Relationship Coach Matthew Hussey: "If only women knew this dating lesson sooner!"

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It’s Lisa Bilyeu here with another AMAAAAAZING episode of Women of Impact for you to help you stop wasting time with wrong guys (or gal) and break the cycle that has you stuck in the same broken patterns every single time.
In today’s episode I’m joined again by New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and world-leading dating coach, Matthew Hussey.
And today Matt is here to call out the bad relationship tips out there and instead give you a blueprint to ACTUALLY find love in your life and STOP doing the destructive things that are sending the WRONG message and keeping you in unhappy, and even toxic, relationships!
In this episode, we’re diving into:
- The toxic dating advice out there that’s doing you more harm than good
- How your fear of being alone is keeping you trapped in unhealthy relationships
- Why what attracts a partner doesn’t always attract the RIGHT partner
- Why you constantly invite bad people into your life & how you can break out of the cycle
- How your mind plays tricks on you when it comes to relationships & safety
- How to distinguish between expectations in a partner that will make you happy & those that just feed your ego
- The 4 levels of importance & why they are leading you to waste time investing on the WRONG guy
- How to avoid seeing everything as a red flag after heartbreak
- Why getting vulnerable and sharing your insecurities with your partner is SO important
- The importance of compassion and understanding in a relationship, but too much empathy can actually be dangerous
- The healing powers of the RIGHT relationship
- And so much more!!
So listen closely, this conversion with Matt is filled with SOOOOO many dating insights that you can use right away to make the small changes in your life that will actually make a big difference in your love life and help you find the right partner for you!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🧲 [00:00] Attraction vs. Compatibility
❤️ [16:07] Desire for Love, Trust, and Vulnerability in Relationships
🛡️ [36:51] Giving or Guarding in a Relationship
🤲 [44:43] The Need for Deep Connections
🚩 [1:07:44] Red Flags You’re Looking For
😖 [1:13:39] Fear, Insecurities, & Self-Acceptance
👉 [1:34:47] Bonus Episode: Case Kenny
***Bonus Episode: Never Settle with Case Kenny***
Keep watching for a BONUS conversation with mindfulness author and podcast host Case Kenny here to talk about why being alone is 1000% better than settling for the wrong person, and how your irrational fear of being alone and the stigma that comes with it jeopardizes you becoming your happiest, most vibrant self.
MATTHEW HUSSEY’S INSIGHTFUL QUOTES:
"There are things that will attract someone, and then there are things that will find you a partner who's right for you, and they're not always the same thing. And advice out there that works in some ways is very dangerous because of what or who it might attract, but it is very kind of self validating because it works."
"And that is like inception, because once you've internalized that…my reality is not the only reality, it's like it opens up the playing field for what's possible in life, and that's becomes a very exhilarating notion."
"In the story of Pandora, when she opens the box and all of these afflictions fly out, you know, disease and fear and hunger and shame, and all of these different horrible afflictions fly out. She closes the box because she's horrified. And the only thing that doesn't escape from the box is hope. And there is this interesting idea that hope, that there was almost, I think it was Nietzsche had this idea that the fact that hope didn't get out was actually the one bit of grace, because hope is the worst of all the afflictions, because the real terrible thing for mankind is the idea of hoping for it and it not getting any better."
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Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement

[@LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@loularton]

I found love. I am 26. He is 66! but he owns a printing business that employs 270 people, and drives a Rolls Royce. The Good life here I come

[@discernmentformypeople6598]

Are you the mother of the Guy Bilyeu on impact theory?

[@loularton]

@@discernmentformypeople6598 ???

[@anastrauti6618]

😮11😮😮iquique 1:20:00 😅❤

[@loularton]

@@anastrauti6618 Look, he treats me well. W e are going on a Luxury cruise in 2 weeks time. He bought me a Merc two seat sports for my Birthday!!! H e is rich handsome and old enough to be my Granddaddy but who cares!!!!!

[@Hopeful999]

Your person can never be someone who doesn’t choose you

[@melissazoubek6275]

I married my first husband, had two daughters we were together 20 years, I’m now going ten years with my second husband. I’ve also been proposed to a few times. So it can happen. I just didn’t waste much time on men who weren’t into me, and I watched what they did instead of listening to what they said.❤

[@jane77722]

Sometimes we are in pain because we're breaking up with a fantasy, not realizing it's better we're not with the reality of who the person is!

[@estelled389]

YES YES YES 🙌 👏

[@pinkprana777]

This is me right now

[@EcoworksFL]

If someone hasn't texted me back for 5 days, they're automatically deleted and ignored. When someone shows you they don't care, dont give them the opportunity to do it twice as the chances are they will surely do it again. Dont encourage this bare minimal low effort behaviour

[@livefromtheground7274]

Agreed

[@mynameisana09]

If someone is ghosting me and it’s affecting me it’s bullshit advice to pretend not to be affected. It’s strong to show that it affects you and then close the door. Tell them and then move on. 🤷🏻‍♀️ fuck playing mind games. I like being me.

[@user-ez9tz4vt4g]

Yep- I like that he made it a point that you should be open about your true feelings and not hide them.

[@katiedid1983]

I think the point isn't that you shouldn't be affected..... it's that the amount you are affected should be directly related to the significance that the relationship ACTUALLY was in your life, not the story you told yourself about that person.

[@Rut-vi7iz]

I think his point is moderate how much others "affect you." We create dramas and stories that don't exist in reality, and need to stay more objective about what is happening.

[@kiddytube3915]

Met someone with the same upbringing, same hometown, same background, even same reasons for divorcing our first spouse (cheating). Didn’t matter for this person.. went cold and ghosted after friendzoning me. Some people are chasing standards that don’t make any sense.

[@shieldoffaith7099]

​@@kiddytube3915What standards? If you don't mind?

[@Eltonscruggs]

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@Eltonscruggs]

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

[@Eltonscruggs]

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

End of a 5 year relationship, when you wanted it to continue is big. It’s a type of bereavement, a loss and it’s a journey, no rush, feel the pain when it comes up, that heavy pain that can come into you chest when doing things like walking past foods on the supermarket shelves that she enjoyed. Don’t run from it, the feeling, don’t try to figure it out. I did analysis it and then pay attention to the present moment to what you are doing physically, then move on as in, make a decision to do something very concrete. For e.g. once I finish this shopping I’m going to listen to xx in the car- sports report, pod cast on your interest. That brings you to the next step in the day. And then also in advance think of the weekend in advance and what is something you would like to do or need to do. And of course it’s wonderful to be kind and do something for someone else- for e.g is their an older person, family or not that you could cut their hedges for. Physical work good. Don’t jump i to a new relationship and also as a man take space on what you can do meet your physical needs in terms of sexual desire. I Helpful to come back to yourself and a valid human being and don’t head out for pick ups. Love will come again.

[@jayybee30]

This first comment is spam for some kind of guru. They post the same thing all the time

[@Katrica670]

"Most of us are stuck with "ppl" who only are level 1 n 2, you need level 3 commitment, and level 4 compatibility."

[@trinityp8575]

Dying alone… unfortunately everyone will die alone. Even if surrounded by someone, ultimately the experience of dying we will face alone. It’s living alone what’s worse. Because life isn’t 💯 complete when not shared.

[@user-ez9tz4vt4g]

My thoughts too. I'll die alone, my soul will travel to heaven alone, even when you're in heaven you forget that you had family members who didn't make it with you

[@aprilwashington3150]

I LOOOOOVE LIVING ALONE. I love the peace and quite. I've had boarders #Headache. I've let 2 of my siblings and each of their 3 kids live with me #Noisey Now it's been just me for 5 years (almost 6) and I LOOOOVE IT. I don't want no man. It's nice to wake up and not worry about if someone needs to be fk or sucked. I can just get started with my day. I can come home, and not worry about if someone needs to be fk or sucked. I can go straight to be, without worrying about if someone needs to be fk or sucked and that's AMAZING. I don't want no pets, not even a plant. Life for me right now is GOOD!

[@trinityp8575]

@@aprilwashington3150 it’s great if you are happy 😃 that’s all that matters. I would love to have a life partner though and share all the experiences and life together. But not just anyone. The right partner. I have been alone for 6 years. And it’s not the life I want.

[@TheWisher68]

@@trinityp8575 Omg how ironic, I've been lost for 6 years too, waiting for the right person. Sigh. It takes its time, but I'd rather wait than settle with just anyone.

[@Rut-vi7iz]

​@@aprilwashington3150😂❤yes girl! I needed this!😂🎉❤

[@Meglemon888]

I’m never married, no kids. Sometimes feel lonely, but most of my life time being with myself is less trouble. Still looking forward to having a family of my own…

[@toutounr8120]

It has its own time for everyone❤

[@jan854]

Same here ❤ I really wished I liked the family dynamic I was born into but it's a mess. I love my family but I pray to God I can make my own with a good man.

[@user-gs6xf6tx2j]

Amen !!

[@belindam.8096]

He is absolutely 💯 right!! People are not being their true authentic self enough these days. Yes, we are shamed for expressing what we truly desire.

[@mgschnootz]

Over the last couple years I have either lost friends or it changed the relationship immensely because I am no longer vibing on a lower level and have done the deep dive work on me. So when they come and want the " bonding over bitching " validation, I give them insight from a different prospective. Sadly this has not been well received. But I have drawn in more stable type people. It's a very strange dynamic. But has been an amazing life lesson ❤ Love your content Lisa, simply amazing.... keep it coming 💪🏻

[@Katrica670]

"Curiosity, teamwork, generosity, empathy, compasion cure incompatibility!"

[@Katrica670]

Choose your person! Your person would Always choose you!

[@Katrica670]

"Choose someone who your soul wants, Not your ego!"

[@AddColor2Life]

I enjoy being single. But sometimes I miss not having that one person in my life who always has my back.

[@Rut-vi7iz]

​​@@ErickSouza-mo3mjwith all due respect this is not true and is a disservice to all who pray. God is not a cosmic slot machine that if you stand there long enough and pull a handle, out will come your desired result. Plenty of people are on here that are more faithful than most, who never have their prayers answered for a mate. Mother Teresa herself often dealt with loneliness, depression and a sense God was not listening. Well meaning followers often push people away from God with these kinds of statements when the person is hurt and broken and God seems no where to be found. It's better to just cheer a person on yourself when you know nothing about a person's faith background.

[@ErickSouza-mo3mj]

@@Rut-vi7iz Why is it a disservice to tell people to have faith in God? You're the one calling God a slot machine and saying that people don't feel listened to by Him. To have faith without doubt makes people feel good; and do not push people away from Him. It may take time, but the prayers will be answered somehow. (To me, dating apps are the real slot machines). I'm not minimizing anyone's suffering. On the contrary, I'm saying that a deep faith in God heals the feeling of not having someone looking out for us.

[@TheJosiejumper]

That’s ya mum in my experience anyways x

[@staceywood7800]

I’m soooo over dating. This is all good advice/steps to communicate more open and authentic.. but why the hell does it have to be so damn complicated?!!!!! So over it all.

[@NevL7]

You and me both

[@Katrica670]

@52:00 I call this misplaced hope, hope in the wrong thing can make the heart heavy!

[@user-nm6bs9ru6x]

What really bothers me when dating men, is they seem to have the expectation that women are suppose to prove their worthiness and be an open book. Men were treating mail order brides this way, and then some of these women turned op dead. The government decided that men also have to go through a background check before they meet any of these women. However, there are people who don't have a criminal background that abuse and then commit murder. Men have this fixation, that attractive women are golddiggers. Yet if a woman mentions that she received a inheritance, he is all over her asking questions. I dated a business man that treated me like I had to prove my worthiness, and then I found out that he was a convicted felon. His response was, he was going through an appeal. Really? After he spent seven years in prison, and there was a newspaper article that stated he pleaded guilty? Really.???? He was convicted of fraud, and stole over 350K from clients. Yet he thinks, women are the only gold diggers. Right!!!!!!! I dated a man who claimed to be a Christian, and a investigator told me he spent time in prison for domestic violence. Do you see how these men take us down the rabbit hole? Don't get invested, just try friendship with out benefits, no strings attached ,ask questions, and investigate them.

[@vannamarie8430]

Wow, that comment was better advice than the whole video! 💯🙏🏻

[@gtone888]

I think the main it is to listen to your gut instinct / intuition.

[@Rut-vi7iz]

​@@gtone888no, the important thing to do is an actual background check as early as possible. Many states have online resources of court records for free. Facts have nothing to do with your feelings. Check it out with your head first.

[@user-ok5ez1ls1k]

Yes. When a man talks about women like they have to go through pain to prove their worthiness, I stay far away. Men who hate women think they are fundamentally bad.

[@rosaclick1995]

Are you attracting these kind of men? So your mind can convince you that your beliefs about men is correct? Please understand that not all men are these way so you attract such men.

[@irinachillyvalley2152]

While listening this guy - I just had to get my notebook to write down things that really open eyes 🥰

[@karenlindley.9756]

It’s setting your boundaries of how you wish and should be treated! It’s letting them know that for you it did affect you and I think that’s ok. Then see how they react…..with caution. If not walk away. Always watch their actions. Their words can be bullsh*t.

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

I found a terrific man who shows love, affection and care. I am working on an amazing relationship where our needs are all met. I don't go by the rules, where it feels that it's playing a game.

[@annap9441]

That’s what I felt when I met my husband! I didn’t have to ruminate anything, just BE ❤ never felt I could go with the flow before, I assumed that that kind of tension was normal😅. You don’t recognize fresh air until you actually breathe some

[@dawnstonerock4253]

You are wise!! ❤

[@wanderlust8843]

Could you please tell more about your husband personality. If he is introvert or extrovert

[@olgakim4848]

Don’t want to die alone? I’d rather die perfectly alone than end up becoming a hospice wife to king baby if he gets sick. But he’ll leaving you if you get sick. #decentermen. #MelanieHamlett

[@MetaPhysStore0770]

So true

[@juliettejuliette-bf8df]

💯

[@rosaclick1995]

Helping others gives you a sense of fulfilment. Life isn’t a competition.

[@olgakim4848]

@@rosaclick1995 Helping others is one thing. But becoming a hostage and a hospice wife to a man is another. What are you spewing about “competition”? What does living alone without having a gigantic baby to care of, sick or not, have to do with competition?

[@rosaclick1995]

@@olgakim4848 it’s not a competition because where did the spite come from towards a sick person who is supposed to be family? Why think they wouldn’t reciprocate back to you the love you gave to them like you would give to a family? Why does helping a loved one feel like hostage to you? I don’t know what brought about this perception you have but be kind to yourself and others. Hence what I mean life isn’t a competition. You don’t do things for people because you expect they should do same for you. There’s joy in helping people no matter who they are and not expecting anything back. It’s not a must to live with someone but it’s the perception that your loved one is a burden is what I am responding to.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

2:03:09 The happiness, the drive, the fulfillment, the curiosity!

[@Katrica670]

@1:30:00 "when you're happy enough you make good decision!" If I may add, if you are well-rested enough uou will make better choices too!

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@42:20 my two are always being comfortable in my own skin and being assertive again, also, being self-sustained

[@meetandinspire]

"It's that's good macro advice but in the beginning of any relationship or dating there always has to be a moment where one person invests marginally more than the other."

[@annap9441]

I am in a happy and healthy relationship the last 15 years but I love to hear Matthew’s wisdom, I learn a lot, he communicates incredibly well😊 He is a gem. Loved the interview

[@vius0013]

It took me a lot of pain and hurtful relationships to find a good partner. Someone who truly loves me as how I am, and guess what! I found out with this person I was a big part of the problem! Now I am working hard on having a good relationship! To accept safety, and love and to not want to run away with every little thing

[@Cannonejones]

I lost my soul mate thru death . Very young, 11 yrs later, I still have a hole in my heart

[@jasminflower5608]

So sorry to hear that ,it s must be so difficult for you...I wish you find someone and move on ,I m sure your love would wanted to see you happy again .That was sure special love .Wish you all best ❤

[@jenniferstein1702]

hole* … I’m sorry for your loss. I feel quite deeply. I know heartache. For myself, I think things can happen in life & my heart will never be the same.

[@Nono38-jj1tk]

​@@jenniferstein1702You're so "sorry" for her that you correct her grammar? 😂 Okayyyyy lady

[@jenniferstein1702]

@@Nono38-jj1tk I truly am sorry for her loss!! As I said I can identify with deep heartache. … That said, I don’t see anything wrong with my friendly notation. I’m just that way … with everyone. :) …

[@audreymickens4390]

Thank you Lisa and Matthew! This was one of the best conversations I could have experienced right now at thus time in my life. Matthew, I first learned of uou when I was watching a daytime show or entertainment tonight. Please forgive my memory, it was a while back. I'm sure you remember and I've followed you periodically ever since❤

[@Katrica670]

@46:08 so instincts are just another word for reflexes like when the doc hits your knee with a hammer, and what most do when there's a fire, but intuition is a knowing without knowing!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Skilled liars present themselves as loyal and trustworthy.

[@user-dd3ny4xb3w]

Realizing we were not on the same planet, the same headspace, that I was during the entirety of 2023 was the absolute worst. I have spent the last 7 months trying to assess why after 23 yrs he could throw our history away like it meant nothing and move on with lightning speed to another. He had been interviewing for my replacement l for many months until he hired her. Finally after 7 months I realize I grieved what I thought our relationship was, not what it really was

[@taikodancer]

The best 2 hours of my life! Thank you kindly to both of you! ❤🙏🏽

[@user-nm6bs9ru6x]

My Aunt Leona was married twice, and had seven children. She died alone in a nursing home. People,..... hire a attorney, draw up a will, and let your attorney take care of the other arrangements.

[@gillb9222]

I totally agree. Children can be incredibly cruel. I see so many videos talking about how awful parents are but (adult) children can be just as awful to their parents.

[@Babykeiks78]

I routinely know single 70+ year old sorority sisters who have richer lives than their married with grown children friends. This is a huge lie. Having a spouse and children does not guarantee support in the winter of your life! Especially if you’re a woman!

[@kari25nov]

I think it is interesting to hear Matthew talk about:" I felt that if I gave I was taken advantage of" and meaning this exchange was related to the same person. But in life there is also a saying that " What you give is what you get". However it can be a long timeframe to it and what you "get" does not mean that you get it form the same person, but from another person long time into the future. The worse thing that can happen is that you stop "givng" because you always expect to "get" sth back from the same person. However if "giving"" means being too open about yourself "too early" it is because it may be off-putting to the receiver end who feel they have to become responsible for you and your thoughts, ie a responsibility they do not want since it may feel as a burden to them.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@1:27:01 yes wounds unfortunately continue to accumulate!

[@melberman2348]

this is so good thank you

[@Foxie635]

Hope is the worst affliction. I concur!!

[@dawnstonerock4253]

You are really speaking my language right here!! Thank you so much for your sharing and enlightened thots on all of this ❤

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

2:03:30 "build something that only they can give to themselves in the pursuit of being whole!" Like? 🧐

[@glorialane7718]

😅 I do. I must be doing it wrong. Because I feel worse after doing either.

[@elmagonzales1511]

Amazingly good interview❣ Thanks alot REGARDS from Iceland 🇮🇸

[@emebetkidane6409]

Ilove Lisa she helped a lot people all over the world including me been her self shows example to do anything you Iam so proud her!!

[@Katrica670]

@43:17 but mostly from not getting any direction/guidance/emotional connection did Not give a strong sense of self, nor boundaries to navigate the world right!

[@mashax7885]

Thank you

[@WARRIOREMPATH0]

LISA 😂❤THANK YOU SOO MUCH LIL WORRIOR 💖 YOU MAKE ME SMILE SND LAUGH 😅 YOU TEACH ME THINGS I ALREADY KNOW AND DON'T KNOW. I APPRECIATE YOU TAKING THE TIME TO DO YOUR VIDEOS THANK YOU TO YOUR GUEST I APPRECIATE EVERYTHING YOU SAID. I LISTEN TO HELP MYSELF IN THIS TIME IN MY LIFE HARD TIMES LIKE MOST SOOO AGAIN THANK YOU BOTH VERY MUCHIE MAY PEACE BE W/IN YOU BOTH WORRIOR STRONG WORRIOR EMPATH ☆♡♡♡☆

[@kathryncothern3433]

One can't "look for love". This is the paradigm for the overcrowded dating coach, life coach, etc. phenomena these days. Working on a healthy Self Love is where it all starts and that will attract what is meant without forcing. The Universe doesn't work that way. Our society is filled with so many coaches now...and lots of money to be made. The real work and answers are right within oneself. ❤

[@margiestephens7281]

Just to plant a seed, Lisa. I would like to very much SEE him & his wife interact with each other on camera together. What do these “words” look like in unison together??? (Just a suggestion)

[@ambermiravalle5153]

If you go to his KZbin channel, you can see them interact often as she's a part of his podcast now. 😊

[@margiestephens7281]

@@ambermiravalle5153 thx Amber … will do

[@Rut-vi7iz]

It's already being done on his own channel and he is genuine and walks the walk

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Everyone is operating from their own wounds

[@user-ez9tz4vt4g]

Yeah! I like that he emphasizes that you shouldn't hold on to your wounds from certain people and constantly try to find them in someone else, or use your past hurts to make generalizations.

[@BRR949]

That noise was scary 😂 6:33

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

"Grief is a change you didn't wanna end!"

[@Katrica670]

1st reason is scarcity aka fear/lack 2nd reason is familiarity aka what you know 3rd reason is the wall you been staring at became your world 4th reason is bs programming. 5th reason is it feels good aka pleasure/addiction

[@katerinavitovtova6851]

I got a panic attack when a really nice gay appeared in my life with a purpose to be near me. I run away as I was scared to trust....😢

[@thatamychic3517]

I grew up in the same area as your hubby! Crazy!

[@dfromtheblock1537]

Grief is a change we didn’t want 1:02:04

[@lylyanazarela4807]

I freaking love Matthew Hussey ❤

[@iloveyellow7214]

I loove that emphasis where that Mr. Hussey said, "You dont look at the wall." You look somewhere else. OR ELSE Youre gonna crash. F😎ck man, I got so much self realizations just from that insight. Thank you you two 😘

[@susanparkes5096]

This is great! Ive lost all hope so I'm in a great position 😂

[@JamesKingsbury-ft9kx]

Lisa, on a different note, you really should watch the new movie "Challengers" as an allegory for what happens in the psyche of one man during the course of his 13 year relationship with the woman who becomes his wife. What people don't seem to realize is that the characters in the movie don't exist separately; they are all parts of one man who is at war with himself. The movie is a meditation on what healthy masculinity is, not a love triangle, not a sports film.

[@paetonwalton6346]

On Netflix?

[@pelumiraheen4936]

I'm looking for peace, peace of mind and heart

[@rosaclick1995]

I don’t know when we came to this point that we think not being vulnerable is the right way to find love. One should be able to be vulnerable around someone you claim to love and relationships shouldn’t be a game.

[@aprilwashington3150]

I love how these coaches refer the relationships as "finding love". This is straight manipulation to keep making money off the uninformed by keeping people (you) in a broken cycle of searching for love outside of yourself. You and you ALONE, IS LOVE!

[@Rut-vi7iz]

You obviously haven't read the book because that IS what the book is about.😂

[@Nikki.....]

yes love always comes from within but having someone who's worth it to pour that love on and that person doing the same is what makes it fun and enjoyable, or else life is just so boring without sharing. we're human, whether we want it or not we're social creatures and denying that fact isn't going to erase it

[@L0ve365Beauty]

This is where ORDER & chivalry come into play. When everyone follows the rules and the order it works. He's telling women to put up with BS

[@Rut-vi7iz]

😂😂😂 "ORDER"

[@Babykeiks78]

That’s why I’m always skeptical of taking dating advice from men. They are so engrained with their entitlement to women’s suffering it’s always in their so called advice. Oh hey take this advice from men = more struggle love

[@davinathedivine]

When you have a spiritual connection with someone is it possible for you to feel the heart of there higher selves? I was dating a man whom i I felt a surmountable amount of love from without him ever speaking those words. I felt it with his presence. I don’t know how to ask him or even talk to him

[@motEngvity]

There's nothing wrong with us)) Do whatever you like and enjoy it. Life is too short to waste it on overthinking 😅

[@Katrica670]

Impact vs character ouch!

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

2:01:48 however lots didnt and somehow still made it?

[@Unflappable43]

If your single have a couple of kids I guarantee you won’t be scared of being alone you will be praying for them to grow up so you can be alone 👍

[@skaziblu]

worst damn circuit to be on is the "i wont do it because he doesnt".

[@Rut-vi7iz]

Yes, I love that he's teaching this is BS and a waste of time!

[@jkizer75]

He makes a lot of good points. Although why isn't chivalry still around- if a guy really wants you he should do whatever it takes. Im not in the dating world so I am totally lost.

[@susanparkes5096]

Not everyone is on a date to find a relationship. Many, especially men, are on a date to get sex. Some, especially women, may go on a date just as a social thing, to get wined and dined. Not everyone who dates want to find 'the one'.

[@Katrica670]

@2:12:00 "More closed off males cause more harm!"

[@nicolediaz4132]

Idk if my number one thing is looking for love actually can’t relate to that

[@iprincessirene]

What is usually given for pain?

[@nadinetchaho2618]

Integrity is at state. I disagree with Matthew right there: Why didn’t he inform her of his intention of attending the barbecue and the reasons he didn’t extend the invitation to Her? If he cares about her, even though she expressed her deception of him, he could have insisted and apologised and learn what is important to her Let’s go back to the words of God to understand the meaning of love 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

[@Yul-yi3ff]

Matthew is full of shit

[@daliagrigonyte6872]

the lady with the barbecue makes me wanna shout, this is her issue? guy treating her near perfect, and wanting to spend time with his friends, this is the his crime? i wish i had her issues

[@travelchannel304]

Not afraid of being alone❤😅 but..the no sex forever...😮 what if crossover happens w/ a person 😮and we're only connected by professional interaction.

[@HazelMornings]

❤

[@Violets14]

Why was the age 45 used in the title of this video?

[@TheBulletzgottishow20]

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥🥰💪🏾💪🏾🔥

[@mmoxiee]

Get a life weirdo

[@livelaughlove4635]

Just wish this was 2 separate videos. The ending wasn’t Matthew Hussey. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@AcantostachaLichtmesz]

The BBQ story: ● She wanted a man who would call her anyway. ● He wasn't that man. And he didn't invite her to the BBQ. The wall was correct.

[@TheGoanv]

I’m done, I’m 47 ! 🤪

[@estelled389]

I'm 53 😅😅😅

[@TheGoanv]

Crap… WE are done 😄

[@carysredmond]

This is gpod

[@estherhamalka1669]

Why so long falling asleep😢😇 wrap it up😇

[@unknownanonymous4735]

niceeeeeeeeeeeee

[@olgakim4848]

You know what, ladies? Don’t take stupid dating advice from this guy or from any man! #MelanieHamlett #decentermen #4B #feminism

[@Rut-vi7iz]

What a biased ineffective attempt to draw attention to your own work. Sad, really.

[@olgakim4848]

It's not my work. Melanie would never do this sort of thing. You can't cope with the TRUTH or blind to it, so it's "biased". Sad, really. And how do you know it's not effective? You don't.

[@jophielsnow53]

Host talks to much .. lol and it’s annoying

[@Sireennaa94]

i mean it is HER SHOW .. that’s what a conversation is… if you find her annoying don’t watch

[@imsaxymf]

Great! A conversation between 2 people with terrible forced accents! I'll stop here with my comment out of respect for Tom

[@michellebohm3130]

Lisa, I really like your podcast and you, but I have been struggling to listen to it and had to take a break. I returned yesterday and found myself still struggling. Please take this advice from another mature, professional woman. Stop saying "Homie". Please. It makes me cringe and you even say it in all of your ads. It feels as though you are trying to seem 'street', but why? Everyone who listens knows you and Tom are billionaires. Why the homie? You are a very intelligent, beautiful, and classy woman. Please stop. You're losing me.

[@tommac21]

You people are insane. They really believe they have any answers. And the analogies are ridiculous. This is the most useless video ever

[@aprilwashington3150]

Where is Matt's wife or husband??? 🤔 Tired of all these fake relationship coaches who aren't in relationships 🤨 I don't care about a ring on his finger. That could just be for optics. We've seen Lisa and we've seen Tom, where is his spouse?

[@LisaBilyeu]

He actually got married last year and she’s an incredible woman who I’m very good friends with!

[@Rut-vi7iz]

Really uninformed comment. 😂

[@SheExudesConfidence]

What qualifies this man?

[@user-ez9tz4vt4g]

He's a famous dating/relationship coach who is open about his learning journey just like he talked about in this episode. I think it's fair to say that he has years of experience under his belt with relationship issues, durability and resolutions. I guess that's for you to determine whether he's up to par for your personal scale of qualification. Just listen to some of his work. And does someone really have to have a long list of credibility at the beginning (which Lisa always does a good job of but didn't start out with in this video) just so that their points sound valid? Did you listen to the whole thing and find value in what he's saying?

[@Rut-vi7iz]

That's up to you to listen to enough of his content on his channel to decide. Millions have decided he is the real deal but your mileage may vary.🤷‍♀️

[@lnugent7692]

This is gpod. Interview