INTJs, Stop Giving up! (and also INFJs, ESFPs, and ESTPs) | CS Joseph Responds

[@jacobwiren8142]

Outcome dependency is so brutal in our "modern" world where children aren't allowed to fail...

[@jt_rooster3228]

They should go to Elon Musk’s school then. It’s not like he’s some enabler.

[@sagaragarwal369]

Best tip I've ever adopted in my life to avoid procrastination is the 2 minute rule, which says even if you don't want to do anything just start and continue doing it for atleast 2 minutes and if you still don't like it you can quit. And i have seen that atleast 90% of the time i finished the work.

[@ANoteToSelf]

Same here! Except I learned it as 5 minutes. Do you have any tips for getting rid of distraction?

[@imanafdar]

@@ANoteToSelf you dont need tips, you just need to do it

[@enzyme4]

It means that you forgot what to prioritize ​@@ANoteToSelf

[@law9051]

Hit the nail on the head Chase. I literally reminded myself earlier of a quote from a plaque my old ESTJ boss had by his desk.."If you focus on results, you won't see change. If you focus on change, you'll see results." Loving the content consistency for KZbin viewers👍

[@Pheonix1111]

INTJs, Chase is correct. Learn from your failures throughout your journey and focus on improving today more than yesterday. Track your improvements for motivation if necessary. If you are risk averse, start with taking a tiny risk and increase your risk level each time. Every achievement began with taking the first step and the next step and so on.

[@mb-pi8ff]

as an infj i recognize this problem. I know what I want to achieve, but I don't want to fail in the eyes of others. I often fantasize that I have achieved my dream, without actually working on it. at that moment it is nice, but afterwards it costs a lot of energy and frustration. I'm trying to work on it. thanks for the video

[@jt_rooster3228]

Once I started taking “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future” seriously, life’s been more of a journey.

[@aladdout9454]

This gives me hope. All my friends are diamonds.

[@Valentina12774]

I’m an intj female 26 years old & this 💯 I procrastinate all the time. I switch from procrastinating working out to procrastinate to do personal projects. Now I work out & be more feminine (yes, I listen to you idc if hurt my ego a lil bit) 🤭 now I wanna go out all the time that now struggling do my personal projects.

[@jamalcole1985]

I definitely work hard for my career (Electrician). When it come to making beats, recording and engineering my songs I forget how good they are. What stops my initiative is the fact that I dint want the attention. 🤣

[@dahliaherrod4301]

Possible ideas for a new series Chase: Discussing the unhealthy versions of each type. What does that look like? How do you get healthy?

[@itzcryptecz1261]

Holy shit. Ur riding a bike analogy is spot on. I didn't know that that was an intj thing and, ur right, i did initially think that everyone else thought like that too. Thank you for making me less ignorant!

[@abell13425]

My dilemma is not as you're making it out to be. Maybe I don't speak for all INTJs, but I'm not "scared" of any outcomes or entitled to them. I simply don't see outcomes worth pursuing. You hit a lot of things right, that the journey is the point and our procrastination and aversion to pursing goals is our downfall. But it's more about picking the right path and there being no good paths available in this fucked up system that fits our Fi child's need for moral clarity and fulfillment.

[@BuizelCream]

I share this exact same experience with you as an INTJ. When I am in an indecisive mode, it's more of making sure every part of the plan is analyzed, and it is assigned to time to be executed. The fear maybe me messing up along the way which would cause needless complications, so I like to have a clear cut actionable plan that minimizes potential damages. But yes, I tend to become like a bulldoze when I am in execution mode. If there will be stuff that I need to be cautious of, out of fear that I may offend others needlessly, is to make the best use of Te and Se just so I could access my Fe. This requires a lot of effort on my part, and I would need my environment and the process of executing my plan to be as seamless as possible, for the sake of my friends and family to be able to jump out of their way before they get bulldozed without me knowing 😬

[@sydneychuke1288]

This.

[@jvchee06]

Personally I feel that every Ni user should read "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho. I learned so much about not giving up and following my intuition from Santiago's journey. Particularly because Santiago's looking for treasure. 😂

[@ninjapandathethird6241]

I have no idea where to start it's kinda funny. When I was eight I would try and create the the perfect opener to my stories. Once I started the rest would flow out so easily.

[@iavirtual8888]

I hammer out everything I start. I get a ton accomplished. If an INTJ is giving up, I’d wager they are unhealthy or, they’ve come up with a reason to justify the effort wasn’t worth the payoff.

[@zhoumei6]

“A person becomes a failure because he is afraid of failing. “ All he got to do is try more times. Punch into “se”, things leave impression eventually. That’s one way I found it is helping but I don’t feel I have succeeded much. 😂

[@zhoumei6]

I get it. Seeking to feel being successful is a result seeking mindset? Or Is it the progression needs more celebration, then why every time i tell myself that it’s all about the journey is when things don’t turn well. I feel like the social system is more of result seeking feedback loops at the same time journey mindset is a emotional coping mechanism.

[@zhoumei6]

The things suck most is not about not focusing on journey, it’s not remembering anything about a long journey and eventually nothing to show for. At least people get memory and experience over time, what ni hero gets is unrealistic optimistic mind of unlimited trying opportunities.

[@zhoumei6]

And also sometimes shortcut is just another risky way to get where you wanna go, there’s payback, but there’s opportunities. Don’t settle is the word not don’t give up to cheer up ni users. Don’t give up sounds depressing.

[@dogdonut3]

Intj women don't initiate because they innately know that women with higher body counts don't get "wiifed up" by quality men and they want quality. They see women with high body counts pursuing men and don't want to be like them.

[@maria_s3731]

INTJ in here I’ve listened to your advice and started TikTok. I’ve wanted for so long to become an influencer and to post on TikTok but I was so scared of “being embarrassed” or “not knowing how” but I was just tired of inaction so I started it one day and yes my videos may not be perfect yet there’s a lot to improve(like my 1st week doing TikTok was pretty shitty but 2nd week already I see a lot of improvement and there’s room to improve it daily) but I’m getting there and slowly I do master the art of social media

[@zile8869]

The only way any INTJ could ever become successful is by overcoming their fears. This is why 'The 50th Law' is so powerful for INTJs.

[@Ben-xk8xz]

surely they must also develop their Te to be successful too right?

[@bitrudder3792]

As an INTJ, I have been curious about the fate of previous boyfriends (dumpers and dumpees). Decades later I peeked in on a couple of their FB pages, Happy to see that I dodged a couple of bullets that I would definitely not want to be married to today. I'm sure they're nice and wonderful in their own ways, but not at all what I would've wanted. The clues were there. It wasn't until I fell into procrastination related to relationships that I stumbled across the person I've been happy with for many decades. Funny how that works sometimes.

[@dannyman2k]

I loved ' Heroes ' !! So cool that you mentioned that show.

[@wesg5696]

Ironic how INTJs are finishers, but struggle with finishing things

[@honor9lite1337]

They actually don't try to begin with those things yet..

[@infdox9051]

@@honor9lite1337 INTPs never finish anything

[@sreeramoffcl]

Men, focus on your testosterone levels too. With society being in the state it is today, testosterone is under attack. So get your t levels checked as well as it will help with taking risks.

[@joshuajohnson6086]

I will second this. Got mine tested a month ago and it was in the low 400’s. I decided to get bioidentical testosterone pellets implanted and now my level is around 950 and I feel amazing. I stopped using Ritalin and Prozac. The energy and mental clarity is amazing. I think before anyone gets on a medication for mental health they should get their hormone levels checked. With all the plastics and toxins we take into our body it has killed men’s testosterone levels. Don’t believe that the range for guys is between 300-900. Pre plastic era levels were between 900-1400. The recommended levels are constantly getting lowered instead of tackling the problem.

[@sreeramoffcl]

@@joshuajohnson6086 Yes The recommendations are getting lowered. This is purely anecdotal but I read somewhere that pre WW2, T levels were in the 1500s

[@Greg-lw4zb]

My God, what a great video. 🔥

[@Mohsenyazdani]

Thank you very much. Watching this video, again and again, will help me remember that message.

[@rand7869]

I like the new setup it looks neat and professional!

[@pramandrapanday464]

Well said Mr chase every intj needs to hear this

[@pramandrapanday464]

Hello could you elaborate on this

[@enough_about_me]

Ok Chase you’ve proven yourself. I listened through Apple podcast ALL DAY for two days @ work, I too assumed that me being typed as intj was reflection of the recent popularity..popularity bores me so I wasn’t convinced until you scolded me and I loved it all because it’sr true, no one ever does that except for the love of my life! My ni refuses let him go..

[@CRlifeisgood]

I am happy I took that one chance after getting my heart broken in a first distance relationship to do a second one anyway. I have been happily married to that guy for 14 years. He is an ISTP.😊

[@cilstr]

unrealistic expectations = women with a "body count" of less than 3.. .esp if they are over 25-28.. and you're too young to settle down before that!

[@stephen_101]

I really needed to hear this right now, thanks for sharing these well timed perspectives 👍

[@dexdalador]

Incredible video Chase, thank you. I'm trying to become a healthier INTJ, huge part of it is what you talked about in the video (si demon, need for certainty, not moving in life, comparing myself to others etc.) Which one would you recommend for that, your INTJ program, or becoming a journey man member and watching the premium content in there? (I know obvious answers would be both)

[@imanafdar]

Either you move or life force you to move

[@Alberto-ku2yu]

Thank you for doing this. This really helps me in my life.

[@juliblum5215]

I feel called out haha. I participated in some chip programming competition for people don't know anything about it. Won in the online qualification with 24 others against like 1000 people but gave up on the actual challenge after that because I had already got excited about winning but when I met the other participants and they knew all this stuff I didn't I just couldn't bring myself to try. Regret it now. Especially because I'm afraid of the same thing happening when I go to university in some time.

[@dairdb]

I had that conversation about the hero and demon function in the FB group. I explianed how the hero and demon are two sides of the same coin but they never see eye to eye and the expectation of always landing on heads makes landing on tails a lot worse. Your hero function cant do everytging on its own. The demon wants you to know that

[@phae2518]

Hey CS Joseph, when are you going to post some things about us boring folk? Lol isfjs and istjs. You've totally forgotten about us!

[@salomeyul]

I guess he knows how mistake we INFJs can become and is trying to help

[@jamalcole1985]

Send him a donation

[@Chalupasandfupas]

@@salomeyul I really find it funny how infjs always have to include themselves in a conversation that has nothing to do with them. Lol

[@buffarius]

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[@CSJoseph]

When you become an acolyte member at csjoseph.life/members

[@ahmedaziz2288]

Thanks for the motivation boost.

[@rinbaee]

wow. i am so excited. awesome idea of having ego hacking through text.

[@SublimeShape]

Intjs must be able to let go of things that are uncontrollable like relationships. 11:31 that obsession can be fucking dangerous

[@trendsetter8138]

As an INFJ I never had this problem because what ever I wanted to achieve or dreamt about I planned strategically to achieve in life and a lot of it I did achieve. I have been a huge but calculated risk taker and that has been actually good and bad for me for like in my relationships I can't take a leap of faith with anyone, does not matter how much I am in love with that person if external circumstances does not allow me to plan having this person as my ultimate life partner plus that's why we INFJ are not jealous with other people's successes because the only person we compete is our own selves in the long run. While people are looking outside for validation we are looking inside as we believe the real life is to be lived from within. We also believe that everyone has their own path own sets of success and failures that has nothing to do with our life.

[@anonhere]

as an intj i really struggle with that and i hope i can change it

[@utena8518]

what type would Sylar be he is my fav. i always thought he is very intjish if you watch anime I recommend Platinum End, the main character seems to be an INFP and he always finds very unique solutions to the situations he is in, beyond anyone's expectations, including NTJs and NTPs

[@Ashleyforreal]

Really helpful content! Appreciate 🎉

[@muhammadamininfj5999]

Fifth comment! INFJ listening 🎧

[@WonkelDee]

What about INTJs who have just lost motivation? They simply just don't want to do anything

[@forkymental5154]

Or aren't able to do anything. I've been fighting intractable epilepsy my whole life and have broken my back twice. I've also been through two brain surgeries and looking at the possibility of a third. It's not easy. Sh!t like that crushes motivation.

[@vikascc4824]

@@forkymental5154 I wish for the best for you man, take care.

[@bitrudder3792]

@@forkymental5154 check out the carnivore diet, ketosis is supposed to help with epilepsy, and amazingly someone who had cerebral palsy from a birth injury was improving her balance on this diet. Maybe your one thing should be focusing on healing?

[@forkymental5154]

@@bitrudder3792 I appreciate the recommendation. I'm going to talk to my neurologist about it at my appointment next month.

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

I dated an entj woman once. She was pretty amazing and intense.

[@Scarecrow1410]

My dude, the reason INTJs give up is because all they do is fail with no small successes or victories in between those failures. How much failure can you get away with exactly? Men being risk averse with women these days is kind of warranted given that enough failure will basically land them in jail. Telling people not to give up no matter what regardless of type is a bit silly.

[@blackkitty9098]

Hmmmm i think i do have in common with my intj mom. And yeah I admit, she is the most independent woman I've eve met in my life. Commonly, most men would more likely to be intimidated by her.She did taught me to be independent by introducing me Beyonce's songs. Independent women and single ladies. As a result, I have becoming hyper-independent 😐. it is good...at the same time, my Ni child just want to be spoiled. STJs and SFJs men, where you at??😂😂

[@bitrudder3792]

I appear to have an INFJ who spoils me, and accommodates most of my independence. (And he improved over time). I accommodate a small handful of protective instinct stuff that he has, a little give and take. Balancing the feisty with the gentle. We laugh about it, and are happy still after 37 years. Good luck finding your special someone!

[@blackkitty9098]

@@bitrudder3792 thank you!✨

[@unknowngenius1477]

You're the man.

[@Luki82]

These uncertainty intolerance really fueled my health anxiety at one point. Si demon is no joke 😬

[@TokyoTaisu]

like panic attacks?

[@Luki82]

@@TokyoTaisu Yep...panic Attacks with crazy confusing somatic stuff...Drew Linsalata podcast, was most helpful with technical aspect of putting down that fire.

[@TokyoTaisu]

@@Luki82 Thanks for the podcast, will check it out!

[@Luki82]

@@TokyoTaisu GL...it will take some time and work. Some good tips are spread out through out episodes.

[@TokyoTaisu]

@@Luki82 thank you ❤

[@bitrudder3792]

I know an ENTJ that has unrealistic relationship expectations, and yet can't think of anything but finding that perfect woman. He sounds more like your INTJ In that he has given up on a number of different endeavors, is not financially stable, Yet feels entitled to success. He sets high standards for new relationships, gets mad when they don't live up to his expectations but doesn't seem to mind breaking his own core values as long as he kind of apologizes afterwards for his unkindness or whatever. He does seem to be persistent in his pursuit, but keeps shooting himself in the foot and blaming the other person mostly(and doesn't seem able to stop doing the same things that are getting bad results.) Clearly not a healthy version of this type, but do you see this very often?

[@Briller]

Chase do you recommend “The Unchained Man” for infjs too? Or should I read “The Manual” ?

[@CSJoseph]

Read everything

[@kadsenvieh]

I see almost all of this in my self (ESFP i guess)

[@oflameo8927]

Is the citation behind the paywall for INTJs being less successful than other NT types?

[@CSJoseph]

Success in terms of leadership. INTJs are often bad leaders. This is due to them being entirely pragmatic and progression. ENTJs are better because while entirely pragmatic they are entirely outcome. Always extremes with Intuitives.

[@pada5992]

Thank you for all your contribution to my life. It's been incredible just how much my view on life, on people, on myself, and my way of relating with fellow humans have changed. I am excited for the journey ahead. I recently have been thinking lots about how each hero function comes in exactly two flavors - the parent on one flavor being the trickster of the other. There is a type using Ni hero in combination with Te parent and Fe trickster, and the only type that also uses Ni hero, will use Fe parent and Te trickster. Te hero only comes with either Ni parent and Si trickster, or with Si parent and Ni trickster. Let's say an ENTJ and an ESTJ collaborate to solve a problem. They would use arguments and take things into account which just so happen to speak to the trickster function of the other Te hero person. Have you spoken about how this usually plays out? For some reason this bugs me and I would love a deep dive.

[@judael5605]

That's why both the entj and estj don't like eachother because they both thinking to themselves that they're clearly about to be manipulated/tricked/played by this person by the very specific method that they both hate the most- Si/Ni. It's hilarious

[@fsycb]

Hello! Do you think there is a correlation between skin picking or similar habits and type?

[@CSJoseph]

Yes

[@isabelledinneweth]

Great video .

[@CSJoseph]

Nice to see you are still around

[@isabelledinneweth]

@@CSJoseph thank you 🙏. You´re a good teacher. sometimes we have different opinion ,but I can live with that ..

[@RuthParodies]

More video's on ENFJ's?

[@lizzvv]

You can’t wife up a woman with more than 2 or 3 body count?????? Dude. Aside from that, I really enjoyed this video 👏🏽

[@CSJoseph]

Anyone can, hell I have. There are some bad consequences

[@faiora]

Yeah this is ridiculous. And such sexist phrasing. What about men with a high body count? And what if you’re the one with a high body count? Should you still be looking for someone with a low count? That comment seemed problematically flippant; really poorly thought through.

[@LaMach420]

​​​​​​​​​@@faiora women form bonds through oxytocin which is released during sex. Men form bonds through vasopressin which means we bond by going through struggles together. Men as a result can fw a strange woman once or a few times without developing feelings, women have a much harder time with that. Therefore the more men a woman has slept with the higher expectations she has for you as a man cause he had X inch pp, that guy had more money, this one was more handsome, (insert name) was more funny, etc... chances are the man you can get only has 1 or 2 of those qualities, not all of them. Men are generally ok with dating an average chick if she brings him peace. I do understand it's a double standard but look at how many other ones exist favoring women. Life aint fair, dont hate the player, hate the game. I personally have a very low body count and high standards as a man but Ive also made peace with the possibility of ending up alone. If you dread that outcome, you must be willing to compromise.

[@slatanek]

@faiora Never get offended by facts. Consider this: From a biological standpoint when a man is in a room with say 20 women, he can impregnate all 20 of them in one night. Now turn the situation around and you'll notice any woman can get pregnant just once and then she has to go through a prolonged period of pregnancy. Point being men and women are biologically and psychologically different - men are built to impregnate as many women as possible, women are built to bear a child and bond with the father to seek security during the childbearing and raising process. Now I'm not saying men can do whatever they want, I am saying however having a high body count in men and women are 2 different things. For men it means being successful, cause getting a female to have sex with you is difficult. For women it's a sign of having bad judgment, cause it's very easy for a woman to get sex from a man, hence she should discern who she spreads legs for.

[@timewilltell7409]

9:10 Thinking about doing something, and feeling assured that you can achieve said goal, is not being “entitled to success.” Entitlement is feeling deserving of the benefits of an achievement without doing the work to achieve it. What you describe sounds more like someone who - perhaps - has an inflated opinion of their own abilities.

[@fredrickcuambot1234]

The unchained man ❤️

[@justme8841]

I do not completly disagree but I sounds really much you talk about unhealthy people

[@taylamorris]

I agree.

[@dookhynabeelah4897]

Is Discord only for paying members? Is there any fee (membership) attached to Discord? Or it's completely free?

[@CSJoseph]

It’s free. discord.gg/egohackers

[@webkelpie]

Pathologically surprise adverse… or give up completely. (No, no, no don’t do this to yourself! Get you some chaos and surf that wave.)

[@aishaadam7473]

Are intps outcome focued?

[@malakashraf2801]

yes

[@themindsetofsuccess6217]

Does the demonic hero exist 🤔?

[@CSJoseph]

Battleground of Titans

[@themindsetofsuccess6217]

@@CSJoseph thank you 😊

[@kurodesuuuu]

27:36 Serena.. Williams?!

[@TokyoTaisu]

❤

[@burdleaf5196]

yet another intj video

[@lakshithalakshitha8153]

Are intjs daydream?