It’s okay to share your emotions and frustrations. I wanted to be married in my early 20s and it didn’t happen. Spent the next 16 years dateless and celibate. A month before turning 40, I met a wonderful man and we got engaged 3 months after meeting each other and married within a year. God saved the best for me. I can look back now and laugh at how I allowed myself and others to frustrate me about living a vibrant single life. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ UPDATE: I am expecting my first child at 41. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@yolandamccrary72056 ай бұрын
Boy I needed this. I WAS married 16 years ago. I've basically been celibate and practically dateless for 16 years now. I'm living saved, I'm serving and giving faithfully in ministry. I got ordained in December. I am SO tired!
@joseysosey6 ай бұрын
I'm turning 38 tomorrow, still single, I desire to be in a relationship, but I know I ain't ready.. but this gives me hope for when that day comes.🥰
@86Kera6 ай бұрын
Happy for you 🥹 there’s still hope but until then I appreciate the time spent with him 😊
@Skyepeace6 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!!
@Rose-fe9jc6 ай бұрын
@@joseysoseyHappy Birthday 🎉
@herro0046 ай бұрын
I just got married last year at 40 after all 13 years of praying and waiting. Im still healing from the anger and bitterness of the long wait. I regret not putting myself out there sooner. I used to talk bad about people on dating sites because I thought it was thirsty. Covid struck, and the only option I had was to go online. Then, I met my husband. God is good. Be open to every way to meet someone. Whether it's in-person or online. Please be humble so God can lead you. Pray that God will protect you and give you disernment when you go online and meet someone in-person. Don't be entitled, be humble. Put yourself out there and take steps, in faith, pray every step of the way but take some steps. Trust The Lord.
@crystalkurtz13096 ай бұрын
This is so wonderful to hear. May I ask what online dating app you used?
@feliciaciappetta3424 ай бұрын
@herro004...What is/has been your approach to healing from the anger and bitterness? I'm 43 and in the same situation you were. I'm particularly frustrated, because I had reached a point of peace and happiness in my single life, just me and God. When I wasn't even looking, 3 different prospects surfaced. Long story short, they all disappeared by the end of the year. Losing those relationships was particularly painful, because I allowed myself to be vulnerable--something I hadn't done in a LONG time. Me: Why Lord!? I wasn't looking for this! I didn't ask for any of it either! I was cool just You and me! Make this make sense! 😡 ...so please share what your healing process has been like, because I could certainly use some tips.
@frankyb42496 ай бұрын
“Sometimes your soul needs to cry out, & sometimes it’s not hallelujah “ 🔥😭
@tammyw93096 ай бұрын
🔥🔥🔥
@Vavavoum-gr83 ай бұрын
It’s a lamentation 😢
@inez76096 ай бұрын
Ive been single my entire life. Will turn 37 this year. And by single I don't mean non married. I mean.. alone. I empathize with her. It's hard.
@minty1326 ай бұрын
I’m 37. Same here. It is hard.
@MmeMpolokeng6 ай бұрын
It’s a choice. You have been given full authority. You either create life or death,it rests on you.
@PollyLove926 ай бұрын
@@MmeMpolokengplease stop
@ninasky76 ай бұрын
Me too 37 and want to be married
@chunteevanschosen35466 ай бұрын
Blessings, have you tried changing up your daily routine to possibly meet new people in your area? Basically, if your only exposed to the same people every day, it limits your exposure to other people. Even pursuing things you love to do in different ways with confidence and intentions to meet new people could give you different results.
@VershyTheQueen6 ай бұрын
Honestly I am just grateful he said “you’re safe here”. And he stated it multiple times. In the black community we NEED to bring honesty, and safety in our churches. Because if you cannot turn to the people in your congregation who can you turn to?
@domspeakslife6 ай бұрын
Amen! 👏🏼👏🏼
@johnnawoods88596 ай бұрын
Amen🎉
@rhondarosoboro78746 ай бұрын
I hope she knows her transparency and vulnerability is impacting millions. The B-Side is exactly what we need right now. Whew!
@lynnetopara6 ай бұрын
literally!!!
@RoyalTeaNation4 ай бұрын
This!!!!!!
@faithbylatrice6 ай бұрын
He said “Don’t let go of the frustration. It means you’re human.” 😭😭😭
@AyoAwotona6 ай бұрын
A whole WORD!!!!!!
@oshinofalakoju57496 ай бұрын
Sooo true! I talk about this with my church family/Christian friends all the time. It's so important to be vulnerable and honest with with one another about how we're feeling/what we're going through. It's common to ask someone "How are you?" "Oh, I'm blessed and highly favored! Living abundantly in the light of the Lord" - but... how *are* you? The question was not answered lol. It's great that we know who we are in Christ, but this earthly life is very human and our emotions need to be revealed so that we can find true healing and not just using the Word to suppress how we truly feel. There's no shame in expressing what God already knows how we're feeling. Such a word that quote was, honestly.
@faithbylatrice6 ай бұрын
@@oshinofalakoju5749 wheeewww!!! 😮💨🙌🏾🙌🏾 yes!! All of this EXACTLY!
@mia80096 ай бұрын
Ohweeee this is for meeeeee!!! Im 40 years old..."Church girl" all my life and never had a real relationship. Bitterness and frustration is real...sighhhhh
@Ilovebeauty5136 ай бұрын
You better go live you are middle aged 😂😂😂
@mia80096 ай бұрын
@Ilovebeauty513 😂😂😂😂 oh I started around 35...learned alot to get out the cult...
@Ilovebeauty5136 ай бұрын
@@mia8009 oh yes I’m learning in early 20s it’s not even a guarantee that you will get married . No point , I’m not living because you don’t know your future !!!
@thesinglemomlifecoach6 ай бұрын
Same age and church girl too. Blessings zig zagging all around the prayer for marriage lol smh and I’m grateful AND I am frustrated AND God is good AND I want to be married 🙌🏾🙏🏾
@Favoured22676 ай бұрын
Pray fast and go online with prayer put yourself out there more prayerfully God has done it for me at 57yrs
@ccmediamogul86736 ай бұрын
This was so good! I truly remember my “frustrated being single prayer” for my husband to show up and it truly works. Celebrating 3 years of marriage this year.
@keishagriffin13926 ай бұрын
Same! I waited on God 8 years. My husband and I will be married 3 years next month.
@user-Jesuscomingsoon6 ай бұрын
@ccmediamogul8673 how long did u pray before he showed up and how did u meet him if I can ask
@LaRennEstherTV19856 ай бұрын
I am glad he didn’t answer her question with false lie. If God didn’t answer yet. Keep waiting and asking..
@mariadelmarospinamoreno35116 ай бұрын
This... Just by curiosity I opened the video ad Watched, waiting to listen a false answer... Tired of those Who speak before God.
@4WallsDesigns6 ай бұрын
Right! I’m tired of Jesus glitter being thrown at me! I just keep it to myself …betwn me & God!
@rparchman6 ай бұрын
But did he actually answer the question??
@LaRennEstherTV19856 ай бұрын
Yes, by not answering the question and not giving her the answer she was looking for.. He told her to pretty much keep praying and don’t let that hope go.. Just like so many other Singles out there, we have to come to a point. Saying, to ourselves “ What if God doesn’t send or if I don’t meet someone? Will I be okay and content with it ?“
@dillonhall33446 ай бұрын
When she finally said what she wanted to say you can feel the weight of the words my Gooodneesss.
@yvonne39706 ай бұрын
Righttt, I felt for her 😕
@NomsLoots5 ай бұрын
She spoke my heart 🥹
@dillonhall33445 ай бұрын
@@NomsLoots A little Jesus "Glitter" Lol. In this, season I have been encouraging myself in the lord By declaring I will prepare my heart for the things God has for me. God has got some things for you, they are tailor-made just for you and no one will/can take them away prevent them, or even block them. So, with the honest sentiment of frustration and impatience delight yourself in the lord and remember that God is who He says He is. Good.
@NomsLoots5 ай бұрын
@@dillonhall3344 oh Dillon 🥹. Thank you for this beautiful message! God bless us both ♥️✨
@ALTheFreeMan6 ай бұрын
I do volunteer work with special needs kids, and it’s very humbling to say the least, it really puts things in perspective. Alotta Christians have taken a few scriptures and ran with the idea that God wants us to have prosperous lives where all of our heart’s desires are fulfilled. This is not what the Christian faith is about, and shame on all these prosperity preachers who continue to tell people that their “blessing” is right around the corner. As soon as we can get out of this thinking and just be grateful for salvation and eternal life, then anything else God decides to bless us with in this life will be a bonus!
@KM-zb9eg6 ай бұрын
Amen This what I've said to people and they think I'm a SLACKER NO YOU HAVE TO WORK AND HAVE SOMEWHERE TO LIVE.....BUT TO BE THANKFUL, HAPPY AND IN HIS GRACE ALL THAT'S FREE.... I'M GONNA CONTINUE TO REMAIN HUMBLE AND HELP ANYONE I CAN GOD BLESS YOU.
@alewis49416 ай бұрын
You are so right. I had to learn that lesson the hard way as well mad, tired, frustrated, confused, feeling forgotten, overlooked, complaining to God etc. Then God taught me through prayer, bible study and reading the bible he's given me so much already especially what is really important. I couldn't stay in that state of worrying about marriage when being single has definitely been a blessing beyond what I knew. Now I'm mentally and spiritually fine. Praise be to God 51 yrs old single, no kids, love my job, love my home life, love solitude, no health issues. Where I am is where he wants me to be. I'm focused on God and Jesus nothing else matters.❤ Stay encouraged single ladies. God knows what he's doing trust him for he sees all those troubled hearts. Repent, pray and spend time with God, ask him to give your heart contentment, your spirit peace and your soul rest and be grateful for what you already have.
@tiffanyyisrael79896 ай бұрын
Exactly! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@KM-zb9eg6 ай бұрын
@@alewis4941 Amen
@Blizerton5 ай бұрын
This is truth, recognizing that God is not a genie nor will our “performance of righteousness” guarantee that we will get our desires. I think most of us have to adjust our heart posture and get in alignment with God and His will for our lives.
@lunarose90426 ай бұрын
Wow I needed this, mid-30's and sick of being told (by married people) that the marriage will come because what if it doesn't. And I just hate that Jesus isn't enough for me. He deserves all of me. 😢
@brittaneiwayne45196 ай бұрын
Whew!!!! This!!! 😢😮😮
@worthaboverubys6 ай бұрын
This!❤❤❤❤
@Thyeyekingdomcome6 ай бұрын
This!!!
@AngelicWomanofGod6 ай бұрын
This is hard but ask Him to be enough over and over and over until your heart/mind catches up with your words. I PROMISE you He won't deny making the feeling of Him being enough happen for you. I may be married now but I did it before marriage and it felt like withdrawal from an addiction.😢 My heart hurt like heck as I was breaking up with the emotional attachment and physical desire to be in a relationship. I cried myself to sleep many nights and then started turning off movies and music that stirred up those desires. It was a lonely place at first but then it turned into a desire for the Lord and his purpose for my life that I couldn't shut off. It became something wonderful! ❤️ So much so that I felt like my husband coming was a distraction to the good thing I had going on with the Lord. Prayers lifted for you daughter of the King. God’s got great plans for your life outside of or in addition to being wife. Either way it's better than you could ever hope for. 🙏🏼✝️
@sdcaldwell88826 ай бұрын
It is not that he not enough for you. You love Him. You just desire to be married and that is a good thing. Be gentle with yourself ❤
@internet_and_food6 ай бұрын
It’s the changing the “but” to “and” for me.
@DWorshipband106 ай бұрын
Yes!!! 😭
@sapnapbgxx20876 ай бұрын
It so good!✨
@NB-hg8ek6 ай бұрын
🎯
@AuguaMorale6 ай бұрын
I am the Camera Lady. I was in the room. Great stuff.
@The_blessed_burdens4 ай бұрын
This is true!! I cried out to God and asked Him where is my husband. He came a couple of months later.. celebrating nine almost ten years this year. So yes, God doesn’t want your fake prayers tell Him the truth tell Him what’s on your heart.
@PrettyIntelligent24 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing your testimony.
@itsnygeria6 ай бұрын
Psalm 77 has been IT for me this year because whew chile 😮💨 I’ve been reading through the Psalms as well & it has been SO freeing to see that God dedicated an entire book to letting me know that it’s okay for me to not only feel my emotions & make them known to Him, but for Him to even go as far as to provide LANGUAGE for me to express them??! He’s so kind & i’ve never felt so free in my sufferings/hardships!! It honestly makes it a little easier because I don’t have to pretend like it’s all okay because as you said Uncle Tim, sometimes (a lot of times) it’s just not & that’s okay.
@MsYamkela6 ай бұрын
❤
@michaelfaulkner58396 ай бұрын
I don’t think I’ve ever read Psalm 77 until I watched this segment (not sure why either but), I love how you said that God even provides the language for us to express our frustration. Wow, that’s so powerful. There’s a book by Christian writer Sheila Walsh called “It’s Ok Not To Be Okay”, phenomenal piece of work. Check it out if you’re interested! Blessings 🙏🏿
@4WallsDesigns6 ай бұрын
So true! I just read that again and i immediately felt my shoulders release frustration!
@4WallsDesigns6 ай бұрын
@@michaelfaulkner5839 I like Sheila W. I’ll have to check that book out..
@angelahairston47616 ай бұрын
I love that he said, “I don’t have an answer for that, and I’m not gonna fill one in“ People are so quick to answer you in their “spirituality” that they forget their humanity. It’s sickening! But for the young lady who asked that question though, I’m right there with her, so I empathize heavily. I’ve never had a boyfriend. I think the only difference is, that my desire lies a little more on the side of actually feeling genuinely loved, and appreciated, for who I am, because I feel like if I attained that, I might feel a little more patient in my waiting to be married, but that’s just my two. Cents . I pray everyone receives the best that God has for them.
@sunshiine08276 ай бұрын
Wow! That's where I find myself. It's going on 8 years, and I've been mad, tired, and frustrated. But I refuse to accept and settle with and for just anyone. So I'll just wait on the Lord and His timing. My faith has kicked in, and I see myself already married, and it is a beautiful sight. We have to see it in the spirit before we see it in the natural. I have faith that it's going to happen for me SOON!!
@zandy1306 ай бұрын
Let's keep waiting this year is my ninth year I've prayed fasted declared all of it but God is just quite I also won't settle for less I God has my Holy Spirit filled husband his grooming him as well just like His preparing me 😊♥️
@nikitahicks68896 ай бұрын
Child that part
@normapuente53776 ай бұрын
I’ve been divorced since 1997! (It’s not a typo) I’ve had relationships but God wasn’t at the center. No wonder they didn’t work out! Now, my life is on track, thanks to The Basement and Tim’s anointed, Godly wisdom!! 🙏❤️ I know God has the right man for me and I’m happily waiting on His divine timing! 🤗
@cedesley72966 ай бұрын
Amen! This is what I’m living rn and I trust in God sooooo much! I share the same frustration that our good sister expressed in the video but I won’t settle with just anyone! God won’t let me and I’m trusting Him in that process every step of the way. Frustrated and all!
@rugezajoyeuse56646 ай бұрын
Amen🙌🏾
@tiannadowie-chin43105 ай бұрын
I love how he validated her. God will do the same when we are open with how we feel. I appreciate this transparency 💕
@cielbaptiste20666 ай бұрын
This was one of the greatest breakthroughs in building my relationship with God: learning to be raw and honest with my feelings and knowing that He can handle it. There is space for every part of your soul - the parts that are whole and those that are still in need of healing. He's such a good friend and good father all at once.
@Jovialjay866 ай бұрын
I'm still frustrated but I'll keep this on replay.
@Thyeyekingdomcome6 ай бұрын
Same! And I’m going to start reading Psalms from the beginning.
@jenetrajackson67946 ай бұрын
Me too sis! Sometimes I wonder if he even exists...
@ama14346 ай бұрын
@@jenetrajackson6794 I recommend 2819 church sermon Called & Discrouraged, God exists and He even exists when are prayers aren’t answered and His grace is enough for the specific problems we face. It’s hard when you feel and believe Gods not answering your frustration, but try telling God I’m struggle to believe you exist right now
@shaniecebrazwell13216 ай бұрын
We believe a lot of lies about relationships specifically which keeps us in that position and we don’t want to admit it. So keep praying, but also ask God if there’s any steps he wants you to take in actualizing what you desire. Faith without works is dead is true in every situation
@NomsLoots5 ай бұрын
!!! This morning I finally accepted I’m avoidant. I need to work on this.
@shareenlawson26666 ай бұрын
What I know about God for sure is if you open up and be honest with God, He will open up and be honest with you and by His grace He will sustain you in His response if you choose to surrender.. 🙏🏽❤️
@lilvesselp6 ай бұрын
Going on 8yrs, still learning to be more content but the desire is still relevant. Glad I make music💜
@musicgal98306 ай бұрын
Im sick and tired of idiots acting like struggling with singleness is out of the ordinary. Like they are above that feeling. Only self righteous people who haven’t been single very much tend to brush over it as if people should just ‘get over it so easily.'
@miriamamwayi44546 ай бұрын
It's a rough and a hard place to be in especially when you really desire a Kingdom marriage Been listening to @Jerry flowers preaching and he says sometimes it's not that people have lost their faith in God People are tired exhausted in waiting for God's timing Tired of being misunderstood Sometimes when it comes to marriage. That longing to have someone is real It's even more realer when you know you don't have another option but to wait.
@rozettajefferson3676 ай бұрын
I love this!! I pray that God meets her where she is and fulfill her in ways that are greater than her understanding 🙏🏾
@briiSkii6 ай бұрын
Man, I wanted to hug her so bad!! Bless her heart 🥹🩷🫂
@cassandragrayes61496 ай бұрын
A Word I needed to hear. I struggle between being honest with God and being grateful for what I have. I feel bad for voicing my frustrations. I am with you sis! I desire a husband NOW but I know everything will work out in God’s perfect timing. Our husbands are coming 🫶🏽
@keenahaveyaseena6 ай бұрын
absolutely love how he was patient with her.
@tamaramichelle43266 ай бұрын
I love David! He was so real and authentic! He embodies the true human experience while living and loving God!
@lataciajackson71006 ай бұрын
I REALLY AND TRULY NEEDED THIS😭 THANK YOU LORD FOR BEING MY EVERYTHING & ALLOWING ME TO SEE THIS VIDEO & HEAR THAT I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE WAITING FOR MY KINGDOM SPOUSE. I STILL BELIEVE & TRUST YOU LORD IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMEN AMEN AMEN 👏❤💪💯
@tpisbrave11356 ай бұрын
The scriptures doesn't tell to wait for Marriage but to choose and choose wisely. Incorrect teaching has cause many women to stay stuck. The other part is if men aren't seeking a wife or desire to be Married , then it will be a long time. I suggest getting out and live life to the full and be at peace.
@chatzwithacupoft20546 ай бұрын
Practical advice
@Maggs36 ай бұрын
Even the men are waiting instead of seeking 😂
@tpisbrave11356 ай бұрын
@Maggs3 He who finds a Wife, finds a good thing. Do they desire or want to be Married? If yes, go out and seek a Wife. Again, you won't find a scripture that says "wait for Marriage" like you're in a waiting room, waiting for someone to come call you.🤷🏾♀️ It is a "Choice" not a commandment. Choose wisely and Marry well.
@lollian27824 ай бұрын
Thank you. I don’t know when waiting on the Lord like Father Christmas became a thing. A lot of people would do better to find and choose someone and get on with it. Also need to decouple purpose in Christ with purposeful marriage because lots of folk are waiting for b before they think they’re entitled to a.
@jasarispe35176 ай бұрын
Sis, thank you for asking the question most of us have. Tim, thank you for the answer we all needed to hear!
@tammyw93096 ай бұрын
Yesssss🙏🏽
@augustdelacreme6 ай бұрын
How he pulled that question out of her is amazing. ❤❤❤it
@lwinston59506 ай бұрын
At this point I don't believe marriage is everyone portion. There are so many ready and willing women still unmarried
@sixteen.candles.46446 ай бұрын
It isn't. Some people are called to singleness despite having the desire to marry. Not all of our desires are from the lord and not every desire he will fulfill as the word says our hearts are deceitful and wicked. Part of me wants to ask if I'll be married or not and if not I want God to remove the desire.
@tiffanyyisrael79896 ай бұрын
Yep
@zandy1303 ай бұрын
God said it not good for a man to be alone Gen 2:18 I believe God planted the desire in us for marriage coz that the only way to multiply His Godly Kingdom Gen 3:16 talks about this desire but the timing belongs to God we need to wait in Him as He teaches us how to handle ourselves in marriage for His purpose not for our selfish reasons...why did He create male and female if it not for marriage....the singleness comes in coz Paul talks about staying as you are bcoz he has seen what was happening some of us can't handle marriage coz we're not Spiritual grown we think it all about me while marriage is about us just like Christ Who came to serve not to be served....
@MadebyMarisJ6 ай бұрын
I love the transparency 😊
@AstilynnC6 ай бұрын
I was baptized for the first time March 17th. I’ve promised to practice discipline to build up my discernment. Last night was difficult because I’ve been pent up. Im so happy this clip was dropped! Perfect timing and I’ll definitely get into Psalms!
@thewomenandmarriagepodcast6 ай бұрын
Astilynn girl I am excited for you! Yes the frustration gets REAL and you just want to scream to the top of your lungs! During this walk we really have to depend on God because we definitely can’t do it by ourselves. Girl I am cheering you on. If you have the desire to live for him that desire can happen!
@davidthomas99316 ай бұрын
I thank God that He moved on my wife to attend this night. I was blessed by the message that the Holy Spirit gave through Tim. Thank you Tim for being obedient and reading Psalm 77. That psalm hit home and got real personal for me. I almost got up to start running! Instead I reacted with a what you heard was a grunt. 😄 I have been going through and coming out for a few mounting years of frustration. God continues to show me that even in my troubles He remains the all that I need. To God be all the glory!!!!!!!!!!!
@callmejobson6 ай бұрын
Not the answer I wanted to hear AND I needed to hear it! Thank you!
@Natori01316 ай бұрын
I feel that girl so much I know I'm young and only 19 but I desire a Godly relationship it's hard when everyone around me is dating and in Godly relationships and even engaged currently it's just difficult at times.
@zj000116 ай бұрын
I can definitely relate and I can appreciate that he didn’t make up an answer for her and said I don’t have the answer to your question and I’m not going to fill in the blank if God didn’t already tell you.
@tammyw93096 ай бұрын
Wow! No one but God put this video on my timeline. Her question to his response about ppl throwing the Jesus glitter is ALL ME. Because God loves me and knows I was not going to talk to anyone about my frustration because of the Jesus glitter, he sent this video. Her braveness HELPED so many women who are waiting on God to send their husband 🙌🏾🙏🏽💜 I was blessed and relieved by his response 😢🙌🏾 if I hear one more Jesus glitter response, IM going to SCREAM 🔊🔊
@taylorangel77006 ай бұрын
been married at 20 yrs old and divorced within less than a yr during the marriag, so i lived a promiscuous lifestyle or sexual immortality afterwards, and guess what? im single still! for almost 2 yrs ive been celibate and im not frustrated at all, nor do i get the urge of craving a man. Im so glad God has allowed me not to feel the urge in wanting one so bad. I see women who feel sad and emotional over this, and im not judging them. I just hope that it doesn't become time-consuming and mentally exhausting to where u r ignoring your Calling on your life. God will provide. My advice is to pray against sexual dreams/lust and do your own deliverance prayers and not to allow yourself to think about craving a husband. If he comes, he'll just come
@ellesaa82906 ай бұрын
Be honestly frustrated about what you ain't getting yet but is God's time and not your time. As much as I understand her frustration there are times you ain't getting it yet because God knows you will choose out of desperation and pain instead of peace and preparation. Amen sis, you'll get him one day! He prays for you too!
@Amahle3616 ай бұрын
What if the husband never comes? Sometimes it never happens, for whatever reason.
@deedee26726 ай бұрын
I really needed to here this I'm so frustrated with alot tired of being alone. So thank you ❤
@A.D-e7n6 ай бұрын
Annnnd !!!!!! Why have I never? Heard your teachings before? Annnnnnnd Hallelujah today has been so amazing that I saw you Interviewing jackie hill perry and now this God is so good.🙌🏾🔥🎺
@wilmaallen98726 ай бұрын
I feel this sister!!!! And I'm 52 yo. Thanks for saying sitting with our feelings with God....
@djuanalovespurity6 ай бұрын
I know how she feels, I’m so happy I met my FAITH with Action & started positioning myself to be found. My husband found me, pursued me, proposed at 9 months & we’ll be married 2 years in two more days!God also blessed us with a beautiful boy who will be a year in May!🎉🩷💍🥰
@Godlywoman886 ай бұрын
How did you position yourself?
@joeclark4eva6 ай бұрын
That frustration is apart of the development of your relationship with God. That's how you transition from an arranged marriage to falling in love. I deal with this as well. I tend to create a callus so that I can get over the problem but he wants to deal with it with you. All so you see the parts of his grace that you haven't seen before.
@NBnNC6 ай бұрын
👏🏾 well said. I’ve lived this out recently
@crystalgraham37176 ай бұрын
I love this response!
@pricillarodriguez78506 ай бұрын
Thank you. I almost skipped this bc singleness isnt my problem im frustrated about. And as a newer believer in a deep season of life, i started reading Job and then Psalms because they are saying all the things that I cant. And not only was this question what i have been struggling with the last few days, with anxiety waking me up and impacting everything I do, your response was the reassurance I needed that Im not the only one who feels this.
@AD-he4tf6 ай бұрын
This is goooodddd. I love how her frustration question was turned to remember how good God Still Is.
@kagisosebudiZA6 ай бұрын
My response to the question is, "she must interrogate why she feels the desperate need to get married?". The Kingdom of God is about His will, let to allow marriage to be His directive not our demand. All the people that are referred to in marriage and stuff, none of them prayed for marriage. Let it be God who directs you to marriage if it is within His will for your life. Stay in the prayer room, fellowship with Him and He will give direction on each and every matter for your life.
@Ylmoore036 ай бұрын
Wow that is exactly how I feel. I'm ready to be chosen and nothing yet. Clearly the one I have chosen is not ready so I have to unchose him.
@skyeblue67516 ай бұрын
I can relate AND I needed to hear that this morning AND I will be reading this scripture AND listening to this mssg again. I am Human! Amen!
@nikamoff58356 ай бұрын
I feel you sis🙏🏽, I’ve been married once for over 10+ years…and for my 2nd time around🙏🏽 I vowed to do it Gods way…..My first and only divorce hurt badly so bad that I was SO READY to recommit to the Lord 🖐🏽🖐🏽
@lollian27824 ай бұрын
And doing it Gods way does not guarantee a happy outcome either. But we make it through. That’s life.
@nikamoff58354 ай бұрын
@@lollian2782 Gods way surely protects us from a lot of things. I’ve seen it for myself in my own life. Life is filled with of ups and downs and it will never be perfect here on earth.
@R5000-f9q27 күн бұрын
Lost my husband 8 years ago to homicide. I have been mostly alone. I fell in love again, but he turned out to be a cheater and a BEATER. Beat me severely. I wonder why, but I have no answers. Please pray for me that someday, God will bring me the man He chooses. TY.
@michaelfaulkner58396 ай бұрын
Wow, that was really good and it was definitely something I needed to hear. I love his realness and mentioning of the psalms, I need to get to reading. God is so gracious and compassionate. He wants to hear our honest thoughts, expressed with respect to His sovereignty yes but Jesus experienced all that we go through and is not without the heart to understand our frustrations. Thank you sir!
@x0Mickey0x6 ай бұрын
Thanks for the courage to ask this question sis I needed this 😅❤
@Pacifica746 ай бұрын
It's been 3 years of intense wilderness for me in this area. I voice my human experience with God and then remember His goodness. I've done this so many times. Venting is relieving until the heaviness settles on me again. It's so hard to go to bed at night with hope that tomorrow might be different only to go to bed the next night knowing it was just a repeat of yesterday. I will be turning 50 next month, and really wonder how long this will go on.
@nicolesoul956 ай бұрын
28 years old and I’m tired of waiting. I’ve been single all my life. Tired of crying. Just tired.
@LucyBall-ox8dc4 ай бұрын
You’re still soooo young! Get out and live life, it’s very short. Travel, see the world, work out and try new activities and clubs/groups! Find your happinesses within yourself.
@krista7003 ай бұрын
This is what I’ve learned. Not only pray, but move, and be still and know that He is God at the same time. Don’t expect something to happen right away when you move. Stay planted. Be consistent and Trust the Lord. God is good. He is also sovereign. If He’s not giving it to you now, it’s for a good reason. He’s protecting you, or there is something else for you to learn. But don’t let that stop you from putting yourself out there at the same time. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Repeat that to yourself. He knows the plans He has for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and future. Jeremiah 29:11. Live a righteous and pure life first and foremost. The same God who created sex, created purity. Matthew 6:33. Be pure outside of marriage and pure inside of marriage. It will give you quicker results. Purity is of body and of the heart. You can be physically puree, but have an impure heart. God did not create you with a spirit of fear, but of love, power, and self-control. Have self control in all areas of your life, it will speed up the process. By speed up, I mean you will be on time and not delayed. Don’t get weary in doing good bc at just the right time you will get a harvest. Stay planted. Serve at church consistently, go to small groups, get involved. Meet people and spark small talk to make new friends. Life is about connection. It will heal your heart
@ketaweathers14966 ай бұрын
Really needed to hear this thank you so much and to the young lady who asked the question, thanks for your honesty sis you certainly aren’t alone ❤️
@trinjuwan44226 ай бұрын
ASAP...once we realize NOT EVERY person wiĺl get married & embrace singlehood, life would be alot more fulfilling. The world is FULL of unsuccessful unions because ppl REFUSE to embrace "A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE" as a single. God's grace is sufficient in ALL areas of life. Marriage is NOT NECESSARY & SHOULD NOT be our goal.
@nappyqueen866 ай бұрын
I agree however, if you want biological children marriage is necessary.
@sixteen.candles.46446 ай бұрын
@nappyqueen86 well then now you have to come to terms with maybe kids aren't in the cards for you. Kids or marriage. Those are things we can't control.
@Godwill34 ай бұрын
@@nappyqueen86 Having kids isnt necessary. So many kids in the foster care system. "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being"
@TarynButler6 ай бұрын
This was so goood, grateful for her vulnerability
@hollywoodcapri6 ай бұрын
Remove the word but when you're standing in faith because it shows doubt. I also believe that you should put action with your faith! Purchase something for your future spouse in faith and make a space for him in your home while you're waiting for him in the natural!
@Amahle3616 ай бұрын
Somethings need to be done when led by the Spirit of God, otherwise we waste our times and we will be resentful to God.
@misstiavv6 ай бұрын
Her gift of vulnerability, is where I am. Lord help andddddddd I too am upset.
@cdavis33266 ай бұрын
This blessed me!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!
@emanipettiford8686 ай бұрын
I needed this. I be holding onto this “good attitude” like I’m trying to out my best foot forward and it looks like a smile on my face even when I’m not feeling like it but then at some point I’m just blah. I feel this rage from bottled up emotions that i didn’t know I had been suppressing and I hadn’t expressed it so then it comes off so bad after holding onto this mature and calm and poised version of myself when I really want to scream
@herro0046 ай бұрын
Hey friend, I have been there. Don't give up. When we apply for jobs, we put in applications in and send out resumes. Put yourself out there and pray that God will guide you as you take steps in faith. But take steps...Exhaust every option, whether it's online and in-person. Do both, that's my only regret. I cared more about how I was supposed to meet my husband rather than exhausting every option God has given us. I met my husband online in 2020 during Covid. Your husband is out there.
@afrofaeries6 ай бұрын
Also, not to feed into delulu land, but you may find your husband when you LEAST expect it. But right now, just focus on God and your relationship with Him. He’s working in the midst, and sometimes we might not always understand His plans, but it’s alllllllllways right at the end of the day 🙏🏾‼️✝️
@Detayledoriented18 күн бұрын
“Everyday ain’t good…God is good… all the time, but not my life”
@lilugidami96576 ай бұрын
I see that you’re a God loving person. He is faithful to bring your man.Hang in there my sister,keep loving your God and worship Him!!
@ellemaela92686 ай бұрын
Made me tear up. Mainly because I fully understand this😢 Aww Tim did well by pushing her to be brutally honest and vulnerable. Necessary chat even if it pertains something other than that.
@soul_dating_6 ай бұрын
Glad I came across this video, I felt that young lady's frustration. I'm in the same boat...
@dariusjones42076 ай бұрын
Being there was the best part! Glad they posted it!
@selenawardlaw26 ай бұрын
Sometimes your soul just needs to cry out!!! Annnnd it’s not hallelujah! Whew!!! 🙌🏾
@brownsugagigi36616 ай бұрын
All I need to know is when is the B-side coming up north?!! I would love to sit in a live taping!!
@sarah_benibo6 ай бұрын
Loved her vulnerability. Love Tim.
@PoSHEmediaglobal6 ай бұрын
Some of us have to reconcile the fact that we may never receive our hearts desires on this side of eternity
@MmeMpolokeng6 ай бұрын
It’s a choice. We have been given full authority
@ALTheFreeMan6 ай бұрын
Facts!!
@raip30736 ай бұрын
Bingo..
@mizzmil6 ай бұрын
God says in His word He gives us the desires of our hearts. He wouldn’t give you that the desire for nothing, especially if it’s in line with the word.
@JesusMyIshi6 ай бұрын
I don’t agree. If you have the desire and the word says it, you will certainly have it. One of the biggest things I had to gain revelation in was my mouth. Words create realms. What are we saying in and out of our prayer closet. ?? The spiritual realm is more alive than this natural what are we speaking? Do you know we could be so close? Yes hope deferred makes the heart sick, but I believe that we can defer to a higher place of faith for what we desire.
@BeeGault6 ай бұрын
I watched this video as I’m traveling cross country it’s about 2:30 in the morning and every woman has the same question. I just found it very interesting tht as you arrive to the end of your response that you had no answer I was literally crossing through Groom, Texas at the cross. it’s like a huge cross that you can view from the highway. synergy and confirmation
@clydejr60656 ай бұрын
Amen woman
@kiesha826 ай бұрын
This is excellent advice on honest prayer Mr. Ross. Thank you 🙏🏽
@Un1corn236 ай бұрын
Where can I watch the full video? I really LOVE the way Pt. Tim is discussing topics!
@Un1corn236 ай бұрын
@chebet125 Thanks a bunch
@brittaneiwayne45196 ай бұрын
Sighs.. I can relate to this woman! Whew!! 😢😅😮 I am beyond tired, weary, frustrated and heavy with my prolonged season of singleness. I have no peace nor happiness. I think it may be time for me to accept that I will never get married and that is not what God has for me. No matter how much I hope, wish, pray, believe in faith, try to get me together. Love has never located me and I'm starting to question my worth and also I just may be a woman who is destined for singleness no matter how much I desire it. It's very frustrating and my heart is so broken and hardened against myself and at God. I don't want to be like this tho! I gotta move on and life my life even without a spouse or kids
@Thyeyekingdomcome6 ай бұрын
I UNDERSTAND! I’m like Lord what else do I have to do, what else do I need to learn. Why all the false starts? Someone comes into my life and just as quick as they come they leave! I’m a single mother, have been her entire 15 years of life. I’ve desired marriage for the wrong reasons initially, but then as I began to learn more about Gods intention for marriage my reasons changed and aligned with Gods. So I’m like Lord I literally want what you want! I feel I’ve made marriage an idol and im asking God to help me want the gift giver more than the gift bc perhaps marriage is not my portion.
@DJ_Ndiks6 ай бұрын
@brittaneiwayne4519 DON'T Give Up GOD Will answer your prayers and fulfills your hearts desire especially if your heart's desire aligns with His words. Consintrate on building yourself up in all other areas of your life. When you least expect it GOD will bring your husband to you.
@sumipillai6 ай бұрын
Same I am struggling and frustrated with this. Been single for far too long!
@deejulien5726 ай бұрын
💯 Thank you for this timely post. 😱
@Neenja76 ай бұрын
This blessed me!
@Emmanuelleroy-s8cАй бұрын
But he’s breaking all the laws of praying and of the Lord…. No Fear, No Worry, No Lack….
@DemonSlayer_ISTJ6 ай бұрын
Are any of you following scripture, praying, fasting and seeking God's heart? Or are you seeking an answer from man?
@RenayWilliams5 ай бұрын
I needed more of this
@abigailgeronimo51566 ай бұрын
AND SOMETIMES ITS NOT HALLELUJAH
@melissaisma62656 ай бұрын
YESSSS! In the almighty Jesus Amen! That part letting your soul cry out.
@__kikiadore6 ай бұрын
This is so helpful 🙏🏾
@rugezajoyeuse56646 ай бұрын
This is how I feel.
@karinawynn4 ай бұрын
It’s his stating he doesn’t have the answer but introducing scripture that it’s ok for us to be frustrated with God. Singleness is my life, i have no memories/experiences of a man choosing me. Romantic gestures, actions and words in alignment, and being the one he thanked God for. 38 years single with no kids and asking God for the desires of my heart but each year that goes by my faith is dwindling. To those who say wait please refrain with that advice. Singleness hurts and it makes you question your purpose frequently.
@PoSHEmediaglobal6 ай бұрын
What do I do with my desire for kids when the clock is ticking
@DJ_Ndiks6 ай бұрын
Good question! Sarah became a mother at 90 years old. GOD promised Abraham that she would be a mother of all nations. But in your case let's hope you won't have kids at 90. Hopefully you will have them much earlier than that even though you feel the clock is ticking. Keep your faith alive. Don't Stop believing GOD for your spouse. You might even meet him tomorrow or maybe next month. Keep believing and trusting GOD. His timing is not ours. ✌🏽
@PoSHEmediaglobal6 ай бұрын
@@DJ_Ndiks having children out of wedlock might be the option for me which is unfortunate cos it will have me cut of from the church and isolated but I literally have friends who can’t have kids now cos they waited for a godly man all their life and he never came
@Kontroversial846 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately, it may not be God's plan for you. Thankfully, He removed my desire for kids, but He never removed my desire for a husband. I got married at 34. And here I am at 39, single again. My husband turned out to be a narcissist. I've given up on finding love. And I don't think I will ever truly be happy. Honestly, what gives me solace is knowing that the world will end soon.
@sixteen.candles.46446 ай бұрын
@PoSHEmediaglobal Girl, DO NOT have kids out of wedlock. Before I wasn't living for God ( still not perfect no) I didn't care if I had kids or not but now that I have 2 it's so important you have a support system beyond family. Also when the baby comes peoples true colors show my mom became more toxic qnd my kids dad proved to be incompetent and a deadbeat( no he had no prior kids so there was no way to know until I had our child) The struggle to pay my bills, keep a roof over me and my kids head and try to go to nursing school ( still debating) is so intense it's literally driving me insane. So please take this as a warning -- don't. .please don't. When you have kids out of wedlock you're on your own even with child support they can pay when they want and it'll take forever to have their checks garnished. It's a struggle when it's out of wedlock my friend married a good man she's a sahm and is able to vacation and be home with her baby and not have to worry. This is how it should be. Being a mom out of wedlock is a struggle I don't wish on anyone.
@sixteen.candles.46446 ай бұрын
@@Kontroversial84Damn you post got really eerie and depressing twds the end.
@greatlyg86206 ай бұрын
There was ALOT not said but I really appreciate as what was said regarding being honest. The word that was not said was transparent. Alot of people in the body ain't. Ofcourse, keeping it at 'it is a journey.' Psalms yeah man. Jesus said some stuff too lol We gata pray for the body. Last note - everyone ain't in the same specific type season - that was missed.
@lovejoy67106 ай бұрын
No answer..💯
@baryl39696 ай бұрын
God brought to me someone I did not pray for, and it has been very painful because what He gave me is not what I would consider the best and I feel so crushed. I started to wonder if this is what it means to live in His will instead of my will. To allow His will through my life for something He wants to use my marriage for that I would not have wanted. Only time will tell why He gave me a Gomer and not a Man of God who is principled.
@Dylan-rs4yx6 ай бұрын
Yeah, I used to be gay but then I gave my life to the Lord and then I had desires to be married to a woman. I wanted it so bad, and it hurt. Even when I told him the hurt, I still don’t feel like anything has happened. Talk about bitterness and frustration of having sexual needs and desires and trying to do it the way you thought he wanted you to do it…. I know God’s all I need, and the only one I need, but in those times it’s really hard to have faith and hope when it just feels like it’s absolutely not his will for your life…. People always say, “tell him the desires of your heart.” But when I do, I feel pain more… it hurts worse because the prayer isn’t answered. Gods good. God is good. And he loves me, I know that. I’m just tired of hoping for it, you know?
@Foodphillic6 ай бұрын
It frustrates me when people say God is all I need. It’s just not true. Adam lived in God’s presence and yet He said it’s not good for Adam to be alone and formed for him a partner, another human. We NEED companionship besides God. With that said, while waiting on God, we have to put ourselves out there and also work on our social and communication skills.
@BABUIL256 ай бұрын
That was Beautiful! ❤🕊️🙏
@jamanlock46896 ай бұрын
Man, Tim, U are a sho'nuff Voice to/for the Masses! Love U Brotha!😏😌