If I Were Single and Starting Over, THIS Is What I Would Do

[@thematthewhussey]

Thank you so much to everyone who joined us for the Love Life Reset. Tell me what you thought of the event in the comments, I'll be reading them! P.S. Don't forget, you can pre-order your physical copy of Love Life and claim your FREE Love Life Toolkit before time runs out by heading over to LoveLifeRoadmap.com now

[@annaholden2406]

Thank you for doing this 💜

[@sonya5464]

I am SO touched by your words today. It's like you just read my mind out loud and know exactly how I feel in my love life. You really understand our collective pain and offered practical solutions as well as the much needed love and encouragement!! I'm so thankful that God brought you to my attention to help me and give me a reason to believe. This event is both therapeutic(better than therapy. to me)and extremely helpful! It was my lunchtime so I couldn't finish watching it but I watched the rest afterwork and bought the book right away! You are my love life hero and angel this year for sure! Thank you and I can't wait to learn more from you! PS. Already listening to your existing audio book and getting enlightened in my car constantly!! Thank you Matthew you are the BEST and you made my YEAR(not just my day haha)!

[@李李李-d4r]

1.5 h talk. Just awesome ! Inspiring. Watching it before bed and now waking up. I am trying to order the book now And Greetings from Taiwan 🇹🇼

[@becalmmandmotivated]

Hi Matthew, I am about to pre-order your Love Life e-book since physical book isn’t available in S.Korea🇰🇷. I’ve been healed a lot from my 6yr relationship break-up by watching your videos and internally learned from them! Can wait to read and learn from the book:) Thank you!

[@pamelamercer6867]

I do

[@ryushizu17]

7:57 1) Create a new story: break away from your limiting beliefs 28:44 2) Get clear on what kind of love is worth having 39:34 3) Control what you can: look after yourself and make yourself feel good/confident 1:05:14 4) Expand your world and design your year for finding your person 1:14:30 5) Get honest with yourself

[@tinyelephant77]

Thank you.

[@fionam3735]

Thank you x

[@msliltrinity]

Thank you so much! I’m still going to watch the whole thing but am glad to have timestamps to go back to .

[@ryushizu17]

@@msliltrinity you're welcome! I love having timestamps because it just makes navigating much easier haha

[@andreio3426]

❤❤❤ THANK YOU SO MUCH!

[@theresagarza1578]

My sister always says "if you don't want me, I don't want you." I kept that in the back of my head while dating.

[@leegalloway9508]

Good point! my sister says good looking men know they're good looking and take advantage of it just to see how many women they can get to boost their ego. I don't even know if good looking men are interested in a relationship or even sex anymore. I could have a half dozen men tomorrow , but they wouldn't be anywhere near what i would want in a man. old ,fat, bald men think they are able to get 35 yr old sexy women and think you aren't good enough. lol

[@lindakitten2481]

I’m 66, met and married someone I met on Match. It took a few years of work on myself, listening to lots of audios and wading through the work of online dating. Yes there are a lot of frogs out there but it was worth all of the work. I was single for 7 years.

[@OM-1111]

I love this. I'm very happy for you ❤❤❤❤

[@fionam3735]

Single six but I have two young children however this gives me hope

[@carolshannon6449]

I appreciate your sharing this, I'm encouraged!

[@ck9411]

❤

[@lindakitten2481]

I listened to Matthew and several other coaches. The book Attached explained my attachment style of being anxious and attracted to narcissists. I knew I found the right guy when I was able to be myself, wasn’t triggered and he was everything Mathew teaches to look for. We are a great match and get along better than anyone I’ve ever known. The over the top chemistry I was always drawn to, was my misinterpretation of what real love was. Listen to as much as possible, read Attached and Matthew’s new book, which I’m ordering even though I don’t need it anymore. Information is great to share♥️ Love to you all on your journey!

[@Millerscrossing123]

Matthew, I had to leave to see my 17 year old son receive science honors at his high school, I’ve raised him alone for 17 years, his mother left when he was an infant and I’ve done it all alone…with him….i got the prize and I now see him becoming a beautiful soul. I now have the daunting task of trying to now have a love life. You’re amazing, thank you for what you do. I’m watching this now in full

[@thematthewhussey]

So glad you are here. Sounds like you’ve done an amazing job with your son. Congratulations to him! Now let’s help you find the love you want ❤

[@Millerscrossing123]

@@thematthewhussey Matt, if you google “Walter Eisenhardt” you’ll see a few stories about us, the most recent “one of Bellmore’s oldest houses is now fully restored, The Charles A. Frisch house”. My sanity project through the custody battle, 911 cancer and so much more. I waited so long to poke my head out and find love and I had a terrible experience with a woman who lied, cheated, and verbally abused me. I refuse to give up as I’m a fighter, I won’t be defined by what happened. You need to know that you are the one true sane voice out there and it shows that you really want to help, you’ve gotten me through some very rough times, thank you. You are an inspiration

[@bumblebee_ms]

@Millerscrossing - That is impressive, I have goosepimples from your story.

[@Millerscrossing123]

@@bumblebee_ms thank you

[@renaarmstrong2838]

God bless you for being that Dad!!!!

[@JustKleem]

I found my person because of the lessons of Matthew and Im still watching his vids. Never give up on yourself ♥ True love is so worth the wait!

[@thematthewhussey]

Amazing! 🙏❤️

[@mandy9288]

How did u meet him?

[@bumblebee_ms]

I want to know as well! 🤣🤣

[@JustKleem]

Hey ladies, via the dating app Hinge. I went for the guy I wouldn't usually date. He was consistent and we went on cute dates and we connected on a soul level first. Never settle for less🙏

[@JustKleem]

Hey ladies, via the dating app Hinge. I went for the guy I wouldn't usually date. He was consistent and we went on cute dates and we connected on a soul level first. Never settle for less🙏

[@lindamedina8709]

I am at 81 and yes you can find love but first you have to give it

[@annaholden2406]

Thank you 🫂

[@lorraineolivera24]

Thank u die sharing that gives me hope at age 61 🙏

[@ll9212]

@lindamedina8709 U also must love yourself & God helps 100%💜💙

[@aprilwilcox5065]

Don't give up because of your age .. I'm 62, been married 3x and I'm still getting attention from men in their 20s, 30s and older....we are all beautiful and with age comes the knowledge to know the difference between what is realistic and what is fantasy

[@李李李-d4r]

Superficial attention as Matthew mentioned?

[@michelleinfo-vlog2449]

No shortage of superficial attention

[@LinnLinnok-fe5tq]

As a 50yo woman, I too still get attention from men in their 20s and early 30s. These men are just looking for what they assume will be easy, “no-strings” sex with and older woman. They are NOT interested in anything more. Some of them may pretend to be interested in more, perhaps because they want financial support also. But they are NOT. Superficial attention is easy to get. Take it as a little confidence boost and use that confidence to help attract the attention of the kind of man who is genuinely interested in a relationship with you in this stage of your life.

[@NtombiBam-pj4rl]

Now that's not fair. I haven't been married once and you marrying all of them 😂

[@sallyhemings2295]

😅

[@JeanneLott]

73! ... full of live and I absolutely believe in LOVE!!!!

[@thematthewhussey]

I love that Jeanne ❤

[@nikkyshamz2696]

👏🏾 amazing

[@annaholden2406]

Thank you for sharing. Just turned 54 and my husband of 17 yrs dumped me via text. 3 months later, I'm still in total shock 😮and fear I'm too old to be desired. 🌹 never losing hope.

[@sallyhemings2295]

😮‍💨

[@sue-annthandy5387]

@@annaholden2406I’m 73! I Normaly swim, sauna free 2/3 times weekly I had knee Surgery May 23 & major Dental implants don’t give up chronic bad back right now

[@theresagarza1578]

My current bf of 6 yrs came to my apt when my sink was overflowing with dirty dishes. I went ahead & owned it bc out of all the daily chores one tries to fit into their busy schedule, I hate doing dishes. I do them when I have time & my back doesn't hurt & I'm wearing something that's ok to get wet/dirty. And that may never change - it's part of the package you get when you get me. He said he likes cleaning. Woohoo! I hit the jackpot!

[@Reteet123]

I was told that I have no value because of my age, by someone I was dating. I’m 53 and I’m beautiful inside and out. Thank you for addressing the “age” issue. I want quality, not quantity.

[@kristilee7006]

Interesting that he would say that but have a date with you if he really felt that way. Maybe he felt like you were superior to him in some way and wanted to notch you down to ease his intimidation.

[@Reteet123]

@@kristilee7006 I was in a relationship with him. That wasn’t the only insult that he bestowed upon me. Perhaps, it did come from an insecure place with him? All I know, is that if you listen to someone long enough, those words can cause some serious damage. He also said to me that no one would want to marry me and that the only men I can get are 65 year olds (I have nothing against older men, he was saying it to be derogatory) and men who would just want to have sex with me. He told me that he was never going to marry me. So, with that being said, I left his house one day, never to speak to him again.

[@kristilee7006]

He was clearly abusive and said things with the intention to destroy your confidence and self-esteem. And he knew where to hit you where it hurts.I dated a guy once and I realize now that he intentionally did the same thing. I am now learning to love, honor and care for myself the way I would like a man to. I believe it starts with us individually, then we can add to that with another person. You did well to remove yourself from that poison.

[@Reteet123]

@@kristilee7006 I agree with you and I am on the same journey you are on. I don’t want to attract those types of men any more, so I am working on myself. Thank you for sharing your experience with me and your kind words. ❤️

[@kristilee7006]

You’re welcome.☺️ We may still attract men like that at some point in our life, but we will value and honor ourselves enough to put up a boundary and protect ourselves from that when it shows up. We are worth that kind of love! I do think that as our self-respect grows, those kind of men will sense the change and will naturally look for easier targets.

[@AngelaS13]

You are so perfectly right when you talk about Instagram or Facebook and that it makes you sad when you see people that post their happy relationships and they’re not really happy

[@theyellowhouse3569]

It’s totally possible to control your algorithm. Just unfollow anything that makes you unhappy or uncomfortable. If I scroll almost everything there is what I want to see. And i unfollow anything I don’t want.

[@librarian8813]

Free up our energy by saying no to nonsense - YES! I have wasted years of my life analysing and explaining away unwanted behaviours from romantic interests or partners. I also struggle with looking older. It's time for me to rewrite my story. I have ordered your book. Couldn't join live - too early in Australia. Thank you so much!

[@thematthewhussey]

Love it! And thank you so much for ordering my new book!

[@christinamarti4441]

The best thing I’ve heard so far is reset your standards if he can’t text you back he’s worthless

[@Patriotgirl1130]

This is already making me teary eyed- bc there are a million truths in this .

[@ayachan7]

1. Write a new story 2. Decide whts important to u 3. Control what u can

[@juliagreear9282]

It’s been 7 years since my husband passed and I’m still single. This is exactly how I feel.

[@sherry4346]

October will be 6 years since I lost my husband and same I’ve been single since then too

[@AnBS3]

Your husband would want you to be happy with someone else. ❤️

[@denturedialogue8983]

Sept makes 9 years for me and haven’t even missed a man:(-

[@gretchenburton7184]

My husband passed 11 years ago. I attracted a man awhile ago who was destructive, fine with being mean, scary.

[@ashleeelizabeth]

So many things you’ve said have spoken to me, you’ve changed my life forever.

[@searching1029]

I was scared of not having kids but I prayed and the lightbulb finally clicked, it’s more important for me to become the mother I want my kid to have and the wife and woman I want to be before having the bonus husband and kid.

[@morganwhite2176]

When some say ‘’I think I’m better alone’’ it’s not always because they’ve been hurt.. sadly is because they genuinely are better alone without a man giving them hassle, sponging off them and being an emotional vampire draining them. It always costs something to be in a relationship, not everyone wants to pay that, especially if they made it on their own already, sad but true 🎉 Love your videos and love you x

[@donnahine9683]

I truly thought I would be in a relationship with a loving, kind man by now. I've been divorced for over 20 years.

[@hannahnajjar9934]

"Your reason to love yourself is that you are YOUR human." Matt, you say a lot of powerful things, but that one, every time I've heard you say it, comes out with a power and beauty unlike anything else. I can't imagine how many lives it's changed. Don't ever stop.

[@sunnienciso9582]

I liked what you said about having a clean apartment for yourself. I purposely keep my bedroom unattractive because I don't want any ONE night stands. I need to set a better understanding and decorate it for me.

[@PattyDelgado-o8r]

You have to love yourself first before anyone can love you ❤️

[@jomatthews5905]

Scarcity breeds desperation

[@proper.role.model.819]

Absolutely!!

[@isabelcoelho513]

But when we are older scarcity of good, available men is the reality

[@bumblebee_ms]

I had decided to give up on dating until I saw more of your videos Matt. I was exhausted from everything you said. You and Audrey are gorgeous together, that's the type of love I want. I get plenty of men flirt with me, but none ask me out.

[@diezuckerbackerin5112]

Yep, I'm 44 and many men are interested in dating me or beeing casual with me, but there's no one who is interested in love. Men in our age are single for a reason. Every man I could possibly be interested in is in a relationship or is avoidant.

[@bumblebee_ms]

@@diezuckerbackerin5112 Exactly, men being avoidant gets us women nowhere. It truly is annoying and exhausting.

[@alice-hp7dh]

​@@diezuckerbackerin5112same here in Italy or maybe worse

[@christopherlamott9351]

That sounds like blame. Blame is its own kind of avoidance. 🙏🏼

[@bumblebee_ms]

@@christopherlamott9351 I tried to avoid your comment but decided instead to address it. I would prefer it if men admit they hate approaching women rather than just dismiss us as "too blamey", the issue is REAL and not something to just be flippant about. This means you are ok if single woman never find love due to never being asked or they should do the only job a man really should do to kick the whole process (I know you didn't say that but it's a bit implied). I still don't get why men do not want women who are actively looking or wanting to date, like what is the point of acting like you don't want to be with a loving man??? I find it hard to fathom men I see in real life that dismiss women altogether. It honestly makes NO sense to me. When a woman has her cab light on it means we're good to go. Time to get to know each other and see if we're a good fit. Who wants to be single forever?

[@catherinebarber6374]

Yes need a new story. Even I AM bored of my story.

[@johannaalexander2009]

Totally Agree, my friend😔

[@fionam3735]

😂 snap

[@brandydanielle6516]

#2 Aka... Do not seek to be validated. Self validation is self love, acceptance, self respect and authenticity to its core ❤

[@AnnaAnna-gp6br]

Married for 15 years, horrible man, horrible divorce. Finally found the absolute love of my life and after 2 and half years he's ended it. Absolutely devastated. And the wrong side of 40. Can't believe it

[@summer6787]

He wasn’t the love of your life then, we are angry that they wasted our youth.

[@alicehirschle630]

So sorry. That happened to you. Stay strong

[@mits619]

He wasn’t the love of your life. Don’t romanticize who you thought he was, rather see him for who he really was. Some people come into our lives for a season, and help us learn something about ourselves. Thank them and move on. Wishing you happiness and health. ❤

[@dianethompson6804]

Hugs to you! He wasn't the love of your life. The love of your life never would have left! You're meant to get someone better!

[@AnnaAnna-gp6br]

@@dianethompson6804 thank you so much

[@she_followsthesun]

My story- Im too old now, I feel like I’ve reached invisible age at 45 and I have chronic illness, so feel unlovable 😢 Recently separated from my ex husband who I was with for over 20yrs.. I’ve decided my self esteem is too low to be trusted to date just yet. Self love year dating myself here I come! 🎉

[@Millerscrossing123]

I am a 911 cancer survivor, anyone I tell, runs away. I am also a single dad and raised my son alone after his abusive mother was taken out of our lives by the courts thank god. He’s 17 now and a national honor society student. You are NOT too old and you sound like a truly beautiful and lovable person to me. God bless you and my heaven shine light upon you, chin up, deep breaths and stay in the game of life, I believe love with find us both again

[@she_followsthesun]

Thank you for your kind response 😭❤️ 🙏 fingers crossed for a good one for both of us! 🤞🙏

[@Millerscrossing123]

@@she_followsthesun yes, I’m with you all the way, where do you live BTW? Want to read a nice story? Google “One of Bellmore’s oldest houses is now full restored, the Charles A. Frisch house” That’s me and my son

[@socol76]

OMG I made a New Year Resolution that this is the year of self love and trauma healing for me ❤

[@she_followsthesun]

@@socol76We got this!!! 🔥Self love year!!🎉🎉🎉I wrote myself a love letter the other week to past me. I bawled like a baby😭 Then I wrote a list of all the things I’d want from a partner.. what words would I want to hear? How would I like them to treat me? What kind of things would I want to do with them? Then I wrote a list of ways I can give some of these things to myself. I’m determined to heal and find happiness by myself so I don’t feel desperate to just have anyone! I’m getting a converted van and going to have adventures and treasure this time. Good luck on your journey ❤

[@spellcop]

It is hard to have to be dating again as a woman in their 50s-60s - true, we're less attractive but it's also hard to look beyond the older man physically. There are, but rare, men that age like wine and continue to be attractive, but they are usually after sweet young things. So it's a very hard task to filter out what the eyes see to find attractiveness in the person within. Whereas, if you grew old with someone, they always remain as the person you knew in their youth, their beauty is retained in your mind's eye and in the knowledge of the person you know.

[@jansherlock5670]

I totally agree I’m a 60 year old lady -and then there’s the slut shaming you get from those who blame you for all your attempts of love failing -they say oh you’ve had so many men you must be abusing love ..no I’ve been abused in love 😢trying to find someone who will love and respect me and not judge me because I’ve had a few more partners than they have is wrong /I’ve learnt about what I want and don’t want -how people hide who they are until they get you to live them then start pulling you apart -if I had not had these failed relationships I would still be attracted to the wrong men ..sadly my last partner who I adored could not get my previous partners out of his head and ruined everything from his thinking -I’m probably the most loyal loving person he could meet but he’s just hell bent on slut shaming my past .

[@olivegoddess1]

This is exactly what I am feeling, too. I have learned the hard way multiple times to not lower my standards, including for how a man treats his body and how well he takes care of himself. It's also how I operate.How we look usually has everything to do with our lifestyle choices. Maybe it sounds harsh, but I'd rather be alone than have to effort to be interested in someone when I feel physically "ew-ed" by his lack of self-discipline or self-care. Maybe my standards are high? Looks aren't everything. But for some of us, including me, there is a degree to which I am unable to gaslight myself. I truly believe there are older men out there that are as into physical, mental, and spiritual health and fitness as I am, AND value maturity in a woman.

[@vikkiweigel2504]

This right HERE!!! They almost ALL have big ole bellies too.

[@caffeinatedcodes]

My story that limits me from finding love is that I already had a deep love and when my wife died and left me to raise our 5 kids alone, many of my friends told me I might not find a love like that again and that I should be grateful I've at least loved and lost. I love her so much that any future prospective partner has to navigate that and accept my children as well. Feels like a pretty tall order.

[@Dmo12618]

In a similar place, my sweet husband passed suddenly leaving me with 2 young kids and a business to run. Your love for your wife is a strength! Any real prospective partner would be open to allowing you to cherish and honour what you had together. Still, you need to be ready to move forward and make room in your heart …and mind. I keep thinking my husband would want me to have someone in my life to love, cherish, partner with. You can’t find a Replacement but maybe a new soul to love! Wishing good things for you! Hopeful for myself. Sometimes feel down about my situation, but hold my head high. Limits are shackles we put on ourselves.

[@johannaalexander2009]

It's sad that the spot in your life for love is already taken by someone who is no longer in your physical world. There are many men like yourself out there hence the shortage of loving individuals... 😔

[@kimberlyf4888]

You're ahead of the game. You were able to meet and attract someone you loved dearly. There are so many people who can't seem to do that at all, but you - you know you have that skill.

[@anitarogers2877]

@codyfraser3850 - I am certain your children, family and friends want you to have a woman to love and be loved by, romantically. I am also certain your wife would want you to have a woman in your life romantically, to love and support each other, as she can't be there for you. A new woman won't be like your wife was, nor would she want to be, but she would be there to share love and life with you and your children. She wouldn't want to be a replacement, substitute mum to them. Any new woman would be unique and special, with her own amazing qualities. Your wife sadly died, but you are still very much alive, with the rest of your life to live yet, and to be happy. Do you - or do you want to live a shadow of a life? When you are ready and have forgiven yourself for any feelings of guilt or regret, you will be open and ready for a new woman and a different romantic love. All the best.

[@mits619]

I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤🙏

[@annetteklamn1898]

I love your enthusiasm and passion! You are doing exactly what you’re supposed to be doing because you’re doing a really good job at it. Thank you from all of us.

[@805buddhabliss]

20 yrs. Single! Started as a choice that now I want a relationship/love! ♥️♥️♥️

[@johannachavarria8719]

Divorced for 18 years and I’m 62 years old and so frustrating trying to find out if I’m ever going to meet anyone

[@alitez960]

Don't give up,its out there

[@lindakitten2481]

It can happen. I married after 7 years. A friend was single 14 years and met his mate who had been single for 20 years. They’re a perfect match and know that it was worth the wait

[@barbaramyers8581]

@@alitez960I swear to god, if I hear this bs line one more time…… “someone being out there” doesn’t do crap for me now.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

You likely won't, or you need to date guys 70-80. It's just reality. Enjoy hobbies.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

​@@barbaramyers8581lol !!! Barbara, you're a funny chick.

[@renaarmstrong2838]

I’m a widow. I don’t want to be alone. I want someone to wake up beside❤

[@johannaalexander2009]

Loneliness is so awful, isn't it? I totally know how you feel. I'm a nice person but attract insincere people with agendas. I need to know how to meet the RIGHT ✅️ people & make some great friendships with like-minded people...

[@virginiastrother4098]

I am too. At the age of 40. With 3 beautiful children

[@sunnienciso9582]

I am too. It is crazy lonely but I accept being lonely but I have high hopes for love.

[@paytimeforREDRUM]

if you find waking up alone is tough know that sleeping with the enemy is worse. Protect your energy and worth....

[@hollyohrvall4025]

Just because women want to look good doesn't mean they base their value on how attractive they are to men. Initial attraction is what opens the door to learning the real important things about a person.

[@ExiledStardust]

But society bases our value on how attractive we are to men, and most of us internalize this.

[@Elle.Energy]

Oh, I wish I would have caught this when it was live! I've been single and excited about dating for a long time. The important thing is that my standards have gone up my boundaries are better but the pool of men that I've had to choose from has been really difficult. They often fake a lot of qualities to hook me But I'm hopeful a good match is out there. I used to tell myself after so many heart breaks that my "soulmate" must have died in a fiery explosive car accident as a teenager because I was never going to find them. Thank you for all you do. I love your work.❤

[@l.butler9110]

My story is work in progress for the best life ❤

[@bvendetta6678]

I totally get your comment about "making ourselves proud". This is part of why I typically attract people who ARE younger than me- because they haven't given up on themselves yet. They engage my fun, and I engage their intellect.

[@lauriegrossman3133]

I’m 64 and my friend keeps going up to guys trying to fix me up. I want someone I could kiss if they are not someone I could kiss , they’re not my type I feel superficial. I want someone who loves me and cares for me and makes me feel accepted and secure, but I want to kiss him too🥰😘

[@christinetestoni3703]

Truth… or I’d rather be alone

[@johannaalexander2009]

Yes... regarding a kiss 💋 Having the ability to kiss is truly an art 🎨 but the attraction to kiss that person presents itself. I truly need that for progression if the communication is, of course, in place in the first instance.

[@ninanieves2183]

👍😍🙏

[@sylviasuwan4735]

It’s not superficial to want someone you want to kiss! It just means you want someone you are attracted to

[@GhazalehGheisari]

You are amazing Mattew, I was hurt by a person that I loved the most, and it was you who helped me to get out of that f*****g addiction

[@Ohspens]

After so many years of following Matt, I am not sure if others feel the same, but I feel like we grew together. The content keeps getting more mature and better as we also get more mature and better. I am here for all the relationship content to keep a happy marriage that will come :D the game doesn’t stop after marriage… it only gets started. Thank you Matthew, we love you!!!

[@HumanityRisingNow]

Your coaching has gotten amazing Matthew compared to years ago. So insightful, so real & realistic and so compassionate. Big kudos to you. You are a big Light in this world, helping so many people.

[@slobodankaarambasic4961]

Was working, could not be there live, but Im here now. ❤

[@thematthewhussey]

Glad you're here now 🙏

[@theresacane6564]

Knowing you suffered chronic pain makes me appreciate your story and work even more. I went through something similar when I turned thirty and had the same story in my mind. I was less attractive, less loveable. Being ill aged me fast. Still struggle with chronic illness but I’m no longer hiding and I’ve learned to walk away from ppl who don’t value me bc I know my worth now. Still working on rewriting that script about attractiveness and placing my power in others hands to validate something so immaterial as looks. Side note, maybe woo woo, but feel like a lot of ppl who struggle with chronic illness/ pain are highly empathetic but don’t know how to put boundaries around this “gift” and take care of themselves FIRST. I see you’re highly intuitive and emotionally astute so I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve got that “gift.”

[@bec.des3]

This is the most real, raw, transparent and heartfelt message I’ve seen from you and I am LIVING for it. I will 100% be buying a book. I ain’t a psychic but you’re giving “I’m gonna be a dad” energy 💞

[@lorraineolivera24]

After awhile U start to lose hope and think to yourself maybe it's just NOT gonna happen 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️😌

[@PaulHuff-qg3qw]

I was married for 23 yrs to the most loving woman. She passed away 4 yrs ago and I feel like you do . Doesn't look very promising out there

[@PaulHuff-qg3qw]

Too bad we haven't met

[@sue-annthandy5387]

@@PaulHuff-qg3qwto bad we never met but I’ve reconciled with an Ex who’s paraplegic wife passed away the House was built for Her,Hoist, Moonsoon Shower,Careers,oxygen,Tubes for everything He adored Her, so I ask “(Her”) Permision for everything in that House we’ve been together from 2019 2 Panademic,lockdowns other stuff keep trying never give up 🙏💗💕❣️😍🥰⁉️

[@sharonoddlyenough]

I might not. Get comfortable with the possibility, and the dropping of desperation anxiety levels might be enough to turn the right heads. Be gentle with yourself

[@LibS71]

"How do I go through my life, making other people brave" ... I just found the motto for the rest of my life.

[@sakuragoyaz938]

Just ordered my precious hard copy of your amazing book. Big thanks to you for loving us, believing in us, inspiring us to change our lives now, before we ever must. All my love to you and beautiful Audrey, from blooming and blossoming Vienna, and lovely beginning of spring season to y’all good feelin folks 🧚🏽‍♀️🧚🏾‍♂️

[@RoseVintage46]

I'm a widow of a 53 marriage. My hubby has been in another life for 3.5 years. I miss his companionship!

[@claradelacruz3740]

I'm watching/listening to this video as I'm working, and feeling so contented. Not because I want to have a romantic relationship with a man, but the realization hits, I can fall in love with the most important person in my life, ME. Matthew spelled it out for me, many many thanks, you are a GOD send! I only have my sister in this world, and she found a man who truly loves her in as much as she loves him. I have two failed relationship, but I still truly believe in love. May not happen for me, but happy for those people who have found it. May you and Audrey be forever in LOVE.

[@rudeboyotg523]

Thank you for all the hard work you put into making these videos. I watched the entire video. I've been following for about 3 years. This was by far my favorite of all the content. I needed to hear this. 🙏

[@juliebrazeau3126]

Thank you sooooo much. I've pre-ordered your book.You can't imagine the wake-up call you gave me today. The part with chronic pain...omg, I fell on you via instagram and the timing is simply unbelievable.

[@terrystewart3692]

I am 68, a widow of 6 years and live alone. I fill my life with my house, my dog, my cats and 3 parakeets. But still alone. Love your workshop today and you’re right, I don’t date or even try as I feel safe being alone. I’ve been married 6 times … making the wrong choices has been my history. I live other people’s lives through social media. I scroll through dating sites but even that is discouraging. So I stop. I am in the process of taking care of myself better as I didn’t care about myself for 6 years. Now, I’ve been diagnosed with diabetes so I’m forced to get in better health. Yes, I do want to find love. In fact I’m going back to my 50th class reunion in September so this is my motivation. I’m already down 10 lbs and starting to tone up … for myself and my health. I do want to find love this year. My years are slowly running out.

[@tiffanyroberts3855]

Keep going

[@christinamarti4441]

There is always someone for everyone open the heart ♥️ smile

[@lauriegrossman3133]

This is what I need to hear just a reminder I am worth it, I do most of the things but I don’t go out with confidence!

[@lindaanderson4990]

Confidence is sexy and empowering!! Just do it! 🎉

[@MsLange-e9g]

Very proud of you for pulling yourself out of the dark place you spoke of on the Greatness podcast. I acknowledge it takes so much courage and energy to address inner patterns and emerge into greater light. No doubt it brought up much pain. Congratulations to you and Audrey, btw. Much success to you, your loved ones & community always. Glad you found your person.

[@amyhoke878]

I was working but just finishing now. I did pre-order the book. Your event was amazing and so helpful. I appreciate how it was about all decades of peoples. Thank you.

[@amnasultan144]

Do you know Where can i put the receipt code to get access to the programs?

[@thematthewhussey]

Hey @@amnasultan144 ! Thank you for joining us for the event. You can redeem your bonuses by confirming your order at LoveLifeRoadmap.com

[@ChristinaMarcondesMorgan]

Unfortunatelly, I could not participate in the live event. and could only watch it today. I am loving the honesty and energy. There is so much truth and depth in what you are saying. Thanks a lot.

[@cypresse1620]

I think this is the best talk I heard from you to date Matt ❤

[@LoraG]

Matthew, first of all, I want to thank you for everything that you're doing to help people with their love life! I've been following you throughout the years, and you've helped me directly and indirectly so many times. I just watched this on replay, and the last part has hit me hard. "You can't love yourself only when you get a gold star!" And this is just what I needed to hear today. Hormones during and right before monthly cycle have been taking over to a dark times and I wasn't happy with myself as I knew what I needed to do to get out of it but as it I didn't had desire, power or just anything so to act on it. Thank you for reminding me that we don't need to be doing anything so we can be loved. Thank you❤❤❤

[@mariacoreoquila8442]

Thank you matthew for uploading this video.what i have in mind now is to try one last shots for ❤️

[@user-dv1nr9bd3z]

Dear Matthew,I suddenly had to stop working because of a health condition too.I am an artist,,was extremely active and now I am homebound a lot and I sometimes feel that no one will ever appear in my life anymore. It is a bit hard sometimes. It is very interesting to put things in perspective and questioning who one is when a job,a career and physical abilities have all changed. It can indeed be an opportunity of "letting it all go,see what stays"as I read somewhere. : ) Thank you very much for embracing the vulnerable path of sharing your story of chronic pain

[@GinWenner-kb5bo]

I pre ordered audible book …love listening on my walks

[@dawnbuchanan3242]

Thank you for the inspiration and advice! I am 55 and been divorced for 13 years. For a long time I told myself I am too independent, too different and thought my value was tied to what I could do for others. Just starting to realize what I deserve and that I am lovable the way I am. I do take good care of myself but also have some fear of getting hurt. I am trying to be more open and create a full life. I know staying home and taking walks by myself isn’t exactly putting myself out there. Part of my story was also that I had kids to take care of and then my father got sick. Kids grown, father passed away. Think it is time to take care of me and allow the space for romantic love in my life. Thank you so much!😊 ❤️

[@singingdustproductions]

I feel like what im truly looking for doesn't exist. Ive been told my standards are too high and i expect too much. "Prince charming doesnt exist, what youre looking for only exists in fairytales" ive been told that i ask for too much.

[@sharonoddlyenough]

You're not asking for too much, too many of us ask for too little and the bar is set in hell

[@Grace-jo3nw]

Mathew is just amazing...not only inspiring but very handsome..😮

[@brandidamore1751]

I love all the wisdom Matthew provides. What saddens me is that - again - people living on or below the poverty line won't be able to buy anything because the legitimate value of a book is necessary to keep your internet (ACP just collapsed), etc. So though the wisdom is we all deserve love, those of us who are desperately poor who cannot spend money on activities etc are going to be perpetually stuck.

[@JeanneLott]

Yes, money is an issue for many but don't let that get in your way. Matthew has so much superb content out there that if you follow him and listen to everything he says, you can continually improve your mindset. LOVE is out there, and when I think it is everywhere except where I am, I get on you-tube and listen to Matthew!

[@brandidamore1751]

@@JeanneLott Yes of course. I watch as much a I can. Yet as he states, he is providing something that you cannot get from those resources. So even though he truly wants to help there is always going to be this gap to those who are less than. Saying that all of us deserve love is hard when all of us cannot be able to lean.

[@brandidamore1751]

Also, women who are poor poor tend to stay in relationships that are not good if outright dangerous because of economics. It would be infinitely helpful to have the tools to feel core confidence to move forward

[@c-p1976]

I feel like life has completely passed me by. I've made SO MANY mistakes! Maybe they can be remedied, who knows. Great talk.

[@karmasutra4774]

Don't regret any of it. They weren't mistakes, they were just a path you took. Lessons that make you who you are

[@annaholden2406]

Story: 54 yo dumped by husband after 17 yrs. Did not see it coming at all. Few months later...still telling same story, "Im too old, tired and afraid to start over again, but i dont want to be alone the last 1/2 of my life."

[@naimam3976]

Dont give up yet darling, 54 is still young enough to enjoy love

[@shelleyoneal1267]

I am 51 and was asked out by a 41 year old! Who would of thought! We are going to a concert!

[@DianeBond-z3b]

Life is still happening and it can be beautiful Matt - you and Audrey are beautiful examples

[@johannaalexander2009]

"Confidence is saying NO to NONSENSE!" "LOVE NEEDS SPACE...PAUSE ...STOP ✋️& HOLD!" "GO SLOW TO GO FAST"

[@creatureofstyle]

This is so true. Even within a relationship. My last boyfriend was giving mixed signals, not being respectful of my time, etc... I knew he had a big crush on my for a few years and was just getting in his own head and sabotaging now that we were actually together so I told him we needed a break and reset and to contact me when he was ready but he decided to ghost instead (and we had been friends for 4 years before we dated so that crushed me). I think he thought I didn't like him anymore because I wanted to take a step back but I just didn't see the point in stubbornly sticking the course we were on. We needed to pause, get some breathing room and perspective so that we could more forward from a better place

[@jodilamirande6316]

Matthew, 612 minute mark really your book came out on April 23rd? You’ve already had my captivating attention but now you really do. I was driving home in Canada and I almost died that day. Not my fault. I’m a walking miracle. I’ve been single as a healthy girl who could run 5K , and now I’m trying not to walk with a cane and I’m trying to date. Love your video! Whether I stay single or whether I find love, I’ll love myself and I’ll stay hopeful

[@simoneyuille8161]

I needed this so much Matt. Perfect timing. Thank you.

[@wjohnson9233]

Yes! This is a wake up call😊 I’ve still got to go a little further to feel proud of myself first. Work on the bod, eat better & feel more energised…. Almost there😊

[@realestatewithlin]

“Get the F off from Instagram “ Amen!! Thanks

[@sanahasnain]

That was personal 😭 … but true

[@sallyhemings2295]

KZbin too? 😅

[@trishataylor2488]

I got off there because I was getting way too many bogus come ons

[@2tonetraining593]

Also loved that comment ......

[@ad_days]

I love everything that you are saying. I just canoot start over any more - a complete burn out. I cannot afford to endure the same pain ever again.

[@NaeK188]

I’m turning 25 in a few months and the fear is real. I already feel like I’m running out of time - it’s ridiculous because I know it’s not true. The story I tell myself is “there won’t be anyone who shares my values and morals” but again, I know that’s not true. Ive preordered the audiobook and looking forward to listening to it on my walks to the gym. This year is my year to lose weight, make new friends, try new things, and travel… i trust God with my love life 💜 and I’ll steward this lonely time well

[@Ghjjft68u]

Hii im also 25 and just got out of a 3 year marriage, we are 7 years together. I feel you, I even feel like I won’t be in a relationship anymore because my husband discarded me

[@lindakitten2481]

My daughter married at 35 and is now having her first and only child at 44. You have plenty of of time!!♥️

[@_NameLess_01]

Im 23 , I’ve just bought the book and I look forward to delving deeper into your philosophies on modern dating culture and how to navigate finding the love of your life in our modern toxic dating environment. As crazy as it may seem to some I’m ready , excited , and looking forward to settling down , starting a family and sharing my life with the person who gets me best and loves me for who I am , not who I may have pretended to be in the past ! watching you has helped me get one step closer to that goal , thank you ! I can’t wait to read the book !

[@TheButtons59]

Hi Matthew, I am a new widow at a young 73! And was married for 38 years. I do not look my age. At the gym 7 days a week and use to do Bodybuillding competitions. Take very good care of myself! I have much younger men flirting. When you are at this age you are looking for different qualities in a man then when I was young. It is harder at this age. Mind, body, and soul! Talk to the widows Matthew starting over. I will buy your book thank you Matthew. Linda

[@PattyDelgado-o8r]

Sorry for your loss. U r treating yourself with love by taking care of yourself. There’s someone for everyone. Try an app for seniors. That is how I met my beau in my mid 50’s and he is in his 60’s. There’s loads of people who want companionship. Good luck my dear.

[@karanolson9026]

I watched the replay today and it really shifted my mindset on relationships and how I approach them. While I've watched many of your videos before, this one really resonated. And I have pre-ordered your work....I am really excited to dive into it when it comes!

[@lovegrenv]

73 too. I’m so much better than I was.

[@李李李-d4r]

Lovely ❤

[@juliaskagfjord6207]

50s, 60s, 70, or 80's....oooop he excluded the 90s ladies watching this and still dating

[@paytimeforREDRUM]

@julia 90s rock!!❤😊 blessings

[@annajoy2306]

sometimes people try but meet rude people that ex rate you, push you down, act toxic, people get ghosted or lied to so i can understand people get scared to feel enough or to get hurt.

[@47high]

My husband fell in love with another woman 6 months ago , we where married foe 10 years, 2 wonderful boys 😢. 💔💔💔😞

[@Ghjjft68u]

I can relate. We were only married for 3 years

[@12MarieAnne]

Good riddance to him. Infortunately you will still have to deal with him because of the kidds but this is your moment actually. Always thank the people who “stab” you in the back as you will admire so so much who you will become. You will love again and you will be loved by someone that is not weak…a real man. Be strong…do not shed tears for a weak link (because this is what he is). You are healthy, you are smart, you are beautiful.

[@diezuckerbackerin5112]

Well, there's never a guarantee for a lasting relationship.

[@arminkisic8666]

My wife left me after 10 we got one kid , You lucky If You have kids by Your side

[@hadiadiza1278]

I love this video that inspired me and make me believe that still there is a chance to get true love. I'm 53 and I hope I get it the love one for my life.

[@DietlindeMinors]

I like the fact that you are so honest and real

[@juleecollins9806]

I am 59 years old, and marriage ended at 34 years old. I seem to attract unavailable emotionally men. I really thought l would have found and attracted the right emotionally available man.

[@nicolabenjamin2661]

Wow my life so far! An horrific and abusive first marriage, two children 6 and 9 when there dad married our child minder. Followed by two even more narcissistic partners that just fed of my sadness and low self worth. I’m so angry with myself for wanting a partner that would love and care for me only to attract those that want to use and hurt me. I’m 49 and my track record is not great. If there is an abuser I’ll find him! And hand them my heart on a plate! 😩

[@ninanieves2183]

I am so happy I discovered you on the school of greatness

[@christinamarti4441]

How can a man that’s not enough of a man to text me back be interesting

[@lavilove5009]

This is some next level stuff. Got some laughs in "no to nonsense" "any person that doesn't think I'm there person; isn't my person " and love the aspect of interesting based on behaviour!❤❤❤.# New story.

[@makeitcount2985]

It's always women doing the work. Meanwhile many men continue to do the bare minimum. I gave up on relationships after quite a few bad experiences.

[@banzaiman1]

I wouldn't say that's always true. Not in my case. My wife of 10 years (we were together for 13) the last 2 maybe 3 years she gave me nothing, very little affection, no intimacy, I wasn't even sure she was still attracted to me however, I loved her unconditionally and ultimately it's me who has been left broken hearted, I pulled away over the years and I felt numb, I didn't want to spend time with her, she felt isolated and unloved and we drifted apart. We could have fixed it, but she started having an affair with a married man. It's been 5 months since we separated and my heart is just smashed to pieces while she carries on with him

[@raquelmachado3142]

Thank you so much for all the precious info and insights 🙏🏽. I've been learning a lot after coming out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist last year and I find really difficult to find a mature and honorable man that will accept me as a full time single mom of 2 kids. Big fan from Azores, Portugal

[@hollamonE]

It makes me sad that so much in the dating world is women having to internalize that they are why this isn't working. Men aren't doing the work on the same level women are in personal development. When you describing your audience in the beginning, I was thinking, yeah, because your audience is women who are trying to be great partners. Many men think they can honestly be abusive and use us for their own gain. All of the women I know are in therapy and doing awesome in every aspect of their lives, other than relationships with men. It is confusing.

[@avEPalanthe]

❤ from Germany. Keep up the good work. Chronically ill myself- that was never a problem in my dating life, bc I accepted it but didn't let that define me as a person. If a decent person get to know you better and begin to like you, the illness will nobody stop to fall in love with you.

[@Millerscrossing123]

Don’t say “men aren’t doing the work” some of us good and decent people are out here doing everything right, trust me there are some hurting awful women out here using us for dinners and jewelry and stepping out with other men a lying to our faces about it, why would we ever want to go back out there having met these heartbreaking heartless malignant narcissists?

[@akosth2275]

Great steps. I’ve done this in parts but it’s really good to consider it all together.

[@johannaalexander2009]

"Building new communities" Do something new which introduces you to new people. Do a social thing that you love. ❤ I used to love aerobics and trained as an instructor. I had that idea 20+ years ago but unfortunately due to a lack of peoples commitment...I let it go. 😔 This post has been amazing because it shows I was on track with my dreams and aspirations but as soon as others are involved, things just don't progress. So maybe I'll go to a different fitness class every week. Thats a great idea. I joined a netball group a few years ago I found they weren't very inclusive despite being friendly. I'm receptive to all different types of people regardless of ethnicity. Unfortunately that isn't often reciprocated so now I don't do anything anymore with no one.

[@iconoclastic-fantastic]

I just started the video and will continue to watch it & add to this as I go. Rn my immediate thought is when talking about the subject of dating (and my lack of success) with other people, some of them (*cough cough* it's always the married ones🙄) tell me "you're putting too much emphasis on aesthetics- try dating people you're not usually attracted to" like okay- that implies 1. I should try dating someone i'm straight up not physically attracted to (wtf kind of advice is that) 2. I should lower my standards-- the thing is I'm quite okay being alone. I don't date someone unless they meet my standards. One of those standards is having mutual attraction be present. I'm not going to waste my time when I know what is attractive to me & what isn't. So, I should settle for mediocre when I'd rather live a life as a single person that is rich in other ways 3. It implies that I can't have everything I want- and no of course I don't expect every single little box to be checked. But mutual attraction is the bare minimum and for some reason I'm being shamed into wanting that to be present. This sentiment is most often told to me by my little sister who just got married- and they are mutually obsessed with each other, mutually love & care for each other, she finds him so handsome & attractive and he finds her to be the most beautiful woman in the world. Like...I should be able to look at my man and feel the same way🙄 But yeah I should try dating ppl I don't find attractive, right. I would rather jump out a window & roll in glass. Because even though my relationships & attempts at dating have not been successful...I do tend to attract really attractive people. I know what I can pull. And she'll be like "Well these 'attractive' ppl don't treat you right so why keep trying" and to that I say- who says there isn't an "attractive person"/person I find attractive that WILL treat me well??? Like by her saying that, she's admitting that she has less faith in that happening than *I* even do & that I should just admit defeat now and settle. Absolutely not lol. Call me shallow all you want, I'd prefer being single over trying to force a connection with someone I am not attracted to. I think that's MORE than reasonable

[@Harken4949]

Regardless of whether or not I’ll be the only one left alone at the party, I’m still gonna party! 🎉 I’m so happy to be a part of seeing my loved ones dreams come true. Love has many facets, we can create it in our lives even if we never obtain a partner. Love is hard even if you’re practicing it alone, or in your community, or with family and friends. Love no matter what! Love like Matthew loves us! 😂Much love to Matthew, Stephen and team who built an empire on compassion. Truly inspirational. 🎉🎉🙏

[@serj1743]

Thank you, your videos are not only helping me to get through a tough phase, but they give me the opportunity to overthink my priorities. Amazing