How to Think Like an Introverted Feeler... Literally

[@PaulWBruce]

Great video, Matt! In case I can be of help, the regions you were unsure of the name for are "OH-1" and "OH-2", rather than "Zero-1" or "Zero-1". The "O" stands for "occipital lobe", which is one of the four lobes (quadrants) of the neocortex (the surface of the brain), the others being "parietal (P)", "frontal (F)", and "temporal (T)". Some regions lie at the junction between two lobes. So "FP1" is a region that lies on the border between the frontal and parietal regions. Just thought I'd give that insight. But I by no means intend to negatively judge your videos. These are INCREDIBLY insightful, I am grateful you decided to make this series.

[@GeekPsychology]

Thank you! I did realize the O / 0 issue a while after. Definitely an important distinction that should be clarified. I’ll pin your comment to the top. Cheers :)

[@PaulWBruce]

Geek Psychology Thank you, it's an honour. Love you work.

[@forgottenclown9115]

"The original function of Fi is to make decisions based on the emotions that have been understood. Fi people need to always understand their emotions because it gives clarity of whats right or wrong! The more clear we understand the emotions, the more moral our decisions become." (Ernesto Gamez in a commentary to C.S. Josephs: What is Introverted feeling.)

[@Viking102938]

"Typing" someone is the least important part of MBTI, in my opinion. Understanding the functions and being able to identify them in real life, no matter what type of person you are (and how you use that information), seems to be the only consistent "goal" most people in the typology community share in common.

[@orchidsrising7910]

I have a question. As an INFP, I can listen to people who fascinate me and feel every nuance of their energy coming through their tones of voices and stories for lengthy periods of time. At the same time, when certain people come in to tell me something sort of practical and simple, and I already know where they’re going with it (maybe with my Ne) it is excruciatingly difficult to not just interrupt and say “I know, yes, I totally get it. Will do.” I know that sounds rude and that I’m assuming I’m a mind reader, but oftentimes we can jump ahead with the Christmas tree light up thing, and know where people are going with stuff, so better yet, I love to be surprised and intrigued. Has anyone else experienced this? (That was a long statement then a question) 💗

[@iffahooha]

i feel this way! i feel extremely drawn when i hear people talk about their interests cos you can see the passion in their voice and energy in their movements, the glint in their eyes. i think as infps we are just more sensitive to the energy around us a lil bit more? its the same how im a lil bit obsessed with seeing subtle expressions made by actors when im watching shows and films cos i zero in on that and can just feel whatever feeling they portray.

[@orchidsrising7910]

iffahooha I know, when watching a film, I’m right in there feeling the characters as if I’m experiencing their emotional states of mind, as well. Also, all of the emotions, micro expressions, motives, innocence, subtleties real live people give off... as an INFP I think we don’t need to study the science behind eye movements, body language, tone of voice, lie detecting stuff, etc as it is built into us naturally... and we get better as we get more experience 💗💎💗💎💗💎💗😜

[@lindsayr589]

8:21 chief judge FP1, 12:56 pricice speaker t3, intuitive listener t4, 20:57 stretegic gamer P4, 21:27 visual engineer 01

[@GeekPsychology]

Oh! Thanks!

[@lindsayr589]

can you put the main regions used, like u did on ti?

[@lindsayr589]

it sounds like we use the exact same regions as the estj so, im really lost

[@lindsayr589]

i think he's saying like if u value this chair or the way a restaurant did a certain detail, and you find that somewhere else, it lights up and u remember liking it

[@GeekPsychology]

Done. It's also on the website linked to in the description below the video.

[@vbnrfys]

obviously only people with dominant Fi can watch your videos, other types can fall asleep easily during those 30 minutes. :D I'm just kidding, I type these letters to let you know that you are a great speaker. The sound of your voice is calming and I also like your facial expressions, so lively and confident without being 'too much'. Not the fake smile but the real one. And also the information, haha. That's all. Thank you!

[@GeekPsychology]

+Dandy Kucerova I... aw... maybe I should release my private hypnosis tracks :P That video was the first in the series, unfortunately. Things changed quite a bit by the end. But I'm always in beta, working on improving. Thanks!

[@vbnrfys]

:D sounds good, let me know when it will see the light of the world please. :D Why unfortunately? I have seen some other videos too, and I can tell you are improving. :) You're welcome. I am glad people like you share their knowledge like that :)

[@GeekPsychology]

Ah because I'm an Fi-dom and want the video on my type to be better! lol Thanks for the support :D

[@GeekPsychology]

Good idea

[@nuclearmusic77]

Hello! Love your videos my friend. Just my 2 cents though, as an INFP... I’m familiar and have read about the “all-encompassing brain state” you talked about. However, for me it’s more like I tune everything else out BUT the person with whom I’m listening to. I feel almost enamored by their words and absorb them in this intense listening state. This doesn’t, of course, happen every time I listen to someone. It’s usually someone I care about, causing me to invest that energy in an intensive focus on what their words and meanings are, and how I can help them. Keep up the good work mate!

[@GeekPsychology]

Thanks! Yeah I feel ya on that as an INFP myself. I’ve been told I never listen as well as personally knowing that I love listening to people explain their inner network of feels and beliefs about certain topics with deep curiosity.

[@SirenoftheVoid]

I do get happy from making decisions,and get anxious if i spend too much time pondering.I definitely related to the keyword part.

[@GeekPsychology]

+SirenoftheVoid Awesome! Nice hearing from ya again too. Decisions are definitely a key to confidence and happiness, but maaaaan can they be difficult for introverted feelers.

[@SirenoftheVoid]

Yeah,they can be.Especially when it involves being attached to things. :) and yeah,i was off exploring other things for a bit.

[@johndevanmatthewthomas6167]

This is amazing. I'm sure the book is great but you explain it brilliantly!

[@GeekPsychology]

Thanks! I do my best :D

[@adrienneb5445]

What's with the music

[@GeekPsychology]

Is it annoying? Figured it'd be good to have something in the background.

[@adrienneb5445]

You have good info/content, but the music was a little distracting.

[@adrienneb5445]

You have good info/content, but the music was a little distracting.

[@GeekPsychology]

I'll work on it :s

[@katelynsalvo8909]

eh I thought it was good background music!

[@andrewbarbs9523]

Good job man. Just founding out about this stuff. Love your style of breaking the brain regions down. I can relate to nearly everything being an INFP

[@GeekPsychology]

+Andrew Barbs Oh, thanks! Make sure to check out Dario Nardi's work and support that if this helped. I just put it in video form :P

[@Φράνκομαθαίνειελληνικά]

You made the best title to make Ti doms crumble in agony

[@timothyo718]

Are you a Hapa? Started watching your series by coming across your INTP-Matrix video. Really enjoying your approach of covering all of the cognitive functions vs just obsessing about your own particular personality type which often occurs with NT types. I’m an INTP with moderate T preference but can identify with INFPs. Always felt the need to be authentic and had a hard time when my values/ideas came under attack, especially as a youngster. Certain songs would have such a deep emotional meaning to me and it would ruin my night if my friends/acquaintances mocked them or were indifferent. Nowadays I don’t really care or will play something (obscure) just to troll people sometimes. Very Ne hehe.

[@GeekPsychology]

Nope :) I just like beaches and Hawaii. Thanks for the comment. I try to touch on all the types, but it's pretty hard because when I start a series, I feel there's this need to "be fair" and do the same video with 15 more variations lol. It doesn't work well with being a perceiver. That's cool about identifying with INFPs. I feel I identify well with the INTPs that I've befriended. I think it's because of 1) Ne and 2) Ti is another introverted judging process so it feels like a safe support of Fi, despite struggling to wield it properly.

[@valzugg]

25:18 that drum roll was fitting for that moment lol

[@GiantMonsterGames]

Hey man loving the videos. I should comment more. 2 thumbs up! I've never been to Japan but it's on my list of places to travel to in the next couple years.

[@GeekPsychology]

+Giant Monster Games Thanks! And I almost started playing MTG today because of your videos. I was awful at it when I tried before and am afraid of trying again lol. I could definitely give you a tour around Tokyo. Might even have a cheap place for you to crash.

[@RonaldBradycptgmpy]

I’ve watched a few of these videos in the series and have pondered whether or not I should leave a comment, mostly because it’s likely it won’t get a response. Somewhat ironically, I really like these videos and the way you present them in spite of the fact that I tend to have a great deal of difficulty with gelling with an INFP in the way that I would like. I am in an ENTP and have a few close INFP friends and I find that we get along well enough until one of these friends asks me to help them with some goal. I go away, I think about it for a while come up with a systematized solution to get them there, and I almost universally get “yeah, that’s a good idea, but I don’t really want to do that.” Or something to that effect. And in a few cases, I’ve proposed an idea to have a rejected, and a few years down the road it is implemented by another person in exactly the same way I originally proposed it. I’ve tried to unravel what could be happening here, but there are times when I am banging my head against a figurative wall. I’m thinking that maybe because introverted feeling decides what’s important based on how it feels to them in that there is a kind of internal consistency in the way that they think of their value structure as opposed to a kind of logical, systematized framework, it might take a little longer for them to reach these conclusions because they are reached from a different vantage point than the one I used to arrive at it. This causes a lot of miscommunication in these types of situations, and my extroverted feeling has thrown me into an anxious state from time to time because of that in the past. Any general tips would be cool, I really appreciate the work you do. Game on!

[@GeekPsychology]

+Ronald Brady I know how you feel. I struggled for YEARS to help my ESTJ friend to fix some of his issues. They were causing him and everyone else stress. I finally gave up. In time he improved through awareness in all the ways I had consistently told him about. It’s just... people need to think it’s their own idea to do something or most won’t do it. Or they might give it a half-assed try but it won’t stick. I wish I realized that early on with him. Also, some people just aren’t ready to change. I spent many years trying to “fix” and “save” people who would come to me only looking for a “bandaid.” In terms of IxFPs, we see organizational skills as something we would love to have but don’t (and possibly can’t) possess. We often unknowingly self-sabotage in terms of taking steps towards our goal. Everything seems like a big step outside our comfort zone. So... long response made short... How can you get them to take one small step towards a goal AND make them think it’s their idea? If you figure that out, let me know! lol

[@RonaldBradycptgmpy]

That's a REALLY good point dude. I have had to be outside my comfort zone a lot in life, so I've come to see it as a " game on" proposition rather than throwing an escape roll lol. I've always seen a good idea as a good idea, and as long as it passes my holodeck scenarios, I'm good. I hear you, though. //In terms of IxFPs, we see organizational skills as something we would love to have but don’t (and possibly can’t) possess. We often unknowingly self-sabotage in terms of taking steps towards our goal. Everything seems like a big step outside our comfort zone// I didn't really get how big of a piece that was the INFPs in my life. Thanks! I bought your e-book btw and I'm looking forward to it

[@GeekPsychology]

Outside of an introvert's comfort zone is probably quite different from being outside an extravert's comfort zone. Maybe us going out and asserting ourselves to making radical changes in the world is outside for us and... being thrown into a sensory deprivation tank or something is the version for you. :P Oh great :) I hope it helps, even if just through 1 new insight :)

[@justina2320]

Most of it is what I am, I am sensitive to word tone, context, I tend to remember details and I also have these trigger words that make me act in a certain way. II definitely don't classify information either, but on the other hand I have developed some great math (don't mean to be bragging, sorry) skills and I definitely see connections between ideas or things for example if a>0 then be must be b

[@GeekPsychology]

+Justyna It could! Not everyone's brain perfectly follows the examples in the book. The odds are good though that thy will be similar. Routine, experience, and use seem to strengthen each region. Maybe you got a proper math education (lol) or have just learned to favor F3 for whatever reason.

[@justina2320]

Geek Psychology can it somehow be connected with extraverted thinking as the inferior function? what's the role of the inferior function?

[@GeekPsychology]

Hmm... it could? lol. I can't really say much about it because it's beyond my ability to research from my limited resources. But the ESTJ he showed in the book had high-medium activity in it... I'm just thinking that your experiences have encouraged you to develop that side of yourself or that brain region - it's a good thing. There are many viewpoints. Mine is this: Much of what you repress by embracing and chasing your dominant function is held in your inferior function. For example, as in introverted Feeler, we fight "the system" and mechanical manipulation/organization of people and things by clinging to our values and what we feel is "humane" at all costs. Every time we shine our light to focus on and illuminate introverted Feeling, the shadow created hides extraverted Thinking even more. By becoming more comfortable with our auxiliary function, we bridge a way to talk to the "other world" of extraversion if you are an introvert. The more comfortable you are with that, the easier it is to accept your inferior function's aspects and grow through balance and awareness. This gives us access to more and more things we've repressed.

[@pattiepi]

In addition, I like your presentation.

[@sebastianhelm1718]

Hey man, I don't want to cross some boundaries here, I just want to give my point of view. So here it goes: I don't think the part where explain that you excessively listen to other people has something to do with the nature of the function, but rather with your own past. Without having any other information, I don't believe that you living as foreigner in a country somewhat infamous for its view on strangers, is a coincidence I (as an ISFP ) had some issues with that on my own, so maybe I am seeing things here that only refer to my personal situation. When I was out with friends or family or just strolling around on my own I would also pick up hot words and what not from my surroundings and make some excessive use of my peripheral vision, which after all and as I now understand, was an attempt to protect me from betrayal, something that happened early in my life and had not been digested well. As soon as I understood and healed this fear of being hurt again, my focus stopped being diluted from any outside information, which, if I am being honest, ultimately contained no true value (except when viewed through the lens of protection). Best to you and thanks for the work and effort you put in these videos.

[@GeekPsychology]

Hey I read this and my reply was deleted. Guess I didn't type it up again. Sorry. I know what you're saying. I think my example was attempting to highlight F8, but I mistakenly used it. F8, I would think is more related to those hot words. I do get comments all the time like "You were listening to that?" "How'd you hear that?", which is possibly more related to the group of preferred brain regions of Fi dominants. Interesting! NLP talks a bit about peripheral vision. It always reminded me of a way of accessing Ni - whether that's accurate or not, I don't know. "Shamanic cultural traditions such as Hawaiian Huna used peripheral vision as a way into altered states. Martial arts encourage peripheral vision as a means to relaxed alertness. Carlos Castaneda’s books on Mexican shamanism refer to peripheral vision as a way of ‘stopping the world’: shutting down the internal dialogue or ‘inventory’ with which, Castaneda maintains, we create our everyday consensus reality."

[@blackforestkirsch7971]

I agree, listening is rather an introverted perception skill, meaning Si or Ni.

[@brendalenaesmith6557]

I really resonate with and think that i am predominately INFP however, I have discover that i hear music and move to it rhymicly, if that is a word, I have had people comment on how I have complicated moves. I am better than average at math, higher math more so than basic math. I have discovered that i’m good at pattern recognition, in number sequences and in people behavior. I’m creative but not in a way the typical artist is. I design systems in my imagination, like education systems because the one we have in in our school system does not work for everyone. I’m still a bit confused on what four letter i am. I feel like I’m more than just four letters. Have you thought about what games appeal most to each personality types. What games are INFP most interested in engaging in?

[@valzugg]

If I had to give feedback on the music, I'd say try something less distracting, more subdued

[@valzugg]

What you said about not making decisions making you more angry, I see that, I see that a lot in myself, though I would throw anxiety in there too, though I guess thats what leads to the indecision in the first place. And im pretty sure I'm a 4. Really interesting stuff, I'm definitely gonna check out some of Dario Nardis books, I wonder if any of them exist as audiobooks?

[@natali.garcia]

You really were in total state of introverted feeling when you recorded the video :)

[@natali.garcia]

by the way i loved all the others! and I'm a UFi ;)

[@GeekPsychology]

+Natalí Garcia lol. Sorry. :P I always meant to redo this video after I solidified the process I wanted.

[@GeekPsychology]

+Natalí Garcia Ultra introverted Feeler?! ;) Thank you :)

[@natali.garcia]

sometimes people say that I speak using symbols lol and is hard to understand

[@GeekPsychology]

+Natalí Garcia Interesting! My ENFJ friend said he was surprised to hear that people think in symbols. Which confused the crap outa me because that's what Ni does...? Maybe it has something to do with him being left-handed. Or just a misunderstanding.

[@pattiepi]

I have become "hard of hearing" and I feel like that is interfering with my ability to relate to people. I'm an INFP ....any reaction to this?

[@GeekPsychology]

That seems difficult. :( I'm sorry. Pay attention to body language even more, I guess? It's pretty interesting to learn about, too. I don't think this is what you meant by "hard of hearing," but I also have somewhat of an issue with "hearing." I have a habit of asking "What?" to give me more time to think about my response and let me weigh my opinions and values a bit more. I've struggled with it for a while.

[@hellothere4485]

I don't know if it is because I am young and I still have a lot to know about myself but when people talk about Infp behaviour, sometimes I don't relate to it, like I don't know if what they might be saying is how I will react.

[@GeekPsychology]

Are you an INFP? If you are sure that you are, you might want to look into the Enneagram to see if that sheds some light on why you don't really relate to it. It could be because you are still young as well, as you said. When I was younger my iNtuitive side was quite apparent. I intentionally tried taking different routes to work and school whenever possible, I drew crazy pictures all the time, wrote songs and poetry, etc. I didn't realize that introverted Feeling was so important to me because I assumed everyone made decisions in the same way I did and rarely gave it any thought otherwise.

[@hellothere4485]

+Geek Psychology yeah I'm pretty sure I am an Infp (I Mistyped as intj before and I looked into other types). I also did some enneagram tests, I got mixed results but I think I may be a 4 wing 3.

[@theosourvinos]

Hey, which book contained the bulk of the theory and which book did you see as the expansion pack? Nardi has published a lot of books.

[@mattsherman8230]

Neuroscience of Personality: Brain Savvy Insights for All Types of People www.radiancehouse.com/itemLG_500.htm

[@theosourvinos]

Thank you.

[@GeekPsychology]

+Theo Sourvinos (fadeaway) Oh! Sorry I didn't tell you the name of other book. The other "expansion" book is called "Our Brains in Color" and I'd suggest getting it after you read through the other one if you're really into it or just want to help Nardi out :P

[@Raphsophomes]

I really do need help when it comes to big decisions... Like rn, I am so worried about this job resume I wrote.. so I'm constantly bringing it by people I trust because in this case, the reader doesn't care who I am, they care about what I will contribute and I'm like... Oh god.... OH GOD... And my mom's like "just say whatever gets results" and I'm like... But what if I lie then what if I'm required to do something I can't do? Oh god i can't do it... I can't be relied on.. and then she's like "trust me, everyone there is going to be way more of a liability than you are, the fact you care will lead you to do well" and I'm like **panic attack**

[@akaboo69]

I know what you mean I'll hear my name and I'll be like who said Charles and why is my name coming up. In regards to T4 for some odd reason I prefer the phrase thank you over thanks. To me thanks has a rude hurtful vibe even though it's not meant to be taken that way

[@GeekPsychology]

I separate Thanks and Thank you as well. I just thought, for me, that it was because there's a lot more differentiation in Japanese between levels of politeness and I had grown accustomed to it. :D Good to know someone else sees things like that, too.

[@akaboo69]

Its probably an IXFP thing we take things personal even though logically we shouldn't

[@bombusbattle]

I like the tunes

[@GeekPsychology]

Me too :s

[@Efi_C]

what does it mean type 9? are there types in infp?

[@GeekPsychology]

+Efrat Cohen Sorry I didn't explain in the video! I get carried away sometimes :) The numbers are from another personality model called the Enneagram. INFPs are often either type 9 or type 4 in that model. Check out my Enneagram videos for more information ;)

[@Efi_C]

Geek Psychology thanks :) I am an infp too, and cool iron man helmet lol (in the background)

[@GeekPsychology]

lol thanks. It was part of my old Halloween costume.

[@Efi_C]

Geek Psychology NP :)

[@bennyhinn7239]

hey could you please give a list of types that use most of there right brains to the least?

[@GeekPsychology]

No, sorry. But what I can do is say that according to my understanding of Dario Nardi's research, the right side is home to regions that lead us to explore more (P), place personal values (Fi), understand and use concepts and metaphors (Ti, N), sort out emotions (F), weigh intent (N+Fi in my opinion), feel memories (Si), foresee futures and symbolize meanings (Ni), recognize faces (Si?), see body language (Se), see themes in images (Ni), move gracefully (Se), and weigh many factors (Ti). His book has some graphs that you might like ;)

[@bennyhinn7239]

so in your opinion fi + n seems alot right brained,i do want to buy the book tho im going tomorow to the shops

[@cherieburton2395]

INFPs too modest to admit they are modest... sounds about right...

[@lindsayr589]

i cant see the top secret mind map too good, i need to be able to zoom in more to read the words, help pweaze

[@GeekPsychology]

You can't zoom in enough? That's no good. Not sure what I can do about it...

[@lindsayr589]

no! i can. the problem is the text is just still super tiny! could you make one with larger text face? :D

[@victoriousjoy9338]

ENFP here.

[@victoriousjoy9338]

This is SO interesting but that background sound is so irritating and distracting that I have to stop listening.

[@GeekPsychology]

Yeah. Nothing I can do about it now. I’d suggest buying the books.

[@jtwright4095]

(you're kool & i dig your info -- i give 'thumbs-down' only for my own record-filing system. thx sweetie ;)

[@GeekPsychology]

Samesies lol