Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

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@DonjaParmasche-1 3 ай бұрын

I love your podcast, listening every morning to it and learning a lot. Could you please talk one day about the fact that a lot of people fall in love with the bad guy or bad girl? Surely is a deeper mental reason behind it. Thank you, Rob.

@PaigeSquared Ай бұрын

"No matter what happens to them, they are almost always calm." I miss my dad so much. ❤️

@КристинаВасилянская-ы7ш 3 ай бұрын

Incredibly well said. Thank you!

@AlexGomez-ur5eb 3 ай бұрын

Top one brother! Cheers from Sydney

@Proposal12 2 ай бұрын

If everyone had extreme self awareness of other people , they would have to replace mcdonalds with mental clinics ... Self awareness is however paramount, self reflection I think, would be even more so... I grew up Military, and in a very toxic environment, not looking for sympathy, just saying that "Childhood traumas" can affect one much later in life keaving one puzzled. I´ve heard mild things, such as "suck it up", or at the age of 8 , "Stop crying, or I´ll give you a reason..." Never cried since.

@PaigeSquared Ай бұрын

I do not believe that any child experiences dehumanizing and rejection from their primary attachment as "mild." Yes, pain can always get worse. That does not mean that a person's experience is any less valid or meaningful. Our emotions are real, even if they might be "inappropriate" for the circumstances, they are always right, as they are neutral information. There is not a wrong feeling. When they are "inappropriate," it is often because we have leftover feelings from a prior incident that are being brought up. We aren't meant to walk around with a bunch of suppressed emotions battling it out within our bodies. It hurts; I spent decades in that state. A supposedly more mature and capable adult forced you to disconnect from your body's natural chemical processes, for their own immediate comfort. Just to feel less awkward in the moment, they forced you to choose between what a child perceives as life or death, abandonment or acceptance. Would you ever manipulate a child in that way, to feel less uncomfortable? Would you tell them to deny what their actual lived experience is, in order to survive, when it is something that is mildly uncomfortable for you? You were made to betray your own self. They put that on you, as a kid. They weren't making sure you could survive in the world or making sure you were tough. They gaslit you into accepting their definitions of the world, instead of being allowed to trust what your body was sensing. Not mild. ❤