How to Handle People's Reactions to Your Natural Hair | Awkward Situations, Touching, Etc.

[@FlowersArtRubies]

Occasionally in work Settings I have found that when a"can I touch your hair vampire" approaches loudly with there arm extended reaching -I reach for their hair too and it INSTANTLY caused them to stop in their tracks.😄😄😄

[@thundermagnificent]

Just be thankful you were given something that no other people on earth have. How on earth were black people convinced they have something bad when in fact afro hair is EVERYTHING!!

[@anndeecosita3586]

I went natural for good in 2008. I have received weird dumb comments and questions from black people and non black people. I was surprised how ignorant some of us are about natural hair. Some of the questions I find either bizarre or very rude. Fortunately it’s gotten better over time and I don’t get these comments as much. I think partly because there is a lot of natural in commercials and tv shows.

[@sassymedea3065]

What were the craziest questions you've got in regards to you natural ahir

[@Yikes702]

Let me guess...they all say, "Oh wow. It's so soft." Like what the hell is your hair supposed to feel like? Smh.

[@anndeecosita3586]

@@Yikes702 oh yes I’ve definitely heard that and it pissed me off. Like why are you surprised that hair feels like hair?

[@anndeecosita3586]

@@sassymedea3065 So many but the WEIRDEST was once I walked into a bar I frequent and this drunk white woman came up to me and hugged me like she is so relieved saying “oh I’m so glad you’re here.” I’m thinking WTF. I play music at this bar sometimes so I didn’t know if maybe she was a fan or just crazy. Then she touches my hair and goes “your hair is so beautiful. Are you mixed?” I say No. Then she tells me her teen daughter is pregnant by a black guy and she’s scared because she doesn’t know how she will do the hair. I’m thinking so you just walk up to random black people and hug them? 🤨

[@shashasha55]

@@anndeecosita3586 ewwwwwwwwwww😵‍💫

[@gaylareed6868]

My hair texture is exactly like yours. When I stretch it and wear it out people just lose their minds. Always, "Is that real?", "Can I touch it?", "How do you get your hair like that?" So annoying!! Even if I wear a scarf I still get a million questions. The attention is overwhelming so I just keep it in a bun most days!!

[@LucienneintheDreaming]

I'm in the military and when I was stationed at Fort Bragg in 2011 I had a First Sergeant, black woman, say I need to do something with my hair. Something I will never forget. It was in a very short, curly twa. Well within regulation. 😌

[@georgetrusty7696]

As African-Americans we have this thing inside of our subconscious I like to call the internal slave master you know that part of the brain that says black people don't do this black people don't do that you got nappy hair you're too dark that part of the brain that's what your sergeant suffer from we all suffer from it one degree or another the real severe cases are the ones we call American Creole they used to have a paper bag test if you were darker than a paper bag you cannot marry them

[@LucienneintheDreaming]

@@georgetrusty7696 dang.

[@d.c.7533]

Wow that's disappointing😔

[@josephinebournes8212]

@@LucienneintheDreaming Well said 👏🏿

[@demekonrn]

@@georgetrusty7696 I was an adult when I witnessed a firsthand account of whyte people getting inaccurate information from a self-hating black woman. I wanted to sink inside myself & disappear watching this woman make herself a fvcking slave right there in public without shame(without any self-awareness whatsoever). I had a come apart & removed myself before I physically attacked her. It made my experience working with her very traumatic. I couldn't undo what she did but I became someone known to my whyte coworkers as "confrontational" and "problematic" because they could not have the same interactions with me that they had with the other black women I worked with. But one thing they did was respect me. I never took my foot off their necks when it came to that.

[@bryansanquintin1419]

I can't believe how well I can relate lol. The worst ones for me are those who don't believe its my hair. I'm a Dominican guy with type 4 hair. But since I have borderline fair skin they think its impossible.

[@tamarajenkins3035]

My story begins with me standing in line at the grocery store when an older lady of color was standing behind me very close, so close that I proceeded to move to up a bit to add space between us, but every time I moved away, she would move closer to me. She then asked where I purchased my wig, in shock I proceeded to tell her that my hair was not a wig and indeed real. Apparently, that wasn't good enough, her reply to me was may I touch it. Being that she was a senior citizen and deserved a pass I told her yes. The first thing she did was dig her fingers deep into my scalp to see if there were any tracks. She than says...wow you go girl your hair is so thick and full. I guess my response to her that my hair was real wasn't good enough. SMH

[@kymthompson7239]

I have thick hair too and Ive had Black people ask me if my hair was real. Like yes it is possible to be a nonmixed Black woman and have a head full of long hair 🙄

[@hc7092]

Some black people sadly didn’t know this. But I think the natural hair movement has increased awareness of black people having a lot of hair.

[@tamarajenkins3035]

@@hc7092 I agree

[@jacienz]

@@kymthompson7239 what a lot of us don’t realize is that our hair can be unrealistically thick. I had a friend who treated her hair really bad, but yet it was so thick it looked like a wig. It looked like somebody had attached a whole lot of thick long clip-ins in her head. But guess what ? It was all hers. I knew before that she had a lot of hair, but that some were clip ins. Another friend shaved a third of her hair off, but you still couldn’t tell that it was shaved for it was a lot of hair.

[@beans1998]

Lmaooo

[@nev2943]

This will be a very interesting discussion. I'm already thankful for the topic. I had a coworker ask me before how long it takes me to do my hair. My response, 'Oh I dunno, what's the average rate of time for you brushing your teeth?' Her facial expression changed realizing maybe her question was inappropriate. Being the only black female in my office, I have to keep my guard up. Ask me the same questions you ask your peers and stop focusing on your facination with our skin and hair.

[@apara2005]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Yeah, I don't answer questions like these from grown adults. At their age they should now by know different ethnic groups have different features and cultures, and if they don't, they should read a book or watch a video and not ask stupid questions. I had 60 year old asking such questions 🙄. Nope. Get out of your racial bubble and meet other different people!!!!!

[@hc7092]

If they really wanted to know, they could have googled it too.

[@LivingInTheShade]

I had someone try and touch my hair and I slapped her hand away. Needless to say it never happened again!

[@SincerelyKee]

"Sorry, I don't have dog hair"🤣🤣🤣🤣 Hilarious! Your hair is beautiful and unique in every way😍🥰💛

[@Shomefune96]

Ahahahaha not "hold on Becky" 🤣🤣🤣. My answer to them when asked is "can i pet you back". Conversation over. Most usually laugh and get exactly why i said it. Others are like "wait, what u mean" and i say think about it for a second. And turn around and go on about my business.

[@jaeshasway]

I’m so glad and thankful for the natural hair movement and my stylist who convinced me to give up the creamy crack 20 plus years ago. Even then I wore my hair flat ironed, occasionally wore weaves or straight half wigs. I didn’t wear my natural curly hair until 10 years later. I was so afraid of what my job and people at work would say. Everyone expects you to assimilate and it’s awful that out hair was caught up in those judgmental and often unrealistic beauty standards. There were creators starting out on KZbin and I looked to them to guide me on how to take care of my hair, to style it and to give me courage to my hair curly hair proudly. I actually influenced others at work to do the same thing.We’d share routines and talk about curly hair care products. There are people that are there now not just wearing natural curly hair, but locs, twists, crochet styles, braids, etc. It was nice to be a part of a culture and movement of people that changed the landscape of my office and the mindset of those who would traditionally stand in judgement or protest against natural hairstyles.

[@izahra1997]

I've experienced similar things with people touching my hair. When you're young and cute, and don't seem intimidating, some people are extra bold. Honestly, it made me meaner and more aggressive toward other people, as a defense mechanism. I could see people being bold, since you're pretty, petite, and have a pleasant personality. It's unfortunate that we get judged as "angry black women", when look what we go through?

[@shawnpuffy]

I am very glad you don't care what others think because it truly only matters what you think and how your hair makes you feel. The bottom line is that everyone has opinions but I have to say I adore your hair. It is striking and not boring and most people would simply be just jealous because it gets attention. Own your hair and your outer and inner beauty. You are a diamond.

[@lizevans7645]

I am a 42 year old white woman from the UK with dark blonde type 4 kinky/coily hair but euro texture hair and I take after my grandfather for it. We are unsure of any heritage we have as a family. Throughout my life people have approached me with a glazed look and a hand outstretched towards my hair... I could be in a queue waiting for anything to being with my two sons who are used to people stopping me. Yesterday being the most recent day. I have had many positive comments but also racist undertone comments towards me because of my hair. 'Why would you want it like that?' to straight up disgusting racial slurs based on my mousey coily hair which I'm sure looks odd to them... And those two questions 'is it real..can i touch it?' are the questions I wish I had a pound for each time I heard them. Just a big thank you for this channel that taught me what my mom (big waves hair) and friends from my younger years could not. Thankfully as I've got older friends with true afro hair have been able to help me. From coily and proud in the UK.

[@louiscreed4026]

what's a euro texture ?

[@louiscreed4026]

@@celi9133 yes probably for some but in Liz's case this isn't true for everybody 😉but to be honest Europe modern populations are capable of any hair shape and texture and aren't really limited to straight wavy and curly hair which are also present in southern Asia the pacific and Africa not just Europe.

[@zinamckenzie5391]

I ignore and walk away…. They don’t exist. I love my hair!!! No response or reaction has been the most positive for me. Love the crown Elohim God blessed you with.💖❤️❤️❤️💖💖❤️🙏🏽🌹

[@murielsilin917]

Love this video! Thank you for the great advice. It's even worse when people of color, including African-Americans, want to touch my hair to see if it's real. That happened to me at the airport years ago on my way to my honeymoon. Back then I had relaxed hair. Now, I'm natural. My hair type seems very similar to yours but I'm going gray. I put it away a lot to avoid attention, which is sad.

[@Bernadettemarie1959]

Man...dropped my phone I lost my comment (accidently discarded). Anyway... Your video reminds me of an experience I had in 2005. I was a hospital clerk...and this black nurse (not mixed but from a Spanish country) had long relaxed hair, and I touched her hair. 😩 She yelled out, "DON'T TOUCH MY HAIR!!" I was about 46, and she was 37 to 40 years of age. I was traumatized! Her reaction scared me...never in my life...had I experienced such a reaction over hair. Turns out, her black Spanish background believed a woman with short hair (me) touching her hair would cause her to lose her hair (hair fallout/like a transfer of negative energy). I was so embarrassed because she yelled it out, and we were both black. And everyone around us was white. Their faces was like, "What just happened?" Strange thing is my hair grew to my armpit before my big chop in 2019 (relaxed). But you knoww...I will never touch anyone's hair like that again. 😂😂

[@darcelbishop3273]

My current foster mom with no edges goes around telling people that she doesn’t like how my 24 year old sisters natural hair makes her look like a poodle in public and she talks about how much she hates it. 😢

[@d.c.7533]

Girl your so pretty! I love your texture! mine is uneven and can be flat on the longer strands bc of the looseness. Im an independent introvert too 😂

[@angelacleveland3860]

My hair is like yours and one day at work a patient was like. OH your hair looks so soft. Can you comb it is that dread locks.....I was like mam. Yes I can comb it. No its not dread locks.. My hair was in loose twist out. I was very shocked by her questioning 😐.

[@NaimFennell]

When I started to grow my hair, I got some positive and negative responses from it. One person said that is that your hair for the winter. I just wanted something different and I look forward to growing my afro.

[@joshuaclayton1313]

You just stated how I feel about myself at 6:09, the end. I am comfortable in my own skin and secure anyway, not one of those touchy feely envious types or whatever. As for reality, I live and love in it fully though. That is it. Joshua Clayton is Joshua Clayton, and I genuinely like and love myself. Also, I appreciate beauty for what it is without envy or anything unhealthy, that is it.

[@GreenGorgeousness]

I'm glad you don't have chemicals in your brain that encourage you to shot on yourself. It's a real nightmare. To literally be hardwired to have strong emotions.

[@CassieRags]

I normally don’t comment… and yes, fellow introvert, so I FEEL you on this video! So funny also 😆! Keep up the great content 😃!!!

[@hc7092]

Great video :) I’m in England and here reactions to natural hair may be on the more subtle side. I don’t get strangers asking to touch my natural hair. I’ll usually get some stares or someone will compliment me and go about their day. I won’t forget the time I saw this man on a bike was cycling towards me and looking at me. He said “your hair looks great I really like it” I stayed calm and said thank you with a smile. I kept walking and he kept cycling. As it should be. My main negative experience was when I stopped wearing my straight hair wigs and started wearing my natural hair to work. I had a few compliments but it was clear people preferred me in straight hair. I didn’t really care but it may have bothered me ever so slightly. Pleased to say I have grown since then. It’s been 2.5 years since I wore wigs and I’m comfortable in my natural hair now. I usually rock twists as a protective style. I’m about 4.5 years natural and I’m loving my hair. My boyfriend says if anyone stares it’s because they’re in awe and are loving my look. I reckon he’s right because our natural hair is beautiful. 🥰

[@elshawnajenkins4185]

people are low key jealous and haters. They secretly envy you and want to be you.

[@haircostsmoney6537]

Looking forward to more topics about our natural hair and how we get treated. Loved this video.

[@dawnjohnson1635]

I hate how some black men respond to natural hair. I remember when I first went natural. The comments were not nice. The self hate was awful. Well Bro you have the same hair yours is just shorter. 🤬

[@lisaj4441]

Word Is Bond!

[@hc7092]

You’re right. I have found non-black men have been more accepting of my natural hair. I have had a few compliments about my natural hair from black men but the overwhelming number of compliments come from white men. I think it’s very clear now that many black men have a lot of self hate. It’s time to stop expecting them to suddenly admire natural black features. It’s just not going to happen. But it’s fine - other men will appreciate us.

[@dawnjohnson1635]

@@hc7092 exactly a history of self-hate passed on through generations and constantly trying to live up to European standards- the oppressors. Blacks have been conditioned to not value their beauty. Growing up was not fun. Constantly be called blacky and nappty headed by the family that looks exactly like you. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@jacienz]

Why do you think theycut that thing way down and tie it down with a do rag.lol. In fact I think their hatred for Afro hair is deeper than the women. Back in the days they "permed" their hair before black women. They would use potatoes and something else to use for the hair. Those men had that thing slicked down and black.

[@thundermagnificent]

@@hc7092 Yeah we don't need others to appreciate what we have.

[@mannyb.5022]

I will never forget this one lady was like “I love your hair” smushed it and took off fast af in the other direction. It happened so fast 🥴

[@belizegal29]

What? It’s at that moment we’re one is so confused as to wether they should give chase or process what just happened.🤣

[@mannyb.5022]

@@belizegal29 Right! I had my sister with me and we just stared at each other..like wtf just happened

[@Kayla_Strong]

I really needed to hear this, thank you ❤️ My hair has grown almost 7 inches since I first started transitioning in late 2020 but it’s like everyone in my family has different OPINIONS of my natural texture. I’m really proud of what I’ve accomplished but aunties can be brutal for no reason 😕

[@cookieDaXapper]

PROUD of you dear Sister!!!! Stay being a light and NEVER allow the darkness of others actions to get you down!!!! PEACE and God bless you and your family with Favor from on high!!!

[@hg3895]

Kind of irrelevant but Joy-el your makeup here is so fresh and beautiful. A tutorial would be great :)

[@diasporaconnecttanzania3521]

The crazy thing is that I moved from the US to Africa and when i go out, I have to cover my hair otherwise I am a spectacle in the streets. Men in trucks and cars are about to have accidents staring at me so long and hard. Only when I wear my hair out. At the time it was a teenie weenie aftro. As it grows, I garner much more attention because in the part of Africa where I am you do not see afros and really long natural hair that is real. I also think that because my hair is salt and pepper that is another attention grabber. I feel uncomfortable walking the area unless my hair is covered. I also do not want to stand out as a "Foreigner" which is what i really am but they do not always know this unless they see my hair. If i cover it up then they will not know that I am not from Tanzania Africa.

[@elishebax]

You're just beautiful. Its not just your hair. So your gonna have to endure because the longer it gets the worst it will get. 💗

[@FitHitTheShan]

Charmaine, your hair is my goal! It’s so gorgeous! I hope I get there; I know it’s gonna take time and I have to be patient. I’m doing what you said and I’m just leaving it alone. It’s the healthiest it’s ever been. And I’m still using Flora and Curl that you demonstrated on your channel a few years ago. Excellent!🙏🏾🦋💜

[@sphanksjohns]

I am 65 years old and no one has ever asked to touch my hair. Only thing that came close was a lady asked how I get my hair so curly. And yes we were the only black family in a neighborhood once. Now my kids did get a lot of crap at their school during that time to where I had to show my self.

[@IAMLORDPAIGEEMORT]

I would never ask anyone if I could touch their hair but I will acknowledge when someone's hair is beautiful especially when it has volume, which my hair lacks. It's purely out of jealousy. I always just think the bigger the better. I am mixed and I have curly hair but I'm always envious when others can have so many different hair styles. My hair is kind of just flat, despite products. It literally is the fact that I am in awe because it's that B E A U T I F U L.

[@Taliahsymonee]

At homecoming i wore my hair out and i was in the car with my friends and in the back were some of my friends and one of them told me my hair was big and and asked me if she could touch it i didn’t want to say no because i didn’t wanna seem rude, then a boy was sitting next to me in the car (one of my friends date) and my other friend said hey your hair is in his face and they all started to laugh so i felt embarrassed and i said i’m sorry to him and he was like no you’re good

[@gloriabass9945]

Mrs Gorgeous it's probably because you have amazing natural hair because I've been natural for 18 years and everyone tells me they love my hair and that's it, but your hair is way thicker than mine and prettier

[@evebowman4375]

I just say if you got a problem with my hair you will need to get with God about it!! He gave it to me!! And I love it and Rock it!!!

[@christinem8799]

thank you so so so much for this ! it is not talked about enough !!

[@curlrockincrazy455]

You are unique! And it’s awesome! Not sure if your already a model, but you damn sure could be!

[@Yikes702]

I think this applies to all black people. My hair is long and relaxed but I use a roller set to get big curls. People always want to stroke my hair like I'm a damn golden retriever. Ugh. It's so invasive.

[@leelalo6625]

My entire life was a hair petting zoo. It gets easier with age and how to avoid the odd reaches. I have 3/b 3/c hair. I get the most comments/looks when I brush my hair out in a fro.

[@MrsPete-mq4tv]

Lmao SOMEWHERE THRU HERE WE ARE RELATED LOL ESPECIALLY BEING IN AND OUT PLACES. I’m grateful my husband DOESNT hold his tongue when it comes to others who CANT CONTROL THEIR EYEBALLS WHEN IT COMES TO OUT KIDS HAIR. I hv even had a man ask if they were my REAL KIDS BCUZ THEY ARE SO PALE . I responded NO THEY ARE FAKE KIDS

[@louiscreed4026]

it seems that they never took enough science courses😅😅if they did, they would've learned the reason why not everybody looks like their mothers or fathers' and also why hair or looks are not determined by colors..🌈.

[@gretchen725]

This video is so hilarious 😂 because it’s so true.

[@OsekahTikaani]

💛💛sharing with my daughter . Resonate very much with this .

[@alicat3387]

Someone from Australia asked if they could touch my hair . I said why ! I can’t remember what she said , but I replied I don’t want to be petted like an animal. The other lady who was with her said why can’t she . I had to hang out with these two ladies for an hour so I said I’ll think about it I’m still thinking

[@gluebubble_4824]

Great video! Btw that pale purple colour your wearing is your colour 💜💜💜

[@kiki1573]

If anyone wants to know what 4c hair feels like: it's soft like fluffy clouds. Period.

[@mswisesenior5612]

Thanks, that was some helpful tools to use.

[@apara2005]

I find the positive comments aren't really positive at all...they are usually wrapped in bad intentions. Kinda like a backhanded compliment. Beware of them. Great video ❤. P.S - I know this is folktale, but I was always taught, never let a stranger touch your hair. It's bad luck!!!!

[@jacienz]

Looking Good Joy-el. You go girl!

[@Valerie-zm7zc]

Like you said you can compliment but touching no it’s my personal space !

[@vanousisi8112]

Me It's when they judge me because i look black and i am while my grand father is amerindien and the other is white or biracial

[@kiahnaw.7443]

I'm moving from Georgia to Nebraska in about a week and I'm definitely nervous about how people will react to my hair. Its type 4a.

[@Naturalista91]

And? How has it been so far?

[@kiahnaw.7443]

@@Naturalista91 same experience as Sharmaine. People tried to touch my hair and act like idiots when they see it. I had one girl take photos of me laughing at my hair. I’d get stared at wherever I went and get asked stupid questions. When I met my bf (who’s white) he acted pretty normal, complimented my hair all the time and still does to this day a year later. When I moved to central NE, there were a few biracial kids and yeah their parents would have them looking crazy and obviously didn’t attempt to care for their hair. The kids would stare at me and the parents would ask me how I manage my hair, so I’d refer them to the KZbin tutorials I watch, which then they’d roll their eyes. I moved to Omaha back in February of this year. It’s a bit more diverse but not as diverse as GA, and it’s so nice to be able to find hair care products and boutiques that cater to my hair type.

[@Naturalista91]

@@kiahnaw.7443 heey Kiah. Thanks for the update. Interesting to read. Good to hear that you've moved away from there, hopefully your experiences will be much better from here on out!

[@QE.GYHOOYA-OYE]

Joy-el: the experiences you express can also amount to outright admiration: I've seen "those people" react the same way towards "their own" when they are infatuated with a person! You've got it on Kiddo and that's the crux of it: when was the last time you were in a primarily Black environment? The way you look you might experience the same reaction from just about everyone and don't by all means do not apologize for the way you look which is terrific. On the other hand if anyone attempts to put their hands on you violating your space you have the right to defend yourseld: carry a can of pepper spray with you at all times! QUESTION EVERYTHING: What Is The Truth (WITT)??? 😠 GYHOOYA: OYE!!! 🙄

[@Autumn938]

Great topic. Looking forward to it.

[@christinem8799]

I need this !!

[@TL71913]

I have a head full of freeform locs. People of a certain color ask if they can touch my hair. First of all I don't know what kind of energy you're carrying around and I don't know where your hands have been so it's a straight up"No" in a nice way and I move on (quickly). I also have a pull over sweatshirt that says "yes this is my hair no you can't touch it." Then I get the ignorant questions...Is it hard to take care of? My answer, no I don't do anything but keep my hair clean and leave it alone. Is it hard to sleep on? Is it heavy? Then you have the ones who insist on trying to touch your hair. Then you have to dodge and back away. Honesty, this is 2022 they should be used to seeing black people rocking their Awesome hair already!!! That's my rant. I Love your videos I think you're Awesome 🙂

[@CarmelQTful]

At my old job one of the head doctors made a comment when I decided to wear my hair in a wash and go. he asked me if I stuck my finger in a socket 😒

[@SharmaineJoyel]

Whattt?? Terrible! 😱

[@CarmelQTful]

@@SharmaineJoyel I know, I felt so embarrassed although, I shouldn’t have been the embarrassed one.

[@belizegal29]

I’ve been asked that before.🥴

[@CarmelQTful]

@@belizegal29 people are so rude 😒

[@libfuzzy4629]

Your hair is gorgeous 😍

[@alexgore3738]

get your break karen had me dying

[@emmanuellalockner8779]

What will you do if someone spontaneously touches your hair aggressively

[@Randomperson16-q4j]

I would touch their hair back and see how they like it

[@OKPMOK]

Why do I have to wait so long to watch this video lol

[@michelea2326]

I'm a hand dodger...like matrix level...NO TOUCH.

[@QE.GYHOOYA-OYE]

Jo-el: You’re such a cutie pie that the morons and dingbats are so taken aback by your pulchritude they don’t know what to say. I’ve been there finding it necessary to say something in response and profound like, “Cultural differences and the gifts of the universe coming together in a magnificent expression of beauty”: and two snaps thank you very much! 😜👍. Go get em’: You go girl! 😇

[@vashtiroyal8900]

Why is it an issue with her Crown of Glory She could b a outstanding model model She is a gorgeous advertisement

[@hollychaney5820]

I'm biracial too and most awkward comments come from black people

[@Ebizzill]

I feel like black people know better than to touch a stranger's hair... we dont go touching people's hair no matter how luscious and tempting it is... because... vudu, girl... vudu.

[@anndeecosita3586]

Believe me some do this. I’ve had it happen to me. But most times black people will at least ask first. One time I told a black guy in Walmart no and he started cussing at me. I didn’t care. I didn’t want some strange man touching on me.

[@Ebizzill]

@@anndeecosita3586 omg, i forgot to add, yes!!! at least if they go off code, they ask.... at the VERY least.

[@Cng215]

@@anndeecosita3586 where are these black people because thy exception to the rule isn't the rule. There are weirdos in all races but on average you won't find blacks doing this phuckery

[@anndeecosita3586]

@@Cng215 LOL Why are you bringing up “rules” when I clearly said some do this? I didn’t claim it to be the majority. My last relaxer was 2008 and I would be lying if I said I have never had a black person stick their hands in my natural hair. It didn’t all happen in one place. But like I said most black people who’ve touched my hair asked me first if they can touch my hair. Some of the ones who didn’t bother to ask were older women. Actually I have a former coworker with long relaxed hair who told me she has had older black women stick their hands in her hair to weave check her. they thought she is lying and were looking for tracks. Interesting how you speak of code because my experience with older black women is they don’t generally hold their tongue or respect boundaries of a younger black woman. Maybe you and I are different cultures.

[@portia9259]

Your sense of humor 😂😂😂

[@lindasmith9072]

Thanks for this

[@watsonray188]

Lmao 🤣 at 4:35, Lil Joy-el is a trip I tell ya ☺, She's all like..., It's to the point if I go to a Home Depot or something, Where I know the look... And there just staring 😅.... & Smiling ☠💀☠, And then El's All like..., I'm just... I... basically you... No... I just... Get out of the area 😅, As in real life... when I do go somewhere... I wanna be in... And out... in... And out, And ya when you do get held up, If someone says your hair is rather interesting 😲🤔, Just flip the energy and be like oh my Gosh... Thank you isn't it great 😂🤣😂 ☠💀☠ okay... Got it ☺👍, Now... Come to think of it, That reminds me of that one 2022 horror flick that just not too long came out called Smile 🤪 Like seriously..., It's like they've managed to Low key subliminally somewhat Doubled Down on the attempting to catch us slippin homie, Like Just so they can touch our wools & Kinks 😧, As if we have some type of free for all sign up & Reposted weekly to somewhat invisible unto us but suuuper conveniently visible to them, As if they must been viewing the whole time sort of Furby pets to giveaway at a flea market that just so happened to be up and active, Like no pun intended, But... It's Like as if to say they probably think that we're some sort of animal exhibit in a circus setting or something 🎪🤡🙊💬, Like with the ice cream truck music playin and everything bruh, Just strolling through the neighborhood as a surprise for the rest of the entire world to enjoy, But I say it's a bit like we've been put on reservation is more like it uuuh 🙄, And we already know they got that... I can't help its... "Syndrome" To come look to bear witnessed 🥸👀 that something has been around much much longer than them even, Cause we all mean monkey to monkey business to one another somewhat 🤝, Within a totally awkward seemingly Mutual degrees I guess 😅, Which where The circus 🎪 is stationary That just... Came to town... On top of our crowns or Something man... Ya know 🤷‍♂️ ☺ like they really needs to back back, As they'll get us feelin like Mike from Monsters Inc somewhat in a quickie, With such self evaluated slip after slip, Cause then... They'll catch the audacity... To touch... "it"... Without our consent first & What not with much respect subtracted from their own POV based Pacific narratives 🙄, Because I think a good pit of them within every race diaspora has somewhat either skipped or missed completely those unforgettable kindergarten Rules of Engagement by treating others how they would want to be treated, And don't you even get me started on how monkeypox are spread El homie 🤚😒, And on your down time, Ya may wanna KZbin - Mom infects her baby with herpes, Just in case you do the side to have kids, Because all it takes is one total stranger... God forbid... or an outside the home relative to get the touchin or kissing on your baby as some sort of innocent passive affection, And then wham! it's all of a sudden your on the way to the emergency room, All because of these Space Invaders & Mutual respect being broken into, Because nowadays... it's all about the 3 major guidelines with our comings & goings El homie. 1.Mutual safety is a must pls, 2. Cautionary concerns always help everybody involved & 3. Much appreciated Affirmative distances, So pls tell them to either learn or at least be mindful of those guidelines 😏👍, As it could possibly be mutually beneficial as Life Saving Exercises... Ya know, And homegirl said... Soon as you acknowledge me... I'm gone... Like no lie #ICanRelate ☺👍, And it reminded me of that one Lil Wayne hook from Drop the World ft Eminem, As it goes like... So I pick the world up! & I'ma drop it on your freakin head!, Yeah... I'ma pick the world up! & I'ma drop it on your freakin head!, Haha yeah, And I can die now, Rebirth..., Hop up in my spaceship leave 🌎 mofo, I'm gone!... Mofo I'm gone! 😅... I'm gone 🚀👩‍🚀

[@juliesevilla2164]

You are beautiful!

[@Valerie-zm7zc]

It happen to me at my part time work I said no don’t touch maybe for the other co worker ( she white ) it’s ok but for me nah … Its not respectful at all

[@Tootisepop]

I need this

[@breeb.1803]

“Sorry I don’t have dog hair 😂”

[@louiscreed4026]

😄 no doubt you literally took them by Suprise because this belief they've been given that wts only have long straight hair and that individuals brown or ebony only have thick curly hair which of course isn't true BUT it's because they like most people dont know that hair isnt actually race pacific that they were curious about you

[@natesummer6408]

You remind me of Jessica Szohr.

[@evebowman4375]

And the touching of the hair is a complete No! No! People have all kinds of crazy evil spirits and according to American Indian tale you hand have power to transfer them!! I refuse to let anyone touch it!!!

[@LotusHeart777]

I wonder🤔 if they will be asking Ha'Masiach if they can touch His hair when He shows up.😳....".hair like WOOL". Says that in the 📖.

[@deborahbonner476]

Please fight through the social anxiety. Don't box yourself in.

[@JaneDoane]

Yes but it's more easy to say, personnally 😭😅

[@sable7114]

No one has ever asked to touch my hair accept a friend after I became natural. She is also natural. I have noticed that most compliments come from males and predominantly Caucasian males which is a little odd to me! One friend, however, said that natural hair is not for everyone so I don't think I should perceive that as a compliment.

[@QueenLay30]

Sorry I don’t have dog hair 😂🤣

[@ultraviolet9169]

Sorry I don't have dog hair LMAO

[@gretchen725]

Omg I use to hate this. Your even worse when they touch it. Please don’t touch it please I hate that.

[@TracyD2]

The only thing I say is you have beautiful hair. The person has to be in my sphere for a minute already. I used to get the compliments when young and my hair was super long. I hated the men standing behind you stroking it. Jesus.

[@Cng215]

I'm noticing more and more bi racials taking more pride in their natural hair then actual full black women. Don't come for me just an observation and if it don't apply let it fly. Natural black women are gorgeous.

[@josephinebournes8212]

That's just your personal observation because I trust that you have no data to back up this assertion.

[@JaneDoane]

@@josephinebournes8212 really !!

[@lindasmith9072]

I'm not understand what you mean 😕

[@LotusHeart777]

@@josephinebournes8212 you contradicted yourself. No data but "her observation." Do you watch tv? So called bi-racial women on some shows wear their hair natural. Those who aren't usually in a weave or wig....NOT that it matters. Wear your hair how you want.

[@easygrl202]

I see wat u mean. A lot of people with tighter more corse hair want it to be more similar to wat most perceive as ” mixed hair”. I love that they love their hair but I’m gonna need my type 4 girls to stop with the self loathing hair narrative, it’s cringy and gives off bad vibes like “ pity me my hair isn’t as pretty as urs blah blah blah” I love how Charmaine really loves her hair ❤️

[@ambinicole5159]

Refer them to your KZbin. Atleast get some views 🤣

[@sarahb6758]

U must live in a really white area for them to be reacting like that so often 😄

[@josephinebournes8212]

Blacks folks can be equally as offensive and ignorant ASF.

[@eskye4393]

I hope that research can find a way to permanently make our hair more silky and unkinked. From the root. So people can make their hair tight curled if they like but can have easy to comb silky hair. That’s me. My rough thick hair being natural would make you cry but I’m thankful it grows long. I relax it. ///. They don’t like black peoples hair but they won’t stop themselves from selfishly satisfying themselves by asking us questions about our hair. Sometimes close acquaintances try it by taking advantage of out niceness in a moment. Don’t touch or ask us how often we wash our hair unless you wanna wake up with our hair growing out of your own head when you wake up tomorrow morning. 😒 Okayy ??

[@melvapryor9868]

Your hair is beautiful but since you look white it confuses people. I see lots of black women with beautiful hair but you expect it because they are black. You get compliments and envious looks and you sound snobby about it.