How to FORCE men to fall in love

[@Bella_duchess]

Why does it make men feel uncomfortable when you are genuine & of pure intentions

[@pinkifloyd7867]

Maybe it takes the fun out of it ?😅

[@diarosez]

cause these UNHEALED men didn’t get that type of love when they were being raised. they only had that toxic love so that’s what makes them fall

[@user-rx7uh9mg4f]

Women view romance as a way to CONNECT. Men view it as a challenge to earn. It isn’t about the connection to them, it’s about winning some type of prize and hopefully he falls in love in the process that he stays after obtaining that “prize”. It’s messed up but we gotta accept reality.

[@Erirytyri]

​@@user-rx7uh9mg4fit's not 😂 males view romantic relationships as a way to connect since they can not connect in the same way with their male friends and so males tend to fall in love harder. Women already have a deep connection with their platonic friends they talk about very personal things to their friends but males don't do that

[@dilshanapp4087]

Same here

[@brain189]

Protect your peace,focus entirely on you.

[@llgrazes]

But I think first the guy has to really be into you, because if they don’t like you, they’re happy when you ghost they didn’t have to have a confrontation. You did it all for them.

[@SR77736]

Exactly. It doesn't work on all men especially if they don't like u. Some don't care.

[@planetChristie]

He clearly said if he likes you and is invested in you.

[@maryanaking4743]

Either way works

[@leedaazadzoi3411]

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[@michellestreeter4368]

This is true. This only works if they’re into you. If they care not into you, it’s a thanks for not letting me break the bad news to you

[@leahbottone6375]

Everything Tomisin is saying is 100% right. I know this from personal experience dating men. I used these "tactics" to get every serious relationship I've ever had. Unfortunately, once I had them, I found the relationships to be quite hollow, and the men quite narcissistic. I think this is great honest advice for what men truly fall for, but I think the question we should be asking is -- what's wrong with men that women really can't be themselves around them?

[@BeyNextDoor]

to be honest... if u have to play all these games just to keep a man interested... i dont think he is the one

[@ImYourOnlyItGirl]

I agree with you completely. Women are natural nurturers. We are great at taking care of people. We like to take care of men we are interested in, show them we care. But when it comes to dating, we have to go against our instincts to be nurturers because we get played, and then we get called stupid for it.

[@BeyNextDoor]

@@ImYourOnlyItGirl question tho? what is the ideal man to you?

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

​@@BeyNextDoorWhat's the ideal woman to you?

[@BeyNextDoor]

@@DiamondsRexpensive hmm the ideal women?.... this what i would say... for one there is no such thing as the ideal women... because know one is perfect... for me... its someone with ideals and morals with a down to earth personallity ... someone who are ok with being bored... thats my answer

[@Lakshmipriya-hc1wm]

Basically girls .. u dont fall in love . U are not allowed to show emotions .. u cant be urself ... Only when u hv no emotions.. he il fall for u but then ! Duh ! I don't want him ! 😅

[@denisealex213]

Exactly- these games are dumb and men just need to grow up.

[@triciaclarke5101]

When I start showing him emotions and kindness it seems I lost my value in his eyes

[@thespicytravelgirl2297]

@@triciaclarke5101well then he should lose value in your eyes as well!

[@aselyne5631]

They want women who don't want them

[@annajoie-blasing7006]

This guys is speaking FACTS!!! Men equate missing you with falling in love.

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

So weird

[@gmnj7770]

My ex showed me you don’t have to use force. It was smooth sailing from the time we met and got to the relationship. I will cherish that lesson forever ❤

[@thedivinefeminine1821]

Lucky girl

[@NKbutnot]

Why is he a ex now ?

[@pddymrks9237]

​@@NKbutnotthey probably broke it of for other reasons duh

[@NKbutnot]

@@pddymrks9237 duh lol my black ass is just curious why babe

[@blackbilebaby5499]

He's got the point👏 to the people saying "you can't force love", the video is not about that, but rather that everything in life needs a strategy, even love

[@alchemicalsoul]

We need to abandon all ego constructs and pursuits of attachment. If one has to strategize, one will lose. Love is found within. We magnetize it to us.

[@bigmamisvea3318]

Love does NOT need a strategy. Getting someone in your bed does!

[@zinedinezidane4771]

We need healing not a strategy. Healing to understand our wants and needs and how not hurt people along the way.

[@Hastib017]

Something i learned the hard way, is that men are egoistic creatures, so they won't like it if you make him feel like he is being chased. So don't tell him you love him first, don't tell him let's go on a date, just let him do those things first. Cause you should be the one who is being chased, and you should be a challenge for him. That's the way to get him to absolutely love you and want you all the time

[@traceyniles8474]

You're absolutely right!!!

[@kiravampira1456]

The (desperate) women that chase men do it because said men don't give them attention to begin with, so they assume that's the way to get it. Very, *very* few (if any) women genuinely enjoy role-reversal. But since the internet has made so many men falsely believe they all deserve no less than a stunning beauty, they now only give attention to a small percentage of women. So the desperate ones act upon their desperation.

[@PrettyChickitta]

But what happens after he gets you? After you are in a relationship with him? That's when they change because they already got you and there is no challenge anymore.

[@Hastib017]

@@PrettyChickitta i mean there are some things you could do to keep the relationship feeling fresh and challenging. Like going to new places, doing new things instead of repeating the same stuff you've done before, this could also be implemented sexually. But also an important thing is that if he doesn't respect you enough to not cheat on you, he wasn't worth it anyways

[@mcam2211]

I’ve heard that advice about making them talk about themselves, it’s a charisma tactic that works every time, but isn’t it a little bit of a red flag if they don’t wanna know about you? I’ve found myself in dates with guys that are really into me and they don’t ask a thing, do they not care? It puts in perspective, BUT IF YOU REALLY WANNA PLAY THE GAME hear them talk, and I mean, make sure to REALLY LISTEN, in the small talks people reveal their insecurities and values all the time, and you can also make some shit up for yourself to fill in the insecurity spots that you can pinpoint while making him talk.

[@gioplease6848]

I think it all comes down to people not wanting to feel controlled or “tied down” and giving them a sense of freedom.

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

Exactly

[@chelsy2255]

Men don't make sense. They trying so hard to tell us how to understand them while they don't make any effort to understand us. Based on this video we should behave as if we're not interested in this man to keep him in the anxiety state of mind, but how long can someone fake not being interested? So we have to put ourselves to the side again and again, to play all these games to give him the anxiety he needs to function normally in a relationship. Why would someone normal do that? This is too much work, we have lifes and stuff to do, we're not sitting around thinking of games to play to keep a bozo in his anxiety. These people need professional help and we shouldn't take on problems that are not ours. As women we cannot function in anxiety and therefore, we operate the way we feel comfortable in relationship. By faking this for a while is not going to change us. Can men understand that we are different and we cannot spend our lifes guessing and playing games with them? Obviously not.

[@MiyukiKitty]

Yes its a lot of time and energy for women to invest in mens little love games and thats probably why nowadays a lot of women advise to go for the generous provider type of man... at least that way you know you got something out of it in the end...

[@DA-qw1ut]

These men must be gay 😅

[@thedivinefeminine1821]

🤣🤣🤣"to keep a bozo in his anxiety" she says 🤣🤭and you made my day thank you for the laugh

[@aselyne5631]

In essence he's saying give the guy who likes you but you don't like a chance that's the only way his strategy works.

[@debraglows]

All of this is good at first but when we eventually catch feelings and get attached, all of a sudden it will be difficult for us to do these things

[@findpurpose6300]

Im there now, i have the feelings but he is busy. Also he never expressed he wa ta more. But he spend 3 months chat with me each day and now he is pulling back.

[@ZaraUchiha13]

@@findpurpose6300 chatting is nothing, he just used that to attach you. drop his a$$ )))

[@SulVargas]

It Is so hard

[@esper2861]

watching this while ignoring texts from the guy so he falls in love with me ahaha. actually damn practical video, going to use it)

[@Yasmine-qd6nu]

No cause sameeeee

[@TheJhubb7]

So real sister

[@Solmares1111]

I can't be the only one who enjoyed the raised tone at "if" 😂

[@fragamers1]

If you listen RIGHT to this man… this is pure gold !! I got a propose acting like this in the FIRST stage and then once in a while just to spice things up

[@firelily77]

If this is true, making it about him, wont it always be like that? Will he ever reciprocate? Because im not trying to fill a bottomless pit the rest of my life

[@megandavies5769]

Tomisin, you are probably the most helpful person i've ever seen talk about this subject. This is sooooooooooo good

[@mario-mh3vh]

I believe that if you have to play too much with these tactics, thats a major sign that ya'll are not meant to be. I'd prefer a healthy communication relationship with mutual interest.

[@sorrywhoareyou887]

If he is your person , it will easily become a beautiful relationship . You won’t have to do much to get him to love you . But imma still stay here and see what my guy talking about tho👀.

[@emilyc5625]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@nicolegilmore1564]

I know that’s right!!!! I’m all hears as well. 😂😂😂

[@dhard02]

Basically nurture him, listen to him, encourage him and be a role model for him to be a better man!

[@zinedinezidane4771]

Or he needs to heal himself first

[@__-tl6hp]

So much true, he doesn't give his 100% but I give efforts😢

[@TeddyLikeTeddyBear]

Mind games, mind games, mind games…..smh

[@janab.2196]

Yeah... I think the same

[@zinedinezidane4771]

Yep absolutely awful advice

[@summmer77]

2:35 YES! Claiming positive manipulation! 4:36 make him feel anxiety when ur not around. And he needs to spiral thinking 7:35 YES HAHAHA 9:12 Contrast of emotions that take him up and down- he relate being with me in 3D with euphoria. NOT 24-7. JUST when I am with him. Make the entire date about him!Feed his ego/ make him feel the best! People remember HOW YOU MAKE THEM FEEL 12:20 On dates be QUIET AS A CHURCH MOUSE and ask him good questions about his past relationships, exes, how he views himself, where he wants to be, family, siblings…BE GENUINELY INTERESTED IN GETTING TO KNOW HIM BETTER 14:40 a reminder that other people want me is always good! Healthy and respectfully show him 24:10 INSPIRE HIM: FEMENINE ENERGY. He will want to become better version of himself to be at your level

[@thedivinefeminine1821]

Sounds like a lot of work.... and I'm lazy

[@basantidevi2305]

Finally a good podcast.

[@deanakeller2244]

Doing things intentionally only creates an unhealthy attachment. Trick is TO ACTUALLY HAVE A LIFE OF YOUR OWN.

[@floragirl222]

I enjoyed very much the way you explained everything. Clear and concise. And with humor. You are a great speaker 🙏

[@ufoufo9182]

"You know what I don't know everything. I could be wrong...." Love the honesty. Subscribed!

[@storm4515]

This guy is good. I love the practical application tips

[@veronicaguerra2026]

What a great video! Really made me laugh and get my mind off obsessing over my boyfriend who’s been kind of distant lately

[@cryscris]

He’s probably being distant because you’re being too available and not giving him space and time to miss you. We’re all guilty of it lol

[@THEDANILUCKSSHOW]

Same 😂

[@Londongirlchile]

@@cryscrisits her bf they need to quit the games atp

[@danidiaz2377]

I think all the men who play games with women constantly are the type who we would regret getting a relationship with any how probably they’re going to end up some washed up old ghoul by 40 like Scott disick and live in regret about being a game player while the one they loved moves on to a real man.

[@thedivinefeminine1821]

That's why players are funny... cause they think they're playing us, but really they end up playing themselves when the one they loved leaves them behind.

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

Try 50

[@jeanettemoussa]

Every time I want to text, I come back to this video and go to the “Anxiety” segment 😬

[@sarahsarita4852]

Matter of fact, relationships survive more on game, schemes, some logic but less on "autopilot". The one who loves more definitely loses. This is why it's easy to walk away at the first and least flaw. The game is hectic

[@gargantoixx9691]

How about we women? We don’t want to feel great the same during the date?

[@ssou888]

You can apply all of these tips to children as well. I’m looking for a man not a manchild.

[@femfiore]

Thank god I found your channel, you explain everything very well .. and it’s great to hear it and learn these things directly from a man! It feels more guaranteed since you’re talking from your perspective and experience as a man!

[@itmebby]

I’m really keen on psychology.. you are a REAL ONE.

[@rachelinthelionsden]

Well this empowering ❤🎉 I appreciate your beware content as well because I desire to pass this on to my young children as they go into teenage years! And of course reminders to myself as a married monogamous woman. Thank you!

[@mallore84]

I must say I enjoyed this immensely😂😂😂

[@anitapetrou1925]

Loved this! Can see the absolute truth in all this - and had a giggle at the cheeky presentation too 😊

[@wiwiholic]

This is true but getting attention from men can be really scary, specially when they become a bit creepy..

[@dorismartinez5168]

I was in a 1 yr situationship with a guy and about 6 months into it he begins to projectile vomit his emotions and childhood trauma as well as baby mama drama so I assumed ok he’s opening up and being vulnerable so to me I was like this may mean he wants intimacy and it was true cause he began to be more affectionate after each rant session so I invited him to spend a weekend together to you know take things a little deeper and boom he ghosted me. It’s now been 1 month since hearing from him soooo woman are from Venus and men are from mars Periodttt👌👌

[@muneebaahmed7687]

Man, you're a genius!

[@user-hq3ce5ws1s]

in the same way that men test women to see whether they respect her, i want to know that a man really wants me. so he has to (work hard to) prove to me that he’s invested. i’m not mean or nasty about it. either he’s in or he’s not. in the meantime, i’m deciding if i think we’re a good match. men hunt, women choose. we’re hardwired that way.

[@jessicayoung7132]

If you have to force it, it's not truly there......walk away. Force one to fall in love? Seriously? Get real, dude. Goodbye don't have time for games

[@itsgiuliaaaa]

You're so right

[@Hahahah7718]

Frrrr it’s like boy byeeee 👋

[@melarie205]

fr like you’re not the prize😂 bye

[@JayH1931]

Yup this only works if he already really likes you. Otherwise he will just keep coming back to you for you to stroke his ego when he’s down. Then he will leave and follow other women around kissing their asses and use us as a doormat for when he’s down. Ego boosting is fine in moderation and ONLY when he really likes you.

[@Nytyly]

I'm against force too but what he's actually speaking about is a strategy and environment that fosters love. Which is different than force. He means the force of love Which is different than brute force. But yeah I had the same thoughts

[@user-yd8xt5tz6c]

Brains and emotional intelligence, easy to hear what you say. Subscribed because what you say is helpful to both sides.

[@POVEATSS]

This is how to get a shallow man. A real man takes action on his own without you having to speak a word and proudly accepts your praise after the work is done. There’s a difference between needing someone to build your ego vs accepting love for naturally being the man you are.

[@carolinareaper8089]

Omg as a woman my worse nightmare is making a date about me 😂 I hate being in the centre or attention and talk about myself 😂 I can make the rest of our lives only about him and never about me 😂 but I am a psychotherapist so men are often scared and suspicious every time I speak … so they feel interrogated but I honestly hate speaking about myself ! I don’t even have social media and don’t post anything in the internet because I don’t care - I don’t want anyone to be interested in me besides 1 person who would be my loved one

[@veronicavelestine]

I’m the same so I get you lol

[@sittingduck3468]

Is this how men think? I just got out of a toxic relationship just like this it was hell

[@keepingupwtae1127]

Newsflash , Men aren’t little angels like the majority of us women

[@Sweet_Hart]

Thank you so much for this. Perfect! ❤️

[@Maya-kr6ze]

This guy is hilarious too 🤣🤣

[@Brevia80]

The hot commodity part😂

[@priscillaayd2007]

As a woman who was married for 24 years and is now on the dating scene, i must say dating feels like a whole task now. Someone said to me Men like it when you treat them mean. They chase you. What is going in this world today where people don't appreciate niceness and what to play games and ignoring each other. I believe this is due to mental illness because you really have to be sick in the mind to want to play these types of games. 😮

[@changethechannel6144]

Sooo what do we do when it’s a man who is popular and is used to being chased. My friend says his kind of guy does not make the first move bc he’s too popular and has to many options .

[@sarahsarita4852]

Let him stay with his options.

[@changethechannel6144]

@@sarahsarita4852 that part lol

[@HoneyBunny-w7s]

Wow you opened my eyes i love listen 2 your videos

[@serena1395]

This man is brilliant.

[@Sashastone12]

Dude you are awesome! 😂❤😅

[@ipaint3sing]

IF….😂 with a capital I and F 15:03

[@jacquelinehorton395]

Those are promises 😆

[@Meekoteeko]

He so right man, just what i needed.

[@thereallawlar]

This is truly spiritual lol

[@emilyc5625]

Exactly what you’re suggesting here a man once did to me . I would have risked it all and married him by the end of date . We don’t live in the same state but I’ll never forget him. A year later no man had made me forget him not even my current guy 😂

[@hanies7]

perfect length for a video 🙌🏻

[@adrianawilliams6909]

😂😂 humorous yet informative, love it.

[@turquoiseheart03]

This is a better method I would always attack him with “I’m breaking up with you!” All the time

[@Aashikashiv]

I like your iiiiiiiffffffffffffffffff 😂😂😂💓 anyway great video hey! I'm your new subscriber.

[@thereallawlar]

Great one Tomisin 🎉

[@stilettoheel3543]

Yep, Teddy Pendergrass says it in Latest greatest inspiration! “You inspire me, I want you to keep on lifting me up”! Higher, oh, ohhhhh! Don’t you know I love you girl! He been saying it along in that damn song. 😂😂😂

[@nicheller4095]

What if he works in another state?

[@pinkbuttercup2023]

Excellent tips

[@pinkbuttercup2023]

Love your advice

[@kaitlinmiaka3818]

these videos are so funny 🤣

[@VeronicahMuiruri-ks2hl]

Well said ..

[@lesyeuxdeqis]

i suggest you to change the thumbnail, the footage of the video is perfect for a thumbnail. love your videos btw💋

[@beautifulnono8389]

Amazing 👍🏼

[@christinaTEZunknown9598]

10:10 baby boy

[@malloryholt9871]

What if every time you ask him a question on the date he just makes a joke or hardly answers?

[@nathnath6123]

the thumbnail 😂

[@LanieMy]

I love this channel 😂

[@liafienne4393]

Well said 👌♥️

[@jorden1027]

subscribed!!!!

[@barbi111]

Great content,indeed, thank you.

[@mygeorgina]

AMAZING!

[@pinkpolish4189]

TY! New subbie!

[@msgs6850]

Men would get so frustrated when i wouldn't initiate when they taken me out and get me gifts oh thanks where we going ? Lol I'm hungry 😅 i use to be ruthless and raw when i was younger i became so mushy ugh. Depends But dont get it twisted

[@saiqakieren4114]

Thanks

[@IAmTerra-Mazibuko]

Im in🤚new subie

[@starfresher1722]

What I should do if he is lying me the he is going on another date?

[@leylamoosavi8040]

What should i do if he is still following other girls on instagram, ?? Can u give me and lots of gurls in my situation that how should we react to this

[@SunShine_sublime]

Leave.

[@viavoutga]

Social media is not real, don't over think it.

[@allthingsjana7870]

I agree, leave .

[@melarie205]

leave him and find a man without social media

[@Ababy7]

@@melarie205Thats not possible in these days. N if he doesn’t have social media it’s kind of a red flag because what is he hiding??!

[@Noname444-c3v]

Inspiration … treat him as a baby that needs the right words to do the action when he doesn’t do the same to me? 😂 When he doesn’t think about my emotions and that I need quality time with hug and cuddles? Why do I have to inspire him to be a man when he doesn’t inspire me to be a woman? If he treats me bad I will reciprocate 🤷‍♀️

[@deborahmusic00]

What to do when at first he was really into you (he was clearly jealous, anxious and inspired by me ) but then you start to become the anxious one and in the end he says he realised he likes you but he's not in love with you? We've dated only for 1 month but we had a couple of arguments and now he feels like that and we're not seeing each other anymore. Can I somehow do something to revert back and not be the chasing one?

[@Shazlii]

Just take a huge step back and go full No contact. Give him more space than necessary. Its a phenomenon called Faded Affect Bias which states that overtime when you are away from smeone, negative emotions that they may have about you fade faster than the positive ones.

[@deborahmusic00]

@Shazlii I'm doing this, thank you for your reply :)

[@Shazlii]

@@deborahmusic00 remember by full No Contact i mean no calling, texting, no unfollowing, no blocking (i suggest muting them), no posting cryptic messages on your stories targeted to him, no telling mutual friends about the situation e.t.c....is he your ex now?

[@deborahmusic00]

​@Shazlii it's just someone I've dated for a couple of months and now we're in no contact. Yeah I'm not doing any of that, also cause I'm starting to think if he "comes back" well then I'll think about it, if he doesn't "bye bye"

[@Shazlii]

@@deborahmusic00 good for you!!. I suggest you listen to this KZbin channel The Art of Love by Lucia. Her videos helped me and my ex reached out on day 46 of No contact. I was in the same situation as you. He will likely reach out between day 45-60 of No Contact if you play your cards well.

[@josephinefurman3905]

You’re a genius ❤

[@ghostsheet777]

um this does work, but girls....it's lonely, like he dont really love the real you, so if ur ok with that n being lonely, then good for u, i wud suggest getting good rly good friends, and having a good social life, because im so lonely, but now im into being a 1960 muse, who is a diarist so i made good use out of my lonliness, n my man does adore me n honestly im so cute with my hair n fits n makeup n im getting me a cute little diary to write in, omg tbh idec if my man is obsessed w me or not, since im obsessed w myself, im getting me the cutest creams to smell good with, omg i just wna smell so good n look so pretty, ok sorry for my reALLY not to the point, downright strange comment, but i adore myself and love you all xxx mwah i guess the point is, do u girlies, so tht when u are with him, it can feel like ur watching a movie or playing a game idk, its like fun, n makes it easy to make it about him, since like jhene aiko said, i love me enough for the both of us ok i really better get off here lol

[@user-bk9bs3oc8c]

but like you have a boyfriend firstly, and it seems like he adores you! you don’t have anything to worry abt i guess. i am 21 and never had a boyfriend or smthg and it’s not as crazy bc i have friends who also started having at this age but like it kind of sucks to start being the only one. it’s great that you love yourself and ur probably pretty too so like it’s easy to do that or have this mindset! i guess the video is more abt like people that it’s not working out multiple times to keep a guy i don’t even know hahhah but u are right loving urself is huge

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

I will tell a man he looks good ,he’s strong, he’s even all that etc but not all the extra

[@dhard02]

😂 love this!

[@SistahJay27]

I truly enjoyed your video, very eye opening. Dang! That boat ride 🤦🏽‍♀️ all I heard was myself. It was like looking in the mirror. Smh dang, I have to fix my attitude 😂 that impersonation hit hard. Thank you. Great video

[@HalaAhmed-oz5td]

Yeah ion allat I have my funny in my early 20’s just like most women

[@beavertonneurofeedback2363]

This peddling example is lame. Maybe the guy was relaxing because he wanted to not because he was lazy and needed to be complemented in order to get him to paddle. Maybe neither of them were in any hurry to get anywhere fast.

[@Paoula]

Why are you smiling? I don’t need to see all 32 of your teeth.😂

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

Yes I blew a whole relationship because he wanted me be to be all about him. I’m older than him and I’ve been traveling he was just to hype about his friends and couldn’t stand how I was not (I was engaging but being my cool self) all I wanted was to get laid. I thinking this was our trip too🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@wendyfromtheblock6743]

Yes I blew a whole relationship because he wanted me to be to be all about him. I’m older and I’ve been traveling he was just to hype about his friends and couldn’t stand how I was not, all I wanted was to get laid. Im thinking this was our trip 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️