How to cope when the world is canceled: 6 critical skills

[@wonderllama3584]

I felt my anxiety coming back again... Because of the isolation. This is a very important time to not only take care of our physical health but also mental health.

[@drali]

Timestamps: 0:08 - Why the coronavirus has disrupted our lives 2:00 - How does this outbreak impact our mental health? 6:08 - Skill 1: Bring your offline support online 8:55 - Skill 2: End the endless scroll of social media and the news 12:48 - Skill 3: Reboot your system for habits, rituals, and routines 16:02 - Skill 4: Master a thing that absorbs your mind and challenges you to grow 20:31 - Skill 5: Understand the different between distancing and isolation 23:21 - Skill 6: Find compassion

[@Zymbo007]

I had a social event canceled today. This was something that I had been looking forward to for a while. For a while during the pandemic, I have had this feeling that any time that I planned something, it would be canceled. It has been crushing to have this cycle happen over and over. Thank you for this video and your channel.

[@YourFavoritePlatypus]

Lol such a sweet dad. Thank you for this video I'm going to share it

[@drali]

Thank you! I hope this helps people deal with this difficult time.

[@kegebeer3222]

@@draliTHANK YOU for doing these videos! How are you doing? I hope you're able to have some kind of income, maybe KZbin subscriptions? You're a fantastc father!

[@ingridpotgieter9768]

This could not have come at a better time, I had finally found a routine that works for me after years of struggling with mood and personality disorders to then have my university and work close and my whole schedule fall apart along with the additional stress of loss of work. Was bordering on another panic attack when I found your video and it's really helped. Thank you so much!

[@drali]

A *lot* of people are in this exact situation as you. I know how much this sucks. I put a lot of work I put into launching my own independent business and most of it was completely canceled last week. I'll make a follow up video soon about managing uncertainty and worries related to the coronavirus. Until then, glad to hear this one brought you some peace. Thanks for the comment!

[@iz7975]

Hiya Ingrid. I just wanted to say I relate to this so much! Just perfected my schedule last week and was so happy about it. I’ve been panicking as well. You are not alone.

[@sarahlynch9596]

You are so inspiring. I am slowly progressing towards my masters in counseling psychology and I found your feed. I am so glad I did. You have so much wisdom, calm, and positive impact for me. I am sharing your videos on my face book self care project so I can help my friends and family do better mentally and emotionally. You are doing such a wonderful job. Thank you!

[@l.g.8028]

Thanks so much Dr. Mattu, I’m sure your video came in at the right moment as a lifeline to many. We are very grateful to you for sharing your knowledge and compassion in these strange and difficult times. Wishing you and your family the best!

[@drali]

Thank you for the wonderfully kind comment! It means everything to me right now. I just want to help bring some peace to people during this crisis.

[@littlemagicfrog1294]

I’m in Korea and we’ve been dealing with this for weeks now. I lost all my work and it’s been such a struggle. We have a five month old baby to support, and there’s no help out there for us. We are trying to move back to my home country, but now it’s taken hold there. Very tough time for us. I hope we can all pull through it together.

[@drali]

Dear Keelan, This sounds like a very difficult situation. First, do everything you can to protect your family and your newborn. Second, if you are in need of financial support, is there anyone in your home country that could send support to you? Lastly, consider resources near you. Either neighbors, even if you don't know them, or perhaps your home country's embassy? Wishing you the best, Ali

[@rebbecanoir]

I will pray of you

[@IAmSweetPea]

Thank you soooooo much for sticking with KZbin!! Grateful to have you and I’m sharing with all those I love! Wishing your beautiful little family health and safety.

[@susanne5803]

Hi Dr Mattu, great video! I find I like to fall asleep to WHO (virtual) press conferences. They really calm me down. I tried abstaining from the rising numbers but I got such a shock when I saw how much they had risen in the meantime that I now try to look up the numbers once each hour so it's not such an extreme jump up. We're very worried about my mom. She's a war fugitive. Since she is severely disabled nothing changes for her in reality. But the news awaken the trauma of hunger, escape, flight and fear, loosing family, not being able to buy things - it's really, really horrible. I don't mind much shutting down. As a child I experienced once a holing up of several weeks due to extreme weather. As a child that is kind of exciting and adventurous. (The parents worry, though.) As a student I spent some time myself in quarantine - admittedly too ill to bother at all. And with my chronically ill grown up child we every now and then spend a couple of weeks home and in seclusion because he is ill plus immunocompromised. The longest was three months during kindergarten ... You kind of learn tricks and techniques ... From Europe: all the best to all of you and stay safe! #AlertNotAnxious #FlattenTheCurve

[@TheShamanicWitch]

Thank you! I'm an graduate student in a community trauma counseling program on the east coast. We were all pulled from out clinical sites this weekend from our school. It's kinda crazy. I started a fb group to share scientific info, and offer a community , this has/is helping me.

[@drali]

I LOVE that you created a community to support one another! That is what is going to get us through this global crisis.

[@clintrothell4896]

How fitting that you kind of “made” some music with your daughter during the video. It is hard to give our kids attention while we are trying to get something done. Nice work and good times.

[@xuebinhan5329]

I love the moment you interact with your daughter. It's so authentic and loving 🥰 Also, thank you for sharing the contents, they still come in handy 3 years after!

[@lilang5983]

Your content (from the video to the links in your description box) never stops to amaze me. Thank you for your amazing work :)

[@drali]

What an amazingly supportive comment, thank you!!!

[@briannawerket9222]

Thank you so much for this video! The ideas presented are extremely helpful. I just wanted to add that I find myself struggling with what I think is a kind of grief. Given the amount of time that we’ve already been at home, and the fact that it doesn’t like we’re much closer to going back to even a semblance of normal, I find myself crying a lot. I think I’m grieving for the dreams that I had before this happened, and the activities that I used to enjoy. I find myself panicking about never being able to hug my grandma again, or anybody else I love. Or never be able to enjoy concerts in the park or travel to Paris, like I always dreamed. This is making me overwhelmingly sad. I wonder if I’m alone in that?

[@cnroth]

Thank you so much for this video! I’ve already linked a couple of your videos in a Tumblr post I made on mental health during the outbreak, and I just reblogged with a link to this video. Lots of great stuff in here. Your commitment to making mental health knowledge and coping skills available for free is amazing. Also, your daughter is adorable. Take care.

[@100uand100me]

That’s quite helpful and very much needed. Thank you so much!

[@drali]

So glad to hear it was helpful!

[@beckbecks7654]

Thank you so much for being willing to make videos to calm people in a time of crisis! Definitely going to be sending this video to family and friends of mine.

[@drali]

Thanks for taking the time to share this kind comment!

[@dhruvivora9763]

I've started reorganizing some stuff I always wanted to do with myself and let's see how I can put this down as a plan. And being at home all the time..sucks!

[@drali]

Good luck with the projects!

[@clarissaluigi4631]

Thanks Dr Mattu for your insightful advices for coping with the Coronavirus anxiety! I find them very helpful and practical, thank you!! Stay safe!

[@abigailrandall7520]

I'm a nurse who is immunocompromised, so I've been coping with my homies repression, denial, and humor.

[@drali]

Humor is often the best medicine 😀

[@bharadwajpapineni7067]

Ali you are a life saver may god bless you and your family such a humble mannn i love you

[@stefaniamirri1112]

You video is really useful, thank you for this.. But the sweetness of you chatting with your baby is incomparable!!! Great Doc, thank you!!

[@sejalschullo3046]

Thanks Dr. Mattu, we are sharing these videos with our AP Psych students both as coping and content review.

[@Misseggy24]

Such good advice! Thank you!!

[@drali]

Glad to hear it helped!

[@erburu]

I discovered this channel a few days ago and I like the things you share and the way you express yourself a lot. I think the 'mastering something' tip is truly helpful. For me, it's books and videogames. I've been trying to become kind of an expert at one of my favourite survival/strategy games (Don't Starve) and it really takes my mind off everything that's going on outside whenever I'm playing. Exercising and meditating also help me stay calm and maintain a routine. I'm currently reading 'Waking Up' by Sam Harris, which talks about mindfulness and introspection, and it's a really practical and interesting read. Thanks for your videos, stay safe!

[@surrealdynamics4077]

Fenomenal video! Lots of very usefull tools for this tough times. You said, which I highlight because it's super important, TO BE KIND TO ONESELF. Perhaps you used other words, but the concept is important. To go easy on ourselves, we are not perfect, so in this times of less productivity, trying to stop self blaming thoughts about being unproductive aren't helpful. It's super important to try to get somewhat organised with what we want to do during the day. Set easy to achieve goals to feel accomplished at the end of the day. It's not necessary to do a lot, but we need to keep doing things. The endless scrolling is the demon that grabs our attention and leads us to guilt at the end of the day for doing nothing at all but scrolling. Things that I plan on doing is a lot of reorganizing around the house, with my files, photos, the google drive cloud... I'll try and get into drawing, maybe digital art. Making a drawing a day would be fantastic for example. Things like that Thank you so much for your videos! They are really really useful and applicable to our lives. You really make the difference with what you do!

[@drali]

Thanks so much for taking the time to share your perspective, Sebastian! I agree with you here and appreciate your expanded definition of what it means to be kind to yourself :-)

[@robertamiranda-alfonzo5345]

Thank you for this warm and informative video. I am sharing this with my students at Nevada State College. :)

[@drali]

Glad to hear it helped!

[@Fabieisthebest]

This is wonderful, thank you and double points for you and your daughter time!!!

[@chukwuemekaukpabi9522]

Thank you so much for making this video!!! It means a lot to me.

[@drali]

Thank YOU for watching and commenting!

[@emiliam778]

Great vid. Very helpful as always. Thank you for all the tips. Take care.

[@drali]

Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment!

[@soaringfamiliescounseling]

Great video and tips Dr. Mattu! Staying connected during these difficult times is essential. We say that even though we are practicing social distance, it doesn't mean we can't be social. :)

[@spreadyourwings24]

I know your daughter´s interrumptions might have seemed a problem or obstacle for you, but they actually cheered me up

[@xzonia1]

Thank you for this video, Dr. Mattu! I didn't realize how much I needed this advice until I heard it. You genuinely made me feel better (and not just because Do Re Mi is one of my favorites songs). I plan on checking out that positive resilience course from Penn Univ too! :)

[@tootsie-rollingstone]

Great information. I just left northern CA a month ago. I was living near Redding. I plan to look into some of the courses you recommend. Thanks for sharing. I hope you and your family are well. 😊🥰

[@tootsie-rollingstone]

Your daughter is too adorable.

[@rachaelkossy3048]

Love the video! Thanks for all the suggestions :)

[@maria.says.hi1]

Hi Dr. Ali, could you please talk about PMDD? There is not a lot of resources out there regarding this disorder and it's highly stigmatized. Thank you!

[@5MinutePsychology]

Judging by the COVID19 growing statistics I am guessing this topic will become a very popular one. Regardless, let’s stay positive, practise relaxation techniques and be strong!

[@fulfillingliveschannel2623]

Great Video! Thank you!

[@lifeanswersonmylespaul5848]

Thanks so much.This video was very informative during this difficult time. It also touched on many topics that will definitely help adjusting to a new normal for me while still being compassionate to myself, maybe take that yoga class online I’ve been putting off lol.

[@angeltang8203]

thank you for this video this is exactly what i needed!

[@BrightKreations]

Nice topic ..nice listening you 👍New here🤝

[@uptown3636]

Dr. Mattu, is that a copy of Leviathan Wakes on your bookshelf? Not only do you make compelling content, but you have good taste in books.Thanks for your meaningful videos.

[@drali]

Good eye! Yes it is and thank you!!! Love the series and love the show.

[@fin4889]

I know it's a sensitive topic but I'd really recommend a book after noticing the way you handled the stressful situation with your daughter and the guitar, it's a great book called Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon. I don't mean to be condescend AT ALL, but I think it might be a great book to use the new time we all now have on to massively improve your relationship with your daughter so it doesn't have to be you winning or her winning, you both can win. Again I really want this to be a positive message rather than a negative one. Kind Regards.

[@drali]

Thanks for the recommendation. I wouldn't say that was a stressful situation at all. Rather, it was a playful one. My daughter always likes to play with me when she sees her ukulele or my guitar. As a CBT child psychologist I'm trained in parent management training and parent child interaction therapy. This situation wasn't one in which I saw any need to deploy those skills. Once the interaction started, I wanted to demonstrate that in this current climate it's 100% fine to have your children interrupt your work in this way.

[@lawsontaylor4625]

Hi! I know this is unrelated to the topic of this video but I just wondered, are there any mental health occupations which you feel you would struggle to do/want to do? The reason I ask is that I'm questioning if I will make a good therapist because I don't like the idea of working as a mental health worker or recovery worker. Those jobs seem too 24/7 and chaotic (almost too frontline) whereas a therapist role feels more structured with clear cutoff points with clients. I just wondered what your thoughts were and if you have had any experience in other mental health roles/what you thought of other roles you've had?

[@rangeetbhattacharyya4309]

Nice video man, thanks a lot.

[@simplysheuly5084]

Please make a video how to get ride of ocd (washing,cleaning)

[@joelgp627]

can you do a video about industrial psychology ?

[@adtc]

Dad: "Hey sweetie I'm just showing them your ukulele. Is that okay?" Kid: "Yes daddy" Dad: *Proceeds to bump and destroy the ukulele with his guitar* Kid: 😱😐😠😡🤬😤

[@joostjansen1094]

Thanks for the tips and guidelines Ali! I have a question: I sent this video to a friend with ADHD and she couldnt watch it because it was too long. She has a lot of allergies and other problems so getting the virus would be a big problem for her. Even worse, she is in the middle of her thesis and cant focus at home. What would you recommend to her to deal with stress, anxiety and maybe focus on her work?

[@FoldAPieceOfWater]

Thanks for this, I appreciate this video a lot. Also, there's an (Firefox) extension called BlockTube, I just installed to have my KZbin feed infection free.

[@cathy921ontheradio]

Hi, I'm currently interning at a small mental NGO and I was wondering if you had suggestions for what NGOs can do to support people in the current situation. I've seen a lot of posts people have made on social media, but I wanted to know if more can be done. Also, since I'm interning, how can mental health professionals and the people involved who are supporting others also maintain their own health? Kind of feeling stressed XD. Thanks!

[@samarin6411]

Frame the video for iphones pull in zoom in to have that nice fit to it

[@kayamotovlogph8554]

hello sir, watching sir to get more ideas from you

[@mariereynolds9493]

It really was a shame how it was handed I really did have had much worse flu type illnesses as a child,.

[@grandmastreasure8160]

Sir I'm from India and want to study psychology .. I'm going to take a undergraduate degree first .. what's ur suggestions about it..

[@teknophyle1]

facebooked and saved in references.

[@drali]

Hope the video helps!

[@mannukaur6675]

God please help us 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@brycecabatu]

Did student debt or not making enough money in your career scare you as you went through your journey in psychology, towards your career?

[@BL00PY.]

So cute that baby

[@drali]

She’s the best!

[@dalt117]

I picked up baseball card collecting and it has been so effective in calming me!

[@radhika9324]

He looks like devi's dad from never have I ever.

[@aymaservicesntrading]

Hello

[@sksnkdmd8570]

I wish I watched this a year ago, I fully did the opposite of everything listed

[@sadiaiqbal7622]

Sir highly thankful for responding here. please can I have your email as I need guidance in psychology field. I will be grateful.

[@anniea3411]

Haha I used to self isolate before it was cool. Nothings changed for me.

[@kegebeer3222]

THANK YOU for doing these videos!! How are you doing?I hope you're able to get some kind of income maybe KZbin subscriptions? LOVE your channel! BTW you're a fantastic father!