I asked my Corporate Job if I could Wear the Men's Uniform...

[@LovesDarkBlue]

I went to a catholic school where boys could wear shorts or pants but girls had to wear skirts or jumper dresses, even in winter when it was cold! I'm otherwise pretty traditional 'feminine' but i begged mom to ask the school to let me wear shorts or pants too. They allowed me to and I was legit THE only girl in the 'boy uniform'. BUT it's what I was most comfortable in 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@samanthaorion6605]

LovesDarkBlue they’re pretty strict with us at my school... but musicians can were black slacks

[@allenhannah6667]

I didn't go to a religious school but same hear

[@cockadoodledoostudios2778]

“Look, it’s that Tom boy-“ “Hey, I’m just cold, ok?” :I

[@enfysz1695]

Same thing happened to me. I went to a catholic school and every Friday we had to wear our "mass uniform", which was pants, white shirt and vest for boys and dress ( or skirt, white shirt and vest) for girls. I always hated dresses and skirts, so in 4th grade I finally got the courage to ask my mom to schedule a meeting with the principle. We went and my principle let me wear the "boys uniform", which I wore the rest of the time I was there. In 6th grade, one of the 8th grade girls wore pants, too, and an office worker tried to dress code her. The worker gave up, and for the rest of the year some of the girls in that class wore pants. I was really happy that some other girls wore pants too because it made me feel it had made a change. Those 8th graders were the only other ones who wore pants. Edit: I came out as trans at the end of 6th grade (i forgot to mention that)

[@ElinWinblad]

So you maintained and supported special privileges for you and didn’t help dismantle the sexist system?

[@ChandlerNWilson]

You joke about the dolphin gig, but that's what I do for a living sooooooo

[@vinnyvice5797]

ChandlerNWilson shhhhhhh r kind must not be seen

[@angelinahauglie1968]

ChandlerNWilson thats cool

[@dioxazine5029]

ChandlerNWilson one you have my last name two give me your job nowwwwww

[@lisalentile177]

Please tell me how old are y'all Ash looks so young

[@rainbau3352]

Lisa Lentile Ash is 24 i believe...

[@alhall6162]

When you disappeared and waited a few seconds, I kinda expected you to jump on the bed and make the dolphin noises again lol. Idk why but that’s what was in my head

[@Broadwaybutterfly21]

Alice Hall I could totally see them doing that

[@silverbroom02]

Aw your manager calling you to say he was proud of you 😭💕.

[@AWoodworkersLife]

Amy McRae that was my favorite part! It seems so unusual these days for managers to show this type of interpersonal leadership.

[@mashiroikaze]

I KNOW, right?! So awesome!

[@ManicPixieDreamGirl1995]

@Matthew Marn Wow. You must be really fun at patties

[@yaee123]

Proud of a man, yet still restricting women from dressing freely without sexism 🤦🏾‍♀️💁🏾‍♀️

[@reynakondaveeti8346]

That was really cute

[@HeyThere005]

CONFESSION: I'm not just a KZbinr. I have another full time gig as well, (and I keep what that is private.) At my other job they require uniforms. I wasn't exactly out as trans at work, so for the longest time, believe it or not, I wore a dress and heels on the job! WOWZA. Recently however, I mustered the courage to ask if I could wear the suit and tie. This might not seem like a big deal, but *as far as I could see* no one else was expressing in a gender non-conforming way where I am employed. I would be the first and only *that I knew of. (I'm sure I wouldn't actually be the first and only, but whoever the other people are, I have yet to see or meet them!) I was so afraid that I would face judgment or pushback, but I am happy to announce that I didn't! In this vid, I explain the steps I took in order to make wearing "the men's uniform" a reality for myself :) ALSO, amino is dope - ■ Join Trans Amino: aminoapps.com/invite/URFHNICR1V ■ Join LGBT+ Amino: aminoapps.com/c/LGBT-1/join :)

[@MilfLvr420]

Ash Hardell I’m proud of you and your strength.

[@rosam2555]

Ash Hardell 😍😍😍

[@charlieoliver2525]

Super proud of you, it’s a weird conversation to have to have, but once it was out there I know felt so much better and hope that’s the case for you too! Much love!

[@lizmariediaz8062]

Rock that suit and tie Ash! The most important thing is your happiness!

[@irenemous9082]

I'm so proud of you Ash. You're amazing and it's also totally logical to want to keep some parts of your life, like your job, private.

[@Utomneian]

Ash's real job is actually... a hardcore dubstep DJ that's so lit so fire WUB WUB WUB WUB WUB blasting volume so loud that Minnesota residents can feel the bass 5 miles away from the club!!! ^.^ hehe. i'm being silly. Ash is actually a hired militia defending us from a secret cult of vampire ninjas, hence, why they need a uniform, to blend into the night, for vampire ninjas see well, but these special uniforms can cloak partially invisible, so Ash can strike the evil hearts of these vampire bloodsuckers before they can detect them!

[@grooviemango]

XerDav ash is marshmallow

[@Utomneian]

huh? Ash is marshmallow? or... maybe... Ash is Marshmello? aha! (only EDM fans will understand that joke)

[@fischlvonluftschlossnarfid5048]

@@Utomneian i get it

[@anSealgair]

I really, really want Ash to be the second one

[@Utomneian]

holy shit, i must have been really high when i posted this, lol...

[@grandr1974]

You are a good ghost. Very *TRANSperent*

[@HeyThere005]

BAHAHAHA

[@pgts2490]

No u

[@jjwaletzko407]

Puggets ahhhhhhhhhhh triggered

[@DarkLore-jg3vm]

THATS THE BEST PUN EVER HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA :P

[@gachakatelyn298]

😂

[@unemilifleur]

I don't know why you would have a ''feminine'' and a ''masculine'' uniform. Just get something formal for everybody. They do the same job anyways, no? At my job it has always been black pants black shoes and tied hair if long. the top changed a few times, it was a white shirt (the ones with the buttons), then a black shirt(also the ones with the buttons), then a black shirt (but a normal one, no button, plain), but it was always the same for every employee. The shape changed if you picked M/F but the outfits are exactly the same.

[@Noodles4Anime]

I think places that typically do this are food service. Or customer service places that want a "look"(think places that have their females staff in heels and bows because they are trying to pull more customers in 🙄).

[@allenhannah6667]

Like pants and polo shirt or shirt

[@ashleeslavey2091]

“HEY... I’m cute”

[@jenohogan9254]

I think Ash is a paleontologist searching for dino bones and the missing link, in the fields of Alberta (Drumheller). Dinosaurs are cool.

[@iiiiitsmagreta1240]

That was my dream job for a significant portion of my childhood.

[@itsme133]

Can we be best friends?

[@bigbrowntau]

Hey Ash, thanks for sharing all this. From my perspective as a nurse, and a guy, I find this interesting. Back in the late 80's here in Australia, there was a big push from female nurses to be able to wear pants at work for all sorts of excellent practical reasons, but some staff still wanted the option of the old fashioned dress. HR got creative, and simply removed all reference to gender in the uniform options. Of course a couple of guys turned up in the pinafore dresses for a laugh, but soon you had people simply wearing what was their most comfortable choice. It also meant that trans staff had no problem from HR wearing whichever uniform option they found more appropriate. The other thing too, was all references to gender were removed from the toilets....they're simply marked "staff toilet". The only time you see shocked stares is when someone who isn't staff uses them!

[@qwertyTRiG]

That really is the best solution.

[@missnaomi613]

Awesome.

[@jessicascott6715]

I'm straight but so not girly, I honestly don't think I could work in a dress, or skirt, that's awful that it's all the offer in General, this one place I worked at we all had the exact same uniform for men and women and I loved it!

[@ZachChronicles]

Was it a grocery store

[@emilyk.benson7376]

yeah, listening to this video, I just died a little inside about how it seems like Ash looks at the world in such a binary way, and doesn't consider that the whole men vs women uniform is bullshit regardless of if you're trans or not, and should be done away with in all companies bc it's sexist and bullshit and encourages dumb gender roles. like, do ya think your coworkers enjoy being forced to wear heels? why not fight for real change. this issue isn't about being trans or not. if you didn't want to out yourself to higher ups, you didn't need to, and could still have been able to wear the "mens uniform" because a company ACTUALLY CANNOT tell you no (within most countries) or that would be discrimination regardless of whatever anyone identifies as

[@trinitylivingston1286]

I think it's dumb to have to wear a dress in a work environment because you sometimes have to do more physical work like lifting boxes (even in the office sometimes), have to run around the office doing errands (sometimes), have to do dirtier work sometimes, and some of the other employees/customers can be creepy pervs. Plus, I think you should be able to choose whether or not you want to wear a dress.

[@emeraldgypsyheart]

Jessica Scott I’m definitely NOT girly and when required to wear a “uniform” in an office I wore what was professional and non-gender defined even some women in my former career wore the “woman’s” “uniform”; dresses/skirts. Me I wore slacks and nice tops sometimes (depending on who was scheduled to drop by) I was required to cover my forearms as I have tattoos (none offensive or inappropriate in any way) but that was the only “exoticn” to the required professional “uniform”. I think as long as employees are dress professionally gender distinctive “uniforms” should be optional. But that’s just my two. Ents. Lol

[@smudge8882]

Trans people can be straight too. I think the term you're looking for is cis. :)

[@hello.pickle]

this is totally not the same thing, but where I work, the men's shirts and women's shirts are different. Not super different, but the women's shirts are shaped differently (makes sense, since most women have bigger hips) but they also have short sleeves and the collar doesn't have real buttons. It stays undone and it goes kind of low on me and I don't like it. The women's shirts are also just not designed very well and I don't like them. It never even occurred to me to ask for a men's shirt. But when we were all getting our new shirts and I expressed my annoyance with the women's shirts, my manager said "Why don't you try a men's shirt then?" and I was like: "Oh! that's an idea!" And the men's shirts are sooooo much better and every time we get new shirts I'm always going to ask for a men's shirt. Sometimes people are like: "Um, that's a boy's shirt..." And I'm like: "So? it's better." and they're like: "oh. ok." But I'm super glad your experience with this went well!

[@paigeamatic1348]

Ash: boo! Me (honestly): ahhh! Ash: did i scare you? Me: yeah... good job on being a ghost

[@stella187]

Love the way your videos are edited, minimalist and chill! Also, the red shirt matches the colors in the background just neatly, and I think that is great

[@yeoman2k1]

So instead of true activism and getting rid of a sexist policy you just swapped sides?

[@prettyari4038]

I'm a cis girl (as far as I know) and I prefer a suit and a tie, but feminine style? If that makes sense😹 Idk, I just feel the most confident in that.

[@MegaSonglover99]

TheBi-tastic Bi-corn same

[@jimenarios7524]

That happens because you are a human being. Masculine and feminine clothes have nothing to do with your gender.

[@evaweiss1160]

I am the same. I like dresses, but I could't imagine having to wear a skirt and heels to work. Why not having pants for women and flat shoes as an option for everyone?

[@katiesmith8501]

Will you help your female coworkers get the same exception so they don’t have to be uncomfortable at work either?

[@HeyThere005]

Yea, I encourage them to advocate for themselves and I offer my support. I think anybody should be able to wear what makes them most comfortable on the job.

[@ZoeM-zk6hk]

Ash Hardell Do they have to cut off their breasts and call themselves a different gender, too? Oh wait, how silly of me, we women like wearing painful shoes and uncomfortable clothing.

[@nuclearpeacex]

Yeah, nothing says comfortable like wearing a full suit and tie in the summer!!

[@lindsaydiecidue]

What ash is Comfortable wearing does not mean its comfy like sweats and t shirt. Two very different comfortables.

[@no_peace]

What's with the aggressive comments though

[@jessicakasten7101]

Hi Ash, I really admire how eloquent and well-educated you sound when you talk. Also, I think it's really cool how patient and understanding you are with people who maybe don't completely understand how you identify, or are maybe uneducated on the topic of transgender. That shows a lot of maturity on your end!

[@dkg_gdk]

So there were two uniforms and then after you got brave there were two uniforms...

[@jackisnotabird]

Ash! I hope it's not weird to say, but I am SO proud of you. I've never known how you could stomach such a gendered uniform for so long and I'm so so happy for you that your supervisors were cool with it. Here's hoping the customers you encounter are chill too!

[@dipperpotter658]

Hi Jackson!

[@nolongerused9796]

I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!

[@thareinpotuhera5255]

Chill. It's just clothing.

[@katiekustron3923]

@ Bode Collins, Uhm no actually, Ash is non binary, which is neither male nor female, and so when uniforms are that gendered (male and female) it can often times be difficult for non binary people to conform to those options. If you watch more of Ash's videos, you see that they generally wear masculine clothing, so it would make sense for them to wear what is comfortable for them to work, and that would be a suit.

[@anaespiral3265]

That's cool. Be proud of Ash for standing up for... well, just HERSELF. She is backing sexism so up front that I don't understand why don't you see it. In our world, when we women stand up for our right to wear comfortable at work as men do, WE GET FIRED. Period. Ash didn't fight to break the status-quo. She strengthened it. Are you sure you want to be proud of such a selfish person?

[@esther-corinna]

You shouldn't have to be male and disclose your identity in order to not wear a skirt and heels. I think it's fine to have a feminine clothing option, but it's not okay if that is the only option for women. I have days when I love to wear a dress or skirt, but more days when I don't feel comfortable in them. I don't wear heels and couldn't even if I wanted to because I'm very prone to lower back pain and injuries to tendons in my legs and feet. But I shouldn't have to use that as an excuse to be allowed to wear flat shoes. You shouldn't need any reason not to wear a skirt other than ''I'd rather wear pants''.

[@ravenousbang9641]

I want to thank ASH for letting me know about amino before....That's where I met the love of my life and I'm so happy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@jordanjames7374]

sams fam TV: Awww! I'm so happy for u!!

[@ravenousbang9641]

thank you

[@mayafritz3144]

sams fam TV NO WAY THATS SO COOL!!!!

[@steviepopcorn7076]

I respect your privacy 😊

[@kassidydye6966]

Same

[@AliJardz]

awww, glad it went well

[@AngiePup]

I personally, even though I'm not trans, would like to wear the men's outfit if the female outfit was uncomfortable for me (heels, skirts, dresses, etc.)

[@amysvideologs]

JiminSugaBiased *ARMY* if you don't like wearing skirts and heels then you probably are trans actually

[@AngiePup]

Amy Connell it doesn't work like that, I just find those things uncomfortable and sexualizes the person wearing them.

[@witapepsi]

women can wear non-feminine things and still be women

[@TheSanraphael]

dude wtf

[@sandrawest5149]

I hate dresses and skirts and I wear makeup, love my body and love being femine just don't like being uncomfortable and self conscious about men looking up my skirt/dress.

[@darklivingroom]

A dress and heels, you are a hero in my book! 😱

[@PurpleDog06]

I just changed jobs and had spent the entire time I worked at my previous job trying to be brave enough to come out so I wasn't referred to as part of the "thanks ladies!" that comes when you work in an all-women business. New job has so far been much easier emotionally. Thank you for your perspective on this here. Asking for what you want is critical and it has held me back so significantly for so long. Time to be braver!

[@adawuz7342]

I really really love the editing of the video! Its so well incorporated into the video

[@WallebyDamned]

To those worried about bathrooms at work: I am of the firm opinion that if I can clean that bathroom, I can use that bathroom. If a customer/co-worker/whatev musters the audacity to ask why you appear to be using that bathroom, you can always say it is because you are an employee, using an available bathroom so that you can return to work. It can be scary sometimes, but having good little excuses can help diffuse a situation should it ever occur. Thankfully a lot more places are not as bothered, but I know well some places are still backwards in this thinking (I'm in the Midwest US...)

[@auroras7131]

Ash Hardell seems to think women should have to identify as trans in order to have the right to wear comfortable clothes at work. NOT a feminist.

[@bin48234]

agree

[@xxOmgItsMe]

I'm really glad it went well for you. I'm terrified of ever having to do what you did. I know it's worth it. But it's scary. And I definitely get where you're coming from. Good job, Ash! You're probably one of my top heroes for overcoming all the struggles and jumping the hurdles to be 100% yourself

[@liliorosco1191]

GUYS THEY WORK AT DUNDER MIFFLIN

[@liliorosco1191]

( this isnt a real place of work its from a tv show dont give me sh*t )

[@HeyThere005]

HOW DID YOU KNOW?!?!!??!

[@liliorosco1191]

Ash Hardell i heard suit and dresses and i was like welp i know theyre at dunder mifflin

[@teddygolberg7190]

Omg they do!!! The most work in a diffrent branch them me. Bc I don’t see them and the scranton branch

[@liliorosco1191]

Teddy Golberg what branch do you work out we can pull a dwight and jim to find them

[@faelencrepe]

Every video is so quirky and fun, as well as educational and honest, down to earth with a comfortable atmosphere. Thank you for sharing your experiences so that we too as fellow folks can hope to bring your knowledge and advice and lessons into our own lives. You rock, Ash. I love your content and I love seeing you in my feed ♡ Keep being an awesome possum

[@LindsayC]

Oh my gosh - I'm not trans but I would LOATHE wearing a dress to work. I would feel like a fish out of water, for sure. I'm so glad you are now able to wear the men's uniform!

[@i_love_rescue_animals]

Me too! I'm straight (sort of - I'm asexual technically - but am attracted to men) - but I haven't worn a dress or a skirt since I was 24 (which was a loooong time ago)!

[@resourcedragon]

For i_love_rescue_animals: Snap! I wear dresses or saris for formal evening events but for the rest I prefer unisex.

[@i_love_rescue_animals]

I kind of dress like a lesbian actually - jeans, t-shirts and men's shirts. 😜💓

[@HappyCGM]

I love dresses but I would hate the heels. I cannot walk in them! I live in sandals flats and sneakers 😅😅

[@rowanmiller6035]

I only like wearing dresses when I choose to. I'd hate to be required to wear a dress everyday.

[@BethMaryHal]

I can totally believe about the work suppression quote in the middle. I know personally I've struggled with what to wear (and how to wear my hair) as an educator. I grew my hair out willingly for other reasons, but even when I consider cutting it again, my biggest concern against doing so again is the fact that I'll be dealing with parents in a fairly conservative area. That's awesome that you were able to make the jump and be able to display a more true version of yourself at work.

[@Julianakun]

A job that requires women to wear heels and a dress? No thanks. Super glad they let you switch, tho. The company must not be too bad if you work there. I know I would be super uncomfortable.

[@bubblegummel]

Right!? I'd be super uncomfortable and would probably kick up a fuss about being made to wear heels and a dress, and I'm a straight cis female!

[@resourcedragon]

Heels!? I cannot walk in heels. Doesn't help that I have feet that are in the male size range, not the female, so I didn't learn how to handle heels when I was a teenager.

[@Tazzie1312]

My feet hurt just thinking about it honestly. And like, heels damage your body long-term. Eek. My mom's job has a non-gendered uniform and tbh I think that's the best choice if you're going uniform. Everyone wears the same shirt and pants (and as long as they're black/work appropriate, you can pretty much swap in your own pants) except managers who have a different shirt. Maybe a more fancy environment is different but that heels thing just kills me.

[@DaniParducci]

even as a girl I'd prefer wearing the men's uniform, I can't stand wearing heals, and I hate wearing dresses lol

[@ndaemon1718]

mmmh i love dresses or skirts.. but heels is not a shoe style id choose for a workplace. i mean its doable if youre sitting down alot... but.. if not... your feet will hate you haha.

[@anonimouse5533]

This is the first video of yours I've ever seen and I am HOOKED. Congratulations on the outfit and on booking a top surgery date!!!

[@jennsurfbruja]

I'm curious as to why you didn't go the route of challenging the policy altogether. This kind of policy (not the part about uniforms, but policies that can be viewed as discriminating against sex pertaining to appearance & uniforms) seems illegal (?) but maybe not where you reside (?) ... as I am sure you aren't the only person affected in the company by this very 1950's policy.

[@crowdemortier2532]

How to address HR if you have a direct communication style: Ask if the incoming HR director if they intend to create policies for transgender employees under their leadership. In front of 80 people. In your IT department meeting. Yes, this happened today. He reassured me by saying yes, then offered the opportunity to collaborate on such policies to make sure it meets the needs of the demographic they would need to serve. Be bold. Be you. Be happy. #TransparentTuesday

[@koutashinji]

I think real Ash has had enough days off. Time to finally get to work! Proud of you!

[@stellabrown8228]

I saw a previous comment about how u would be a good therapist. And I agree. Ur very soothing and make ppl feel comfortable and r great at explaining things and r super understanding were u don't feel judged

[@bryntendo]

Whew I am so glad that basically all of my prior jobs have been in hospitality, where the work uniforms (if we had them) were all usually a t-shirt or maybe a polo or button down shirt with the venue's logo/a sponsored drink logo/whatever and were typically unisex because they were made for comfort and functionality in a physically active job, rather than corporate with strict gendered dress codes. I work in trade retail now, and the company has purposefully inclusive policies, including uniforms, so even though I transitioned while working there it was never an issue to management or other team members - The only uniform change I needed was to grab some new shirts in a larger size coz I bulked up so much on T xD Really makes me feel lucky to not have had that whole concern on top of everything else in transitioning. Nice reminder of the small things that are so easily taken for granted :) Also - Congrats on booking your top surgery, Ash! So happy for you, and can't wait to see videos about your experience with it! Getting top surgery was one of the happiest days of my life, certainly one of the best things I've ever done for myself, and I still feel blessed every day when I see/feel my own body. It cost twice as much as my car, lmao, but it was worth every cent and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

[@altknives45]

im genuinely in love with this channel! omg! im so happy for you!

[@Andresfin]

I did the same thing at my job! They let me wear the male uniform! I'm so happy you get to as well.

[@user-tq6xw3su4b]

..... have you thought about asking them to end their sexist policy of male and female specific uniforms?!

[@Courtnessish100]

I totally understand not wanting to out your workplace for so many reasons. But would love it if I could find a video like this from someone else who would out their workplace, so that I can support their place of work 100%

[@faith-by-faith]

I've always loved dolphins...

[@monika4148]

Faith me too

[@lukatv9861]

I'm one of the lucky ones who although go to a Catholic school, can still express themselve through their clothes. Boys can wear pants, shorts, skirts, dresses, etc. Girls can do that too. We have non-binary people, genderqueer people, cis people who dress androgynously etc. I can walk around my school in a skirt, men's button-down and a bowtie and have the nuns compliment me. I'm happy to be in this school. I'm glad to have my classmates.

[@hillyinseattle5630]

I was denied my request to change from the feminine black blazer to the masculine black blazer. The feminine cut blazer is shorter and tapers awkwardly on my long torso and broad shoulders. I eventually was allowed to go up THREE sizes to better fit my comfort. Thus I swam in my uniform for two years.

[@a_weak_ago]

Yay!!!! Top surgery scheduled! Yayyy!!!! Yayyy wearing the clothes you identify and feel most comfortable in! Yayy!!!

[@misty8915]

Bonidee Lee what do you mean?

[@tiko5876]

Bonidee Lee mate you and I are one of very few here. Let the crazies be crazy.

[@TwoInchTerror]

Bonidee Lee if you came to hate why did you click on the video.

[@TwoInchTerror]

Bonidee Lee lmao what.

[@catsinhats3108]

Bonidee Lee guess what!!!

[@kpmallon]

Are you interested in becoming a therapist? I think you would be excellent.

[@cassandrabailey1407]

Ken Mallon yeeees

[@bryntendo]

Ooh yeah actually now that you mention it, Ash *would* make a good therapist! Or maybe a counselor or youth worker at an LGBTQ+ education or youth center!

[@kpmallon]

Well, Ash already is an LGBTQ+ educator. The reason I suggest getting a Masters or PhD in clinical psychology is because of the core attributes I see including natural empathy and great communication skills. Ash is already using psychological terms in their videos in appropriate ways. So, there must be some sort of psych interest deep inside.

[@Hulkmod3]

I agree. I'd love her to be mine :D

[@silverbroom02]

Omg I love my therapist but also I want Ash to be my therapist. 😭💜

[@meredith_8111]

Congrats Ash! Good for you for taking the steps you need to let yourself BE YOURSELF, even at work. I bet being more comfortable in your attire is going to make you even BETTER at serving those customers! YOU SERVE IT!

[@absolutelynotanyone]

Yeah rock the boat...tie!

[@laniedewitte9199]

No Body ba-dum shhhh

[@janetgoode5296]

I admire your courage :) It’s always hard to keep your private life and public life separate but you definitely are doing great!

[@KatrinaEames]

Ooooh - I love this music! I'm definitely going to check out Step Barrak

[@sophk5514]

Do you know the name of the song??

[@markwhitney6448]

Soph K it's called "Oh Lo Lo"!

[@alisonlaett9625]

As always, your editing is beautiful and your maturity is admirable :)

[@Sicsen]

Your videos are always so artsy, I love it

[@catherinerobilliard7662]

So what you did was acknowledge sexism was pro-male and anti-female at work, then join the oppression against women. Gee, aren't you bloody wonderful [sarcasm for non Brits]

[@katpascual9454]

Ah!! So glad it went well Ash! I’m currently in the process of asking my Catholic school if I can wear the “boy’s” uniform, and this gave me so much more hope and confidence. You’re super rad. Love the hair. -K

[@jasperskies1923]

Kat Pascual lemme know how it goes!!

[@kaydonkurr4175]

good luck Kat I really hope they let you!😀

[@TheNinjapancake14]

A week later, I'm wondering how it went! Did accept the request?

[@TheFrogsMadeMeGay]

How did the process of asking them go?

[@ZachChronicles]

How did it go?

[@lparrish89]

This makes me so happy! My work have never once had a problem with me turning up wearing trousers and a shirt every day, thankfully. I think at this point (and after me speaking about it passionately for years with no prompting) they just accept that I get on and do my job; the fabric that covers my fleshy parts doesn’t really affect that!

[@joycelinlgbtq]

A few questions i have: 1. Do you think the work place would have been as accepting for a MTF clothing switcheroo? 2. Do you think you might go genderfluid with the clothing expression? i.e. sometimes go with the dress, sometimes go with the suit, sometimes mix&match (dress+tie+blazer could look so good if they are the right cut/colours). 3. Can we see the uniforms pls (as long as that won't impede your work life/reveal the company)? PS congrats on the upcoming surgery!

[@Radien]

This is the first of your videos that I have watched, but in case you read the comments... :) I don't know precisely what variety of trans person you are (bigender, genderfluid, non-binary, trans dude, etc.), but I wanted to say that I think you're really cool. You speak with a feminine-range voice, but you kinda talk like a guy; you have a nice androgynous boyish look; you're funny and display a vibrant personality. People like you are a demonstration of why diversity rocks, and why the world is so much cooler with visible LGBTQA+ people. I'll watch some of your other stuff. Thanks!

[@Octobris]

Even though you said you're pronoun indifferent (is that claim still valid?), it kind of made me feel weird when you used "she" to talk about "work Ash". But it was "good weird" because it was a cool, subtle way of emphasizing the fact "work Ash" was not who you are ;)

[@HeyThere005]

YEA YEA YEA. "Work Ash" is probably binary, so while I am pronoun indifferent, "Work Ash" would probs only go by she/her. I FELT WEIRD doing it too. B/c when I use she/her for myself, it's in a fluid non binary context, but this she/her was super binary...and not-right-feeling. Glad I wasn't the only one who felt that!

[@kylelaws1580]

I haven’t seen your channel in almost three years and I saw a old collab you did back in 2015. Clicked to see where you are now and DAMN I’m I proud to see the person you are now. Just putting that out there.

[@Howdy_Its_Ash]

Ash is best ghost

[@HeyThere005]

*ghost hug!*

[@LemonSyrrup]

I agree 100% Ash is top tier ghosty

[@bowtiesandtophats2357]

hi :)

[@BrokenDarkFire]

I’m so excited for you, Ash! That’s a big step toward feeling more comfortable at work, and I’m glad so many people have been supportive, especially at the management level. I love that your manager personally reached out to say they’re proud of you.

[@VictoriaJ93]

"BOO! Did I scare ya? Cuz if I did then I'm a good ghost" ❤❤

[@yamyaminjapan]

This is really similar to a research project I did for my MA regarding same-sex attracted teachers where I found higher levels of avoidance of giving anecdotes related to their partners and higher levels of worry about job security and rapport with classes if their sexuality came out compared to that of their straight colleagues. It's about sticking to the status quo and not wanting to rock the boat. I found similar things in the literature to what you've said, people will not come out because they don't want to be seen as gay or associated with anything like that as it could affect career prospects. And about the last thing you said about 'facing all the questions' this was something else i discovered in the literature as to why people don't come out. They feel as though they suddenly become a cultural representative usually forced by others. So if i come out to a class who has never met a gay person before, suddenly they have all these questions and I suddenly become a representative for a whole community which is obviously not the case. Yea, lots of parallels. Glad it went okay for you, and people make mistakes and faux pars but it usually doesn't come from a malicious place i'd like to think anyway.

[@Livmylifelivi]

Also, I identify as female all the way, but I would ask to wear the men’s uniform right off the bat. Men’s style wear is so much more comfortable. I’m glad you’re beginning to rock the boat fella.

[@beckystarrski]

Same with me. I wear woman's clothing, but I often shop via men's section. I love boxers,/boxer briefs to bed all the time. js Take care.

[@justicethedoggo3648]

@@beckystarrski u gay af bro

[@franknfurterismyspiritanim5148]

Ash, you inspire me. You're funny and quirky and you make me laugh all the time, I've been afraid if telling my parents that I'm lesbian for a long time because they're homophobic but now I think I'll tell them. Thanks 😊

[@haileyvick9436]

I’m cis female but I love guys clothes, they’re so comfy and look really nice on girls too! Also glad it went well, I support u 100%

[@justicethedoggo3648]

Nah it doesn't look good tho lmao

[@meekmoop]

Right now I'm in the process of trying to prepare myself for coming out as trans at work, this video is really cool, and reassuring! Keep up the good work!

[@sandrar.2662]

Dolphin Montana, the underground name :')

[@HeyThere005]

LOL

[@Efflorescentey]

OMG NOW I KNOW YOUR JOB TITLE THIS VIDEO REALLY HITS HOME. WE HAVE THE SAME JOB!!!! I’m thrilled your work was so good about it - I cannot imagine my work treating you as well. They get furious when I, a cis straight woman, do not appear “womanly” enough. I’m in a DRESS WITH HEELS, how many more stereotypical attributes do you people want?! I keep fighting the man though, one tube of lipstick at a time. Side note - I live in a different smaller country

[@laniedewitte9199]

Omg Ash that shirt is PERFECT! It looks so good on you and it matches the background so well! Aghhh sorry I’ll shut up now 😂 oh and yes your a GREAT ghost...

[@alexmcp5153]

I've been watching Ash's vids since I was ~15 (I'm now 19) and they've always made me feel really normal amidst anxiety and uncertainty. Thanks Ash!

[@donnie9886]

Just have to say, I adore your bubbly personality - it has really brightened up my day!

[@Eraethil]

It makes me very happy to hear people sharing such positive stories. I'd hoped that attitudes would change in my lifetime. Maybe we are rounding the final turn and moving into the home stretch? Thank you for sharing your experiences and my best wishes with your experiences to come!

[@ARobinGaming]

customer service while being trans is so fun.. I love being called my birth name, man and a sir lol thank you for making this I've been struggling with this a bit recently and it makes me feel less alone

[@HeyThere005]

yeaaaaaaaaaaa I feel all this ...

[@mchobbit2951]

They require HEELS? Like hell, I'm 100% female and love dresses but I couldn't work with my feet in torture devices all day. I'd tell them that I have a foot condition that doesn't allow me to wear heels if I had to. Honestly, requiring heels in 2018? What is this, 1950???

[@barnabop4982]

I think we all have a "work self" to a degree, it's necessary in most jobs to remain professional while on the clock. For example, I wait until my boss walks *out* of the room to scream "THIS IS MY HELL"

[@jenniferwells343]

I'm not getting notifications for when you upload. I'm so upset because I am so proud of you and the conversation it started with my mom. I ordered your book and I gave my mom her own device that was connected to mine. I let her know that I downloaded the book and why. I'm glad to say that it was 100% positive for us. Thank you!!

[@celery4096]

I identify so hard with not wanting to look too gay at work. Legit HATE business casual/cocktail attire things because most of those clothes that I own are v feminine and that ain’t me (sometimes it is, sometimes I’m feelin it, but I can’t bank on feelin it all the time. Ya know?)

[@_Simplyjayden]

I love how you make videos about your experiences being trans and I think you are an amazing person and ily ❤😁

[@themaretsky]

Coming back to this video today and putting pieces together. So much love for you Ash. ❤️

[@fallingjupiter]

This was a really well edited video and that took some serious guts to do!! Congrats!

[@itsemmargyrhjyrfmqjfrtqetdfetf]

im not trans but i support LGBT

[@mashiroikaze]

I said this on your coming out video, but it applies here, too - it's refreshing to see similar experiences. We're all unique, but many of us go through the same channels or trials or paths along the way. I -HATE- having to put on my mask for work (my uniform, my cismale persona, et cet), and your experiences reinforce that what I'm feeling isn't an isolated occurrence.

[@QueerlyDeparted]

Hey Ash! I just wanted to say that i've been a watcher for a loooooong time and thank you so much for the /trans/parency (ba dum tch) and openness you've always had in your videos. You're such an inspiration, as well as one of the main reasons i picked up vlogging again. Sending well wishes for the future, and keep on keepin on. Much thanks, Nico

[@TrendyyWendyy]

I've only seen a couple of your videos so far and I like them! I'm glad this went well for you. As for "blending in", I can empathise with that. I'm disabled and I can't hide it really. I can still walk a little, but it's very painful and makes my muscle spasticity worse. But, that hasn't stopped me from trying to hide it despite the horrendous pain it causes, in the hopes it would help me to get a job and appear "normal". I wish I'd had your attitude of just being me and showing employers who I am. I have been to interviews in my wheelchair and only got one job with it, disappointingly. But, discrimination against us disabled folk is still TERRIBLE! All the best! :)

[@justamuffin6688]

I’m non binary. Thank you for helping me realize who I am.

[@minnesotamomma22]

Ash is soooo flipping cute! I LOVE how subtly (and adorably) Minnesotan her demeanor!

[@oceanemarthe9619]

I remember when I met you 4 years ago, I remember i was surprise to saw you in a dress, wearing high heels, it was so different of the ash we can see on KZbin, but once you dressed up as usual, you were right back in the "real"Ash. We had a fun day, great memories ;)

[@jesselejarzar5114]

I'm so glad you had no push back. I hope that one day the fanatics who hate because of fear will one day realize how stupid they were. You guys are the best and I wish you both happiness.

[@wyntrr_end]

can i just say that your hair is the coolest! i would love to be able to rock a 'do like that! also separate note, sometimes i really wish there was a non-gender-specific word like "they" that is definitively singular, because sometimes the use of "they" makes me think we're talking about multiple people or the arbitrary "They" people often use

[@HamazingKayliee]

Wyntrr_End there are other neutral pronouns besides they like ze

[@thatjillgirl]

I have sort of the same issue. First there's the plural/singular thing, but then on top of that it feels like I'm saying that someone's gender is unknown, not that they are gender nonspecific. Like I know that I have used the singular they lots of times in my life, but it's always been in a context of not knowing who the person was and by extension not knowing their gender, or like a hypothetical person or something. So when I use it for a nonbinary person, I feel like I'm saying that I don't know their gender, and that feels off when I do know how someone identifies. Now obviously, that is my own problem, not someone else's, and if somebody wants to be identified with they/them pronouns, then that's what I'll do. But yeah, I wish that singular gender neutral pronouns like ze had caught on a little better, or that we could do what Sweden did and officially adopt a singular gender neutral pronoun into the English language. Oh well. I work with the language available to me, and if they is gonna be the gender neutral pronoun of choice, then that's the one I'll use.

[@kaydonkurr4175]

agreeded! I feel ya there!!

[@silverbroom02]

I don’t find this about they/them pronouns but I do find they feel kind of... distancing? I guess maybe because normally you would use they in the singular when referring to someone not well known or not in the vicinity? Then again, I haven’t really experienced needing to use they/them pronouns in the trans*/nb/genderqueer sense with someone in the room so maybe it wouldn’t feel like that after putting it to use irl a few times.

[@trashchicken4882]

Amy McRae once you use it a lot it really doesn't feel that weird. you just use they and it means a singular person when you say it. never had a problem saying it resulting in confusion on anyone's behalf really and it comes out naturally now when referring to someone who's gender I am unsure of or i know is non specific. Such as "they said such and such" or "oh yah they are coming to the party too." the people im talking to know I'm referring to a singular person and it flows smoothly. it does help if someone you know uses non specific pronouns i guess but honestly no mix up happening in mine or my friends heads whatsoever when we use the pronouns.

[@olil5477]

The same day I came out to my husband as gender fluid I came out to my supervisor in tears. I asked her what I could do to get the me s uniform and she said she would take care of everything. She hugged me and told me she was so proud of me. I’ve been out for about a year and even though not everyone is accepting or understanding I’m still just happy to be me. Watching your videos has definitely helped me with coming out and keeping my confidence up. Thank you for being you and pushing all of us to keep being us. ❤️❤️❤️

[@darththespian4856]

Watching this video now (after your recent uploads) is so eye opening like I was confused as to what your job was (but privacy is important so I was respecting and not thinking too hard lol) but yeah tldr: Im proud of you

[@kaylagoodwin2966]

This might be random, but you put off such a good vibe, I really want a friend like you. you seem really cool, and goofy, great personality. I myself have not came out to my family, and to see how you are out and proud, gives me hope that it wont all be bad if i do.

[@TheMelbox68]

Glad your able to wear what makes you the most comfortable at work. I enjoy your videos a great deal. I like learning about different types of people and am a proud Ally of the LGBT community!

[@susannaevanspfw834]

This is really cool, Ash. I'm very happy for you!