How to Survive a Dysfunctional Family

We live in a dysfunctional society. We have big problems that seem intractable. The well being of every person is not the priority of our global governments. So it is no wonder that many of us come from dysfunctional families.
How can we survive the trauma that was normalized as children? How can we heal from the anxiety and PTSD we've developed? How can we unlearn the negative, critical voice in our head that we inherited from our family? And how can we mend the wounds of broken relationships? I answer these questions and more in today's podcast.
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[@kostasmazakof8120]

Peaceful voice words like diamonds feeling love and acceptance thank you 🙏

[@rileystein6195]

I've been healing from family trauma for most of my life. It's a constant process.

[@miguelmatos3326]

We always have the opportunity to forgive and forget about those who wronged us

[@miguelmatos3326]

Same here, the process of forgiveness really helped me

[@donnawoodford8145]

We can forgive, but I must not forget. If I default and forget what was done by others, I risk enabling more of the same. Holocaust survivors can forgive, but why forget, only to allow history to repeat itself????? No, by their stories, books eg Man's Search for Meaning, documentaries, film eg Schindler's List, museums and monuments they will NOT let us forget the horrors of human behaviors.

[@miguelmatos3326]

@donnawoodford8145 When I say forget I really mean move on, we don't need to keep reminding ourselves of the worst trauma we've gone through to develop wisdom and learn something from that situation

[@miguelmatos3326]

@donnawoodford8145 Also, they don't want you to forget because that's effective way of controlling people by continously brain washing your thoughts

[@Huwoman]

Thank you, Todd, for sharing your work. Noticed in this video the rock behind you to the right looks like a facial silhouette and to the top left of your staff looks like an eye in the side of the mountain. Chris Farley Awesooome.......

[@sidoughty428]

Wow, spot on, now, I feel like I've been containing an explosion, all those family bummers reignited at once. I said yup and ticked off every box of your intro. The root of it all and over the last few days literally sucking the life out of. Me. Thank you Todd!

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Glad it was helpful!

[@joanestrella8235]

Thank you so much Todd!!! Yes!!! I will take my first step and many more!!! 💜

[@jacquelincran3134]

My goodness i aooreciate you Todd! Am now 63 + my mum is transitioning Still making sense if the dysfunction of my birth family ? Very much look forward to listening to your wisdom as i travel back to mum. My contribution to this is a significant aspect that has helped me constantly is the friendships ive formed in my life The high caliber of these bonds and the depth of love My oldest friend from primary school revealed to me that she was sexually abused by her father from the age of seven Her family seemed so normal compared to mine??? I felt an undercurrent at times as a child but the irony is my time spent with her was incredible How weird life can be truely nothing is what it seems

[@JesusSaves77799]

Hi! May I ask what do you mean that your mom is transitioning?

[@jacquelincran3134]

@@JesusSaves77799 mumsbodyisdying Hersoulispreparingtoleavethisplaneofexistance

[@Bawkr]

Having trouble showing compassion for others that isn't reciprocated but on top of that they sit there and try to instill stuff into me just based on factually false things others (the dysfunctional family) have said about me. They also cut me off with an excuse that I would call a lie just so that they can get something out of me with as little effort exerted as possible. Frustrating. If I'm there for them when they weren't for me have I not been manipulated by them and also claimed things about me on top of that or shot them back at me as a way to try to take advantage of me. All just happened last night and I find the interaction very frustrating because they're pretty much the last person of family that is in my life at all.

[@maryannestevenson5993]

Some cruel people actually have made a lifestyle out of it intentionally. Not all are unaware.

[@paula.livingontheedge]

❤ Thanks! I love your messages of love.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Glad you like them! Thank you so much for generosity 🙏

[@cinziaiznic]

Thank you so much, Todd. I really needed to hear these words 🙏

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Glad it was helpful!

[@cinziaiznic]

@@ToddPerelmuter I'm grateful for you 🙏🏼 Your words have been and continue to be great guidance, comfort & grace

[@manapeace]

The rock behind Todd looks like him with a more macho beard!

[@marypaulosky2214]

😂

[@susannekahn-gehring2910]

thank you having 6 children and trying to break the rubbish the family teached me i think i did well we have good connection and love . only my parents are getting worse as older they are. they ignore and refuse me and also my children and grandchildren....to hurt me i was used to but now seeing ignoring innocent grandchildren makes me sad and angry... do you have any advice?

[@maryannestevenson5993]

Learn to live without them. Conditional controlling “love” isn’t love.

[@dupeit007]

Dear Susanne Children don't need (such) grandparents it's your belief that they do that's hurting you, let go if it and youll find more love. Trust me your unconditional love will transform your kids into confident, loving, wonderful adults, they won't know this lack. I speak from experience I barely knew my grandparents, but the love we had in our home was unparalleled which made us the best most loving and good people who give affection easily.

[@maryannestevenson5993]

A very good reminder of what love is and what it isn’t 🩵