How to find the truth (of your partner's feelings)

[@Genevieve8002]

"If you're sleeping with them, you have the right to ask, even if they haven't given you 'a label'..." Totally agree with this!!

[@worldshaking0502]

This gave me power. Thanks!

[@EN-bw4bd]

Asking is one thing, getting an honest Answer is ANOTHER THING.

[@gill426]

That's why casually sleeping around is no good idea in the first place.

[@sethtenrec]

@@EN-bw4bd I think you missed the point, you can tell you’re getting a dishonest answer. Then it’s time to move on. Maybe that’s the part you missed.

[@bluejean-1968]

My ex is still chasing me. He pushed me away a year ago. I’ve moved on. Wish he had the confidence to share his feelings.

[@ShakiraG9339]

This is my motto. No games, speak the truth and listen to my intuition.

[@SusanWinter]

That's a fantastic motto.

[@EN-bw4bd]

Shakira,.. So you can tell truth from LIES,.

[@chiefhood]

The problem is, even with the truth, the whole thing is a game!

[@222veronicabean]

you are so right. I learned long ago to listen to that knot in my stomach. its always spot on. ignore it and you wiil be betrayed.

[@SusanWinter]

Excellent intuition. yay!!

[@chrisbroussard4484]

Susan Winter love seeing u an hearin u

[@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788]

Ignore it and you'll be betraying yourself

[@kellystone1535]

Game playing is juvenile behaviour. Its cruel. Its dishonest. Leave game playing to children.

[@eatermckinnon4644]

girls seem to like the games. Even though they say they dont.

[@Victoria-ix4vr]

@@eatermckinnon4644 No, not all

[@Victoria-ix4vr]

Not me....tho I used too..but too much on my plate to really play it

[@cozettem8226]

nut so phamous We hate games, the problem is we are too emotionally involved and invested by the time the hot and cold games start and we want the guy we thought we had back.

[@mvp272]

100. If people only realise there is no right and wrong in the truth. If the truth upsets you then that's your problem not theirs. You deal with it. And you move on in wich ever direction you choose. But playing games or even lil lies create a completely false reality. You build off the lies. It's probly the most disrespectful act a human can do to another. Decieving someone especialy using there love for you as a weapon against them for your benifit is about as low and as weak as one can get.

[@ldsentertainment3130]

Miss Winter is easily one of the best in her field. There is no lying with her. Just pure logic and pure honesty.

[@SusanWinter]

awwww.... thank you!!

[@meenanaicker8999]

I've listened to a lot of other coaches but clearly you are the best Susan. You delve into our innermost feelings and thoughts. You are very beautiful and your advice is timeless.

[@janefriel6895]

Plus she leaves ego outside the door.

[@chibuzonwankwo1793]

I totally agree. Thanks for being straight with us.

[@chandlerbryant7996]

yeah, she gave me some great dating advice in a one-on-one a few years ago... love her.

[@rachaelella6395]

BOOM! Thankyou 🙏 When your gut is telling you one thing, yet their actions tell you something else

[@kathrynd4912]

That gut... that instinct... Yes, powerful. Believing in it over the fact that even they may not know themselves and what they do... it’s scary. I truly believe actions mean more than words... those actions speak volumes

[@icegolf101]

Wholly...this is so true. That’s why we avoid our instincts because the truth is too damn scary. Thank you!

[@reynaGG8]

"The hallmark" is that everyone is in a defensive mode and masking their feelings. You move right, they move left on the gameboard. Truth!

[@EN-bw4bd]

Reyna,. U R so right,.

[@jennifer8929]

Your advice brings such clarity. The worst feeling is when you have that strong gut feeling and vocalize it (in a calm but honest way)but they responds as if you’re overreacting or crazy.

[@show_me_your_kitties]

Yes

[@PeaceFan1]

Game is FEAR ... SO True Susan!! Which is a Shame ... People go back to what is Familiar to them and if you're trying to create a REAL Relationship (what I am trying to do) with a person who isn't used to being REAL and FEARS Closeness and Intimacy .. It just won't work and I'm trusting my GUT now!!! Thanks for the Encouragement!! xoxo

[@SusanWinter]

I'm wishing you well!

[@viviancampbell1331]

PeaceFan1 Same thing is happening to me. 😢

[@kkeiter]

@@viviancampbell1331 and me

[@princhipessa1969]

I had to stop watching all these videos online to clear my head but love watching you as you are so direct & honest. I value that as I am the same way! I have walked away from my ex’s games (this past week) and concentrating solely on my gut & what the Universe tells me. Thank you 😊

[@Rocket9944]

Hi...

[@evaantal2854]

How do you know it’s a gut feeling or paranoia ?

[@cottagegymfun]

Imo initially it is difficult to tell. But overtime clarity comes. But the point is by doing, responding to what our gut tells us, we learn what to trust.

[@eatermckinnon4644]

thats true!! could be paranoia. Some peoples instincts radar is just really off

[@darkoshmarko]

Eva Antal yeah I have absolutely awful anxiety and OCD and perceive everything as a negative or as a threat so it’s really hard to tell what is my gut and what’s just in my head ☹️

[@ClassicRockDJdotcom]

@@darkoshmarko i Can identify with you on this. And as a result I become my own worst enemy I end up self-sabataging and I messup what could have been good relationships. It sucks. :(

[@darkoshmarko]

ClassicRock4EVER ugh I’m so sorry ☹️ I hope it gets easier for both of us ❤️

[@ar1079]

Gut + reading of nonverbal actions = 100% trustworthy feeling. I always read actions subconsciously..

[@johndonaldson3619]

If you're always in tears you're dating a onion -RUN!

[@corrymanners6963]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sincitybarbie8766]

Bahahaha. Gonna remember that

[@lovlovelle9237]

Ugh! That's the hardest part for me as an empath. Sometimes you just don't want to believe it, smh. I never speak on it either because I feel like they're going to think I'm crazy and keep lying anyway. I just shut down completely. You're right, we should be more outspoken but sometimes just the feeling needs to be enough to walk away too. Most times you won't get the answers you need and deserve anyway. Thank you 🙏💚

[@rubaa.3297]

Here's a question, Susan: how can one tell the difference between gut feeling and wishful thinking? Sometimes I feel like the distinction between the two is blurred.

[@shubhangeeshelke7836]

Thats so true

[@AggroGaming]

Easy, watch the body language, if this girl str8 sees u everyday stares at u stares away does all this extra body movement wish is unnecessary, go up and say wasup? Seriously now if u don't see all these and she's just walking around normal and wishful think that she likes u, don't do it

[@frankovera7553]

What makes it blurry, your gut feeling or your wishful thinking? Wishful thinking is only a hope not affected by the situation. But you gut is a direct consequence of the events in real time. Wishful thinking is not a way to judge but in cases you want to try everything before you end the relationship. But the gut feeling is a real indicator. A wish is the desire for happiness, we all have that desire, but it's not a indication.

[@1chienandalou]

For several months they are going to be blurry. It’s how our brains work. You need to spend time for the dopamine rush and oxytocin buildup business (even if you don’t have sex, cuddling, falling in love etc can still have it going on) to settle. And go through experiences with someone as well. In the meantime, don’t make major decisions and make all decisions rationally. (BTW, I have had a lot of male friends through my life and in my experience, this is how they operate, and also give advice to each other, including me. HTH)

[@1chienandalou]

Basically a lot is in the eye of the beholder. And the first few months of love can be a very distorted lens.

[@AngelFriend911]

You have my mentality that’s y I like this channel. You tell it like it is.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

One men I Loved so much..we had wonderful two years. He was so Honest! I was always telling him how much I loved him..so one day I asked him if he loved me. He thought for a moment and then he said.." you know..I do not know what Love is.". He was so sincere. I really don't think he did! I think there may be many people out there..who really don't know what Love is.

[@phoenixrising8007]

I agree, At least some ppl are self aware and honest enough to admit it. An X once said that I have a big part of his heart in what I thought was an honest sincere moment at the time

[@zepherreload]

I did trust my gut feeling when my wife was late from work I asked her out right what was going on she ended it there and then few weeks later she seeing someone new lol turns out I was right from the start, I always trust my gut and I'm always up front and honest some don't like it but its who I am.

[@philipcrocker]

Thank You Susan. It is a real blessing to hear such wisdom from you. Appreciated...

[@dorisdelaney5664]

I love your videos. You’re so straightforward. Can you do a video on older men that we are dating long term who seem overly interested in the best interest of a much younger woman under the idea of helping her.

[@dolphinrose21]

it takes one person to move forward and make the engagement! so true, dont play games for games, there is no foundation in that for a relationship, its just building castles in the air

[@DONT4GET_SUNSCREEN]

I can not believe you talked about this subject. My gut instinct was telling me my guy was up to no good but he kept denying it and BAM the other woman contacted me a week ago and told me they were involved for SIX MONTHS!!! And we were together for a year!!!!😠 LESSON LEARNED!!

[@phoenixrising8007]

YES Always trust your gut The body never lies

[@FirehorseG]

Cannot believe your timing on this subject. You're the only coach I listen to and feel is the healthiest, most respectful advice. I feel in tune with you and your values. On the surface, my loved one seems like a runner... But my gut clears away all this situational rubbish . I've been following my heart lately and it feels wonderful. Thank you. 💜

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for your great commentary, Gill.

[@angeladallimore8079]

Yes Thats the secret Trust your gut

[@daniellamoreno3616]

Agreed with this!!

[@dwayneheeter]

I think why play a game, It's all too confusing as it is. Great stuff!!! Thanks Susan!

[@hussani2006]

I feel every word Susan. Thank you you are so dam insightful

[@SusanWinter]

I appreciate that Tom

[@suzannedixon5438]

If you are sleeping with a person, you have a right to ask. Of course you do. This is genius. Love your no nonsense videos.

[@jcr-studios]

I learned this the hard way after finding out my partner had been sleeping with other women for over a year. Kept telling me “honey, of course not... I’ve won the lottery with you.” Heartbreaking lesson

[@ameloucorazoncariaga4789]

Jacqueline Rimmer Z.

[@eatermckinnon4644]

did you still stay with him?

[@richardeliasjames5190]

Jacqueline its same happened with me but I leave her because if the someone betrayed so that is not good.

[@theshield1613]

i thank God I'm a loyal honest guy. there are 1% or less loyal men out there , finding a loyal man is extremely hard

[@eatermckinnon4644]

@@theshield1613 come on man!! Stop tryin to sell yourself so hard!! 1%???? Really?? So you're saying 99% of us are scumbags, cheats and lies????? Whatever. lol

[@bu4459]

Greetings Ms Winters, First, thank you for your content. I am commenting hoping for some enlightenment about how to deal with, increased insecurity after leveling-up to 'girlfriend' status. I am 43 and, 16yrs his senior. A quick backstory: My history until recently, was one of toxic codependency . I used to over give, as a rule, until a couple years ago. Hence, this is my first, truly healthy, relationship with long term potential. He, comes with a secure, attachment style. Dating for several months, he recently outlined his intent to evaluate for long term. Yay! Now feels like, 'waiting for the other shoe to drop.' Thanks in advance. -Billie

[@ezgicetin5855]

Susan your subscriber count doubled in a few month! That's awesome! Great video by the way :)

[@SusanWinter]

Hi. yes, I was astounded. 6000 new subscribers last month. I'm not sure what happened... perhaps just a tipping point.

[@jmg7467]

The best advice I have ever heard being given. No tips on changing yourself; how to catch a man; how to please someone else or say what they want to hear. It’s REAL. Congratulations, you are a gem.

[@JDsyoutubepage]

Thankyou so much. I’ve been looking at this all wrong. I tried this game bullshit and it just confused me. I am a genuine guy who has spent a majority of his life in relationships. The past 5 months I have dug so deep and focussed on myself, physically/mentally/spirituality and come so far. Recently the universe gave me a massive test and brought a girl into my life which has been a struggle, even though I know the struggles we all internal. I have tried all these game methods and felt like crap doing them, always wanting to see a result, wondering if it’s working etc and losing myself into the vortex of overthinking every move I made. It’s not me. I just messaged her asking her about some things, if it scares her away at least I can rest easy knowing that she could not handle me and my deep ness. Thankyou so much Much love from New Zealand 🇳🇿

[@hiddensonata5098]

Dang, too bad you're in NZ and not in the US. I'm looking for some deep ness . Most guys can't handle that. I was also very upfront and honest about everything too. Oh well, should have listened to my gut. I'm at the point where I'm getting to be ok with being alone. All these games are not worth it.

[@fiae2897]

Why do men use these game tactics, I think its cruel. I trust my gut feeling no matter what.

[@MonicaSancio]

Wow, THANK YOU for giving it to us straight, authentic and right: let's TRUST our gut and be honest, even if they are not. INTEGRITY is the key: I hope to attract my next boyfriend who is also super sincere 😁✅❤️🎄

[@MonicaSancio]

The TRUTH of DATING right here👏🏼✅❤️🎄THANK YOU, SUSAN: You are a great Mentor to me and thousands 🤗 Merry Christmas! 🎁💚💐

[@ellewonderful7145]

Monica Sancio Fit same here! Loved this message

[@MonicaSancio]

Elle Ward Thank you, Elle! 💜🤗

[@garethoconnell4894]

Well, you certainly will attract a boyfriend if you already haven’t, your beautiful

[@kellyellis8920]

SO incredibly true!! Every time my " gut " feeling has tried to tell me something is " off " about whatever situation , I can say that 100% ( yes , 100% ) of the time , it has been accurate! You fight it , reason with it , and doubt this internal dialogue because you don't want to believe what it's trying to tell you. LISTEN!!! My gut said " he's cheating "... and he was , it said " this is not the job you'll be happy in "... and it was a bad fit..." something feels off with this new friend of mine , even though she seems nice "... she's hitting on my husband... Intuition is always right!

[@kaylasheppard7746]

How do you tell the difference between anxiety and a gut feeling?

[@breakingbombast4439]

You are Right! Since my divorce, my gut was the only thing I felt I could trust, and I have grown in greater confidence and wisdom everyday. Intuition is the way to go for every aspect in life, it is a gift; receive it!

[@Good_Fairy_Oz]

Worth watching just to see ur beauty

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks Malia.

[@TelaDenaBeautyRN]

Love your videos and advice! They helped give me permission to just be myself and trust that those that want the relationship that I want will be on board and weed out those who don't. The game is exhausting being myself is easy. Thank you!!😘

[@SusanWinter]

Oh how I love reading commentary such as yours!!

[@luulips]

Oh yes indeed. My gut has been telling me something about this guy ever since I’ve started dating him. I’ll be having a chat soon with him. I’m disappointed that he didn’t want to continue what he appeared to be. My gut told me all along that something was off therefore not allowing me to get a real connection with him. I believe a lot of it was game on his part. I was totally real maybe that’s why I could feel his faking so clearly. I believe he saw me as such a challenge that’s all. Sadly I feel hardly anything for him anymore. What little I was starting to feel has faded I’m afraid. I’m so glad I was straight with him it has been indeed powerful and strengthening. He’s still just texting and sadly I don’t even want him to do that anymore. I don’t wanna hear from him at all. I’m gonna have to talk to him soon. Besides that my guy I fell off with earlier this year has been trying hard to get my attention. I finally sent him a smiley face. He was immediately in my dm chatting and yes I’m happy about it. He’s always been great at that and calling me without hesitation. He knew my love language lol. I’ve missed him and believe he’s missed me. I believe our main issue was our huge age difference. Its time we talked about the elephant in the room. We’ll see how it goes. 😊

[@lovelyjoy.01]

luulips I just went through the same, now I have changed my number and keep moving forwards, I was a challenge for the guy I was with and I tried it for a year to only findout he is really NOT the guy for me or my future husband and at this point I don't even want his friendship no longer either , the sex was great but I've had better😂😂😂😉

[@luulips]

Kesha Powell 😂😂😂 I know that’s right! But they think they’re all that. Not!

[@WorldOfARandomVegan]

luulips Are you older or younger than the guy who has been messaging you again?

[@luulips]

WorldOfRandomStuff I’m older than he

[@arcticbliss2330]

Kesha Powell if I think back to to guy that gave me restless nights and no relationship investmestment, as he was mostly unavailable, it was simply and only sex that was the incredible and only thing, like you iv had better too. He knew my weakness. I prayed so hard to get him out of my system to become real again. I was his fantasy when he needed a diversion from his routine only. But clearly we spoke about our blue prints, and our blue prints were different from each other. I have learnt to get to know a person better with serious conversations about many things and about relationships before becoming sexually involved. Because we women, once we are sexually involved, we don't see thing from a focus than when we have not yet slept with a man. The th I g is when we sleep with a man, we take in their spirit. We actually do as receive them into our bodies. And that changes our focus a bit and makes us attached and serving to our men. The reason for this is that God made women like this. But in a modern relationship where marriage may not be at its core in a new relationship, it gets conflicting especially if the man has no interest in investing in it. Have you ever noticed how you may have gone into a relationship for sex only but you got hooked. Because as women we take in their spirit during intimacy. We need to stay focused for a while and not have sex until we are satisfied with a lot that we find out about the man. And no games. Games are harmful. Truth will always manifest in the end and the gamer gets busted or have destroyed so much through manipulation tactics. His tactics will invariably be exhausted. Wishing you a great journey as you trust your instincts and not shove them aside to accommodate someone else.

[@NW-pt8zz]

I ran a game on a girl in the beginning and when I started to show my true self, she backed away. I was hurt but I realized she fell in love with my game and not me and I brought that onto myself.

[@MauveBlossom]

"Slipped" into a situationship with an old friend for whom I had limerence - when I least expected it. Worst decision of my adult life. He clearly pursued me as a "target". I trusted him, went with the motions with rose coloured glasses, I gave him my all - my vital life energy, time, undiluted attention, heart, body and soul. I "fell in love" and got so invested thinking we were on the same page all along because he made exceptions and confessions and love bombed for the longest time and his actions led me to believe with surety that he feels just the same. I kept falling deeper into his vortex until I got consumed and surrendered my power. He had me completely wrapped around his finger. Then, when I told him I love him - he threw a hissy fit over a silly situation that he created only so he could push my limits, made me confront him, and use that as collateral against me for making him "step back" so he could "protect me and our friendship". He kept stringing me on this juncture onwards by never giving me an out, nor a communication channel or benefit of the doubt. He clearly cut the cord and didn't think it necessary to even let me know! There was no apology, accountability, no clear explanation, absolutely nothing that showed he wanted to save what we had despite me offering so many chances to mend and move on. This whole experience has been so confusing, bizarre and draining with a lot of crazy highs and lows, but I now think it was necessary for my growth and learning. I have decided to go 100% no contact with him for life because his toxicity, dominance, disrespect and lack of participation or investment - the games, manipulation, deceit, the betrayal, the shame and hurt are unforgivable and have all scarred me. I have to say that my gut recognised a million red flags since he reconnected. A million red flags that I recognised but chose to dishonour as wayfinding signals from the universe in the lure of chasing The Dream, as you say. This emotional damage also extended itself as physiological pain in the form of sharp heart chakra pressure and shallow breath. I'm learning to heal and calm myself. Eventually, I ended up manifesting the break up for my own good because that was always the universe's plan - to make me see the light. I'm grateful. Thank you so much for your all work Susan, you have been so vital in helping me navigate this❤️

[@thephoenix2176]

Whoa honey de chile Nothing wrong with refresher courses! Thanks

[@mrsbobbicisse]

I kept asking my friend if we were okay and he said no> I kept feeling it in my gut and began not to trust him and acted oddly towards him.. I said "are you okay?" and mentioned observations and he still said we're fine... I find out later that he's been helping his daughter financially as he stated he wouldn't in previous years.. that's fine because she's his baby but he was holding that info and info that his savings were nearly depleted from me and THAT is what I was sensing. We were really still the same, something was just off.. I'm relieved.

[@miskasykor]

Game is a weakness..so true! Thank you Susan.

[@whisperingwind7730]

Susan, you are Amazing!! Thank you so much for this video!! I do trust my gut in this "game playing" relationship I'm in. He likes to turn it around on me as if I'm just being unreasonable or emotional but inside I know, I feel that things just aren't right. I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom on this subject. Much love~ ❤️

[@SusanWinter]

"turnarounds" are a commonly used psychological tool. It makes you doubt yourself, and somehow you end up being in the wrong for expressing yourself. This game works until you see through it-and Whispering Wind...your vision is clear.

[@sharikleinman9278]

Susan, do “runners” ever come back and stay?

[@whisperingwind7730]

Susan Winter You're so Awesome!!! 👍🏻💗☺️

[@phoenixrising8007]

YES The only validation we need to trust is our own ✌️

[@kpopangel]

You're like the big sister that I've never had. Thank you for sharing your ever so wise insights! Merry Christmas to you, Susan!

[@SusanWinter]

That is so sweet! Thank you for saying that.

[@pris_pris]

I LOVE your videos. Always on point. Please keep them coming. Your confidence radiates.

[@MelissaGarza]

Love your videos! Great advice!

[@milinamikovic7314]

„... you know when you’re sleeping with them you do have right to ask!...“ OMG Susan! You are amazing! 😍

[@seymourelykeley]

Milina Mikovic just because you ask doesn’t mean they’ll suddenly have an epiphany and begin spilling the beans... people don’t change

[@EN-bw4bd]

Having the right to ask don't mean you will Get honest Answers from those who are bent On telling lies for a defence,.

[@nonameyesname6181]

Susan u saved me from pain All stinky stuff on line about give space use phrases. For man It is normal for man to runaway U r absolute . no game . Power to be straight

[@simonrisi854]

Love your work. Very informative. Thank you :)

[@Wowc1999]

Terrible advice. What about conditioned emotional reactions?

[@ritagini1067]

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[@marytommasulo5752]

But the feeling won't escape me. I have never felt something like this before. When I try to forget him, I see him somewhere, or he sees me. Maybe he gets these messages from people that tell him to let her come running back to him. In his eyes I could always see a sadness that he wasn't happy in his life, possibly his marriage and I felt like he understood how unhappy I am in my marriage looking in my eyes. There's never been a connection with anyone like that in all my relationships. It's changed me and he doesn't even know some of the most hurtful things that have happened to me recently . Are we just on different wave lengths where we aren't coming together. I won't pursue him cuz I will never know if he loves me. Very lost, and I'm leaving him alone, that's what he wants when he drove past me and left me standing there.

[@hollytaylor-reeves]

This really works.❤

[@angelsamson5486]

I just know he is right for me the connection is mental Just when he doesn't communicate what he wants Like you said you don't know which direction to go in x

[@denisea.9536]

empowering

[@newisthedawn]

Ahhh definitely need this talk. I always tell people to follow their gut. I have a gut feeling me and this person have chemistry and that I should act upon it but it's been ages since I've had a real proper crush that I keep second guessing myself... but in other areas of my life im fine especially when approaching other people but with my crush im like stalling all the time why?

[@roseh7135]

I’m so glad I found your channel 😌

[@dearsunshine5459]

I just love her I LOVE HER fantastic!

[@heavythinker16]

How about if you've overthought things too much and your gut is already confused?

[@john_dren]

But when “our gut” tells us something is going on. That does not help us with things we do not control. Whenever I felt that, I authentically mentioned it but she would either get angry for me “doubting her”, or simply give an excuse. No matter what we do, it seems that the partner’s perspective would eventually be decisive in the outcome.

[@eatermckinnon4644]

if she playing you. Nothing you can do but leave or stay with her feeling confused allllll the time

[@evernynemarions567]

Sounds like my situation

[@chilloften]

Ewe. I’d been looking for her to reassure & reaffirm and watching things for my self.

[@EN-bw4bd]

J.buso. That's just how it is, sorry to say,.

[@TheShanshuprophecy]

Have watched a stack of your vids & am well overdue to say thanks for taking the time to offer them .. 😊

[@SusanWinter]

I really appreciate that- thank you!!

[@Butterfly-vg4qp]

I avoided someone I really really liked in the past because of fear. My solar plexus clenched up because I was unprepared for a conversation. It was an awful feeling but it was definitely because of a lack of confidence and not lack of feeling that created that

[@ritagini1067]

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[@terrencecooke3216]

Go with your gut! So profound and existential. Great advice, and not only for dating, but for making all sorts of important decisions. Learning to trust ourselves is the theme here. Thank you Susan. You are a breath of fresh air. GOD bless.

[@SusanWinter]

Same to you Terrence!

[@angellovelove203]

thank you, great video!!!

[@TheTrioGCN]

Omg. You are so amazingly insightful!! This ties in with so much of all the stuff I'm learning, and what I call it is inner being guidance. It all makes absolute perfect logical sense!!

[@ghadag8128]

Brilliant vidio susan you simly end any confusion , thank you .

[@heidisummer5]

I love this Advice.

[@theotheo590]

susan im 30 yrs old very smart introvert person and watched a lot of get back togeter coaches, ur by far the best one and ur saying very very smart stuff that i used to spend days thinking about lol, u have such wisdom and experience i wish i had tht also

[@SuperQdaddy]

I trust my gut and knowledge...I'm a realist...game gets you laid..your gut keeps you single...

[@emanaturalsaus]

V true

[@priscillaalberts4908]

Love your videos. I've learned a lot, thanks for sharing...

[@cjennings6179]

We are busy. We have separate non clingy lives. Troubles of our own to WORK OUT. I am WORN OUT & Down & Out of GIVING service to aid everyone around me. I feel its time for this person to be Served her desires to be CARED FOR. AT LEAST HALF THE TIME. She needs to be SEEN & HEARD. SHE is lovable. She feels LOVEABLE as a WONDERFULLY MADE PERSON with charming qualities. Compassionate. Caring health fanatic!!! She likes many kinds of fun & EXCITING HOBBIES! 😅💛😅 She is a decent God fearing woman. Grateful for life. Does not abuse alcohol. Hates drugs. Hates destructive habits. & hobbies. Loves LIFE!!!😆 Desires to LIVE HEALTHY & happy as many years as possible!!! Would like to have male partner to discover new adventures in this life. Being happy. Being inquisitive. Being like scientists!!! Eventing good things. Is it possible with the messed up misfits of today???

[@albertbaza2767]

Listening to you puts me at ease. It's almost as if you are in my presence, consulting me one on one. Everything you say, describes exactly what what I need to hear to help me in my situation.

[@jesuscervantes3442]

I had to write because there is some my bad information especially with dating. Some will have you try hot and cold and some punishing the partner with games. Its soo confusing but with the gut and some body language it makes a great barometer. Thank you for a real video!

[@wread1982]

But two of my ex's in the past accused me of cheating when I never did,, so not everyone gut is 100% accurate

[@luulips]

My friend of whom just recently admitted to liking me for more than a friend and that he hasn't wanted anyone else (I admitted I liked him too by the way) has started to pull back after that. It seems to be kind of a pattern. When we start expressing emotions he appears afraid. I'm not afraid though but I'm giving him his space for a bit but I will no longer take it personal as I did in the past. After 3 plus years, I know there is some truth in what he said and in what I feel. Actually my gut told me how he felt a long time ago. Our 20 plus age difference is the problem I think.

[@TK-MSPsych2010]

Thank you Susan again for your wisdom. May be you can make another video related to my confusion. I have an american man in my life for about a year. I know, i see, i belive, he told me that he is attracted to me, he cares deeply about me, and he is passion about us. Whatever we have, he never experienced with anybody before, but he doesn't commit. Last Sunday I initiated a conversation and he stated that he is NOT ready. What does it mean? Im confused. When i tryed to say goodbye to "us" he hugged me so tight as never before; he even picked me from the floor and hold me in his arms for 5, 10 min or even longer...it was a long moment and it was very special. He was not letting me go... I know we have something very special, but what can hold him from commitment? Hint, he was never married before and he didn't have a long term relationship. Is he scared? He is letting me go to date other people, but he doesnt really want me to do that. He asked me to stay connected, be friends and continue to hang out. What does it all mean? I'm so new to dating after 25 y of marriage and im from Ukraine 17 y ago. I'm lost and confused. Do other people experience the same? What is your experience, wisdom saying about situation like mine?

[@racheldebner1955]

Do you have a video on military or long-distance relationships?

[@muhammadfarissidek1686]

Hi susan, its that okay to tell my girlfriend what i really want from her? If yes, can you give me some tips to do it. Thanks susan to consider my question.

[@francesnsd41]

Thank You so much!!! You are wonderful nothing like your intuition! ! Love & Light XOXOXO

[@angeladallimore8079]

Follow your intuition your gut feeling i agree i dont like game players im an honest person it may seem rather mixed on here but tx never comes across clear neither do i like players whom hot and cold one min then next min opposite i know whom i am im a decent woman im not percect but i dont know anybody who is ive been through a lot recently but i. always thinking of others sometime it seems as things not working out how youd like thats when perhaps its time to have a break or leave

[@day_dreamer_]

Yes Yes! Very well articulated, thank you Susan. I have actually felt this deepening connection and trust with my instincts recently and was just discussing it yesterday when you posted this video, so very synchronistic. It is very empowering....it has driven me nuts to feel things are off and be met with dismissal and denial when I address it but I think when you deepen your confidence in what you know inside it doesn't matter what games another is trying to play, it will unravel. My instincts were put to the test during a crazy wild fire event and served me very well in navigating through that crazy, destructive situation. Following your gut can save your life.

[@SusanWinter]

Hi day dreamer. Thanks for sharing the story with us.

[@rena2836]

Please please write a book. Your advice resonates with me, yet all of the advice out there says the same thing that goes against what I feel is right.

[@krishnadalwadi7702]

how do you differentiate your gut feeling, when you are the kind of person who doubts everything?

[@JuicyFruityify]

Never forget the first time I really heard my intuition. A girl I'd been dating for around a year, one day suddenly decided to behave like we had never been dating, she was just suddenly, indifferent. I approached her with the intention of asking 'why?'. When I moved closer to her, my body, indeed my whole being just felt like I had to get away. It was just a feeling of 'run!'. It was so peculiar but I listened to that feeling and immediately walked in the opposite direction. A sensation of pure elation washed over me after that. Of course her doing that broke me. But after a ton of inner work, years, I can catalogue a hefty list of complete deal breakers that I was completely ignoring with her. (low self esteem, manipulative, withholds, emotionally avoidant, non-communicative, devious, a taker not a giver.) My conscious mind was swept away in the 'beautiful girl loves me' thing but my unconscious mind was keeping check and let me know in no uncertain terms to run! Have you ever had a similar experience?✨

[@moons4363]

Yes😊

[@seymourelykeley]

JuicyFruityify you were just an option to her and a better one had come along. Women habitually keep as many as they can in orbit and pick the one who best serves their purposes. To women it’s the offer on the table that matters the most NOT the person

[@emanaturalsaus]

Yes with a man

[@maryemmanuel4725]

I love your videos Susan...they always get to me at the right time. Thank you

[@SusanWinter]

thanks Mary.

[@thomaslieutier48]

i really the way you explain things

[@elenabelacastre7789]

🦋Tks WE REALLY DO HAVE TO STRESS TO PEOPLE THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION, ITS THE KEY TO ANY & ALL GOOD FRIENSHIPS & RELATIONSHIP!S!! 🦉 P.S. I might take a few sessions with u,, Ill let u know! 🐞🌹

[@lorriekelly964]

Yes you're right it is Your gut that's gonna Tell U can't trust them.?

[@hali-hellcat2622]

My gut, heart and head are all saying n feeling something different how do you make sense of that.. I guess I sense something is off so I suppose that's gut.. Thx SW much appreciate your teachings x

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

Just Stumbled on your channel. Love it 💗!

[@KO-im6sm]

What If your ex confides in new friends about your relationship which ultimately affects your relationship and you find out later? Also, what if you realize later that your ex may be posting pics on facebook with a mutual friend so her ex sees it (while you're dating) and find out later what's going on?

[@emanaturalsaus]

Yes exactly

[@gerrimiller3491]

You're very pretty 🍰🧁🍰 I really appreciate your knowledgeable lessons about people. My life has improved and I make wiser decisions to pay close attention to actions and how others treat people then I decide who I will allow in my circle 😊🍒😇

[@lonniemillsesq]

the same thing you called "my gut" is also what you called as "my ego" in another video... i want to clarify when something is "my gut" my intuition... and my ego

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[@sunnychic7414]

It's only been this last year, I've gained enough confidence, power, security and really self-love to stop playing games. I wasn't even aware of the games that I played until I stopped. It wasn't a conscious manipulating, so much as it was a deeply ingrained pattern. My alter-ego would come in on automatic and take over and be manipulative and game playing and it was only because of fear, pure fear. I felt that this alter-ego would protect me from my own pain. Again, this was very subtle and not apparent to others, or even myself, until recently. It was to keep real intimacy at bay because that felt too scary

[@Isabelle.B]

Thank you Susan. I always trust my guts and am very grateful to hear from you that it is right to do so.

[@SusanWinter]

Excellent

[@cesarbrown2074]

She is a jedi master

[@beejj6190]

I will add to the excellent 'gut' advice, lol. You also NEED...self-esteem set at a high level, as that crucial element will see you 'act' upon your feelings (rather than end up mugged off / abused or even ruined! ) On another thread i mentioned meeting a BPD 'waif' i.e. covert, not raging. So you will get withdrawal / silent treatment once they feel they are getting too close. Now, i am experienced enough to be well aware of the general personality type, but this version was my first, and what an experience! Once I started acting upon my gut things fell apart pretty quickly. Most bizarre were her attempts to keep me engaged while keeping me at distance. Clearly our connection was still good but seeing me caused a load of issues. i.e. Very likely compromising who she was next teeing up, lol. Her ability to swerve direct questions was almost fascinating and two agreed meetings (really for me to call her on her BS) were cancelled. Instead, i did that over a number of texts. After 5 days silent treatment she called in to say she had seen a doctor for depression but had to run into work and we could talk later. Just incredible how far she wanted to manipulate to see how well I was prepared to 'play in the sandbox'. Ultimately, she turned into one of the most insidious game-players I know. Bearing in mind the face she initially brings is shy, lacking in self -worth ...only to slowly transform into something preternaturally manipulative / extremely ruthless over her needs - she just cannot talk on any level that exposes her BS. I wish her well, lol. SMH.

[@SusanWinter]

That's true. Self-esteem is key. That's how we get clear answers (not fantasy or delusion). Thanks for that.

[@jjuniper274]

Beej J There are people who don't game play, and don't try to take power. I had a 26 year marriage and we were open and honest with each other. It was a glorious feeling. Sadly, he passed away, but I am hopeful that he was not a one of a kind. He (we) was/were so mature for his/our age. We met at 19 and had an adult relationship from the beginning. No games. It can be done. ❤️❤️

[@beejj6190]

Jen - Bless you. You were incredibly fortunate! : ) I just see the human race has never been more afflicted by entitlement through to downright psychopathy. You truly need to do your 'due diligence' (and be v.aware these days) as the masks many people come with can stay there for months before the big reveal. I say, know their background, who their friends are and watch for the red flags - they will always be there fairly early on. I don't say this as thinking i am perfect at all, just saying I know i can be loyal and am at the very least empathetic to respecting a person over a break up. x

[@gabrielmaximus6447]

I did not know that was a sign of BPD ignoring direct questions, I've known two guys like this and then lies that get brushed under the rug by them as meaningless and get offended/angry when they get called out. Whilst I do/did avoid meeting people because of my PTSD when I was finally ready with someone who agreed to wait right in the beginning suddenly games started and ignoring every problem I have and seeing it as me being defient and controlling than fear from PTSD. I constantly come across men that instead of validating PTSD think it's some political decision I made to get back at men 😐

[@irinen5217]

You are magic ❤thank you 🙏