Living during a traumatic event: 4 skills to recover and grow

[@drali]

Timestamps: 0:27 - What is a psychological trauma? 1:15 - What types of trauma might we experience because of coronavirus? 5:00 - Survival, recovery, and growth after a trauma. 6:30 - Problem solving skills 9:05 - Emotional regulation skills 13:08 - Social support 13:56 - How to cope with grief 15:40 - Resilience versus post-traumatic growth 16:10 - Making meaning 21:14 - Recovery and growth is not a linear process

[@dahomey2001]

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[@dhruvivora9763]

I've been unable to do any one thing because I kept focusing on too many. So one thing I want to do from this video will be problem solving.

[@drali]

I know it sounds so simple, to solve problems, but it is very difficult during traumatic times AND something that can lead to the biggest relief.

[@emiliam778]

For me the most helpful thing about your videos is the fact that you share your own experience. You talk about your difficulties and struggles. You talk about how you approach to deal with them. You talk about your wife, kids, job. That’s most helpful to me. I guess it’s because by talking about the struggle you normalize it. That’s helpful. And for that I thank you so so so much.

[@elizabethnorwood6395]

So many take aways from this video. Trauma can induce personal growth, gratitude combats the negative mind and permission to feel it all (or nothing) as it is all part of the grieving process. Thanks so much for your videos.

[@PsychoSocialCreation]

I love the point about extending gratitude to people because in this time we all need each other thank you love this video 💕🙌🏽✨

[@drali]

Thank YOU!! I hope the video helps people to cope during this time.

[@aznbillybob4sho]

We all need to extend gratitude, great point!

[@drali]

Gratitude and compassion are the main things helping me through these long days.

[@vikiwang5216]

I would like to show more compassion to myself. Growing up in a culture where you should always push through difficulties and not complain, I always push myself beyond my limit. Sometimes I forget that I'm just a human being like anyone else and I'm allowed to feel difficult and incapable. Thank you!

[@11Sabres23]

I definitely need to stop trying to do everything at once and start by focusing on problem solving. I also ordered that rock steady book and will read through that tomorrow. Today, some things kind of imploded on top of everything happening in the world so tonight, I am going to try and get some sleep. Tomorrow, take it one thing at a time and work the problem. Thank you for making these

[@chelseamarkley411]

So, I've just discovered your videos and I love them! I'm 36 years old just now going to school for the first time for clinical psychology. I discovered this is what I want to do from my own struggles. At first I thought I was suffering from a bout of mania, but I am getting stronger through this epidemic. I relate so much with the struggles of being a parent during these time. All of your advice is so great. Thank you!

[@KyubiHime]

Thank you for these videos. I was already working on dealing with my health-based anxiety with my therapist before this happened, and now that my symptoms have began returning, watching your videos has been very helpful in helping me understand my anxiety and helping me acknowledge that this isn't normal - this is a trauma that we are all going through. I have started keeping a journal whenever I have panic attack symptoms, and those have been helpful; I'll also try what you suggest and write for at least 20 minutes a day. Although one thing I will say I'm grateful for (besides you and your videos :) ) is my partner. He has anxiety as well, but has been my rock and talkes me down from my own panic attacks. I am also grateful for my close group of online friends who are all supportive of each other. I will continue to practice thinking about things to be grateful for. Please keep up the great work, and I would love to see more psych-related videos!

[@kayleighkendall5597]

This is great and so needed. Thank you for doing what you do, it makes a difference. :)

[@drali]

Thank YOU for your kind and supportive comment!!!

[@rohandalal]

Thank You Doctor! ❤️ Been watching your videos from a week now.. I was so lost last few days,had multiple breakdowns, but today I am feeling more stronger and positive! They way you calm people down is a blessing! I have been meditating also! and now it doesnt feel as hard to get through as I thought it’d be! 😊

[@drali]

So happy to hear my videos have helped in some way!!!!

[@Gorffage]

I will be making art to help me consider & construct a new narrative of what’s happened to me over the past year or so, as well as connect that to my past and future narratives. Thank you for the video!

[@suzettesedano1091]

Thank you so much for this important information. I am hoping to grow from this experience and have very often found myself a bit out of my depth in navigating all the changes for my family and for myself. I am learning to more patient with everyone around me and with myself. I really needed to hear this today.

[@anniea3411]

How can you tell you're in survival mode? Is survival mode black and white? "If you're numb, its impossible to feel anything" - because I have no idea what's going on in my brain. I'm both numb and feeling ... something..at the same time. Also! Thank you for all your work during these trying times! You definitely deserve a whole lot of gratitude from your subscribers!

[@drmscoggins]

Survival mode can look different depending on the person, If you are not feeling like yourself and you cannot figure out a distinct source of change then it may be that you have kicked into survival mode. If you recall the last time you felt trauma and went into survival mode, compare this situation to that and look for similarities.

[@anniea3411]

@@drmscoggins a distinct source of change? I think at the moment I'm doing absolutely nothing. Staying in bed 20+ hours a day. Generally only getting up to eat. I do want to improve, but I just feel frozen. It's harder to build a routine when you've never really had a routine in the first place. My guitar string snapped, which was apart of my daily routine. I think that set me back and just put me back in bed.

[@jonathanalcantara3385]

Thank you Dr. Ali!

[@drali]

Thanks for watching! Hope it helped.

[@manateejaq1718]

I feel for you regarding having a small child at home during the lockdown. My daughter is 5 and one thing I keep thinking to myself is how thankful I am that she is not 2 or 3 while this is happening. Take care. Thank you for your helpful content. I will be focusing on gratitude and growth.

[@rijjas8457]

Thanks for this video :) I appreciate all your advice around mental health personally and as a psychology student I learn about my field at the same time ❤️

[@munajedski]

Thank you for the encouragement. Important points that will help a lot of ppl. Although I miss family and friends and just being able to go to the store without thinking twice about it, I have been enjoying isolation probably more than most LOL

[@PreetiSingh-xd2qq]

You are just fantastic doctor..You have made it so easier to overcome the pain. Thanks

[@drali]

Thank your for your kind words!

[@l.g.8028]

Dear Dr. Mattu, what a wonderful video you have given us, you are such a good professional and a lovely human being. You really care for all of us and you are making a difference in our lives. Each time I see you and listen to your advice I’m able get some hope again. All the best to you and your family!

[@deanmcmurph9234]

Thank you. Had a tough day and this calmed me

[@skyfull2895]

thank you, from my heart

[@bostonbob9667]

This video is still very helpful one year later

[@ДмитрийСеменовых-у1ш]

Thank you!

[@terriwhalen3618]

Hi I am new here. Nice to meet you. I was a covid-19 long hauler for 2 years. I caught it in march 2020. I was isolated for over a year and a half. Coming back into society was very difficult and I still don't feel like myself most of the time. I found your channel because I got an idea today I may be dealing with unresolved grief. In addition to having covid-19 , I lost some relationships, not due to death, animals, money, all I had, I lost everything including my keepsakes, ect! I was homeless awhile, in a shelter for 6 months, and have been in an apartment a year now. I have been handicapped from cataracts, just recovering mow from surgery, thankfully and I am feeling down. I isolate, everything seems a struggle, i feel anxious, depressed, and sometimes not able to make decisions. I sm wondering could all the above be unresolved grief? I lost my mom in 2011, thought I had grieved this. Thing is, I am highly sensitive and empathetic, I wonder could I even be grieving my toxic ex, divorced last year? I appreciate any feedback here. God Bless!

[@eg_ak84]

Great content. Cheers!

[@drali]

Thank you!

[@danitajminer3279]

Wow. I'm watchig This 10 28 22 What a big scoop of validation. excellent video! thank you for explaining what I've been Experiencing. I'm Emotionally 20 pounds lighter.

[@drali]

Thank you for your comment! Glad to Hear the video was validating.

[@TheDarknight7000]

Í have ptsd of a long time ago trauma but this situation did'nt help at all

[@silverlining7112]

Same here. Not just what's going on but also too much time with my own thoughts

[@TheDarknight7000]

@@silverlining7112 Hi ím doing very Well now í can recommend you a KZbin Chanel That help me a lot With my anxiety, but is in spanish you have to watch it with subs

[@silverlining7112]

@@TheDarknight7000 sure, I'll give it a go. Thank you

[@twin_o7m.730]

I understand your position and stance on trauma; however, I struggle just to view this. I’ve had enough trauma and can’t even begin to process this c19 crap 💩 😤. I couldn’t view it, too difficult.

[@slxbeats8146]

Your facial expression😂is hilarious. Thank you for sharing your knowlegde with us on youtube even tho some topics are not so much in depth, at least it will help bring awareness..

[@sanakesyndrome4319]

Can a trauma from my childhood prevent me from becoming a psychologist?

[@drmscoggins]

Not at all. I think it can make you a more compassionate psychologist as you understand trauma first hand. I say this as I am a psychologist and experienced childhood trauma! Good luck with your adventure!!

[@sanakesyndrome4319]

@@drmscoggins Thank you so much for the answer

[@davidbokuku7642]

Peace to you Ali, would you mind talking about moving on from divorce? Thank you.

[@LalBahadur-wc2je]

Sir I'm 13 year old and i have watched a gore video uncensored i want to forget please help

[@freddiebeltran8174]

Thank god i found this video. Ooof thought i lost tou guys for a min.

[@anniea3411]

It sure is wibbly wobbly, timey wimey......stuff... Doctor...

[@TheRealK33N]

Is that a purkinje cell on the wall? 😂

[@freddiebeltran8174]

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[@stellarart3444]

I just saw you on Dr. Mike, and again, I was hoping for a real trauma discussion, but it's the pandemic. I understand that a lot of people are asking questions about this, but it's not long term trauma. Some of us need real answers. Please label your videos correctly. It is a big disappointment for me.