how to master DETACHMENT: how to stop caring about other people, cut toxicity out, & stay unbothered

how to master detachment, stop caring about what other people think, get rid of toxic people in your life, how to be unbothered, and be the best version of yourself, validate yourself. start living for you, change your life and get rid of anxious attachment.
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timecodes:
0:00 - intro
0:36 - become self aware
1:37 - would you stay detached in these scenarios
2:51 - why do we feel the need to impress others
4:26 - why people are toxic
5:44 - stop taking things personally
6:06 - basing your self-worth from others
6:20 - find your own self-worth
7:30 - opinions are not a fact
8:30 - stop tripping over haters
9:55 - control your emotions
10:53 - your time and energy is precious
12:10 - stop overthinking
12:20 - your inner roommate
13:02 - prove to yourself first
13:25 - value those who value you
14:04 - get comfortable with discomfort

[@lenalifts]

HI MY LOVES ❤ if you have any topics you want me to cover in my next self-help talking video please comment them hehe okie love you all so so much :)

[@yusra.ahmdd03]

@@fit_shortbase95I agree as well ☺️

[@maeelizabethjane9609]

Lena, this vid is amazing! You should make a podcast or a self-help channel. xoxo

[@Natalia-rn4hh]

Thanks for this video! It feels like all of your videos have been super on point lately. Can you make one about how to find out who you are? Thanks again!

[@briannasmith465]

Advice on how to stand up for yourself when you're being disrespected.

[@Natalia-rn4hh]

@@fit_shortbase95 right? And it feels like your identity is always changing so you have to keep finding yourself. I’m interested in hearing Lena’s thoughts about how to go about that. :)

[@mahahabib215]

The worst thing is not when people hate on you… the worst is when people are INDIFFERENT they just don’t care about your existence

[@kazuhaxiao1551]

As someone who deals with annoying social anxiety that literally ruined my life this video is needed because I don't have that much friends I am afraid of loosing and I would do whatever it takes to keep them close. This video is so inspiring thanks lena ❤

[@lenalifts]

I’m sorry to hear you struggle w social anxiety 🥺 I went through that too so I understand how hard it can be sometimes but I promise you will get through it!! ❤️ you wanting to improve yourself is the first step which you already are doing !!

[@calistaj2284]

Omg literally me too!

[@alexaskye33]

Ahhh STOP DOING WHATEVER YOUR DOING LENA POSTED

[@lenalifts]

THANK YOU FOR BEING EARLY BAE ❤️❤️❤️

[@farhzanabegum9938]

I love this. I’ve been watching her for while now!

[@yarielavillarreal4509]

I needed to hear this. I found out that all my work “friends” hangout outside of work or even all of them ordering food together during lunch I never get asked if I want to order something. I won’t lie I feel really lonely and bothers me, I feel left out kinda hurt and it would really take up my whole day. So I needed to hear this tbh because I just need to do me for now on 😊

[@lenalifts]

aww im so sorry to hear that but thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing bc i can DEF relate to you. ❤ i hope you know that their poor behavior is not a reflection of you, its of them. idk your work "friends" but they sound like bad vibes and you legit sound like the sweetest, most positive energy so dont let them dim your shine. ILY

[@Echolyris212]

To be honest, these work friends are not worth your time and them not including you is actually a blessing. Focus on your work so you can either move up or gain experience and move out to another job. Then just like many of us when we leave a job you will never think of them again. Trust me. Maybe they are meant to exclude you because you’re meant for more than the position you are currently in. 🙂

[@dustinsalgadopavon7852]

There are no friends at work...

[@minho4U]

They are doing you a favor, dear. Work friends don’t exist. I’m a slow learner and went through it three times 😅 learned the hard way, save yourself that experience

[@HieuNguyen-zf3ie]

Wow, she is speaking right to me. This is what I'm going through. It hurts so much when people are ghosting and toxic

[@rebeccaly]

I’m someone who obsesses over other people’s perceptions of me and I overthink too much. I really appreciate this video. You spoke so much truth. Thank you for these really good reminders ❤

[@michaelperfect]

I was literally thinking about detachment today !! It’s a journey but let me tell you, life has been easier since detaching. All the scenarios you mentioned happened to me and I learned from it.Please continue those type of videos 🌟🌷 love the self development videos❤️

[@lenalifts]

ahhh im so glad we can relate to each other but im sorry you had to go through those tough experiences ❤ love u sm and im so grateful for ur support w this new content it means the world coming from you!!!

[@hannah-lisa2059]

Toxic people have low self esteem🙌🏼. Felt that. Recognised in myself. Glad I’ve been working on it and glad I’ve gotten better. Still not 100% there but I know the issue and it’s a work in progress.

[@camera0bsessedx]

this is one of the things I struggle most with! a lot of the friendships ive had in my life have been very toxic where they treat me poorly or walk all over me and I wouldnt say or do anything about it, i'd just take it. now im like NO not anymore, once I start noticing those signs in people im quick to drop them cause I know I dont need that energy or negativity in my life! thank you for sharing this lena, your videos are always so helpful!

[@lenalifts]

i relate so hard on the toxic friendships girl you are not alone ❤ ❤so glad you learned how to make boundaries and dropped those friends because you deserve amazing friends that reciprocate the energy. much love!!

[@JadaVlogs]

The four scenarios are exactly what I've got through and frustrated by for my entire life lol. Every single word she brought here is probably what I needed to care way earlier. Thank you for awakening me with your ultimate advice ♡

[@lenalifts]

awww im honestly so sorry you had to go through that too but im glad we have each other to lift each other up ❤ love u sm

[@bibi141489]

Wow the universe working at its finest I literally was so sad these boys get me so 💆🏽‍♀️ what a reminder ITS ALL GOOD thank you ❤

[@lenalifts]

all is good and you deserve everything and MORE!! never settle for less ❤

[@lammabunzz2994]

That having a guy not texting back but "do you even really like them" hits HARRDDDD. Literally didnt even try to take time to know me 😭

[@MorganVenn]

I love THIS because people's actions towards you are NOT a reflection of your worth and I had to remind myself that again and again (still sometimes do) before it made me stop caring as much

[@JulesSeptember2307]

We have been blessed with the queen's presence 🥺✨ I struggle SO BADLY with attachment to other people. I've gotten a little better since I got to university, but it got so bad when I was in highschool that if someone didn't like me or if I felt I was just annoying everyone else, it would rip me to shreds. I'd do anything I could to try and make up for it. It was a toxic mindset to be in and I'm so glad to be heading away from being attached to other people and being bothered. ❤🎉 Thank you so much for making this video! It was really helpful ❤

[@lenalifts]

ive been blessed by your positive energy!! ❤ ❤ awww thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your story because i promise you i can relate so hard to the feeling of being so hurt when poeple dont like you. im glad you worked on yourself to overcome that!!

[@pounameedebbarma3830]

Damn she won my heart. The mindset. THE MINDSET!! I have somehow the exact thinking as her. She just passed my vibe check damn

[@Txgirl-tt1ym]

When my husband & I met our 1st encounter was not good. We did not like each other & guess we just got off the wrong foot. Thankfully, I started working where he worked & we realized we really did like each other. Here we are happily married 28 years later. Definitely taught me that sometimes you have to give a person a second chance. BTW great video & I am so happy you found your confidence.

[@lenalifts]

Wow thank you so much for sharing that 🥹😭🤍 that is such a sweet love story and I’m so happy to hear that because i feel like I don’t hear enough people talking about happy long term relationships. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and I really look forward to something like what you have!!

[@la6136]

Idk about this my first intuition gut feeling is always spot on and whenever I ignored it, I really regretted it later on. I feel like your situation is the exception to the rule.

[@shivanipatel6662]

Ooh Lena flexing that already fully developed frontal lobe at 23😤 So thoughtful of you to share those vulnerable hurtful moments you’ve experienced with others I am sure it will resonate with many.

[@lenalifts]

not the frontal lobe!!!!!! lmaoooo love u sm my girl i feel so blessed to have you growing w me literally from baby college lena to now. i appreciate you so so much ❤

[@ShelbyMontana-yc1hq]

Just came here to say how much I love your content. I feel like a lot of people who post self help stuff really do not understand how it feels to try and do this when you struggle with mental health disorders like depression or anxiety. Thank you for being so real ❤

[@michellejungg]

the way you are able to rationalise this and break it down into different parts was so helpful and easy to understand. i feel so empowered by your words!! ily you absolute queen

[@usagimoon.x.o6256]

I dealt with all those scenarios before. I can relate to your videos, and I'm so glad I found your channel a few weeks ago!

[@xxxp2805]

Wow. I must say, this was such a great video! Thank you so much. Especially the last fact with prioritizing others who don’t even spend a single thought about you is so so true!!

[@GirlyYanet]

Thank you for these videos recently. There are so real and raw. I relate so much to this video and I needed to hear all of this. I’ve followed your for about 1 year and find you such an inspiration. Best wishes 💗🫶🏽

[@AnnaKwonda]

Love this!! Thank you! Also, “I’m 23 yo… bc I still feel so young.” Omg girl. That’s because you ARE. Enjoy it. Hit your 30s, 40s, and so on, you’ll regret thinking you were old at 23 😆

[@SARAHLYNN-eu2iv]

Now I feel old 😭😂

[@daniquewillemsen1313]

So helpful!! Needed this as i'm struggling with some toxic situations/people. The way you tell this out of your own experience, makes it even better and so inspirational. Thank you❤❤

[@HulluitsCece]

I definitely struggle with this and needed this reminder for sure. Even to just reevaluate the ppl in my life now.

[@fletch391]

LENA! I started my fitness journey a few months ago now and I was soooo nervous but since coming across your videos I feel like I have a little boost every day. Love your content! ❤

[@andykolte5613]

Needed to hear this. Thank you so much girly. You are awesome and inspiring and fantastic. Your videos keep me going and growing. You inspire me a lot. Lots of love ❤🥺🫂🫶💟✨️💖🩵 .

[@karin5801]

Lena... I just have to say that you are such an inspiration for me to be a better person!! I have been watching your videos since you were in college. I love seeing you grow as a person and your growth makes me want to do better in life and maybe embrace my feminine side more as well. We all know you work hard so please don't forget to rest in between ♡　Love you so much!!!!

[@miso5020]

Hey, I loved your video, and your other videos too❤ I actually had watched a bunch of other detachment videos but I think that this is the real one. I can relate with every examples you made, and you made it easier how to get rid of toxic thoughts! Love uu❤❤❤

[@iamchisenga]

This was meant for me🥺🥺🥺, you have no idea how much I needed this and how much you've helped me. Thank you❤

[@al9977]

lovinggg the frequent uploads

[@victoriamartinez6773]

Love you queen !! I’m so happy your doing podcast!! I love your advice and your aura, literally the best !! 🥰🥰

[@mariaab1349]

I am currently dealing with constant anxiety and overthinking due to a friend I thought was my ride or die and honestly you made me realize in 15 min how I'm really just giving away my time to people that don't even deserve it and the fact that feeling like my friends don't like me is really a me thing, I don't like myself enough nor do I respect me. Thank you so much! feels like I just had the most real conversation possible with a friend 💜

[@chvp4605]

My day to day Bible in one video honestly. All very important concepts that through time have really saved me, made me so much happier and helped me completely adore myself 🌸

[@Mariam-ts3xu]

I feel this is the best therapy video I have ever seen in my life. I will benefit greatly from it. Thank you for being in this world and always reminding us to be kind and support each other.❤❤❤❤❤

[@MorrisCreativeStudio]

Thank you so much! I totally needed this please keep posting great content! I have had so much anxiety lately and your content makes me feel loved and encouraged . Praying for you and thankyou!

[@Idgafyaar]

You don't know how much you've helped me with this video!!!🥺 Tysm dear and bless you💜💜💜

[@emanuelaenache6277]

idk what it is but i love just listening to you like i found your channel 2 hours ago but everything you say makes me feel productive so ive just been playing your videos in the background for the past 2 hours and ive done all my homework like i feel so guilty clicking off and going on socials.But fr i love your advice love you so muchh

[@user-ue3fw2cv5i]

OMG I NEEDED THIS SO BAD THANK YOU 🤩

[@TeexMack]

I was honestly in a bit of a funk from a bad interaction yesterday at work but this made me feel better. Thank you Lena! ❤

[@akanemorrison8171]

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for being you 💓

[@ashlynwinston6134]

This helped me so much! Thank you Lena, you're so inspiring

[@alesamaa]

you PACKED A LOT of info in this video, I think I'm gonna have to see this several times lol 😅many of the concepts aren't new to me but the way you presented them kinda acted as a reminder on how to work on these things so I really appreciate it. 💙

[@itssangiex]

lena!!! love this new series, pls continue doing them, you have a gift

[@EvolveWithElaine]

I needed this ❤

[@karlenasanchez9376]

I just discovered this channel yesterday and I can say that you stole my heart. You’re such a kind human. I can tell. Btw you listening Latin music is such a mood ❤😂 new subscriber

[@christengardner1466]

I feel ya girl. I'm at the point where I don't even block them anymore I just let it go. ❤

[@katiegarlick2951]

I never ever comment on videos, but LENA I LOVE your self help talking videos!!! Please continue doing these! Your video on HOW TO RADIATE FEMININE ENERGY hit so close to home and taught me things about myself I never knew I needed! I think I have watched it about 5x or more at this point 😂 And this video is just as amazing!!! I have learned so much from these videos. Your experiences are so deeply relatable and you are just so real!!! Though I absolutely love your fitness content, these self help videos have changed my life girl 🙌. I adore all of your content and hard work and I hope you and everyone here has a fantastic day 💜💜💜

[@ansleyirish1741]

One thing that I love about you is you did put the subtitles for us who are deaf and listen to your topics. Go girl! Xoxoxo Thank you for that!

[@FushiguroMegumi79]

I was always anxious about these kinds of things but I lied to myself about my social anxiety until Covid hit and it made it 10 times worse. Currently trying to get myself back to that confident party goer, so thanks Lena for this video!

[@Alora.167]

I’ve been watching you for a while now, and you are just so inspiring and you give me so many good tips, and u are drop dead gorgeous!!!❤❤❤❤

[@st4rgazee]

THIS VIDEO WAS SO NEEDEDD

[@TheRodriguezFam]

I absolutely love your content always!!! But these sit downs have been so uplifting. Thank you. Currently trying to implement this in my life 🤍🌹

[@sanjusgamingworld802]

Thank you so much for thiss video!!! Awesome video ❤️ ❤️ I really needed this

[@alix_xavier]

Miss lenalift had left my awareness up and made my emotional support to my self getting stronger Love it ❤

[@addieskeen2347]

Honestly i have terrible social anxiety i have panic attacks from tiny things that happen at school because of how self conscious i am i always feel like every just acts like my friend because they never invite me to anything and its been honestly really exhausting and i want to thank you because you seem like such a positive person and this video made me realize that i need to work on it

[@baharsorosh3083]

You give me such a positive energy

[@dianastalkshow]

I Needed this WOW perfect timing

[@sunnytoca7832]

this was so amazing i dont know how she doesnt have 10mil subs she deserves even more this helped me so much thank you lena❤

[@rinnnq]

Your video actually changed my entire mindset, thank you! I needed this. 💗

[@daynisgarcia1348]

Yes love love this video ❤ and all your content truly motivates me 🫶🏼

[@Umriie]

The more I watch your videos, the more I realize how toxic my friends are. They constantly point out my insecurities and they don’t value my time. They take advantage of my friendship. I even have to give up my food at lunch whenever I sit with them because a new girl that’s pretty sits with us and they get mad if I don’t give her my food. They even hit me and told me to do stuff. You’re videos saved me a lot. Thank you ❤❤❤

[@az_dejavu]

thank you so much for making this video ❤ You don’t understand how much you’ve really helped me grow just in a few minutes of watching your video. I’ve been struggling with a relationship at work that I haven’t been able to really get over and you helped me open my eyes. I need to move on and I’m definitely worth it. i’m the shit and i kinda forgot about that 😅😉

[@evaellis7022]

I needed this tysm Lena ❤️🥰

[@gisselleirias2844]

Yayyyy, Lenaaaaa!!! Seeing a new video always makes me excited!!! 💓💓💓

[@user-ki9kh1jf1m]

Lena thank you so much for helping me in my journey of inner confidence 💕

[@katb1299]

Girl you're so inspiring! Thanks for sharing this video! 🤗🤗🤗

[@Buska836]

Girl, that's all i wanted to hear today. Just thank you💝

[@kamilabroadcats5242]

Thank you so much!! It's literally me - text to crash and feel uncomfortable and unable to do smth in the rest of the day; or to think why this person is so toxic, is it about me? No! It's about them❤ thank you soooo much ❤

[@yato_o6058]

Thank you for this video!! I love this channel it’s so good vibes 🤍🤍🤍

[@Urmom.com_34]

My favorite KZbinr of all time ❤ your amazing

[@charmeccho]

one thing that really helped me is taking my own criticism, i used to nitpick other people but all i said were things *I* needed to work on :)

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Girl you just helped me so much fr

[@honeyishmoon]

LENAAAA KEEP IT UP! Loving all the content. Your videos make me so happy. ❤

[@afra.a9422]

I just love u sooo much girl. I💗💗 needed this video.

[@t6hrus]

this was so needed! you gave me literally everything i needed, especially the point on ghosting, thank you so much for this, i'm so glad you could get to this place and are so willing to share with us :')

[@lenalifts]

awww no need to thank me, thank YOU for watching and showing love i appreciate you sm ❤ ❤ you keep me going

[@aaaangelaaaaO5]

Thank you Lena for this video. I needed this. I love your videos ❤ and your are a true inspiration 🫶🏼

[@patiencekanini5491]

I really needed this one today having trouble figuring out my friendships and this will help lots thank Lena love you 💕💕

[@paigeschiemann6225]

Thank you for another video and I love all your videos you make me so happy when I watch your videos 😁🫶🏽

[@AshleyD.]

Yesss!!!👏🏼 I absolutely love love how you broke topics like these down and you made it so engaging and relatable. Girlll, you are very talented, like putting out inspiration realistic vlogs, advice videos or sit downs with topics like these in a way that’s so comforting. Taking down my notes over here 😂📝Seriously amazing to see every video you put out as valuable and that you stay super genuine! Thank you sharing wisdom you learn with us! Love and appreciate you so much girly🥹🫶🏻

[@lenalifts]

awww PLS GIRL ur love language must be words of affirmation because i feel so loved and AFFIRMED LOL! thank YOU for always showing up with such positive energy and always being so sweet. you keep me going and i appreciate you more than words ❤

[@its.mitchell]

omg this is exactly what I needed today

[@anyasokolova8636]

Thanks, Lena! You’ve helped me a lot❤

[@subject122]

WOWWW, felt this video sooo much

[@BrightenYaMind]

I literate just found your Chanel this morning because I was looking for fitness videos since I’m starting my fitness journey again and omgggggg idk what it is about you but I really feel like you come off as a normal person not the typical “influencer” not in a bad way you know. Like if I can relate to you! A lot of influencers don’t talk about real life feelings/situations

[@phoebesara3303]

I really needed this video tonight ❤thank you

[@anthea1008]

I resonate with this video a lot & those scenarios hit me whew, especially coming from an overthinker and people pleaser myself. Little things get to me that rlly shouldn’t matter and I let it dictate my mood. And I def focus too much on people who are not reciprocating the same type of care or energy I’m giving. It’s hard to let go when you care a lot but Im sure it comes from my attachment to people and situations. Now, I’m really learning how to prioritize self-respect and build my self-esteem🤲 it’s not easy! But I’ll get there. Thank you sm for the advice lena, def needed to hear it❤️

[@Lisa-vo4it]

Okay cause you really ate me up this whole entire video😂 this was AMAZING!!! And so helpful❤️

[@LizzyB_1118]

Thank you Lena ❤. You made my day.

[@leilaniglassmyer1111]

I am so glad I found your channel! You are speaking to me! Thank you, God bless you doll!

[@ednanyakio2771]

Love this so much ❤

[@sannevos5056]

Lena, girl! I love your video´s!! Thank you for the content you make! It is really helpfull ❤

[@NinaAndrew-fp1sd]

This video is full of straight talk worth listening to. Good for you Girl❤. Thanks for sharing👍

[@heavanefaualo7752]

I am so thankful for your account, I am in the roughest times right now and I happen to come across your glow up post and now I cant get out of all your videos because its honestly everything I'm going through ! loving this , thankyou for sharing all your advice and relatable/realistic experiences 💗💗

[@lenalifts]

im so honored to hear that my videos helped you 💞 im sorry to hear youve been going through it my love - i know youre going to come out of this 1000x stronger. sending you so much love

[@Hjaaaaaaay]

Currently binge watching all your videos ❤

[@DreamAngle731]

I love your videos I found you when I was starting my journey and you have just give me so much inspiration to keep going and to not give up if it wasn’t for you I probably would have so I am very grateful I found your videos! :)💙

[@lenalifts]

Aww thank you so much for the kind words I’m so honored 😭❤️ trust me, you help me so much and motivate me so I’m so glad I can do the same for you!!

[@Omasirichi.]

Lena always hitting the point❤❤❤❤

[@katiedaly5394]

Not me self destructing because of a toxic family member- Every single word SPOKE, so grateful that i found your channel x

[@mckaylakleinert9844]

Loooooove your videos girl! I started going back to the gym since a long break…. 6 months… but you were a huge encouragement to go back! You’re a real one ✌🏼 love you

[@lenalifts]

WOW shoutout to you for pushing yourself to get back!! i know how difficult it is after taking a break but i know for a fact that youll bounce back even stronger. love u sm ❤

[@Diisyplayzz]

Thank you so much for this video Lena you were reading my mind. ❤