How Couples Sustain a Strong Sexual Connection for a Lifetime | Emily Nagoski | TEDxFergusonLibrary

Emily Nagoski is a professional speaker and trainer, and has spoken both at a TEDx (University of Nevada) and on the TED main stage in Vancouver. Emily’s mission in life is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She is author of the New York Times best-selling book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.
Emily Nagoski is a professional speaker and trainer, and has spoken both at a TEDx (University of Nevada) and on the TED main stage in Vancouver. Emily’s mission in life is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She is author of the New York Times best-selling book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@susieklein7461]

I’ve been married 32 years and the first thing my husband and I do when we’re alone is...jump each others bones. We raised two children, and yes, during the more challenging times of parenthood, our interest waned. We talked about it though and knew things would get easier, the older the children got. We were together for nine years before having kids, so we had a deep connection already. Prioritizing each other is paramount!

[@alynereck]

I am 18 and single and taking notes - i am doing this for my future self. Lmao

[@cathieh.7225]

Look into the eyes of your best friend and choose to find your way back. I've been married for 33 years and we chose not to lose our way to each other.

[@jacksonpercy8044]

Why am I watching a video about lifetime relationships when I'm not even in a relationship?

[@chevalierjd]

My wife and I recently hit 15 years of marriage, 18 years together. We've unfortunately fallen out of intimacy, but our love for each other is still there. We started going to a Gottman counselor, and she recently purchased your book, Come As You Are. At first, I wasn't sure if it was a good thing, but after finding your Ted Talk, I am now very optimistic. We definitely have a large comfort space for a couple of years now, with her as the less interested party. But I think I've still been there for her, and she says she is secure in how much and in what manner I express my love for her. We just need to put the prickly hedgehogs away and turn back towards each other. I think this may actually be our turning point. Thank you, Doc!

[@filipmilosavljevic8316]

Why am I watching this when I am single?

[@jodyfriend6966]

Very good lesson that only works if the couple are both using her suggestions; it can't be one sided.

[@gotellthem2099]

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life John 3:16😍😍😍😍

[@sunshine8477]

I loved how she told, first establishing a good friendship is important !!! How true !!! I always believed that. it makes communication easy and when there is a fluid communication, there is room for everything :)

[@pangurban]

Not so hard, be best friends and you will always have great chemestry, also get drunk together and mix it up a bit every now and then. But most of all be BFF

[@maneater]

perfect metaphors - it's very easy to get lost in scientific jargon but having a mental image that you can relate to your current situation helps tremendously.

[@MilaDiamond]

A wonderful TEDx talk. Love your take on keeping long term relationships alive ““You look into the eyes of your best friend.

[@Misscollage]

Finally, a relevant ted talk.

[@andreaboulder]

Spot on... making it a “priority” is a key to keeping that part of your relationship vibrant!

[@melb9467]

Could not agree more Emily Nagoski! We've been together for 15 years, married for 11, as best friends who are prioritizing time together regularly<3 Prickly hedgehogs showed up time to time but we politely asked them to leave - we are Canadians haha

[@NoeDactyl]

Why are most of these people commenting disrespecting her? I think she has a good point. Most men don't have these issues so they don't understand the intricate process of getting ready for the party you don't really wanna go to. I've been in an awful relationship like that for 8 years! I'm so glad that's over. Thank u Emily! Very interesting 😊

[@majoraxis]

Here is somebody with a PhD that makes a real difference. Thanks, doc! Right on time!

[@akashpkumar4529]

Good Ted x helps to improve my communication in english thank u very much

[@tripityourself]

This is such SUCH a good video. Possibly one of the best I've watched in years

[@snowthorner9573]

An absolute 10! Simple and Powerful...Emily is brilliant and heartful. Thank you, dear Emily!!