10 things i wish i knew in my 20`s | mistakes you make in your twenties

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

So what are the mistakes you made in your twenties that you learnt from..lessons that you learnt!!!.also do share subjects that you would like to be discussed here...pls leave your thoughts ❤️

[@AKHIAKKU]

Still in twenties mam..so still counting 😋

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

@@AKHIAKKU good ...so can start counting already😀

[@sujas6259]

Hi Dhanya.. in my 20’s I was a bit more brave and confident.. Now in my 30’s I feel I am overthinking and anxious.. What I learned is that there are a lot of things which get solved by itself.. we don’t have to find out solutions for each and every problem.. letting things go is the best thing we can do..

[@sharikathejus6920]

Pls discuss about domestic violence.. its quite important as it could help suffering women out there

[@dr.lakshmimenon7477]

ur FAN.....I wish I had known the value of being happy....lead a stress free life with inner peace.....and mainly about being healthy and doing excercise

[@abinlalu1997]

We want our HAPPINESS PROJECT back👍

[@varunraj9762]

👍

[@gauthamm.s8685]

Summary 1. Stop worrying, start living - 0:39 2. Don't try so hard to fit in and don't try too hard to be different; just try hard to be you - 0:55 3. Slow down and enjoy life- 1:34 4. Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people- 2:13 5. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations and you are not in this world to live up to mine- 3:42 6. Do not save what is left after spending but spend what is left after saving - 4:29 7. If you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new Hello - 5:25 8. Settling is the art of taking the easy way out - 6:08 9. Communication is only effective when we do it in a way that is meaningful to the recipients, but not ourselves- 7:23 10. Chemistry is not the same as compatibility - 8:32 BONUS TIP - Do your duty without getting attached to the results 😇❤️PEACE❤️😇

[@athirak914]

Aww.... thanks for saving my time❤️😭

[@rajkirancm4882]

5 Bruce Lee

[@taznimsageer7904]

Kudos👏

[@ameendv6186]

You’ve reduced her views 🤨

[@sayishkr]

@@athirak914 laziness at its peak

[@madhav5352]

23 and starting from zero....needed this

[@reshmim7447]

I am 31 unmarried jobless and all my friends are married with or without jobs...but comparing doesnt work.. everybody has their own share of difficulties and happiness..i have my own pace and am positive

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Am so glad that you could find your own path

[@Ash-ct8ph]

Well you know what ...good things come to those who wait ..I just hope you are patient enough :) ..cheers

[@LawMalayalam]

I am 36 unmarried

[@jayashreeshreedharan7853]

It's always good to marry late better than marrying a wrong❌ person now you are more matured and more happier than becoming a frustrated marrying a wrong mismatch partner

[@AKHIAKKU]

Automatically clicked on that Like button within the first 5 secs..😊

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

That's amazing...am so glad..thank you..pls do share and support

[@anaghadevi6727]

Akhil vm , Correct😃

[@sanoobt5097]

Metoo

[@nithyavb8914]

Me too..

[@salmaanver9972]

Me too 🥰

[@abhijithms2976]

ഞാൻ കരുതിയത് ഇത് എനിക്ക് മാത്രം ഉണ്ടാകുന്ന പ്രശ്നങ്ങൾ ആണെന്നാണ് video കണ്ടപ്പോ ആ തോന്നൽ മാറി ഒരു relif vannapole thnx chechi 😍

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Am so glad

[@americanbookdragon]

Heck I'm 31 years old and I need this advice.

[@Yoongisonlywife]

i needed to hear this so badly. I'm in late 20s feeling stuck in life and career going nowhere .I hope I get a direction soon

[@jenna23967]

Soon you will..💕

[@aziyanasar894]

I am in my 20 s. Marriage karyam paranjth is somewhat perfect. Parents polum vicharikunath,I should get married soon ennan. But am preparing for some serious exams, I am only 23,i have got so many things to do.. So many dreams. I am not even financially independent. The only thing that gives me peace is, corona ayond ipo kalyanm onum set avulla😅. Athan aake ulla kachithurumb.kalynm enna vakkinod thanne ipo oru pediyan.Kalyanm modakkitanelm njn nte swapnagal nediyeduthathin sheshm matre oru "settled" life lekk pokullu.✌Thankyou dhanya maam.

[@ananhedonic5689]

Same story here😊

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Yes it is tough to withstand the pressure..but keep going strong..love

[@general123ist]

99%people think the same lol

[@gaanasree7042]

Same situation going onnnn

[@farsanasidqredmaple2737]

Just 23 Married Baby is 10 month old now.. I jst dont knw wot to do nxt.. Want to study further.. want to work.. More than that i need tym to live as i used to be.. i dnt read anymore.. i dont paint anymore.. i dont do crafts anymore.. All i do is house work, take care of baby.. do well with inlaws😔

[@meerakv7290]

❤️ from a girl who just stepped into her twenties!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Hehe...am glad that you could relate

[@KarunaKumarCh]

Really... I'm in 2020 with 20. fresher morever... Everything you said in this video make me so sense.. Thank you..

[@AZ-vy2kc]

Thank you chachi I'm in 24 and feeling worry about job . Im Facing pressured situation im sure this video is really helpfull to everyone .💕

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

I really hope so..

[@naveenkr5992]

Sadly dating is not a thing for Kerala mostly.

[@sreehari3127]

Saadhanam kayyilundo

[@anujoseph_10]

Not only kerala. Dating isn't an Indian thing. Its alien to us. Ugh..

[@pancyn5914]

Dating has never been alien in Kerala/India, it’s been there for decades& decades ! Living together isn’t welcome but still happening.....among Indians. Dating & Living together is different. Couple may live together without having sex which may not be the case always still happens especially in western world ( eg Guy Sebastain & a few Celebrities) Whoever says Dating isn’t there, I would say you don’t understand what “Dating “ is 😀 Premarital Sex was & is forbidden in India, true ( still happens) But brothers & sisters Dating isn’t forbidden or alien ( heavens sake) Please understand the true meaning of these terms Friendship Crush Celibacy/Virginity Love Dating Courtship/Relationship/ Commitment Engage/ Engaged Marriage / Living together 10th Wedding anniversary of a couple who’v dated for 5 years isn’t come under “ Celebrations of 10 years of togetherness “ ( refers Facebook posts 😜🤷‍♀️😂) It should be “ 15 years of Togetherness or else 10th Wedding Anniversary ( both are not same) For those couple married for 10 years after came to know each other through a someone/ matrimonial ad & married after 3-6 months , comes under “Togetherness for 10 years or 10thWedding anniversary “ ( both are same in this) Hope those who read this will check their Facebook status before you post another caption in its true sense , peace ✌️ One more thing in western world, Bedrooms haven’t even have a latch ( forget about locks) except for Master bedroom ( for safe keeping of jewels etc ) no one enters a flat mates/ other’s bedroom ( simple) ....how many years we have to wait to happen such situation in Kerala/ India?? A very long road to travel ........ so forget about other’s ( including stars’ ) personal lives, let us educate ourselves and our children 😎

[@harigovind1757]

@@sreehari3127 sathanam kailundee

[@godwinmj1758]

Sadanam kayyilund

[@Norwaycar]

I approve to all the points you said. I was constantly comparing me to other people and always felt discouraged. I came to a realization that when you compare youself to others , you restrict yourself.

[@gokulkbaburaj2414]

Iam just 20. I felt too bored. Also felt like a void in my life. So I started a meme page in insta last month and it has 12k followers now. And I could keep myself busy and engaged. Also I could learn perspective of different ppl. And.. yeah that's it.😌

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

That's wonderful

[@Liniyafrancis]

I'm 25 and I'm totally confused as well as worried about my future. Then I decided to start with a new KZbin channel in English 🤭. Though there is not much subscribers,it helps me to get engaged and to get rid of that tedium of stereotype days ✌️

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Keep going..good luck

[@Liniyafrancis]

@@iamwithdhanyavarma owww Thank you so much That means a lot for me 🙂

[@capricorn829]

I cried bitterly, when my friends got placed,me who was studying medicine was nowhere at that time,but later my father gave a talk like this. That changed my outlook towards life. Thank you mam keep inspiring us♥️

[@vishnujayan3621]

😊

[@girikrishnan5532]

I am 16 now and this was Like taking lessons for the future.

[@ajayvarghese1019]

Good for you buddy!!!!!!

[@ishithakumar6045]

I am 25 and i am stuck in my past mistakes which i have done during my 19-20, which is trying to make myself hate . But yes, that mistakes made me a better human now. But those mistakes stabs me everyday .

[@shikhas2716]

Move on,you have a whole life ahead

[@kavyapradeep637]

I'm 18 and I'm sure that this video is going to have an impact on my life at some or the other point in my 20s...Thank you for sharing this Ma'am.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Am glad that you liked it...

[@athirah1619]

This video is still important in your 18s....

[@sreerajsiva5816]

Some points even if you know in your 20's, you will not understand at that time of point. There's a simple solution for this, just imagine you are now in your 20's. I have actually understood the financial education in personal life during lockdown days. I too never think of savings. That time i also wished if i could know when I was in 20's

[@soumathew1698]

What makes you different from others is that you make your points clear elegantly at the same time gracefully.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much...pls do share with your friends and family

[@vishnupp3200]

Keep the style of talking. You always thts great.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much

[@freetalksbyradhiiyer]

Thank you ma'am sharing mistake of 20's happened bcz I m in the stage 20's..I especially agree to the statement of pressure of marriage✨✨🥰🥰

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

I hope that you have strength to lead the life you dream of

[@deepthijomon5613]

I think what you worked through the 20's and 30's.. make U the present U.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Yes it is true...thank you..pls do share and support

[@pedestrian.101]

And the thing is when u admit ur mistakes that had in ur life it wonders me how u overcome those nd fulfil ur goal.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Long story :)

[@simikalathoor2879]

True. When we look back, 20s is a bad phase of life. Don't know why it is designed so for all.

[@aminanazeer6864]

Iam now in my 20's and only now Iam realising that Iam living in a cocoon..My family is strict and so religious that I felt that this is the way to live.But now I realised these things and Iam still trying to figure out things😇

[@hasna9392]

I am 32...single, financially independent...enjoying ma life with loved ones....

[@shaheenhijaz7204]

Was Living my 20s with 70% of similar situations but not anymore ... Thanks to you 😁

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks.. pls share with your friends

[@amalprakashcj]

Ithile ella pointum Njan work cheyyendirikkunnu 😅. Thanks Chechi

[@sharontreesa7336]

Slow down& living in the present...wow

[@balupillai9459]

Can relate to every point you made.In my 40s now.Never to late to try guess!!!.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks ...am glad that you could relate to this video

[@ameenakharis]

Wow. That was a really inspiring video. I could relate to every point. I am 27, married and jobless. I resigned my previous job due to personal reasons. I have regretted that decision since then. I keep pressurizing and blaming myself for my current situation. The things you mentioned are really consoling.

[@inSearchOfZen392]

Point #4 and 5 is applicable even after 20.. thanks for that

[@classic.blossom2664]

HI DHANYA JI, You said it.... Life have different things to offer... The majority of INDIAN population linguistic socially, economically & educationally.... You are emphasising about you & your kind.... YOU never came across catastrophic struggling lives which many amidst us.....

[@MALAYALIda89]

Thanks ma'am 😇 I wish this video is really helpfull to 20s people . Im in 20s facing pressured situation and worried about job in this pandemic situation. Lot of people are unemployed in this current situation.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Yes it is a very tough situation...hope you use this time to learn some new skills

[@MALAYALIda89]

@@iamwithdhanyavarma thank you You too ma'am Stay blessed

[@indhu9878]

Dhanya I came to know about you while searching KZbin I happened to c Ur happiness project in Kappa TV. I watched almost all. It was really beautiful .U anchored it very well.. I HV no words to describe Ur way of presentation Ur proficiency in language...it's so nice to listen to you .you are actually a source of positive energy fr me who is in my fortys.love you dhanya❤️❤️

[@lgr28]

I needed to hear this so bad...I am 22, fresh out of college with a lot of options and no real direction. My final exams are still pending and I am in a limbo with anxiety for company. Every day is so hard, especially since I am sitting at home uncertain of my future

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Keep learning something new..there are so many online classes....trust me it works

[@VCBOOKSofficial]

Dhanya mam... More than 20.i'm worried about my college life... please describe about it like this.

[@gayathric2003]

Sathyam parayallo maam..njn innale anu videos kandath ....appol thanne subscribum cheythu..atrak useful anenn thoni..munp njn kandirunu happiness projectil appo thott sraddichu enth bangi aya samsarikkanenn...pinne innale anu videos kandath....oru pad useful anu videos ..keep going maam😍

[@RineshAndrews]

നന്മയുടേയും ഐശ്വര്യത്തിന്‍റേയും ഓണാശംസകൾ

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Happy onam to you too

[@sreelakshmis781]

Loved the 5th one

[@meenueldo]

Mam... I am on my 20...and i known about so many facts that i was done as mistakes.. Thanku a lot mam for this message☺️

[@josephgeorgec]

Great points!. Not all, but some or many were applicable for me too. The key learning I took from your thoughts is "life has to offer different things for different people." !

[@remyavipin7827]

Hi Dhanya, I totally align with your thoughts here..I have had my fair bit of struggle in the rat race, and wish I knew these earlier..but looking back am happy where I am..it is the best to learn from failures..so in one way I am glad I didn’t get these in a capsule, rather learnt it from my own experience..thank you for sharing these tips!!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks for writing in.i am glad that you could relate to it

[@AswathKNalin]

All those mistakes i have done in my early 20s now i realised at my mid 20s myself by analysing each and every day activities. Well this video will help my friends who are not taking caring of themselves while rushing for a sustainable future which never going to happen.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Keep going strong❤️

[@magnusvalentine4631]

I had been working for about two and half years and the people around me started advising me on settling down. And I resigned...🙂Changed my number to put an end to the blether I had to listen to. I don't know if this escapism can logically be justified..Have been reading books for the last five months... Started working on my first book...am happy now...🙂

[@anilabalagopal3409]

This is today's morning vibe for me..I can relate to each and every point u said.and yeah..some obviously to be followed in entire life too.. Happy to hear from you. Smiles love hugs from heart ❤️

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Am so glad that this vdo resonates with you ❤️

[@preethagopinath4070]

How can anyone not like your videos.. You are such an inspiration.. God bless you 🙏

[@Pillai_Ammu]

Thanx for sharing ur experiences ma'am....this is what I actually needed.....a good mentor to guide us through their life lessons.....Hats off!!!!!And love u a lot....😘😘😘😘

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Loads of love to you too❤️

[@allanbabu119]

The most important think guys note it down most important never spend all of ur money and there is never settling down in life. But Mam conved through this video is very important if you learn it now your life want be tough.

[@antler1566]

I'm 19...and I'm happy to find it now. Even my parents didn't told me about these things❤️.

[@sreelekshmichithrabhanu6298]

So truee...glad I am here too ❤️

[@HappyHomeDiaries]

If you are brave enought to tell Goodbye, life will reward you a new Hello - loved it !

[@Milestogo_by_Ashwin]

The title of this video is soo soo soo wrong. These are not the mistakes one makes just in their twenties, these are the mistakes people are making in their 20's, 30's, 40's and in 50's as well. I am sure I am doing a lot of these even now and I am in my mid 30's !! Kudos for making an Excellent video. This is for people of all ages !! Btw happiness project was a very lovely program . Thoroughly enjoyed watching it though I never got around to comment there.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Haha...true..we do end up repeatedly making them later too

[@sruthivenugopal6669]

I have a habit of writing random quotes and sticking it on the wall adjacent to my study table. Motivational quotes or something which pulls me up when I am down. New addition to it from this video 'If you are brave enough to tell GOODBYE, life will reward you with a new HELLO!' 😊thank you for this!! From, A girl from her early 20s who could relate to every single word of yours!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Really am so glad...I really had to back a decade to dig out all those thoughts..thank you..do share with your friends

[@Anjali-jt3zm]

Oohh...!! Mee toooo

[@blezy1233]

Me toooo ♥️😍

[@ushajoseph2069]

🥰🥰🥰

[@vinuthomas4840]

Sharing some experience... 1. Early savings is important; youngsters, please take note and ensure you save 1/3rd of what you get. You will have financial freedom in 20 years. 2. Settling early will have advantages later in life - you will be still earning during higher education, marriages of children. Settling down 3 to 5 years early will make huge difference later Acquire skills and improve it through life long learning. One will continue to earn to meet demands later in life.

[@lakshmyminnu3253]

I'm in my 20's. Thank u ma'am for ur words. You are one of the best women.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks for your kind words...keep going ❤️

[@gulammuhammed4922]

Its the perfect time for me. I am just stepped into the twenties. And After watching this. I have to do so much work on myself. But now I am feeling much better . Thankyou

[@kgnair43]

A very good advice to the youngsters. I will certainly share your views with my grandchildren. Thanks

[@seenareji1318]

Haii danya🎻🎻🎻my favorite program ❤️❤️❤️❤️..... Happiness project & adiyettan 's.. Library of happiness 👍

[@swethasangeeth8073]

Hello madam...hope u r dng well...was jst abt to put a msg regarding a book when I found this video ..and guess what...the book I was GNG to tell u abt speaks exactly the same things... Iam in my early 30s...and leading a happy home maker's life. And last year during the lockdown, I happened to read Jane Eyre and felt guilty for not having read it earlier,before 20s. That book just speaks how every woman should face this world. Iam sure you wud HV dfntly read the book. So much of inspiration and strength I got from that book, I was almost hung over it for over a month. Male or female.... everyone must read the full version of the book before we are all out in the world. Please put a video on the book. Iam sure it will inspire and influence a whole lot f people in the best way. Thank you 😊❤️

[@advaitkrishna5726]

Slowed down my swipe speed and found this. Glad 🙏🏼❤️

[@sarath_pn]

Well said! Expectations hurts..! ❤️

[@sreelakshmi8586]

Thankyou maam. These 10 things make a lot of sense. Will keep these in mind. just entered 20s and its already hard, worse than teenage. But its enjoyable too with a new found freedom and wider opportunities.

[@vijilakshmanan97]

5th one.. know what that means. I learnt it from experience 🙂🙂

[@ardramenon9797]

End of the day .. all you should have is PEACEFULNESS

[@memories9754]

Mam.. happiness projectil supriya Menon prithviraj ne kondu varuvo

[@sminuchacko1589]

I'm on the way to 30's but there is nothing change in things you have said about twenty.🙃

[@keethukuku6580]

Can you make a video on wise decisions you made in your twenties?

[@amalprakash43]

Your words are really influencive ..I realize that it ivolved from a hard work.. hats off...

[@milantharakan]

Thank you Chechi, especially for that bonus tip. 😊 🍀

[@vinireads]

I have the same painting that you have on the wall. Such a good video and message! :)

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much..do share the video if you like it

[@parvathiarun9461]

It's so nice you talked about this , I'm starting to relate many of these points 🙌

[@sharlinjose6713]

Loads of positivity! Each one was a golden lesson. Thankyou so much

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much

[@ayswaryars285]

👍Good one Dhanya.. Sharing this now

[@varsharaj5223]

#4 hit me hard!!

[@preethimathew6541]

Ty for this video...we needed this.....good work dhanya

[@rabindraram3748]

I have gone through the videos of many KZbinr but when I listen to your videos, I feel my English is enriched.

[@rabindraram3748]

It should be "many KZbinrs."

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much..do share with your friends

[@DeepuAmalan]

Oh... she went all my mistakes and more of my life story....thankfully it's a great message...thank you Dhanya madame

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Hey...I hope the points are useful to you ❤️

[@DeepuAmalan]

@@iamwithdhanyavarma sure... it is useful madame

[@Salma.Nizar_M]

Loved the bonus point very much. It's a huge mistake done in 20s. Was a very good video

[@akashkris]

This info may take years to come to know.. thanks for sharing

[@ahan007]

Simple but humble speech

[@dipan246]

Superb thoughts mam...keep sharing.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much.pls do share with your friends

[@sudhakaranps5360]

I'm a doctor but I don't want to continue it....what shall I do...I wish to change my profession....but I'm feared of the society blaming me for quitting a creamy level job😐😐 Do anyone hav any suggestion for this🙄 Anyways...this video n content is just awesome 👌

[@trdevika009]

Do things in life that makes you happy.. 😊 dont bother about anything else

[@ananthithamn7210]

Y?

[@yatheeshc1512]

Very valuable & useful for 20's........ (I'm in 40's now )

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

I am glad that you are able to relate to it.. thanks

[@vijim.r5130]

Nice. We all want thru this.

[@girijaanilkumar7323]

Nice 👍. Almost a flasback of my past.

[@agginmariajames]

I do not understand why getting married is equated to settling down. I am 25, married and doing my master's degree. I don't think I have settled down, I am still roaming around and exploring my options in life and don't think I will be settling down any time soon (even after having kids). I have friends who are married and have kids and still haven't really settled down in life. I don't think we should fear getting married, what we should fear is getting into a marriage that will force us to settle down in life.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

There is never a settling down in life..m

[@anaghakp3531]

Thanku for sharing ur thoughts ma'am, that was truly inspiring. I always look forward to your videos❤️

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Am so glad ❤️

[@aswathyvasudevanvs6205]

Thank you mam for sharing the ideas ❤️I am in second half and could relate all. Life seems really meaning after I chose to not compared, not to rush and not to settle down soon. Waiting for next video.❤️

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks you agree.there is no need to rush through life :)

[@nisharaghunath2700]

Hi Dhanya, Beautiful talk which I could relate to. Thank you so much.

[@vigneshbvsv]

I usually do not comment in any of youtube videos. But your inspiring talk made me comment on this. Thank you so much Maam for your eye opening words even the bonus tip too!!!...

[@shaanmohammedks3581]

You're so inspiring, Dhanya Chechy.. 😍😍🤗

[@mothigeorge]

Absolutely a waste of time, Dhanya. People in their twenties has an addiction to learn from their own experiences. But seeing your video, I smiled...smiled at the familiar feelings.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Glad that you could relate to it

[@deepakvincent]

Hi ma'am... Have you thought of starting a podcast? I think you will be good at it

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Yes...plan to .. thanks for the support

[@krishnaveni9549]

Dhanya you really explain practical things which is relevant for our happiness. God bless you.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much..do share with your friends

[@shadesofcalm3623]

One day..some day im going to come on the Happiness Project.

[@gayathriganesh9618]

Someone should interview you... I'm totally surprised. I never knew you were this talented. Of course I enjoyed the shows where you were the host and I loved your communication skills and all. But as my focus was always on the guests it's only now I come to know that you are gem!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls follow me on my fb page n instagram..just have two interviews uploaded... please do watch.. thanks so much

[@gayathriganesh9618]

@@iamwithdhanyavarma , Sure ma'am 😍