for being you who you are and not trying to impress people, but rather impact people. Great podcast jay. Love you both.

[@dhirajdarlami1542]

Thanks Jay for what you are doing its really amazing to see influential people like Gary vee in your show who are trying to bring amazing value in people's life.

[@nicoleefferson3188]

I love this video and I literally never comment on youtube videos. I appreciate the comfort that I feel as a 22 year old listening to this. A bit late to the game but I heard the newest version and decided this combination of business and spirituality would line perfectly with what iVe been seeking/looking for lately. Thank you 💛

[@martellymonexant9227]

I love the different energies they have both of them resonates with me, they both connect to personalities.

[@AprilKeez]

I watch a lot of Gary content, but this was the most compelling, honest, in-depth video I've seen. Each topic felt so relevant and valuable. I genuinely feel like I've gained a lot of insight from this interview. Thanks for this!

[@nikhildommeti8128]

Gary and Jay you guys left me with a awestruck feeling in my heart at the end of the podcast. Came here to check if there will be anything that’s new to check out..find out so much to connect with i do resonate to most of the stuff you spoke about.

[@coreyreese8289]

Im listening to this right now and I can not move away, im so drawn to listen and my brain is just learning and I have so much focus listening, can not believe I did not find this so long ago @jayshetty

[@bliss6890]

I love this video BECAUSE of the contrast in message packaging, hits the different dynamics of my personality and the areas that I am feel weak in and strong in. Also such an important message in showing appreciation for each other even in their difference. Thank you both for this!

[@Bitachon]

*Jay Shetty + Gary Vee = Awesome!*

[@rossbourgeois4394]

Gary and jay hit it on the head with the two diverse personalities when I seen both of pop up on a show together I stoped what I was doing and sat down to soak it in...iam a lot like Gary personality wise and two years ago I listened to jay for the first time and he completely changed my life in so many different ways I always wanted to become successful but until I learned from jay it was for all the wrong reasons.now that’s iam self aware of what iam trying to accomplish I’ve dove into Gary’s content and it just made my week seeing the two of you work together..highly recommend seeing more content from y’all collaborating!!

[@positiveenergy8598]

Growth comes from consistency, hard working and perseverance.

[@theodorul4085]

well now this is gonna be some extraordinary wisdom for us -beings

[@TABLUXWOOD]

i love both of these guys garyvee best business man

[@wifiematerials2544]

I agree the whole 1:12 mins was a game changer for me

[@KJuniorfied]

Jay and Gary on the same wavelength. Love it.

[@gagans7962]

Absolutely loved this video!... would be so amazing to have Gary vee, Jay shetty and Tony Robbins in a three way interview. Would literally blow my mind!! 🥴🤯

[@darby_hudson]

Wow. The best interviewer who matches, if not more than matches Gary. Good work Jay. New fan

[@iamnik17]

This is the best video till date, and Jay you really nailed it.

[@TABLUXWOOD]

Positivity & Optimism , Everybody has a decision to make. Rewrite the next chapter of your life.

[@YourTrustedRealtor1]

You two are soooo ON POINT!

[@bijenatom3486]

Gary Vee and Jay Shetty!!! Wowwww!!!

[@narcissistwhisperer]

It looks like they had a lot of fun doing this. I may need to watch it a few times to really catch everything. Vee is SOO hyper & speaks & moves so quickly.

[@Robcarroll_]

Everyone and everything is your teacher 100%

[@erinrty08]

So funny you talked about the differences between your audiences because when I saw this posted the first thing I said was “omg yes, 2 of my most favorite people!” 👏🏻❤️✌🏻

[@rishabhmittal7631]

Watching the two people that you look upto the most is the best thing ❤️

[@HumansOfVR]

*_2 of my favorite KZbinrs!_*

[@1AmSwapnil]

This man is so full of energy, really liked this podcast

[@outhounazakaria6899]

two of the greatest men in the world in one place and one video, that's too much for me

[@yahyazaroug3103]

You guys really did it for me together. I was consuming gary’s content for 2 years now and yours for under 1 year but when you spoke about entitlement i felt that and i realized the world shouldnt be as it is and it finally resonated how lucky we are to be living in this era. Thank you

[@wamaitharewild]

I love seeing you together... To much wisdom in the same room.

[@julietac298]

Ahahah!!! "Those f'ing eyes!" Killed me! 😂

[@tklucas8516]

I loved it when Gary said all advice is bad if you don't have enough self awareness to eliminate what is bad. I admire his sense of self and his acceptance of his total self. He makes decisions that aren't popular but they are what's right for him. I'm working on that for myself. Thank you Jay for some real meat. This was definitely not leftovers. I'm still chewing on it. This is my 3rd viewing and I'm processing it. Thanks Gary. I want to have a heart like yours. God Bless.

[@sabrinabasile5603]

I can't even put all my thoughts into words. This was incredible to witness. The flow, sharing of ideas, the unique perspectives that literally squared and multiplied and evolved in this podcast. Wow. I think the advice to be reflective about the advice we receive and put in context, really understand it, analyze it, pick it apart, is SO important. It made me look at myself in the mirror and just say who even am I? Because I feel one mistake Ive made in the past is that I've built myself up on the advice of others that was good advice for them but might not be for me. And its so confusing to even think about because I and everyone else in the world is built on the work and love of other people. It definitely does take immense self awareness to take advice. I'm literally rethinking my life rn... also about to go purge my insta because I'm definitely subscribing to way too many ppl just in it for the dollars. Thank you for this amazing piece of yourselves you just shared with the world. Bravo.

[@abhishekmeharwal]

Who’s here again after already listening the podcast?

[@YourTrustedRealtor1]

I love/loved this discussion..It was so necessary...part of my lack of success is because I've allowed others opinions of me or my anticipation of negative opinions paralyze me.

[@shikharkapoor8165]

Hey I'm 19 can you tell me how to be successful

[@bramberdon]

How I’m I just now finding this! My two favorite people combined! Awesome.

[@shashankkumar1736]

Get Matt D'avella on the podcast

[@rubyschofield6582]

100 % BRO !

[@linpidding5744]

Yes yes Matt d avella...

[@Moonjir]

We need Matt

[@mariahswt]

Gary's different around Jay. The comfort of being around the like-minded. It's beautiful to see.

[@FeelGoodWithin]

Coz of Gary I started following Jay!!! One Thing I learned from from both of you is Be urself 😝 😍 Yeah Focus on ur Strengths!!! Yeah I truly agree Show wht you truely are Rather than wht people want you to be.

[@shikharkapoor8165]

What if people don't accept you?

[@phyllidaacworth5212]

I feel more focused about my own life, and thoughtful, watching Jay's videos almost to the extent that I miss some of what is being said. So inspiring!

[@NenaLavonne]

What a resource!!!!! Thank you for your continuously inspiring so many! ❤️❤️❤️

[@lisajo0301]

Love you Jay. I am an avid fan and I try to take the wisdom you put out and live it in my life. I may have days I falter but I say ok. This minute tight now starts a time to continue on with my growth. And tell Gary whom I’d never heard of before your podcast he did say things I will take with into my growth journey. Thank you for introducing him I will now follow him as well. I started a new challenge for myself to not complain or say negative things instead to say... I am hopeful for a better day. Thank you for being a bright light 🙏

[@aashidhaniya]

i am one of those kids who was born in one of those environments and to parents where my perspective is upside down and you've certainly been the biggest voice that has flipped it bruh thanks

[@alimoon4723]

Holy shit. Wow. I can’t believe the breakthroughs I am getting from the way you both framed this conversation. It’s true magic, true intuition. This is golden. Love you both. I really feel like after all of this listening to you both... I am actually about to put thought to action. Thank you so much. So very much.

[@andreeavoicu7051]

A little late, but man I love it, it's amazing seeing two of the people I absolutely love in the same room having a free conversation. Love it 💖

[@RohitKumar-xq6cx]

Already heard it ,now gonna watch it 🥰

[@AlanReta]

Listened this on Gary’s Spotify and was instantly amazed, it was the first time the guest talked the same amount as Gary, he stopped several times to allow you to talk. It was amazing, maybe because your POV and your input is great! Gratitude and happiness :D Subbed ;)

[@edwarddonatus5888]

Gary Vee looks like someone is chasing him. He is smart and intelligent. Much love

[@GroundbreakGames]

You want to see something really impressive, watch one of his long form videos and see how many people come up to him and ask for a selfie or a handshake every day, and not a one gets turned down. The guy will stop a limo to spend 20 minutes he doesn't have, giving advice to the kid sweeping the parking lot. He's a one of a kind.

[@edwarddonatus5888]

@@GroundbreakGames thats cool will check him up thanks

[@krishnasanjay4343]

I'm so happy and grateful that this podcast exists with gary

[@TanvirAhmed24]

Believe it or not, we're not that special. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is-those people are thinking the exact same thing. No one in today's "smartphone-crazed" society has time in their schedule to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we do have time get our thoughts straight, we're too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings-not others.

[@salmohooto2662]

Thanks a lot I really like you video

[@TanvirAhmed24]

@@salmohooto2662 Thank you! :)

[@yustinushalim1146]

Yup! Got your point clear man! Thank you for your comment!

[@TanvirAhmed24]

@@yustinushalim1146 Glad to be of help!

[@nicklewis1203]

Such an underrated comment!

[@wifiematerials2544]

This was remarkable - what hit home was the coming together for the greater good and really taking notes on who we listen/follow - intention. Those will be weeded out evenually. You two are power shifters - WoW!!! Thank you for #TRUTH

[@siddhikachare7390]

I won't waste my time by saying thank you , etc rather spend my time thinking over the things that the society what's me to think is that even existing or not. You said right i have to go deeper into my thought process #thebestpodcast till date love from India

[@sagarmathers3821]

Gary-" Motherfucker" what he really saying- i am proud of you Love this guy...Grateful that i could watch this

[@aloenottingham6163]

When GV said "Avengers Talk" my Kundalini / Internal Energy went nuts. 💚🙏🏾 #garyveeforpresident

[@djr_drums]

Gary has a unique way of embracing and externalising his ego and using it to love others by talking about himself......some people (myself included until listening to this), can't hang with that.

[@PowerfulU]

Gary has so much energy when he talks. Inspirational! Loved this.

[@MamaNova2]

A Blessing, two for one and it's beautiful because I came here to look for encouragement. Thought about listening to Gary Vee first then was thinking I wasn't in the mode for his energy right now (his delivery) and was feeling more like hearing insight from a softer tone. It's great that Gary Vee knows himself so well that he could speak on that he understands that his style of truth my cut through so hardly that some won't get the message. But then it's was this video. I can hear "just the two of us". Together you are a movement. Thank you for speaking change, peace and knowledge ❤️

[@utkarshkumar9144]

Damm, one of best interviews I ever watched on KZbin , two Gem of legends their sharing their Deep concepts in context of life for us ❤️❤️

[@diamond3529]

Gary is in love with hearing himself talk 😅

[@itsnanaberry]

I get it when you said "When I hear you speak I feel aligned and it's helped me gain conscious competence. Because that's how I felt when I really started hearing you speaking I felt the same way and I hear others too and mixed all that positive wisdom and inject that to my veins like if I was addicted to heroin. It helped me communicate better with my love ones. JUST wanted to say that you have made a HUGE difference with my life and now I'm spreading that wisdom with my son. But hey, I walk the talk I just don't give the advice I make it happen in action and I'm forever grateful. THANK YOU!!! I'm a huge FAN I know you know lol

[@lilyzemengist8091]

@11:43 The hand ever so slightly trying to remove the bag. 😁🧤

[@097773]

These 2 great guys have already dent the universe with their content! Thanks for inspiring us! Thanks for existing! Peace ✌️

[@joyfulsavage9905]

Jesus Gary let Jay finish a sentence man hahaha.

[@joellugo3490]

For real lol

[@Venancechiepodeu]

@@joellugo3490 Yoo i kept saying that LOL

[@mariahwisdom-peters6919]

Lol.

[@mizzzgiggles]

Joyful Savage 🤣🤣 could not agree more!!

[@spdadventurer1754]

bahahaha thats why Gary said in the end he wants to improve at not interrupting which btw he does when he only respects the person he is talking too .. to me i interrupt someone when i feel i will forget what m going to say lol

[@renojanspectra4137]

This podcast is something else❤

[@mohamedashfaq9167]

2 of the most aspiring people ✨

[@robertoddish]

Two of my favorite inspirational people! This is incredible!

[@abdulrazak677]

Legends in one frame😬😬

[@angelab97]

Spot on. Thank you for the wisdom. I love and appreciate different perspectives. You are my daily mental vitamin. Thanks Jay!

[@fatima.a.j717]

Omg sooo enthusiasm a series ....i love both them and their contents. 😃

[@sandram6913]

Another Wow!! And I have noticed your appreciation of your parents. There's a lot of that.

[@sfar024]

🛎 🛎 Gary is just dinging with ideas, realisation, understanding 🛎 🛎

[@vidhiarya]

I've known what Gary's content has been about, but this video just made me love him even more!

[@paramshah6376]

Oh, of course he’s tony. There’s no other option.❤️❤️. Love you both so much. 😘😘

[@jhinoventura]

Grateful. Such an interesting episode. Thx Jay Thx Gary

[@billionairesbio]

Waiting for this my whole life..

[@Venancechiepodeu]

Is Gary going to let Jay finish his sentence or naw ?? LOL

[@fazilmuhammed5410]

I've been waiting for this a long time❤❤❤❤

[@halalmedia9605]

Iam from Somalia I love Jay Shetty

[@VictoriaSakurova]

The only thing that I would have changed is the advertisement, I would put it in the end, because I was listening to the idea you were guys discussing and then the ad of the natural nutrition interrupted it and I had to skip to don't lose an idea. So the ad in the end would be perfect!

[@nazilahussein9605]

Love this podcast!!

[@jaynenxo8019]

I follow Gary AND Jay... literally love both of them! ❤

[@priyaagarwal4448]

Much awaited 😍

[@Mani_Matter]

One of the best natural bodybuilder

[@mizlagunesvary5077]

Such an awesome Podcast. Loved my 1.30 hours. I love Gary`s and your contents. It`s good to see you both sharing the same frame. Everything you guys discussed and shared are bubbling in my head. I`m taking personal time to reflect, digest and make decisions based on your thoughts and perception. It`s a good day!

[@vitocorleone7713]

Positivity 🙏

[@puravsingh3758]

Thank you s much Jay ...Love from Jaipur India ❤. I'll meet you one day

[@RaishAhmad.]

Just imagine two legends are together 🔥

[@demetriosjoannou]

Please don't put ads in like that, very annoying. Great video, othewise.

[@pana71]

"please don't put in these short adverts which help you support yourself during this hour long free content I'm getting."