Good relationships are the key to healing trauma | Karen Treisman | TEDxWarwickSalon

Dr Treisman talks about the importance of forging good relationships and effective society-wide systems when it comes to understanding and healing trauma.
Dr Karen Treisman, a Clinical Psychologist, has worked across the globe with groups ranging from adopted children to former child soldiers to survivors of the Rwandan Genocide. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@orchidsrising7910]

Wow. This woman is exactly expressing my feelings. Adults also need relational healing. This was beautiful 💗

[@caroltouchton4924]

So powerful! Research (ACE) shows that how a person is treated as a child affects not only their mental health, but their physical health as well. Those with higher ACES are more likely to have negative outcomes. Sadly, society re-traumatizes in many ways instead of helping. Thank you Dr. Treisman for explaining that relationships are the healing. Education systems are finally realizing that.

[@sleeper600]

This is about the most sensible TED talk I have ever listened to. Very compassionate, real and intuitive person.

[@colettelee1162]

Karen is a compassionate person. (And her voice is reeeally soothing.) I like that we can be the architect of our brain. It's been stated that those of us who grew up with trauma may live 20 years less, but I don't want my life to be stolen that way

[@kit6863]

Colette Lee I don’t either. I have a little one myself. I want to watch her grow up and have her own babies. I am feeling so lost and I feel so out of connection with my brain. I need to learn from her.

[@visualjottings5626]

Me either 😭

[@kirstieb8025]

why?

[@lynndailey665]

This is such an important message. I am realizing that I have been healing trauma and see it in the generations following me. It's time for us to heal.

[@grandmasfavorites]

Watched this with tears running down my face. Thank you, so true.

[@destinymaker3191]

Months of my Reading about childhood trauma summed up!♥️thank you

[@nammyohorengekyoooooo]

Great talk, someone who truly cares and wants to contribute to society.

[@beingilluminous]

This powerful video is even more important and prevalent now-the world has finally had it's "collective traumatic experience" in a way due to the pandemic and global responses...I watched this video a couple years ago and now, after healing a lot of this within, it makes so much more sense as to the scope of the work its taking to bring awareness, compassion, space to heal, and actions to support. Thank you for this work!

[@gaylesanders9776]

Great!! I've been trying to find a way to heal from childhood trauma. This makes so much since. It made me cry to think there was a way out at 59. I need to find a way to also forgive my childhood abusers. It's so tough because I feel like they ruined my whole life, I'm 59. I'm in therapy but I wonder how long it will take to begin to heal and enjoy what's left of my life. I'm being real and not looking for attention.

[@puma5471]

Gayle so sorry for what you went through. I’m sending you hugs and love !

[@slimshany4602]

Excellent talk!! So thoroughly and spot on explained how trauma severely effects behaviour, and our need in this world to address our emotions and reconnect to heal. I think you have done an outstanding job, your heart and drive is admirable. Wishing you the very best, and all those you are helping

[@wealefamily9609]

this is the first time i have seen someone explaining as it is. it is what it is.

[@Senorsoytuinstrumento577]

She is amazing! love the fact that being her with such a good parents, she have take the path to understand ACE children. Even though she did not went through any of ACE factor, she is PASSIONATE about it! thank you! we need more people like you!

[@NoseJackMaggot]

She resonated the same passion as I hold on this subject

[@franzabananza]

Omg she totally gets it. People Don’t understand the DAMAGE they do when they keep telling someone to JUST stop being angry or to think positive or whatever. There’s no way that’s gonna happen.

[@kellyoconnor1035]

Thank you for this talk. It has helped me understand myself a bit.

[@reg8297]

My treasure box was always empty from the trauma of going hungry everyday unmet needs cause my father was a gambler

[@michaelgregory3079]

I guess you have to follow the great saying. ...forgive him, for he did not know what he was doing.

[@sunnygirl9691]

It’s baffling and inexcusable that we don’t ALL know all of this already!! We should be caring for and nurturing one another simply because it’s the NORMAL THING TO DO. How have generations of families/societies developed with so much relational ignorance?!?

[@tailycejones1983]

We need more people this this women!

[@anastasiatalia8918]

best ted talk i’ve ever watched

[@deborahanne675]

Shame NHS MH service providers won’t think similarly for the adults under their ‘care’. I believe the children Karen talks of, who have now grown, are being terribly let down- labelled and medicated. It’s great that more is understood about trauma and how it impacts developmental stages… we also need to consider those children, now grown, who have been left struggling and/or who end up labelled mentally ill and medicated (psych drugged). A 12 week NHS course of CBT or ‘complex needs ‘recovery’ groups’ just doesn’t touch it- from experience, both potentially re-traumatising. X

[@neilharrison2110]

Excellent. I'll be rewatching a few times while I save up for the book :)

[@jaynej2884]

Did you get the book?

[@cappaslangmurderer]

Neil what’s your thoughts?

[@krispybeats6615]

Help them when they fall ! Shine bright !

[@angierox6964]

Beautiful! There are tears in my eyes. Thank you so much. 🙏🏼💕

[@marilyndyck1999]

We have had the opportunity for (30 yrs) of learning from young people who have lived in the street culture for a long time who are building their lives back into mainstream society. Every word of Dr. Treisman we have witnessed as profound truth. We are a community of people who welcome young people to safe space, use their own agency, recognize their capability, and plan their choices to a new future. Dr. Treisman's message is CRITICAL TRUTH ... fellow human beings are the vital strategy to nurture our young people to a new life. Troubled young people need a human solution. Each of us can contribute.

[@dre3742]

Getting chills when she speaks about Nathan

[@marikabeetv]

Brilliantly articulated well done ✨ 💕

[@chrisdgough]

This is so so good, thank you Dr. Treisman!!!

[@rocker99908]

Bravo! Very good talk. Thank you for seeing more than people's reactions. Everybody needs to be truly seen. There are so many people that are scared, hopeless, sad. The people that are hardest to get along with usually need it the most. Please try to understand people and to help them grow. We can make this world a better place.

[@karen6595]

This was a full expression for me.

[@auroraramirez4389]

the love of my family help me to see the life in a positive way the love of my grandparents my grandma my uncles my aunts and specialy the love of my parents mom and daddy I missed them a looooooooot, unffortunaly they passed a way, but I feel so blessed with my granddaughters and my grandsons and I liked to do what my family do with me a lot of love support teach to be ready to see life in a positive way.

[@as1996again]

You are so remarkably smart and eloquent!!! I loved every bit of what you said, and especially the spirit behind it. The world needs more compassion and empathy, and many more hearts like yours

[@07FreshMaker]

A great lady and a great talk.. I wish everyone could understand this.

[@ScottH7651]

Excellent!

[@gailsaunders4427]

Loved this. Thank you.

[@c.ferraro]

Spot on. This makes it so much easier to explain myself. Thank you

[@profdavidclark]

Awesome! Quite simply, an awesome talk. And a wonderful vision. Thank you, Karen.

[@laurade5594]

Brilliant talk 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@victoriazagliada4875]

Thank you! I am agree with suggestions and the theory on how it should be.

[@AnnaPrzebudzona]

What a passionate person with such an important message. If there's any hope for humanity to live peacefully some time in the future, it could only happen if this message was comprehended by everyone.

[@jaclynh9343]

Brilliant Talk! A MUST-SEE for all...

[@throughrose-colouredeyes6284]

well done. 💛 this is such an empowering, needed, and true talk. thankyou for sharing your voice.

[@peterhalford7701]

Slovenia love love this talk

[@paztumtumtuma5620]

Thank you very much, Karen!

[@PM-bz9ep]

So good

[@abstractart9170]

Great! A very good explanation of face to face interactions, with a slight view on what is yet to come. - The historical and sociological implication and the effects of trauma for life on this planet today.

[@healingworlds]

fantastic TED talk, thank you

[@chandra773]

Fantastic..good work

[@Vikingza]

Karen, thank you for a wonderful talk, I see a lot of parallels between your talk and PTSD and life in EMS. Nathan is a parrellel to a medic, when you start in you learn very quickly how the sociaty we work in is the same as shark pool and how sociaty labels us and does not take the time to see why we are as we are.

[@tashacoleman1594]

Yes, thank you.

[@Love-by3fg]

I LOVE THIS

[@lifeaert9189]

A person who doesn't want to be found surely has childhood trauma. It must be so scary and life threatening if someone found him whether in a positive or negative light , all he can think of is his own bundles of shame and guilt, And instead distrust and do abuse to people around who were trying to do good on him. narcissism is the most unlucky result of trauma.

[@holliroll8789]

Wow. I'm in the process of healing my own trauma.... I'm determined to find a new path, my own.

[@chloe4932]

wonderful

[@georginajovanovic]

So true

[@eh4235]

I understand myself but how do I get others understand me, in work environment, at school where they expect submission and trust. Even when I try , and I hold myself accountable and want to eagerly connect with them, they cut me off, yet putting me in another unsupportive environment.

[@salometipsandtricks2786]

Find people who like accountable too. Talk around and test characters. Ask questions you tell a lot.

[@michaelgregory3079]

That is not your problem.

[@ilonayagudayeva9611]

I hear you

[@Mamyde2]

100% agree

[@kirstinstrand6292]

The best way to reprogram our new world will be to begin teaching parenting classes in schools. 5th or 6th grade would be the beginning, continuing into Middle School and High School - mandatory classes.

[@geoengineeringakachemtrail9365]

So true . And Most people don't see the fundermetles.

[@sergine41]

Fundamental

[@paulaeller5456]

After a lifetime of therapy I still only attract people who want to victimize me. And let me tell you being alone is better than relationships with people who only want to continue the abuse

[@mridhasolayman3401]

Take care .

[@janregehr4874]

Where would I find the model of the brain that you used in your talk please? Thank you.

[@donedennison9237]

As a trauma survivor, I strongly disagree that anger is a mask emotion. I think that hurts us. I think anger can be a signal that there is something is out of sorts and needs addressing. I wish it can get credit for the protective aspect it creates.

[@lights4946]

It’s a mask emotion *because* its a signal that there is something that needs addressing. It’s a secondary emotion that protects from the primary emotion. That’s why its called a mask

[@rickwrites2612]

Yes I think its a matter of saying the same thing differently. Just because its a mask doesn't mean it is always unhealthy or that its never appropriate or neccessary. Anger is almost always an indication of hurt. It masks the wound to protect it, but for the healer/therapist it signifies there is a wound somewhere under there that still needs healing. But in order to to reach the wound the anger needs to be managed...

[@lauraparent9126]

What do we do if we have not had any healthy relationships in a lifetime... We don’t know what Healthy looks like... 😞

[@kit6863]

How can I contact this lady... does anyone know?

[@michaelgregory3079]

You have her name, she is English, Google it.

[@FITNESSINSEATTLE]

🖤

[@angelheartstudios7646]

💗

[@soniachetty6899]

I would LOVE an opportunity to work with you It makes lots of sense what you say , I had a traumatic experience my family hand out advice , like oh you will be okay it will take one night , of recovery and you will be your normal self again.

[@johnrobertd748]

What if you have no relationships?

[@notcomatose6602]

Ericksons levels of development. Believe there are seven over a lifetime. Trust vs mistrust the first and most important. Why cannot they teach this middle or high school to help parents learn how to meet the needs of childten. One of their most important jobs.

[@alexyodson5749]

I feel like a better analogy to synchronized swimming in shark infested water would be telling someone with a broken leg to kick

[@AusticLifeAdventures]

I wonder why I don't fit this frame work, My mum died when I was young and my father was in and out of prison for different crimes. I grew up in the children homes and was passed around and suffered abused throughout my time. I have an very high aces score because of the stuff I have seen a witnessed from at home and in the system. However, I am very successful despite my abilities, including my autism and cant read and write. Think this is more of a mindset and how much you want to be success, I never needed relationship as I only replay on myself as I only one that can change my Life.

[@jessicanavarro8009]

I agree 100%!! That ACES test is very triggering..well it was for me. I am not my mom or dad or what they did(nt) do. I created what I wanted for my future. I prefer to be alone though, and I don’t see that as a bad thing.

[@AusticLifeAdventures]

@@jessicanavarro8009 so very true

[@KarmasAbutch]

So...Too late for us adults then.

[@RC-ix6vd]

Karmas A Butch I’d like to know. Feels like it.

[@evian.]

@ Done Dennison, I can see you a very angry.

[@glachloser]

Talk or slam poem? Look at those moves

[@peternorthrup6274]

How old are you?

[@eirikkvalheim8627]

Getting bad vibes here...

[@aylatorrent1957]

that’s why Relationship with God is the most important

[@sukhikgr]

I loved this talk, really fell in love with Dr. Treisman. However a little disgruntled by the appearance of a beaded, turban-clad genie at the very end. I get it, it's referential, but culturally inappropriate isn't it, in 2020?

[@elswag9051]

I don’t think so-