How to be SOFT + CONFIDENT (without PEOPLE-PLEASING)

This is how you do it from the inside out.
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0:00 People-Pleasing vs Kindness
1:57 Genuine Compliments
3:19 Know Your Wants / Needs
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My name is Ariel Niu. I share views and guidance on social dynamics and human interactions through understanding our emotions, expressions, and energy. I also share concepts on how everything and everyone is connected. Since 2018, I have been practicing using my own inner state to change outer experiences and people. I love creating content about human connections, and I am grateful and excited to help those who resonate with my messages.
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[@NiuViews]

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[@browniebun]

People pleasing is how I cope. I need to be perfect and in control because deep down I feel unloved and uncared for. And so I manipulate others and circumstances to get what I need. It feels vampiric as I need the energy of others to feel alive and well. It doesn't allow me to get to know the other person, because I don't really want them, I just need their validation and admiration to get by. 'Doing from love and not for love' definitely is the remedy and a healthy reminder to stay centered, loving and self aware with kindness. Thanks! ❤

[@BonBonHassan]

This is exactly what I'm working through in therapy - rediscovering my values, wants, and needs

[@ambertresso7265]

Did you have to go through a lot of people to find the right therapist for you? I know for a fact i need a therapist and psychiatrist but I’m dreading going through the whole process of finding the right people. 😅

[@avabackupaccount]

@@ambertresso7265 same

[@val_souza]

I found you through TikTok, and this was my first time watching on KZbin. What an insightful video! I loved how you clarified and set the tone of what it's like to be genuine and kind without pleasing people. Excited to watch more and be part of this community

[@NiuViews]

welcome to a whole Niu world

[@sithumiperera5212]

This is really eye opening for me.Note that this as a complement coming from a chronic people pleaser.I thought being a people pleaser will avoid trouble and I'm being a genuinely nice person.But, instead it got me into more trouble and I was a nice liar. And also the other day I listened to your video on how to improve listening skills and I have already practised that with my mother.And to my surprise IT WORKED!!!!.I mean after 20+ years. And I wanted to mention that here. So,I mean I'm gonna take this advice too.Thank you so much for everything.❤😊 P.S.I have ADHD and I have problem with keeping attention and I can't control loudness in my voice.Honestly I don't feel how loud I am, I mostly notice it when someone else points it out.I start talking casually but end up broadcasting.😅I don't know may be you won't have tips for that, but if you have I hope you will make a video covering that too.🎉❤

[@maych9676]

mind blowing and so simple at the same time

[@TeaWitcher]

Thank you!!! Merci boucoup. That event looks so fun wish I could go in person.

[@deionna]

love the doing for vs from love differentiation. thanks ariel!

[@kennabuggin3570]

I needed this! I appreciate your examples. Thank you Ariel!

[@jenagarraway]

You’re so interesting to watch

[@JourneywithGigi]

omg I LOVE this - thank you for making this very important distinction! appreciate you so much!! 💕💖✨

[@OfficialHunnii]

Please make a book on these types of topics!!! (Femininity+socializing+softness+directness) I’d buy it!!

[@NiuViews]

Working on a masterclass!

[@AudAkos]

This was really interesting to learn. I'm really nice and ready to help all the time to the point of people pleasing but learning to be more kind. Also are there videos about the different voice tones (sharp, soft and playful)? I'm curious to find out more ❤😊

[@NiuViews]

Yessss many have asked for more specific guidance on tonality - coming soon

[@AudAkos]

@@NiuViews Sounds great looking forward to it 🙏🏽

[@theetravelhippie]

your contenttttt UFFF❤

[@bellacrespo_03]

you are so inspiring ! thank you for sharing 🫶🏽

[@rahileayar9101]

my favourite time💕

[@inu0000]

Thank you for this, I needed this so much ❤

[@therosecolored]

your videos are what we call absolutely clever! thank you from brazil!

[@victoriasecretttt]

Ariel, you have amazing content! I find equally amazing how you present your cosmetic exploits! For instance, your lipstick- i love, love the shades that you pick for yourself. It's not the lighter pinkish hues I see on everyone- which doesn't look good on me. Please advise on your lipstick styles and your ideas behind how you pick your lip colour!

[@NiuViews]

Thank you!! I like nude and browns or mauvy colours, they suit my skin better. I try to keep my look minimal with a pop of rich colour on my face or outfit. I’ll think about sharing more lifestyle in my content :) experimenting is key to learning

[@Tahia_rt]

This!!!

[@onethree123d]

You look so much younger without the bang I don't know why

[@IAmTheRockStarPharaoh]

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