How Narcissistic Abuse, Parental Alienation and Smear Campaigns Change A Person

[@northernsegageorge6510]

Every last word is true. Parental alienation is just evil.

[@jenniferdowell9002]

“Polluted” and “Demonic” ….So true

[@MH-cv5ye]

All the pain and heartache has gone now, and I'm back to being calm and peaceful again. It's taken a long time to recover, and at one time really couldn't rest, eat, sleep, think straight, the whole deal. I'm 51 now, so have a fair bit of life left, and still look quite young, so it's not too bad. I have a couple of good friends, and a few associates. I am still full of love too, which is nice. They've not beaten me, and I'm glad my patience and strength saw me through. Too many people aren't so lucky, and I'm very aware of this. My message to them is please try and hold on, things improve, have faith in yourself, and stay true to your beliefs. You know the narcs can't really hurt you. Move town if necessary, and start over. Do whatever it takes! Good luck. 😎✌

[@anonymousanomaly9538]

Thank you for your encouraging message.

[@MH-cv5ye]

@@anonymousanomaly9538 you're welcome. Have confidence in yourself, and the strength to not weaken. Once you get over the feeling of 'loneliness' it's plain sailing. There's nothing more lonely than being near toxic people. Being alone doesn't have to be lonely. It's actually great. You'll trust someone again one day, someone special enough to care for, and who won't betray you. It's taken me a long time to meet anyone, but eventually it happens, and usually when you least expect it. Learning patience is number one.

[@camilleizzo2811]

Good for you! All the best

[@Hugging_Cactus]

Thank You for sharing this hopeful message. Some of us needed to read this today 😎

[@CreativeCookie94]

I totally agree with everything you said! But I have to add one thing: I finally recognize myself again. Before I did my research on what's going on in my family (my stepfather is the narcissist and I'm the scapegoat), I barely recognized myself. I was angry, treated people who really cared about me horribly and I was so aggressive. Everything made me incredibly angry, no matter how small it was. Then I made the decision to cut contact with him, my mom, my brother and my grandparents since they all live in the same house and they all fell for his bs. So I left and started to heal. I'm back to my happy self, I'm relaxed and I'm no longer angry. I have wonderful people in my life and I honestly can't believe how far I've come. Last year around this time I hit rock bottom and now I love my life. Leaving my family changed me for the better.

[@cursebreaker1188]

So lovely to hear a nice positive outcome for once. Good for you Laura.

[@jenniferconroy4517]

Enjoy your new life , ..take care of yourself...

[@kingtiger836]

So true, after going through Hell alone, and after figuring out the difference between not being able to think for yourself, and learning how to think for yourself, you no longer have tolerance, for people who enjoy power over others. You can never go back to being that blind person ever again.

[@pheart2381]

I feel like making myself a T-shirt that sais "NARCISSISTS BEWARE. I see you."

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

You have nailed it Jill! Spot on! We will never be the same. We have been born again.

[@connileawilliams6288]

Out of the blue I found your channel today. Am very grateful. First I have CPTSD as well as being alienated from my children. My kids are adults now & 8 years ago we had finally become reunited. My world was better & more peaceful than I had dreamed possible. Then my youngest son committed suicide. Since then I am once again totally alienated. And my CPSD is roaring. Finding your channel & feeling somewhat validated is definitely a Wonderful thing for me. Perhaps my journey of healing will at last begin. Again. Thank you for the valuable enlightenment ❤

[@ma3alimezo82]

I am genuinely sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and for myself and everyone who has dealt with narcs

[@DandyDuh]

🙏🏻🥹

[@AZDC99]

2:15 "Second.. we have lost our desire to tell our side of the story or to defend ourselves to anyone anymore!" I'm so glad you say because I was almost wondering if I was going to let the flying monkeys win by not correcting them on the one side of the story they were getting instead the third? I've learned over the years in this process that I don't have to prove myself to people like that. If that's all it took for them to jump on the bandwagon, it's really no true loss to me anymore and my desire to fit in and prove things right to people who are wrong just don't matter to me even if it's so-called family of origin anymore. Glad you basically validated me making the same decision. (I was almost wondering if I wasn't crazy or secretly defensive even though I knew I was right about it all along in my heart of hearts?)

[@pheart2381]

Your best bet is too prove them wrong simply by your natural behaviour. My smear campaign was on the lines of me being a selfish,aggressive bitch and a lesbian. I carried on as normal until eventually the people who mattered could see I wasnt like that. The others I no longer have contact with, by choice.

[@AdamNPDSurvivor]

Remember the narcissist is a master con artist. If people believe the narcissist and don't even give you a chance to hear your side then it shows the true content of their character. No amount of truth telling from you will make any difference because the narcissist was already 20 steps ahead of you convincing people. I was married to a covert narcissist for 22 years and lost virtually everybody on her side of the family, which is massive, thanks to her smearing my name to be the toxic aggressive one. You just keep being you and eventually these people will see it. Good luck.

[@caryn99]

You just told my story.

[@Hugging_Cactus]

i had a shop pick up my jeep today to do some custom work on it. its been sitting here undriven mostly for the last couple years. john the shop guy and i talked before he left with the jeep. we talked and talked for over an hour. maybe close to two. it was very natural and relaxed. i haven’t spoken to anyone for that length of time in a couple years at least. i don’t really talk to anyone lately except when i have to. i came inside after he left. i came inside and sat down and cried a bit. i was exhausted from just talking and yet it felt so normal too. i wasn’t crying because i was sad. its something else. i cried because there’s real hope for me; and all of you here too. thanks Jill.

[@AvecPoesie]

This comment certainly gives me hope. Self-isolation can become so normalized when you've lived a life laden with trauma. Sometimes, moments of genuine, umdamaging human contact can be so pure and restorative. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing that. 🥺

[@drchristineobrien9704]

@@AvecPoesie Yes I like that reflection of what happened. Thank you!

[@angel772921]

" Underestimate me that will be fun"..is one of my new mantras☺thank you lovely Jill totally 100% resonate...we are the warriors of truth and enough is enough of the infestation of evil in our lives...so much love..💜

[@therealjohndoe3862]

Thanks. Sadly, I have dealt with an ex Mother in Law who has smeared me for almost 20 years. And of course I have a young daughter who she tried to turn my own daughter against me. But my daughter and I are as close as ever, and I always worked to help my daughter understand what was happening and why. The good news is that I do not have to see my MiL anymore, thankfully, and my 16 year old daughter has limited contact after actually standing up to this person she calls "a grandmother", but who is a hateful and spiteful woman who is an empty shell of a human being. I won that war by loving my daughter as I always have, and we both pay little attention to this person. So yeah...she lost out on a real connection with her kind and beautiful granddaughter. And we are doing great in the end. And of course I was scapegoated by my own father for as long as he lived, and having neither of these horrible people in my life is lovely.

[@jengable4888]

No one should be fearful about telling the TRUTH regarding what has already occured, or is currently transpiring in their lives ! No one is above the law, and for some of us, the abuses that have occured are major human rights violations across the board !!

[@claraciardullo8936]

No longer a slave. Thank you for this wonderful video it has been a personal gift.

[@simonsmith3498]

Let’s hope we can all Live in peace. Keep up the good work For educating me. You are a star Jill xxx

[@confusedwhynot]

I have learned over the years that my husband came from this type of situation and he brought that behavior into our family. We have been hurt by this but with work and time we will heal.

[@AZDC99]

Agreed! This is so uplifting.This is the most epic video for this very moment. Because in addition to walking away on a former close friend who was the most NPD ever at the end of our 15-year friendship, I'm at the last stages of being discarded for my family of origin 3500 miles away in a transparent one by one looking like a coincidence, but obviously coordinated thing as admitted by my hacker younger brother who disowned me last week for not respecting our parents enough for something about something that wasn't his fucking business! Still talk to my parents who are still alive. Anyhow, I am seeing the positive results of not trusting people as much and like you say, you're "bad" or "not necessarily for the worst," perfect phrase for that, me too. But I also am filtering out people without necessarily being too stiff or completely paranoid or whatever and I'm actually becoming a better person. like you said. Never again are we going to find ourselves in the bait-and-switch of a narcissist again! Agreed!! (And if so, not for very very long!) I was already at peace with it and able to sleep with myself at night about it. But this video does not hurt for a morality boost here. The discardees/discarders might not like this newer stage person I've arrived at. But I do because I'm very firm and I can't be their little on again / off again passive-aggressive punching bag anymore

[@camilleizzo2811]

I want to thank you Jill, you have helped me enormously over the last (almost 2 years) when I started viewing your videos I was so traumatized by my (soon to be ex) I believed if I left a comment some how some way he would be able to see the comment and retaliate. And when I say retaliate I mean coming to my hide away apartment I was forced to flee to that he had no idea where I was, protected by a 24 hour security team, body guard when I went to run errands etc. it was that real for me. I imagined being beaten to death and no one would find me for days. You have this way of explaining exactly the way my psycho husband is. All of your personal stories have really resonated with me. My divorce trial is coming up soon and I can honestly say I am not afraid to face him in the court room. Of course it helps knowing that he will be going to prison for tax evasion bank fraud and money laundering (I turned him in to the IRS) if I didn’t gain the courage I would be the one being fitted for an orange jumpsuit! These narcissists stop at nothing. The smear campaign is so pathetic. Grown adults believing his stories! It’s laughable. I was a devoted mother/wife for 28 years. He convinced the entire family I was insane and that I was the one physically and verbally abusing him! I have 2 bent fingers and a dent in my nose constant reminders of the abuse. Thank you Jill for helping me through this journey❤️

[@kristen9827]

Same! Thank you for expressing it so well🙏🏻

[@paularedman8350]

I am curious how you turned your ex into the IRS. My ex (27 years) defrauded my father out of millions and hid the funds. I only found out about it during the divorce proceedings.

[@camilleizzo2811]

I am so sorry your father was taken for so much money. All I can say is I kept impeccable records. It is one thing accusing someone of something, but it is another thing to be able to prove it. I would first consult with a criminal Tax Attorney and they will advise you I hired the best attorneys money could buy and they’ve helped me navigate through the ins and outs of reporting him to the IRS. There are two ways to go about it. You can either go through it as a whistleblower, which takes years or criminally, which is the route that I took. because we filed joint tax returns , I was able to go to the IRS (with attorney representation) and basically amend my returns for the years in question I fully cooperated with the IRS criminal agent assigned to my case, he did not, MISTAKE! In doing so the IRS begins an investigation into my ex-husband. The investigation led them down a path that included money laundering, tax fraud, workers compensation fraud, payroll and sales tax fraud. I didn’t know where the journey would lead when I first took him on, but I don’t regret a minute of it, and I don’t regret a penny that I spent He abandoned me and our kids without any support for another woman and her kids and continued to live a lavish lifestyle and thought he would be able to live the rest of his life under the radar, didn’t happen. He didn’t cooperate with the IRS and now it’s costing him millions in tax penalties fines and attorneys fees. It was so worth it ! I wish you all the best

[@ckvarnmass]

While watching and listening to this, I realized how much we thought was normal in our lives with a narc and how long it took to learn, after we discarded them, that there was no normal. Then it takes years to find what a healthy normal is. In order to find that healthy normal, we had go to through many unhealthy individuals to finally say, "NO MORE"! When I have grandkids, as young adults, and strangers step into my small abode, the first thing they say is, "It is so peaceful here."

[@KilifiKing]

Amen - Facts!!

[@maryannwilliams3893]

Great video, Jill👍 Yes, I have become hyper vigilant after the abuse, and I listen intently on what people say, HOW they say what they say, and their actions. I am very careful now of who I allow in my life. I only give my time to those who I want to give my time to. 💗

[@jameswashnis7990]

GREAT VIDEO DEAR I HAVE LIVED THROUGH HELL AS WELL AND YOURE SO SPOT ON WITH YOUR DESCRIPTION OF HOW WE WILL NEVER ALLOW SUCH SLIME IN OUR LIVES EVER AGAIN...AND IT DEFINITELY DOES CHANGE US AS A PERSON...BECAUSE WE NOW REALIZE THAT WE ARE NOW MUCH SMARTER AND STRONGER THAN THEY WILL EVER BE AND GETTING RID OF THEM IS LIKE GETTING RID OF A CANCER IN OUR BONES

[@khaartoumsings]

I do agree with your summary here. I think we do become hypervigilant on boundaries an expect all people to be narcissists. I've spend a few days with narc parts of the family and found Solar Plexus tensed in Gray Rock automatically, as you say, sharing as little as possible and reacting as little as possible. I did find myself at quite frightening practical situation that Nikkis Narcissist Tapes was also pointing out: 1. Narcissists Are A Tribe that want to increase in Humanity 2. They are not human - MRI scans No Frontal Lobe, No Amygdala fear 3. Covert narcs marry each other for fake marriages to generate supply, children to generate supply. Everything they do is fake for supply. Talking and gossiping is generating supply. Jill I observed all of this with intent. I saw every bit of behaviour, every conversation, every present, every bit of shopping addiction was fake and only for generating narcissistic supply. These people are automotons and very toxic to be around because nothing means anything. They really are living in 'Ground Hog Day' film. Thanks for your videos, they are so helpful ; ) K

[@cursebreaker1188]

What you said is so true. Both my parents are covert narcs and my brother in law he's a narcissistic triangulate jealous envious family gossip. So much smearing going on. Just being near them amplifies my cptsd symptoms. My house will be sold in December going to Spain for 3 months on my own. Can't fucking wait, some peace and quiet. I have 3 months without getting gaslighting and all the other filthy tricks in their toolbox. I have good boundaries but I just want to heal and then finally engage in a relationship with someone where I won't even have to use these boundaries.

[@sylvia5022]

What I’ve been feeling has been validated! And, gives me hope I’ll survive!

[@tdubblz]

I think this video found me. I found that once i started studying and understanding NPD and the impacts of abuse, I realized a few things: I’m an empath and I need boundaries to protect myself from all the narcissists in my family; once I figured them and started holding them accountable, I started getting hung up on, pushed away, dismissed…. Heck even my stepmother banned me and my kids from coming to her home. My brother and aunt collaborated to hijack my mother’s remains and when they alienated me in attempt to punish me, I simply exposed them along with all the receipts. It’s hard learning to protect myself from people I loved who I reasonably thought loved me and I thought I could trust. I miss who o thought they were, but I’m learning to enjoy the peace of mind knowing they don’t control me anymore. But the nite alienated I am the more empowered I feel.

[@maggieo6672]

Thanks again Jill for your insightful reminders. Keep safe, stay healthy and be careful out there. ❤️🙏🖖✌️🇨🇦

[@christianpulisic7784]

Maggie O,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

[@EuniqCustomCreations]

This is my mantra...wow! I had a lawyer tell me fighting for the right to meet the grandchildren of my adult alienated son would be vicious and might be traumatic...I actually laughed and told her nothing can be worse than what I have already been through, I am ready the fight is worth it. Court date Jan 31, 2024 keep me in your thoughts and wish me luck. I hope the court has evolved since the 90's on this issue.

[@alexwurst848]

How has the court been and what was the result of it?

[@EuniqCustomCreations]

@@alexwurst848 it got nasty immediately 😂 My son accused me of being a gang member so I chalked my $3000 paid to the lawyer as a loss and asked to drop the case. My son can live his life without me as he wishes I’m not defending nonsensical accusations. I have a dog now and I’m happy

[@jacobmeis1249]

Going on 5 years of the most extreme alienation. My daughter suffers and her Mother is celebrated for her lies. I am so tired.

[@chocolate-eq6jn]

Bravo! That's not just a presentation, it's a speech to remember! Well done!

[@CPaul-cm7qk]

Jill....I have been in recovery from NAbuse for over a decade and have experienced parental alienation for that decade as well with my adult child..( narcissist ex's diabolical machinations).💔 heartbreaking...is there a video out on details of parental alienation of your adult children...so hard to recover from that kind of loss of bonding I once had with my child as a mother

[@missjudy1725]

You just described me and my narcissistic situation to the tee!! Very spot on ❤️❤️

[@lynnfincham6839]

You loose trust in fellow man, your always looking over your shoulder waiting for next stage of alienation, you loose peace of mind 😕

[@m.f.richardson1602]

Peace and blessings to all of us. Thank you, Jill💕🇺🇲

[@centralscrutinizer7374]

It took 60 years to begin this healing. Very grateful. Thank you.

[@alastair6356]

Parental alienation is a hard realisation to get to grips with. My son married into a Covert Narc Cult and felt he was brainwashed at first but I now have come to the conclusion he has played a active part in his covert Narc in laws trying to destroy my wife and me. They want to excert control and steal my resources. A parents love is unconditional all my life I have tried to help people but and when they got married I thought I was helping them get set up. I now realised I was being milked I retired and they had their eyes on my pension and lump sum. I feel that the human race is despicable and now have serious trust Issues. I have developed a Narc Radar I wish I had years ago for these people have haunted my life . Neighbours, work colleagues and family. They should tell you about Narcs at School and the world would be a better place for it.

[@Allie99678]

This is so accurate! 💯

[@hannaheye]

Wow, my story is so similar to yours and I've never heard anyone else but myself say that life can literally throw anything at me now - I have been through the pits of hell and have the macabre, inappropriate sense of humor now to prove it. It's the only way to survive, though survival is hardly even a thought anymore either. I feel like just a visitor on earth. Thank you for sharing.

[@markhendon1000]

I describe it as a constant life view seen through a black veil. Everything is darker.

[@pauljones5066]

Jill, you are truely fantastic. You do not seek admiration but God you deserve it. Safe, unwilling, unafraid, as you say wow

[@gdm1979]

So true!!! It’s amazing how those things are relatable to me. Thank you for posting 🥰❣️

[@wallymarcel1]

Underscore, “ the most repulsive of human behaviors.”

[@DrMoorehen]

Here here! Ageing mother's take note

[@Lion-1.]

Thanks for sharing

[@RawOlympia]

Thank you, the title was daunting, Jill, but the content was not Bleak House, but a Happy House. You are a true treasure and help to keep many of us safe. After coming from a bizarre & abusive bg, and living in NYc at a dicey time, I felt I was able to avoid crime pretty well, to the point it made me nervous, like, was I cat with nine lives or just crazy lucky? But it comes down to having a sixth sense, never doing anything dumb, ever. You become hyper aware but relaxed in it, for anything beats abuse, excuse the pun. You are an inspiration ~

[@claudiabTV]

This so BANG💥ON!!! Well done - I was looking for good content for a friend just going thru hell... And this really helped me too even tho I'm a decade clear of the hardest disastrous days with a toxic guy... as you say, I'm still boning up my skills of spotting red flags and not jumping in like I used to at face value - and wow, what a difference its making to my happy, harmonious life and spirit! #NeverAgain! #OnceYouKnowItYouCantUnSeeIt❤ 😊

[@stratocaster1greg]

Jill you are a ray of sunshine. Thank You!

[@41Wanda]

Excellent content Jill🕊 Thank you so much for sharing and imparting your wisdom. This is so true. Keep going! Prayers for you all🤍

[@xse-qb2vv]

So beautiful, so intelligent, Thank You for giving us your insights and time. Appreciated. 🙂

[@dr.marnihillfoderaro1064]

Jill, great video!💕🙏🏼😃

[@christianpulisic7784]

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

[@Crystalquartz964]

Thank you Jill. I will never suppress my intuition again!

[@simonsmith3498]

Thank you, love and light 🕯

[@rhondamathis1323]

Damn straight

[@LR-yu3mx]

As always... Thank you, Jill!

[@TheTeganOsmondChannel]

This was so wonderful. Thank you so much

[@lorinapetranova2607]

One of your best talks. Empowering and good for reminding me of this journey through a super rough road. Your words are like an insert to the navigation map of incomprehensible bs until you reach the shores of serenity, compassion and (God willing) Peace of Mind. Many blessings to you Ms. Wise. Also I have been enjoying the green container of wonderful red flowers. Very nice.

[@markitabravo162]

Incomprehensible Bs is one of the best descriptions. I'm just trying to get out sanely from a looong battle and now have a 2 yr old who he has full costody of and it has been the hardest fight that I'm continuing to fight for daily. When I met him I was a successful happy loving RN and saw nothing bad in the world. I owned my home had 2 cars and was loving life with my then 3 kids. Today, 8 yrs almost, I'm homeless, jobless, still have my license to work thank God, childless from a DV situation where he called cops on me for self defense and I was arrested.....close to no money and I'm scraping myself back up to dust myself off to fight because I AM NOT A QUITTER. these videos are so enriching and felt for the first time someone was writing a book and knew exactly what I was. Going through and it's giving me strength and vision to know I'm not the crazy one he makes me out to be.

[@SpiritualTarotGoddess]

Thank you! So clear. Very inspirational.

[@SF-bw7vn]

I don't think it's the trauma that changes people to be stronger people, it's the strength to survive in us already, that eventually got us to survive and changed ourselves Thank our own strengths

[@markhannay7586]

This message is truly one of a kind👏

[@JadeOh181]

So true! I've come to these conclusions a long time ago. God bless.

[@cherieblount2994]

Needed this video! Truth!!! 🔥 Thank you Jill! 🤗

[@rloc99]

Thank you for this message

[@richiec196]

Exactly. Thank you!!!

[@Treezp1]

Yes! 🤜🤛 Thank you Jill! & I support that having done all this & more, now I can more fully be who I always was but instead of being often devalued for being who I am, it feels so right & comfortable & really like returning home. Even if negative events are occurring, I still value so much the freedom, happiness, peace, connection with the natural world, etc that I can again feel. I value these new & enhanced emotions so much :' ) 🙂❤ T

[@sunnybreeze3391]

I have survived a sociopath. Like you said we survived evil. I thought i got rid and ran away, and my oldest son 22 yrs old run to him. And now i have parental alienation. Buying my son a pilot education and my son rejecting me because of my boyfriend. I feel like dying all over again.

[@deniseann4757]

I love this women . Now to find alike people in my life 💙grateful for your channel

[@drchristineobrien9704]

This one is sorta sad to me. I understand the need for boundaries inside and out but worry that some of the people affected by this horrific mental disorder will be jaded for so long. I'm relatively new here but may I suggest or rather request...a video on "Life after narcissism?" Or "Ways of healing; or Timeline of healing." I know some comments I've seen do an extremely elucidating job of typing that out and it seems very helpful and accurate. I would like an affirmation of that or maybe share your journey of healing and how long? Or of course doesnt have to be personal. Just what you've learned (?) Thanks so much :)

[@christianpulisic7784]

Dr Christine O'Brien,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@drchristineobrien9704]

I edited this and your like went away. Weird. I read this tonight. And realize I'm just feeling rather hopeless. But I do understand the scope of your KZbin channel and am just really amazed at your depth of understanding and courage for pursuing this educational channel. You're already putting yourself out there sooooo Much!!! Hope my comment doesnt come across as pressure. Take care! loved the live chat!

[@Shiningbrilliantly2024]

Great advice and information! Thank you

[@theenlightenedtarget]

You are so welcome!

[@charlesarnold2306]

True every word you are an inspiration

[@ThomasMurphy-k7p]

I love what you said it is so true but I noticed you opened by saying this change isn't necessarily for the worse then you go into great detail, all true, I've lived it, but getting bsck to what you said for example the horror of the change, you are correct, again I loved your honesty but to be real the change makes you tougher, more resilient, losing the nievety which is probably spelled wrong, all of this unfortunately for the worse. I wish it wasn't so but it is so. Keep up the good work!

[@tgrant9383]

Unfortunately, my son is high functioning autistic and lacks all forms of discernment. Believed everything she said especially her threats to hurt/kill herself if he left her. Weaponizing social media with a smear campaign, slapped him with a TPO when he tried to defend himself by rebutting the lies (no threat to her) she filed felony stalking charges. He tried to commit suicide 5 mos into the relationship. During the time when she was doing everything in her power to convince him his family was responsible for his autism and problems in life. We moved away from her /the area as soon as we could but close enough to see his baby. Within 8 mos. she had ruined his career and shamed him so badly and threatened that he would never hold his son ever again (the last time was in 2019) and on Skype she told the baby "look at your daddy, he doesn't love you, he doesn't want to be with you". All because he couldn't take her abuse - physically, and emotionally, calling him retarded, autistic. This has been nightmarish and surreal - like the worst movie ever! it's been pure hell for our family since the relationship began. The social media sympathizers believe these one-sided, ridiculous, and heinous lies about him and our family, she just keeps on posting - ... this is just so sad. How can people be so cruel?? It's ongoing and still raw for us - but your channel and those who share their experiences and comment are very much appreciated.

[@romaineknepp6620]

Thank you for your help. You look gorgeous.

[@SoniaProteau-cj6tk]

They just look for a reaction 😂 and they see people as entertainment 😂🤣 💯

[@stacysmith8723]

So very true

[@skypedersen5447]

thank you

[@prfu1222]

Be selective who you let into your life. The ex is alienating our children now. She has totally alienated my step son. Who is intimidated by her. She is trying to work on my daughter. But we have a strong bond. I use the remind app to keep in contact with my daughters teachers. Because there is absolutely no co-parenting going on. The ex has refused to share ideas or give up information. So I have to use other angles. I deal with the silent treatments, the gaslighting, everything in the book. And the flying monkeys. She is good at befriending women who have lots of kids with no husbands. And they easily do her bidding. She picks women with lower self esteem then her own. She is the leader. lol. I stayed in the relationship to protect my daughter. But the breaking point for me was when the ex took the girl to go buy weed. It is a trap house and they sell more then weed. And to make it worse she had zero remorse for her actions. And the courts do not care. Be selective who you let into your life. Words to live by.

[@katielang4510]

Glad I found your Chanel

[@MistyEry]

Parent alienation is a difficult topic for me because my ex was abusive and I am attempting to protect my child from abuse. I was accused of parent alienation by doing this by him. I had no idea what this was and wanted to learn about it. I don’t want to hurt him or my child but my priority is for protection. When my ex can demonstrate that he is safe, I’m all up for a relationship between them because I do believe fathers play important role in the lives of children. I want to ensure the safety of my child is priority.

[@tannislintz1124]

This is what is being left out for so many mothers who have been accused of parental alienation, the reality of them trying to protect their children who are afraid of their father due to abuse the child themselves disclosed and the justified fear the child has of being with the an abusive dad. For the past 2 to 3 decades the courts have been giving sole custody to these abusive dads to then truly alienate the children from their mom they felt safe and secure with, but who was not able or allowed to protect them.

[@hemantkulkarni7679]

There are more things that make us powerful with ability to carefully choose select words within communications. It also gives birth to Sigma mentality that you become a lone wolf with a substance

[@MarcoPolo-qo1ge]

💯👌🏼 Thank you so much sister 💚💙💜🙏🏽

[@amarisrania1585]

Remembering how my ex would tell me that only he would put up with my emotional moments. Realising what a put down that was and wondering how much he perhaps even triggered the behaviour.

[@ingelathune-boyle]

Amen.

[@christianpulisic7784]

Ingela Thune-Boyle,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

[@lifestylebyrachel]

Very tru and great video

[@ianandme2]

Except for the people who haven't changed in all of these ways. Some people never learn to be good at enforcing boundaries. Some continue to end up with narcissists.

[@DJH97]

Yes. Would agree except for one statement. Just as I was getting out of my miserable 30 year marriage with a narcissist my oldest son died. I was getting ready to move out of the house I shared with narc and my 36 year old son passed away. That was much worse than the emotional and mental gymnastics So the death of a child trumps the miserable abuse.

[@AudioRevelation144Hz]

Absolute truth 💯🎯👏

[@sapphirespalace2549]

GODS JUDGEMENT IS UPON THEM

[@SF-bw7vn]

What if the narcissist is accusing someone, e.g. psychologists or people who are helping the victims, of "alienating the children"? Does the legislation address these important details? Otherwise they are only helping the narcissists, making it more difficult for victims to be helped, are they not? Because the people who have helped me and saved my life are still constantly accused of that, luckily no laws are there to incriminate them where they live.

[@gracebriecampbell4076]

1000% truth 💣 🔥

[@simonsmith3498]

I will never be the sam. My identity has gone. Help Jill xx

[@rhondamathis1323]

3:22

[@boltsdluna]

1 John 4 Test the Spirits 4 Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. 2 By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, 3 and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you heard was coming and now is in the world already. 4 Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. 5 They are from the world; therefore they speak from the world, and the world listens to them. 6 We are from God. Whoever knows God listens to us; whoever is not from God does not listen to us. By this we know the Spirit of truth and the spirit of error. Definitely test the Spirit don't want to be one with a person ruled by Strongholds

[@truthandreality4650]

OMG, MARRY ME!!! 😄 Well, I subscribed, at least, that's something.❤

[@lilakilonen5663]

Rap it down !❤

[@tamaratzarina7183]

True ❤️‍🔥🌹🙏

[@cassandrareneeharden7419]

in feeding him for 3 years of blind trauma myAdult children and myself suffered from as well boyfriend out of her sick desperation to kill my reputation income life erasing in cruel character assisination trauma bonding into suicidal mindset in trying to get me hooked on drugs to overdose and alcoholism imprinted on my name untruthfully, and knocked off the planet to solidify and continue her beautiful life of lies getting rid of my Good Hearted uncindutiinal Loving Smart Intelligent, Little Baby to Little Girl who was honered Student but called names through out life belittled discouraged but still stayed strong to Loving and Creative Talented, Dream Inspired Book Writer, Piano Player, Singer, Church Woman and Mother always trying my hardest in making my Grandparents proud, and somewhat shy, but in timidness growing out of into being extremely, truthful caring supporive and intutive Unconditional loving caring Partner. But Hated by A Bioligical Mother so badly to this day needing guidance everyday to get through all the confusion to keep my life Well. :/100%

[@jackierobinson8785]

Even if that monster has moved to the basement to set up his command center for all things evil. But his malignant punishment for my disobedience for not bowing down is a freedom that only I can see. Revenge is a wash when justice rings out its Christmas bells. Are we not all shepherds on the hill keeping watch over the truth if our lives. I have said my PEACE. I have told the truth. It is enough...

[@simonsmith3498]

🕯🙏🕯

[@DanaD-er8dn]

🙌

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

How bad potters mold good clay into whatever they deem appropriate then glaze and fire and reglaze and refire until their made vessels function strictly only as desired for their diabolical and devilish needs...and kutgw Jill.

[@sweetcello3358]

What if the narc is your adult daughter