how to MAKE FRIENDS EASILY *from an introvert* ( healthy friendships, red flags + more )

[@saeshell]

HOPE U ENJOY THIS WEEKS VIDEO BEANS 🤍 should i do an advice hotline series on my channel? 👀

[@gerwinthetiel8878]

YESS!! I really enjoyed the other ones and more would be so cool

[@dreaminrebecca]

yes yes yes

[@Lemonlover27]

Yessssssssssss

[@Chirpilee]

I had a "friend" not too long ago who was extremely draining to me. She was a very pessimistic person, always complaining and venting about her life. I used to be that kind of person when I was a lot younger so I had sympathy for her. I tried to be understanding and listen but over time it felt like I was just being used as a therapist, rather than a friend. When I would talk to her about the things happening in my life, she would get jealous. I think we had different mindsets. I think that life is what you make it, whereas she thinks that your fate is already decided and that people who haave good lives are just lucky. She was also the kind of person to complain about how she had no friends. But when she would say things like that, it made me feel like she didn't value me. To me, she did have friends. There were people who cared about her. But it seemed that to her they weren't good enough. If there is one thing I've learned from that relationship its that I absolutely never want to be like her. I don't want to be a negative person, who bring people down. It's okay to be sad sometimes because there are times that life truly does suck. But I don't want that to be a constant thing. I want to be uplifting to others.

[@ellennh7668]

It's SO easy to just feel sorry for yourself and end up waiting around for friends to randomly stumble in to your life but what makes all the differens is when you realise YOU have to take initiative! Its scary as hell but when you reach out to people and get over that initial scary feeling its so great. Also the truth is that most other people don't have a ton of friends and will just be really happy when someone thinks of them and reaches out. So a tip is to start off by making a list of potential friends who are already in your life and start trying to make it happen. It could be someone you always thought were cool but were in a different circle than you. It could be your friends friend or an old childhood friend who you want to reconnect with! Also when you become an adult you kinda realise there are a bunch of amazing people out there who maybe have very different interest than you or who you would not usually hang out with but are worth a chance!

[@noname-yh7wh]

watching this video before school starts so i can escape the "friendships" i've had over the past years, it's hard for me to even call them friends, they're simply just my acquintances. one of them refuses to stop talking, then asks me why i'm always so quiet and never tell her about my life.. perhaps because you never gave me the chance to utter a single word. however, when i would start conversing, she'd either cut me off or just won't listen at all. being with her felt like a chore, i should've at least been paid to sit there and listen to her. the other friend always complained, no matter what it was for. she stopped hanging out with me since she started going out with the people i introduced her to, and whenever i'd joke around with her she'll just turn a frown on her face, her mood fluctuates more than my bank account. whenever i hung out with her i'd feel judged, anything i say or do will be made fun of. i've forever been a self conscious person, to the point where people would think its unhealthy, though i'd always fake my confidence.. they tend to drag it down. i'm often the one that gets the highest score in a test, you'd think they'd be happy for a "friend", but unfortunately not, they'd still find a flaw to name me after. all their behaviour comes out as jealousy, no matter what. jealousy is a disease and i hope they'll start to feel better soon, they seem quite far more insecure about themselves than i am. i have so much love to give but nobody to give it to, i'm starting in a new class, which means new faces, new names, new individuals. so hopefully.. this year, i'll finally find somebody to call 'my friend'.

[@Seolhwaneul]

The way I’m over the moon bc you actually made our suggestion a video aaah ❤❤❤ luv u Shelly 💕

[@saeshell]

of course!! i've been meaning to make a friendship video for awhile now & you motivated me 🤍🤍

[@Flaw3d_1nFav0r]

Thank you so much omg- Im starting high school in a few weeks and i’ve always had a rough time making friends bc i feel like i wasn’t good enough for anybody. After this video i feel ready to make some better friends now

[@SunshineShaye]

Need me a friend group that actually wants to go out 😂

[@saeshell]

you'll find them!! keep on looking 🫶🏼

[@lindathao6303]

​@@saeshellI dont have much real friends in public but im so scared and shy talk to them

[@twilightartistx]

i always think of the brides maid thing!

[@gerwinthetiel8878]

advice hotline sounds like a great idea I would love that!!!! edit: when I saw emma come in was bittersweet on the 25th with be a year since my little tiel passed!! my best friend I miss my little Gershy so much

[@saeshell]

i think it would be so so fun! i'm so sorry to hear about your little gershy, that breaks my heart so much

[@emberk39]

Ok, I was literally journaling this last week about what friendship meant for my life and also how to get out and make more friends. And then you post this ? Ahhhhmazing. I’m an extrovert with lots of friendship trauma that I’ve spent the last few years unpacking , so I think I’m going to take a lot of these points and run with them (besides that I deleted all my socials 😆). I think my number one to work on is complimenting others.

[@saeshell]

great minds think alike! i'm so happy you enjoyed this video 🫶🏼 i believe your new besties will find you this year, you've got this!!

[@dreaminrebecca]

hiiii shelly i loved this video - as an introvert this helped alot

[@saeshell]

this makes me so happy i could help out! you've got this 🫶🏼 ( you've also made my day omg pls !! )

[@mmmatchaaa]

also don't hang out w manipulative ppl, look out for them and avoid them. A manipulative person won't know they are manipulative. also how to break up w ur friend group? you can do the worst way which is just to leave without saying anything. I sent them a huge letter in a text of why i was leaving and how i felt. i'm still friends with them but we aren't as close and we don't hang out together.

[@Teganwinters1]

Being 25 everything you have said in this video is exactly how it feels and what iv gone through learning about friendships the past couple of years.

[@AOYOS444]

Your energy is magical 💫

[@fionaann247]

Queen Shelly is back everyone Love you Shelly ❤❤

[@saeshell]

love you so so much 🤍

[@days_of_rose]

Lovely video, perfect timing 🌷Love the idea of an advice hotline !!! After this video, I would love some tips on how to get out of bad friendships - I avoid confrontation as the thought of people not liking me makes me anxious.

[@saeshell]

thankyou so so much! i think an advice hotline is a must hehe confrontation is always so scary, it's never easy but one thing i like to think of is: it's better to be alone than to be in the wrong company. if they are bad and you know that, just distancing yourself and cutting them off is enough to close the door & find your new besties :) x

[@pixaana]

youre sooo nice. this video was so refreshing to watch 😭

[@n4t4liexx]

this is really helpful , as an introvert its hard to open up to people and find the right people to become friends with so im really glad to at least have this one best friend that actually is a green flag

[@Kiwi-Vogel]

I feel you lol I had a best friend who was my dearest friend but now I'm in high school and it's pretty hard to make friends😅

[@moon...707]

​@@Kiwi-Vogeli see you in another video you are also searching friends in comment section also😂

[@xoxo_maya23]

Hi Shelly!! I found your channel from insta threads and that was the best decision I’ve made this year! I’ve been having a hard time making friends cause people leave me out of things and I have a hard time making myself get noticed by others but I hope this video helps! Thank you for uploading this ❤❤

[@saeshell]

oh my gosh i didn't think anybody would be here from threads, you're so special to me 🥹🤍 you're so amazing & i'm so happy i could help out ( hopefully )

[@ClaudelleDorion]

Hi girlie! Just wanted to tell you how grateful I am for your video, it is so inspiring & you give so much value & advice, I appreciate it & you seem like such a sweet person! Thank you!! ❤️‍🔥

[@LuliPatuli]

Im watching this as im starting school in a different country, far away from my childhood friends😢im excited to make new friends at my new school, but im also scared😅this video helped so much, thank you🫶🏻

[@Zuxiro]

I feel like making friends shouldn't be such a challenge. So why do I find it so hard to approach women on the street? Is it because the fear is so intimidating, especially when meeting someone new for the first time? I'm committed to overcoming this and discovering ways to approach people confidently and without fear.

[@Zuxiro]

By the way, I subscribed and liked Your video with a bell notification turned on.

[@Jdekq377]

It is really difficult tryna find the right people I always worry about not talking much or small talk and I care to much what others think so, that differs from me branching out to knew people. I have been through so, many friends where they didn’t treat me right made me feel left out and not valued enough really toxic and negative.

[@saeshell]

work on not caring what others think and just being yourself, that will do wonders for you🤍🤍

[@Jdekq377]

@@saeshell Thanks for the advice, will try do that!

[@lyjé8]

i’m so madddd i didn’t discover your channel earlier!!! this video helped me so so so much i’m currently in year ten and i’ve moved schools a lot throughtout school and i just feel like i’ve never found my people yk especially in high school everyone gossips and i don’t want to! because that’s low vibe behaviour so i do feel lonely sometimes 😭but imma implement your tips and join some sort of class and just meet more people more friends thank you so sosososo much seriously beacseu your also australian you feel like a big sisterrrr🤣keep doing this seriously i value your content so so so much ❤

[@Sponggybobbie]

Yess! Thanks for the vid I’ve been needing to make new friends

[@saeshell]

so happy i can help!! :)

[@avaxaaj]

THANK YOU SM… ISTG THIS WILL HELP ME A LOT.

[@mimibeaar]

This video found me right when I needed it!! 🥺💕

[@Lemonlover27]

That alone period has been my whole life and I’m in middle school Edit thanks for 100 likes and 15 replies Ty so much 🩵💙 and also I finally made a friend

[@saeshell]

life is so amazing and full of wonderful opportunities once school is over, school is only a very small aspect in our lives and those people you're worried about now won't even matter! there is a quote i love and it's "you have yet to meet your bestest friends and experience your greatest opportunities"

[@LaurenLicensedEsthetician]

My alone period has been my whole life and I’m almost 23. I just embrace it now.

[@Staxr_ffm]

Same I change schools every year cuz we move a lot and I’m still horrible at socializing

[@ballinhunter12]

It’s not over for you. I’m 25 and was a pretty big loner for years but recently I’ve been opening myself to more opportunities. While it is kinda nerve wracking for me, I came to realize that nothing good comes with doing the same thing over and over if it’s not working. Sometimes to get positive change, you have to get uncomfortable. Slowly introducing yourself to these uncomfortable situations while make you build up a tolerance over time and after a while, you’ll be a changed person.

[@ballinhunter12]

Also remember that while you may be uncomfortable, you’re not gonna die. If you go to an event and it doesn’t work out for you, the worst that can happen is it didn’t work out and you can try something different instead. Same goes for people, you’re gonna mesh with certain people and with some people you’re not. Don’t beat yourself up if you and another person don’t jive. But don’t change yourself to try to get that person to like you either. There are plenty of people like you in the world, you just gotta keep looking for them!😁

[@marinsiebert]

i have always had the problem of knowing what to say to people, so I kind of have a it of a story, I moved to a new school for my 1st year of Jr. high, and I made these two besties, and we were great friends, but the summer after that year one of the girls moved to Missouri, so I just had my one friend, so then the 2nd year of jr high was HORRIBLE, she had actually started to go through depression and had a bit of and eating problem, and she became friends with a certain guy in our class, and they ended up being inseparable, like she would always go to him and he knew her problems, and she would never talk about it to me. so I then suddenly didn't know how to be her friend anymore, like I felt that we just didn't get each other anymore, and its kind of true because wea er two very different people. but once she became friends with this guy they were just so alike and they knew how to talk to each other, and I just didn't know how to talk to her as my bsf anymore so things just got awkward between us. so whenever we were alone together I would just get so nervous bc I just didn't know what to say. and I wasnt really friends with any of the other girls in my class. but here's the thing it's a k-12 school so everyone in my class knew each other so well cause they have been together since kindergarten. and now I am going into my first year of highschool, and the guy she was friends with is leaving our class, so I'm a bit glad and also sorry for her. but at least I will have a chance to stay friends with her again. just basically my whole problem is just knowing how to talk to people without overthinking like "what do I say!?". cause I felt like I forget how to make friends.😭😭 if someone could reply I would be so greatful❤❤

[@stars_and_scars]

girl, im not sure, she shouldn't have neglected you for that guy in the first place. You should try to make new friends and meet new ppl. She made you feel nervous, and the year went horrible. she should've cared abt you in the first place. meet new people. stay friends with her, but you should meet new people, see whether your vibe can match w theirs or not.

[@AudreyElliott123]

Thank you!! This was really helpful I have my one bestie friend and I love her w my whole heart but I would also love to expand my circle!!!

[@julietzandvliet5431]

Love this video sm!! But the only thing I’m having trouble with is when you say that’s people who have no friends is a big red flag when that’s kind of me right now in that situation, I have been a little bit more on myself because I’ve just not had that click or connection with people and moving schools made me lose friends

[@saeshell]

if you're a good intended person with a kind heart then that point obviously doesn't relate with you at all! i am more so talking about how most people will show you they can't have longevity in a connection because they actually suck and they will show their true colours sooner than later. i actually talk more about this point in an upcoming friendship video so stay tuned!! 💖

[@alessia_117]

loved the video shelly 🤍 ur literally one of my fav youtubers!!

[@saeshell]

sobbing fr you're the sweetest, thankyou 🥹

[@aimeemckillop224]

And that is why Emma is a bestie she has all the green flags 💚

[@saeshell]

you're talking about emma my bird right 👀 becuase she's the biggest green flag ever yess

[@aimeemckillop224]

@@saeshell yess I love your birds in videos so cute! I love animals I have my dog as my best friend

[@beanieboos321]

such a helpful video thank you!! 😊

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Hi Saeshell happy Sunday night and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter

[@Just_my_life-13]

You should make a podcast with stuff like this.❤❤

[@imme791]

I catched myself thinking that most of these advice are to get to know people rather than making friends, but then I had to correct myself and say how every deep relationship or friendship starts with a simple hi. Any advice for people with avoidant tendencies like me?

[@stephaniewatt2781]

Please do the advice hotline❤love from South Africa xxx

[@Filmedby_Elle]

THE QUEEN HAS POSTED!! 🤍🤍

[@saeshell]

YES HELLOO 🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@m.lavenders]

this is so helpful, tysm

[@Dr34dful]

love the shrek reference at 21:15. thank you

[@saeshell]

someone finally got it YESS

[@victoriavillarreal5211]

It’s so hard to make friends as a adult. I have 0 friends today because I finish school early and I didn’t tell anyone at the time when I left because I was in my own little teenage world. Now it’s hard for me

[@pinkprincesse7]

hi girl from france!! Ur si pretty and i love this vidéo so much !!

[@sodojin4127]

This video is amazing and so reletable😊❤

[@luvruru]

i have so many experiences with fake friends and people that one day just decided to ghost me.. (and im guilt of doing this with other "friends" as well....) today i totally understand why some of them left me, but others... im still thinking about it.. now, i have one of my best friends (my boyfie❤) but he also have friendships that he can trust and talk about his passions without fear of being judge... the problem is. i cant do that with my trio... they do not have the same valoues as mine. and i feel so sad that i cant talk with them abt my religion, my thoughts, my opinions... bc they would probably scream at me and say that i totally wrong. i moved to a new school with them. and now i dont know what to do but stay with this same trio. i really want to find new friends and people that also think the same as me (not 100% obviously). i just dont know how. im shy and i hate that.

[@saeshell]

you will find your people, just give it time

[@MegTsioumi]

My problem is it takes me time to develop a friendship

[@mohamedyasi7876]

That is not a problem at all . If you make friends fast most of them will be bad friends soo take your time to figure out a true friendship.

[@Annagartland-fr4im]

Omg thank u cus I’ve been wondering if my friend was true and she had no green flags and all the red flags no joke

[@paigeleopardlock4803]

it feels rlly sad that i need to search this but everytime i want to try n say hi to someone i freeze

[@mohamedyasi7876]

Hii can we be friends searching how to sad😭.

[@DaughterOfTheKingdom16]

This video is very good!

[@grwmglow]

Second ❤

[@Annagartland-fr4im]

Omg thank u cus I’ve been wondering if my friend was true and she had no green flags and all the red flags no joke

[@Annagartland-fr4im]

Omg thank u cus I’ve been wondering if my friend was true and she had no green flags and all the red flags no joke

[@Annagartland-fr4im]

Omg thank u cus I’ve been wondering if my friend was true and she had no green flags and all the red flags no joke

[@Avoice-wp5nx]

I really want someone to talk even 10 mins are also fine I just don't feel good

[@Kiwi-Vogel]

Me too I don't have anyone to talk to now that i'm in high school

[@livislays]

thank you so much for this. i start highschool in a week or so and i am terrified. i always get so scared talking to people and i feel unworthy of having friends. i have some classes with a few friends but the thing is, ive never had to make friends on my own. ive grown up in the same school for the past 12 years and i started when i was 2. other friends i have are because they are the kids of my parents friends. if anyone has tips for high school please let me know because im mostly scared for the social aspect of it. thanks :)

[@FffTtt-z9q]

Hey i just wanted to ask how is highschool going rn? Im 14 starting my 2nd year of highschool in 3 days and last year i wasnt able to really make friends so it was boring lol

[@Kiwi-Vogel]

​@@FffTtt-z9qI just started recently too and i don't have any friends so far yet 😅

[@g.t2231]

My so called "friend" used to havs her airpods on 24/7 everytime she was with me she wasn't even listening to me🙁

[@vijayatripathi9124]

First

[@louisthemates999]

I’m 😢struggling to find friend

[@zombieslammer9947]

MOAR COCKITAIL VID S NOW CHOP CHOP GIRLY POp

[@saeshell]

not with that attitude pls

[@Silvazul]

❤❤❤❤

[@siarha70]

shit am i the problem?

[@saeshell]

the first step to improvement is self awareness 🥹

[@person-sx5ki]

🤍🤍🤍

[@primesupremegaming3044]

Will I have friends under this comment section 🥲

[@AYEDOMINO_143cult]

Maybe :)

[@PurpleStarz-jg6bz]

:)

[@aestheticqueen15]

Yeah

[@latisheira]

im never manage to get thru over half of ur videos without wanting, NEEDINg, to like share subscribe repost reblog retweet your video!!!! 🤍