Interracial Relationship - Black Women Married To White Men Have The Longest Relationship

[@Second_Son1990]

It seems to be true. My older sister is married to a White man. They’ve been married forever and still seem to be very much in love. It’s beautiful to see. And I’m a black gay man, lol. Some of the Black men were definitely salty. But oh well. I’m only concerned with seeing Black women loved, protected, and glowing. If they love it, I love it. ❤

[@farrahforever0210]

❤

[@tonia2574]

Right back at you love, I just want everyone to have what they truly love.

[@Second_Son1990]

@@farrahforever0210 ❤️🫶🏽🤗

[@Second_Son1990]

@@tonia2574 Aww, thank you, love! I appreciate that! I agree, I just want to see folks winning and happy. ❤️🙏🏽

[@q.t.gamingfamily]

I think this is because bm tend to take us for granted. They know we're not known to IR date, so they mistreat us because they know we're not going to go anywhere. Until we do. We are now seeing that we should go wherever we're appreciated and to be loved by a bw is appreciated and, I believe, he loves her back and he shows it. I have noticed that wm tends to know and is socialized to treat us like the women we are. They know that if something happens to him, we got his back. BM always telling us we're not deserving of love and protection or when they are with us. The demands are crazy. I have never dated a wm who asked me for money or to move into my home. I've dated bm who asked for money and to move into my home THE DAY WE MET.

[@kaysera6566]

BM and WW are always somewhere playing the victim. BW and WM nix the excuses and do what needs to be done.

[@sadiemason-martin5340]

I totally agree with you, but don't put down other women, please, because i have a white mom, and she is a really great mom.

[@JamesRichards-zk2hl]

Nah black women out there trying to chase after white men while black men and white women are out there going out of their way to do what's needed to be done.

[@chiobabe2180]

FACTS 👏🏽

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

right😂😂!!!

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

@@sadiemason-martin5340they aren’t talking about all white women don’t worry, just the few that do.

[@sheilakosoff5806]

In my own experiences, from what I have seen that Black women get to be Black and confident in their blackness.

[@vanellesmith4598]

Yes. We do it regardless of who care.s. It's just who we are. Beautiful and amazing.

[@Arrowslinger2]

huh

[@AdelTheForsaken]

I was speechless when my Brad reminded me to put my bonnet on before I went to bed. (I was a zombie by the time I got home) We have very furry pets ,and their hair gets in my locs like nobody's business😂

[@D13vest]

Impossible. You conform to whiteness.

[@loriannrichardson7644]

Because white men don't have to compete, concern themselves with a power dynamic because they're at the top of the food chain.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

My black husband heard me listening to this and his spirit was super bothered. He got in my face telling me it’s useless knowledge and nobody cares but he cared enough to voice his useless opinion 😂🤦🏾‍♀️

[@KL-qx4ok]

Why woukd you be on here shaming your black husband.. this is the disloyalty we don’t need.. you should divorce him and marry a white man.. go with the current social trend..👁️👁️

[@ashmoise3175]

😢😅

[@kevinc3342]

Y'all have some problems in that marriage... both of you.

[@JblessedDiaries]

😂😂😂

[@submissiveproviderstboth9485]

“Molly you in danger girl” 😮

[@princessleah187xx4]

Most bm can't afford to have a wife and family which is why when it gets too hot in the kitchen they SPLIT

[@ShaunaShai]

Soo true 😂 If men had to pay for every job that a women is expected to do in a relationship, BM would instantly be out of the game. They want traditional women and patriarchal benefits on a 100% discount!

[@AdelTheForsaken]

​@@ShaunaShainothing but straight facts! My husband understands that the household chores ,and task of looking after the elderly parents and future children is going to be a lot on my plate. therefore he asked me recently if I was ready to be the house spouse. When I explain to him why I wasn't ready to do that yet he understood. And the offer still stand. This scenario seldomly happens in the communitah, and when it does is usually something sinister behind it.

[@indastarz4759]

Why do you have to tear down black men 😕 a black man can do the same exact thing a white man can do. Not every black man is the animal you generalize us to be. A lot of us actually adore black women in fact the majority of us do. You are an Uncle Tom. There is such thing as white trash. The white man is the most evil and vile man in the world 🌎 you women are unable to see that. The white man is happiest in his own skin and is incapable of relating to a black woman going through a racist America. White men walk out on their families a lot too but the media only cares when it’s a black man.

[@yehudahbenisaiah1934]

Bullshit, In fact most black women don't want nothing to do with white men, Especially in bed, facts And the reason why there are so many black baby mommas is because of yall black modern day women attitudes, Those are the facts 90. Percent of black women, don't want nothing to do with a white man Those are the facts

[@chiobabe2180]

@@ShaunaShaieverybody is catching on ! They can’t afford it

[@Hagar-yn8jm]

I'm starting to despise when people say "not all ____ men/ women/ etc. are the same". The large majority knows not to generalize. The purpose of these conversations is to express patterns we've all noticed among certain demographics.

[@annaroselivingherlifeunapo9845]

I can't stand it.

[@essmac3453]

Not everyone has comprehension skills, so unfortunately it has to mentioned, so that person isnt attacked on social media because they didn't say "not all..." Look at that last black women. The video is talking about interracial relationships, but she found it relevant to say the stat is incorrect because black on black love last longer.

[@Chessica450-m3d]

They do it to gaslight and try and drown you out! They want to stifle your message and shut you up

[@MsMoneyonMyMind]

Fkn this!

[@godzilla6490]

Yep! "Racial Blanqueamiento/Racial Whitening has always been a problem around the world.... The British the Spanish and the French, has really done a number on indigenous people within the last few hundred years

[@RightToFreedomGirl]

i was treated like i was the 1st Lady. He was protective (yes carried firearm), cooked, bought me fresh flowers every Sunday. He let me be fragile & express an opinion w/out demeaning or ignoring me even if he disagreed Lol. He surprise me w/ planned trips to beach (made hotel reserv), grilled cedar plank salmon & burgers, cut my grass without me asking, etc.I understood his LOVE LANGUAGE & he understood mine (acts of service).

[@annaroselivingherlifeunapo9845]

Love this for us.

[@RightToFreedomGirl]

@@annaroselivingherlifeunapo9845 😘❤️❤️❤️

[@Chessica450-m3d]

Living this life forever! ❤❤❤

[@kevinc3342]

I don't get it... why didn't this amazing non-Black/Anglo-white man marry you? He should have married you - period.

[@Crtiphe]

@@kevinc3342as usual. They just use them for sex then leave😂. Then they later on revert to being pro black

[@ShaunaShai]

I’m soo glad to see more BW opening up their options. Race loyalty never got us anywhere. My best experiences have been with WM, I can be myself, I can relax, rest and the reciprocation is delightful.

[@annaroselivingherlifeunapo9845]

Currently dating outside my race I'm glad I made that decision. It was struggle to find a partner among my own race.Never thought that I would be in love with a Jewish man. I truly wish that our sisters stop being race loyal.

[@teresam5199]

💯💯💯

[@ShaunaShai]

@@annaroselivingherlifeunapo9845 I’m soo happy for you. Enjoy your time with him, be intentional and enjoy being treated like a princess 💖

[@SEXgoddess.]

You’ve said it

[@D13vest]

You were never loyal, I dont believe a such thing exists

[@dangermauz754]

Based on my observation, in the workplace, there's no power struggle between BW and WM. They take responsibility. They aren't afraid to take risks. And, they love pushing themselves to be their best selves. They also don't cut corners to get the best results.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

I can’t remember his name, but what you said reminds me of that Wall Street WM who said he specifically hires BW because we get stuff done like no one else. I wish I could find that video because it’s on YT.

[@ramonamron5194]

This is funny! WM have nothing to worry about! That is why they are at ease and there is not conflict in relationships. They control everything! Provider is another word for making money, which they do plenty of!

[@LionHeartChardonnay]

@@LadyAstarionAncuninthat’s crazy because Donald trump said the samething. He said he would always partner up with a black woman, because business wise that’s our strength. Let it be known I’m not a fan of his at all, but the fact that white men are at least acknowledging that we are useful is like finally someone sees us.

[@dangermauz754]

@@anewx if you have job? You'll be the last person to say someone else is a slave. Cut it out..

[@dangermauz754]

@@LionHeartChardonnay Historically, we were also their next of kin or heir to their fortunes, too.. All you gotta do is look at the days of slavery. Black Women and girls were used to protect the family's wealth. Especially, if the family didn't want greedy relatives to touch it.

[@advisorywarning]

As a bisexual half Asian woman- I absolutely adore bw. I feel that many black men tend to take bw’s kind, hard working, ambitious, hilarious, talented, beautiful, warm spirits for granted. It’s not right. It’s deeply disturbing, actually. Maybe it’s because bm have a lower social status in comparison to their white counterparts so they take that frustration out on bw. I’m not sure- but their behavior in that regard is inexcusable. What I have noticed is that no other group shits on or demonizes their women (in the public sphere btw for everyone to see) in the same way that black men do. It’s infuriating. I am SO thrilled to see bw opening up their dating pool and realizing that so many of us non black folks adore black women!! Y’all deserve so much more💜

[@IamLolaLasaige]

As a black woman ❤ I love this response the most

[@Second_Son1990]

@guydrekusmorris2734 Lmao. Somebody is salty 😂💀

[@Chocolatechocolate7224]

@@Second_Son1990bc it’s true not all black women are good ppl. There are good black women and bad black women.

[@ShayBoogie44]

Thanks sis! ❤

[@P03ticJustice]

You're exactly right

[@princessleah187xx4]

The lady with the white hair was spot on when she talked about the power struggle between bw and bm. The only institution where a bm is ALLOWED to rule is the family so ANY pushback by any woman especially a bw is gonna be met with extreme hostility. This is why they're so obsessed with "submission " with their partners Cuz this is the only time they're allowed to rule and be in control. I have many non black gf who had kids with nakers and the second she challenges him on anything, she's told she's "acting like a black woman".

[@beigenegress2979]

Not even push back, just input or feedback!

[@mizzmolly7649]

OMG, you are so SPOT ON!!!

[@beigenegress2979]

@@neutraliserjanine BM (in the USA) do not recognize any “issues” that BW have bec we are women. They think “nothing” happened to BW during slavery or during Jim Crow. BW were sitting in the shade drinking beverages and relaxing during slavery in between being “courted” by WM. And they do not recognize that an enslaved women cannot withhold “consent” or give consent anymore than a mule consents or with holds consent to pull a plow, and therefore, seggs between BW who were slaves were in a voluntary relationship EXACTLY the same as BW who date or marry WM post slavery.

[@Intuitivemermaid]

We live rent free in bm heads, we should go ahead a park a trailer on his amygdala.

[@nicholetaimi5331]

@@Intuitivemermaid He should be comfortable with that as he got his becky from a trailer park.

[@Sannypowa]

I have always loved BW, now even more and today I am so happy to see BW finally rejecting struggle love and open up to interracial dating ❤

[@je.suis.prisci]

Yup, I've been telling them there's another pool of white men and they're all versatile. We have options 😂

[@Sannypowa]

@@je.suis.prisci And I can cook too 🤣

[@eosohand]

@@je.suis.prisciblack American are bad get yourself a Nigerian man

[@damieo8139]

@@Sannypowa awww, you're so cute. Hope you find your black queen.

[@redsoul6900]

You look cute. Do you have a channel?

[@practicaloccultist231]

As a white man I fell in love with a black woman. It didn’t work out as she needed therapy and I couldn’t fix her problems for her, but I know I have a type now, BW are so beautiful and I can’t wait to try again soon 🙂

[@roygross3777]

In my case, my Black wife is the strongest woman I have ever met. And she has a very excellent since of justice. I find the she is usually correct. She makes me a better man, because when she sees a weakness in me, she is completely truthful and tells me when I am wrong. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me!

[@Luckimee]

So happy for you! I think I'd like to get married one day

[@femdivinemind7777]

I love that you love the fact she makes you aware of your weaknesses ...that's the true spirit of a leader

[@user-ooop]

They want us to choose from bottom but also say choose better when things go wrong

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

This!!!!

[@PinkVibrations89]

Those nuccas were HURT! 🤭.... they can do it but we can't? I'm so glad that we are deciding to NOT be so loyal to people who were NEVER loyal to us.

[@Chessica450-m3d]

❤❤❤❤

[@kevinc3342]

@@bloodleopard3831 You meant to add this too ...right? "Daughters of the Trade: Atlantic Slavers and Interracial Marriage on the Gold Coast" - a book that proves how Black women collaborated with Europeans in the Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade. Why are Black women ONLY blaming Black men, when African woman did the same? Not only that - it was EUROPEANS who ran the entire trade, but that seems okay...

[@loriannrichardson7644]

And they do it at 2Xs the rate of Black women. 🤷‍♀️

[@JUDALATION]

None of them seemed "hurt" lol... race loyalty is a myth... most men date out 80/20

[@michaelrapando6658]

So massa has always been loyal to you?The good thing is they made you ,so let them have you and let melanin lovers with pride and love of being black stay together and you run to your massa

[@tanisha7789]

Black women go where u are loved 🥰 period

[@RetooldByJasmyn]

This!!!!!

[@songoku64]

And that also includes a good upstanding none Hood black dudes like me you all are lumping us into one category. I love my black women it's almost like I'm not black man myself the most struggle I get is trying to talk to a black woman nowadays because I'm not white

[@TylerRandall-o4m]

Hi how you ❤❤

[@Cpre1111]

Im not married but my BF is White. He is so thoughtful & considerate of my needs/desires. He goes above & beyond without me asking him to. He is a provider in EVERY way-he provides security in showing me that I matter to him and that he'll be faithful, committed & true to us; he provides safety; peace of mind; and money is never a debate. When I say I feel like I can be my authentic self with him (weave, nails, braids, natural, relaxed), he doesnt care. And my baby touches my hair, weave and all, lol😂 so idk wth that other guy is joking/talking about. I can say that Ive never felt like more of a woman with any other man than I currently feel with my boyfriend today b/c Im not stressed, disrespected, devalued, dismissed, worried he'll give up on us b/c he found a baddie or over some small slight. He's not trying to dominate me, control me, confine me or place restrictions on me. He just wants what's best for me. And things are so easy between us. Being with him is as easy as breathing. I love him (but I still havent yet told him), after 2 months of dating and a total of 1 year knowing one another. I took my time with him. He let me take my time and he never failed to prove that he's just a good man-consistent, true, loyal, dependable. The list goes on. And he talks about marriage, building a family, a real future! He's everything I ever wanted in a partner. We dont fight about common sense. Like I said, its been easy, fun, and I feel like I never have before. I cant speak for these BW/WM marriages, but if their men make them feel anyway like mines does to me, then I get why the marriage rate is higher. Because Im not going to do anything to jeopardize losing such a good man.

[@acurry722]

Yes, white women do an amazing job raising productive, emotionally intelligent men with cultural values. White women are superior mothers 💪

[@lilianoga937]

Beautiful!❤ a woman never jeopardizes her relationship with an actual good man. God bless you both.

[@SunseedStarchild]

❤❤❤

[@kevinc3342]

Everyone is happy for you, but it's failure if that Anglo-white man does not marry you. There are plenty of videos and discussion of Black women praising on dating non-Black men, but the marriage-rate is low overall. With only 1 in 4 married Black women, it's way past time for these non-Black men to STOP dating and prove their worth in marriage. Dating is not enough anymore - marriage is the ONLY statistic that counts!!

[@submissiveproviderstboth9485]

@@kevinc3342it 1 in 4 for RACE LOYAL BW ONLY🥴🤡 if they ditch the one sided loyalty they will fly❤

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

To the sister with the white hair 👩🏾‍🦳 she is correct. If you try to tell a black man wait baby don’t do that. He gets upset like you trying to run things. Than they be like d@mn I shouldn’t done that 🙄. They actually think if we speaking up against something we trying to take power over them. No sweetheart it’s called “ foresight”. We can see certain things before ish happens.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

They hate listening to us about anything and that’s why they fail at EVERYTHING

[@JamesRichards-zk2hl]

@@bloodleopard3831 Do you think black men should go to where they are beloved or only date black women if so why can't black women be held to that same standard?

[@JUDALATION]

So do you tell the white man to wait? Or is it that you feel you can baby black men but cant baby white men?

[@toomuchinformation]

Truth is men HATE being told what to do by women generally and their wives specifically. You may think that you're being helpful, but a man interprets it differently.

[@Heartfeltvoice1727]

You’re 1000% right✅

[@Ravensidentity]

It's very odd that even trying to open up the discussion, just as a discussion, people want to question why you wonder about this or become condescending and say they don't care. That's why some of us are tired of dating black men. I'm tired of my opinions being shot down as wrong or stupid just because I don't agree with a black man. With a black man even just on FB casually commenting I'm clowned and berated at every chance I get no matter how neutral and logical I remain. I don't want to date any race that will put me down or make me feel as though I was better off not existing. I live in America, I don't need to be reminded that I'm the most unprotected and least cared for. I want someone that will treat me the way I treat them or better.

[@aamazintribe]

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[@Hagar-yn8jm]

Makes a world of sense. You are validated.

[@chickentoucher55]

The answer why they last longest is because blacks are most likely to be worse socioeconomic conditions so dating a white man will more than likely be a good opportunity to become higher income than your black and black counterparts

[@hanma6480]

Yes cuz we don’t see colors we see what is in the heart ❤️ unlike them

[@mrmoe110]

So how should black men look at black women after watching this video?

[@mochamommyATX]

Its always been about common interests and bonds. I find that men who are INSECURE will never be good partners to ANY WOMEN. Men who are secure in themselves make good husbands REGARDLESS.

[@terezahoward4008]

verbal communication is better, they try to reach a solution together, they help around the house, and with kids - this is what i see

[@0ChildStar]

During my time at Dept of Labor, I came across a report that showed the workforce has more White men and Black Women working. White women came in second place in the workforce. I wish could remember the name of the report but, they both dominated the workplace. Even, my friend noticed during the work week, you see nothing but Black Women and White Men going to work in the morning. Their together at work all day, I guess personal relationships are going to happen. I'm married to a White Hispanic. We met at work. 🤔🤷🏾‍♀

[@Chessica450-m3d]

Met my past loves at work too!! 😂

[@D13vest]

This is clearly not true. Do you have a job? Have you worked? WW are the most employed. BW working in support and admin positions is probably why you see BW running to work.

[@0ChildStar]

@@D13vest I guess Dept of Labor in D.C. lied on their report findings. 🤷🏾‍♀

[@0ChildStar]

@@D13vest Did you read my comment? I was working for the US Dept of Labor. I'm a Federal Government employee. However, this was before Covid-19. 🤦🏾‍♀

[@D13vest]

@@0ChildStar Labor stats dont lie, You do though. Do you have a job? Have you gone to work? If WW come in second according to you than theres no way BW dominate the workforce. Its still WW and WM dummy.

[@jasminejimenezgordonnnn]

I’m a 24 black woman, I married a white identifying Mexican man when I was 20. Best decision I ever made

[@kevinc3342]

The average age of marriage for Black women in the USA is 32. If most BW women married non-Black men around age 20 and stay married, there would be fewer complaints about over 70% Black babies born out of wedlock and over 50% BW as never-married baby mamas. You did it right!! Today, it's mostly just BW giving up sex to non-Black men, and becoming baby mamas to biracial and mixed-race kids!! There's no difference from Black Pookie!!

[@danieltaylor211]

They don't wanna hear that though, my cousin in the same situation

[@ceazardagreat9152]

Interracial dating is a sin against god 🙏 it's a abomination

[@ceazardagreat9152]

Get that slave mentality self hate outta your heart ❤️ black men and black women is pure and divine from god 🙏

[@ceazardagreat9152]

Interracial dating is a sin against god 🙏 and a abomination

[@misosouperman]

My mom is black and my dad is white, they have 39 yrs this year!

[@Sanderson5CLC]

Congratulations Love😊

[@tessy28]

Yes its true. I am engaged to a Polish man and my sister has been happily married to a Swedish man for the past 12 years. They tale marriage seriously and want to provide. My fiance spoils me rotten I get princess treatment 😊

[@chrisharris2367]

Yeah I’ve had 4 polish men hit on me asking me out or outwardly liking me that I knew of in my lifetime Polish men/ppl seem to be me the least racist from what I’ve seen I’m a black woman from the Midwest

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

​@@chrisharris2367>>> I _suspect_ Poland having a history of being occupied by WWII Nazi Germany, and THEN by the Soviet Union, the people there tend to 'See thru the superfluous B.S.'

[@kandondooley89]

Quite honestly, as a gay black man I've always felt bad for my black sisters feeling that they have to show race loyalty instead of just getting for the man that's best for them. Both interracial and intraracial relationships can be beautiful and Godsends or take you through Hell depending on what their built off of. Take care, everyone!

[@ronnellsun6445]

And for the record, I'm with a beautiful Black Queen, what about your rainbow ass

[@stephanielove2662]

I totally agree! I used to all the time in Cali now that I live in Texas I haven’t found the right guys I like here.

[@kandondooley89]

@@stephanielove2662 that's crazy. I'm from TX and stayed in Cali for 10 years lol

[@jayb3473]

Most importantly white men are raised to believe that marriage is required for success. They buy into it. Blk women buy into it so they both thrive. Might I also say that she might feel safer which is healthier personally and for the marriage. Which leads to both feeling happier. A critical mass of Blk men are not raised to buy into marriage and are not supported even if they do buy into marriage. Their support (friends, social media) encourages infidelity. So even though white women buy into marriage, if they have to overcome infidelity then they won’t feel safe. Which then affects the marriage. IMO

[@kandondooley89]

@jayb3473 alot of these are pretty broad generalizations but they still hold weight. Good analysis.

[@vawest2052]

Tina Turner is the first person to come to mind when I saw the title of this video, then David Bowie and Iman, even Serena Williams and her husband, it seems like a respect issue. In my own life, I only know 6 couples that a WM/BW and half of those were married to black man first but married a white man for their 2nd marriage. I'm also from an older generation so I'm not sure how people under 25 even date anymore.

[@TheRazorTongue]

I think there were stats on this for BWWM, many of them were on their second marriage.

[@kevinc3342]

With exception to Iman/David Bowie - all those Black women married down and take care of their Anglo-white husbands. They didn't marry up. Isn't the strategy to marry up in salary, wealth, and social status?

[@toomuchinformation]

​@@kevinc3342There's Eve, Melody Hobson, Nicole Avant, Diana Ross. But even if a BW marries "down" in terms of wealth, she's still better off than if she married a Black Man who is less wealthy than her, as Wendy Williams and Mary J Blige would testify. As for Serena W, she wanted to get married and have children. She didn't want to be a baby mama like Naomi. Common wasn't up for that and still isn't.

[@kevinc3342]

@@toomuchinformation Women love to find the few exceptions versus the rule. Again - too many Black women marry/married down in salary, wealth, social status, and take care of their Anglo-white husbands. They didn't marry up. That is NOT the strategy; it's a MAJOR fail!! You're NOT "better off in wealth," (as you say) if BW must take care of white men while STILL complaining about Black men!!

[@kevinc3342]

@@toomuchinformation "As for Serena W, she wanted to get married and have children. She didn't want to be a baby mama like Naomi." You remove women's responsibility and accountability NOT to end up as baby mamas. I'm not sure if you know, but you realize that women do NOT have to be baby mamas... right?!

[@AnonyMous-lh3cm]

The young lady who said “I don’t believe this at all”-statistics actually say it’s true. It’s an actual fact supported by data.

[@nbucwa6621]

she was in her feelings for whatever reason

[@silverioford5667]

its a Bull Shit statistic from a very finite percentage of couples

[@Ms.Focused]

We talked about this in sociology. A study was done. Men marry white women first when they marry inter racially. BUT, all of those marriages have the highest divorce rate even amongst ‘wm and ww marriages. And BW with any race last the longest. There was a study done on this.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

I wish the original poster had worded what she said better, including the actual studies that reported the stat. That way, it’d have been harder, or even impossible, to push back against.

[@kingderald]

She needs to understand especially in western culture it’s prevalent.

[@noniboo1521]

I'm happy to see young Black women crossing that color line. Hallelujah!!! I live in California and see Black women with Asian, Latino and White men. Their marriages last longer and seem more successful, outside their race. The more educated the Black women is the more likely she will marry due to more interaction with other races of men. If you educate your girls in a more interracial environment, they are more likely to cross over. They aren't looking for other races but are treated better when they do date. I don't want to see Black women without love in their lives.

[@Chessica450-m3d]

Amen!! ❤❤❤❤

[@kevinc3342]

Everyone is happy for BW who find good men, but it's failure if these Anglo-white man do not marry you. There are plenty of videos and discussion of Black women praising on dating non-Black men, but the marriage-rate is low overall. With only 1 in 4 married Black women, it's way past time for these non-Black men to STOP dating and prove their worth in marriage. Dating is not enough anymore - marriage is the ONLY statistic that counts!!

[@noniboo1521]

@kevinc3342 Well interracial marriage stats between any race is low because most people generally marry within their race. But a ton of Black women aren't MARRIED TO BLACK MEN either! Quite a few of are having babies by Black men who won't marry you too. So there goes the phrase, " baby momma". Many Bkack men would rather marry a "Walmart special " than with in your own race. Perhaps your fear is that you see it and it's scarring you!. I Iive in California and happily seeing it more and more. My daughter has a close friend, and her HUSBAND is Asian. They have been together for 10 years and are doing quite well both college graduates with good jobs. Black women will find themselves alone if they put all their eggs in one basket.

[@kevinc3342]

The JAN 2023 CDC NHSR reflects that 54% unmarried/never-married Black men do NOT have kids. U.S. Census data proves that 33% Black men are legal husbands, making kids with wives and taking care of families. Almost 90 PERCENT of Black men are NOT baby daddies. However, over 50% Black women are never-married baby mamas, and many with MULTIPLE kids by a small percent of Black and NON-BLACK deadbeat men!!

[@kevinc3342]

No one cares if Black women marry either Black or non-Black men... Black women just need to GET MARRIED and STAY MARRIED, instead of producing over 70 PERCENT Black babies out of wedlock!! That statistic is attributed to Black women - the problem is on Black women's side, and NOT Black men!! Again - the JAN 2023 National Health Statistics Report (NHSR) confirm these statistics as fact!!

[@nicholetaimi5331]

I'm at the end of the video and I've learned some things. As for Black love and the power struggle. Black women have had to fight on their own even within the union, partnership whether as significant others or married. This right here sums it up the relationship of Black people. They both work, but if child care becomes an issue a Black man doesn't think, it never enters his mind that he has to find child care for the child or children. He just subconsciously leaves the problem to be solved by his wife. He doesn't see it as a "them" problem. He sees it as his wife's problem. He just doesn't even think about it. If her job is threatened he doesn't think about it. If she is going to be late. He doesn't think about it. He is completely oblivious, callous even. and when asked he looks confused. Whereas a white man will take half the burden of or even the entire burden of finding someone, even if it is temporary. He doesn't leave it for his wife to figure it out on her own. That is the difference. Also, this brings on that belief that black men have that Black women think they can do it all by themselves. that they don't need a man. When you have to solve all of the problems, Black women begin to wonder "Why do I need him?" Black men get Black women there to that place, then call them aggressive, angry, sassy, etc. They don't take accountability for the Black woman's need to depend on herself when she's been shown she is all she has.

[@submissiveproviderstboth9485]

He WANTS her to fail at her outside job ANYWAY so he can feel dominance

[@nicholetaimi5331]

@@submissiveproviderstboth9485 And then tell her she's worthless, but she had better figure out how to pay her share of the rent and the bills. He will make her miserable, but break his back to make sure Becky keeps a roof over her head and have money to shop for herself and her family and she doesn't have to 50-50 anything.

[@toomuchinformation]

What you said about childcare.....tbh I think that WM are prone to acting in similar ways, maybe slightly less so.

[@AndrewJM]

yall always compare the best of everyone (especially black women) to the worst of black men....stop doing that.

[@Heat_Rush]

@@AndrewJM You're right, it's wrong. But it is so many of black women's experiences. We know that there are good black men, but it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. If you guys would check other black men on their behaviors, because black men only listen to black men, then we could get somewhere, because we would check the women.

[@ajohonly3721]

I’m 14 years in my interracial relationship married 7 years 3 kids is that long enough 😂? I wanna be with him forever.

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

Good on 'ya...👍

[@singingnimo2024]

That white guy with the beard nailed it. He said both black woman & white guy are both coming into the marriage as very strong independent people so it doesn't make the other feel like they are losing their power in the situation AKA balance of power. There are very many video of American black men bashing black women why can't we have these conversations and not get on social media and fight or bring us down.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

One thing I appreciate is that we can be affectionate with them! My family wasn’t affectionate, so I didn’t discover that I’m VERY affectionate until I had a white BF. Based on each WM I’ve dated, they’re affectionate at all times, everywhere. They’re not just grabbing you when they want to “lie down” with you. They’re always hugging, caressing, squeezing, etc., just to show affection, and I do too. Some tweet went viral about BM needing a hug, and I saw tens of thousands of likes and hundreds of BM agreeing, with many saying they were never hugged or could count on one hand how many times they were hugged and still have some fingers left over. That’s not to say some WM aren’t the same, but in my experience dating WM, LM, and AM, they were all affectionate, even publicly! None were too “manly” to be so.

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

Why would a guy NOT be affectionate?

[@l-kin3480]

Bm are thoroughly coddled by their moms and grandmas then every other bw.. lol

[@ramonamron5194]

I think it is public practice, because they know WM is viewed differently, but I have seen some BM do the same, let's not generalize everything.

[@truthseeker9249]

Me too!!!! My boyfriend is such a physical guy! He is all over me with holding my hand, or as we walk together he'll either have his arm around my shoulders or around my waist to A. Make me feel safe and B. Show any lustful guys nearby that he claims me as his, and yes sometimes he'll lightly slap my butt to remind me of how much he desire me. Oh I love him so much.

[@LiverPools-ib5fv]

So what your saying is the same as black men’s “culture”. They make fun of other men who study. They make fun of other men who are romantic to women. They make fun of other men who are faithful to their woman. They try to dress rich when they’re really broke and believe the rest of the world believes them 😂 It’s embarrassing

[@tajaacobe6890]

It’s because they simply love us. We don’t get that in our own community. That’s it y’all 🤲🏾🕊🎉

[@teresam5199]

,,💯

[@daniella8400]

💯…. I’ll never forget back in 2010 when I first went natural the things black men said to me! SMH… first man I ever dated that complimented my hair was a white man, I was so shocked!

[@anybodycangetit-e1s]

?

[@She_Is_Toni]

Oof I felt that. A lot of black guys don't even LIKE us let alone love us.

[@Crtiphe]

@@daniella8400stop lying. Bm always say they love bw with their natural hair but yall always tell them to mind their business etc .Then when you suddenly date a wm you go natural and lie that bm never loved it lol

[@japhya0378]

I think its because black women and white men are both the strongest of their race. They appreciate each other more. Together they are a super power. Melody Hopkins and George Lucas are the perfect example....

[@singingnimo2024]

U nailed it. I had a black guy & white guy at different times tell me you are from another country and you don't know the 2 strongest people in America is a Black woman & white man.

[@CITYSCAPE333]

Imagine saying that when history is counter to it .

[@japhya0378]

@@CITYSCAPE333 How exactly is history counter to it? Was it not always black American women who had to hold down the fort? Is it not black American women who made sure that our lineage still exist? Was it not black American women who died for her family, or had to sleep with massa to keep massa from killing her sons and husbands? And we don't even have to say why the comment is true when it comes to white men.

[@randymaylowski2485]

And yet they say "white people are racist" hah give me a break lmao.

[@TM-il8rb]

@@randymaylowski2485 the majority still are

[@Luckimee]

My interactions with wm are genuine and positive for the most part. Some are rude but most are pretty cool. They end up being my friends at work and speak to me the most in public and social settings

[@Ogasso]

A lot of white men are secretely in love with Black Queens. 💎

[@noire9601]

Your emojis are redundant and quite childish. ​@guydrekusmorris2734

[@TM-il8rb]

@guydrekusmorris2734bitter tyroach

[@Lady500-x6p]

Some not all

[@lucasmcguire1554]

Not many, all of my white friends are into white or asian girls and the rare ones who are into black have a wiered guilt-complex type of thing.

[@moleahy6880]

I think it's because in the White community, the men are the providers and in the Black community, the women are the providers. So when WM and BW pair up, they are both used to giving and taking care of their counterparts. By contrast BM and WW are more used to getting and taking so they battle it out to see who will get first and how much. Just a theory.

[@2okaycola]

Women are the providers in black homes? No wonder they're so stressed

[@moleahy6880]

@@2okaycola I believe that in the Black community single mothers are 70% of the heads of households.

[@prezian1312]

@@moleahy6880I’m sure since I never looked it up but me and most of my cousins parents are married and black but most of my family lives in the suburbs even though I’m in college now.

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

I believe because black women & wm are on the same level… well most. Most wm are attracted to beauty and intelligence. Black women are attracted to beauty and intelligence. We can talk to them and they are willing to listen. Once again most. Now bm and ww fetishize over one another. Bm love the look of long straight hair and pale skin. White women love the bbc. But when that fetishization is over than the relationship is over. Remember black men said they are attracted to looks 1st. Ww tend to age fast so those looks goes out the door and that man is on to the next. Wm age fast as well but one thing a black woman don’t do is leave over looks. We understand people age over time. But if the love and bond is good the relationship will continue. These are my opinions so calm down.

[@seethefuture24680]

Mature vs immature relationships???

[@Crtiphe]

Why are you generalising. Wm dont even marry yall. They just use yall for their sexual fetish and go back to their own lol

[@Playgirlcartierbracelet1]

These are not just ur opinions,these are text book facts

[@noniboo1521]

I love this topic thank you for not being afraid to address the subject.❤

[@beigenegress2979]

The original tt woman is citing data from a study done of married couples in the 🇺🇸. In addition, this study found that the BW/WM marriages lasted longer than WW/WM marriages too. HOWEVER, the majority of BW still aren’t interested in nonBlk men. Though more BW in the 🇺🇸 are open to IR dating than in the past, BW are still least likely to cross color lines among groups of ppl and groups of women in the 🇺🇸.

[@jayb3473]

BW are starting to open their options. They were at 4% around 2012 and around 12% in 2021.

[@beigenegress2979]

@@jayb3473 Yeah. But it’s still true that the majority of BW aren’t interested in opening their options and only want BM.

[@beigenegress2979]

@lucylash5870 Yes. According to RRB, in his book “is marriage for wppl,” the number of nonBlk men (not specifically) who are interested in dating BW exceeds the total population of of BW in the 🇺🇸. However, the majority of BW still only want BM. Usually, ppl usually prefer to marry ppl of their own race ethnicity religion etc.

[@AdelTheForsaken]

The relationships work out because we appreciate the effort that we put in for each other.

[@swvolleyball9137]

For me, I think it’s the power dynamic angle. My husband appreciates and celebrates my strength. I marvel at his strength and wisdom as well. Because we appreciate the strength we both bring (and the type of strength we both have) we don’t feel threatened by each other. He pushes me to do what I’m afraid to do and I push him to execute the myriad of idea that run through his head. Neither of us are afraid to poke fun at the other or ourselves nor to be vulnerable. Having the dual strength dynamic means when i weary of walking in strength, he is there holding shit down until I catch my breath and when he needs to be vulnerable, he knows I’m strong enough to trust him and hold shit down until he reenergizes. Also there’s a mutual understanding that we are partners, not competition. I know people like to say BW change FOR the WM. This isn’t true, at least not for the women I know. It’s not so much changing FOR him as it changing BECAUSE of him. Knowing that if I waiver, he’s right there to catch me allows me to drop my guard and breath. We’ve been through some scary stuff in 30 years and he taught me how to tuck in and grind without being angry at the situation or crumbling under the weight. I wish all of my black and brown sisters could feel the peace of having a man strong enough to value a strong woman as well. Bless. ❤

[@jasminmenzies9759]

In my honest opinion, I think black women should date anyone that treats them right. Have boundaries and don't tolerate disrespect. My mother is a black women who has only dated white men. Most of them didn't treat her right and she had to deal with racism from their families.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

I agree. I’ve been telling BW who are fed up and are into this “divestment” movement that they still need to vet properly! Make sure these men pass the vibe check, and don’t deal with non-BM who aren’t anti-racist, period! If they’re not socially conscious and anti-racist, you could end up hitting that wall that is a slur, either from him or that family member/friend he refused to cut off.

[@kayanclarke5216]

Really. I feel like this convo is by black people who don’t have white people in their family.

[@TiktokTownhall]

Not only are BW/WM the most successful but BM/WW have the highest divorce rate of all race combinations

[@dominique2966]

This is true. Black men ruin anything they touch.

[@Setsunako6587]

Ssshhhhhh, don't tell'em 😂!!

[@chaosspy6723]

What I find interesting is this discussion causes a lot of backlash instead of people just saying love is love. personally, I know that I'm gonna get judged for whoever I end up with so idc. I'm with the guy who calls me a goddess and tells me he loves me everyday. I wish that for everyone.

[@lordodinfatheroftheazier699]

Explain this to me why is it that the white man can get everything for free in a marriage in a relationship with a black woman but a black man have to work for all they have to work twice as hard for you to be submissive traditional speak nice no attitude but a white man you're very quick to turn that off

[@VixxKong2]

And you are absolutely right

[@erikaarnold4780]

ONE MORE TIME! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✊🏾❤️

[@veganbutterfly3652]

Because you are a Goddess literally... black women where the first to be worshipped as Gods. Every person on this planet has the black women's genes.

[@andrerussell2383]

U not a goddess ur human

[@ayanmoalin2524]

Black Somali-American Women married to a white Hispanic man here. I married my husband because he has intergrity and he treats everyone with respect he protects my heart. He is very hard working and would do anything to make my and our babies happy. We just bought our first house been married for 6 years and now im pregnant with our second child. I never imagined this kind of life before him. I have black brothers who are amazing to their wives who are black so i guess its just about finding the right one.

[@bluejay6229]

Letting you know I enjoyed the video and the different commentary here. Keep it up, I enjoy hearing from different perspectives ❤

[@jamesTWisco]

I'm married to a black woman and I think the reason we work is because... I love her. I practically fell in love the first time I met her in real life (we met online). We get along well. Joke and have similar views about the world and raising children. I think she would love me if I was black and I know I would love her no matter what race she was. She was invisible to black men before we met - but to me? Aphrodite.

[@BlackNella]

I wish she had said the other part of that statistic; which is that white women married to black men have the highest divorce rate of all combinations.

[@joshuabrown7958]

Yall are obsessed 😂😂

[@haute2death]

@@joshuabrown7958 where is the lie? Please post the statistic link

[@Setsunako6587]

Nahh, they'll find out on thir own 💅🏾

[@BlackNella]

@@joshuabrown7958 nah just informed.

[@joshuabrown7958]

@@BlackNella nah obsessed, yall are so invested in bm ww unions , it brothers yall that much that a blk man and a wa can fall in love with each other and have a great relationship, yall want the opposite to be true so bad 🤣🤣weirdos

[@Monique-xz3jp]

BM DO tend want to "Humble" BW and that's the truth

[@tobealady.4490]

I’ve dated black men and white guys and honestly I had more in common with white guys. Idk why it was easier and it worked for me. If we had disagreements we would talk about it and come to a healthy conclusion. Whenever I stated my opinion in disagreement with Blk guys I could feel his anger and I just stopped talking. It’s like you got it I’m not about to argue that’s unintelligent. It was just hard to have a healthy disagreement and come to conclusions. This doesn’t stop me from dating Blk men though. I just feel like like it depends on the guy you’re with to be honest. I don’t like to categorize anyone because every blk guy and white guy are different.

[@swvolleyball9137]

This! The very first conversation I had with my husband (long before I knew he was even interested in me and I was dating someone else (BM)) was an hour long discussion about how Jane Austen would feel about J.R.R. Tolkien, lol! We have so many intellectual convos and we are just info nerds. I love that my intelligence is applauded and challenged. I used to be shamed relentlessly by BM & BW growing up because I was always reading and trying to have those types of discussions. Sediddy, uppity and “goofy” were their best comebacks. I love a man who loves my mind.

[@tobealady.4490]

@@swvolleyball9137 Same! I was always labeled for my articulation of the English language and my intelligence in general and labeled “white girl” by bm and women. I was raised in an educated black family so I never understood why I was labeled as anything other than an educated Blk woman. As I matured I noticed a lot of educated wealthy white guys would always be attracted to me but I would still entertain the educated Blk men as well because that’s just what I attract and I do not discriminate towards either. I just feel like I can geek out with white guys easier therefore making me comfortable just being myself. And yes, we would geek out on the different books we both were reading! I love it.

[@erikaarnold4780]

@@tobealady.4490Yes….many of us share this experience. BM labeled me before knowing anything about me. Other men were very interested in my activist mindset, and actually had the chance to know all of my facets. Mutual respect makes all the difference in the world when you are relating to a man.❤️✊🏾

[@tobealady.4490]

@@erikaarnold4780 precisely!

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

exactly. when im upset my white bf always comforts me. but black men just get angry and can’t talk like they’re such children

[@Ilikefrogs..]

As someone who has had many (failed) friendships with both black men and white women, I will say they share poor communication skills, and will both prioritize the social optics of being in a relationship over happiness or compatibility. Props where it's due to my white ladies where it's due though, a lot of them are making the effort to grow out of that mindset.

[@D13vest]

Seems like you are lying. Dating a WW before a WM?

[@Gigi-nl3so]

The reason BW and WM relationships last longer is simple to me-. The main reasons marriages fail are -finances, lack of communication and infidelity. WM statistically have better finances than BM WM don't seem to be as afraid/reserved to express their feelings as BM do If a WM has decided to go against the norm (possibly his fam etc) and marry a BW, then he's usually VERY enamored with that BW and therefore the cheating probability will be low. 💯💯 PS- white men don't come online to make videos bashing their own women like black men do....so there's that too.

[@oneel3859]

Thank God I'm a asexual because I can't relate to wanting a man

[@pinkturtle2016]

This is some real shit 😂

[@Lakishia]

same here!! Happy Pride month!

[@TheeOriginalme]

I’m not gay at alll 😂 but real talk but I can’t seem to get myself excited about getting into anything with a man.

[@Heyu7her3]

Men aren't worth it lol but I've DEFINITELY never found white men romantically interesting. So this is... interesting. Still doesn't change anything for me 😅

[@_komiichan9509]

I thank God I’m asexual too. This relationship mess sounds exhausting.

[@radstorm]

Excellent presentation, Destiny. You allowed every side of this subject to be heard.

[@DestinyUteh]

I appreciate that!

[@PuertoRicanCreoleQueen]

My adopted mother is black being from Baton Rouge Louisiana I have really only been around black folks so, what I have seen especially the fact I work in politics I have a more socially aware view on this. When you see a white man who dates black or Hispanic women he is usually more on the feminist side and the progressive liberal side, so with that he is more socially aware of the plight of black women especially, so he knows that in order to approach a black woman as a white man he has to make her feel comfortable, safe and respected and he cannot in any way come off in the place of the oppressor. And then you have black men most black men who have a negative attitude towards black women either grew up in a home where his daddy was not around or his daddy or step daddy treated his mother like sh*t, and black men love to take on the victim complex so instead of hating how his mother was treated and wanting to make sure he changes that cycle for black women on the behalf of his mother or instead of being sympathetic towards his mothers struggle as a single black mother he goes straight to internally hating his mother and blaming his mother for the fact his black father was a sorry a** dead beat and romanticized having a relationship with his father and how things would been different if his father was around and instead of being mad at his father for choosing to not be around because then it would make him as a black boy then to a black man know there is a problem with black men and they refuse to take accountability so instead he blames his mother for his fathers actions and that misdirected blame becomes bitterness and internal hatred towards black women. Then once he dates a white woman notices he creates the same kind of conflict with her as well and after being mistreated for so long by him that white woman starts getting tired of his sh*t too so it becomes an in general women in general instead of holding himself accountable for the fact that generally he is the problem his victim complex and his narcissistic thinking of “ o I couldn’t possibly be the problem, it’s everyone else” makes it become an issue of now all woman this all women that, when no women only act and react based on how you treat us. I am bi sexual and I have dated both black men and black women only and let me tell you dating black women is by far much easier, black women are far more peaceful, loving, nurturing, caring, generous and genuine and empathetic than black men could ever be, that’s a fact jack, my adopted mother is a black woman and she, her sisters and my girl cousins have shown me how amazing black women are, how the unconditional love and loving nature of black women is the strongest most beautiful blind and powerful thing on this planet, thus I have an unwavering, unconditional, deep gratitude, respect and and deep love and empathy for black women.

[@prettyprincesslexi]

I'd like to see a discussion about black women with Asian men because I feel our relationships are very genuine and long lasting too.

[@Daniel-yl5jl1bi6q]

In the USA, Asian men are the least likely to get divorced. Getting divorced is akin to bringing dishonor/shame upon the family for many Asians.

[@TylerRandall-o4m]

Hi ❤❤

[@havocstormbringer1503]

I have always been open to having a relationship with a black woman. I find black women beautiful and in my experience they have very desirable values and traits. I'm sure there are so many men who feel the same. I've always had a feeling that the dynamic would make a very strong, long lasting, quality relationship. I am happy that people are finding this to be true. I have to say that throughout my life, I'm fifty four years old now, black women haven't seemed interest in dating other races. They've felt unapproachable. I believe that this type of union would be a much larger percentage if the interest was publicly known.

[@fatearamines6848]

Unfortunately, we've brainwashed into being race loyal. I know I was told that I should be loyal to bm, regardless if bm date outside our race. We're told other races of men find us unattractive. We could have a fear of dating outside our race. There's many reasons why bw don't look outside of black.

[@TaylorNomad-z1z]

In university, a black woman cant find black men because they (bm) are usually interested in exoticals or ww.

[@clementmckenzie7041]

common culture. White American men marrying black American women have American culture in common. rather than say being married to someone from a non-American culture. Also common familial culture. Black women and white men are fiercely protective of their families. Also if you are gonna be in an interracial marriage then you prepare yourself for the ups and downs of that situation. Finally, white men have unassailable white privilege the success of their woman does not threaten their masculinity. patriarchy or place in the world, the way it often challenges men of color. It also doesn't help that the failure rate of black male and white females relationships is so high

[@nightwishisthegreatestband6355]

White American men's unions with foreign black women succeed too

[@jayb3473]

Most importantly white men are raised to believe that marriage is required for success. They buy into it. Blk women buy into it so they both thrive. Might I also say that she might feel safer which is healthier personally and for the marriage. Which leads to both feeling happier. A critical mass of Blk men are not raised to buy into marriage and are not supported even if they do buy into marriage. Their support (friends, social media) encourages infidelity. So even though white women buy into marriage, if they have to overcome infidelity then they won’t feel safe. Which then affects the marriage. IMO

[@yehudahbenisaiah1934]

Bullshit Because the divorce rate js high among white men also You talk about social media infidelity, More black women are getting caught cheating more then ever, and acting like hoes on social media tweaking all over social media So stop it Also the divorce rate among white men is high also, those are the facts

[@2okaycola]

Yep. If he has single friends just forget it

[@jayb3473]

In this era, married ones also that don’t value marriage probably really negatively impact his decision making.

[@yagirlvee9583]

The Wm. Know and respect who we are and what we bring to the world

[@nthuthukomdluli1052]

For real ?

[@KellyfromMemphis]

Y’all bring STDs and bastard illiterate children…stop the 🧢

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

yes

[@q.t.gamingfamily]

@bm1617 understand, we're not coming to you anymore, so why do you care? There are many pickmeeshah who will love you long time, pay all your bills, buy you a Playstation and let you stay home and play that mfkr and all she's going to ask you to do is get your stepson off the school bus. You won't even have to cook and clean. The rest of us have either left you altogether or we have chosen other options. WM DO marry bw everyday, I assure you. I have 3 BLK daughters, two are engaged to wm who are the money of their relationships. The one who chose a bm? Is a bm. Yes, he keep losing jobs, and one day, they were facing eviction, and that nicca left and ran home to his momma! Not his daddy, as his daddy left hi as momma not too long ago. Ah, ladies. This reminds me, storytime about this last one, the "brother"! This dude was raised in a two parent household where mom was and still is totally dependent on dad. They are still married. Dad gets on his son often and he gets on her for babying him. Still, they say two parent household. He came from one. They both wanted to build together. She became a chef who tends to cater. He, was in school, and quit. When ish hit the fan and they were facing eviction, HE RAN, leaving both mom and baby at the apartment with the eviction notice while he caught the greyhound home. He did not consider the fact she carried him for several months that he was unemployed. Mind you, she is now a nursing mother. She also isn't alone. She has all of us and collectively, we all pulled her and baby through and crisis averted. Guess who wants to come back? Mr. Brotherman. "For what," she said. "I admit, I was afraid of doing this alone when you left, but I did it. I did it without you. I don't need you and I don't want you just for you to leave again the next time I need you." Him being gone made her eligible for many government benefits she wasn't otherwise eligible, including childcare assistance. THIS is what happened to our foremothers. They did not kick out their providing husbands for government benefits. Those deadbeat men LEFT and in a panic, they looked to the government, which came through. Once they get stable, he tried to come back and she said no, I don't need your stress. Because she refused to allow him to come back to her, he gaslights by saying welfare took him out the home. No, he was already gone because he left his family alone, destitute, and without any other means; so, they looked to the state. This is the reward my daughter got for being race loyal. You better believe she divested now. BM in here are gonna hate, threaten, gaslight, and she's still going to stay seeing her new guy who happens to be a non bm.

[@q.t.gamingfamily]

@bm1617 no one wants you, sir, stop asking us that. We don't want you. What I bring to the world isn't your business. It's my husband's-to-be, but not yours.

[@phoenixfirebird9057]

Wm married to bw… my experience is with a WW you ask here if there is a problem or issue they want tell you…they beat around the issue. Bw will tell you what’s wrong and you can fix the problem. ❤️👍

[@kenarose5984]

Sis with the short haircut and blue shirt sounds the most accurate. She literally said things that my husband told me that he appreciates about me. For example, he lives with a greater awareness on every level. Brother with the spiky locs was on point.

[@giovannanicolas8299]

I don’t even want black men as friends to be honest don’t want to be bothered.

[@lewid019]

​@@bloodleopard3831certain white men

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

ong like they’re exhausting in all ways

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

@@lewid019you’re in every comment being angry. just admit that ur an entitled single black man lmao, black women are done w your bs

[@songoku64]

Well we're sorry to be born black I guess white is perfect

[@VixxKong2]

People are getting so defensive and their only replies are anecdotes and blackity-black Dr. Umar talking points against a statistic made country-wide.

[@TVwriter23]

And against the study that she's basing the question on

[@rashidasamuels7034]

White men and black women have been falling in love for hundreds of years. As a black woman, I have never experienced the depth and warmth of love I have known from white men. I love the way I feel when I'm with a white man. I do not know anything about this power dynamic or any of this other stuff. I just know that white men have respected me and loved me with sincerity and passion. God, I love the white guys.

[@islandgirl024]

It’s true I’m a 24 young Jamaican girl and my soon to be husband Is Irish and he treats me like a empress and really loves and cares about me, bw deserve to be loved and adored too ❤

[@ThePulse2x]

I'm glad to see my black queens happy and hyped over this👏

[@Gtamuva]

Ive never dated a white man. Ive dated asian and hispanic. My experiences with them- they know what they want and have values. BM will waste your time every time if you let them.

[@Lady500-x6p]

Non black women are keeping the black men away from me so i can find a real man❤

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

WM and BW share the same positions community wise both are the leaders. Power attracts power. Thats why WM/BW work the best.

[@nicford548]

Black women here. Been with my white husband for 12 years. I adore him. He gets me. With him, I am THE MOST relaxed. This was NEVER the case with black men. I truly truly wish I had found my husband earlier in life!!

[@songoku64]

Well guess what, this hurts my heart that you married a white man so are you going to leave him now? LOL just kidding

[@Celestinewarbeck]

As someone with a white man, this type of content is getting weird. Just go date and live your life

[@kendrawinchester3704]

My personal experience, my ex fiancé was white, he was my longest and best relationship. He didn’t care about my mouth, no power struggle, no financial struggle, honest, hard working. Other factors was the reason we didn’t get married. He stood up for me if there was an issue with race. My overall experiences dating white men have been better.

[@kokoariesqueen77]

I never had them make me feel like I needed to be hum ble .. they let u just be you not trying to over power you

[@Kris-d5f]

As a white man who's dated primarily black women(I have a son with one) in Washington DC and New York City, all these points are fantastic; sidebar: I'm a professional photographer. I kept connecting and dating black female lawyers or paralegals, especially when I was in DC, plus other executive-level black women. I think black women who have advanced degrees, are upper-middle class and are very career-oriented have a hard time(not saying it doesn't happen) finding black men of their caliber or that are not scared off by them to date. So it is more accessible to date white men, and white men want a partner(not all) of their caliber, so they're not scared off.

[@kevinc3342]

You "dated primarily black women, and have a son with a Black woman. So... a professional photographer dates Black women, and helped a BW become just another baby mama. How is that different that Black men who do the same?! You did not mention marriage or being a family. She either must marry you or find another Anglo-white man to volunteer as stepdad. Black men will NOT want her with that biracial kid.

[@kelseyhahn4737]

What the second lady with the bonnet on was saying has to be cap because I feel like white women are some of the most confrontational hence the word Karen

[@Heyu7her3]

She said Black men and white women are similarly confrontational

[@Hagar-yn8jm]

In relationships tho? Are they Karens to their Black partners? She honestly spit bars.

[@Setsunako6587]

Karen is only confrontational in situations where she holds power. As soon as the Real Authority Figure appears, she'll go from growling griffin to crying kitten w/the QUICKness 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@marcellocolona4980]

I’m not really sure. I’m sort of white (Mexican & Sicilian) married to a Nigerian woman who hardly ever lived in the USA, never really experienced any discrimination as she grew up and lived in Nigeria. We met in Rome, married and lived for over 15 years in Saudi Arabia. We’ve only lived in the USA for the last 3 years. Growing up in the Bronx in the 1960s I only dated black and Hispanic women. I’m not sure why but white women just didn’t do anything for me. For me a black woman is the zenith of beauty, desirability, intelligence, elegance, class.

[@mayajewell6911]

And it’s not just the best outcomes among interracial relationships. The study showed Black women and white men have the lowest divorce rates of ALL combinations, including intraracial couples. Some of the people in the videos made a lot of good points. But I’d add that BW/WM is also one of the most rare interracial combinations. It’s not a trend the way a lot of other combos are. Also most black women are not interested in dating interracially. So there’s often something special about the people and circumstances involved. Wait until it becomes more common. Those dynamics will become just as toxic ass all the others.

[@jayallan740]

You are the smartest person here. I was waiting to see someone say this. It's really not that complicated. Another thing.. I am tired of seeing black men and black women bash each other online. If one gender has a problem so does the other. We are one people. Black men are the male version of black women. Thank you for your comment

[@bdott1538]

Best outcome except Asian women to Asian men. They have the best outcome over all.

[@Alexandria.Washington]

BW and WM created Hispanics and many mixed Black Americans.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

While I do get what you’re saying and think it could be true, if the motivation for the people coupling are compatibility on several levels, they’ll be fine. The marriages that fail the most were built on superficial (so, shaky) foundations to start with. But if you’re looking for someone who matches your energy and worldview, you have a much better chance of success. But, yes, what you propose could happen, and it’ll happen from the BW simply running from BM and who use terms like “swirling” regarding dating out. Those women won’t be doing it for the right reasons, and they’re going to accept bad men (predatory men watching all of this discourse) of other races because they don’t have discernment (ergo, they wouldn’t have a string of bad relationships with BM). So, yes, it may happen if the motivations are bad. However, there are cases where the women go in hurt, get repaired, and have a strong relationship.

[@natashatate3070]

I believe its because of the drive for family and wealth. And both parties want the very best for the family unit.

[@indigoGoddess7]

From my personal observation - the BW/WM couples that I've seen are very successful and constantly thriving. The BW are also more relaxed and get to bask in their femininity. I've noticed that BM/WW are very passive - aggressive and have a sense of entitlement. BM expect to be praised by BW that's why it offends them when they see BW with WM and this is what I was told by a BM himself. This BM doesn't date BW anymore due to *his* experiences, he said that BW are too confrontational and he'd rather see his mother alone than be with a WM because it's insulting to him and other BM. With all of their struggles in the world, they still need to have options...YES YOU READ THAT CORRECTLY! Some BM also believe that because their mothers didn't have a softer life, that BW overall shouldn't have one either. A lot of BM that I've met that are in interracial relationships, have issues with the BW in *their* families and refuse to address it and take it out on all other BW, but they'll get angry when they see BW with WM. It's sick! BW/WM we're not afraid to communicate what's going on and we can see the bigger picture. We're progressive. NOW, I'm not saying ALL BW/WM + WW/BM. I'm just speaking from my experience and from what I've observed. WM like to talk and will ask questions and BW like myself enjoy effectively communicating to get better insight.

[@kevinc3342]

"Some BM also believe that because their mothers didn't have a softer life, that BW overall shouldn't have one either." This Black man you speak about was likely raised by a single mother - he suffered due to NOT having a father in his life, and has anger toward non-Black men doing what his father should have done for him and his mother. His mother should have chosen a better father, and he likely wouldn't have so much resentment!!

[@sally180]

WOW did not realise so many women felt superior to other women, Perhaps it’s cause the bar is so low that the WM that is open and interested in IR marriage is more egalitarian and therefore a better partner

[@Chi_Nurse]

No matter who you are, life is hard. It’s difficult in different ways for different people but we all have our struggles and issues. If you find another human being you want to spend your life with, who will treat you well, love you and support you, be your biggest cheerleader and someone you love and who you can laugh with and approach life with its us against the world…. I’m happy for you regardless of that persons gender, race, religion, cultural differences, education differences, or country of origin. Life is hard if you find your person , embrace them and ignore the opinions of the rest of the world.

[@michaelgreene9162]

In any type of relationship you have a better chance at a lasting one if both are on the same level whether it be mentally, emotionally, spiritually and so on. As long as the couple own up to their responsibilities and have that natural love and affection for one another it will last ,communication is also vital, and i left out the financial aspect because thats not what the relationship should be based on because working together as a unit will create a more stable lifestyle.. 40 years + for us and i don't see either of us wanting to lose what we've made together..

[@junawallace7315]

New to the channel. Thank you so much for the discussion and multifaceted opinions ❤

[@watermagegurl627]

Through my experiences WM make you feel like you the Queen of the business world and the sheets. My god, they will make you feel like you can do anything. It's surreal. As a mixed black and rican girl that came out of a very abusive engagement, seeing someone to properly court me and encourage to reach each important goal to be independant from that man after losing a lot, it makes me cry in happiness. I never wanted to bask in my feminity more than the WM I talk to now. It is truly night and day.

[@SchemeThatToddSetUp]

In response the research student who made the reply video saying she generalized. This wasn't an opinion.They've been saying this about WM/BM .. I can't remember 🤔the exact video explaining it but it's based off a non biased study; I think it's a census poll. Who's married and not and to whom. Who was divorced/separated and from whom. And that was ratio they found🤷🏾‍♀️ On a related note this same study also found BM /WW have highest rate of divorce

[@radguurl]

It's based on the U.S. census, per this article, en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States#Black_and_White Black women/white men marriage have the LOWEST divorce rate out of any racial pairing, including white women/white man relationships.

[@kevinc3342]

@@radguurl "Black women/white men marriage have the LOWEST divorce rate out of any racial pairing, (including white women/white man relationships)." Simply put - BW/WM have the LOWEST divorce rate, because BW/WM pairings have the LOWEST marriage-rate. As difficult as it is for BW to find and marry a WM, BW do everything NOT to divorce those WM. They REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want that IR marriage to work!!

[@yarekim5932]

Mutual Respect, and Deep Love. Physical Attraction, similar goals and morals

[@shawnmiles100]

I'M GLAD PEOPLE ARE STARTING TO RAISE THIS QUESTION BECAUSE I NOTICED THIS YEARS AGO. I WOULD LOVE TO SEE A FORMAL STUDY TO DIVE DEEP AND FIND REAL ANSWERS TO THIS QUESTION!

[@LongLostYellowRanger]

That "milk joke" from that guy made me laugh loudly at 4:30 in the morning lol!

[@songoku64]

I don't find it funny to try to down put black man just because they feeling the love from black women

[@ebonywatson9939]

The way I see it yt men love our naturalness. Blk men and yt women do not like blk women but yt men love blk women

[@truthseeker9249]

My turn to talk on love! I'm black and he's white. It's a long love story so buckle up. My boyfriend and I were friends in middle school when we were younger. He's always been super shy and very good at hiding his feelings (sometimes a little too good). He liked me but he never said anything because he didn't think I would be interested. I had liked him too but he gave me no indication of liking me so I never said anything either. We lost touch after graduating that school until he emailed me out of the blue on my school email towards the end of our senior year of high school. He just wanted to say Hi and catch up so we exchanged numbers and started talking. He confessed how much he used to like me, I said the same and we both laughed and kicked ourselves for not saying anything back then. We never would have lost touch and could have been together all those years if one of us just spoke up. So after a week of talking he asked me out on a date. I agreed. That date was our first time seeing each other face to face or even AT ALL since we were children. Growing up had done him so good because I was stunned when we met at the restaurant and I saw him. He had gotten a lot taller, had grown facial hair, was stronger with broad shoulders and of course he had a much deeper voice which took me a minute to get used to. He was always cute before but now he was the most handsome man I'd ever seen. He said the same about me. I hadn't changed much. I was still the tiny I height I was in childhood but obviously more developed in certain...areas. He said he felt like he was looking at a goddess. We had a nice lunch, then we walked to a nearby lake. It was a cold spring day and I had foolishly forgotten to wear a jacket or a sweater so as we walked he wrapped his arm around me to keep me warm. We got to the lake's gazebo and he let me wear his jacket and we just stood there hugging while watching the scenery. Being in his arms felt so right. Then I kissed him. I just felt compelled too and I swear the whole world faded away. That was his first date, first kiss, first everything because he'd never had a girlfriend before. When I got home that day I was spinning around the house with happiness. As we texted that night we agreed to become official boyfriend and girlfriend and even confessed that we LOVED each other. After one day we already knew. We knew that we were in love, we knew that we would be together forever, we were each other's soulmates. The rest was history. I've had a rough life. I come from a family who has never truly respected me. I have Autism, I no longer care about religion, I'm LGBT, I have tattoos. Everything about me goes against their beliefs. They have no respect for people who are different. So I was a difficult child for them and none of them are capable of real love anyway. Love in my family is CONDITIONAL. The only person who truly loved me was my one grandma who died when I was 16; her passing tore me apart. My boyfriend has been the first person to truly love me and bring real happiness into my life since I lost her. He listens to me, he helps me through things, he understands me and even when he doesn't he tries to, he gives it to me straight and doesn't just tell me what I want to hear but does it without ever making me feel less than, he makes me feel safe. Most of all I can be myself with him. All of my quirks and annoying flaws are beautiful to him. People think we as black people lose who we are if we get with other races, especially white people but that could not be more false. I feel more black with him than I ever have in my entire life. My family all straightens their hair and is all about appearance and never coming off as ghetto, aggressive or unintelligent and drilled all that into me since I was born. Now since I began dating him I wear my natural curls and use proper hair products for the first time ever and my hair is healthier than ever and actually growing. I also no longer hate my skin. I'm not even that dark, I'm kind of right in the middle. But still light skin in the black community is what's beautiful and all other shades are ugly. But my boyfriend loves my skin, my nose, my hair, my lips and all of my supposedly ugly features. To him I'm stunning. Now our anniversary is next month and I know he plans to propose as much as he's trying to hide it from me. People against interracial love can go screw themselves. True love comes from anywhere. Maybe you guys should be better partners and learn how to please someone before judging others. Let someone tell me our relationship is a bad thing or that our love isn't real. I'll put my sword right through you. 😠 Edit: He proposed as I hoped and we are now moving in together. 😍

[@joshuabrown7958]

Go see a mental hospital or something nobody cares about you’re relationship wrote an entire essay

[@Hardawayfits]

​@@joshuabrown7958 you care so much you made a comment about it 😅

[@vivaeby]

So dreamy! I wish you two a beautiful life! ❤

[@truthseeker9249]

@@songoku64 you might want to reread the threat I made at the end of my story.

[@songoku64]

@@truthseeker9249 I know I read the whole thing . I'm just hating on white man who keep getting beautiful black women so yes I am hating damn you said you were put the sword through me maybe y'all should fight this hard for your black man too

[@allthingsloveone4584]

Its wild that so many people clearly don't understand that her statement is actually based on statistics from the census. These stats are not made up. It was a hard pill to swallow for me too

[@MonieMoneSays]

I’m not really sure what the secret is, but my Russian man takes such incredible care of my Jamaican-American self. He’s thoughtful, kind, nurturing, supportive, opens my doors, puts on my coat and is such an amazing provider and protector. I never have to worry about how he feels about me or us and our communication is top-notch. I noticed that when I date white men it’s pretty much always like that and if for some reason we don’t work out, we are still cool with each other. I can see them on the street and have a pleasant catching up conversation and keep it moving. One of the last guys I dated was Italian and his mom called me about a month ago just to say that she missed me and to see how I was doing. Mind you, he and I broke up almost 4 years ago, and his family still treats me with the utmost kindness. I definitely can’t say any of that about black men I’ve dated. 🤷🏽‍♀️ 🇷🇺 🇯🇲 🇺🇸

[@nancyj795]

Generally speaking, white men are socialized to provide for and protect their wives and children. This is something white women largely take for granted. On the other hand, black women crave this provision and protection because they rarely get it. When they do get it, black women appreciate it and fall into their natural feminine roles as caregivers to their husbands and kids. When white men see this, it makes them respect and desire their black wives, and it motivates white men to continually improve for their wives and kids. As this cycle continues, the couple gets stronger and stronger in their bond with one another. White women will often complain their husbands work too much. You will rarely find a black wife telling her husband he works too much. She understands the importance of security.

[@asiyawhaa1169]

It’s so true I’ve never had a successful long term relationship with a BM 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@loriannrichardson7644]

I agree with the yt guy in the red shirt. And, actually the BW & WM marriages also last longer than WW & WM marriages.

[@juned1719]

This was a very good video. I love how every race & gender on both sides had some very honest and insightful answers that weren’t stereotypically or disrespectful.

[@kmcc2355]

Because both believe in having job skills /education /ambition / working, direct communication/ Open sexually , its a win /win. WW and BM are just the opposite of all this . WM are sick of lazy WW and BW sick of LAZY struggle BM bandits for life .

[@shontaiacoleman2677]

Educational attainment also plays a role in interracial dating for black women. Generally, the higher their education level, the more likely they are to date outside their race.