How Do You Mend A Broken Heart | How I Survived Loss | Life With Sandra Hart | Over 60

[@susantaft6873]

I first learned about grief when my grandmother died when I was 14 (she lived next door). Then my sweet mother died when I was 17. My husband left after 16 years of marriage. My son died when he was 18 and I was 42. When you list the losses they seem horrific - but I have had a wonderful life! These were just moments in a lifetime - all lifetimes have ups and downs. For me, grief lasts a long time and it is because I have trouble accepting. I get stuck in the "why, why, why" and the 'what ifs'. Once acceptance comes life becomes a joy again. I turned my grief into a positive by becoming a Hospice volunteer. Giving back to others definitely helps. Grief is something we all have in common but often don't talk about - thank you (as always) for your wisdom and inspiration. God bless you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

You are awesome. Thanks for sharing this with us

[@glory1star]

I can see some hope in reading your comment! Your one awesome lady, I hope and pray I can get to your level of faith and acceptance. My only daughter 7 weeks ago was just a freshman at UC 18 just in July her and her roommate were walking to campus in a marked cross walked and her and her roommate was hit by a 17 year old kid whom Stolen the car unfortunately my daughter didn’t survive her injuries she died on the scene her roommate didn’t have much injuries! I have all those Why my precious daughter! 😢

[@maryannette3455]

@@glory1star Oh dear Keisha, I am so sorry...my heart really is in sorrow when I just read your loss. I have lost many over these last 5 years or so and it has made me question my beliefs and faith like "where are you please God?" I have been a good person, why so soon God? I still have no answers, but I will be praying so hard for you dear Keisha. Mother's love sending to you, Mary.

[@glory1star]

@@maryannette3455 I agree it does make you questions sometimes your faith! Yes she was young and full of life. Healthy person ran track in HS went to State and all. Just frustrated to know that the world can be unkind. Whom would have thought that sending a child off to college would have resulted in death and not able to walk across the street 🥲 Forever heart broken 💔! Thank You for your reply and continual prayers

[@laurie-jeannelister1029]

Another important thing I focussed on was forgiveness. I had to forgive myself of my shortcomings and for not saying "I love you" enough or behaving more lovingly on a daily basis when I had the chance.

[@dale9724]

I found that, too. Thank you for your comment.

[@alaskayoung584]

my grandpa is dying. he's at the hospital now. I needed this video, thank you. 🥺

[@cajunlady4893]

🙏🕊

[@juliehoot3916]

🙏

[@rrhines3151]

A virtual hug 🤗 to you in this trying time for you and your family.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Blessings your way.

[@beezorob]

I am nearly 73 and have experienced little loss so far. My parents lived until 93 and 96, and they passed with very little suffering. I am seeing friends with a lot of loss and wonder how I will deal with the future, when I know I'll have more loss. I've started to fear it. Thank you for your life lessons.

[@reemsaif3105]

You're doing well do far. Keep living 💗

[@MimiZ914]

I've had a lot of loss in my life starting at age 16. I just lost my beloved Dog at age 17 and I'm swimming in an ocean of grief. Thanks Sandra for all you do for everyone with your experiences. Grief is love with no where to go. The hardest part about this life is getting thru it. Everything after that is the great reward.

[@maxineboxer9714]

I’m so sorry about your dog, it’s a huge heartache, devastating, I know. It takes time, but it will lessen, very slowly. How wonderful that you took such good care of your dear friend that he should live so long. I believe we will see our beloved pets again, one day.

[@susano7587]

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved dog. I am preparing for major changes in my life soon, and I don’t know that I would be capable of making it through without my little dog Ellie.❤

[@gigilewis9346]

So sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved dog also three months ago and the grief is very real. It’s been so difficult with her absence in the house. So many memories. I cried an ocean and I can’t even imagine replacing her by getting another dog. I know God is with us and with time we will heal. Stay strong. Jesus loves you ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So true. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us today

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

I'm so very so for you're loss. I understand all to well. Pet's are family. I'm still missing my cat and it's been one year since she passed. I truly thought I was going to die right along with her when she passed. We had a very special bond her and I.

[@cathyandresiak1975]

Great advice Sandra, my mom just passed away in February of Alzheimers and we were very close, somehow I still doesn't seem real to me. Sometimes I put off thinking about her because I have fear of going into a meltdown again. I know she could not live on this earth anymore, she was 86 and I know she is renewed now and not sick anymore and that is what keeps me going. I love her so much and I believe our souls will be together again. Thank You for all of your wisdom and sharing your life with us.

[@sandysouthward3635]

Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story about your mom. I too have lost my mom. It's been over three years but it feels like yesterday. Your right that one day we will be together again for all eternity. But until then we are blessed with so many memories. I hope and pray that you find comfort in those precious moments. God bless you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

My mother died 25 years ago and not a day goes by that I do t think of her.

[@joanyoung790]

My Dad passed on his 89th BD after a 10 yr battle w alzheimer’s. Although we were relieved he was no longer suffering , and my Mom could start to heal , we all missed the person he was - and now we rarely think of those 10 yrs except the occasional humorous or happy moments - but we always recall the wonderful Dad he was for us. The pain is now just what seems like a small splinter - and the memories are truly right there beside us as if he was still here. I pray your 💔will heal as ours did.

[@sharonwoodall6890]

Lost my mom a year ago. I miss her so much. We also were very close. She was 99. Take care❣️

[@truthmatters8364]

Sweet Cathy, just got off the phone with my sister Sandra and our 88 year old mother with Dementia is going down hill as she is forgetting how to swallow now! It's devastating I know because it's as though you are greiving while they are alive yet don't know who you are are and then you grieve once they are physically gone. I know I will be with her again and it won't be long if the Lord calls her before his return. We are both strong believers and have accepted Jesus as our Savior. I so understand and your in my prayers!❤️

[@PT-tw6kg]

I lost my son and husband was devastated to say the least, but my belief in God let's me know their with me always and we will be together again. Yes, there is sorrow but I know their watching over me. 🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️Thank you, ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@luciatat4084]

You sure will see them again soon. Life here is very short. God bless you!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Blessings your way Pearl. You will meet again.

[@kittenclawsguitarvideos6147]

Losing someone is by far the hardest thing I've ever endured. I often think about how wonderful it would be to travel back in time.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Truly!

[@faithfulwhispers333]

I understand this all too well .... Much Love ❤️

[@Mercalons]

Whats the name of your book? I would like to buy it

[@nancyculhanehoag7936]

Thank you Sandra!!! My heart is so sad, I know I’ll get threw my loss, because I’m strong. But climbing into bed with out him being there makes me cry every night!

[@salsarmemimi7292]

I bought a new mattress out of a need for a new one and can't bring myself to sleep in it or our bedroom yet. Prayers up for you dear. Blessings to you from Texas.

[@cajunlady4893]

Twist and turns Face under covers Night after night. Soggy pillows. Sleep during the day with mist of thick fog in-between. Lasted until I let it go and faced the reality... i must move on or I will become a zombie. My spouse wanted me live and spread the love I have... Not to stay in darkness in the mist of confusion. But in the light of joy and with a sound mind. It took awhile to muster the strength to lift up the light switch.. That he wanted me to turn on and carry on. Like the movie.. "Me Before You"

[@betho.3542]

Nancy you have described the thing I fear the most - the nights. And waking up to another day alone. My husband is not completely well and I know that someday........ You just keep being strong and I will pray for you! You will be ok. I'm sure of it. Sending hugs!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Healing does take time. I know so well.

[@tamiwilliams5903]

Sandra, when I was little back in the 60s I watched Romper Room and loved it! Now I watch your videos and love them and you ❤️ You are a very special person and I feel especially blessed to have found you. Many many blessings to you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much DoBee!

[@ranjaitjaswal8030]

Thank you Sandra for this video I lost my dad 4 years ago and now my mom is in the nursing home at the age of 86 in her lifetime journey she has seen so much grief lost two children and now with dad gone she is so lost as he was her soul mate Sandra your wise words are a.comfort may the almighty bless you and shower you with his love🇨🇦

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much and blessings to you and your sweet mother.

[@pamcornelius9122]

I lost my beloved husband of 41 years this past August. I’m adrift and lost without him. You’ve summed up months of counseling in one video. Thank you.

[@johnboy6594]

Sorry for your loss. He had to have been a beautiful man. We will all be with him in short time. But for now we must find a reason to carry on because life is for the living. Where he is, we all shall be, before we know it. I have found such a deep connection to life in the practice of Buddhism and the love of God. Bless you my dear, you are not alone.

[@SILVIATHEGIRLS]

Dear Sandra, thank you so much for this video.💕 I have lost my father last February, he was only 80 years old, no one expected him to go so suddenly, I still cannot believe he is not here any more, I still think he is alive at home and I can call him to ask his advice as I have always done. I wonder when I can wake up from this nightmare and I can see him again, opening the door of his home and welcome me with his big smile and warm welcome, I still want to see him once more so badly .... I wander whether this terrible pain will ever vanish ... thanks Sandra, for your beautiful videos 💕 Love , Silvia x

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Silvia, in time you will understand and accept your new normal. He will be forever with you in your heart.

[@Katie-vy5rd]

Hugs to you SILVIA. Hoping that the pain lessons soon for you. My mom is 86 and I'm not sure what i will do.. I imagine I will feel sorrow as you do. My heart breaks just imagining her not being around. She's my best and only friend. Please be well and sending prayers your way.

[@SILVIATHEGIRLS]

@@Katie-vy5rd Thank you so much Katie🙏🏻 I hear you and I understand what you say, it is just so very difficult... Love, Sil x

[@ElleIsForLiving]

Grieving is so uncomfortable and difficult. It is amazing how resilient the human heart is. I am sure you are helping so many people. I hope you are having a wonderful week. ♥

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much Elle. We all have to navigate loss at some time in our lives. Have a great week my friend.

[@nelweissenbruch9000]

Sandra I recognize the grieving. I am in the middle of it. Both my children are emigrated. I live in the Netherlands, our daughter lives in Norway and our son in Kenia. It is so wierd. I am grieving but they are still alive. It is confusing for me and my huisband. We miss the grandchildren

[@lifewithsandrahart]

It truly is a loss even though they are still alive. You have genuine grief of missing them.

[@sophiamariesimpson9939]

Honestly your like the grandma everyone wants. Your videos are so much wisdom and make me feel so warm and helps me a lot in life. Thank you so much and keep up the fabulous work xx

[@rebeccatargett9785]

Sandra, you are my angel that I have only just come across. I am forever grateful to have found you. Xxx

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Rebecca I sincerely appreciate your kindness

[@artistcarolyngrace1711]

Oh my goodness! Sandra, this is so wonderful - I cried through the entire video🥲lost the love of my life after 51 years of a beautiful marriage - you are so correct my whole adult life this was us! I’ve never been on my own at all before I felt like three quarters of me is gone ☹️ - I was 20 when I married my wonderful Richard and that’s all I’ve ever known - it’s been so hard🥲we did everything together raised our beautiful family kids and grandkids great- grandkids everything was a together decision ! I don’t know how to do life without him 🥲 I’ve been focusing on family and my gifts and talents but it’s so hard to do this by myself - thank you so much for this advice it’s so relevant I know I have much to give and want to write my family legacy as well to leave for my family and future generations 💕 But I cry every day missing my love- Richard so much who was the patriarch of our family I feel lost without him🥲❤️it’s hard to get motivated - I love you so much Sandra This is so very comforting Carolyn Grace

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with me today.

[@artistcarolyngrace1711]

@@lifewithsandrahart ❤️

[@irishernandez8899]

Grieving is a process. Thank you for sharing. Greatly appreciate it Lady Sandra . All the best, PEACE & BLESSING 🙏

[@conniekehag7114]

My husband of 56 yrs of marriage passed away 4Months ago , I am Grieving , he was the love of my life , Thankyou so much for your Beautiful words about the grieving Process , You have made me understand about it all ❤ and many blessing to you Sandra xx

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Best of luck to you, Connie.

[@sygunparchment1707]

Time heals all wounds .....it requires patience and accepting to feel the pain .....find a passion to keep busy ....

[@lifewithsandrahart]

True.

[@cathyo3393]

Thank you Sandra I only discovered your channel a few days ago! You are an amazing lady! Sending Love from Ireland 🇮🇪❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so very much Cathy. My grand children just got back from Ireland visiting their grandparents

[@sandrafrances]

It's a miracle really that we function at all. At any given time so many people are walking around with huge gaping wounds from loss. But eventually we heal and then we have a bigger capacity for compassion towards others. And joy does return.

[@nickiabbott5060]

Thanks for Being You, Sandra, and for sharing that wonderful person’s Joy and positive perspective on Life ! We Appreciate YOU !

[@lifewithsandrahart]

And I appreciate you!

[@streaming5332]

After my beloved Dad passed away I began writing a family history filling in the gaps of my father's life that I knew nothing about. It was something I had to do to save myself. The strength and goodwill came from him and I needed draw on the good to survive. It is also a precious history for future generations.

[@Iam_Celene]

I’m only 22 now Sandra, but back in 2020 I felt like and probably a lot of us felt like the world was crashing down. In January of 2020, I got the news early in the morning that my grandma had passed away and I know I will see her again, but It was hard of course. I also lost my dog and that year was just a lot because there was so much stuff you saw and it dimmed the way I saw the world. Last year when things got a little better, I started to see there are still good people in the world and it helped me heal and not be so jaded and I can thrive as a person

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Celene, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us today. Times were hard for all of us in 2020. Yours especially!

[@Iam_Celene]

@@lifewithsandrahart absolutely. I’ve always been someone with a strong faith in God and since a child, my life was rooted in Him. I not only looked to God for salvation but I looked to Him for my daily needs and guidance and still do, I was born with scoliosis and as a girl in school even though I was confident in who I was and I saw my scoliosis made me unique and just going through those struggles I was able to refine myself and it gave me that fighting spirit where I am able to persevere through hard times and I always especially as a child wanted to find a way to See God in situations. Even with the fighting spirit that I have I fell even in a depression thinking I was stuck and hopeless because I thought will I ever have human contact that’s legit and just uncertainties and there was so much political upheaval and division where like I’ve been processing a lot of the things. As someone who is a Christian and I love my faith, but I heard a group of believers say basically if you are wounded or have emotional baggage as a woman especially, you can’t be repaired in this life and you’re basically worthless. However so much hope came when I came into a healthy space online that talked about relationship and it is an amazing group of women and just to see a group of people talk about healing and actually doing the internal work it liberated my mind and it helped me grow so much which it was so different from even believers who are like minded and it really helped me break from those constrains and bad ideas about myself because as someone in Gen z theres a lot of generational issues and those bad ideas about ourself keep us constrained and just to be given understanding and grace it’s unlike what I’ve seen and I’m a healed person now where I can love and I can be feminine again

[@francem.1192]

I've had a few losses just like all of us and I overcame them with time. But one that literally tore me apart was my brother passing last January. I was totally devastated. I survived by focusing on the positive in my life. I HAD to start living again for me to go on. It wasn't enough and then one day I realised that he now lives on my heart. This made a huge difference. I still cry at times that's okay because healing is a process. I know he's in my heart and he want's me to go on.....it's not an easy journey but you realise that there is a lot more to life. God bless you my dear virtual friend. I watch all your videos. You age so beautifully and gracefully. Thank you for being you 🙏🌷

[@betho.3542]

I love "now he lives on in my heart" -- that is very powerful. Thank you for sharing that thought!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so very much for sharing your thoughts with us today about your brother and your great loss.

[@carolpessin4006]

Hi Sandra, thank you so much, I’m 78, I was married for 44 years, to a beautiful man. I was never on my own until now. It’s now going on 8 years. Boy did I grow up. I’m new to your videos, and I’m grateful that I found you, thank you so much. 🦋🫂❤️

[@victoriajohnson3034]

Grief is a lost love looking for a new home. Giving the love a place to land is a great way of honoring their memory.

[@seawallbird5724]

Last night I read a quote online which said "let go of the feelings of fear, anxiety, worry and anger..and trust that it will be all right.. these words of yours just seem to chime perfectly with that.. Thankyou Sandra..

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for sharing this with us

[@pinkpanther1789]

My mother passed away last week. I feel adrift, hollowed out. 😢 No one will ever love me as much as she did. 😢 I do feel a sense of regret for not being more loving towards her. I hope I can turn a page in the grief soon and be positive again. Thank you for your kind words.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I’m so sorry. I know how you are feeling. I still miss my mother everyday. You will get better as time passes. Love your way.

[@iamgoddessoflove]

A big part of healing is connecting with others who understand what we’ve been through and they can be a huge support when you’re having a rough patch emotionally. 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@debrarusso330]

You are truly a bright light in this world Sandra 🕯💜

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

Thank you Sandra for sharing you're thoughts with us. It's so difficult to loose the ones we love. I believe we learn to adapt and live with it but we never truly get over it ♥️♥️. "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Beautiful quote. Thank you

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

@@lifewithsandrahart You are so welcome dear I'm glad you liked it. I came across this quote when my kitty passed away and had it engraved in a key chain with her picture.

[@joanyoung790]

So wonderfully said. I must comment though - stages can also come and go. And when you are a parent - as you were - sometimes the needs of your children MUST come before your own grief. Sometimes you grieve what might have been - ( as when you divorce ). BUT i absolutely find your life and path are a true inspiration- i LOOK forward to tuesday and your kind and thoughtful messages ❣️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I agree. Thanks so much for reminding us of that.

[@victoriajohnson3034]

I know the path to healing is to find a new home for that love to live. Giving that love and passion to gardening and foraging seems to be helping.

[@robinsdailylife1021]

You look fabulous, and rested.. 💛 Thanks for the words of wisdom and for being here!

[@kimgoranson9954]

I was missing my mom today. 3 1/2 yrs since she died. I came across your video & you remind me of her. Just pretending you are my mom giving me advice today💝

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So sorry about your mom, but glad you are here.

[@stephenb-good9292]

I love you Sandra....you are a strong and loving woman....may God bless you and may your beauty and wisdom shine through out this misaligned world that we live in. Love, Stephen

[@learnbyheart7]

Dear Sandra, you are the strongest woman that I know. What you have been through I could never imagine the grief and pain of it all. I am just grateful that you share it with us to help give us the strength too. Thank you, your friend Mary in NC.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much Mary. That means so much to me.

[@meera1860]

Mam I really love ❤️ u a lot because you care so much for all we people who are suffering the pain of loss....thankyou so much...u are my family now

[@lifewithsandrahart]

We are. Thanks so much

[@AshleyEdelenbos]

I was just 10yo when I experienced the horrible way my grandpa died of malpractice. It has really left a scare on my mind and it didn't help that not even 3 years later my grandma passed away too from a brain tumor at only 63yo. They were so young. I've never really had grandparents and that really saddens me when I hear from other people how much they love their grandparents - jealous comes and says hello then. Fortunately I have amazing parents that support me in everything. I love them to bits and pieces. But due to my very early awakening with 'death' I am so afraid to lose my parents. I know that time will come but I don't want it to come. I am so afraid some days that I go and check their room in the middle of the night to see if they're still breathing! Not only am I afraid for them, I'm also afraid of not knowing what will come for me. I could happily go to sleep and then nothing. It scares me a lot....

[@jackiebarrett4063]

Thank you for your message. It’s all so hard isn’t it? Hard to go on… 🙏💙👍

[@frankbayer3787]

I have lost my mother my father and my grandmother i was in a marriage where i never heard the words i love you thank you for sharing warmth kindness and wise words my sister has lost a spouse and now is about to get married again perhaps to quickly

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

Dear Sweet Sandra, Thank you for sharing wisdom which can only be acquired and achieved through decades of experience in living life. Warm thoughts and hugs coming your way from Texas.🌹

[@kathleenritchie8216]

Great advice as always Sandra. My father was a paranoid schizophrenic. Brought up in a lot of fear n violence. He was killed by a train when he was 50. I don't often think of him but I did forgive him n cried for him when I heard he had passed. I think we have to try n live in the now as it is all we have. Much love K in Scotland X

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Kathleen. My husband was 50 also.

[@shubhisingh9842]

My father too suffers from the same and he’s the worst person to be with when his sickness is at peak . So much fear and violence that it shrivels your heart with sadness , but at times when I think of him not being around , I feel so sad and lost . He’s alive but his health isn’t the best right now . It’s funny I’m feeling the pain too early that’ll come later in life . I just felt connected to your story so I just … typed it all out . Thankyou for your time . GOD bless 💋💋

[@kathleenritchie8216]

Dear Shubhi you have to realise that this is his life's path. Always choose love and we are never alone. Prayers n angels to you! Life can be magical if we chose it to be and you are precious cargo and deserve it. Much love Kx

[@aguedaalmeida6415]

Good morning Sandra, Thank you so much for this video. I was married to a difficult person, narcissistic behavior. I am still healing myself and trying to forgive myself.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

You will heal and self love is so important

[@NaNa-re3wc]

I’m only 23, but I have learned and received some much needed validation on the wisdom of life from your videos. I’m so glad I found your channel today! You warm my heart and give me great comfort🥹♥️ Thank you for being vulnerable with us all!

[@NaNa-re3wc]

Also, one of the most valuable things I’ve learned thus far is to surrender to life. Embrace it, accept that we don’t have control in the big scheme of things, and have gratitude for what we still have. If you approach everything and everyone with curiosity instead of judgment, you will inevitably live a more authentic and fulfilling life. Live in the NOW and everything you need to heal will come to you; everything you need is already within you, waiting to be discovered. ♥️

[@gracefreed7900]

@Sandra. I just found your channel yesterday and watched a few of your videos. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experiences with others in order to help. You are so beautiful inside and out and I'm grateful to have found you! My mother/best friend made it to heaven last yr at 99 yrs old and i did the same thing as you... could not deal with losing her at all. I still have a hard time even looking at photos of her or talking about her. But i want to honor her in some way and create something that will keep her memory alive and show people how amazing she was... maybe a book, i don't know. Anyway i am pondering your words of wisdom and will apply them to my life as i move forward and try to make a positive change. Thank you so much for this. God bless you always.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Welcome and thanks for letting me know!

[@liiskarkiiskar]

Going through a breakup with my now ex girlfriend. I have never loved anyone this hard, with my entire heart. I can't imagine myself ever loving anyone else, not even in another lifetime. She was my best friend as well. I went to her with everything. I don't know how will I ever come to accept this, the reason for our breakup was because we were in the "petty arguing stage" and she said she doesn't like arguing and said it's not normal cause she doesn't argue with her parents nor her friends. We weren't perfect but I loved every inch of her regardless with my entire soul.

[@sukranylmaz1978]

Şükran Yılmaz . ‘Do not suppress your feelings let them flow’ is the key idea for me. I totally agree because I recently have lived an emotional burst after the compulsory break up with my ex boyfriend 28 years ago. Though I’m married I found and faced with him. I have lived the break up agony for the second time . I have passed through the steps you mentioned. Now I’m about to complete the acceptance. With the help of a psychologist I noticed that I never accept the reality deep in my soul.

[@tugcebeyaz6550]

Merhaba 28 yil mi? Tekrar yuzlesmek ne hissettirdi size? Benzer bir durumdayim.

[@vivianacastillo9680]

Thank you so much for this . I lost so much lately in my life , my friend, my 2 pets , my beautiful mother and a relationship I had to end . ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I am so sorry you have had to go through all these losses one right after the other. Thanks so much for sharing and my thoughts are with you. Grieving is also a healing process.

[@greenlady43]

Thank you for this. We’ve moved to be near our children because we’re in our 70’s and my husband is allowing himself to die. He has had four bypasses and lost part of a lung to cancer. His dr says he’s in perfect health! But I cannot get him interested in anything. All he wants to do is read and play video games? We’ll be celebrating our 49th anniversary in a couple weeks.

[@lesliekaye1199]

I have been singular for many years I am not afraid to be alone But my health is deteriorating l am 80 and have AFIB now I am moving to my son's family house They have invited me to join their family permanently My other son and Chris and his wife are caring and wonderful 👍 I am in the process of packing and it is exhausting I live on my own My whole life is upside down I am grateful for your program Blessings Yes l am focused on gratitude. Thank you.

[@lindawalker7518]

Thank you Sandra your words have true meaning in my life… I appreciate your honesty

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks Linda

[@tamathagilbert5816]

Beautiful Sandra:)🙏 This was an amazingly poignant, healing, and powerful video, and it is so deeply appreciated that you shared your story about greiving and healing with all of us. Today actually would have been my mother's 88th Birthday. She passed away in 1999. My sister's and brothers and I (I am the last of six), had three weeks from her diagnosis of cancer till her passing to go through the process of her transition with her. That time with her was a deeply poignant spiritual gift and assurance from God that she would be okay...this was just her transition from a life well lived, and God gracefully called her home to HIS home. Her transition was life changing and I grieved her healthily, openly, and deeply in the grief process. Made my faith grounded and strong...By contrast, in 2002, my ex husband's aunt passed, then we lost his mom to a heart attack in her sleep a month later, then a month and a half later, my dad died, then a month and a half later, my God Father passed away....Four transitions back to back...I literally remember nothing of that year, other than those passings. But unlike when my mom passed, I did not cry about my dad's passing because we had a very difficult relationship because of all he put my mom thru when I was growing up. I did not shed one tear over his transition. But grief is a tricky thing. It still goes in inwardly even when you think it doesn't. And God still works to heal a grieving suppressed heart for healing over time. Funny (peculiar) thing is, 3 days before my mother in law passed, she and I had the best, most special conversation we ever had. It was fun, bonding, beautiful, and joyful. I did not realize what a gift that phone conversation was, until three days later, when informed that she was called home by God. I had gotten a chance to say goodbye to her in our last beautiful phone call, without even knowing it. That is God's mercy. My last conversation with my dad, was when I told him of my ex mother in law passing. And he and I actually had a very rare and bonding conversation, and again, a month and more later, God called my dad home. So, again, I got to say goodbye without even knowing it. That is God's generosity. Finally, my last conversation with my God father, I got to tell him of my Dad's passing, and my God father prayed with me over the phone and we had a great conversation, and a month and more later, God transitioned him home. Once again, without even knowing it, God had mercifully allowed me to say goodbye to another loved one without me even knowing it prior to their passing. That is God's love. Fast forward to 2016, and my job ending, and I finally was sat down by God to deal with my grief over the loss of my dad who died in 2002. Because I had time, and God therefore had my full attention, God worked on my heart and I grieved heavily for my father. I forgave him for his actions, and I forgave myself for not forgiving my father all those years. Once that happened, I could finally see in my memories some actual good things I admired about my dad. It was not easy, but he was human, and had some good things about him too. I could not see that when I was so hurt and angry and placed that before the love. Once I forgave, I could love, heal, and live. To cope, and heal, I got my Bachelor's and Masters degrees, and in my work, helped people, and in my faith, helped people. Even in retirement, I still help people, especially those dealing with grief and pain, and adversity. Again, beautiful post Sandra... This was a Blessing:). Have a kind and Blessed week. Tamatha🙏🎀🙏

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Tamatha, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with me today and for living such a life of purpose!

[@tamathagilbert5816]

🙏🙏🙏

[@alecia8852]

Thank you, Thank you!!! You are a gift. I needed to hear this as I'm so deep in the depression stage after my loss that I can't get out of bed but I am allowing myself to cry. I just don't want to be such a downer to be around so I don't see anyone. Sage advise - thank you so much. I will seek out something to bring me joy.

[@CherylWilsonArt]

I recently found your channel!, what a lovely woman you are! I am 65 and most of the women on my channel are 65 plus. I love all you say. I am an abstract artist and started painting later in my life after owning my business in the DC area. I do art full time. Art filled a huge place in my life during a huge loss and when I needed something as I entered retirement. While I am an artist, id love to connect with other women here! I find many of us do share all the things you are saying, what a God send you are

[@rebeccajusteson4234]

Your wisdom is so helpful. Thank you! 💜 And, also, you are absolutely radiant! 😊

[@isabeltorres8717]

Dear Lady thank you so much for your loving care and wise words,🌸,🌸

[@judiruthmeredith6427]

Love your videos, Sandra. Keep them coming! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@concettaalcorn686]

Sandra you have had lost in your life we all will experience it. I have lost my parents and a very dear friend I retired before her so we didn’t see each other as much we were busy with family but we managed to get together as often we could. I worked with her for 30 years we shared are family’s ups and downs.As I watch you today I wish I could have spent more time with Susie but I know she’s with me .I thank God that I had a wonderful friend 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us today. Grieving is a process of us

[@zickafoose]

Thanks for another wonderful message. I have lady friends who have recently become widows. In order to deal with their grief and to keep busy, they’ve gone back to work part-time. There is an abundance of easier jobs nowadays and even older widows can get hired. So if you’re lonely and grieving, and not the hobby type, a part-time job may be the answer.

[@محسنهعلي-ف4ت]

From a beautiful young man, he met you and listened to your advice

[@genabrown8740]

Beautifully stated Sandra. Thank you 🥰🌞💞

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks for watching

[@faithfulwhispers333]

I feel So blessed to have found your channel 🥺🙏❤️🌹

[@helennesbitt4081]

Thank you Sandra for this video, I have lost my dad. my Mother and a brother. I often think about my brother bc he was so young. We all still talk about him and it still hurts.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I understand. Thanks for sharing that with me

[@arayakhan560]

Thank you 🙏 it's hard to get over a broken heart 💔 I still cry almost every day n questioning myself???????????????

[@VAgnerian18]

💞Grateful Dear Sandra' having endured and witnessed Parkinson's disease ravages of my late husband for twelve years' now a widow of three years' in my mid-60s, going through ''complicated grief'', your sensitive and calm and realistic and heartfelt words are therapeutic to hear' also reading the commentaries and experiences of fellow grievers' when none in my close circle of relations can relate to widowhood' simply by God's grace go I . . . - - - Laura'

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you Laura. Blessings your way

[@nancyculhanehoag7936]

Oh my gosh, how heartbreaking for you!!! Try and remember all the wonderful memories you shared together!!! No one can ever take them away from you!!!❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Laura, My older brother has Parkinson’s and I truly understand. Your healing will come. You have support here. Sandra

[@shereecarey2021]

Thank you for this video. I had a loss in my life recently and you made me feel normal as what I'm going through.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Sheree, thank you for sharing

[@Lil-Be]

Thank you for another wonderful video, Sandra. I can’t express enough how helping others is helping me. I volunteer for rape and bartering hotline and despite so many sad stories I hear, I am so glad I can be there for people that call. It also makes me fully appreciate how blessed I am with my own life. By helping others we help ourselves the most. Love ❤️

[@SofiaMartinez-wn3ry]

Thanks you so much. After hearing your experence I realice that mine is a "light one"... it's very healing hearing you... besitos desde Argentina!

[@pamcee6813]

Very powerful message. Thank you 😊

[@RebeccaCoup86]

It’s been 7 years since I lost my mom/best friend. I lost my aunt to lung cancer. Then 5 months later got pregnant for the first time …had my baby girl in November 2014 my mom passes away with lung cancer large cell when my daughter is just 3 months old in February 2015 … it hurts every single day I do not have my mom and she’s missing out on my daughter…. Before my mom passed …she told me to hold on to my daughter Whom she named Nevaeh. I focus on my daughter and hubby… but I do not know if I’m grieving….I cry , I talk about my mom, But I feel like still over 7 years I should be we’ll beyond we’re I am….

[@thiabrabson2533]

Sorrowful YET Rejoicing❣️

[@margievernon566]

Dearest Sandra I felt you were talking only to me 🥰timeous advice thank you so much.Much love 💕

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Margie, you are most welcome!

[@oldvinezen9857]

What a great video and such good information on grief and loss. Also, the latest research on grief is that, the stages you mentioned do not happen in a linear pattern. Meaning, you will move from anger or denial and think you are finished with that stage, but you will go back and forth in your stages at different times. It's not one straight line. A wonderful book on this topic is "On Death and Dying", by Elisabeth Kubler-ross M.D.

[@robertus2407]

It is only recently that I discovered this KZbin channel. What a joy to hear your clear and wise words. They help me in the right direction. Thank you so much. So glad I found this channel. Best regards, Robert.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you and I appreciate your watching today

[@justmaria5806]

Its always good to see and hear you, Sandra. The colors in your top make me think of lush places and cool tropical drinks. I listened and nodded as you spoke, as I too am a survivor of sudden and shocking loss. There certainly is no way to predict how each person will experience loss. It is hard to begin to let the emotions show and come forward; when suppressing them is the one thing you feel you can control and hold on to. With time, therapy, prayer and much more time than I would have ever imagined I began to inch forward with my life. I think the shock and grief experienced becomes a part of the fabric of your life. I will never be the person I was after the sudden and unexpected loss of my son. I smile and move forward with my life but I know I'm different each time I see my eyes in the mirror. Its the great soul shift, don't you know.......

[@juliabailey3447]

Thank you so much for this today Sandra x Moving on is so hard x love to Arthur x

[@lifewithsandrahart]

It’s truly hard to do. But possible

[@uzbechkabee4058]

Hello dear Sandra, I'm 35 and I really find your advices very helpful and healing. I try to follow all of them because they have a common sense. I'm from far Uzbekistan and I realize that life has the same rules wherever we are. Your beauty tips also works great for me. Wish you all the best wishes from the depth of my heart ❤️

[@kawtherii7322]

you have a beautiful heart , beautiful soul, beautiful beauty ❤

[@victoriajohnson3034]

Thank you! I need help to help myself and my family try to heal. I thought i was ok with my grandma death finally 20 years ago til my grandpa passed 2 years ago and i fell apart to my core for months. They were like best friends.

[@vivveene]

I Lost my mother in February 2022 and I don't think I've started my grieving process as yet. I fail to make any changes to her room or things as yet, it is the same as the day she left it to visit my sister. There are times I believe she will walk through the front door any evening, so I can soooooooooooooooo relate to this video. Watching this just now is even making me cry. Awesome video.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you and I’m so sorry you lost your mother. I kept my mother’s purse in my closet on a shelf for years, just with all its contents. I guess it represented to me that part of her was still with me. Only when I downsized and moved to Florida that I let it go. I truly understand.

[@vivveene]

@@lifewithsandrahart Thank you for your reassurance and kindness.

[@debgilbert3206]

Thank you for being a continuous source of wisdom. I am creating a file in my KZbin library where I can save this video so that I can rewatch it when the inevitable occurs. ❤

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much

[@robinmarks5638]

Wonderful content as always! Love that top you have on!!

[@sawsank6158]

شكراً ساندرا ، كلام جميل و عميق ، اسعدني مقطعك 👌🏻💕🍃

[@hilarywallace9927]

Thank you Sandra for your wisdom and sharing

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you

[@lilaclilly198]

Thankyou Sandra 😘 It’s a pain like nothing else i experienced. Music is a great healer … It’s played a big part in my life. Got me through some very dark sad and lonely days . Mostly importantly I reached out and got support. Slowly but surely,this to will pass… Hang on in there. I wish you all love and healing😘🤗🙌

[@tammyintiaras]

Hi sweet Sandra ! I’m looking forward to watching this tomorrow morning. I’m struggling at the moment and wondering… is it all worth it. Love from Ballarat 😘

[@mariechulis]

💌

[@Frenchie_007]

🌹

[@lifewithsandrahart]

My thoughts are with you today

[@laurievanzon2126]

It's worth it because from struggle comes peace, happiness and success!

[@tammyintiaras]

@@laurievanzon2126 oh thank you. I have mental health problems and have a channel but feel …. Is it worth it… to try to connect with people… because I can’t in my daily life 🥲

[@nataliesa9117]

Thank you, Sandra❤️

[@caitlincassandra]

Thank you for your wise words ❤️

[@gwshelton4875]

My wife of 44 years died 3 years ago. I’ve spent that time throwing EVERYTHING out, clothes, knickknacks, furniture, etc. It means nothing to me and I don’t want to leave that task to my kid, like my parents did me. I’ve made my own funeral arrangements, and hope to die quietly in my sleep, instead of in a hospital with my eyes rolled back in my head and my mouth open like dozens of my relatives. I hope I don’t suffer or become a burden, have dementia or Alzheimer’s.

[@michellec2899]

Thank you sweet lady. Cuddles from Canada 🇨🇦 M

[@Tahliabas]

God bless your beautiful heart 🙏🏻❤️

[@angietiller2332]

Sandra, thank you for such a great message.

[@savannaeason3018]

I lost my Mother my grandad went through toxic abuse with ex boyfriend and now hard to trust people now and lost some few friends now I'm here for some advice 🥺

[@meerutpat]

My heart was broken when my mother died age 68. She had lived very close to me for many years and I saw her every day. She lived her life for me. The worst part of it all is that I feel so guilty that I did not do more for her. Her life with my father was terrible and she was afraid of him. I feel I should have done much more for her and given her more of my time. I must have hurt her at times when I was so off hand with her. I pray to be forgiven every day.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I’m sure as a mother she understood you loved her. Mothers do. Just forgive yourself and know at the time you did what you thought was right.

[@isabelltecaxco-yd3lw]

I've lost all my brothers passed away and all my friends and the last one killed himself in 2017 on mother's day. I had known him John forty years and just like that he's forever gone. Loss of nephews and nieces and aunts and all my uncles. I'm 62 now and I never had children and two divorces. Loneliness is absolutely horrible! I'm so lonely and isolated and no transportation. I'm stuck, just stuck! Please pray for me thank you

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I’m so sorry. Prayers your way.

[@daniacharles5541]

hi Sandra thank you for sharing with us how to mend a broken heart I was caring for someone and she get ill and passed away I was sad on Happy I was hurting so much but I said to myself life have to go on so I give myself a chance was to heal I did heal when we lost a loved one it do it it hurts a lot but life have to go on they will always live on in our memory blessings to you Sandra and your family kudos to you bye and stay safe❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🦜🦜🦜🐦🐦🐦🐦🐦🐦⭐🌟⭐⭐🌟🌟🌟💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐👍👍👍👍👍👍🍒🍒🥭🍊🍐🍍🍒🍉🌴🍉🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴💗🧡🧡❤️💙🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹💜💜💜💜💜💜💜🤺🧝

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Dania, thank you for sharing your thoughts today. I appreciate your kindness.