I Caught My Husband CHEATING With My HIGHSCHOOL BULLY I Don't Want To Let Him Know r/Relationships

[@Pippa87]

“Why would you confess to something so pathetic?” Is chefs kiss

[@DrownedInExile]

"Into the fridge you go, join the rest of my leftovers!"

[@SAJK0KAT]

You do you, take my leftovers/trash like you always do! ~ Trash deserve trash ~

[@harishnair77]

​@@DrownedInExile

[@ukchanak]

First OP really doesn't understand the law. She needs a lawyer even if she keeps the baby. I can't believe that she's ignoring people's good advice

[@BruinPhD2009]

Thankfully, she did finally get a lawyer; mom is paying for it.

[@codyjones793]

Yea... husband has rights to the child. Wait until her ex and bully hook up, and she ends up being the step mom to her child lmao.

[@neila128]

yeah, when OP says her ex has no right to her daughter since it's her body, I facepalmed so hard; that's not how custody works - and he's still the child's father! Thank goodness her mom has the good sense to provide a lawyer for her very naive daughter. The satisfaction of how her husband and bully get their just desserts isn't worth the risk to the child!

[@lilfairykiki122]

@@neila128 op was super frustrating in this, i feel for her but she’s basically doing exactly the opposite of what she should have at every turn besides leaving him.

[@tifadreamers]

@@lilfairykiki122 I got super frustrated when I first heard this story before cause she was thinking more about herself and how to leave the marriage without thinking about custody and setting things up for her kid's future

[@stewartann816]

The only thing worse than a bully is an obsessed bully. But this woman is worse than that. She's an obsessed abuser. It'll only get worse if OP doesn't get some kind of court ordered protection

[@kaykay8855]

That’s the scariest kind of abuser. It’s like they have nothing in their lives and hurting people is the only thing that makes them happy.

[@galacticalove]

The courts don't care about protecting adults until its too late. And saying they make heavy exceptions for kids would be a half lie.

[@lynnw7155]

I think being an obsessed victim like OP is worse. OP has done nothing wrong; she needs to expose her cheater husband for the scum he is. Even her mother and friends were afraid she was going crazy...better they should know she's being strong and standing up for herself.

[@silverstarmoon5802]

That will get harder to get restraining order and with little op have, she didn't have enough to get restraining order against that woman. Unless op have evidences from the past, may she could proof . And also, depending op lives, restraining order can be more easier or not.

[@emilybarclay8831]

I’m not one to advocate for violence, but I do understand why people used to resolve these things with murder. I ain’t saying it’s right, but I’m saying if OP’s bully went mysteriously missing it wouldn’t be any loss to the world

[@robertx8020]

1st or 2nd bully? ;)

[@maxsupernova]

@@robertx8020 Yes. 😁

[@idkhithere6860]

@@maxsupernova LMAO

[@lunaacevedo6156]

And the husband too of course

[@emilybarclay8831]

@@lunaacevedo6156 the husband definitely. But she seems to have gone out of her way to sleep with OP’s husband and then rub it in her face. At least the husband had the decency to pretend to be remorseful

[@KarenLopez-zj9cw]

Lmaooo I cannot stop laughing OP's husband thought he was such a Stud getting chicks but the bully was never with him for him lmaoo Miserable Sad Man he deserves it

[@BruinPhD2009]

Miserable, sad, and weak. Couldn’t even own up to his affair (bully or not) and tries to pretend he has no idea why his wife would divorce him “out of the blue.” Let’s add pathetic to the list, as well.

[@SAJK0KAT]

I’m so mean. I can’t stop smiling at this 😂😂😂

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I hope OP allows her new man into the delivery room just to spite her ex. He deserves every bit of karma he is reeping.

[@shells500tutubo]

@@MaryTheresa1986 No, being spiteful takes too much energy and keeps her connected to his feelings. A friend or her mother will be fine in the delivery room.

[@jjgandthatsenough]

@@BruinPhD2009 it’s the shame. An affair is one thing. An affair with somebody who made your life hell…. It’s a totally different thing. He’s still a lil female dog tho

[@speakevermore]

"I'm curious why you would admit to doing something so pathetic now" is a masterpiece of a line to deliver to a bully-turned mistress. Love it. I still think she should have told everyone that her husband is a cheating POS, but it sounds like she got satisfaction from the resolution so I'm happy for her

[@fcold9402]

If you chose the baby then you NEED a lawyer. The child is the "asset" that he will try to get control of.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 the bully is obsessed with op. She probably will continue to stalk her. I say get a restraining order.

[@fytrndm]

She would probably pop up again the next time OP is in a relationship. I swear, it's giving me bad vibes. I don't think the psychotic thing is going away anytime soon.

[@dianasmith8248]

@@fytrndm I think that’s why OP said she would always tell any others partners the situation.

[@fytrndm]

@@dianasmith8248 I'm a tad concerned if the bully decided to start causing problems with OP before OP have the chance to have that talk with a new partner.

[@dianasmith8248]

@@fytrndm Well OP is going to have to make sure that her social media is completely locked down. So hopefully she can prevent this woman from finding out who she is with before she gets with that person.

[@mindyschocolate]

@@dianasmith8248 i would never have my profiles public, even if I have no problems.

[@emilybarclay8831]

Honestly OP’s handling of the divorce was AMAZING. He will FOREVER be paranoid and constantly worrying about why OP left and if she knows. She’s mentally torturing him and he 10000% deserves it. I hope he rots in shame and guilt forever

[@paulineisme]

He knows she knows about the affair but will always think that she was deeply miserable with him and just saw this as an opt out.

[@pippo17173]

He is also gonna earn his potentionl life in hell when the bully goes full on manipultive/Abusive towards him. Husband getting that one info of op's bully is gonna make him regret he did that.

[@nitareed4088]

LOL...no. That's not how it works. In reality, he will only have to deal with his inner feelings NOT anything from family/friends/etc. Her bully went unscathed, as well. She made crap choices. Sad.

[@ericaallisonc]

@@pippo17173 Have you ever been in a situation like this? The guy's probably not going to spare his ex much of a second thought after this is all over. If anything OP has made it 10 times easier on her cheater husband.

[@SmileyFace123Lolz]

Ikrrrr, I wasn't convinced until Is aw the results, I'm glad she trusted her gut, sometimes we gotta trust the ops to know how it's gonna hurt best 😊

[@Vallyrah]

Story 1: GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST THE BULLY!!! Have a lawyer help you. This way she can go to jail if she keeps this sh!t up

[@LB-gz3ke]

Agreed! This woman moved to a new town and sought her out. She needs to tell her story to EVERYONE she knows, including the bully's family. She probably can't get a restraining order, but she needs to to out this crazy woman and find out what she can do legally to keep her away.

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

Story 2: Ugh! I hate when bullies aren’t held accountable. OP needs some self-respect and he needs to use his brain, not his pp when making decisions. Lust fades and he will be miserable. I don’t care if my bully is the hottest man alive. I’d still tell him “Glad you are trying to be a better person, but you ain’t getting me. Bye!” Then close the door.

[@Maieveryday2]

I know right, later down the line she most likely pick up her same attitudes and he will be miserable once again.

[@madarawijerathne276]

Totally sis. Even if he's hottest man on the earth. Op is naive

[@Mephistofeles]

its funny how yall are seemingly forgetting everyone around op, bot on reddit and outside it, are putting in his head he is an idiot and imature and he should just forget the past... why am i not surprised that a dude is having to deal with emotional abuse and gaslighting of this level and still have people call him names for not being able to see what is happening to him...

[@dianeghazaryan4773]

but she did pay. she got her a handed to her. and you'd be surprised how effective a good kick is in terms of fixing ppl - there aren't nearly as many narcissists and cheaters and bullies were im from cuz you get hit for this

[@PowerStruggle555]

1st story: OP needs to tell everyone he cheated. Usually lying, cheating jerks will try and say she cheated on him. seeing how op's mom was quick to assume that...(heck she probably thinks the baby is not even husband's)...imagine if he told her a lie he will either say she was sleeping with several men and/or started seeing bully after the divorce (or when they seperated) we have seen stories where the cheating ex told their lie to everyone because op didnt want to "hurt their cheating ex's life". one story op told ex's mom who was a good woman. they split because they fell out of love knwing she hated cheaters and if she caught wind of her son cheating...would dis-own him. when he found out they spoke, he told his mom...op cheated by sleeping with several men. mom took it as expected. calling op a whore, etc till op provided proof. then mom apoligized and disowned son (and entire family went nc for being a cheater and trying to destroy op's reputation)

[@mindyschocolate]

Yeah, not sure why she’s protecting him.

[@lilfairykiki122]

It’ll blow up in her face, she’s not actually hurting him or her bully, her bully already feels like she won and now hubby gets a new sob story to be a perfect little victim while she looks like a monster. I can not wrap my head around blowing up your whole life because you don’t want one person to have “satisfaction”

[@sfsin3380]

@@mindyschocolate My guess OP's internalized the horrible bulling "advice" that tells the victim that it's their fault for reacting to the bully i.e "they would leave you alone if you didn't cry every-time, Your just giving them what they want". This never actually works because if you don't react the bully just escalates and is really gas-lighting the victim but it's an incredibly common piece of "advice".

[@Iflie]

Story 2 bully is still red flag creepy. She bullied him, then was scared of him and now she's fallen on hard times she latched onto him like a barnacle being SO nice and feels so close to him. This is not going to end well.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I agree. OP should've just ignored her.

[@Iflie]

@@MaryTheresa1986 The only reason he didn't was that she's pretty, quite sick that his friends and family just negated his feelings as long as he could get with someone that objectively goodlooking and ignore all the red flags.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

I was thinking the same, bullies, same as stalkers and abusers are obsess with victims. I would avoid possible problems, just ignore. No one gets this much attraction at once, after all she had done, and she was very much aware of it. She did admit it, she is just a great manipulator in my opinion, but I do wish luck to poor OP tho....he is going to need it.

[@Iflie]

@@HodajuciParadoks Yeah her behaviour makes me think she may have some disorder. maybe that's why her life turned out worse, being so erratic and strange. Instalove and ignoring what they did before can be part of that. The way she feels about him is not how a healthy person would react.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

@@Iflie Love bombing is a thing with narcissists too.. and other abusers, it does not have to a narcissist. And this Instalove what you call it is the right word for it too. She acts like someone who is not mentally stable at all and will flip on the dark side sooner or later.

[@RokoFireFox]

The bully bringing up op should have been a sign for the husband something was up.

[@tifadreamers]

exactly. it was obvious that the bully was so obsessed with his wife. he was just too dumb to see it

[@franl155]

the bully's last desperate throw of the dice: "By the way, I've been having an affair with your husband". And her further insistence that this had been going on even before OP knew about it was absolutely scraping the bottom of the barrel - say anything to hurt OP, no matter how stupid and self-incriminating.. OP's indifference and outright pity for the pathetic attempt that it was has disarmed the bully forever. Still wonder, thought, why she was so obsessed with OP for all those years to the extent of targeting her ex-husband

[@vanzy01]

Crazy be crazy.

[@sidhedanu]

Crazy? Probably. She might also be bored and sees it as entertainment.

[@SAJK0KAT]

@@sidhedanu in that case, she could easily find a new one to bully. This bully sounds seriously crazy and wanted to harm Op.

[@sidhedanu]

Right, but she was in a new town and didn't really know a lot of people yet. She ran into OP at a party and was just like "oooh, here's a chance to have fun with the loser again".

[@sgm8265]

She probably didn't take OP's dismissal of her, when she first got to town, too well. "How dare she, I'll mess with her some more." OP's last words were gold. Bravo.

[@deannaworley9849]

Cheating is awful, cheating with someone you know worse, cheating with someone who traumatized you is devastating

[@deebee4930]

I love that she let the bully know she was pathetic and childish. Bully reminds me of someone that still lives her life like she's in high school.

[@Bleg94]

2. Story: "Why did you never ask me out?": at the latest that would've been the point when I would've lost my cool and asked her who she believes she was in highschool other than a pathetic, disgusting pos if she changed AT ALL then it was probably because she got beaten the shit out of her, which would be something she deserves for tormenting people, at some point someone will snap and take revenge into their own hands the people around OP only see her body and say "hot", but no one sees / knows how she is from the inside, but OP does know imo it is also possible that she has become a single mom with financial problems and sees OP as an easy target because she knows about the buttons to push, to feed her and her child (thats what happened with a female bully of mine, randomly messaged me on fb many years after highschool) Update: as I said before, she got what was coming for her, she invited the rage of people onto her and someone not popular will inevitable take the "beat up"-route, which is exactly what happened, atleast that served as a wakeup call for her and it seems like she became a (more or less) decent human being

[@josepherhardt164]

"it is also possible that she has become a single mom with financial problems and sees OP as an easy target" Call us cynical but this is a good possibility.

[@ggamer1417]

I personally just still don't trust her. I don't believe she actually changed, just tonned down the torment after she got some back. If she actually had regret she would've apologized, not acted as if they had good times and only suddenly regreted it when confronted. I think she just realised op turned hot, and obviously she "changed her ways" since she wants him. She's probably still a POS to people she doesn't like tho.

[@Ando1428]

@@ggamer1417 nah after an ass whopping that severe she definitely changed. Notice she didn't say she sued that other kid. He simply got to leave. That's means her parents know what happened why it happened and didn't sue the other family. Her parents weren't on her side and let her catching those hands to be her mark to change.

[@dianeghazaryan4773]

or maybe she was just doing the female version of pulling your crushes hair

[@Only1199]

You have to lay it into him, that is the biggest betrayal, not only is he cheating but he did it with a person who harmed you, don't let it slide.

[@Sammvoy]

I kinda feel the same as you but with the outcome, op did it right. Her ex will be mind fucked forever. Why did she end it? Did she know? Will any women be genuinely interested in him? I think she knew him well enough to play this right

[@MaryTheresa1986]

@@Sammvoy Same here. OP handled the situation beautifully. 🤌🤌

[@bailey7792]

@@Sammvoy Yeah probably not lol. Maybe in the very beginning he'll wonder.. but he will eventually be fine and go back to being a terrible person without a care in the world.

[@Sammvoy]

@@bailey7792 sure, but if he’s that terrible putting him on blast wouldn’t help and def doesn’t help when you have a stalker. All they want is attention

[@hyperplaguerat]

OP didn't let it slide. She broke his heart and didn't give him any closure.

[@LucaZhang]

I like this kind of revenge, it's not loud, not hard, so classy, but the damage is unfixable. The ex feel miserable and the bully doesn't get the reaction she want.

[@DrownedInExile]

Story1: I approve of OP's psyop against her wretched husband! I hope all that squirming hurt him, a lot. The only thing OP could have done better was tell the bully after she admitted the affair, "Into the fridge, with the rest of my leftovers!" That said, OP doesn't seem to be taking the threat of the stalker-bully seriously. I hope she's prepared to take steps in case the bully escalates.

[@KE-hr4sb]

I love it when things are timed so perfectly that you couldn't have planned it better; him getting the message from her bully/his side piece while he was begging her to tell him what was wrong was pretty epic (the audacity of him though, cheating and begging her to tell him what's so wrong they can't fix it...)

[@jaybay272]

In 1st story, I think OP shot herself in the leg by being so private about her past with the bully. I mean in the end it doesn't matter because a cheater is a cheater, but I think one needs to be open about these things.

[@ScandalizeMyName]

💯 I have no idea how you can get married to someone, start a family and not tell them such a HUGE part of your life. That woman has been harassing her almost her entire life and was even in the same friends circle and STILL didn’t tell her husband. Safe to say she has shit communication skills. While this wouldn’t have changed that her husband is a disgusting pig and would have just cheated with someone else, this is definitely something you discuss with a lifelong partner. I’m glad OP is learning from her mistakes, and I honestly agree with her not telling him that she knew.

[@mottorcyle5052]

Yeah, 4 weeks pregnant but never mentioned it to him ? Odd

[@lilywong9672]

@@mottorcyle5052 4 weeks is literally so early in the pregnancy.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

@@mottorcyle5052 4 weeks is literally when you find out you are pregnant if you're actively trying to conceive. Maybe slightly earlier is possible, but the zygote has to implant for the body to produce hormones to pop a positive test. That's the day you were supposed to get your period if you're super regular. There's a significant chance the implanted zygote will fail. In a healthy marriage you could share the news with your spouse, but finding out your husband is cheating might screw that plan right up. She probably waited to get a confirmation from an OB and found out he cheated at basically the same time. People often do that if they have a history of miscarriages because telling anyone can feel like it's bringing too much hope.

[@videofan1010]

@@mottorcyle5052 You don't know very much about pregnancy do you? Most women don't even fully realize they're pregnant at that stage. Remember, periods typically run monthly cycles...

[@TheNormExperience]

The bully constantly seeking validation messaging the husband asking if he liked being with her better than OP creeps me out! It makes it seem like the bully is unnaturally fixated on OP, and sought out the husband just because they were with OP...this sounds like...Lifetime movie level crazy.

[@DzznuttsEniomouf]

30:05 - _THIS_ right here! Pain is the mother of change. No one, and I mean _no one,_ changes at the core without some sort of event that forces them to reconsider their path. And there is no greater invocation of reflection than pain.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

That's basically how I feel about life. No idea where the f×ck I'm going, what the f×ck I'm doing and it's either trials of fire in the mental sense and random experiences that help me over time to put pieces of the puzzle together.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Story 1: wow the bully is full stalker psycho. Story 2: sad that it took getting attacked by one of her victims to make the bully a better person

[@platinum_noelle]

I saw the title and knew what frustrating story it was. Glad things kinda worked out, though. Story 2, that's the first time I've seen a bully on Reddit actually show real remorse and apologize for their past actions

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

And all it took was a severe beating.

[@platinum_noelle]

@@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64 unfortunately, that's what it takes for some people to realize how much they've hurt someone else. No one should resort to violence, but it definitely is an eye opening experience sometimes.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

She didn’t even say sorry to him or admit her actions until he confronted her about it. Instead she blithely acted like she had never done anything wrong and that they were on good enough terms in the past that he should have asked her out. She is delusional.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

@@Rose-yt5hi I thought the same thing. First time running into OP in years and she immediately goes on to rewrite history and gaslight him into thinking like she didn’t treat him like dog shit. But apparently people “change” and OP is an idiot for not immediately getting down on his knees to beg for her attention, or at least that’s what OP’s entire inner circle of friends and family told OP, which is a big yikes.

[@platinum_noelle]

@@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64 I 100% agree that she shouldn't have acted like that after spending hs avoiding him and years not seeing him, and his friends and family were awful for basically telling him to get over it like she just yelled something at him from across a hallway once. Honestly, she didn't deserve to have a chance given to her to talk about it if she wasn't the one forthcoming about the entire thing. But OP, kindly enough, did decide to sit down and talk to her about it and brought up the topic, and it sounded from his recap that she immediately did own up to what she did and how wrong what she did was, and apologized. It was good enough for OP to understand that she did, in a way, pay for some of what she'd done and made sure to avoid him afterwards (however cowardly that path was). OP got the closure he needed, and that's a rare thing to find. Bullies usually deny that they did literally anything to their victims, and keep up their negative behaviors towards the victims while claiming it's because the victim won't "let it go".

[@LunaP1]

Yikes with these past bullies. The first one is a straight up psycho and the second one is shameless. They never changed and still hurt their targeted victims like nothing happened.

[@robertx8020]

Story 2 : I don't know if I could have done what OP did Sure she might be hot ...but if someone who bullied me that bad, I rather go single the rest of my LIFE .,.than take the risk! Sure it ended up great but hindsight is always 20/20

[@kylaluv8453]

Yep, the only reason she win was because she is hot. If she was average or below average he wouldn't give her the time of day.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

What bothered me is that she tried to pretend nothing happened until he brought it up to her later. She knew exactly what she did, she knew exactly how bad it hurt him, but she acted like nothing happened. Even asking why he didn't date her before. That's just so disrespectful to me for her to just expect him to play along with it or just forget about it because she's interested in him.

[@joekerr971]

I laughed when I heard the part were she got fucked up, well deserved imo, and I'm disappointed that OP gave her a chance instead of telling her to fuck off. But idk that's just me

[@Kris-wo4pj]

@@untitled-gv3qp it's cuz she didn't change she was just hoping he'd forget how bad it really was or probably just thinking hes overreacting cuz it wasnt that bad but wants to fuck him now so shes pretending to change. Her and his sister are just terrible people it seems.

[@SAJK0KAT]

I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who saw that “oh.. why didn’t you ask me out before?? 😇”

[@Bekzee]

In story 1, I actually really like the approach the betrayed spouse took. If she hasn't brought it up yet, her ex husband has got to be absolutely sweating bullets worrying that one day his secrets will be exposed. She has well and truly taken control of the situation.

[@fytrndm]

And the fact she never said anything is golden. Even if the husband found out the side chick finally told her, he can't prove that OP knew before she started the divorce proceedings. He can't say anything about it either because then, if their mutual friends who didn't know but have morals, would shun him out. The friends who already knew from OP would probably just phase out of his life, at least I hope that's what they'd do just to mess with him further. He will also always be wondering if any new woman that's interested in him has a hidden agenda. I can't say I feel sorry for him at all.

[@shells500tutubo]

Other than being a little naive about not thinking she needs a lawyer she has handled this great. But she thinks that finances are the only thing she has to deal with when it is really custody.

[@rinpaisys]

I never felt it was particularly fortunate that most of my HS bullies are dead as a result of their own poor choices, but the level of obsession on Story 1 OP’s HS bully makes me feel lucky none of mine are alive enough for me to find out if they are the same breed. As much as I can never forgive my abusers even in death, I do still find it a tragedy. There are blameless people who are left with the hurt of the loss, and I can empathize with that. Most of them died for drug, DUI and violent crime/gang related reasons. A few were in accidents that weren’t their fault. I do feel sad for those who loved them, but I don’t particularly pity the dead tormenters from my past.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story 1 I really do hope Opie just a restraining order against the bully too protect her and her baby.

[@hellkitelord8319]

First story shows how some bullies don't change. The Second shows how some do. Though TBH I wouldn't date but, that's me.

[@bricksloth6920]

Title story: well that sucks. Time to move on. Feel free to be irrational and vindictive. But you need a lawyer asap

[@SailorMya]

Story 1 She trapped him in his own guilt and gave him no way out. If she let him know what she knows he could beg for forgiveness, but he wont admit it to her and ask for forgiveness himself. I'm sure that after she told him of everything her bully did to her, months of his mistress shit talking his wife came back to him, and he realized that he was a pawn in her game. He will always feel it is his fault even if she never confirms it. Love how she responded to her bully! If I knew they weren't together I would have told her "oh, you weren't the only one he had you should get yourself checked!"! Just a little stab to make her feel not as "special" as she thinks she is!

[@shells500tutubo]

Or she could have said, "you too! Wow, my ex really likes to spread the love. Just to be careful, get yourself checked."

[@ajarfullofjoy]

I remember that story where the BF was cheating with his ex. When op left she left vanilla ice cream since they called her vanilla. Op should def do that

[@sapphicgeek24]

Dude messed around and lost everything. Now he has to live with the fact that it wasn't worth it.

[@AM-ko4pi]

The dude is moving way too fast with someone who he shouldn’t be trusting.

[@Chechi-yf9lz]

Love bombing at it's finest

[@PowerStruggle555]

OP needs to be careful. if op works somewhere that there is costumers involved....the bully could call and give a very very bad (false) complaint. to get op fired.

[@tifadreamers]

Story 1. I heard this one before and it's been stuck with me since that I've been thinking about OP and her story for a long time so I'm happy to find out that there's another update. I think the one thing that got me thinking about it a lot is how clever she was to decide to take power away from the bully by not showing both the ex and the bully that she had managed to hurt OP or show her that she "won". but it bugged me a hell lot that OP chose to completely keep the secret and let people think she was the bad guy in this. So glad that she changed her mind and told her mom and close friends and lawyered up. Sure, she didn't go about it the hard way to say "enough is enough" to the vile person who seems to be so obsessed with hurting OP, but her final comment about how pathetic the bully was and getting a lawyer and people backing her up for protection was good enough. And it's a good call to tell her future partner about her past cause there's no way the bully would just stop bugging her life when she's done so much so far I think the ex figured it out but he's still pathetic and weak for choosing to not admit the affair or ask forgiveness. if he truly has a conscience (just like OP said), he should be grovelling on the ground she walks on and admitting the cheating and for giving aid to a woman who is obsessed with OP Still think she needs to collect all the evidence for a possible restraining order tho

[@tamsel814]

I was so frustrated with op throughout most of her story. Hiding the cheating and not wanting a divorce lawyer is just a bad idea.

[@shells500tutubo]

@@tamsel814 I think her mother set her straight with the lawyer thing. She is straight up naive about custody battles and thinking her ex is going to be cooperative. As far as he is concerned, HE is the victim in all this because she left him for no reason according to her. Add that to him not being able to be in the delivery room and he is going to try to give her hell. I do think he realizes how the bully played him, though, and I'm sure he has gone through their old messages and now sees clearly what she was doing. Sucks to be him.

[@yque4733]

Story #2: OP is SIMPly fantastic.

[@Uneclipsed]

Oof. That second story is a recipe for a toxic af relationship. Even if both of them are better people than they were in high-school doesn’t mean they’ll be good together. Bully-to-lovers is entertaining to read as a novel, but life ruining in real life. Run, my guy. You’re going to find your trauma is unresolved at the first argument and those old wounds are going to open right back up.

[@kylaluv8453]

Exactly, plus she knows she is hot and just expected him to I Stanly forget his past and drool over him. Cause no one who bullies someone get their ass beat for the bulling just walks up to them decade later and flirts, not just flirts but asks why they didn't ask them out? And she won. Cause if she was just average looking he wouldn't have been so nice during their interactions. Which shows if your hot you can get away with anything.

[@Uneclipsed]

@@kylaluv8453 I agree he forgave her too quickly because she’s hot. There are two reasons she’s attracted to him. She wants to continue holding power over him-especially since he’s now in a powerful job-or she’s genuinely remorseful but in a self hating kind of way, and is looking at their mutual attraction as both forgiveness and punishment. If it’s the first, she hasn’t actually changed, she’s just not as obviously toxic. If it’s the second one, anything he does to her, they can both justify it as she “deserves it.” Which is just going to make it bad for both of them. Combined with the speed at which their relationship is happening? Guarantee one or both of them are going to start throwing hands at some point in this relationship.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

Yup. This relationship is going to turn into a dumpster fire at some point.

[@Kyman102]

I think I've seen the first story elsewhere. I'd have sent evidence to every family member of his. Maybe kept the cheater and the bully in the dark, but his family? Their mutual friends? I'd have sent all the evidence so that everybody knows. And have gotten a lawyer. I wouldn't give any wiggle room for the cheater and the bully to paint themselves as the victims. Edit: Oh FFS, she's still getting shared custody with the cheater?! Come ON, OP, this is EXACTLY why you should have told everybody that he's a cheater!

[@BruinPhD2009]

To her credit, she finally told the people who mattered about her ex AND hired a lawyer. It may still be too little too late, but the fact that the ex still seems to be clueless does give her a bit of an upper hand.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

@@BruinPhD2009 actually she didn't hire the lawyer her mom did though from update to update it did sound like she might very gotten once but of worse quality.

[@deballen7031]

Hi. I'd have thought that if OP had told the husband's family and the mutual friends then the husband and bully wouldn't be in the dark for very long at all.

[@shells500tutubo]

I don't know what world youa ll live in, but the husband being a cheater is NOT a reason the courts would take into consideration unless the bully were a registered child sex offender AND was still with the ex.

[@SilverMKI]

@@deballen7031 a fake email account takes 20 seconds to set up.

[@ComaLies225]

Op in story 1 is a better person than I am but she played it beautifully *chefs kiss*

[@DayumSonny]

Story 2: The only reason she realized her mistakes and became a better person was because the other guy beat the ever loving sh*t outta her.

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

And his ass should have been sent to juvenile detention

[@BootyCrusader]

Sometimes, that is what it takes. I don't condone violence, of course, BUT the insane consequences to her shitty behavior made her re-evaluate herself and improve.

[@Evycakez]

I love that the first story is about a bully and the background video is of a French bulldog. they are the cutest bullies

[@oliverspencer2411]

Story 2: im glad that went well, OP handled it good

[@jaggirl]

1st story - 👏👏👏 to this woman and bless her baby. Id keep an eye on that bully though.

[@telinhajp]

Hi Markee! Wishing you a wonderful week ahead! ❤️

[@valzeppelin5153]

Hot Bully: She only ended up changing because the other person she abused, beat her up, and she found out that she was such a P.O.S. that someone was willing to try to kill her. Sounds like all that recovery time really put her in time-out and had her massively reflect on who she was.

[@dianeghazaryan4773]

physical repercussions for your actions work magic

[@britnicox3929]

The comment about the husband now having to live knowing why the bully wanted to know so much about OP, and have to worry from now on if any of his partners are only there to get to her. I hope his fear for trusting people bc of that haunts him, and that OP moves on with the new guy and her baby to bigger and better things.

[@angelcordova5190]

I love the way this dude describes the bully it’s freaking hilarious

[@88081jeffreyg]

The way the last story ended was a great surprise. I hope things turn out for the best for OP and his former bully. I to was bullied in grade and high schools as I grew up. I have no contact with anyone from anyone I knew from any of the schools I attended.

[@msredux]

Well if the bully turns out to be a hot girl and the victim grows up also to be a hot man all is forgiven and you can live happy forever 🙄🙄🙄

[@deballen7031]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@theroyalbugness]

Hurray!!! Good morning Markee!! Happy Monday!

[@lakelanddentalarts]

Story 1: You don't owe a cheater any explanation for leaving them. Oftentimes, telling them the truth gives them a bizarre form of self-worth validation. Leaving them with questions about not being good enough for you is torment for them. The most potent revenge you can dish out to a narcissist is to leave them questioning their own self-worth and never giving them closure.

[@alyzu4755]

SO glad OP has a lawyer! But she needs to tell STBX (preferably through said lawyer) that she knows about his affair. And maybe get a C&D order against her bully.

[@shells500tutubo]

Story 1- now that she is in divorce proceedings and has effectively told her bully to suck rocks, she can now tell people, if they ask, that her stbexh had difficulty with monogamy. That is all she needs to say. And of course her lawyer needs copies of all those messages. She is facing a lot of nastiness ahead with the baby and custody that she seems oblivious to. This is not a popular opinion, but she really should have considered termination.

[@the1spyderryder]

That officers story of the changed cheerleader is one of the best that I have heard in a verylong time!

[@HonorWillow]

That bully definitely did that deliberately and HATED that OP didn't give her the reaction she wanted XD

[@patsymathews2953]

The day you sign divorce papers, hand him a gallon of VANILLA ice cream.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

Or better yet make it a part of the divorce settlement.

[@deballen7031]

🤣.....but then he'd know for sure that she knew and just HOW she knew. At least this way he's taken down a peg or two as well as a providing a bit of protection for others, as long as he's still a little slipshod about his messages that is. In her place, I'm not sure I'd have played so nicely and if I wanted to be really petty he'd be getting something vanilla every birthday, anniversary and Christmas!😅

[@angeloliver7613]

Story 2: I always remember Brooklyn 99, when I hear about her: "She is a four-tongued lizard witch" and "What are you doing here, who is guarding Hades here?"

[@blix_xo]

S1: Sorry? After months of an affair? That's not sorry. Not one bit. Not even the first time should one get to say "I'm sorry." The only way you can is if the married person deceived the other party then that'd be one heck of a long hidden affair. But now she doesn't want him? Please. That leads anyone to believe she liked the thrill of it but once it has no affect, toss it. Again unless she didn't know as a whole. It is hard to honestly think this person changed. I know it's possible for people to, but once you've been bullied it's difficult to change your mind on someone who tormented you. I'm glad OP stayed strong in this best they could!

[@flamelily2086]

OP should have told her husband that she knew about his affair with her former bully. She should make it clear to him that she doesn't want her child anywhere near her former bully.

[@Tyler171819]

Props to the guy in Story 2 for not tazing their past bully on sight. I mean, she ambushed him from behind, could have been a reflex.😂

[@kermit2jo]

I like how first OP didn't actually accept any of the responses from the commentors and will absolutely get rolled for it

[@UchuKejiMovan]

So what's telling us going to do? Does she want a redditor close to her to go beat her husband up? If I were her I'd out him

[@hellkitelord8319]

Not likely. Mostly venting I think but, I could be wrong.

[@pansprayers]

It's called 'venting'. Based on the language, she's not a NES, and this is just a sounding board. It's almost like OP's - wait for it - human. You don't always have to chuck your two cents into a conversation. Sometimes people need you to just shut up and HEAR THEM.

[@katyagrad3704]

@@holographicwing The opposite of caring, is not hating, but being indifferent. Had she cried, and gotten revenge by ruining the bully and the guy, that would just play into the hands of the bully. By showing self control and restraint, she got the best revenge of all - she actually left the husband pining for her and regretting deeply what he had done. Plus, he lost his chance at being with his daughter, which is the worst loss of all! As for the bully, she is a waste of OP's focus...

[@hellkitelord8319]

@@katyagrad3704 agreed to that sometimes the best revenge is living well. Although getting a chance to call the bully pathetic was a good layer to the cake.

[@UchuKejiMovan]

@@pansprayersvent to the 2 people actively destroying your life

[@tamicablanding]

Story 1: after hearing this again. I know the ex knows why she left

[@ajarfullofjoy]

Never do a divorce yourself. Always get a lawyer. There are legal aid organizations that will help you. There are a bunch of little things you don't know or think about. It will go faster and smoother. I work for one of those firms. Even if you've been completely separated for years, it can take over a year. Let someone else deal with the legal side.

[@monkeynumbernine]

Story 2: I was bullied in school. A lot. Maybe, in one way I am fortunate that our parents moved every single year 🙄, but I only have to remember a couple of the most extreme bullies. The truth is, they were children. Children are pretty much uncivilized little barbarians. I stopped caring about any of it when I left school.

[@pascaleelliott63]

I don't know what hurts a cheater's ego more in this scenario : The partner they're cheating on breaking up with them cos they're "not in love with them anymore" (whether or not the cheated partner actually found out about the cheating, or whether or not the cheater knows that they know), Or the fact that the side piece only showed interest and slept with them to use them as a pawn in their own selfish game against someone else. Whichever one hurts the ego the hardest, both take the cheater down a peg quite considerably.

[@JG-ou9hy]

Looks can really go long way more than just an apology

[@ambassadorshine2914]

Story 2. The only way we can believe in the possibility of our own redemption is to grant the possibility of it to our most dubious others.

[@anno_mundi]

Thanks for looking for updates

[@carlrood4457]

Let it go doesn't mean forgive and forget. It certainly doesn't mean dating.

[@aurelian.st.bellamy]

second story was actually so sweet. enemies to lovers

[@jeanetteporter8114]

Op first of all you and nobody that was bullied owe anything to or from the person or persons who bullied you, It is your choice to forgive if you don't everyone need to leave you alone and others who have been bullied alone , only people who went through this trauma knows that hurt, it doesn't matter when it happen trauma is trauma.

[@captainawkward3860]

I do not trust the second girl one bit to be honest.

[@LunaP1]

Same. She never apologized from the beginning, she only did it because he mentioned it.

[@vidhead85]

Bully & Husband: OP's bully went out of her way to get w her husband, and stalked her to do so. She either beeds to violate TOS in handling it and/or get serious abiut this threat. Glad she grey rocked them Old Bully: Not sure if I could take the same track as OP here.

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee have a good night 🤪 Have a great day/night 🤗

[@Somebody9666]

TBH, OP NOT telling her husband and bully she knew was the best card play imo.

[@togatampubolon5948]

Most people take for granted the bullying. They think the bullied is ridiculous cant move on from the past. The didn't know bullying can damage the soul and effect the future.

[@MegaMegafran]

1st story I got major psycho-obsessed vibes, like fake your death runaway to another country and change your name to get away bad😱😨😱😨 2nd story this is soooo going to get turned into a lifetime movie at some point🥰🥰🥰

[@TryniaMerin]

The op in the second story has a great imagination and should write a fantasy novel.

[@spaceunicorn6000]

Last story, that woman is trying WAY too hard. RUN. Run fast, and don't look back. I am so worried about this guy fr. She's after him BECAUSE he let her bully him and didn't fight back. She wants him because she knows she can manipulate him and not be afraid he will stand up for himself. RUN.

[@AusExplorer]

Asks for advice, proceeds to take none of it. Brilliant. Story 2 sounds like some creative writing copied out of some anime.

[@deballen7031]

Hi. I agree regarding the second story. Towards the end I was starting to think the same and at the end I was pretty convinced of it to the point of waiting to read ' and they all lived happily ever after ' ! 🤣

[@FoxValley123]

I honestly like how op handled this, she's leaving her ex high and dry and the bully won't get the satisfaction of hurting op by stealing her husband when op just broke the line between them and that will likely drive her insane. Now the only thing I do know is, and I am going by the laws in my state however I do not know where she lives so I can't say the laws of a restraining order she would need. Where I live however she would need a lot of notes and actual evidence of harassment and possible stalking or violence. She honestly seems like she's not only crazy but in love with op and it drives her crazy that op won't look at it her way. Either that or she feels like op is what completes her fully and will stop at nothing to get her to full fill her again. This is just my take on it and it could very likely not even be close to right and it might just be something else entirely

[@missybuchanan9631]

A girl from high school once contacted me on Facebook. Not a bully, just a girl who dropped me as a friend for no reason. I didn’t want to talk to her, but she just kept responding. So I casually dropped into conversation that my dad died. Worked like a charm. She stopped responding. Mean girls don’t change.

[@twiceshy9773]

Gigglesnort I KNEW it- all cops really were bullied in highschool😂😂😐

[@pagee7452]

You're not an idiot it hurts just because people grow up doesn't mean to hurt doesn't go away

[@carlrood4457]

The point isn't whether she changed. She might have or not. It's that OP changed. He has confidence, is probably quite fit due to his job, and the uniform exudes authority.

[@cheesedemon88]

A bully and a cop, great power couple

[@ObsidianFaux]

I did, I would have taken screenshots, expose, humiliate them, I’m not walking away, especially if I was bullied

[@kathryngoff7089]

Story 2, "My Former Bully, Who Now Finds Me Hot Because She Loves a Man in Uniform, is Now My Girlfriend": I hope that OP's high school tormenter truly has changed. I tend to give her benefit of the doubt because of her violent comeuppence. Things like getting physically roughed up or sent to prison while watching your compatriots get pardons for worse crimes (looking at you, Michael Cohen) may be enough to turn a person to the Light. Anyway, imagine if OP and his former bully turned angel get married and have a family. How will they explain how they first met?

[@fiyahquacker2835]

Probably best in that case to not cut open the wound to show what it looks like.

[@mothertrucker936]

You can bet that she told him she’d tell op everything when he broke it off. But I agree with those who say op may want a restraining order. She sounds obsessed at hurting op.

[@CrystalRuizEnriquez]

Omg, op needs to get screenshots, and then publicly tell him that you're leaving him because he has never satisfied you and he's very vanilla and she just can't live like that anymore. Then just send the screenshots to her parents and his.

[@Tijggie82]

I heard this story with the first update. Was curious what happened to her. Thx for this, tbh I would probably do the same as OP.

[@andreacorteztasayco1642]

Story 2: Op is such a doormat. Just ignore her and thats it. Imagine getting to the point of accepting a date with your tormentor just because you cant say “No”. Grow a spine

[@havyellowmoneydinero1378]

S2 I will never understand how you could look at someone that did such horrible things and find them attractive. Even if I took the forgive and forget route there is no way I would ever agree to a date. Honestly I think the moment she asked 'why didn't you ever ask me out?', that would be my moment to shine and I would take great pleasure in letting her know it was because I didn't find her attractive.

[@idreadFell365]

The second story sounds like a plot to an odd anime that you’d see these days.