Crushes, rejection, and break ups

[@illymation]

hi general statement - the people i drew in my video do not represent anyone in particular; their character designs are purposely random and do not reflect the appearance of actual people i've dated and how they look. the breakup story details are left purposely vague as the point of this video is to help you, the viewer, process a breakup, NOT to bash anyone i've dated. do not bother / interrogate / god forbid, hunt anyone down and claim to do so "on my behalf"-- that is cruel, that is disgusting, and i outright discourage it and disown any "fan" doing this.

[@VeryTastySoup87]

Hi

[@VeryTastySoup87]

Hope you're doing okay, I'm in a tough situation right now and your videos help a bit, thanks

[@drawingfan9024]

It’s just like there’s no point in doing it, love your videos!😭

[@ruby_willow1862]

hey! Ilysm

[@fangirl3086]

I remember you had a boyfriend in one of your videos (the one where you lost your cat). I was afraid the last guy you mentioned in the video was him.

[@blinkoncebuddiesreveluv6961]

You can feel a slight vibration in her voice, it just tells you how sincere it is and it hits even harder

[@Loveyourself21072]

69th like :D

[@fionam5707]

@@Loveyourself21072 Ruined it >:)

[@Loveyourself21072]

@samdoesstuff why so rude? i don't see what youre contributing too the conversation by saying that.its unnecessary.

[@Loveyourself21072]

@@fionam5707 your name is so cool omg im jealous imagine being named Fiona

[@fionam5707]

@@Loveyourself21072 thanks :D

[@emidraws6477]

The way Illy used the chapstick as an indicator for feeling hit really hard. It was seriously a beautiful way to put it! This is an amazing video!

[@blaykat]

@Don't read profile photo not falling for it its gonna be another rickroll

[@mochimia8606]

i don’t get it, can you explain pls?

[@emidraws6477]

@@mochimia8606 Well have you noticed at one point they're trying to throw away chapstick. People usually use chapstick for their lips or before kissing and bcs kissing is so important and holds so much emotion so does the chapstick. (PS!! I'm not claiming this as the explanation, this is just how I see it, maybe Illy thought abt it otherwise)

[@trylynarie3327]

I thought it was pepper spray ;-;"

[@sirmoony5633]

I know, right? Nice to meet you, Emi! My name is Moony! How are you today? :D

[@patrickgillespie4414]

You almost got me crying at the end, and not just because my divorce still hurts almost a year later. You make super relatable content and I really appreciate it.

[@jjstory9217]

yes she dose, the last part hurts me so Ik it hurts you man. i hope you doing ok

[@roguesriot147]

if you need to vent or anything feel free to ask for my socials

[@patrickgillespie4414]

@@roguesriot147 you know what, someone else to talk to might not hurt. I'll take you up on this offer, thank you!

[@roguesriot147]

@@patrickgillespie4414 how are you doing?

[@patrickgillespie4414]

@@roguesriot147 I'm doing alright, thanks

[@ellieruden]

as someone currently going through a breakup this is really really comforting for me

[@nin10dog]

@Don't read profile photo okay i won’t

[@keyaunna.]

i’m so sorry. i’m sending so much love ❤️

[@babymariemerchant]

This was really good timing for me too. Found out my partner of four years was cheating on me with a friend on ours and it's just been a big crap shoot. I know I'll be okay, just starting over and picking up the pieces - it's nice to know this experience is shared by so many people and articulated so perfectly in this video.

[@Games21491]

i know me too

[@Coolestpersonevernocap]

im so sorry

[@AlexsCorner]

We love to see a neutral view for both sides of a relationship! This hit hard and this is literally my fave video from you yet! Can't wait for these BOPS to drop!!! KEEP REACHING FOR THE STARS, ILLYSA!!

[@samanthabiotti1036]

Look! It’s another cool animator! ♥️ 💜

[@chinstion]

HIII!

[@curemytwistedheart]

DIANNENAMDBAKLWNDNCNEKFNNDNSNDNDN I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS :0

[@walterrising4276]

Did it harder than your stepdad?

[@-simplicity7551]

I really appreciated the talk near the end about how leaving, can be better. And healthier. I loved my last partner, but we were different. I wanted them to be happy. And not settle. Sometimes staying is not the ultimate form of love. Leaving is. As hard and as painful as it can be.

[@sherlockwho5714]

We should want our partners to be happy even if it means ending the relationship

[@mafervasquez281]

wow this comment hit. my exact situation.

[@Puffle0140]

Tragic.

[@walterrising4276]

Learn how punctuations work

[@-simplicity7551]

@@walterrising4276 Find something better to do

[@talosthoren5409]

The whole "you'll find love when you stop looking for it" thing is something I roll my eyes at. I met my wife while we were both actively looking for a partner. If I had stopped looking, we'd never have met. I used to hear this one a lot, but I never gave it much thought until after I met my wife. She's also the only romantic partner I've ever had, or could ever want to be with.

[@mikeyizquierdo6239]

Funny thing is I met my partner right at the moment I stopped looking for love and pictured a future alone, not to invalidate your point of view but I think of how wide, funny and weird the world is and I hope your relationship with your wife goes well and nice :)

[@oikawatooru273]

met my boyfriend the moment I stopped looking for love 🥰

[@talosthoren5409]

Cool @@oikawatooru273

[@PineappleMD]

Yeah, I agree with you. I dated a few people, while looking. But I've actively given up on love and "stopped looking" and sure enough I've gone on no dates. No one has approached me, and I don't intend to approach anyone. It's lonely, but I had to for my peace. It's not so bad. I'm struggling with other things. I'm loving other things. And finding me, myself, and I.

[@Raton20]

Its different for everyone. Good for you

[@aalrightperson2789]

I might not use this for romantic relationships but this is still seems like good advise for ‘breaking up’ with a friend.

[@Cheetahgirl_Studios]

Same here. This video kinda helped me realise that I’ve developed an avoidant attachment style after having to break it off with my two best friends. I’m always asked by my mom why I don’t go out with my friends, or why I don’t text them. Because I’m scared. I know my fear’s irrational: my friends are good people. One of them even told me point blank to break it off with my manipulative best friend because they could see that they didn’t see me as a real friend. But I’m so scared of placing that much trust in people again because last time I was lied to and used by someone who strung me along in an attempt to isolate me. Who downplayed the trauma I went through because it made THEIR life difficult. And that part when Ily started going over all the what ifs… it broke me. Because that’s exactly how I feel in friendships now. I want to trust people the way I used to. I want to be able to text with my friends for all hours of the night the way I used to. But I just can’t bring myself to. It just… hurts too much.

[@minecraftwithme7182]

a fwllow aro?

[@tegxi]

I've noticed that in a thoroughly allo world a whole lot of romance advice applies to a lot more than romance. would be nice if more of it were framed that way but usually that isn't the context I suppose

[@SpiderSplash_]

Ayyyy! A fellow aroace! But yeah, totally agree!

[@SpiderSplash_]

​@@minecraftwithme7182 a fellow aro????

[@anvithequarsonist]

This channel is a really comforting one for me. It gets goofy at times, personal at times, but all the while you feel like you’re getting a big hug.

[@anvithequarsonist]

WAIT A SECOND THAT’S LUZ AND AMITY

[@roguesriot147]

if you need to vent or anything feel free to ask for my socials

[@anvithequarsonist]

@@roguesriot147 aw, thanks

[@roguesriot147]

@@anvithequarsonist of course

[@Fer--]

@@roguesriot147 thats extremely nice of you! you should also try to stay safe

[@CronicMustardHater]

I needed this. Today I lost my most beloved lover, he's been my best friend since we were toddlers, a few weeks ago he confessed his love me, when I got the message that he was gone I started bawling my eyes out. Unfortunately his funeral is going to be in California and it's next month exactly. I'll be busy on that exact day and can't cancel plans just to take a few days to drive to California. But I am probably self centered talking about this. But this video is great for people going through a breakup.

[@syd811]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you love ❤️

[@Sentient-potato]

That is the saddest thing I’ve heard all day, I’m REALLY sorry for your loss and hope you can feel better soon

[@kayttales]

im so sorry for your loss and no youre not self centered, you have the right to talk about your feelings, i can relate in a bit different form, if you need to talk feel free to do so, i wish you the best

[@trashrabbit6398]

I needed this to my ex broke up with me recently as in 3 days ago recently I've never felt so alone in this before

[@trashrabbit6398]

I'm so sorry for you're loss I can't imagine how it must feel

[@The-best-Spider]

The ‘I don’t see a future with you’ actually hit home for me. While it didn’t happen to ME personally, it happened to my mother a couple years ago on Christmas🥺

[@twinzgacha9140]

10:08 I love how she adds all of the characters in the background, but my favourite is this one of Lumity ❤️

[@idaana03]

I liked 5:47 with shiver and frye

[@charlenedalrymple7739]

Mr. Salt, Mrs. Pepper, and Paprika from Blue’s Clues are in her kitchen 😂 11:44

[@Chicken-Gamer]

sidon and link in the back round tho

[@nazeehaletsplay4366]

Same

[@JosephWolfson]

You beat me to it lol

[@rainstoriess]

I'm aromantic so I can't really relate to the romantic relationships troubles, but I think this advice can be applied to any relationship, platonic, romantic or otherwise.

[@justyourlocalrat_]

ayy im aromantic too and yes i agree

[@hecknfrick4236]

Hii I'm aro too

[@Stale_Grapes]

Fellow aros pog

[@Nylariel]

lmao I just made an Aro comment myself

[@jaymieskye]

i too am aro

[@Vaguelocation3612]

As someone who’s never been in a relationship this gave me a lot of perspective. It was a really deep and emotionally involved representation of those emotions and you did a wonderful job with it.

[@tyrekerobinson2394]

Yep

[@pancake.squirrel]

I wish I could like this but it’s at 69 😔

[@raven_does_art7236]

@@pancake.squirrel literally-

[@raven_does_art7236]

IT ISN’T WORTH IT!

[@frecklesandfries]

This hit me so hard. Two weeks ago I had my first real breakup, with the first and only person I have ever loved. We held each other when it happened, bawled with each other. It was ten years in the making and we had to say we couldn’t be in each others lives when our families had been close since we were 8 years old. I always convinced myself he was The One, that I would never fall in love again because I didn’t need to! He was my only option, but that was a good thing! He was my entire personality, and identity, my love, and my world. And if that sounds a bit toxic it wasn’t even the reason we split up, it got more complicated than that. But I won’t get into it. My point is we still DESPERATELY love each other and want to be together. And ALL breakup media I am recommended is all “they decided to leave you.” / “In the end you weren’t important to them.” / “It’s ok to be angry.” / “calm down and remember how horrible they were to you.” Etc… This video was the very first piece of media in two weeks of doing NOTHING but sleeping and consuming media, that has even *mentioned* breakups where both people are still in love. Where you part on good terms, even if it’s sore or hurts. Where you don’t want to call them an ex because that makes people want to trash on them and you don’t want that.

[@Ahrpigi]

Memento Mori, friend. Hope you're doing better since then.

[@REV-ENANT]

you've gained my absolutely full respect for putting Luz and Amity there.

[@todd_the_odd]

she even drew them on their first date

[@conorgillingham2564]

That and Sidon x Link! Both are amazing!

[@Hawk3ye.m]

Fr

[@REV-ENANT]

@@conorgillingham2564 yes!

[@mycelestialchild]

glad im not the only one who noticed that

[@kyriejones6060]

As someone who just started their first relationship a few years later in life than the average, this is kind of terrifying. Falling in love in the first place was difficult enough, to fall out of it and have to find love again somewhere else sounds so, so.... impossible.... Stay strong, take good care of your partners, and be true to yourself. I hope I never need this video to help me through a rough time.

[@almanizayecortezalvarez1189]

Hi Kyrie, I just also got into my very first relationship with my very first crush in my mid twenties. I get your fear, I didn't even know I could fall in love and now that I'm here, I know that I've already changed too much to go back to square one. I recently came to terms that I identify as Demisexual/romantic, and that taking a long time and a lot of effort to fall for someone is okay and that there's nothing wrong with me. You are worthy of love and happiness and you can and will find it. What helps me is understanding that my relationship is only one part of my happiness, joy, and love. Relationships are there to share and add to our happiness, not provide or replace it. They're also there to help us grow. Even if you lose your partner, you do not have to lose the ability to love or to find happiness. You are so much more than that, even if it takes a lot more to develop the feelings you see in other people. Keep faith, keep growing, keep finding people to love (whether romantic or not), and keep finding your own happiness in any and every stage of your life. You will survive and make it through whatever comes your way.

[@Kekodile]

Hey lovely.. Its odd. I was similar but I got dumped and apparently cheated on. It sucked bc I did everything right yk? Sometimes it sucks. Just remember- PUT YOURSELF FIRST. Never change yourself for your partner.

[@sherlockwho5714]

It can be so scary. I started way young and even now I get scared what if she realizes I'm crap or if she dies first I'm not made for tinder. Each time you fall out it hurts in someway but then you heal and you learn and you try it again until you get someone you want that also wants you. Either way just do your best and enjoy life

[@kyriejones6060]

@@almanizayecortezalvarez1189 I'm Demi myself and I will, I will look for happiness in every stage of my life, thank you.

[@rachel_sj]

What a great video and ending song!! Never force yourself to “get over” your feelings quicker than you’re ready to. You’re allowed to process your emotions however you want to (in a healthy way), in your own time. All relationships/friendships are learning experiences from Day 1 to the 50th Anniversary. Life is too short not to learn from them and grow so you can make room for people who’ll love you for who you are!! Sincerely, An Autistic woman who had a lot of sh*tty dating experiences in her 20s and just got married this past Sunday

[@kibathelilboy3946]

Omg congrats! And yeah, all you said is really true, always take great care of your own emotions, whatever they are, they are yours

[@crazydaisy7618]

Hope you had a good wedding!

[@justyourlocalrat_]

Congratulations and thank you for giving me some hope

[@roxas0314]

Congratulations on your marriage! :)

[@ajmalaika1287]

Congratulations 🥳 🎉and thanks for the advice ❤️

[@thomaspig7684]

I watched this video three months ago, going into my first relationship. I’m watching it now after coming out of my first relationship. I’m crying.

[@AutisticGuineapigexpert12748]

The amount of times I said out loud “same!” Thank you for making me feel less alone! ❤️ you are an amazing content creator! 💕

[@alexmfs]

There no way you could of watched the whole video

[@alexmfs]

@Don't read profile photo ok

[@therealmarsx]

you commented 5 mins after she posted it bro theres no way 😭

[@Night_birb]

I can relate

[@sherlockwho5714]

I support this motion shall we put it to a vote

[@Awesomemay]

your videos are so personal (but not too personal) and its so relatable and comforting to watch these type of videos! keep up the amazing videos illy

[@hammywoods]

Agreed, reason why she's the only story time animator I keep up with to this day

[@HyperFireFerret]

YO MAY :0

[@kenz-taylors-version]

Ayo it’s may!

[@noexceptions6956]

Ayayayayayay I love you man

[@TheCarrot924]

YO MAY!!!! I didn’t expect you to be watching this!

[@crazynerd2009]

I love how down to earth this channel is, and the real life issues and topics it covers

[@starshow7717]

11:51 That Delivery ALSO THE ART STYLE IT'S SO CUUTE AND THE SONG😢

[@newttella]

I watched this first while in a relationship. It terrified me, because I knew it wasn't going to work, no matter how hard I tried. Now I'm back and it still hurts so much. I'm so scared now that I'm alone.

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

Don’t worry! It takes 3 months for you to adjust to changes in life, whether that be becoming homeless, losing a job, or anything else, in time, just 3 months, you’ll be back to your default state of happiness. I got blocked by a casual partner I had a crush on since high school. We were on and off for 8 years, and I thought that, above all, we’d still be friends… until he blocked me. He was my only friend. I felt guilty because after he did, I messaged him through other means, thus crossing a boundary. I didn’t see it that way at the time, I was having a panic attack and didn’t think about that. He said he blocked me because he thought I wouldn’t want to talk to him… probably a lie. Then I ended up, stupidly, sending him more messages, like a freaking wall of text, about how I’d pay him just to talk to be, platonically, one last time so I can end things on a good note, and he didn’t reply, probably blocked me, but if I check I’ll be torn to bits and pieces. He was my first, and my only. Knew him at 13, blocked at 21. It’s just been a week. I have so many weeks left until 3 months. But I’ll survive, and so will you. I started a medication though, an anti-depressant, it’s called Zoloft. I’ve been on it before and it made me so happy, but it takes 4-6 weeks to work. So many weeks, 3 months, 4-6 weeks. Point is, time heals. I wish we were friends so that we could cry together and hug each other through these tough times. In the grand scheme of things, 3 months is nothing.

[@they6337]

Idk if you still feel like this, but it’ll be okay eventually. If it wasn’t right, then that’s okay. You will grow and develop as a person throughout your life, and you will change, and that’s good. And also, there were times in your life when you weren’t dating, right? Proof that YOU CAN DO IT!!!

[@gracehutchins8923]

I agree with @they6337. YOU GOT THIS!!! You are worthy of love whether there is a romantic partner in your life right now affirming that. I believe in you!

[@trilobite3120]

I hope you find someone

[@KMXC17]

You can feel happy again. I promise.

[@laineydoodles9297]

Last year, my boyfriend of eight years and I broke up because I was at the receiving end of "I'm sorry, we don't have a future together". The worst part was that his mom delivered that message, and it was during his niece's 11th birthday party. I never felt so humiliated in my entire life. However, I think I've found someone new and he really likes me. We're oceans apart, but we want for this to work and I hope it does.

[@fairymystonight1783]

I wish you the best for you and your new partner!

[@darkartsninja]

I wish you too the best! Just make sure to tell then (may once you too are closer) about how you disliked your past breakup experience. It can help them ensure that they won't accidentally do anything that might hurt you. Have fun & hope you two meet soon 😊

[@KittyChibiWaifu]

I feel you. I had my ex disappear for a week making me worry that he was even ok ( mind you me and my family gave him a roof over his head and not pay for the longest time) and I had to force his friends at the place he was going to a lot to hand him the phone and then he broke up with me over said phone and got with the girl he was spending time with there. I'm really sorry you had to go through that. You deserved better esp after 8 years.

[@seajay632]

His mum broke up with you for him?! Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

[@its.kay.rose.]

I’ll never understand why his mom had to get in the middle of it but I’m sorry this happened and I’m hoping that things work out for you

[@vemmyhemmy]

That quote “I don’t see a future with you” a memory flashed before my eyes for a second. Oh gosh..reminds me of my last ex when he said that to me. That really hurt me..actually that’s the most hurtful thing I ever heard from someone. Welp! Thank god I’m in a good relationship and happy again ❤️

[@AlliandoX]

I got “I don’t have romantic feelings for you” 😅

[@caminari1522]

Well... I got "You aren't worthy of love" as a break up so that ended up being fun session with my therapist.

[@LivingDead53]

I think the most hurtful they said to me was "You're not a soldier like X. You are a housewife." Plus, I hate X. They were all smiling with perfect teeth."That ignited a bomb because of my issues with other people and men especially. No more of their visions so that I can be barefoot in the kitchen with six kids in a rundown trailer with people like Marilyn Manson pulling stunts and trashing whatever I do. Many have, boldly. The only good thing would be being abandoned by my baby's daddy. Thank God, I'd say. Yes, my children would be very emo, too. As a sick joke, I'm sure they'd make them worse off. ha ha ha Special ed is simply abuse for many kids, look at the cameras. We're such complainers. That's fine. Now they have to pay me with taxes. They'll try to get out of it, I'm sure. Satellites are naughty, naughty.

[@xxindiscriminated_shockxx]

My ex told me he felt happier when he wasn’t around me

[@tinyj4520]

You didn't say "happily married". It's going to happen again.

[@Sovereignty3]

You wrote this so well, I want to cry, (i can feel the tears bluring the letters on my phone, that haven't yet made it down my cheeks) and hug you. You know how to connect to peopke really well.

[@cosmixboi]

this was such perfect timing! i'm such a hopeless romantic too, and crushes or relationships usually don't go well with me haha. i'm getting over one rn since it really destroyed me as a person, but i'm slowly getting better from it! thanks for the super cool vid i loved it!!

[@animoni7]

This was so comforting and validating for me. Especially at 7:56 My ex treated me like garbage the entire relationship because I allowed it. I developed an anxious attachment style due to my codependency (didn’t know that at the time). He would constantly start arguments with me to avoid pretty much anything that was pushing towards us being in a real relationship (going out for dinner, shopping together, going away for holidays, etc) and it only worsened over time…I met him after having been abandoned and betrayed by a friend of 10 years and then I was selfishly used by another ex friend to get over her own breakup and tossed aside once she got with the guy she’s still currently with. I just felt..worthless. My ex, upon first meeting, showed me kindness that later turned into control, manipulation and abuse. I stayed because I didn’t want to be abandoned. I didn’t want to lose him. But he broke up with me on my birthday for the 2nd time and I realized that day - I never deserved the crap I went through with and for him. I estavalished a boundary (no sex) and he immediately explodes on me. I recently learned he was using me as a rebound for the person he wanted all along. he was avoiding grocery shopping because she worked there….8 months into our relationship (they were together for 2 months)….and 3 years later I learned he was seemingly never actually over her…but he used her and she went on to find what she was looking for (a real relationship, not casual sex). And all that anger he felt towards her moving on was the reason he was a complete ass to me the entire relationship. My ex never actually wanted me. But because I was so shattered and vulnerable, I didn’t respect myself to stop putting up with it. He’s gone officially now and I find this video as I’m coping with the pain of losing him but also - that segment I mentioned validated me. I should’ve had better boundaries. I should’ve left him where I found him. Because all he did was break and use me and now he’s off pursuing the women he’s wanted all along. While I’m picking up my pieces of a future he never wanted with me.

[@pie1o1morris46]

I'm glad you were able to leave such a toxic relationship, and I wish you luck on healing

[@destinywilson8776]

I am sorry that you were mistreated and abandoned, you didn't deserve to be manipulated at all. We all become vulnerable at times and unexpectedly even I get surprised by it. I don't know what to say but I just feel similarly to you and I just want to let you know you're not alone and you're not at fault so don't blame yourself. Because I know sometimes I blame myself for my mistakes in trusting the wrong people. I hope I didn't overshare just been really emotional and this hit my feelings.

[@chinstion]

Holy bro is getting extra credit

[@aubree769]

I love the amount of feelings in her voice, I could hear the joy, the pain, the sadness, everything, I felt it all.

[@trilobite3120]

Shame I experienced almost nothing more than apathy in this video.

[@Yams-Hams7734]

@@trilobite3120okay, edgelord.

[@trilobite3120]

@@Yams-Hams7734 I wasn't trying to be edgy or anything. It's just, at least while I was watching it, I couldn't really remember an experience that allowed me to relate to it. This was probably too edgily phrased though.

[@Scarshadow666]

I absolutely thank you talking about attachment theories/systems! They're things I haven't heard of before, and I now realize that I fit for having avoidant attachment issues around my friends/peers (and I'm also probably someone that doesn't know where it came from because it's something I've been doing since I was little, and still do as an adult). It's also something that I think explains where my social anxiety and trust/vulnerability issues might come from. Thank you so much for teaching people about these things, Illy! ^^

[@awesomecitykid6147]

I've never been in a relationship, and I'm too afraid to be in one because I don't want my heart to be broken by someone I'll love. But, hearing the last tip of advice made me feel a little better and I now have to accept that breakups happen for a reason. Much appreciated. ❤️

[@sherlockwho5714]

Hurt will come single or not. Not that you should rush in but take chances Tchuss

[@rimfire8217]

"My first Boyfriend was regrettable" That was the First Video of Your's I saw. It was my Introduction to subjects like; Abuse, Gaslighting, Grooming, Emotional-Blackmail. All of those awful things were originally taught to me through this Channel. However, For A while that Video and that Account of Trauma was the only thing I associated this Channel with. When you made more light-hearted videos they seemed odd alien almost Unnatural. because it is UNNATURAL For someone to go through Hell and then Heal /s. Media too often can Portray Trauma as the Eternity for a Character [Cough, Batman, Cough Magneto, Cough I love both of these Characters but Seriously it can get to a point where it's just Selling Trauma and it comes off as Disingenuous, Cough]

[@sherlockwho5714]

Agreed I don't need to talk about my trauma at this point

[@Ruby2P]

Yeah, the one when she was saying how she left was the first I saw to.

[@daniirulesdino]

no seriously

[@unknown_limes]

I really love all the easter eggs that are constantly in the backgrounds or just off to the side. Like, Finn's friends were humanized Marceline and LSP, there's Bluey references everywhere, and a million other tiny details. It keeps me watching the animation when my brain would normally tune it out bc it's more interested in the story n the meaning there.

[@crazyforcats19]

I'm happily in a relationship, but he's not my first relationship, and dang this hit hard. Btw, your description of breakups and why they happen is one of the healthiest explanations I've ever heard. So many people just blame the other person - they were either a horrible person who dumped you or a horrible person that you needed to dump, and reality isn't always like that.

[@cry_stain]

as someone who just got dumped a couple weeks ago i didnt realize how much i needed this. your story at the end sounds very familiar to mine, i was heartbroken but left with no tears. she later accused me of not caring that we broke up just because i couldn't cry about it right there and then.

[@pie1o1morris46]

People handle emotions in different ways and you are completely valid for not crying. She shouldn't have accused you of not caring just because you didn't cry, especially since she was the one to break up with you

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

I had delayed emotions (not a relationship though, just casual, but 8 years on and off and felt like a real relationship to me)

[@anjelloproductions]

I LOVE how Illy gives guidance to those who are starting their relationship journey. These tips are extremely helpful to have in the back of your mind. These will definitely help the new generation getting in relationships! Great video as always and thanks for caring for the younger generation!

[@gracexeditsyt]

100th like

[@joava3328]

Ugh, that was my 7 years ago. Had the most wonderful boyfriend. We got along beautifully, had similar values, met each other's families and all got along swell...but he wanted kids and I didn't. And he broke up with me 7 years ago this month. And I have not found anyone else since then. I've tried. I've tried not trying. I've just pretty much given up. He's married now. I'm single and lonely.

[@NA13C]

Fine. If you want some real advice here is my take. Relationships should always be an extension to your happiness not all of your happiness. You will find someone new someday!

[@qingxinn_]

just want to say ignore cheescake they're a douchebag. i hope you find someone new, and ikik people say this a lot, but i hope you'll be ok. know it was for the best, and i hope you'll be happy with someone new!

[@NA13C]

@@qingxinn_ I was joking.

[@crimson-foxtwitch2581]

@@NA13C *BONK*

[@qingxinn_]

@@NA13C saying something similar to "no one" cares isn't a joke, it could really hurt them. then sure, edit your message to make me seem like the person in the wrong.

[@xriadna]

your videos are so comforting. a reminder that i am not the only person going through these things 🫶🏻

[@bbegbrina1809]

The hardest thing is when you are experiencing this you feel like no one has ever felt this before even though you know that’s impossible. Hearing someone describe it to a t is very helpful. Thank you

[@Smo2i]

I'm not gonna lie, the sentiment she has about relationships is really touching, the line about "if someone wants to leave let them leave" really hit home. She is 100% right that every breakup is a lesson. Though I have little experience with relationships as a whole, I can give the advice that sometimes you may feel an overwhelming desire to have a relationship, maybe that means seeking one or clinging to the one you have, but the most important thing is not to be in a relationship but to have a healthy relationship. If my partner told me that they think I'm a great person, but they want to move on, if my feelings were honest then I would have to accept their feelings. It might hurt but they are their own person and people change and we cannot always know why people do the things they do or say; sometimes we just have to accept them. I hope people who read this have flourishing and healthy relationships in the future x

[@Smo2i]

oh god the bit about "we been going on for 3 months and talking about marriage", mine was within 2 weeks, this exact thing happened to me, I wanted a slow clear boundry relationship, with a person desperate for security and who had no idea of what a healthy relationship was, if it wasn't for covid I would have dived into a relationship I would never have recovered from and I am happy that I am confident enough in myself to see and identify that a toxic relationship was forming. She still stalks me; I wish the best for her, but I can never talk or see her again.

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

@@Smo2i Oh my gosh, I feel bad for her tbh. Sometimes closure is just hard to find. It’s honestly just a sad situation, and I would recommend she go to therapy if she can afford it. Tbh, that sounds like something I would do, I’m a very obsessive person, but I’m scheduling a therapy appointment and started medication yesterday. Every second of every day I think about him and I can’t make it stop. I keep crying. It’s because a lot of my memories contain him in it since I’ve known him for 8 years on and off, but if he blocks me, I have to respect that (though I didn’t before, but I learned that that’s not okay, though to some that may seem obvious). I wanted to maybe follow him on Instagram after, like, 50 years, bc then he might be chill with me, but he might think I’m trying to stalk him or that I’m still hung up on him so I’m scared about how he may interpret that. Thinking about just not, and letting him just message me if he wants to, but the reason is because what if he doesn’t know how to reach me but wants to? Oh well. Hopefully my medication kicks in, I’m insane. It takes 4-6 weeks.

[@Leoslion02]

As men, society tells me to keep my feelings in because that’s how we’re supposed to be. Rarely do I ever get to talk about how I feel. This video perfectly captures exactly how I feel and I Thank God for using you, Ily, in making this video. I know im young and have all the time in the world, but being hurt makes it seem as if my time is running out. Thank you again for this video. It means a lot

[@imaniislander755]

Yeah it must be rough for you. Have a good cry every once in a while it what I do

[@dinolover6124]

THE FOLDER AT 1:52 GIVES ME SO MUCH NOSTALGIA ⭐️

[@poisonousorange6679]

“Nothing bad can happen when nothing happens” story of my life

[@susan6834]

lmao same

[@chexrt630]

Hmm true XD

[@dr.thunder1567]

Ayyyee sameee

[@darkartsninja]

Same, and the worst part is that nothing good can ever happen too

[@κκλένη]

@@darkartsninjafrrr just one thing goes good another thing goes bad

[@Julia-dj7kp]

This actually made me cry, it is perfect timing because I'm also going through a break-up, it's been 4 months and sometimes it still hurts, but it's getting better bit by bit :)

[@user-dx8nj7qj2g]

its been 8 months for me. and I still hurt and couldn't imagine dating anyone else. but I know things get better

[@TheOfficialSloth]

How long were you dating?

[@Julia-dj7kp]

@@TheOfficialSloth for 2 years

[@GremlinsGarbagePile]

The timing of this video couldn’t have been more perfect. Having this lesson reaffirmed from someone who has a very gentle voice and a very wholesome community was perfect. Most of my summer I have spent it healing from a breakup that was very stressful to deal with. It happened during a rather difficult transition period and it honestly felt as if my world was crashing down around me. But I’m glad to say that now I’m able to keep my head above water. Thanks for all the hard work you put into these videos. They really do mean a lot. And happy early birthday btw illy. ✨Virgo season babyyyyy✨

[@walterrising4276]

tldr

[@GremlinsGarbagePile]

@@walterrising4276 who asked you?

[@corndogbark5915]

I’m so glad you’ve recovered a lot from your breakup (: Keep on keeping on, cool person ✨ (And happy virgo season lol -a virgo)

[@madc1568]

Wow we got the same life huh

[@rlujan1999]

I watched this twice. I cried both times. Thank you. I really needed this.

[@EJSmith145]

Though I've never actually been in a relationship, this hit me so hard. I don't think I've seen a video explain the emotional pain of break ups this well, that even as a single person who's never pursued love (yet still feels love), I understand these feelings. Amazing work 💖

[@maxwebb425]

I never dated, but it’s comforting to hear your experiences with breakups and how to move on. Also excited for Sweaters Edit: Sweaters is now presaved

[@jstnshea]

This brings to my mind a lyric from an Elvis Presley song, “Oh let our love survive, I’ll dry the tears from your eyes”. Sometimes that’s all we wish it took to make our problems go away. But life has its way of having an effect on us in so many different ways, feeling like we’re caught in a trap and can’t walk out. But sometimes it needs to happen.

[@Cerulean_XD]

this is the most beautiful and and emotional video I’ve seen, you are seriously an amazing creator and I think you’re stories really help people with these kinds of experiences live a healthy love life and live life in a healthy way in general. I love the artwork and the animation and the- 10:07 OMG IS THAT SIDLINK AHHHHHHHHH! All in all this is stellar work and I hope you have an awesome day! :3

[@samchiu9918]

Illymation (6:42): “The people I date deserve their privacy[; thus, avoiding going into detail.]” Domics: *creates a video series detailing every breakup he went through

[@demonkitty_toebeans]

😂🤣

[@franciscojaviergrimaldo8558]

Absolute madlad lol

[@jinhunterslay1638]

Oooh, where can I watch them?

[@JJ-zi5yd]

I respect her decision though.

[@Potato-yd3hv]

TBF, Domics used fake names for all of the people who broke up with.

[@Aces-Casino-OFFICIAL]

The fact that the dinner date part with Lumity in the background is most replayed- I love all the little things you add in these videos!

[@aCannoli]

It also had Sidon and Link! I died laughing.

[@king-gv3bk]

Lumity is overrated 😒

[@Cyycle_]

​@@king-gv3bkno lol

[@iristhyselius1621]

sidon and link is what made me skip back LMAO

[@melyndapham8922]

I knew I wasn't the only one

[@hauntcoco]

Can we take one second to appreciate all the little details and references in her videos whether it be the animation or the background i love it and i love finding them all it’s like a moving i spy book

[@AnneZita48]

10:07 Who noticed "Amity and Luz" in the background? Best couple ever! 😅❤❤

[@EmmaLecuyer-ue3qn]

There is also Sidon and link!

[@melyndapham8922]

Meeeeeeeereeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[@rikulova]

Yeyyayayyaayay I absolutely LOVE THE OWL HOUSE

[@thebeezknees_]

that last part broke me. you honestly portrayed how it feels to still love the person you’ve broken up with, even if they want to end things with you. breaking up really sucks, and i hope you’re ok.

[@callumrangan1061]

I haven’t had the displeasure of going through heartbreak yet but I feel better knowing I know what to do for myself. Thank you Illy

[@nicolascampos4136]

This honestly represents how I’ve felt about people over the years. I don’t know exactly how I feel about them, but I learned over the years it can’t always work out. When any kind of relationship doesn’t work out for I end up a mess and it’s hard for me to trust others. Last year I was in a relationship, it was great at first, but after a few months I broke up with her because I thought she was being insane. But overtime I realized it wasn’t her, it was me. I wasn’t ready and I was being an absolute d bag. And if ever given the opportunity I would apologize saying that it was me. I would tell her she deserved someone way better me. I’m in high school and I’ve learned from my mistakes not just from that, but from other relationships, whether it was me or that person. Right now I’m not currently open with anyone. I’m taking time to myself and reflect on my life. I hope I will be more open with the outside world soon. But for now it’s best if I stay out of other peoples lives.

[@Kinglykingkingdom]

All the little details and easter eggs that she puts into her videos are so adorable!!!!!

[@ethanthefishman]

Wow, that hit me way harder than I thought it was going to in the first couple minutes of the video. You perfectly expressed so many of the emotions I’ve felt in my relationships, a love life that hasn’t been great for a while now. But it was also deeply moving and almost tragic, and I damn near teared up at the end. Thanks for this video!

[@Lolbit_The_Fox]

This is relatable in a lot of different ways for me.. Years back, i somehow found myself in a relationship i didnt want, but i didnt have any sense to do anything about it until a good month after when I realized that one sided love never works. He wasn't happy about the break-up, but we moved on. Fast forward about four or five years, I ask a guy out and I'll be honest, I really dont know how to describe our relationship. He never really showed any actual feeling or affection towards me. We were "dating" for about three months before he said it wouldnt work and it broke me, to be honest. I still had feelings for him and didn't want him to leave and thats when i remembered that one sided love never works. It might be nice for you but for the other person, its judt awkward and uncomfortable. If you really love somebody, you'll let them go. And that's what i did. I'm with somebody else now whom i love and the feeling is very much mutual. He makes sure i know that im loved every single day and that i'm never alone TwT. And that's honestly the best thing i could ask for; someone I love and someone who loves me back. To any of y'all who are still looking for your one true love, you'll find them in time. It just takes longer for some people, but the outcome is always worth it. :)

[@walterrising4276]

Didn't ask

[@Lolbit_The_Fox]

@@walterrising4276 Oh im sorry, but who the heck invited you to the party?

[@stripedpolkadots8692]

@@walterrising4276 who hurt you

[@khakiminutiae8820]

I had a girlfriend for seven years.we started to lose each other(thanks to covid),then to years ago,she gave me a note saying we should be friends. To be honest,I wanted the relationship to end,but I was really depressed about and I never thought about or showed any type of emotion when it to my love until I saw this, so thank you Illy I guess? To making me realize what the hell happened to me.

[@moinuddinqureshi8804]

Ouch. Ya, I can't really imagine what it feels like or what that felt like but ya that isn't good. I'm glad you know that now. This way once you're ready you can start the healing process. PS: That girl seems like a bit of a coward since she didn't even do it face-to-face.

[@Lobotomymesitrr]

Seven years?! Damn

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

You think if COVID never happened, you guys would still be together?

[@soundpreacher]

I hope the current relationship is going much better. You seem like a really nice person, and you deserve happiness.

[@oddlyadrienne7429]

It feels like the events of your life and mine are oddly in sync with one another because your videos never fail to come at the time that I need them. I just went through a break up at the beginning of summer and have been navigating through trial and error to move on and make my life mine again. I'm actually doing really well and am now starting to enjoy it. 😊 Thank you for this video

[@rikzy7934]

As an aroace, I never experience this. This is interesting to me and the way you explain this is easy to understand. I wanna thank you for making this. It must have been hard, but thank you

[@itsmeezee3818]

I was wondering how someone on the AroAce spectrum would feel about this and it's interesting to hear your perspective! Thank you for being you ^^ - someone on the aroace spectrum

[@giant_internet_nerd]

This video is indeed very informative 👍

[@Bee8467]

Yeah the only thing i have to deal with is wanting to he friends with people-even that is rare for me, this video is makes it a bit easier to understand

[@trilobite3120]

I felt apathy while watching this video.

[@misterglo1394]

Same with me it was really eye opening

[@mx.magestyk]

I, as an aromantic, am oddly glad that you have confirmed that love is strange and complicated and sometimes too much trouble to be worth it, because that means I’m not just being a weirdo over exaggerating it all.

[@hecknfrick4236]

I feel this as an aro too like "butch you live like this?" Couldn't be me

[@the_demon149]

Me watching this video trying to understand romantic attraction like: 👁👄👁

[@Nylariel]

Always fascinating to be told that people ACTUALLY feel like this and it's not just a Hollywood trope.

[@nicoornelas5676]

@@Nylariel Right?

[@Loveyourself21072]

@@Nylariel real its so cheesy and it seems so fake like people actually feel that way??? allos are just a bunch of weirdos tbh like how can you be that obssessed over someone thats creepy :/

[@V4mpscc]

I love this sm!!!❤❤ I also love it how you put Luz and Amity in the background 10:12 I freaking love The owl house!!!!❤❤❤❤❤

[@king-gv3bk]

Lumity is overrated

[@Ihatecg]

Bro stfu link and Sidon are better

[@kibbleparty]

I love how sometimes Illy can talk about serious and rough topics, but still get the point through without being problematic or being really confusing. and i know i can always go and watch illy's videos and feel better when i am having tough times in my life, because she is so relatable in a very comforting and safe way. (also, i love all of the video game refrences you put in your videos.)

[@tiffanykennedy8763]

Illy talking about the different attachment styles made me realize that I’m both have a avoidant and anxious attachment style which explains why I’m the way I am thank you illy for making this video explaining these things and I hope that your life is going well love your content!!!

[@EEEEE3EEEEE]

10:00 love the background characters

[@dog6831]

i just broke up with my girlfriend a week ago, and since that was my first relationship it has been really hard. but it’s nice to know that i’m not alone and people understand this feeling im going through right now. everything in my head is so confusing and i feel as if this video just spelt everything out for me , thank you illy 💗

[@Inyourrearviewmirror]

my girlfriend just broke up with me today over text and I'm glad I seen this video before this happened because this may not be alot but it honestly helped me LOL me and her are still friends

[@Inyourrearviewmirror]

@Dancing Through life Lol yeah except we knew each other in person we go to the same school...

[@anacondadope550]

Breaking up over text/ ghosting is tactless and cowardly. If your gonna break up so be it, but atleast have the courtesy to be upfront and do it to their face.

[@lancetheking7524]

@@Inyourrearviewmirror here's something worst, the 2 of you having a mutual crush on eachother, liking each other for this and that, and a small stray path... to suddenly being blocked and never seeing you again while being in the same school

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

Lucky! :( I want friends

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

@@anacondadope550 What sucks is I was in a casual thing on and off for 8 years, and thought we’d always be friends above all, but he blocked me. I feel guilty bc after he did I messaged him through other means, which is wrong. He wasn’t mad though, but I still feel guilty, and he probably thinks I’m insane. Since we were casual, him just blocking me is considered to be normal in that space. Idc what anyone says, casual or serious, if it’s been a long-term anything, at least offer friendship, or say goodbye, or something. Leaving over text just shouldn’t be a thing for friendships, casual relationships, serious ones… I’m just so sad.

[@etiennebrown9469]

Can we just all appreciate all of the animation references in Illy’s backgrounds

[@emilygappel]

The Lumity cameo made me smile 😁

[@SOURCEGUY123]

The frontiers reference made me smile :D

[@everett9199]

was so freakin' happy seeing Bee and Puppycat.

[@meganlouev]

Night in the Woods!

[@kaiahjaeger1124]

Undertale cameo :D

[@alexislennon4973]

Being Aroace I struggle seeing relationships as anything more then friendship I am always worried when I have guy friends that I am going to far, I don't want them to develop a crush on me Yet a lot of them do Then what do you do? You tell them the truth I have my dad who has told me how hard it is for guys to confess I get that I understand that and I would never want to hurt them Yet I don't have the same feelings So I deny This can cause them to distance themselves from you Nothing wrong with that of course! If your looking for something more and I can't give that to you and you need to step away I understand that As much as it hurts to say goodbye Sometimes it's better for everyone involved 🥺

[@theidiotsandwich8147]

haha me too but the exact opposite i really need to stop constantly trying to contradict myself

[@KAI_WAV-k8j]

Same.

[@Truffle474]

My only suggestion is to befriend as many gay people as possible. (Srsly though my best wishes are with you and I hope you find a good group of friends who don't expect that kind of relationship from you )

[@thecourtjester1931]

It’s okay

[@gabbykatusimme1858]

What's Aroace?

[@Silunce]

This was actually very eye opening and after dealing with a hard breakup, it really helped me put things into perspective. It still hurts sometimes, but just because something hurts doesn't mean its not supposed to happen. With pain comes healing and in time we both will recover, and who knows, maybe one day I'll find someone, but that's not the end goal. It's learning to live our lives and simply be happy and healthy.

[@PegaFox]

I'm dumbfounded by how relatable so many of these struggles are, thank you for this video

[@walterrising4276]

From one autistimo to another

[@S0fizzy]

I was just thinking how cute and happy it was she found someone she really clicked with and got chills at this part 10:26 I don't know how I didnt expect it but it shocked me 😢

[@rama-ps1yx]

I love how illy always makes these little touches like adding puppycat and bee in the background!

[@J4ckSk3llingt0n-10]

10:08 you've earned my full respect for putting amity and luz in there on a date U-U

[@chaotic_ourple]

The timing of this one was impeccable. My partner broke up with me just yesterday and I've been trying to cope with that and figure out what I'm gonna do now

[@beatrizcerdar.5680]

Keep it up, same over here :c

[@IMSOFIITF]

I’m someone.. who was really struggling to say, “ I want to break up.” …Thank you. For, making this video.

[@bridget_pg]

me too

[@anubisgodess2353]

I'm currently going through a lot of emotions after a lot of drama and some unsavory stuff happened to me in my relationship I really appreciate this Illy. It's rough now but I'll get better hopefully

[@walterrising4276]

L

[@infinitytabs5477]

@@walterrising4276 😂

[@TheTurtleWithATopHat]

11:15 The towel says "Yes, the horrors are indescribable but you've got to serve

[@pluvphile]

Everyone is talking about the content and timing etc of the video but can we talk about how smooth and nice the animation is??? Moments like 4:30 make the characters movements look so smooth!!

[@mint_marigold1229]

I'm so sorry you went through a breakup like that... but I'm so glad you're able to find music through the pain. Sometimes singing speaks better than a million words ever can. Thanks for being there for us on KZbin, your videos are amazing and I really enjoy your stories and advice. :)

[@SnaxTheSnaxolotl]

This one hurt to watch.been through some heartache myself, but I’m engaged now and happier than ever. Hopefully things turn out well for whoever needs to hear if right now.

[@walterrising4276]

Wrong

[@SaidStupidRodent]

iscream workin at the froyo giving froyo to the splatoon three idles I'm dying

[@just_Nyra]

This hit me. Especially at 10:35. My college boyfriend, who was my first everything and dated for almost 2 years, told me after a date one night exactly the same: “I don’t see a future.” It broke me and 5 years later, it still hurts but I’ve slowly gotten over it with LOTS of friend friend therapy sessions. It went way too fast and that was our downfall. I haven’t dated since then but I’ve been talking to a guy lately and it’s going way slower, which is weird from what I know, but the right way. I’m not keeping my hopes up but just seeing where it leads.

[@christiannataylor2735]

It's hard, because in my past relationships, I gave my all. I think that I hyperfocus on my relationships like everything else I care about. When I was 6 years younger, before my current relationship, I was anxiously attached to my ex because I was insecure and afraid I would lose him like I have many friends over the years when I moved from place to place. I thought I'm inherently awful and just went through a traumatic experience the summer before. When I moved again, I broke. Now I've been in a healthier relationship for 5 years, and I'm starting to tell myself that my self worth isn't reflected solely in things I fail at.

[@obitouchiha3865]

I did too but I failed to realize that people who lie and cheat, yes I was pissed and wanted to commit something horrible but I realized that committing something horrible and ruining their lives will end up ruining your life and your own freedom

[@christiannataylor2735]

@@obitouchiha3865 I get that feeling. Though, I try not to celebrate others' misfortune even if they've hurt me. Somebody that hurt me has been estranged because she sent a kid to a hospital and is now going through a divorce. I try to keep in mind that her children will be devastated and feel the effects of her actions. It's important not to be as petty as they'd be.

[@secretcode30]

This video couldn't have come at a better time. My first relationship ended a few months ago; it was not too deep as it was mostly long-distance, but it meant a lot to me, and even though we ended on peaceful terms it was still hard for me to let go. Even now sometimes I feel like crying because I feel like I could have done something, and I had never envisioned the possibility it will end this way. And as I didn't talk about it to many people, I don't have ways to speak up about it and sort my feelings out. So...it feels comforting to know that my feelings are valid, and that I made the right choice in letting them go when they told me it wasn't working out. It's a little hard, but I'm sure I'm going to get through it. Thank you.

[@Evening451]

I love how this video and was released on splatoon 3s release date and shiver and frye are in the background at 5:47

[@gokuljosh1186]

This video took me through a journey that I've never had, but could really feel the emotion conveyed throughout as if I've experienced it. I've been getting stressed these days for no reason, and couldn't keep my mind concentrated on a single thing. This video gave me sort of pnut clarity and had me focussed to it till end.

[@jam6744]

I gave my ex a second chance, we’ve been together since middle school and I’m in college now. He’s my best friend and I have watched him grow and change as the years went by. But even though it’s been 3 years since we’ve gotten back together, I find there are as many reasons for me to leave as there are for me to stay. im scared to lose the one person I could count on to be there to talk to and have fun with. It has been an endless cycle of being fine emotionally to sobbing over some small inconvenience in our relationship. I feel that we are not compatible anymore. Because of these reasons I burst out crying halfway through the video lol. Your words made me realize something, I just wonder if I’ll ever take action and do something about my feelings. Good luck to anyone else who is struggling with their relationships, I wish you peace and happiness.

[@Rileyboi69]

I felt this way with my ex. It took him cheating on me a second time for me to finally do something about it. I had slowly been falling out of love with him for months and so he made it really easy to decide. I met my girlfriend towards the end of our relationship and I realized she made me happier and treated me better than he did. It sucked at first but in my loneliness I had her. We both just came out of toxic relationships and it was just good timing. It’s like they say you really do sometimes find love when you stop looking for it. Idk if we’ll last forever but it’s the first time I’ve ever felt like this for someone. So for now I’m going to hold on to it. It’s only a matter of time friend. Eventually we all find happiness.

[@_Jasmin_Tejeda_]

I really needed to hear this. I am currently going through a breakup. What you mentioned at 10:30 is how it felt and from then on in the video, that’s what I’ve been doing ever since it had happened.I was taking mental notes on what to do and not to do. Healing after a breakup is something hard. Its like being in mourning. But seeing this video really opened my eyes; I can’t express how helpful it is to see this video. Thank you so much illy ❤️🤟

[@_Jasmin_Tejeda_]

Hiya, just wanted to give an update. I totally forgot about this comment. I’m doing so much better. I took time to myself and I started going to therapy. I put myself first instead of others. I ended up getting a better job where I’m more happier. Sadly though, over time I developed a bad overthinking problem, and I decided to take meds for it. And since then I’ve seen life through a different perspective. I actually started seeing someone that I can see myself dating. I’m a little worried about it happening though, but I’m happy where him and I are. And if we end up together and start dating, great, and if not and we stay friends, great. I have more time to explore with dating! But, it’s not my #1 priority. My priority is focusing on myself ❤

[@nellie6583]

Anyone else who just watches all illy’s videos.I love how she always talks about serious topics which others don’t.

[@angel_of_the_cookies9644]

dude, I *LOVE* these kind of videos, like they are giving you life advice, in the most entertaining way! I appreciate you illymation and you should be proud of yourself for being such a *BEAUTIFUL* person! ❤❤

[@kile1058]

Wow the ending hit, because that's exactly where I found myself in April. Down to the "I just don't see a future with you anymore". For the first time though I was able to let go peacefully, because I knew it didn't mean we both didn't or wouldn't still have love for each other. I'm really blessed to say we still are friends and keep in touch too. For the first time I'm happy single and wanting to be single. At the moment I couldn't care less if I stay single forever. I doubt I'll always feel that but I'm living in it and am enjoying reconnecting with old friends and taking better care of myself and my life. I don't know what might come for me, and finally, I don't really care

[@hitrujillo7529]

How do you do it what did you say

[@Senpapi_14]

As someone who just got broken up with less than 24 hours ago, this video means a lot and really helped. Thank you and I wish everyone who’s going through the same thing the best❤️

[@froggie6624]

I normally don’t comment much, but this video came out right after my first ever bf broke up with me….I didn’t really know how to process it but I still felt very depressed. Most of these tips helped me a lot. I got into musicals and enjoyed spending time with my friends and before I knew it, I saw the terrible person that he was. I’m happy that I’m in a better place…thank you illy ❤️