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[@acrebythecreek7851]

"Sometimes you just gotta get out of the way and let somebody love you" Yep, wow love this advice!!

[@gendeb9666]

T-SHIRT!!!

[@Just-Nikki]

Acre by the Creek we all need to hear that sometimes don’t we 💕

[@kenthawkins2418]

Well said Jess. Sometimes people want to do nice things for you that you won't....let them love you....👍

[@acrebythecreek7851]

@@Just-Nikki for sure!! definitely a great reminder!

[@ashleycrockett2624]

I was about to write this! PLEASE put this on one of your tshirts!!

[@fueluponpositivity]

"I'm not the adultest adult here." I need that every day. :P

[@justcallmejean1090]

Love your aunt’s self watering planter! Last year my husband built me wicking beds that work on the same principle and they have been a game changer for us. Still haven’t figured out how to grow tomatoes in TX but at least keeping my plants watered is all dialed in 😂

[@HomesteadHopeful]

Gabriel and Bear have my ❤️ How exciting to have a surprise reveal of your kitchen- even to you ❤️ Massive amounts of blueberries. Love that the boys wanted to eat the ones they picked. Thank you for sharing!

[@charitysmith5245]

My husband is very much an acts of service guy too...he isnt all mushy and lovey dovey...but he is constantly doing things to improve my garden or build me a beautiful chicken coop and run. I have no doubt that he loves me with all his heart even if he doesn't say it. Actions speak louder than words❤

[@gelwood99]

You should be very appreciative of that because there are many husbands that either haven't got a clue how or don't want to. Sadly I am the wife to one of those.

[@darleneclark6098]

My hubby is the same LoL. So grateful for our good men

[@seedaholicgardens9085]

Amen!

[@charitysmith5245]

@@gelwood99 I do appreciate him with all my heart! And I wish there were more men like him out there because every good woman deserves a good man!

[@lilolmecj]

Charity Smith I try to be cognizant of all the things my husband does to make my life better. He is very thoughtful.

[@lindarinner9482]

That's the gift of a treasured aunt and uncle, getting to have a little vacation from being the most adult person in your corner of the world. This was a fun vlog, thanks for taking us along!

[@sarahestrada8530]

I'm a mental health counselor that works with couples, PREACH GIRL! Textbook healthy couple skills! I'm getting married in 99 days and you two are definitely a great model of what I want our marriage to look like! My man is also all about the details and I am also a cutting corners kind of person, glad to see it can work out! 💜

[@michal-jeanstorms1780]

June mornings in North Louisiana go something like this: I wake up, have a cup of coffee while I watch Roots and Refuge, and then I get dressed and go pick blueberries. So you won’t be surprised that I almost spit out my coffee when I saw you were at Pop’s! When I drove out there, I told the owner how I saw her cameo on my favorite KZbin channel. She said “Well, I finally made it!” I’m so glad that you got to go to Pop’s! It’s so fun to see and hear everybody out there on these sweet summer mornings.

[@denitamorris7195]

You blessed me with that quotable moment: “sometimes you have to get Out of the way and let someone love you.” Put that on a t-shirt!

[@mirandabeaudry7936]

Awh this made me so happy. The feeling of going back and visiting a dear old gathering place is such a comforting thing.

[@danaspetrini8338]

Omg all the feels with this. You realizing Miah's love language and "let someone love you"!!! *sniffles*

[@lyndarebustillo9114]

I love the 400 degree Ben argument 🤣

[@serobinson1]

He just wants to give you a beautiful kitchen because he knows how much you will enjoy it and he loves you! And he’s so good at building !

[@anneturner2018]

Getting out of the way is the hardest thing to do! A total expression of love...❤️

[@krislange1186]

You can never put a price on old "memories"!! It's wonderful to go back in time and remember those day. Your children, in the years to come, will have their own memories which are being made now. Can't wait to see the kitchen!

[@melissan9199]

Jess. Loving your hair and natural Beauty with no make up 🙂 my favorite look on you 🥰 Your smile is infectious 😋. Great story on the tree!

[@h2owater381]

Hi uncle Bernie and Aunt "Grillmaster" Anne! Maybe we will meet you next time Ben!

[@sharonnorris5984]

So enjoy seeing your garden and dreaming of having one soon. Love your sweet family especially sweet lil Ben❤

[@melindadropp5112]

Oh, I know its not about me....LOL....I can't wait to see the wonderful surprises Sweet Jeremiah has for you when its done. You guys are so awesome.

[@HannaPramholt]

Very close to tears when you said that.. get out of the way part. You just have a way of using your words, it's incredible.

[@YT4Me57]

Ben's bucket with one lone blueberry reminded me of this poem by Genevieve Taggard Millions of Strawberries Marcia and I went over the curve, Eating our way down Jewels of strawberries we didn't deserve, Eating our way down Till our hands were sticky, and our lips painted. And over us the hot day fainted, And we saw snakes, And got scratched, And a lust overcame us for the red unmatched Small buds of berries, Till we lay down - Eating our way down - And rolled in the berries like two little dogs, Rolled In the late gold. And gnats hummed, And it was cold, And home we went, home without a berry, Painted red and brown, Eating our way down. Love ya Ben!

[@Sh4peofmyheart]

Lovely memories. "Sometimes you just have to get out of the way, and let someone love you." What a fantastic quote!

[@tonipidsadnick5149]

Tomato talk, blueberries, and grandparents - wow! Love your natural look too!

[@seedaholicgardens9085]

I bet it will feel like 400 degrees to him!and me, Thankyoufor taking your weather back!😄I am glad you stepped back and let the artist create his gift for you. His cup needs filling too. I cannot wait to see the final product! I totally get where you're coming from as well. Mark is an 'acts of service' too, and I fussed and fussed about wanting a cattle panel trellis, and he said 'hush!' and created a custom trellis for me that I ADORE! So, I too, am glad you stepped aside. You know his gift will be absolutely custom and PERFECT for YOU! "Blessings of Bounty and May Your Gardens and your Life always Bring You Joy,Inspiration and Abundance!" - Hope & Mark!

[@kiprussell6102]

It's a good thing for us to visit family and to remember our childhood. Gives us a fresh perspective of what's important to us and why

[@ESumner]

Easiest, fastest, cheapest is exactly me 🤣 I’m with you girl!! Totally agree with stifling hubby sometimes! Well intentioned but a good perspective to think about thank you!! 😍

[@theabsentmindedgardener3742]

My grandparents were influential in my life. My love of cooking comes from Grandma and they were farmers. I thought the green thumb had skipped me but I finally discovered it - at age 51!

[@Beth_Agnes_Casey]

How wonderful to have such great memories of your grandparents 🥰

[@RidgeLife]

Great words! Very true thank you!

[@lisaanderson5977]

As I watched i was able to remember being with my Grandma in the garden. I hope one day someone will look at a tomato or a peony and remember something I taught them. Just like every time I see a peony I think of my Grandma and how she taught me so much of gardening.

[@anniemartin3531]

Your cottage garden is really coming together! The combination of picket and iron fence, the rock beds, lovely! Loving all the stages of development, getting to see and appreciate each step. When the flowers all show up...oh my!!!

[@cindy-ki8ex]

I have gone crazy this year and have 30 heirloom tomatoes this year and hatching your channel gas caused that. I kept finding more and more plants and I kept in buying them. I found a greenhouse that has mostly heirloom plants. I have the best garden ever and am picking peppers in June in Minnesota.

[@normalara1417]

Thank you for letting us share a piece of your childhood memories. This vlog was such a delight. For me, it's such a blessing to see how things pass on through generations, whether they be good or bad traits. In your case, beautiful good blessings of learning love, family & gardening from your grand-daddy. Such "priceless" memories. Thank you for sharing this with us. So beautiful.🥰🙏🍅

[@wugambina]

My grandparents, 1 great aunt, and 1 great uncle all lived next door to each other in the country...running back and forth between the houses all day was the BEST.

[@kristendutton580]

I am obsessed with their front porch!

[@takishasallbeautyzone]

Thank you for sharing your lovely family with us. I'm sure Jeremiah will be tired but so excited for you to see how much he's accomplished. I can't wait! Yes girl, let that man love on you 🥰❤. You can tell he loves to do things for you. It's very sweet!

[@przlsc]

I’m a NY girl for the last 45 years, but when I go home, I’m still a girl 😍. Central Illinois is we’re my roots are. The sky, the smell of fields of corn, cousins...ah! I always said grandpa and grandma’s house was the only place I could go and still feel like Just ME. No expectations. They are gone, but the memories live on in all of us.

[@avonleanne]

what is so cool about how you are sharing all your childhood memories of tomatoes all over the tables and how you spent all your childhood in the two yards....and all the love you remember....all your boys in their own time, will remember these things about you and spending time also at your A and U house, as well as YOUR garden....kinda full circle cool! =)

[@denisekochon7473]

Warms my heart to see!

[@goldenmeadowgarden9361]

Jess, thank you so much for sharing your family with us. You are such an inspiration

[@janetwithers7427]

Have a great adventure with the kids. It will be a lovely kitchen. :-) That is a lot of blueberries. Aunts and Uncles are such a blessing.

[@darlenesgardenandhome]

My hubby is that way. If I send him to the store for ONE thing I've been wanting, even when I specify, "just one", he'll come home with 10 of them. Sometimes that's a good thing, sometime it takes YEARS to use it all up. LOL.

[@Evieisnumber1]

Sounds like my bf. But he will bring a drink and snack I like. (Or he things I like because he likes it haha)

[@missmartpants2269]

I miss my grandparents so much! God bless!

[@toddsherfey6236]

Thank you for this video, it's got me to remember my grandparents. I was very close to my grandparents on my pa,s side . I lived with them my young year's of life. Farmer's they were. I live within half of mile from them and they've been gone for several years. I miss them very much. So thank you and God bless you and your 🙏

[@pleasantbrookhomestead787]

Your vlog game has been STRONG! this is one of the most precious videos! God bless

[@sowmanyseedlings]

Hahaha the kids and the picking of the berries 😂😂😂😂 last time I brought my girl to the raspberry patch she wouldnt pick a thing because there were weird beetle guys mating all over the place hahahah

[@kele1264]

It was very nice to hear you reminisce. More than that, it is moving to hear the love in your words, and the value you place on family. My family (my brothers and parents, also my fiancé and my most beloved cousin) have all passed on. What I wouldn't give to see them again. My attempts to have children failed, and it's hard to know that I'll be childless and alone for the rest of my life. So it makes me glad to see others value their family with conscious high regard, and honor that love in word and deed. Blessings to you, sweet girl, and to everyone you love.

[@deborahfromdcspetersoncity9213]

Your Aunt and Uncle have a beautiful house and lovely front and backyard. Sometimes going back to family heals what's wrong wrong with your heart ❤️, soul and/or mind.

[@destinimurphy398]

I dont think the vlog was scattered. You organized it very well! Love your vids jess miah! Thank you for inspiring my inner gardener. My husband and I watch daily. And YES Let that man love you! You're so right. Sometimes we just need to sttep back and let someone love us! You guys are precious!

[@09echols]

Even when the garden belongs to someone else you still caress them. That's cute

[@lisaharrowing1630]

Thank you for sharing your special days

[@Bella-jx5fr]

What a lovely story about the trees .... I completely can relate how we tend to have a connection through things, places, and memories.

[@mbwhims]

When you said the blueberry farm was pretty close like 40 mins away I LOL'd We have to drive 45 mins to do anything or go anywhere besides Walmart and fast food. I've only recently learned that lots of people think that's too far to drive 😂

[@Just-Nikki]

Mary Beth Pipes my brother in law almost passed up on a good job because it is 28 minutes from his house...28 minutes.

[@mbwhims]

@@Just-Nikki 28! That's good where I'm from lol 😂 what's the cut off? 25? Lol

[@ssamuel408]

Thank you. I will be watching for the breaking news. The temperature made it to 400 degrees!

[@Awesomewally]

I am the same way when it comes to being frugal....I too sometimes have to walk way and get him love me🥰 I also love how you are so close with your Tia and Tio♥️🥰

[@becomingtexian-ahomesteadj6316]

Thanks for sharing some family time with us. Not everyone does that, as you know. I'm over 50 and I feel the same way when I visit my family... I'm not the adultiest of the adults either. Cheers and God bless.

[@matthewcingram]

You're killing it with this new camera setup! Keep up the great work!

[@pamelas9]

Those sentimental trees... just a gentle reminder that trees don’t live forever. But if you don’t wait until they are dead, you might be able to get a few big logs out of them, enough to make a piece of furniture that could be kept as a remembrance. ❤️

[@amandaspeicher7801]

Thank you for sharing your family! My children are the 4th generation of my family to live on our farm. I love stories like this one.

[@denisepinkston7160]

This one made me miss my grandparents. ❤

[@Sarcastic_wiccan012]

Your giddiness is so contagious! It like that old video with y'all out in the snowfall. Its so wholesome 😌

[@scottm2089]

Awwww. You have a very sweet family, thanks for sharing!

[@lamare8565]

Thanks for sharing your childhood memories. They are a wonderful part on who you are today. I love going back to my childhood places. It's a wonderful feeling of the past and it keeps the ones who left us close in our hearts.❤

[@darleneclark6098]

That's an awesome day. Enjoy your little vacation.

[@heartsfiregarden6352]

Such a beautiful vlog! I love the stories from your childhood and of your family. 💜 It’s a precious thing to hav grandparents like that! My grandma was my biggest influencer in my life, so I definitely feel this. 💜💜💜 And there’s always an adultier adult! 😆

[@jasonmorrow9616]

This was very sweet and genuine. Thank you for sharing!

[@rossannejenkinsadams]

Again, I must express to you my admiration. You are so thoughtful and mature. Your insight and intuitiveness is very much appreciated. I am speaking generally of my impression, and more specifically your thoughts on how you need to get out of the way, so Jeremiah can do what he envisions for your kitchen. The place you've told him you dream of working in. I am certain the end result will be better than you imagined. I am so glad you realize Miah's need for creativity by comparing it to your own expression. I am so glad I stumbled across KZbin videos! Yes, get out of the way, so someone can love you!! So enjoyed your visit with your Aunt and Uncle and lore of the two houses, trees, and memories. You tell inviting stories. Don't ever forget to tell your story. Love you much, Rossi J from Indiana!

[@threewillowsfarm7779]

This was adorable. Loved hearing the family stories and seeing your eyes light up when you talked about seeing the tomatoes lining the counter. Really easy to see where you got your love of tomatoes. Thank you so beautiful walk down memory lane.

[@m.b.6402]

You can end up working at cross purposes out of pure love for each other. You don't want to demand too much, or take more than he ought to be asked to give--and in trying to be frugal and thrifty and efficient and low-maintenance you can end up stealing a joy and excitement he has about doing work he really loves as a gift to you--and to himself, and his children. Sometimes you want to go easy, and just make your kids peanut butter jelly. Sometimes you want to cook Christmas dinner for love and delight. I am glad you are getting out of his way and giving him the joy of his gift to you all, from the bounty of his talent.

[@jennifercullison]

Growing up my mothers family lived next door to each other....uncle charles, mamaw, pasture, uncle gene, uncle lavert... pasture and acres and acres of pasture behind them all..and all across the road....had a wonderful time growing up..

[@kath-phlox]

What a treat to have someone else make dinner for you

[@darleneboyd7941]

My love language is totally acts of service! My husband has learned to speak my language most of the time. God Bless you all.

[@MWoods-rs4wp]

My grandson was enthralled at my moms house. His great grandma has a DIFFERENT garden than nana! 😂 he loves to explore.

[@mindystiltner4483]

The best memories for sure💕💕

[@jemmiestone5731]

It's great to get away from home and visit family. Lovely video. You all stay healthy and safe. Enjoy your visit. God Bless Y'all.

[@melindadropp5112]

OMG.....I was out in my garden, my Kajari melon leaves have popped out of the dirt, I harvested romaine lettuce and spinach for my salad, my tomato plants have teeny babies and the Brussels sprouts and broccoli have buds......I am so stoked.

[@mississippigirlgardening8396]

Live love Laugh and live again...thank you for sharing your family history 💚🌱💚

[@sowmanyseedlings]

I was watching a garden tour the other day from 2018 and it is soooo incredible the work y'all have done down there. You guys are amazing. I love watching the dreams come to fuition. You never ever fail to inspire me Jess and family 💚

[@ValdirSilva-sz1ms]

*THANK YOU SO MUCH GOOD NIGHT JESSICA*

[@SageandStoneHomestead]

We live way out in the country and it's amazing how the sounds of traffic make anxiety just well up after you just haven't heard it in forever! Beautiful memories though.

[@samanthaeisan6588]

growing up my aunt had a very similar set up and lived next door to my grandparents. So many fond memories as a child playing and hoping back and forth from one home to the other. :)

[@coverscornersurburbanhomes6235]

I love this video. Thank you for sharing your family with us. I LOVE the front porch on your great grandparents' home. Sometimes not being the "adultiest adult" is pretty fun isn't it?

[@wilmagregory8967]

What a pleasant way to get out of the way. Wish I had a place at your table when you cook a blueberry pie, yummy. Thanks for another great video. Much love, peace and respect. Blessings. 🥧🥧🥧🥛

[@peggysueway3889]

My hubby's an "acts of service guy too". I hear you and learned a bit too! 💕

[@robinelkins6172]

I'm so happy that you had that chance to go to Pop's. That is amazing the size of that blueberry patch. It's 25 min from my house. I visit it at least twice a month during blueberry season. I know you had a good visit with your family. I loved seeing the kids enjoy picking berries. That's a good memory for them. Thank you for sharing! Bless you and your family.

[@lauriesickles5393]

Nothing like going home....sadly my parents, aunt and uncle's and grandparents homesteads are all sold off for new families to build memories. What an amazing childhood I had and thanku for sharing a glimpse with us all about yours as well.

[@el3389]

Hi Uncle Bernie and Aunt Anne.

[@pjkz63]

Good girl, out the way Jess! My sweet husband is no longer able to build and create. It breaks his heart because like your hubby he could do anything! Berry picking, how fun!

[@Happybean98]

I love that your kids get excited about fresh blueberry jam because I do too 😁

[@sherrybacon8041]

This was a sweet video. It's nice to see family unity... I miss mine so much... I have no place to go back to😥 Happy you do!!

[@sharonpack4696]

Wonderful video. Heartfelt. God Bless 💘

[@karentorbert]

I went to Florida to visit a friend for 10 days last summer. I came home to a new kitchen. It was wonderful. I cleared everything out before I left. My husband didn't do the work but he did pick out everything and added the finishing touches at the end. He has good taste so I knew I would like it. Like you, I got out of the way. ❤❤❤

[@KansasGardenGuy]

Your last couple minutes really hit my heart very heavy....my grandfather was a great man that was very strong and short worded but could he grow acres and acres of strawberries! Now that he has been gone for over 14 years, everytime i go out and pic my strawberries I smile and think of him....its funny how going home changes your thinking even for a minute.

[@karenhernke281]

Aww....thanks for sharing your family with us. Loved hearing about the history. Love how you call him grand daddy. Cute!! So nice of were able to visit with your aunt and uncle. And dang...that is a sweet idea for your aunts raised bed. Greetings from Wisconsin. Karen

[@jeannelson4031]

I'm so happy for you and your family

[@becsbounty90723]

I love the history of your family’s homes. There is nothing like being able to go back to where we grew up and experience the memories of being a kid ❤️. Can you tell me the measurements of your aunt’s raised bed? Love it.

[@RootsandRefugeFarm]

Hey bed is 2 x 8!

[@HeartsAwakening2009]

So beautiful there

[@1313MockingbirdLane]

400 degrees 🤣😂🤣🤣♨️♨️♨️🌞

[@carriemoriarity5806]

I hope you do another tour of Josh's garden this year!

[@_gingerjess_1362]

This made me tear up! Love the history 🥰

[@bonnied3550]

This was great Jess, enjoy your family visit and reminiscing of the memories created in that place.❤️