Feel Them Pulling Away? DO NOT Chase; Do THIS Instead!

[@thematthewhussey]

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[@jennysrp]

I use Matthew AI in the LoveLife club and it is amazing. Instant help. Instant consideration.

[@mlle_francophile]

Will it work with a longer written story? There is so much to my situation, I have written it all down before when sending my story by email or is there a limit to length ?

[@jennysrp]

@@mlle_francophile you can write as much as you want it’s limitless. And it will build on your conversation too so you can keep typing more after you get an answer for even further clarification on the same topic in the same session.

[@mlle_francophile]

@@jennysrp thank you :)

[@kittycatsheavenog]

Matt you are the aboslute man !!! Ive been really hoping you could help me with my specific question. It was really knawwing at me, i was about to go no contact on this particular person but after telling the situation to your AI it really grounded me and gave me clarity on what to do . Reminding me that showing your character is the most important thing. And "you gave me great action steps to take next . Appreciate !! Defintely worth being a member

[@Narutendo3]

“Don’t value someone based on how you feel about them, value them based on how they make you feel” is such a surprisingly powerful insight. It’s triggering some much needed rethinking for me

[@sarabhjyotsingh7232]

Wow bro, in the same boat bro

[@ivanabadzim1303]

Amazing Value them based on how they make u feel. He made me feel miserable and rejected

[@ceciliamac4283]

It’s not that good of an advice. My energy was up when I was around him and that was meaningful for me as I was dealing with chronic long Covid and it was hard to feel energetic except when I was around him. The only issue is that he wasn’t stable in his presence. He makes me feel really good then he pulls away and makes me feel like I don’t exist. Then he makes me feel good again, etc. And it’s wasn’t love bombing it’s was just that the crumbs he gave me felt really good physically and emotionally. After few months of this behavior, I decided to stop seeing him. It was hard though.

[@alikoenig4715]

SO profound!

[@claracruz9066]

@Narutendo3 it did for me, too.

[@jennyhewitt3472]

Especially as women, we tend to overthink it because we want answers. But really the only answer you need is that for whatever reason, they aren't that interested. That's your cue to move on!

[@AL-uz8xz]

if he wanted to, he would. I am in that situation now he has clearly chosen to prioritize somebody else over me and I need to be OK with that and figure out to move on.

[@roxxana4075]

@@AL-uz8xzhealthy thinking

[@josescott8974]

Its heartbreaking but we need to accept it for us to heal!

[@dhammaboy1203]

From a guys perspective - I think this is great advice. Focus on making your life the best version of your life whilst being open to meeting someone. I've been focusing all year - since a break up - on trying to make my best life. That way whether something works out or not - its not that big a deal. Enjoying your own life also is attractive!

[@MessJB]

Doing this myself. Hopefully i'll be able to pull through. 💪🏽

[@Kiatababy]

Thanks

[@liv1738]

Honestly I am still working on this but I have to agree. I got out of a 9 year relationship in July and I have learned that the best thing you can do is just focus on you while keeping your heart and mind open for new love. It has been such a journey for me to start pursuing me instead of the last 9 years of my life pursuing him. It has been a blessing just to be there for me now 😊. Good luck to you!

[@LadyDixon92]

I don't necessarily agree with the point of sending the second message, to be completely honest. I think that if you have a fulfilling life, you will let things be and not force the situation by reaching out. That hypothetical man seems to have other priorities, which doesn't make him a bad person, just someone who might not be able to give you what you need right now. In my opinion, the most powerful message you could send in this scenario is silence. If he is truly interested in you, he will eventually reach out, and then you could have a conversation about needs in a respectful and clear manner. If he remains absent, well, it likely means he can't be that person for you. Just my fair take on the subject.

[@eadaoing.sullivan-dt5km]

I agree wholeheartedly - if someone wants to be with you - you don’t need to chase them. Simple

[@jasmineb5697]

Truth❤

[@TROG1709]

Same

[@KimJilene]

👏🏾THIS🙌🏾

[@kiddish18]

Why does it feel that in such cases men are on an advantage and their messaging to you matters more than you messaging them? Also i feel the perspective will change a lot when women feel and think in other way around i.e. instead of thinking if he wants connect with me or no. Do i want to connect with him now? I think most of the times the answer will be no.

[@ireefree2024]

The harsh truth is that if this behavior is the best in the beginning, it won't get better. My husband is a bad texter. He hates smartphones. But in the beginning of our dating I went to a vacation of 3 weeks. He wrote every single day massages to me (and is still is after 5 years). If you are just an opportunity, not an priority to a man, it won't change...

[@user-jc8py7dw7r]

Learn to spell.

[@greenninjachef]

I appreciate hearing this from other people! My new bf texted me back everyday when I was on vacation. I wasn’t able to meet him before I left for my beach vacation. He had to wait almost 2 weeks to meet me. He checked on my schedule & we ended up having a great 1st date! I still listen to Matthew bc he is helping me relearn how to communicate in a new relationship

[@HiThere-px6vl]

​​@user-jc8py7dw7r Dont be mean....u get the gist

[@damienbates]

Let’s remember he’s on a vacation with his kids. His attention and priority is with them and being present! Not with his new girlfriend stealing away his time with them! Jesus Christ people!

[@conamormeri]

If him/her is not showing interest is simply because they're not interested. If they drift off... Let them. Behaviour is a Language.

[@teeahtate]

Right

[@deliapasqualini970]

If he stops calling, stops texting...you stop calling, stop texting. Be his exact mirror; reflect back his behaviour.

[@bluewizzard8843]

That's right. Especially he doesn't want her to text. He is away and want's to take a break from her.

[@ifuckingh8you195]

Child games

[@CeciledeLuire]

i agree - but also, when my guts tell me sth else, i *will* do this sth else : ) but(!) never betraying my boundaries and standards when doing so.

[@acslater8899]

This goes for both men and women. Connection is a two way street. No exceptions.

[@kindasortanull]

this is such terrible advice; how about you communicate like an adult instead?

[@issar211]

Do not text a man who hasn't communicated with you for weeks. Do not chase him!

[@bluewizzard8843]

You are missing the point. The Point is that she has to take responsibilty for herself and her feelings.

[@ifuckingh8you195]

Women are always the problem.

[@FTYC2022]

​@@ifuckingh8you195welp stop trying to date us. Simple. There are millions of men and and trans-women available to you.

[@myawoods1435]

Ugh! It’s even worse when you’ve been dating for a long time!

[@naturalebeing]

With all due respect, why did you come to this video if you think you have the answers? 😂

[@biljam972]

It does depend on context but still. If someone get silent with messages and start answering you with short final messages like "ok", "thanks", "sure" and similar, sorry, but that person is not into you. Just let them go! I had situation where I noticed that something is wrong only when those short messages started although there were some red flags before that. But when he started sending those short and non-interested messages that require no answer from me, I started to notice all the red flags I missed before. And I just stopped contacting him. Never heard from him again and honestly I do not regret it. I do not need someone like that in my life. I won't play games, I won't chase a man, I won't beg anyone for attention. You don't want me? Fine, leave!

[@truhhhhhhhokIII3]

Some women do the same as well. These people do not think about the feelings of others.

[@SagittariusBabe87]

💯💯 Girl!😏

[@char2723]

Atta girl! 🤠

[@bettyfelton1362]

Spot on 💯 🎉🎉🎉

[@Polly1589]

I think we should start to stop make excuses and call it out for what it is: avoidant behaviour. It won't get better even when he commits! Talking from years of dating/relationship experience. Instead of following these advices (what I did for years) I started to put boundaries. I will communicate openly, ask him for what he wants and will walk away if this is not align with me. Protect your heart ladies! A man who want to, will!

[@Seaturtle098]

Plain reality this is

[@biasedknowledge]

Matthew, this video couldn’t have come at a better time. My friend Olivia found herself in a similar situation, where she was seeing someone for a few weeks and everything seemed to be going perfectly until he went on a trip. Just like the woman you mentioned, she barely heard from him, and when he did respond, it was so lackluster it left her confused and overthinking. Your advice to 'stop valuing someone based on how you feel about them and start valuing them based on how they make you feel' is something I’m going to share with her. It’s such a simple yet profound shift in perspective, and I know it will give her the clarity she needs. This nuanced approach to early dating is exactly what she (and many of us) need to hear. Thank you for being a constant source of wisdom!

[@cinderxp4563]

Imagine both people using Matthew AI, and it’s a three week conversation of the AIs texting each other.

[@melcee22]

Hillarious haha

[@77raymann]

😹😹😹

[@CeciledeLuire]

😂

[@thematthewhussey]

😂😂

[@manziyannick4985]

😂😂😂😂

[@HRKM1999]

Hey Matthew, I actually had a devastating breakup a year back which your videos helped me recover from. I couldn’t even imagine of ever recovering from the trauma I experienced in that abusive relationship, but watching your videos literally saved my life. Just wanted to thank you for that! Hope you see this comment and I hope you realise the kind of profound impact you have on people’s lives.

[@carmenlabomba]

To be completely honest, I prefer watching a bunch of your videos and using my own mind and the things I've learned to generate a response to my life, rather than anything to do with AI. But I appreciate how excited you both are about it. You both are great 🤗🤍🤍

[@anneliesewright662]

This is so cool. However, I would just like to say that when a parent is spending time with their child, they need to focus on them, not you. So be patient & understanding about that. Also, I had to learn the hard way that when someone has a lot going on, give them extra time to respond, or you'll add to their stress & cause them to feel overwhelmed.

[@miz6229]

I love the teachings in this video. As a woman, i have a tendency to get ahead of myself and where the relationship actual is. I have to tell myself to "cool your jets, girl". lol I match my date's energy. I make my own plans with friends if he doesn't ask ahead of time. There have been times when he asked to get together on the day of, but I've already made plans because I was not waiting on him.

[@thematthewhussey]

This is healthy! Thanks for commenting.

[@shadowandsoul4331]

@@thematthewhussey is this really Matthew? Or an AI version of yourself, LOL!

[@petereames3041]

You say as a woman but I do the same as a man

[@MaddyRoseMusic]

My boyfriend (avoidant) told me the other day with me he is "not intellectually stimulated" because I am not an expert in politics or the wold happenings / wars etc. and because I rather focus on music, creativity, positive outlooks in life. He is very hard on himself and can't express emotions very well and after two years still didnt say "i love you". I have been trying to accept his way but somehow I am just sad and don't know how to move on. This video helped a lot :)

[@MinipodMondays]

A compatibility issue at core, he may not be the one for you. 2 years is enough time to know if you love someone. Hope you find your happiness❤

[@hill1776]

Walk away…its not a good fit

[@onnanob]

First, let me tell you I am a man. More importantly I am a human. If someone were to tell me they are not intellectually stimulated by me, then I would find the courage to leave. He obviously needs to be with someone who "intellectually stimulates" him, and you need to be with someone who enjoys you for you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with your interests, and there's bound to be someone who's much more compatible for you. It's great when two people share a lot of the same interests, but the differences that are not shared by interest should allow two people healthy time apart (even if in the same apartment) to indulge in their other passions. Also, some people may have difficulty showing emotions and saying "I love you", but you have needs from the relationship that need to be fulfilled. I personally wouldn't have waited two years.

[@yarian6727]

every video of you I watch makes me want a relationship even less, everything is just so complicated

[@prafullsh793]

The case study mentioned here could be avoided if the guy would had texted at the start of the trip, indicating that next two weeks he is gonna be with his kids and travelling so texting might be difficult due to time zone and disturbance. It still not a right way to handle the situation but in that case the other person is aware what to expect. - clear communication!

[@SagittariusBabe87]

Good response! Sending that initial text about the trip and how he would be busy. Letting her know Ahead of Time! 💯

[@Bozena-L]

Indeed, clear communication is most healthy

[@Nadleb]

Your book is a masterpiece! I cannot stop reading. Every sentence is important, thank you for tons of advice, ways to cope, new perspectives, and for sharing your own personal experience with us! This book is a must have.

[@melcee22]

Matthew’s beaming smile with the AI! He was so excited and pleased with this AI! God bless him and his amazing ideas! ❤

[@thematthewhussey]

Haha! It’s the first time I’ve ever been able to solve the problem of how to make sure everyone feels “heard” and answered with THEIR specific question. It’s really exciting to me 😊

[@user-ei9qt2tt2d]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@GorgeTracy-d3v]

Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 5 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.

[@user-ei9qt2tt2d]

Intriguing! I'm curious, how did you find a spiritual counselor, and what's the most effective way for me to reach him?

[@GorgeTracy-d3v]

Meet father Akunna, a renowned spiritual counselor acclaimed for his talent in bringing back ex-partners.

[@user-ei9qt2tt2d]

Thank you for this valuable information.

[@Mytravelguideview]

This is what I'm really going through now 😢 it's difficult to heal😢

[@TheBluefairy93]

I'm going to say what everyone else is thinking.... Wouldn't it be FABULOUS if there was a Netflix show allllll about love and relationships and Matthew AND Audrey were the Fairy Godparents?!?!?!?

[@thematthewhussey]

😂

[@megancromes137]

Facts !! 💯 ❤❤😊😊

[@Bellarue16]

Omg, 💯 yes!!

[@aprilflowerrrss]

Matt! You and your wife are so wholesome :)

[@thematthewhussey]

I think this is the first time I’ve been described this way 😂😂, I’m glad you think so. Though I hope you’ll cut me some slack in the moments where I’m less so 😬lol

[@ashtonjones5768]

I enjoy your banter with Audrey. She has awesome sense of humor. And cheeky too.😃 Today's episode was very helpful and informative. Looking forward to Matthew AI.😊

[@thematthewhussey]

Glad you enjoyed it! And Audrey’s sense of humor 😁

[@lorrainec3673]

I had been in this situation twice- one, we talked for a bit & I wasn’t too keen on him to begin with. He was actually offering to help with shopping, etc…and i only knew him for a month. He went away and he fell off the face of the earth… when he came back, I said goodbye and blocked him. On the contrary, a guy I was interested in went on a trip out of the blue.. I was stunned & was put in the position to ask questions… and it was a family trip, such as what Matthew is talking about. I was talking to him for six months and having trouble seeing each other. Now this. I was so disappointed… I was trying to be light about it but hurt. Of course I barely heard from him… not even to say good night… then he told me he got very sick & was laid up & had to get home early… I was concerned but the way he was treating me, I didn’t feel that bad about it either to be honest… he still talks to me, but it’s more of the same stuff… so, as you mentioned, not showing much of an investment, I don’t either…

[@calemaria]

Oh Matthew Hussey, your advice couldn't have been more timely. Bless you for your hard work in helping others 🙏

[@thematthewhussey]

Thank you! You’re so welcome.

[@user-lx5jf4vi2k]

I am currently in the EXACT SAME situation as the video but we’ve been dating for a year 😢 My girlfriend went on multiple trips for several weeks (around 4) and I felt like she completely forgot about me during that trip. No good morning, no good night, no texting to check up on me. Whenever I brought up the situation she said that I was making her uncomfortable and then used that as the excuse as to why she didn’t want to talk to me for a while. She ended up breaking up with me after I mentioned it for the third time and seeing no results. I still miss her more than anything.

[@thematthewhussey]

I think I speak for anybody reading this who wants the best for you when I say you dodged a bullet. If someone you’re with for that long is not only going cold on you while they are away, but shaming you for bringing it up, that’s not the team mate you are looking for. It’s ok for someone to enjoy not being on their phone 24/7 when they are on a trip (healthy even!), but to not send you a message to say goodnight, or to express this desire for disconnection in a healthy way is a problem. I’m sorry you had to go through that, but you deserve better. ❤

[@osannez]

@user-lx5jf4vi2k its difficult. But she was not your person. You will find someone who's core values match yours

[@user-lx5jf4vi2k]

@@thematthewhussey Thank you so much, it really helps! I’m still navigating my feelings and trying my best to understand everything and your support means a lot. It’s been a very complicated situation with a lot of ups and downs but I’m slowly starting to find my peace. Thank you for your message!

[@kAI-np9rv]

She got railed bro 😂

[@kmr985]

I am currently in this situation as well. While I was in hospital for open heart surgery, he would text me every day/night and visit in person. But now that I am out of hospital and recovering at home, he's not texting me often. He had also stopped texting "good morning" and "good night". He had done this in the past and I did ask him about it once via text, and he would get defensive about it. I don't want to ask a second time. I want to stay with him but there are also times where I want to end the relationship. I am finding it hard to let go.

[@Juviosa_]

Mate that AI is SOOOOOO coool!! Really looking forward to test it out with some of the crazy things that happen with me and my love life hahaha. Also so nice to see you glowing up hearing how your hard work has paid off while the demo was playing. The excitement is visible.

[@wnsb6949]

Matthew, you're such a blessing. Your insights and the way you present them are truly invaluable. I was so confused when a man recently pulled back on me, but you’ve helped me make sense of it all. Thank you so much!

[@jennyy6606]

Hi Matt, thank you for this video. I had anxiety for 2 guys in recent 4 weeks. I liked them and they seemed to have good time when we went on the first two dates. After 2nd date, they replied msgs so slow and just replied with 2 words…and then no msgs from them. Now I’m focusing on my work and meeting other new people.

[@claracruz9066]

Don't send any message. Please wait for him to reach out. This is how you will know if he is interested on you.

[@lordmaxwell3742]

Where did you get all that from?

[@claracruz9066]

@lordmaxwell3742 from 48 years of experience being a woman. Never force love. Never manipulate anybody into a relationship because sooner or later, it will end. Allow things to unfold naturally. Men are very simple. If they like you, they like you, and if they don't like you, they don't. If they like you, they will call and follow up. The problem comes when we try to change reality.

[@RoxiSmith]

That's right. But don't bother wait for him, I would moving on to someone else. So don't wait for him and kept looking, that's all. Just my opinion

[@marlynquintana2173]

Thank you!

[@user-pgp]

Attraction can't be forced. If he's pulling away, maybe he's just not that into you, and he doesn't see a potential. Don't waste time chasing men who make you feel insecure, anxious or unworthy, and confused.

[@LipstickNsofrito]

Everyone..have a wonderful day....blessings and much love to you all ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@bee8655]

Some truths hit hard. I wish I would be more honest to myself about how I feel.

[@cookWithYuyu2024]

Thx Matthew, you videos helped me get through all the exhausting toxic moments. 🥰I stopped dating and healed myself quite well. Now happily started a healthy relationship (until now yes very healthy). We'll visit Rome later this month, which will be our first couple trip 😃❤

[@thematthewhussey]

How lovely! Congratulations 🎉. Happy for you ❤😊

[@KimJilene]

What did you do to help heal yourself? I am on a healing journey myself after leaving a 4 year on and off situationship that was only being held up by me and my longing for connection 😖

[@cookWithYuyu2024]

@@KimJilene It must be tough time for you. I get you! First thing I did was: stop dating. Then hang out more with friends, find new hobbies, find other things that bring you joy. At some point, I was sure I would be a happy person without a man. A good partner would be a plus (more like lottery I would say). Just watch more Matthew's videos :D He has a lot of videos about how to get through tough time and find your own value. ❤

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

This compelling video brings back terrible memories of my recent breakup after four years of dating. My dearest friend made the decision to go, and I was left with an inexhaustible hurt. I can't even begin to imagine my life without him, much as I keep trying to make amends. I'm frustrated. I want to write about how much I miss him here because I can't seem to get him out of my head.

[@Mia1827]

It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Mia1827]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Mia1827]

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[@Nancy2551-g6i]

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I tried Matthew AI and all it took was 1 question to set me in the right path to success for the rest of my life! Thank you LEGEND

[@rumanashaika6507]

OMG I just tried Mathew AI It is fabulous to hear you Mathew and have you for any advices we may need YAY 🎉❤ Fabulous invention! It felt so REAL

[@ShopgirlNY182]

Matthew AI is brilliant I have had conversations with this for long periods of time it’s like you’re having a conversation with the real Matthew Hussey. I don’t know how they did this but it’s worth it’s weight in gold! The advice is specific and detailed and it has helped me more in the past few months than a year with my therapist. You can ask him anything and you’ll get answers and then reflective questions back to you to carry on the conversation to get deeper into the issue. Thank you Matthew & Audrey & team for this incredible gift!

[@thematthewhussey]

This comment has made it all worthwhile Emily! I’m so so happy you are getting so much out of it. I can’t wait for many more people to experience it when it becomes available in the next couple of days! ❤

[@ShopgirlNY182]

@@thematthewhussey THANK YOU!!! All the love! ❤️

[@hihtitmamnan]

Bought comments are bought

[@sstjohn1986]

Omg! I knew you guys were gonna be a thing! You’re such a great team!!! ❤

[@SaraX2024]

As a woman, who prefers direct and open and honest communication, I would NEVER send a random penguin picture first whatsoever before getting serious in our conversation after a long time that basically represents nothing. That's almost like a bait and switch, and very immature and silly looking. If a man did that to me, I'd question his level of maturity. But I think everybody is different. Maybe he likes it.

[@RobertBrunner-y5j]

Yeah I think no one does that really. Not someone who is secure. Something like this sound's like a woman who tries to be cute.

[@Seaturtle098]

Yepp ofc, that'd be so careless of him. Means he doesn't take me that seriously.

[@aSomehowRandomBeing]

The essence of what you teach resonates with me so much. I appreciate how you help us to learn the right way to communicate without any manipulation 👍🌱

[@thematthewhussey]

Thank you! This is exactly my intention.

[@aSomehowRandomBeing]

Keep spreading the right attitude 🌱 It makes such a positive difference 🌟​@@thematthewhussey

[@bluewizzard8843]

​@@thematthewhusseyindeed. Most dating advices are to behave like a manipulative liar. And that's in the mind of these "coaches" something positive somehow.

[@jacquelinew.2317]

Matthew, thank you for the wonderful video. It is great to see you and Audrey together in this segment. I like the advice and the text suggestions. They make a lot of sense.

[@Phoenix_7568]

They always seem to overinvest in me first and then I match it. And then it dies out

[@AngiePyott]

I needed this in this very moment

[@justmo2023]

Really did 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@Ophelia_Pain]

me too! I just realized something I did wrong. Well, I felt I was doing wrong but when I asked him when we were together, he said "No, in fact, I like and appreciate that you remind me to do things and I love the way you are." He was sincere about it but, I still feel - I could've adjusted many different things. I am saving this video, to remind myself of this. It's nice I can pull what I need from his videos and other videos I have come across. (Doing the homework) I appreciate it and the help. I believe we can all make adjustments to become better people/ or person and a better mate.

[@thematthewhussey]

So happy!

[@beebsyboo7030]

Matthew AI is cool. Audrey & Matthew’s faces as we listened to his AI replies was the best!!

[@jackietaylor3188]

I agree with you. I don’t think they should be a text if he doesn’t reach out after being away that long.❤

[@ELINAHAWK]

This Matthew AI thing is so scary... WHY? Because I was just praying earlier today how it'd be so much better and more time consuming to be that annoying friend of Matthew's who'd send screenshots of text convos every day like an assignment, and ask for help! 😂 rather than getting stuck so many times and being anxious and confused (because it's hard when emotions are involved), so YES! I consider this a prayer answered! Literally prayed an hour ago to God to help me find a way to make less mistakes and find the right guy. I honestly didn't even consider it'd be in a form of Matthew AI. God, The Universe, or whoever is out there, definitely cracked up over my shock here! 😋 Thank you Matthew! 🥰 (I hope the app won't be too expensive lol, please allow us trial haha)

[@nidibekal9925]

The AI access is super coool 💛thanks for helping 1000000s of people

[@lisakibler458]

Is it possible that he wanted to give his kids his full attention while he was on vacation with them? Maybe it has nothing to do with her or being distant with her.

[@danielamondschein]

Pfff😆

[@Bravevibing]

​@@danielamondschein Nope, takes a minute to text or say hello!

[@bluewizzard8843]

​​​@@Bravevibingyeah she is a child If she needs that that desperately. Not a woman that's worth investing in.especially because it's not actually enough for her to say hello. She cant expect anything from others that's the first lesson and crucial for having a good and lasting relationship. Take care of your own stuff and respect the autonomity of others.

[@dee2022uk]

I agree. But then if that's not the sort of communicator she wants then she should move on.

[@ifuckingh8you195]

@@BravevibingI think it’s you who’s the issue. That’s why it always happens.

[@avilalovee]

Sooo Annoied with the Chase Effect! Just Mirror there actions & ghost them back🧏‍♀️

[@hihtitmamnan]

This is toxic though. Ghosting is always toxic... People will never live a happy relationship if this shit continues.

[@Kindness-vl8hc]

😂 I'm part of Love Life and glad to hear others will benefit from the technology. Thank you, Audrey and Matthew!

[@krps28]

This context has given me a good understanding about my feelings about a guy I just met. The question asked and your answer is exactly what is happening to me right now. I am glad that again you have help me with your content. Appreciate you ❤

[@pris_6969]

Audrey is seriously the CUTEST I love her!

[@witchmorrow]

I'm a gay guy Matthew and I am finding your teachings so, so useful. I am always the overly keen/intense person in relationships, with friends as well as with romance, and you have helped me understand both why that is unattractive, and also to be much better at assessing the other person's interest from a neutral place rather than desperately trying to grab it. It really struck me in this video, when you said 'we have to hold two truths at once - it is easier to think 'they're dead to me' as soon as they pull away a little bit, but actually, you have to learn to remove the importance of this particular relationship down to the level it actually realistically is at, while also still being open to love happening'. I am trying to learn to value my own life and the things that make me interesting more, so that I don't devalue myself and overvalue a relationship until it has actually reached a place of importance in reality

[@ramonaagachi]

If a guy stops calling me, I confront him about it. Chances are he was busy calling other women and I need to know, instead of waiting and having him back when he was not successful with the other ones.

[@CeciledeLuire]

Love your little teases between each other☺ Oh and congrats for the AI, seems really cool...

[@thematthewhussey]

Thank you! I can’t wait for you to check it out (AskMH.com). Mine and my team’s jaws were on the floor when we first tried it. The technology is unbelievable. And Audrey did great! Haha

[@CeciledeLuire]

@@thematthewhussey AI Matt writing? 😁 just kidding. yup definitely planning to check it out ! cheers from Europe

[@JohnyK07]

10:30 ahahah the little skit here was absolutely hilarious! xD Totally unexpected, what a way to subvert expectations. LOVED IT!

[@lbacchus]

You are absolutely wonderful. Your guidance is full of such care. Its so helpful.

[@annafructose]

Wow, plot twist and I love it. Thanks for sharing your perspective on what it’s like to be on your end of an impossible, endless series of questions/possibilities.

[@Dora-p7z]

Gooodh i knew this AI thing is gonna happen, but its so excited to see ut in reality, MathewAI is the first AI coach i see and it looks awesome 😎

[@lannybananny]

I ❤ watching the two of you interact together. Adorable! Xo thank you for continuing to share your wealth of knowledge and support as your foundation continues to grow for yourself

[@thematthewhussey]

Thank you! It’s so much fun working with Audrey. We have a lot on our plate, and it can be stressful, but we are having so much fun. Thank you for being so encouraging and loving towards us. ❤

[@pierro91bis]

Dating is so frustrating we have been friends for 2 months, dating for 3 weeks and she tells me she's scared of moving forward because what we have is too healthy. As a result it feels overwhelming for her because she has never experienced that and her coping mechanism is to escape

[@darlingnyibz]

Beautiful Matthew AI is such a thoughtful project ❤

[@wizardofaus2985]

Its really hard when you are married to them and you just want to hang out and just move on in life.... its hard not to communicate- life is short.

[@annahovakimyan6605]

I suddenly realised that men are just dishonest and this is the route of our confusion not because we can’t accept the truth. Sometimes they show we are the one they dreamed about and then ghost or pull away which definitely means they were not honest from the beginning. So my question is how to realise if they are honest or just playing and how to avoid these kind of men.

[@hadeskore]

After a 3-year situationship, he kept saying he is not ready for a relationship. But 2 months ago he met this new girl and he is now telling our friends he is seeing someone and needs to take distance from me. So no. I will never chase him again. There is an urge to call him and ask for an explanation but I won't let myself be in that position again.

[@laetitia9652]

3 year situationship? 3 yrs he didn’t make you his gf. You did it to yourself.

[@raymondc9513]

I just don't like the "Hey, I'm actually busy that week, can we do 'some other day'?" Chances are I COULD be available at the time they suggest, why should I have to lie just to gauge if this person is serious about connecting at a similar level?

[@clarahauser]

This is a fun, but probably also very helpful idea!

[@nickus51]

First, I would like to applaude for the Audrey inclusion and all the played parts in the video. They made it really exciting and fun to watch. As for the topic, I disagree that it is too early to be setting boundaries and having a conversation about it. The rest is spot on. If someone is showing hot & cold behaviours from the get go, that's a red flag. As Maya Angelous said: When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

[@thematthewhussey]

Thank you! It’s so much fun having Audrey be in them. Glad you enjoyed it 😊 As for when to set boundaries, in some ways it’s never too early, in other ways sometimes we have to recognize that someone may not be fully ‘sold’ on us yet (or owe us anything) after a few weeks. In these cases it doesn’t mean we should put up with bad communication, but we should recognize that we are only having to “put up” with it if we are prematurely making them our only option, and giving them too much mental bandwidth. What we should do however is recalibrate from the levels of investment we were giving to this person previously! Thank you for watching.

[@nickus51]

@@thematthewhussey Thank you for the reply! I definitely enjoyed it a lot and I am looking forward to more videos like this, with the fun elements in it😊 I definitely agree that we should take our own accountability and not invest too much in the early phases, especially before any commitment is made. When it comes to investing, I really like your concept of "invest then test". We should lead by example. However, we should also hold others accountable. Someone acting hot and cold, taking days or even weeks to communicate can raise anxiety levels even in most secure persons. Which is why we shouldn't tolerate it from the start, otherwise it will only get worse. I am of opinion that we should give others one benefit of a doubt, because we never know what is going on in the back. But ultimately we should openly communicate what we need and expect going forward if we are to keep building any kind of relationship.

[@elenad.2959]

​@@thematthewhusseyI completely agree Matt. It's so important to keep our level of investment at an adequate level from the get go. That way, we don't overvalue the person, which leads to us over giving and getting out of balance within ourselves, and ultimately to the other person quickly losing interest in us and doing even less. Your advice is always spot on! 👌. And I ❤ Audrey's cheeky appearance in this video! 😄 You two are such a great match and your energy comes across loud and clear. She's a fantastic addition to your life and to your work! 💫🌟💖 Well done Matt! 🙌

[@loisbolton1800]

@@thematthewhusseyyou two are so cute together 😍

[@susanwalker3454]

I love your videos have binged watched them last couple of days came at the exact right time thank you youve really helped me move on ❤❤

[@alvaromillan4018]

Amazing advice from you brother, really appreciated, and thank you so much.

[@mn2198]

This sounds amazing 🎉 Can't wait to ask my question ❤

[@moviekris0426]

13:50 “Limbo” is such a bop 😁❤️

[@mariasand6415]

It’s great all your advices about dating but seems Iike doesn’t apply to widow over 50 starting to dates! Please consider making a content on your channel 😊

[@AA-wc3tw]

Search YT for channels that make content for dating over 50.

[@SpiritualAwakening-e8x]

Absolutely love your videos! Keep up the good work!

[@bree8852]

I've been seeing him for 5 months. He calls me his girlfriend, but I'm the one to reach out, and i can often go a day or two without hearing from him. He's a doctor and is very busy, but I often wonder if I'm important. He tells me I am. But communication is terrible, and so are his work hours. Also, it might be important to mention there's a 19 year age gap....

[@skyeditzzz_]

Did he ask you to be his girlfriend? If not then sound like he doesn‘t value your opinion

[@lisahreha2344]

What about if you’re dating for a few months and you both are seeing a future with each other and suddenly he needs space. He’s got a lot going on on his life and I have been there supporting him thru it all but then this happens and my heart is breaking cause all he said was his mind wasn’t in the right state right now and he’s only texted me a few days ago. I don’t know what to do or how long am I supposed to wait. 😢

[@elizabethhalloranhalloran7530]

I go on and off w someone,he lives full-time with his brother,they both have never married..so i dotch hom alot. He reaches out we visit then texting stops im really tired of this. He even goes home to have dinner with his brother!

[@DS40764]

Maybe he is avoiding her because his time with his children , at this point( in their new relationship) is sacred, and he can't be there for her too(during that time) . Also, he is a little bit avoidant in nature(maybe recently divorced?). And yes, I get it, she is more into him , then she should be and she should pull back , if he texts her, but not be cold. I watched your vid about encouragement, without being too cold. But not to move too fast/or incorrectly, due to your standards and I hope to apply that in my life--- Thank You.

[@Sandra-lq8op]

Matthew, you are great! This all makes so much sense, thank you very much!!!

[@swagatachatterjee8180]

I fell in love with a senior in my office. He & I have many interests in common.We talked daily through what's app. I thought he has become my friend at least. Suddenly he stopped communication. He did not even send me replies though he sees my messages.He sometimes talks with me in the office quite normally.I tried my best to know what happened.. But I did not get any thing specific. How do I get over him????

[@77raymann]

@user-kh4ni4ov5vThat was my first Thought too 🙊

[@ireefree2024]

I sorry for you. But you fell in love with the idea of him. Not him actually because simple question: Would you treat somebody the way he treated you. If not, than you have the answer. As Matthew said "attention doesn't mean intention"... hope you can grief and move on ❤

[@AA-wc3tw]

He probably realized that dating a coworker is a HUGELY bad idea. My income is WAY more important than a relationship, maybe he realized the same. Changing your mind from "it's totally acceptable to date my coworkers" to "keep business and pleasure separate" should help you move on.

[@char2723]

Very! Very helpful AI tool, Matthew, I think Matthew AI is my new Matthew Hussew! ❤❤❤

[@LJSheffRBLX]

Matthew Hussey, cool video keep up the great content

[@thematthewhussey]

Appreciate it!

[@GCaroRC]

I always thought been told "I like you" by your partner, especially if things are rocky and difficult almost break up phase, it was not that meaningful because you can just like anyone, your teacher, colleague, the cleaner the cashier... just anyone. Perhaps is because English isnt my first language so for me to like someone doesnt have a romantic emmotional connection strength. Whereas I love you is much more powerful,I dont just go to anyone and say I love you, it takes me ages to say those words to anyone except my closest relatives.

[@Jupiterwind]

I've met you in dublin in 2017 or 2018... I still need to learn from you Matthew

[@thematthewhussey]

So glad we are still connected! Thank you for coming to see me back then. That’s so cool.

[@williamdowns3390]

This is so very helpful & useful 🙏

[@princesslikespoetry6264]

What can you advise to someone who went out with the guy she met online, something happened to them on their 3 day meeting. After a year of constantly messaging each other, planned to go on a 7 day summer vacation sharing the same room then the guy said they're 'friends'on the last day of the vacation (they already done the deed at this point). Eventually the guy got so cold,distant and eventually faded after he got home to his country.

[@kinarroo2135]

What the hell! So Timing bro. Thanks

[@thematthewhussey]

Glad to help!

[@stayitive4343]

Person should show respect for Dad time with kids on vacation, leave him alone. Wait for him to resume when he gets back. If she wasn't introduced to kids, they are not that far along in relationship.

[@lauradruviete8747]

Matthew AI is the best 💯💯💯

[@katelanxner6483]

If anyone would like to hear this in a song do a KZbin search for the late great Gordon Lightfoot. It is called "That's What You Get for Lovin' Me". He takes the persona of a self- proclaimed 'player' describing what he won't do! Peter, Paul and Mary also did a cover of this.

[@helena1151]

when i get told how a girl like you stay single i always think its shallow way to think about it because relationships are more complicated than just looks.. umm now I see it can get interpreted diffrently 🧐

[@maria.mobile017]

Mathew AI looks awesome

[@thematthewhussey]

It really is! The people who have used it so far (my love life members) have been blown away by it.

[@jasmine333-h6i]

thanks, what you say makes sense. but for some reason, meeting someone has become very complicated. it used to be easier. you meet someone, you start dating, either it’s going well or not, you know where you stand, there’s flow and consistency. i think something has broken down in society, not sure what it is, that has over complicated the process. i’m in the camp or either its a go or it’s not from the start. easier to weed out, even if i were to unknowingly miss an opportunity. which i wouldn’t, bc the guy would still be interested.

[@sakutaro3musik486]

well i did and it ended in 2 months no contact but it´s whatever he lied to my face anyway so there was nothing I could do to make him feel good and happy, hope is happier now I atleast am. Oh and yeah we were dating for 1 year

[@damienbates]

Sorry, but some of you people must live on your phones! When I’m on vacation with my kids I’m in constant motion. I have to figure out all the meals and get things done! It’s 90% all work and I’m exhausted at the end of every day! Trying to keep up with a potential new relationship is out of the question! I’m happy to make that clear before I leave that communication will be at the bare minimum. Not because anything has changed about how much I like the person. It’s how I cope with the “Go! Go!” nature of a travel vacation. Sitting around by the pool and relaxing with a cold drink is just not my style of travel with the kids. If I have to babysit this new budding relationship then it was bad timing and maybe we try again or I move on to a more emotionally stable person.

[@badbaikanman]

This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Date 3 with new guy today... and I am definitely over analyzing.

[@dhammaboy1203]

Don't worry - guys do it too if they're into the girl! Sometimes I just remind myself I have to let go, show interest - but let go. We're never actually in control in any relationship. Best of luck by the way!