How To Trigger The 16 Personalities

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[@lordvoldemort519]

ESTP and ESFP: 0:03 ISTP and INTP: 0:43 INFJ and INTJ: 1:28 ENFJ and ESFJ: 2:42 ENTP and ENFP: 3:54 ISFJ and ISTJ: 4:47 ENTJ and ESTJ: 5:55 INFP and ISFP: 6:53

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[@catchingstars7]

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[@tralaritralarajiju2652]

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[@y0ung5one]

I didn't expect this trigger for INTP but now that I think about it, it's true. I never like lying or pretending even if it's for a "good" reason.

[@brickwall9706]

Prolly just confirmation bias. Don’t think that this is really related to type

[@brickwall9706]

If anything I’d say it’s more related to ST blast since these functions in conjunction are always trying to paint the most accurate picture for the person they’re talking to. types with intuition as a saviour are more likely to disrespect the sensory in general, and instead inquire the ‘why’ behind occurrences. Types with saviour SF will also care about factual correctness but not to the extent of ST.

[@jadedjimmy]

Yeah I found that interesting too, especially since both Ti dom types are known to be very quiet and socially withdrawn a lot of the time, and are also commonly paired with enneagram 9. Almost seems like a contradiction?

[@noobatredstone3001]

@@brickwall9706 idk, I’m an intp as well and don’t like lying either

[@Tue_]

It is a simple matter of being able to trust someone. I´m supposedly an intp, but I have no issue with someone “lying” if I know they are, but I hate lying myself - waste of time, and I´m bad at it.

[@fakeotaku5788]

INFP here and OH MY GOD. When you had that sentence displayed, I could feel my anxiety begin to rise!! My mom constantly asks me “what are you going to do today/ what are your plans?” and when I say I don’t like her asking me this she gets confused saying “I’m only making conversation” It’s definitely a source of frustration, you hit the nail on the head!!!

[@turtlecatog]

no cuz that would bother tf outta me ;-;

[@lishayost144]

When I know someone's intentions, I'm not as negatively affected by a question. So if I knew it was just to "make conversation", my answer to the question, "What are your plans for the day?" would simply be, "I'm not sure yet... What are you up to?"

[@ForeverFashionGirl21]

unfortunately my mom has been triggering me with asking about my plans- she is an ISTJ and the way she goes about it is like I am this irresponsible person but I in reality just live life differently than her. She has hurt me a lot recently.

[@larsthemartian9554]

As an INFP, whenever I hear someone talking about a five-year plan I get triggered at least a little bit. It's not that I think it's a bad thing to have one (on the contrary, it's most likely a great way to get your life in order), but just the idea that I should figure out what my next five years look like bothers me lol. I want to go with the flow, but I know that's not the rational solution

[@lishayost144]

@@larsthemartian9554 I have loose goals. I have a ton of ideas of things I'd like to do in my life at some point. I don't know if I actually want to do them all. I definitely do not have any concrete 5 year plans or anything. Too many variables, things change, I change, etc. So I kind of just go day by day and if there's something I realize I really for sure want to do, then I just start slowly working toward that. -intp

[@Christina-CA]

INFJ here. Completely agree with having our insights ignored or devalued. I'll add that since we are so thoughtful and conscious of being respectful to others, if we feel intentionally disrespected - not showing up when you say you will without an apology and disrespecting our time, showing lack of respect by not listening when we have just listened to you for an hour, etc., are quick ways to a doorslam.

[@Christina-CA]

@@spring7643 you're right... some people just don't stop talking lol. Need to limit my time with those ones.

[@lexsiela5868]

I'm an INTP and I feel the same way when people don't reciprocate the same level of respect and consideration I give them! I know a lot of it comes from having the Fe function, but it is frustrating nonetheless to be in those situations you mentioned. Ironically though, I have an INFJ friend who can talk for hours on a specific topic he's interested in, and I enjoy listening to his insights and all the things he has to say because I genuinely find them interesting. but whenever I try to talk about something I'm interested in, it looks like he loses interest in anything I have to say and goes back to talking about his topic and doesn't really acknowledge what I say. I find that so weird because INFJs have Fe higher on their cognitive stack than INTPs. I don't if maybe some INFJs do this unconsciously because they're not used to having other people listen to them because they're usually the ones doing the listening?

[@cdcs_edits]

Also, when people don’t do the plans we create for them… it’s just so annoying, lol. As much as we love to create plans for ourselves, we also love to create plans for others to help and make others’ futures look brighter. And, when our friend, let’s say, ignores the helpful plans we have for them, it makes us question our self-worth in the situation. And then I always begin to wonder: “Am I being controlling? Oh no…” I hate Ni sometimes. (INFJ lol)

[@candellina6]

INFJ 100% verified! I cried--and INFJs don't cry that often, at least I don't, when my friend was an hour late to our hangout.

[@janeofthejungle4]

lexsiela - I believe you’re on to something with the rarely listened to, part. However, maybe they’re also more engaged in their Ti mode. Maybe you tickle that and get it going. We can get a little nutty when our Ti starts to really get going. Also, I believe deep down inside we just loooooove discussing the cool things that we learn about and we really can go on forever if we’re allowed to. I believe this is why so many INFJs and INTJs love to write so much. I know that’s why I love writing so much🤣 We all seem to have a weird, natural form of obsessive compulsiveness. I could write forever and never get tired of it. I love it so much.

[@beccangavin]

INTP here - 100% confirm that I have a physical reaction against telling lies even lies expected in social situations. And people who tell lies to me or in my presence lose value immediately.

[@aroeenafaith5519]

Playful lie? Or lie lie to the point it's evil

[@beccangavin]

@@aroeenafaith5519 Just anything that I know to be factually inaccurate is impossible to say.

[@pararaeraven5777]

💯 true right here

[@deb.e.9787]

Agreed. Very quick way for me to lose degrees of trust in someone. I know this can apply to any personality type, but I feel like I’ve always had a strong, sudden reaction probably more so than the next person.

[@thatveganchick668]

As an INTJ, the burning urge to say “I told you so” is very strong! 😄

[@nurainiarsad7395]

Even more triggering is when after it happens, they blame you for not explaining it properly, because if only you had been better at warning, they would have listened and prepared 🙄

[@thatveganchick668]

@@nurainiarsad7395 And we know they would have neither listened nor prepared.

[@khushisayz]

Same here haha

[@watchingvids101]

Man, you nailed INFP/ISFP. That certainly triggered me more than any of the other triggers mentioned for the other types.

[@lovewho]

Good... I think... ~ Nathan

[@yurizafurizaki5574]

As an INTP, here are my triggers: - being intruded upon, being disturbed. Since I think 24/7, i have low tolerance for people who are intrusive. I might snap unapologetically - being interrupted while I am talking. I think this is more of introverts general trait. It's hard enough to put my thoughts into words. Let me finish talking, then I'll give you your turn. - being lied to. I am fine with white lies. But I'm not fine being lied to about important matters. To be told, "just lie instead", this would depend on the situation and the person I'm dealing with. I can't be straightforward when my life is at stake (or anything related to my life) and risk everything.

[@lovewho]

Well said ~ Nathan

[@august2dee35]

I can confirm as a fellow INTP. And yeah the people factor is the most triggering factor for me....feel a bit guilty as probably they can't help but ask either.

[@Chigger]

I'm an ENFP. My dad always told me that I couldn't cut down a tree with a splitting maul; I had to use a proper axe or saw. I proved him wrong and made sure he was looking when I toppled the tree. He was less than thrilled.

[@catchingstars7]

ENFP: I'm very proud of you. You carry the ENFP-vibe well!

[@Chigger]

@@catchingstars7 Thank you. The next thing I want to use to cut down a tree is paperclips. If I link them to each other right, they should form a decent chain.

[@Takisan111]

I'm confused, it's still a type of ax so why wouldn't you have been able to cut down a tree with it? Is it because it's heavy and that makes it less efficient or something?

[@Chigger]

@@Takisan111 Because a splitting maul is intended to split a log along by applying force parallel to the grain. Cutting a tree down takes force applied perpendicularly or (less commonly) diagonally to the grain.

[@AFreakingAxeCH]

INFP here, I'm never really triggered by the question rather I'm more triggered on what your purpose of asking the question is. If there is a hint of superiority on that you're gonna get smacked

[@eva.1826]

Agreed

[@yuishizu2]

Yes!

[@Takisan111]

Yeah, it's less what's said and how it's said that creates the issue.

[@FalconWindblader]

That's the thing. most, if not all, who are asking such questions, are making themselves look superior & are out to belittle us.

[@lunron9548]

Why not use axed instead of smacked? It works well with your name and pic😂😂

[@christophjanssen9324]

INTP "Just lie instead" Accurate, I want my rights to be accepted, I want my opinions be accepted. If I would lie, I could still go through with my plans, but I would go against my principles.

[@TheVoiceTalk]

Im an INTP and perhapse I've been mistyped but I actually don't have an issue with this. I've worked in sales before and often getting the customer to like you is the key to getting paid more. Very frequently the customers that I worked with were conservative while I am moderately left leaning. But I would go along with their political B.S just to maintain a good relationship. I'm glad I dont work that job anymore but it was a necessary evil.

[@cerebrummaximus3762]

@@TheVoiceTalk But you still call it “their political BS”, ie: you still go against it, and have to mask it. It’s still your trigger, but you are forced to go against it. I’ve had similar experiences before, but in contrast, I really have to bite my lip, because I dislike going against my views and morals, even if they lie controversial with the people I’m by - but like how you’ve succeeded, got to adapt

[@loganblack6684]

@@TheVoiceTalk I’m an INTP and am not comfortable with lying (religious) but I’ve really improved my social skills and am pretty popular with the people around me, so I guess it’s just having already improved in areas of life that were naturally lacking? (Since stereotypically INTPs are socially awkward)

[@freregregoire2685]

Yeah, that definitely annoys me. It's not really anger-triggering but more "why should I even bother to talk to that person if I have to lie?", I don't see a point in a conversation like that. I do throw around some white lies and accept that they have some value for social harmony (as does simply withholding information), but more I have to do it, more likely I will just write the person off. Truth is a sign of respect, the most valuable gift I can possibly give to the other person. If you don't want it, you don't deserve it.

[@nharmonia13]

as an intj, you're right. i often get told i'm excellent at predicting outcomes. because i tend to get wrapped up in the information i take in about a particular subject or happening, it's important to me to be able to foresee circumstances for myself and even others. being deprived of that, or having that process invalidated would probably drive me mad. lol

[@tralaritralarajiju2652]

Yes -an intj female

[@maxdeborde6772]

Enfp here taking notes 📝

[@lauracello5866]

What if you have a different opinion from an INTJ? How do you suggest sharing that differing opinion? ENFP

[@yamiswife101]

@@lauracello5866 have a an explanation beyond “I think” or “I feel”. Have concrete proof why your idea is better or decent counters for why their opinion is incorrect. Their own thoughts will take over. Then they will either agree with you or respect your ability to think and will ask your opinion more often.

[@nharmonia13]

@@lauracello5866 youtube decided not to post my initial comment here, but i'll rewrite it: i agree with yamiswife101. we appreciate logic and evidence over emotions when it comes to hearing people out. contrary to some stereotypes, we aren't emotionless robots, we do have value systems that we've developed using our primary and auxiliary functions: Ni and Te respectively. with Fi, it allows us to process information using Te, then funneling it through Ni to create concise ideas and values. (this is at least my understanding of it.) i personally find that i'll be more inclined to hear people out who i have respect for-- e.g., my partner. my partner is aware that i prefer logical presentations over more emotional ones, so he'll bring evidence to the table when explaining his opinion on something. i appreciate that very much. he's an ISFP, which means his preferred way of processing information differs from mine. however, i find that we have little to no communication issues, because we both understand how each other operates. that balance of feeling and thinking somehow works in our favor-- probably because we're actually in the same MBTI "family" of functions, the functions are just in a different order of preference. as for how to earn an intj's respect, it's going to vary from person to person. we're all individuals with our own values, we just use the same cognitive functions.

[@sxylilrckstar]

ENFP - doing things out of shear spite is absolutely correct! I shaved my head one morning bc my husband complained my hair was getting in his face and accused me of doing it on purpose. I told him if he kept it up I would shave it all off. He tried to call me a liar and I walked out the bathroom with a shaved head. It’s been almost 3 years and he’s never complained about my hair EVER again. Don’t test me, I have the balls to follow through.

[@NathanaelNaused]

Wow. Sounds like a really fun marriage

[@sxylilrckstar]

@@NathanaelNaused ENFP and INTJ we have a lot of fun. I teach him how to loosen up and have fun, he helps me be more responsible and focused. You can’t judge an entire relationship on a single moment.

[@Jessica-kk1cz]

I’m very impressed. 😊 Signed, an INTP.

[@sxylilrckstar]

@@Jessica-kk1cz Nice!!! Husband is an INTJ.

[@LucyGem98]

ISFP here. I never even thought about it as a 'trigger' per se but you're absolutely right. It really irks me when people ask me what my plans are, even though I do generally have a plan as to what I want to do, so I do know, I just hate being asked it for some reason 😂

[@QuotesArticles]

So relatable! Infp here! 😇

[@ALS_HRZN]

ISFP here aswell. This thing is so accurate that i literally laughed extremely hard when i read "so, what are you doing with your life?" STOP. ASKING. ME. THIS. SAME. QUESTION. EVERYDAY. PLEASE.

[@Jae_C_]

ISFP: my life is just fine, go meddle elsewhere 😤

[@LucyGem98]

@@sweetbliss710 literally exactly the same here. Great minds think alike, I guess😂

[@notact4102]

I knew an ISFP. Epic. But the way he'd get suspicious for no reason at all especially when he didn't get my ENFP humour he would start to interrogate me, in a way that felt I had committed something criminal. So I would have to break down my thought process to explain where that humour came from. It was devastating to keep up because before he'd calm down and understand I was just being an ENFP he would gaslight me, hammer me and make me feel an inch small by hurling all these illogical and unfounded accusations at me. At some point I'd get fed up and remind him of his track record which I was accepting of but from his perspective the way he was hammering me I was an absolute saint if we were comparing our track records. Then he'd calm down and act like I was insulting him and would literally claim he didn't say anything to hurt me. I truly beleive he was oblivious to his toxic gaslighting and emotional abuse as soon as his paranoia would kick in. So, from a place of love I'll give this advice to ISFPs. I think u guys are awesome when you're not spiralling into a toxic stupor. But please don't jump to conclusions and needlessly hurt the people you care about. There's a 100 reasons why someone said or did what they did so before jumping on the toxic wagon and seeing red, keep reminding yourself not to make up your mind until you hear their reasons behind what they did before you actually put 2 + 2 to make 5. It's really unhealthy to go down that route, so I would advise to work on such traits. It will get easier if you continue to tackle this. Much love.

[@JoseRuiz-li9bm]

As an ISTP I find lying and putting on an act to get by social interactions easy especially if it involves strangers or people I'm not close with as I don't care enough to argue about my opinions with them. However it is draining to fake it, particularly if having to do so for longer periods of time such as more than 10 minutes.

[@lovewho]

That's a good point. Often a person can imitate any other type, or an introvert can be more extraverted, but it's hard for them to sustain it over longer periods of time. In that sense our "true type" is the one that takes the least effort for us to act like ~ Nathan

[@audreyhowler]

Amen! I'll do what I have to, to be left alone. Also I may state that's what I'm doing, to be clear that it's all a lie, because I detest lying. Although this type of honesty seems to upset some. Hard to make everyone happy.

[@derpinay]

I can also lie easily, but not in person. It is really difficult to hold back my expressions especially when I am annoyed.

[@kate4733]

INFP - so true. Invalidate my feelings and I’m like eh, whatever, I know they’re valid so I don’t care. Invalidate someone else’s feelings in front of me and I’ll spend a week not sleeping and ruminating over how wrong you were, why it might be that you can’t see that, and what I can do to validate that person’s feelings.

[@faithb8343]

INFP here. If someone asks me that many times my urge is to trigger them right back and say, "living, being a mom, overthinking, helping others" ...something like that. I am very emotionally in tune and I can feel it coming if someone is attempting to belittle me. I used to just get my feelings hurt. Now that I'm older I realized that what they say is a reflection of them not of me.

[@purplemind93]

can relate to getting emotionally in tune when I'm triggered. An when I feel it coming I usually access if it's worth my time to defend myself because I know that I will either cry while doing it or storm off afterwards. Sometimes I just bite my tongue instead and have this grim/sour/"I know you know that you hurt me with that" look on myself. Will do me good to remind myself that it's always a reflection of themselves, not me.

[@FalconWindblader]

One of INFPs' superpowers i guess. as we grow older, we become more & more aware that whenever others are being mean to us, most of the time they're projecting their shit on us instead of us actually being shitty. over time, such realization would give us a sense of security & composure, as such information could either make us more empathetic & help others better, or make it EASIER for us to hurt whoever is trying to hurt us, & doing so in deep, shit painful & even subtle ways.

[@culturecoroner]

As an ENFP I feel similar. I also hate “what do you do in your free time?” “I don’t know. Everything. And nothing. Is my free time poorly-spent in your judgmental eyes if I’m not building birdhouses or knitting blankets for the homeless constantly? Lay off already.” -my otherwise bubbly brain

[@fortune_roses]

Seriously. *INTJ* and my worst pet peeve.. is having my insights ignored ●__● now I don't even share, unless I know that the person will actually be open to the insight... partly to avoid the annoyance

[@RyuuRider]

Yup! At this point, I just keep it all to myself unless someone's going to be significantly disrupting me or others with their actions. -INFJ

[@cake1559]

ENTP here. YES! I completely agree. I remember this occasion where I was talking with someone I met for the first time and the conversation was going well, after I explained my idea he said it was "illogical and unrealistic", all of my friends gasped (which I found funny) and that look I gave him has been the deadliest look I've ever given anyone.

[@aur.sanne77]

Lol its not even that offending. If you would be ENTP tho, youd rather ask him to elaborate than get angry, no?

[@maxdeborde6772]

Enfp here I feel your pain

[@BombshElle_7]

@@aur.sanne77 NT types are ALL ABOUT LOGIC. So to criticize us as "illogical" is triggering. Dare I say, question an NT's logic is like question LeBron's skills on the court. You're only playing yourself.

[@BombshElle_7]

@a moron It's totally fine to ask someone, "How did you reach that conclusion?" It's entirely unnecessary to insult someone's intelligence. That's the part people need to understand.

[@f.p1758]

Can't say I relate to the thing that triggers, but I find it hilarious tt all ur friends gasped at the "stranger" for saying tt🤣

[@alexandrag7106]

Fav mbti channel, thank you for your dedicated and thoughtful content! Morning coffee is the best to your videos!

[@benjaminharmon6541]

"Trying to make use of a natural strength of yours, only to have it shut down or devalued would be deeply irritating to anyone." --Here is the reason why ISTPs keep quiet so much. No one wants to hear what we actually think, and we're used to it.

[@antoinettejo3314]

Entj here - very accurate, especially the part about values/morals. We are organization and structure beings - even if it seems chaotic to the outside, and values are internal organization. So when someone says we lack values or it’s sister, morals, it strikes at one of our core principles. Our value/moral compass is usually strong, it just doesn’t necessarily point north

[@grrlinglasses]

Hi @Antoinette Jo, so awesome to find another ENTJ woman. I totally agreed with what you said. For me, it is like I have the outcome or the greater good in mind for myself and the majority. I'm not afraid to step on toes so I guess that is where people would see me as being cold or lacking values/morals. If it doesn't align with another person's goals I don't take it personally, I move forward. All the best in conquering 2022!

[@MickeyCastro]

Where in the video does he talk about ENTJs?

[@pluviophile_craze]

Things that trigger me more than anything else are bright lights and constant notifications.That's why i keep my notifications off all the time-intj

[@RyuuRider]

Sounds like Sensory-Processing Sensitivity. It's interesting how often INTJs are more easily annoyed by undesired stimuli. I relate to that either way! -INFJ

[@jenniferhanses4205]

INTJ: What's most frustrating is not being ignored, but not even being understood. Example: People are being hurt because of inconsistent placement of warning information (instead of being in the top right corner where it should be, it's mixed into comments in the middle of the document, down on the bottom left, scribbled on the BACK of the paper). Pick an eye catching place, any place (like the top right that the company has already selected) and retrain everyone to put the information there. I think this is fairly straightforward, and even an urgent issue that is reoccurring regularly, so it shouldn't take an intuitive to grasp the level of planning and foresight needed here. And yet, my ex boss did not get it. I ran out of smaller words to break it down for her. I can't even take pleasure in being right since she's not the one suffering, it's other coworkers being hurt. Though on a meta level, I do sometimes wonder if that's why INTJs are considered evil masterminds: We tell you (general) something bad is going to happen. We explain how it is going to happen. We explain how you can avoid the bad thing. You ignore or don't understand us. We go on with our lives. The bad thing happens. And then, because we knew it was going to happen, hypothetical you decides it was really some horrible plot on our part because how else would we know the future?

[@nurainiarsad7395]

Same here, but for stuff like global warming. Nowadays it’s mainstream news and alllll the people are like ‘wHy DiDnT pEoPLe aCt SoOnEr??’ I roll my eyes because - notwithstanding any shenanigans that may also have happened in specific instances to deny it, ultimately the simple truth is, all of you and all of your predecessors were just incapable of grasping things that haven’t happened yet, even though your local INTJ scientist has been trying to explain it to you!! That’s why!!! You all only get it now, not because you’re any better than previous generations, but only because the predictions are literally coming true now, and it’s finally real especially for all you Sensory types!!!

[@jenniferhanses4205]

@Ipsita Chatteejee I find more problem with S types than F types usually, but that's me (and I think the boss in question was an ESFJ if I had to guess, so that hits both). Definitely agree that INTJs can be very caring. Our caring is just not likely to be in words. In love languages, we do acts of service or give gifts (that one is mine in particular) rather than just say I love you. From a personal perspective, words are nice, and we do say them on occasion, but to say them all the time makes the actual meaning suspect (like you're trying to convince yourself or us of the truth and don't actually feel or mean it). Acts of service and gifts show we're thinking of you and what would make you happy/improve your life even when we're not physically in your company, and that sort of proves the truth of the emotion if we do the right thing or give the right gift (if it's the wrong one then maybe we don't understand you so well after all).

[@jenniferhanses4205]

@Ipsita Chatteejee LOL. In theory, I'd have to agree you're right and love languages should match well. I would guess that INTJs are probably good with anything that just isn't words. I believe most introverts are a bit suspicious of too much talk, especially if they don't had an Fe preference. But as in my comment that started the thread, S types often don't seem to hear what N types are saying. It's not much of a hypothetical relationship for me if I can't talk to my partner. I'll talk about movies and books and games and character motivations, and how words were put together on a page to create a mood. I'll talk about history and how thing x caused thing Y caused thing Z, and that's fascinating, and what it could mean for the future or how people will react to a new thing X. Meanwhile, my experience with my boss was a lot of blame placing (in what I considered to be the wrong place, and not just when I was involved), and no attempt to understand what caused things to happen that led to whatever bad decision was made, because if you have to make a decision in an emergency, you want to stack as many factors on your side to predispose you to make the right one, and not make a bad choice because of instinct or poor information, or poor chains of communication or poor work habits. I'm fascinated by efficiency experts who figure out what the easy, fast thing to do is, and if that thing is unsafe, either figure out how to make it safe or how to retrain other people not to do the unsafe thing. Merely telling them won't overcome habit or ease or instinct. But S types don't seem to understand that. Or at least that was my experience. Well, I'm probably being too hard on S types, as my dad is an ESFP, or at least we think he is, and we tend to get on well. But the opposites do normally harmonize.

[@jenniferhanses4205]

@Ipsita Chatteejee It's not so much an "I hate sensors" thing for me, as my experience with some of them outside my family has been extremely frustrating, in an "I have listened to you and taken on board your comments about something I may have been overlooking, adapted my plan to fit this new information, why are you still not getting the plan?" kind of way. My Dad (the ESFP), we have a relationship built around games, movies, and dad jokes, as I get allowed to groan at them or can banter back if I think they're amusing and want to play verbal tennis with him. I think he's also middle of the road on both the S and the P preference, with stronger E and F preferences, so he's capable of understanding plans and getting things done on time. He just can't do long-term memory beyond an hour. My youngest sister (I'm oldest and middle is also INTJ who often masquerades as ENTJ for work) is, we think ISFJ, and she has a harder time with planning and even comprehending abstract concepts is not her forte. We had a fight one time about things like "faith" and "loyalty" and such and it -- I couldn't even fight with her properly because it wasn't just a difference of opinion, she didn't seem to know what the words really meant. Like needed a dictionary, didn't know what they meant. I mean, what can you do with that? You can't even buy her a dictionary for her birthday because it would be kind of more of an insult than a gift even though she clearly needs one. My mom is most likely an ISTJ. She does spend her time being fascinated by and super proud of her INTJ daughters and saying how smart we are -- when she's not treating us like dolls she bought to play with, but who won't act out the parts we're supposed to play or wear the clothing she picked for us to wear or do the things she picked for us to do. The main issues are that she's controlling and INTJs are pretty darn stubborn about not being controlled. "I said so" is never a good reason unless I"m on a battlefield and I really need to react to commands immediately and not question them. Also very good at providing us with educational and enrichment opportunities as children. But not very good at understanding why she didn't end up with a perfect happy family that doesn't fight (not very good at extrapolating things like sibling rivalry, for example, since she was an only child). And no, I did not get along well with my INTJ sister, though I feel a lot of it was just a toxic home life I would mainly blame on my mother, and completely different interests as people. We do utterly massacre anyone who opposes us when we work together such as when playing a game. Would pick her as a teammate nearly every time. Dad's the sentimental option. Dad might have been the better choice as the stay at home parent, but that wasn't an option, so I don't know. He may just have been the fun parent by pure comparison. And I don't know that he would have managed to get food in the children on any sort of schedule. Definitely couldn't cook. Also predisposed to be affectionate, but raised being told men shouldn't be affectionate, so there's that working against him. As for Te -- well, I'm not looking up the definition right now, but mostly I like figuring out the best plan for everyone to benefit. I can be selfish and only focus on myself and getting what I want, but I find more pleasure in trying to help everyone, as that creates a better world, and I am in the world, so ultimately, I benefit anyway. I like being helpful, and as an introvert, I don't mind being unseen. I have the intuition to anticipate people's needs once I get a baseline of information about their personalities and preferences, and can ensure that everything is where they need it when they need it. I will take criticism, but i won't take micromanagement. Criticism, I can think about my mistake, if it is that, figure out why I made it, and then figure out what I need to change to never make the mistake again. Micromanagement fixes nothing outside the immediate issue, and that's if I don't start a fight with you for trying it. Anyway, there's some data for you on how things work or don't work.

[@jenniferhanses4205]

@Ipsita Chatteejee :P You seemed interested, and as you are an Ni, Fe, I thought you might find the data useful whether or not you agreed with me about my opinion. ;)

[@isoflavon3704]

100% agree with INTJ & INFJ. Wirst 3 months of my life: working as a waitress. I smashed over 10 glasses, but left handing them out a written summary on how to optimize the system. :D

[@Anno1886HardturmLove]

Greetings from a Swiss INFP❤️

[@QuotesArticles]

INFP from India 😇

[@trinaq]

Thanks so much for this video! You've got the INFJ and INTJ section down cold, I've always tried and failed to live in the moment, but I inevitably end up thinking about the future before too long!

[@creekfreak05]

I'm an INFJ married to an INTJ, this holds true for us. We love the channel and appreciate your concise and thoughtful delivery and the edge of humor you add.

[@jesstisi7759]

Just lie As an INTP (FF Ti Si SCPB), I definitely agree with this trigger. It's funny how we try so hard to do Fe but we are doing it through Ti over analysing people as if they are logical puzzles to solve. Maybe one day I'll learn to white lie... Maybe.

[@Caleb-zl4wk]

Don't bother, white lies don't exist. The annoying thing is manually shutting off Ti (which is, of course, impossible) to try and actually use and develop Fe. Which sucks because there's no good that ever comes of it since we're so used to reflexively defaulting to Ti that it's just a borderline-feasible substitution at this point. Obviously developing Fe would be better but the time that takes would be miserable, so each and every time we default back to Ti instead.

[@kylozen3938]

@@rachelkenner9074 I'm an entp so lies aren't so bad, at least when I use them, but I get the not being able to, when ever I do "lie" I usually do it in a way that it's deeply ingrained into my cognitive processes, taking the falsehood and temporarily pushing it as a true therefore making it some what genuine. I sometimes use this method to get different perspectives while also sympathizing with people who hold strong beliefs on a bigger level. It still doesn't stop me from letting go of them since at the end of the day I was only entertaining the idea I go back to my core beliefs just as quick as I put the logically inconsistent up. Keep in mind I don't do it constantly Since it can become draining really quickly especially if the other person tries to shove logical inconsistentes down my throat constantly. So in a way I'm letting myself have a suspension of disbelief to simplify. I wonder what you think of this process.

[@khadhija7]

INFP here and recently a lot of people have been asking me what my plans are.. it triggers me but more so for the reason that I know they wont understand what I want to do anyway.. I dont want to talk about it cuz they'll just lecture me on what they think I should be doing and ignore everything I say... reeeeaaallly frustrating🙃🙃 So I just lie and tell them what they want to hear so they'll leave me alone and we wont have an hour long arguement where neither side can convince the other😕

[@NathanaelNaused]

If you always assume nobody will understand, then they never will.

[@khadhija7]

@@NathanaelNaused With most people I didnt assume. Based on previous conversations I knew what their opinion on certain topics were.

[@leagueaddict8357]

ISTP here, disagree on that one I'm not gonna lie unless it saves a life or if it benefits me greatly, if people can't handle the truth I see that as weakness and I greatly value my own independence so I would much rather leave that situation if possible or just think that who ever tells me to lie is stupid and continue being truthful.

[@Caleb-zl4wk]

INTP, and yeah I found that section kind of ridiculous. Like... I know. And I still don't. Crazy isn't it ANYWAY I'd say the difference is that I don't view it as a failure of the person who "can't handle the truth". I find that kind of arrogant. But some people are more dependent upon information being delivered some ways than others, and life is lived better avoiding those who absolutely refuse the truth regardless of its presentation, than not.

[@fedup1606]

I have found that I'm happily willing to walk away from a social "paradigm" that is clearly false. If society wants to hold onto some BS narrative because it "feels good", then that's on them. I'm just not interested in being apart of it. There was a time when I would point out all these inconsistencies in the narrative of the day, but that only caught me more and more flac. Now, I just allow mother nature to take her course.... Doesn't this have negative consequences? Absolutely. You'll find that there are few people willing to acknowledge your integrity and the sacrifices you've made in order to up hold it. They, instead, see it as being selfish. I have found that I'm fine with those consequences. The lack of BS and peace of mind is worth it. -ISTP

[@fedup1606]

@@thecod2345 Well said. Couldn't agree more. -ISTP

[@QuotesArticles]

INFP here! Well, why would we want to trigger an ENTP, ENTJ or ESTJ!!! 😂 The ENTP/ENFP one was really fun to listen to 😀 Some ENTPs I knew were already insufferable, you don’t want to trigger them and make it even more insufferable 😂 Nice video as always Nathan!🌟👏

[@benjaminharmon6541]

How to trigger an ENTP/ENFP: Just be an average ISTP, apparently lmao

[@Imaxxd22]

@@benjaminharmon6541 I am ENTP and that doesn't trigger me at all. I like ISTP. They are chill and direct.

[@dionn5609]

@@benjaminharmon6541 how to trigger me (an entp???) is being stubborn and not considering my ideas when i see more possibilities and let the problem just like that they don't even tell me valid reason they just "let them be" i don't like close minded ppl most of the time (prefer to immature close minded ig), standing their own believe is ok but not ok when it literally cringe af like example : case about heavy bag going to school and need to climb to the third floor or something like that it could create scoliosis problem and someone just "why would u need to make it viral? why cant u just tell the school and give the kid special treatment? why does ppl so soft and spoiled this days, back in my days-" bro, the way u think is just brainless bro. how bout others?, most of student also have the same problem? why only the kid? it need to get awareness on it. they are not soft or spoiled they are preventing from health issues. in the end she was just so stupid (not even consider it and doesn't want to admit it) and i was so done and told aight lets be friend (she was the same age as me but dude i swear i call her "narc old man" way of thinking)

[@microwavedonut6412]

I just remembered that one time an ESTP got angry with me because I was just sitting and staring at a wall while thinking about random stuff... lol

[@trollloloololooo]

Totally understandable

[@DANGARANGS]

Yep. Getting put into a position where i have to lie to avoid further questions or interactions due to being asked personal questions by colleagues. INTP

[@carolinealexandra206]

INFP here - another thing i want to add is when other people suddenly and unexpectedly dump a bunch of tasks on you that need to be done right away, forcing you to put off what you were actually planning on doing/wanted to do in that moment

[@joannie2270]

I can relate, i really hate this feeling too ^^" having control over my time and doing things when i feel i'll be the most into it are really important to me. I don't mind deadlines too much but someone demanding i drop everything to do what they want right away makes me instantly moody.

[@FalconWindblader]

That's not INFP & ISTP specific. doing such a thing would annoy ANYONE. it's just that we INFPs find it especially harder to cope compared to a good many other types.

[@carolinealexandra206]

@@FalconWindblader yes of course, i’m just saying that it’s REALLY effective. also, i don’t think i mentioned istp anywhere?

[@FalconWindblader]

@@carolinealexandra206 Typo, it's ISFP actually. & i mentioned it specifically because these 2 got grouped in the video, like the 2 types do share a lot in common, including this case.

[@hannahpeterangelo7551]

ENFP: Haven't become a millionare but am doing the things a couple people told me were completely unrealistic and wrote an entire thesis breaking down why it was realistic and reasonable. Feels good but am working on not being insufferable about it 😆

[@miniObsession]

ISFP here as well... "What are you doing with your life" used to irritate me... But now that I know and have an explanation ready and people don't wait and listen after asking for it, that's what triggers me now... Same goes for "how are you feeling"... I worked hard to learn how to answer these questions and if no one really wants to listen, why ask! 🤬

[@justlookalittledeeper9953]

This reminds me of a guy I know who was blabbering about himself. He finally paused and asked, "so what do you like to do?" But he soon cut me off and kept talking. It so happens that I've yet to meet a person who actually cares about what another person is doing, unless it's to determine where they are on the dominance hierarchy.

[@miniObsession]

@@justlookalittledeeper9953 very true...

[@pianocat7398]

As an ENTP, the only thing that triggers me more is being told to "shut up" or "stop arguing" and then not let me leave so they can state their point.

[@bencash4967]

I die every time my dad does that, I would just like to share my 2 cents on the subject, but he tells his thoughts on it, and then goes all "but yeah, lets finish this before I get upset"

[@Multitudes_]

The ExFJ part is so true and has been a lifelong source of friction between my INFP self and ESFJ mother. There were many times in my life when my mother was hurt by me not sharing things with her. In some cases the idea hadn't even occurred to me, but for her it was just so obvious that that is what you do, and my not doing that was taken as an indication that I didn't love her or there was something wrong with the relationship. I prefer to keep things to myself more often than not, and I especially prefer to work through emotional/existential matters on my own. I don't need to process things together with someone else, and I especially don't care to do it with someone who isn't really on the same wavelength as me. Also, I just believe so deeply in self-determination and the right to choose to what extent we share ourselves with others, and I don't like when people act entitled to other people or their business. As someone intrinsically opposed to the idea of other people knowing what's best for you, I can't really agree with that part. :) There may have been some cases where my mother knew what was best for me, especially when it came to practical matters, but on a deeper level, she really does not understand the type of person that I am or what such a person needs out of life. Same with my INTP brother, whom I've frequently had to try and help her understand and not be so concerned by his very anti-ESFJ way of life. Like, you have no idea the paranoia and drama we've both been subjected to about what might be 'wrong' with us. My relationship with my mother was always best when she needed some kind of help or support from me, which fortunately she often did, so we could focus on her business instead of mine, and she could appreciate the things I was providing her instead of resenting the things I wasn't. And yeah, all the IxFP stuff is true. P.S. I should note that my mother was NOT a healthy or balanced person for most of my life, which definitely added strain to the relationship too. As the reply below from Cowboy Depression suggests, things can look a little different when both parties are healthy and balanced. My mother was exactly like Cowboy Depression's with pretty much everyone outside her household, but at home, there was far more negativity. After decades of friction, we have both become better able to compromise with each other, and slowly, it's gotten easier to meet each other in the middle.

[@zemiyac.2949]

Wow. Ironically, that was quite an insight. I kinda found myself in that (ESFJ). It's a huge motivation for me to help people I love get back on their feet or just give them advice and see them happily afterward. I'm even okay if they don't listen to me but when they just feel better after letting it all out. My sister (INFP) is actually never looking for advice. She rather needs the right words at the right time which can be quite difficult because -just like you said- she does not completely let me know what's in her mind or in general what's going on. Same (or for me even worse) with my brother (INTP). My sister mostly tries to explain to me why he does things the way he does, because often I just don't get it. And it does get to me when he does not want to open up when he's feeling down. Because my urge to help, at least listen to him, is not the help he wants. Thus I feel useless hahaha Thx for sharing - it was very interesting to read ♡

[@ctzippifuchs9161]

As an INFP with an ESFJ mom I relate, but differently. My mom and I are extremely close. She's a very mature/developed ESFJ and is constantly learning. She's the most caring and nurturing-everyone who knows her or me will tell me how friendly, amazing and caring she is. She is friends with literally everybody she meets- every workmate at get job, the parents of her students (she's a teacher), all of our neighbors (even the non English speaking ones), the mailman, the ups delivery guy, that random lady she met on the bus, and that other random lady she met at a wedding she attended only because the family really wanted her to come. The list goes on. While we've had some small issues relating to our cognitive functions, mostly during my teen years, we've learnt to understand and respect each other. I'm just sharing so I can offer another infp-esfj relationship. I dunno a more positive one (?)

[@LilyGrace1990]

ENFP here. Yes, that would annoy me, but I think what would annoy me more would be not letting me ask questions or suggest anything. Telling me to do something by the book. Unless this is some kind of potentially dangerous thing that could go horribly wrong unless I follow the directions to the letter, I want to be able to do things my own way or suggest things that could be changed.

[@lovewho]

This is a great one too! ~ Nathan

[@Snarl_Marx]

ENFP here, you nailed it. I can't tell you how many times I've tried to give my ISTP husband advice on how go about a particular task and he's completely dismissed my idea. Only for him to realize later that he could have saved a lot of time and energy if we just did my idea in the first place. It gives me great pleasure when he has to admit this lol

[@DANGARANGS]

You sound like an obnoxious wife.

[@benjaminharmon6541]

Coming from another ISTP: Hell yeah, humble him! We have no problem taking advice from people whose perspectives we value, so hopefully this problem should improve over time. Unsolicited advice and "micromanaging" does rob us of the chance to figure things out on our own, though, so I wouldn't start giving the advice until he's already struggling.

[@firespawnie537]

I'm an ENFP like you and you got my attention here. How did you manage to end up with an ISTP?We're so incompatible.I had an ISTP girlfriend and after 1 month I realised that we simply can't function together and broke up with her. Same with an ISTP person I used to be friends with.But when I'm with ENFP or mature INTJ people I can be myself without worrying about anything. Have I missed anything about ISTPs?

[@nobodynowhere21]

@@firespawnie537 Agree with you here from the ENFP perspective. INTP's I've met are pleasantly low-key but genuine and fascinating to converse with over a myriad of topics -- but the ISTP's I've known are generally cold, empty, narrow-minded, frankly selfish, and seem to struggle with anger management. No matching functions, an opposing temperament/values (NF vs ST), and our politics and worldviews are often miles apart. Also consider that we live in a society brainwashed by capital, but that works very well for their functions, so they think we're worthless. ISTP and ENFP marriage with folks that literally get a kick out of upsetting each other's 'thinking' methods is a tee-up for a divorce and a broken, shattered family who will potentially suffer for the rest of their lives from the unnecessary and toxic fallout. Potential generations worth of trauma.

[@anndunamis5338]

I dated an istp in highschool. I think they are quite cool. Love their savage honesty really. I think if you want to give them advice, you should first state that you appreciate their opinions and views first. Then tell them if they are struggling to do something, maybe they can try your way instead. If the istp really cares about you, their Fe will give in and listen to you.

[@stevedavenport1202]

Well, yup, so true. My Ni premonitions are constantly dismissed by sensing types. I try not to go full on Ni woo woo and ask people to prepare for an alien invasion or how to live in a post singularity world. I try to keep it pertinent to what might happen to an individual or a business, given their current trajectory. Even then, it is dismissed.

[@jsmith317]

INTP/INTJ/ISTP/INFJ here (I'm in my 50s and very balanced). I am fond of a particular ENTP and have an affection for other ones because of something he did for me. My mechanical reasoning skills are stellar, but verbal communication not so much. Working on a construction project with an INTJ, ENTP, and ESTJ, puzzling over a way to do something. I could see the best way immediately and tried to verbalize it, even acting it out with my hands. INTJ scoffed and ignored. ESTJ ignored and was about to take less efficient and more costly route. I tried again to explain. No traction; even some annoyance at the hold-up. ENTP stepped in and speedily/efficiently explained what I meant and touted it as the best route. They relented, and it worked beautifully. Thank you, ENTPs of the world. 😊

[@audreyhowler]

I can honestly say that in middle age, I have few real triggers now. In my youth, stupidity, emotionality, manufactured drama, all were major triggers. I've learned to accept the reality of living in this world with other people, and learned to expect little. BUT the one place where I'm still triggered faster than anywhere else, is behind the wheel. My record for rude gestures and yelling is now 30 seconds (after starting the car). Thankfully I now mostly walk or take public transport. For my sanity.

[@jadedjimmy]

What type are you?

[@audreyhowler]

@@jadedjimmy ISTP

[@pinkplay052]

This may "trigger" some ppl but while everyone in the comment section is talking about the things that "trigger" them I'd like to highlight that "triggering" cut at the end of the video.

[@michaeliacangelo9423]

INFP here. The way I read "So what are you doing with your life?" is "So what aren't you doing that lives up to my standards of what you should be doing?" Since I don't predicate my life on others "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts", I dismiss this question immediately as being pre-judgmental. If the question were "How is life for you these days?" instead, then I would consider it as social courtesy or idle curiosity.

[@kellie8468]

Yes! INFP I am more likely to think of someone else’s feelings ignored or dismissed and defend them . I don’t have to defend mine but ask about plans or goals irritates me.

[@adamraiyan]

Please do one with how to manipulate each personality.

[@yuishizu2]

As an ISFP, I don't mind being asked what I'm doing with my life or what my plans are. Do I have an answer for it? No, not necessarily. Does it bother me, though? Nah. I just see it as a prompt to remind me that I should perhaps think about such things ...before forgetting about it again :') What's more triggering, though, is being micromanaged and controlled. That will 100% trigger me.

[@amsawesome9218]

agree^^

[@redriot2115]

Intp here, couldn't tell one of my grandparents I didn't like the shirt they got me, but also couldn't lie and say I liked it. Froze there awkwardly for an embarrassing amount of time. Happened a few years ago so maybe I'm doing better now but sheesh. Nightmare. Gotta say relate to Infp as well, hate it when someone asks what I've accomplished. Nothing in particular! And I'm fine with that!

[@beccangavin]

I’ve done that! I know I’m expected to say something positive in social situations and I know the right answer but I can’t make the words come out of my mouth so I just sit there awkwardly.

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

As INTJ I totally agree

[@psychedeliac]

ENTPs: Like I didn't know that

[@PaleGhost69]

1:46 "If you could somehow trap them..." Life in America: What do you mean IF

[@RyuuRider]

I feel this in my soul and I wish I didn't. Haha

[@user-mc5vy2vk5n]

A guide how to be evil towards different types, interesting... 👀

[@cdko]

Or a guide on how to avoid uncomfortable topics to communicate better with certain people

[@glueball214]

hahaha

[@user-mc5vy2vk5n]

@@glueball214 hey, we talked yesterday under video of Kristin :D

[@user-mc5vy2vk5n]

@@cdko nah, I'll pass on this one. (feeling so ENTPy right now 😂) You don't need to convince me, I just tried to pass a joke, but I don't have mental capacity of an ENTP to argue long about something no matter, if I actually think so or not. But a bit trolling is indeed exciting and I can see why the ENTP I know likes it so much. 👀

[@glueball214]

@@user-mc5vy2vk5n yes, fellow INTJ you're still funny here 🍀

[@richsackett3423]

ENTP/ENFP - "You don't know what you're talking about."

[@keziaelizabeth]

as an infp, i completely agree with that. i hate when i get asked what i plan to do in the future or even what i plan to do today. i never really stick with plans and i just usually go with whatever i’m in the mood to do. and although i hate when people invalidate my feelings, i think i’m more pissed off when i see other people’s emotions get ignored or invalidated.

[@jillharrison3924]

infj here (with a friend). as we listened, we pictured people we know who fit each type. i was laughing out loud at how spot on you were! tho ironically, when u described my type’s trigger point, i paused and went off on a frustrated rant about how true it was and why…so, um, yea, even hearing about my trigger point triggered me!!😂 plus, my friend and i enjoyed sharing stories about how those that we know of each personality type were truly in line with your points. in fact, i literally cringed at the mere thought of saying (or doing) those SPECIFIC trigger points to each person i knew of each type!!! now that’s validation in my opinion, and therefore, i would argue that trigger points should be considered as a useful tool when typing someone. anyone agree that it would be worth exploring?

[@pinkbanana1276]

I’m an intj, but i can relate to intp-istp one, more than the intj one.

[@Diaming787]

Same here too. What is the point of mending relations with people with fake things you don't value?

[@pinkbanana1276]

@@Diaming787 that and being dishonest about it, too.

[@masaya0107]

ENTP one is really on point made me surprised you can pinpoint out like that😂 When i was younger, one of my colleague say “That idea is impossible” as soon as I finish my sentence. It’s scary and funny how my hand move faster than my mind. lol good for her I still think of my mom face.

[@vx7526]

So it can be generalized the universal way to trigger each of the 16 types is either telling they’re not doing good at their lower functions or suppressing them tapping into their top functions the activity of which is the source for vitality. Then you get there: each of 16 types can easily be posed to trigger some other types..

[@kathrynronnenberg1688]

Intj: mundane considerations...like that giant pile of dishes? Definitely grinding my soul to powder. The rewards are too ephemeral, the problem too recurring. "Just lie instead" bugs me, too, though. Facts matter. If social harmony doesn't line up with facts, maybe there's something wrong with the structure supporting the so-called social harmony.

[@loraborealis2551]

ISTP here. You nailed it.

[@nemo_xs3200]

like, it's on point!? Like, I do understand I should "soften the blow". But tor any reason, it's such a pain in the ass

[@loraborealis2551]

@@nemo_xs3200 , yes on point. I struggle with my words because I hate making people feel bad but I won’t lie and I don’t know how to say things diplomatically. Like please don’t ask me questions then get upset at my answer!

[@Caleb-zl4wk]

As an INTP... yeah I already knew that.

[@user-rp3fe6ic2r]

Sir- you really hit the mark for entj 😭 like always! My fav mbti channel by far

[@nina3538]

INTP. There could always be exceptions but also DO NOT put me in a position to have to lie for you. This only serves as one of those times it’s become clear things HAVE to be put on the table and I guess it’s down to me now

[@lovewho]

That’s an excellent one actually! ~ Nathan

[@scarlatti9130]

Thoughtful on every aspect, specially the point at which you aim for the demon function of Fi users, very impressive. That shows you don't just write scripts brainlessly to just have told something. Keep going and I'll keep learning from you.

[@christineherrmann205]

When it becomes your _business_ to hear every personal thing a client has to say, it's amazing how wonderful hearing someone (politely) indicate to you that a Thing is not your business can become.

[@christineherrmann205]

"Oh, you mean that Thing you're clearly worrying about is NOT my responsibility? Oh, thank God." Does this mean I'm evolved?

[@DarthTach]

I do hate lying but working in customer service/Hotel Industry you learn how to lie very fast, because the truth causes more problems then it solves. And I am a INTP.

[@homosapien5684]

Intp here... just started at a sales job. My employer is scared to let me start interacting with customers. I start doing that tomorrow. Wish me luck.

[@catchingstars7]

Good luck. And there are channels on charisma that teach how to steer people's attention in effective ways, so you don't have to lie. :)

[@homosapien5684]

@@catchingstars7 it was horrible. I hate my job.

[@adrenalineactivate]

Ironically I end up irritating my INTJ friend today when she tried to help me but I told her that no matter what we do, nothing we plan will work and that life is always downhill for me and she ended up irritating me cause she tried to convince that I should be more productive, wake up early, and plan my day that it will help me when really, I genuinely don't think it won't. If it's suppose to help me with my emotion then doing nothing feels better then doing things I don't like.

[@Kimbonessness]

Ideational mathematics, mental gymnastics, charismatic masterminds (okay so the first two are actions while the last is more of a state of being). INFJ is like me in quarantine, I’m slowly withering away but ENFJ what you said is absolutely the number one thing I’m afraid of. Also being in a household with INTP and ENTJ my Ti inferior is always pointed out…idk how I’ve lasted this long, actually the last member of the household is an ISFJ and they usually steamroll them into shape for me😅

[@lovewho]

Feel free to join the discord server if you haven’t already (feel free to bring your family too!) ~ Nathan

[@cordeliamoon2956]

INFP here and YES! Those kind of questions about my plans, or my future are so triggering to me. I get so anxious and annoyed, because it's something I'm worried about almost everyday and people seem to think I don't care at all.

[@mckamy4711]

As an INFJ someone used to make fun of me for jumping to conclusions and seeing it as irrational or that I was worrying too much. This did bother me because while I understand that I was overthinking too much at times where it would not be good for me, it did hurt somewhat to not have my intuitive feelings be considered and dismissed instead.

[@ticktock2000x]

What's up? INTP here. I'm in a relationship with someone who I constantly have to lie to to keep them from going off the deep end and it's one of the worst things I've ever experienced. Just chiming in because I know they'll never see this.

[@qmagicam]

Enfp. I told a colleague about some books I wanted to write and she was so dismissive that I felt like it was a dumb idea and I should aim for another one. Still feel a little hurt tbh. May see how the year goes as I'm always coming up with new ideas.

[@micahmock3505]

On a slight twist, as an INTJ the biggest slight I can give is to NOT share my ideas or compliment a new system for you. Either I have deemed it too much work to share, or I refuse to make your life more efficient.

[@lovewho]

This is definitely something I've heard INTJs say so that makes perfect sense to me ~ Nathan

[@shannonorourke9523]

ISTJ- VERY true. I am very routine driven when it comes to my workouts and meal planning that winging any new type of sport/different body part then what I intended to workout throws me off my game. I try to stay a little open here and there to experience new things in life but I don't like WINGING it. That's for sure! Any other ISTJ/ESTJ personal trainer/fit fanatics here? :D

[@stfu-pi-ddk1ddo891]

INTP here, if someone told me i have to lie in order to have good interpersonal relationships, i will be quite sad, but not angry, ir triggered. If you really want me to be triggered, just be stubborn and ignorant, that really is the worst combo. Or tell me that truth searching is non beneficial to the humankind (sorry if i have typos, English is not my first lenguage)

[@tatsuyas.drakensang4826]

The ISTJ abilities you described are the things I wished I had the most in this life. it's the INTP's biggest weakness and font of frustration. It sucks not being able to create detailed plans of action and stick to them.

[@MarieForest]

Spot on for INFP. I also get really upset when people ask why I am feeling a certain way. I know it’s irrational but it’s because I can’t really explain that, it just is and doesn’t have much outside triggers to explain 😅

[@AStrangePersonOnline]

As a ENTP, I agree. I will get mad if you tell me my idea is bad

[@It_is_Okay_to_be_Sad]

INFP one was true for me... 😁 But sometimes it's not about what the person says it's more about how the person says... There is a certain rude tone which I hate ...

[@lifewithautumn6935]

ENFP here. And boy are you right! Once my boss laughed at me when I came up with a seemingly brilliant idea. Things are still rather tense with her.

[@Yangorango]

As an INFP, I get more triggered by the questions “What would you like to do today?”, “What/where would you like to go/eat?” and “What would you like to watch/listen to?”, mostly because these are the very last things I think about and because I have to be really careful to not to hurt the feelings of the person I’m talking to/spending the time with if anything gets misunderstood. Specially ESFJs. I love ESFJs. And they have to be protected.

[@gardeniac.3782]

My mom's an ENTJ and I have had several topics that she gets invested in and they always end up being fun conversations even if I eventually get bored. There was/is something at my old middle school that she did to great success and is doing again for my sister and I have participated in it. It's fun watching her get excited about it on occasion. My sister is an ENFP... your video explained why we had a lot of disagreements growing up. She would try to do something one way but I would tell her to do it my way because it would take less time or be easier. I was often right but she always got very mad at me being younger and having a temper.... we work together now just on different parts at different times. I remember the dreaded 5 minutes in 4th grade when nobody got the answer correct and people just kept guessing the same answers. When the teacher finally picked on me I got it right. I am an intj. Oh God I just wanted someone to actually know the answer even if I didn't get picked because it was horrifying watching people go up to click the same 2/3 incorrect answers over 10 times, told they were incorrect. There were 4 answers on the board

[@lovewho]

Epic comment! It’s cool that you know the types of your family members. That makes for fun analysis! ~ Nathan

[@gardeniac.3782]

@@lovewho your videos have proven to be very entertaining for my mom and me as we can look at out family and laugh about it. The funniest was my parents on a different video because he an ISTJ has stuck to decade long routines and my mother only stopping taking control to be nice to people. We spend a solid minute laughing at both

[@whitneygerbode3362]

I think ISTJ might be a good one for a therapist. It would be the most relevant.

[@whitneyd6827]

I'm definitely way more "triggered" by the second option you put forth for Fe doms, which is being told we're irrational. While being told "none of your business" hurts and it's disabling, we inherently understand how and why this person is saying it because we're Fe doms and we're going to respect that boundary. On the other hand, calling our biggest asset a waste of time/illogical is.... a little infuriating. Perhaps this hits me as an ENFJ a little harder since NF types in general are viewed as some of the most illogical by those who don't share their functions. FeNi is very hard to defend in decision-making because no one else seems to understand the prioritization. Calling me illogical is a huge hit to my Ni and Ti working overtime to find plentiful and accurate truths.

[@BombshElle_7]

I'm an INTJ and try not to mischaracterize F types as wholly illogical. I think the mbti community has painted you guys with a broad stroke of "think with your heart, not your head." Meanwhile, T types, especially mine, are viewed as cold and robotic. (Which is why I prefer the Enneagram.)

[@cathyhart3946]

"FeNi is very hard to defend in decision-making because no one else seems to understand the prioritization." THIS! As a fellow ENFJ, this is the story of my life. When confronted with a decision, I figure out what is the right thing to do, but I can rarely explain how I got there. I just "know". I lot went into the process, but it seems impossible to delineate. It's hard to get people to trust my decisions because of this. I'm working on my Ti communication skills, but they don't come easily.

[@cerseilannister1505]

You read my mind! Not only would "none of your business" be completely understandable, but it's something that hasn't been said to me in all of my interactions as an ENFJ. Perhaps he shouldn't have lumped ENFJ and ESFJ together for that one because I've observed that phrase being said to ESFJs more. True ENFJs can use their introverted intuition to detect when help/advice isn't solicited. I'm way more triggered by the "illogical" reputation. When studying Philosophy in college, Logic was my favorite course. It felt like the science of Philosophy and the antithesis of fluff that you read/hear about in other courses. ENFJs balance logic with passion to make impactful and sensible choices.

[@milaalaniva775]

This!

[@elag912]

As INTJ, when i think about what triggers me most I ALWAYS think that being ignored is the worst. I don't talk much so if I finally decide to do so I really need someone to listen. As for ESFJs - i know some and this "mind your business" is 100% true. They're getting psychotic if you're not telling them something, It often needs to be done though, they can get really controlling and nasty if they know too much. Either way dangerous, I admire people who can handle them better than I 😅

[@IdExCS]

Entj - extremely accurate, well done.

[@lovewho]

Why thank you! ~ Nathan

[@RosheenQuynh]

Don't tell me I haven't accomplished anything. I don't need to hear what I tell myself every day... - INFP

[@kekelottas]

Right before I got to the INFP part, I was thinking about things I hate and I immediately thought of people that invalidate others🤣 it was funny that you mentioned it

[@lunaztorta4554]

INTJ here and being ignored is barely a trigger at this point. What irritates me is that people seek my counsel and advise because they know I can accurately analyse their situations and give them practical solutions to their problems just not to actually consider my plans and, as I always predict, just come back scorned. It's at that point I just have to lift my eyebrow telling them: "Say it. I was right, wasn't I?" Such a waste of my time, it's barely a satisfaction being right at this point.

[@lovewho]

This is very much an archetypical issue that INTJs run into and, understandbly, it drives them completely nuts! ~ Nathan

[@shambhavisinha2816]

ENFP here WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU SO ACCURATE?! anyway love the video 💗

[@Snazjazz17]

isfp, so freaking true. i’m in love with an entp though so he’s very structured and goal oriented. it’s a struggle to appear put together and motivated enough to keep his interest without burning myself out. but part of the reason i know i love him is because if it was anyone else i’d view it as too pushy and restrictive.

[@dracsharp]

I swear as an ENTP this channel influenced me to go on a warpath to manifest my ideas. Telling me I can't do things can take from from merely enthusiastically sharing an idea to feeling hellbent on carrying it out.

[@lovewho]

I take no responsibility for any damage caused on your warpath... unless there's financial gain from it in which case I'll take 5% commission ~ Nathan

[@thanhheu4129]

Yeah, as a ISTJ, or for ISxJ type, it's true 👍 and watching this to see other types of people to be warned about, thank you Nathan 👌

[@loraborealis2551]

Oh my gosh!! 😂😂 my husband is ENTP. I see I’ve been triggering him very effectively!

[@supernova9563]

OMFG THE INTP ONE IT HAS HAPPENED TO ME SJDJSJS IT ANNOYS ME SO MUCH but i still feel like i have to do it in order to get along with others but most of the time my INTP self wins and i have to tell it like it is even if i bore everyone 😭😔😔

[@RFUN109]

I’m an INTJ, and I know mine all too well. There are way too many instances that I can remember where I shared a theory and it was shot down, only to be proven true months later.