How Do You Mend A Broken Heart | How I Survived Loss | Life With Sandra Hart | Over 60

[@kevinhanley6462]

My mum said: "Thanks for being so comforting."

[@kittenclawsguitarvideos6147]

Losing someone is by far the hardest thing I've ever endured. I often think about how wonderful it would be to travel back in time.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Truly!

[@faithfulwhispers333]

I understand this all too well .... Much Love ❤️

[@Mercalons]

Whats the name of your book? I would like to buy it

[@susantaft6873]

I first learned about grief when my grandmother died when I was 14 (she lived next door). Then my sweet mother died when I was 17. My husband left after 16 years of marriage. My son died when he was 18 and I was 42. When you list the losses they seem horrific - but I have had a wonderful life! These were just moments in a lifetime - all lifetimes have ups and downs. For me, grief lasts a long time and it is because I have trouble accepting. I get stuck in the "why, why, why" and the 'what ifs'. Once acceptance comes life becomes a joy again. I turned my grief into a positive by becoming a Hospice volunteer. Giving back to others definitely helps. Grief is something we all have in common but often don't talk about - thank you (as always) for your wisdom and inspiration. God bless you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

You are awesome. Thanks for sharing this with us

[@glory1star]

I can see some hope in reading your comment! Your one awesome lady, I hope and pray I can get to your level of faith and acceptance. My only daughter 7 weeks ago was just a freshman at UC 18 just in July her and her roommate were walking to campus in a marked cross walked and her and her roommate was hit by a 17 year old kid whom Stolen the car unfortunately my daughter didn’t survive her injuries she died on the scene her roommate didn’t have much injuries! I have all those Why my precious daughter! 😢

[@maryannette3455]

@@glory1star Oh dear Keisha, I am so sorry...my heart really is in sorrow when I just read your loss. I have lost many over these last 5 years or so and it has made me question my beliefs and faith like "where are you please God?" I have been a good person, why so soon God? I still have no answers, but I will be praying so hard for you dear Keisha. Mother's love sending to you, Mary.

[@glory1star]

@@maryannette3455 I agree it does make you questions sometimes your faith! Yes she was young and full of life. Healthy person ran track in HS went to State and all. Just frustrated to know that the world can be unkind. Whom would have thought that sending a child off to college would have resulted in death and not able to walk across the street 🥲 Forever heart broken 💔! Thank You for your reply and continual prayers

[@lovetheword6210]

I am a 62yr old mama of 3 professional adult children. All 3 were mandated to take something in order to keep their jobs (and travel, live life etc) a little over a year ago. It broke my heart, but more traumatic than that was how the personalities of the older 2 completely changed. I have a hunch that this has happened to many other mamas, but other than this spot (thank you Sandra!) there is no where to speak of our horrific losses. Our children are still alive and thriving in the world, but they have literally blocked us out of their lives, when we had been so close and loving for 30+ yrs. Thanks be to God for his Son Jesus Christ! He has prepared me to suffer the loss of many things, and to be thankful in all things. I am thankful for the gift of my children for the 30 yrs that I was given to raise and love them. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away. Blessed be the name of the LORD. Praying for all parents suffering the loss of their children. We can do all things through Christ, which strengthens us.❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry.

[@pearlperlitavenegas2023]

In sorry it could be due to inflammation in the 🧠.

[@DuvAngel1]

I had to I’m suffering the loss of my adult children that are still alive. It’s like the whole world turned into a nightmare for me while I’m awake.

[@laurie-jeannelister1029]

Another important thing I focussed on was forgiveness. I had to forgive myself of my shortcomings and for not saying "I love you" enough or behaving more lovingly on a daily basis when I had the chance.

[@dale9724]

I found that, too. Thank you for your comment.

[@cathyandresiak1975]

Great advice Sandra, my mom just passed away in February of Alzheimers and we were very close, somehow I still doesn't seem real to me. Sometimes I put off thinking about her because I have fear of going into a meltdown again. I know she could not live on this earth anymore, she was 86 and I know she is renewed now and not sick anymore and that is what keeps me going. I love her so much and I believe our souls will be together again. Thank You for all of your wisdom and sharing your life with us.

[@sandysouthward3635]

Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story about your mom. I too have lost my mom. It's been over three years but it feels like yesterday. Your right that one day we will be together again for all eternity. But until then we are blessed with so many memories. I hope and pray that you find comfort in those precious moments. God bless you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

My mother died 25 years ago and not a day goes by that I do t think of her.

[@joanyoung790]

My Dad passed on his 89th BD after a 10 yr battle w alzheimer’s. Although we were relieved he was no longer suffering , and my Mom could start to heal , we all missed the person he was - and now we rarely think of those 10 yrs except the occasional humorous or happy moments - but we always recall the wonderful Dad he was for us. The pain is now just what seems like a small splinter - and the memories are truly right there beside us as if he was still here. I pray your 💔will heal as ours did.

[@sharonwoodall6890]

Lost my mom a year ago. I miss her so much. We also were very close. She was 99. Take care❣️

[@truthmatters8364]

Sweet Cathy, just got off the phone with my sister Sandra and our 88 year old mother with Dementia is going down hill as she is forgetting how to swallow now! It's devastating I know because it's as though you are greiving while they are alive yet don't know who you are are and then you grieve once they are physically gone. I know I will be with her again and it won't be long if the Lord calls her before his return. We are both strong believers and have accepted Jesus as our Savior. I so understand and your in my prayers!❤️

[@alaskayoung777]

my grandpa is dying. he's at the hospital now. I needed this video, thank you. 🥺

[@cajunlady4893]

🙏🕊

[@juliehoot3916]

🙏

[@rrhines3151]

A virtual hug 🤗 to you in this trying time for you and your family.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Blessings your way.

[@naomiferreira8255]

Thanks for sharing Sandra. Grief doesn’t end. It changes. I’m holding God’s hand on this journey ❤️✝️

[@maxineboxer9714]

That’s a really good way to put it. It changes.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

It does not end. And you don't get through it. You learn to live with it.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So true!

[@beezorob]

I am nearly 73 and have experienced little loss so far. My parents lived until 93 and 96, and they passed with very little suffering. I am seeing friends with a lot of loss and wonder how I will deal with the future, when I know I'll have more loss. I've started to fear it. Thank you for your life lessons.

[@reemsaif3105]

You're doing well do far. Keep living 💗

[@MimiZ914]

I've had a lot of loss in my life starting at age 16. I just lost my beloved Dog at age 17 and I'm swimming in an ocean of grief. Thanks Sandra for all you do for everyone with your experiences. Grief is love with no where to go. The hardest part about this life is getting thru it. Everything after that is the great reward.

[@maxineboxer9714]

I’m so sorry about your dog, it’s a huge heartache, devastating, I know. It takes time, but it will lessen, very slowly. How wonderful that you took such good care of your dear friend that he should live so long. I believe we will see our beloved pets again, one day.

[@susano7587]

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved dog. I am preparing for major changes in my life soon, and I don’t know that I would be capable of making it through without my little dog Ellie.❤

[@gigilewis9346]

So sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved dog also three months ago and the grief is very real. It’s been so difficult with her absence in the house. So many memories. I cried an ocean and I can’t even imagine replacing her by getting another dog. I know God is with us and with time we will heal. Stay strong. Jesus loves you ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So true. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us today

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

I'm so very so for you're loss. I understand all to well. Pet's are family. I'm still missing my cat and it's been one year since she passed. I truly thought I was going to die right along with her when she passed. We had a very special bond her and I.

[@salsarmemimi7292]

Thank you for sharing your feelings and story. I lost my husband of 41 years June, 4, 2022. He was 90 years old, I am 67. It was unexpected and a total shock. I don't feel I have been dealing with my grief for him, as I have lots of financial things to deal with. We had term life insurance and it expired on his 90th birthday in October. Therefore there is no life insurance. (please be careful people purchasing life insurance)I have his and my annuities and other investments however I can't get ahold of them yet. Due to worrying about money - I feel guilty I am not grieving for him properly. Thanks for sharing. Blessings to you from Texas.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

It will come. You are trying to figure out to survive financially.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Right now you have priorities in your life. Once that is attended to you will be able to focus on your heartbreak and working through it

[@laura_azevedo]

I’m 42. One year and half into the horrible grief of losing my partner to sudden dementia and suicide. Since day one I knew I had to face my feelings so that it wouldn’t become even more difficult in a long term. But it’s not easy at all to sit with the grief, the anger, de sadness, the loss of joy. No counselling. And almost no friends nearby as I live in another country. It’s been a really difficult and profound journey. I watched your other video about your loss and your words give me hope that I will survive this and eventually one day say “I am happy” again. Thank you for everything you share.

[@АннаМейсигова]

Laura, I am 44 and 10 days ago I lost my dad to depression and suicide. He did it in a hospital, he threw himself out of the window. I feel acutely your grief and your feeling of loss. I blame myself every minute that I didn't find the right words for my dad to helphim recovered, that I sent him to that clinic. I hope these painful thoughts and feelings will one day become less painful. I hope we both will find happiness in our lives. Mental illnesses is a horrible thing, I am so sorry I didn't take my dad's depression seriously((((((

[@sunshineinarizona1726]

Just found your channel yesterday. Love your words of wisdom. I'm 63 and pretty much have lost all my family and friends. I have a wonderful son and plenty of fur babies that bring love and happiness into my life. But I'm clueless about getting older. I plan on watching many of your videos. Thank you.

[@wildhorses6817]

Yes, I can relate and I am ten years older. It is a very strange feeling.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks for being here and sharing your thoughts with me today

[@laurievanzon2126]

I'm 63 too. I was let go from my job almost 3 years ago and I retired. I feel so young, but have started seeing signs of aging and have a hard time believing that I'm this old already. I lost my father, husband, son and brother and feel that my family has gotten so small. My mother is 92 and I so enjoy spending time with her as she loves playing games. She told me not to worry about getting older or about my age or hers after she told me how pretty I am. Did I tell you how much I love her?

[@nancyculhanehoag7936]

Thank you Sandra!!! My heart is so sad, I know I’ll get threw my loss, because I’m strong. But climbing into bed with out him being there makes me cry every night!

[@salsarmemimi7292]

I bought a new mattress out of a need for a new one and can't bring myself to sleep in it or our bedroom yet. Prayers up for you dear. Blessings to you from Texas.

[@cajunlady4893]

Twist and turns Face under covers Night after night. Soggy pillows. Sleep during the day with mist of thick fog in-between. Lasted until I let it go and faced the reality... i must move on or I will become a zombie. My spouse wanted me live and spread the love I have... Not to stay in darkness in the mist of confusion. But in the light of joy and with a sound mind. It took awhile to muster the strength to lift up the light switch.. That he wanted me to turn on and carry on. Like the movie.. "Me Before You"

[@betho.3542]

Nancy you have described the thing I fear the most - the nights. And waking up to another day alone. My husband is not completely well and I know that someday........ You just keep being strong and I will pray for you! You will be ok. I'm sure of it. Sending hugs!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Healing does take time. I know so well.

[@Santana-i5u]

I lost my son and husband was devastated to say the least, but my belief in God let's me know their with me always and we will be together again. Yes, there is sorrow but I know their watching over me. 🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️Thank you, ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@luciatat4084]

You sure will see them again soon. Life here is very short. God bless you!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Blessings your way Pearl. You will meet again.

[@meckismicki]

Sandra, Thank you so much for this. For six years I have felt so paralyzed. For five of those I have been trying to get out of this house, but help isn't as easy to come by as it once was. After this pandemic it's hard to let people in, to freshen up paint, do minor repairs & I don't want to be in the house while people are tramping in & out while the house is being shown. I have a friend of 30 years who has offered me a place. She lives where I am moving back to. It's taking that first step! I really need a push!

[@Annie-nj7yv]

DONT GIVE UP

[@wildhorses6817]

If you can find a trusted realtor through recommendations, a realtor who has expertise often has contractors they depend upon. You could possibly relocate to your friends location while the house is being improved for Sale. A trusted, honest Realtor can be your answer. Best to you and to your new life.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I truly understand. Take it step at a time and don’t overwhelm yourself with the entire process. Make a checklist and do each task on your own time.

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

I understand how you feel and relate. Will be praying for you.

[@learnbyheart7]

I so understand this predicament. I feel the same way, the packing of the house, 43 years of working for many treasured memories I will have to part with. I have a few friends who did that...got rid of too much...and I said you just might miss yourself. So there will be conflict in my heart when I must make my choices. Take care.

[@ranjaitjaswal8030]

Thank you Sandra for this video I lost my dad 4 years ago and now my mom is in the nursing home at the age of 86 in her lifetime journey she has seen so much grief lost two children and now with dad gone she is so lost as he was her soul mate Sandra your wise words are a.comfort may the almighty bless you and shower you with his love🇨🇦

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much and blessings to you and your sweet mother.

[@pamcornelius9122]

I lost my beloved husband of 41 years this past August. I’m adrift and lost without him. You’ve summed up months of counseling in one video. Thank you.

[@johnboy6594]

Sorry for your loss. He had to have been a beautiful man. We will all be with him in short time. But for now we must find a reason to carry on because life is for the living. Where he is, we all shall be, before we know it. I have found such a deep connection to life in the practice of Buddhism and the love of God. Bless you my dear, you are not alone.

[@curlew-3592]

I lost my husband of 42 years less than a year ago. I lost my mother not long before that. You are a lovely lady. Thankyou so much for this.🇬🇧

[@lifewithsandrahart]

You understand. Thanks so much

[@dianemunson9698]

Good Morning Sandra, lovely, precious person that I believe you are,unless you’ve lost a child no one, absolutely no one can possible understand, the pain is way more than any pain you could ever think or comprehend, my only precious beautiful caring generous daughter

[@cathyandresiak1975]

So sorry Diane for the loss of your daughter. It seems when this kind of heartbreak happens we pull farther away from God and we need to pull as close to Him as we can get, I know it is really hard to do. But I believe the Holy Spirit will give you extra comfort and let you know that your daughter is ok ! I haven't lost a child but people very close to me and I have always received after some months a sign that these people are ok. My Love goes out to you and I will pray for your comfort.

[@wildhorses6817]

My Deepest Condolences Diane 💜

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I believe you. As a mother I believe you. Blessings your way

[@heatheradamson2280]

I understand the pain Diane. I lost my son when he was 28. That was 10 years ago. The pain never leaves you......you just learn to live with it. I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter.💜

[@mareeschollum2986]

How timely this message was for me Sandra. I lost my mother when I was a teenager. I am now 67. I felt at the time the sun was turned off. As an adult I remember her and am thankful for her. The thing I remember most is that she was a constant in my life . Always there. There is so much I would have liked to talk to her about, to find out what sort of person she was. We don’t think of these things when we are kids. But I know what I experienced with her and that was warmth. ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Maree, how hard it is for a child, especially a young woman, to lose her mother so early in her formative life. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this .

[@anoush369]

Hello Sandra, I in my early 30’s and I love watching your videos. It’s filled with so much wisdom and thank you for sharing your experiences on how you navigate life. You are indeed a true inspiration. I wish I would be given a chance to see life the way you see it at your age by now. I pray for you to stay healthy and to always live each day with that radiant energy. Looking forward to watching more of your videos! From your fan here in Dubai.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Ana, I sincerely appreciate your kindness. Thank you so much

[@karenpny]

I love what you said about finding your joy. I lost my mom and brother (also a paranoid schizophrenic) a week apart in 2020 and I was so lost and angry. It’s so hard but life does go on. It takes work to be happy and healthy - making an effort. I find and appreciate joy in each day now - it’s often the simplest things that are joyful. I still miss them terribly!

[@tamiwilliams5903]

Sandra, when I was little back in the 60s I watched Romper Room and loved it! Now I watch your videos and love them and you ❤️ You are a very special person and I feel especially blessed to have found you. Many many blessings to you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much DoBee!

[@WalkawayyyRenee]

I really believe that some of us have trouble giving ourselves permission to truly grieve. We have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and also feel apologetic that we aren’t “the same”. I think that your advice is to face our losses with compassion for ourselves. Allowing ourselves the time for grieving is healing “medicine”, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time. Thank you for your honest words of encouragement.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with me today about loss.

[@judyfasola3737]

At 73... I'm grateful for being here ...if you get lonely know I'm here for you.... that's what I want to hear....God bless ...and know I'm here for you my friend ...love and good wishes ...🙏❤️🙏

[@Sarahbee-o8t]

I lost my husband when he was only 42 of a heart attack. We had 3 children . I found out he had many girlfriends. It didn’t really surprise me because he was always a womanizer . One of the girls husband called me up and told me he was messing with his wife . I couldn’t even cry at the funeral but I think about him sometimes still and can see him in the eyes of my children.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Mixed emotions in your case is very valid.

[@pauladiezgarcia5845]

Im 29 and you cant imagine how much your videos help me

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for telling me Paula.

[@liselcummings276]

You're such a sweet woman with so much knowledge..I lost my son in 1972 I still haven't healed...and my mom was youngest of her siblings I'm a only child without siblings so needless to say most my family have moved on...so feeling a bit out of place ..trying to enjoy my life is always a mix of smiles and tears.....thank you

[@lifewithsandrahart]

We all heal in our own time.

[@INSIDEBEAUTYwiththeoldgirl]

Good morning Sandra, thank you for sharing your thoughts on grieving. I have lost two very special people in my life, my dad and my best friend. When my dad died 40 years ago I never faced my grief or my feelings, I just pretended that it didn’t happen end it took me years to realize the damage I had done to myself by not facing it. When my best friend died a year ago I handled it completely different. I faced it I cried and I dealt with it. What a difference that made for me. I was able to see and look at all that she brought into my life instead of the loss I felt. Instead of focusing on the fact that she was now gone, I focused on the gratitude for ever having her in my life. I focused on the joy she brought me instead of the sadness of losing her. I often think about the grief I will feel when I lose my mom but now I have the confidence to know that I can deal with it in a healthy way. Much love, Sheila

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Shelia thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about your personal losses. We all approach it differently but learn through the process, don’t we?

[@vanessahawarden9028]

@INSIDE BEAUTY with the old girl Hello Sheila, I too lost my Dad, my hero, 32 years ago on the very day I found out I was pregnant with my second son, and, like you, didn’t acknowledge or face it. I adored him and it was just too big, too real to deal with. However, the damage done by suppressing my terrible grief resulted in a serious nervous breakdown at 7 months pregnant. I had already experienced a ‘normal’ grief process after losing my fiancé to cancer years before, but this one was just too big for me to process. All these years later I still haven’t grieved properly for my wonderful Dad. The damage done by keeping grief locked up inside is immeasurable. I know that I will never heal. I went on to give birth to my beautiful son after some pretty intensive treatment in the last 2 months of pregnancy. I still think of my Dad all the time…this is why the natural grieving process is so very important.

[@INSIDEBEAUTYwiththeoldgirl]

@@vanessahawarden9028 Hi Vanessa, I am so very sorry that you lost your dad also, especially since he was a hero in your life like my dad was in mine. You have really been through it, I felt like I had a nervous break down too but nobody seemed to notice. With having that level of Grief bottled up inside for that many years it is unimaginable to tap into it. I could not face it at the time and I still don’t feel that I can. I know how very important it is to go through the natural grieving process and I feel like I can now but not where my dad is concerned. I feel your pain and I thank you so much for sharing this with me. Love and blessings, Sheila

[@SILVIATHEGIRLS]

Dear Sandra, thank you so much for this video.💕 I have lost my father last February, he was only 80 years old, no one expected him to go so suddenly, I still cannot believe he is not here any more, I still think he is alive at home and I can call him to ask his advice as I have always done. I wonder when I can wake up from this nightmare and I can see him again, opening the door of his home and welcome me with his big smile and warm welcome, I still want to see him once more so badly .... I wander whether this terrible pain will ever vanish ... thanks Sandra, for your beautiful videos 💕 Love , Silvia x

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Silvia, in time you will understand and accept your new normal. He will be forever with you in your heart.

[@Katie-vy5rd]

Hugs to you SILVIA. Hoping that the pain lessons soon for you. My mom is 86 and I'm not sure what i will do.. I imagine I will feel sorrow as you do. My heart breaks just imagining her not being around. She's my best and only friend. Please be well and sending prayers your way.

[@SILVIATHEGIRLS]

@@Katie-vy5rd Thank you so much Katie🙏🏻 I hear you and I understand what you say, it is just so very difficult... Love, Sil x

[@rebeccatargett9785]

Sandra, you are my angel that I have only just come across. I am forever grateful to have found you. Xxx

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Rebecca I sincerely appreciate your kindness

[@victoriajohnson3034]

Grief is a lost love looking for a new home. Giving the love a place to land is a great way of honoring their memory.

[@cathyo3393]

Thank you Sandra I only discovered your channel a few days ago! You are an amazing lady! Sending Love from Ireland 🇮🇪❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so very much Cathy. My grand children just got back from Ireland visiting their grandparents

[@nelweissenbruch9000]

Sandra I recognize the grieving. I am in the middle of it. Both my children are emigrated. I live in the Netherlands, our daughter lives in Norway and our son in Kenia. It is so wierd. I am grieving but they are still alive. It is confusing for me and my huisband. We miss the grandchildren

[@lifewithsandrahart]

It truly is a loss even though they are still alive. You have genuine grief of missing them.

[@artistcarolyngrace1711]

Oh my goodness! Sandra, this is so wonderful - I cried through the entire video🥲lost the love of my life after 51 years of a beautiful marriage - you are so correct my whole adult life this was us! I’ve never been on my own at all before I felt like three quarters of me is gone ☹️ - I was 20 when I married my wonderful Richard and that’s all I’ve ever known - it’s been so hard🥲we did everything together raised our beautiful family kids and grandkids great- grandkids everything was a together decision ! I don’t know how to do life without him 🥲 I’ve been focusing on family and my gifts and talents but it’s so hard to do this by myself - thank you so much for this advice it’s so relevant I know I have much to give and want to write my family legacy as well to leave for my family and future generations 💕 But I cry every day missing my love- Richard so much who was the patriarch of our family I feel lost without him🥲❤️it’s hard to get motivated - I love you so much Sandra This is so very comforting Carolyn Grace

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with me today.

[@artistcarolyngrace1711]

@@lifewithsandrahart ❤️

[@sophiamariesimpson9939]

Honestly your like the grandma everyone wants. Your videos are so much wisdom and make me feel so warm and helps me a lot in life. Thank you so much and keep up the fabulous work xx

[@pavithraherath4664]

I feel to relieved listening to you Sandra because my pet cat Bunzy died today just an hour ago.it was my best friend for almost 12 years. It was not well for nearly 3 months and we as a family took care of her with so much care and we could not stop crying as it passed away on our hands .. So many memories of having that beautiful fur ball all these years .......😭😭😭😭😭.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry for you heartache today. How lucky your sweet cat Bunzy was to be a part of your loving family.

[@pavithraherath4664]

Thanks Sandra for appreciating our kindness towards Bunzy..

[@njohnston1224]

Oh Sandra ..thankyou for this lovely video today , just what I needed..I have lost two friends recently but over years breakdown of marriage and family .I have survived.. my dogs have always been my companion through many times. . but I feel so bereft at close friend going away .. I didn't think I'd be that way .my church has closed also ...so many things ending, you are a wonderful person you have come through so much too . Sandra.,thankou for sharing and caring. bless you x

[@lifewithsandrahart]

My thoughts are with you and blessings your way. Thanks for sharing

[@conniekehag7114]

My husband of 56 yrs of marriage passed away 4Months ago , I am Grieving , he was the love of my life , Thankyou so much for your Beautiful words about the grieving Process , You have made me understand about it all ❤ and many blessing to you Sandra xx

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Best of luck to you, Connie.

[@thegraylatte1638]

I'm so sorry Sandra for the loss of your husband, sending love to you & all who are going through this.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you

[@OkJLA321]

I never thought write down what I loved about who I lost. What a beautiful thing to do.

[@deniseroth1]

❤️Two things that helped me immensely on my grief journey; walking and being with other women who were grieving. I logged many miles walking/running with tears streaming down my face. At the park, at the beach, around my neighborhood. Sometimes it was so hard to get myself going, but many times it was a sweet release and always helped me emotionally. Hearing other ladies share what they were feeling helped me realize I was not going crazy but going through all the “normal” emotions we feel during a great loss. Looking forward to reading your book, Sandra. Ordered today. 🤗🙏🏻❤️

[@ernarc23]

Such an important message, Sandra. I have been through grief multiple times -- losing both parents and my sister (in an accident). Each time, it was so painful, I was numb for a year. It's only now, years later, that I'm able to begin to deal with it directly. Thank you so much for sharing this. It is so important to share what you've been through, when you can, to help both yourself, as you say, and others. 💕

[@misscooper5364]

Last year, at the age of 45, my husband very suddenly passed away. We were separated at the time after I was at my wits end from his alcohol, drug use, and weekly disappearances. His death has felt like I lost him twice. My grief has surprised many as they believe that since we were separated, I should be back to my normal self. I continue to plot along and try to find pockets of happiness in what I can. My compassion for others who are going through difficult times has grown tenfold and I look forward to the day when acceptance can put my mind at rest. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I'm so happy I stumbled across your channel.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Isn’t it so true that suffering and hardships make us more compassionate and caring humans.

[@ElleIsForLiving]

Grieving is so uncomfortable and difficult. It is amazing how resilient the human heart is. I am sure you are helping so many people. I hope you are having a wonderful week. ♥

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much Elle. We all have to navigate loss at some time in our lives. Have a great week my friend.

[@sygunparchment1707]

Time heals all wounds .....it requires patience and accepting to feel the pain .....find a passion to keep busy ....

[@lifewithsandrahart]

True.

[@travelseatsyellowlab]

As someone who is planning for retirement, something I have done consistently since my twenties, now being in my late thirties, your content randomly appeared in my suggested videos to watch. On loss, it's so hard. Still young, I haven't lost a lover, spouse or parent yet. However, my grandmother left here in 2002. It was one of the saddest days in my life to date. She had been ill for a few years, was diagnosed with terminal illness but her death was still a heavy shock. Even 20 years on, it can be riveting because I chose not to attend her memorial service. Since then, I have seen four uncles go, three aunts, and several high school classmates, but none were as heavy as my grandmother. Godspeed to you and yours!!

[@rainva7017]

One thing that I also found super helpful - be kind to yourself! Allow yourself to have positive thoughts and experiences, to try and break out of the cycle of pain that grief can for the longest time be. Do things that make you happy even if you don't feel like you deserve it. Open up to people and seek help even if it's scary. Treat yourself with love even if you don't feel much love, because I know how hard it may be to feel love again after a major heartbreak. That was what helped me make some of the greatest changes in my mind and heart after losing my dad last year. So many changes can happen if you just, for the quickest second, allow your heart to open up for them. Just leaving this here in hopes it helps somebody. Thank you for this amazing video :)

[@sharonallen6921]

Thank you. I really needed to hear this. I'm not sure how I feel. I've had roller coaster ride losing my son, my father and this May - my husband - all 1 year apart. It has been like I couldn't grieve for one before another one passed and also taking care of my sick husband while all of this was going on. My son (I have 3) told me yesterday that he doesn't think I ever grieved losing my mother and brother in 2002 much less the 3 that are now sending me on a spin of emotions. I'm just so tired. Now that the visitors are gone and the house is quiet all I want to do is sleep. I am thinking of going on a vacation - anywhere - just to be somewhere different and be alone with my thoughts without all the daily reminders around me. And then I think I probably need some grief counseling. I do think so far the hardest thing is trusting myself to make decisions on my own. My husband and I were married for 47 years and none of my adult life was a decision ever made without consulting or thinking about him. I don't know how to do "me" without feeling selfish.

[@barbarainblue2596]

Sharon it is now April 5,2023. I just read your message on Utube. My husband of 55 years passed four years ago. I feel just like you described. I never did anything without him. We had been best friends for all of my life. I’m still struggling. I don’t know how to move forward without him. If you see my message here I hope you will feel free to reply to me.

[@eternity-minded]

Hi Sandra. I wanted to thank you for helping me recognize the different stages of grief I have been experiencing. I had been dismissing my feelings because I thought I was just being negative. However, after watching your video, I realize I am indeed going through the stages of grief, and am entitled to allow myself to feel however I am feeling about my loss and experience. Thank you again for your help!

[@streaming5332]

After my beloved Dad passed away I began writing a family history filling in the gaps of my father's life that I knew nothing about. It was something I had to do to save myself. The strength and goodwill came from him and I needed draw on the good to survive. It is also a precious history for future generations.

[@seawallbird5724]

Last night I read a quote online which said "let go of the feelings of fear, anxiety, worry and anger..and trust that it will be all right.. these words of yours just seem to chime perfectly with that.. Thankyou Sandra..

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for sharing this with us

[@mrscottoncandydarlinglife]

Hi Sandra , Beautiful Said ❤️ I have lost Amazing People and fur babies in my life , that it does change you and makes you a strong person !!! I like to think , I have many Angles looking out for me up above !!! And when I do get sad I put on some music we like to listen to and have a little dance and that comforts me . Thank you so very much for your lovely videos and for being a bright light in this world !!! Hope you are having a wonderful week . Big Hugs 👍🏻🥰💕

[@Iam_Celene]

I’m only 22 now Sandra, but back in 2020 I felt like and probably a lot of us felt like the world was crashing down. In January of 2020, I got the news early in the morning that my grandma had passed away and I know I will see her again, but It was hard of course. I also lost my dog and that year was just a lot because there was so much stuff you saw and it dimmed the way I saw the world. Last year when things got a little better, I started to see there are still good people in the world and it helped me heal and not be so jaded and I can thrive as a person

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Celene, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us today. Times were hard for all of us in 2020. Yours especially!

[@Iam_Celene]

@@lifewithsandrahart absolutely. I’ve always been someone with a strong faith in God and since a child, my life was rooted in Him. I not only looked to God for salvation but I looked to Him for my daily needs and guidance and still do, I was born with scoliosis and as a girl in school even though I was confident in who I was and I saw my scoliosis made me unique and just going through those struggles I was able to refine myself and it gave me that fighting spirit where I am able to persevere through hard times and I always especially as a child wanted to find a way to See God in situations. Even with the fighting spirit that I have I fell even in a depression thinking I was stuck and hopeless because I thought will I ever have human contact that’s legit and just uncertainties and there was so much political upheaval and division where like I’ve been processing a lot of the things. As someone who is a Christian and I love my faith, but I heard a group of believers say basically if you are wounded or have emotional baggage as a woman especially, you can’t be repaired in this life and you’re basically worthless. However so much hope came when I came into a healthy space online that talked about relationship and it is an amazing group of women and just to see a group of people talk about healing and actually doing the internal work it liberated my mind and it helped me grow so much which it was so different from even believers who are like minded and it really helped me break from those constrains and bad ideas about myself because as someone in Gen z theres a lot of generational issues and those bad ideas about ourself keep us constrained and just to be given understanding and grace it’s unlike what I’ve seen and I’m a healed person now where I can love and I can be feminine again

[@joanyoung790]

So wonderfully said. I must comment though - stages can also come and go. And when you are a parent - as you were - sometimes the needs of your children MUST come before your own grief. Sometimes you grieve what might have been - ( as when you divorce ). BUT i absolutely find your life and path are a true inspiration- i LOOK forward to tuesday and your kind and thoughtful messages ❣️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I agree. Thanks so much for reminding us of that.

[@2EternityButterflies]

Thank you from my heart. God bless you Sandra. You have been a great inspiration to me and today as the tears flowed I knew what you were saying is right about the steps in grieving. Much love from your friend in Denmark.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much

[@marysuncin4302]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and tips on grieving. My condolences on your losses.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks Mary

[@asmaq9444]

Although I'm still in my early 30s I really enjoy your videos and approch to life, the calming voice is difinetly a plus. My you enjoy more years in health and joy

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much

[@francem.1192]

I've had a few losses just like all of us and I overcame them with time. But one that literally tore me apart was my brother passing last January. I was totally devastated. I survived by focusing on the positive in my life. I HAD to start living again for me to go on. It wasn't enough and then one day I realised that he now lives on my heart. This made a huge difference. I still cry at times that's okay because healing is a process. I know he's in my heart and he want's me to go on.....it's not an easy journey but you realise that there is a lot more to life. God bless you my dear virtual friend. I watch all your videos. You age so beautifully and gracefully. Thank you for being you 🙏🌷

[@betho.3542]

I love "now he lives on in my heart" -- that is very powerful. Thank you for sharing that thought!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so very much for sharing your thoughts with us today about your brother and your great loss.

[@nickiabbott5060]

Thanks for Being You, Sandra, and for sharing that wonderful person’s Joy and positive perspective on Life ! We Appreciate YOU !

[@lifewithsandrahart]

And I appreciate you!

[@emereldpatterson1900]

Sandra, God has given you the gift to know whatever we face in life and know exactly what we are going through to make it better. Yes! my husband and I were together 24/7 since we owned restaurants.and made all decisions together for 52 years. I am lost without him but your video has helped me tremendously and I thank you. I will pray for you. God bless you more to help us.

[@Enmanuel_V6]

I just found your channel today and I subscribed right away. Been binge watching your videos for an hour now. I’m only 24 but I love gaining perspective on life from all different angles possible and what better way to learn then from someone who’s miles ahead of the game of life. Thank you Sandra for your uniqueness. I appreciate you very much

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Welcome and thanks for being here!

[@janetsharpe13]

This was so uplifting to hear and watch thank you Sandra. Losing my parents and sister I thought I’d never get over but then to lose my daughter sometimes my heart hurts so much and last year I nearly lost my husband who is now in heart failure but I thank God every day for the blessing of him still being alive. Together we volunteer our time to help others and this helps us heal and helps us too just like you mentioned. I also took up painting and spending time with the rest of our family. Thank you for your time spent on these videos ❤xxxx

[@lab4389]

So sorry for your losses. ♥️

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

Thank you Sandra for sharing you're thoughts with us. It's so difficult to loose the ones we love. I believe we learn to adapt and live with it but we never truly get over it ♥️♥️. "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Beautiful quote. Thank you

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

@@lifewithsandrahart You are so welcome dear I'm glad you liked it. I came across this quote when my kitty passed away and had it engraved in a key chain with her picture.

[@aprilherreid4595]

Thank you for this, I don't have a support for my loss. I lost my best friend. I want to share things with him and I can't, he isn't here to cheer me forward. I have remained stuck going on 6 years. I started a book Artist Way to get unstuck. Your voice is so healing for me, thank you sweet auntie.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

April that’s a great book. Years ago it started me on this path.

[@meera1860]

Mam I really love ❤️ u a lot because you care so much for all we people who are suffering the pain of loss....thankyou so much...u are my family now

[@lifewithsandrahart]

We are. Thanks so much

[@sandrafrances]

It's a miracle really that we function at all. At any given time so many people are walking around with huge gaping wounds from loss. But eventually we heal and then we have a bigger capacity for compassion towards others. And joy does return.

[@Melimoments]

Thx u 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻soooo much. I lost my partner 4 years ago, he was 54 and I was 45. With Covid and all the delays I have been floundering, a ship without a sail or compass. You have given me hope to move forward and to allow joy back in, however that may look. I am so sorry for your loss and heartache and I appreciate your honesty and kindness. 🌺 (+ you truly are so beautiful inside and out!)

[@michellemccoy3726]

Omg! I love you all for opening your hearts n bearing your souls! God bless you all and thank you Sandra!!! Love you!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks Michelle.

[@irishernandez8899]

Grieving is a process. Thank you for sharing. Greatly appreciate it Lady Sandra . All the best, PEACE & BLESSING 🙏

[@rrhines3151]

The timing of this conversation is SO appreciated. Thank you 🙏🏻 for your wise and caring counsel.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so very much

[@hispanicservices9225]

You are a beautiful soul Sandra, thank you for your words, 💕🌹

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks for being here

[@victoriajohnson3034]

I know the path to healing is to find a new home for that love to live. Giving that love and passion to gardening and foraging seems to be helping.

[@kimgoranson9954]

I was missing my mom today. 3 1/2 yrs since she died. I came across your video & you remind me of her. Just pretending you are my mom giving me advice today💝

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry about your mom, but glad you are here.

[@kathleenritchie8216]

Great advice as always Sandra. My father was a paranoid schizophrenic. Brought up in a lot of fear n violence. He was killed by a train when he was 50. I don't often think of him but I did forgive him n cried for him when I heard he had passed. I think we have to try n live in the now as it is all we have. Much love K in Scotland X

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Kathleen. My husband was 50 also.

[@shubhisingh9842]

My father too suffers from the same and he’s the worst person to be with when his sickness is at peak . So much fear and violence that it shrivels your heart with sadness , but at times when I think of him not being around , I feel so sad and lost . He’s alive but his health isn’t the best right now . It’s funny I’m feeling the pain too early that’ll come later in life . I just felt connected to your story so I just … typed it all out . Thankyou for your time . GOD bless 💋💋

[@kathleenritchie8216]

Dear Shubhi you have to realise that this is his life's path. Always choose love and we are never alone. Prayers n angels to you! Life can be magical if we chose it to be and you are precious cargo and deserve it. Much love Kx

[@olgapurley9026]

Hi sandra! I am not living a loss but I just want you to know that I listen any kind of your videos because listening you relaxes me and makes me feel confortable. You are like a very clever friend. Thanks for sharing

[@lifewithsandrahart]

How kind you are! Thank you

[@lindawalker7518]

Thank you Sandra your words have true meaning in my life… I appreciate your honesty

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks Linda

[@brendapayan4598]

Thank you next to my mother you have given me nuggets of wisdom..

[@sweetypatnett6123]

Thanks Sandra, I appreciate your great advice! I lost my partner, my mother and my brother. I always cherish their memories and that brings me comfort. I pray 🙏 I get to see my loved ones again. God bless you!😊🙏😊😍🙏🙏

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you and blessings your way

[@debrarusso330]

You are truly a bright light in this world Sandra 🕯💜

[@doloresikbaker2371]

I want to thank you for these Tuesdays talks. Do not ever forget, your thoughts reach us, and help. So, again thanks for your work and effort on presenting these videos.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for your kindness and support

[@aguedaalmeida6415]

Good morning Sandra, Thank you so much for this video. I was married to a difficult person, narcissistic behavior. I am still healing myself and trying to forgive myself.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

You will heal and self love is so important

[@vivianacastillo9680]

Thank you so much for this . I lost so much lately in my life , my friend, my 2 pets , my beautiful mother and a relationship I had to end . ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I am so sorry you have had to go through all these losses one right after the other. Thanks so much for sharing and my thoughts are with you. Grieving is also a healing process.

[@stephko8312]

Thank you Sandra for this topic. It took me 26 years to be able to talk about my late Mom without tears. It feels like part of me was taken away.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks for sharing.

[@frankbayer3787]

I have lost my mother my father and my grandmother i was in a marriage where i never heard the words i love you thank you for sharing warmth kindness and wise words my sister has lost a spouse and now is about to get married again perhaps to quickly

[@hunterscoolgaming6046]

Hi sandra. What you are telling us and advising us how to live life How to face the difficulties with confidence. No college .no university teach us about practical life not even our parents teach us to how to face the life difficulties with bravery instead of crying in silence and no body knows that you are in pain.We can't live the life not only reading physics chemistry biology and maths .I am proud of you sandra.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much!

[@alayneleang4678]

This was so helpful, as all your videos are. For the past 14 months, I've been grieving the deaths of four people I was very close to (my mother included in that four). It is hard for me to be around people who have zero understanding of what grief looks like. So I appreciate all your advice here so much. I have to be very choosy about who I can surround myself and when because so many just don't or won't understand. Having two friends who allow me the space to cry has been priceless for me. I so appreciate them! Exercising/Walking near water (a lake, a fountain, etc.) is very healing for me. I love the Bee Gees lyrics too - I haven't heard that one in a while. Thank you so much!

[@MaryEllenAfter60]

Good morning my amazing friend. Not only are you a survivor, you are a thriver. You've survived so many heartbreaking things in your life, my friend. So happy you shared this with us. Blessings, prayers, and love, Sandra..MaryEllen

[@lifewithsandrahart]

MaryEllen, thank you for all of your kind words and support. I know sometimes my content may not be what is of the greatest interest to you, knowing so much about me already, but I genuinely appreciate your coming by and spend some time with me my dear friend. Your friendship means so much to me and I appreciate your being here. Love to you and Jim your way always. Sandra

[@tracyjohnson3178]

Sandra, you are such a beautiful, elegant lady with such wonderful wisdom to share, thank you!

[@suzannewing7574]

Thank you for your words of wisdom! I anxiously await for Tuesdays with Sandra!! We all LOVE you and thank you for the time spent on sharing your experiences with us!!!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much

[@isabeltorres8717]

Dear Lady thank you so much for your loving care and wise words,🌸,🌸

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

Dear Sweet Sandra, Thank you for sharing wisdom which can only be acquired and achieved through decades of experience in living life. Warm thoughts and hugs coming your way from Texas.🌹

[@LUVN4GIV]

Thank you for sharing this. I lost my father to suicide 14 years ago on the 15th and found you today. I know my father wouldn’t have wanted me to loose myself in addition to him, but that is what happened for several years. My kids, husband, and I lost me and him. A different story from yours but survival and moving on from a loss is so important, and I wish I had better guidance sooner. Thank you for your honesty. So happy to have found you and your wise words today! ❤️ I have subscribed and will follow from now on. In loving thanks- Laura

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with me today.

[@joepratte727]

when my wife died, i listened to 2 songs by the furey brothers, sweet sixteen and when i grow too old to dream.that brought out all my grief and memories. eventually i could hear those songs with love about my memories of our life together. when that happened, i knew i was going to survive it. i also wrote my wife a letter in heaven of how her leaving, and how i was coping. it helped me through it. she has been gone for 17 years but i still tell her how my day went. as you say, we are all different.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So beautiful m. Thanks for sharing

[@learnbyheart7]

Dear Sandra, you are the strongest woman that I know. What you have been through I could never imagine the grief and pain of it all. I am just grateful that you share it with us to help give us the strength too. Thank you, your friend Mary in NC.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much Mary. That means so much to me.

[@robinsdailylife1021]

You look fabulous, and rested.. 💛 Thanks for the words of wisdom and for being here!

[@lisamac8503]

My husband passed in Oct 2021 Together for almost 50 years He took my heart but left his within me I await till the day we see each other again and no I have no interest in dating though have been asked out on dates I am learning to live with this new normal I will never stop missing him

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Lisa, So sorry for your loss and I understand. Thanks for sharing .

[@stephenb-good9292]

I love you Sandra....you are a strong and loving woman....may God bless you and may your beauty and wisdom shine through out this misaligned world that we live in. Love, Stephen

[@margarettownsley9500]

Thank you Sandra for your advice grief is a terrible pain

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts