"If You Make 50k, YOURE TOO BROKE TO DATE"

[@Abymilde]

Please, women don't owe men shit! Y'all show time and time again that you are unloyal and always put yourself and your wants first even if it hurts a woman. We're smartening up now. No more Barbara The Builders for you!!!😝

[@AbaNPreach]

Who hurt you? Was it necessary to call women with different standards bottom of the barrel because she had bad experiences with men? I notice you are quick to defend a woman who demeaned other women as bottom of the barrel.

[@deogooden5329]

Just said a whole lot of nothing

[@jasonandres2917]

Real talk, who hurt this person?

[@Hajun554]

I feel like a lot of these people just make comments like this for the pin lol. Same with people wanting more likes and stuff

[@jo2651]

Who hurt you?

[@LolitaBonitaaa]

These women are insane. I met my husband at the bottom of the barrel, we were both there lol. Fine dining for us was Applebee's. Most dates were walks, free events, pizza and Subway. He had my back and I had his. I'd go to his place, bring groceries and cook so he had lunch for the next 2 days. Some days he sent me $30 bucks when I was 5 hrs away doing my masters broke af. This man took a bus for 6 hrs to attend my graduation. Picked me up with all my crap in his dad's car to move me back home. Today we have a combined income of 200k+ and a beautiful son. This could be you too but you crazy.

[@valeriapebble]

You are living my dream life, kudos to you and your husband!! ❤ me and my boyfriend are 21 and at the "bottom of the barrel" right now 😂 I just started off in hairdressing and barely make $9/hour before tips, and my boyfriend is working food service and retail to make ends meet while being a caregiver to his elderly nana. We are saving so we can move out together, then he can go to school. We have been dating for 4 years, and we definitely both have made stupid decisions with money lol. 😅 our plan is to eventually save up enough for a homestead, we want to live as sustainably as possible on a couple acres. Wish us luck 🙏

[@nabeelkhan1054]

Congrats Miss you are a real gem of a lady.

[@BengaliMartyMcfly]

To quote Aba & Preach - “Bars. Straight bars”

[@brianring-nu9dw]

She's insane for not wanting to have a long term relationship with someone that can be financially unstable where kids can be involved? She's more sane than most people in this section and most people in life arent gonna go from making 20k to 200k. It's not 1950 anymore you can't live off of apple bees discounts every Tuesday and 20k a month while raising a family 😂.

[@V0nni333]

@@brianring-nu9dwbut they aren’t looking to start a family or a healthy relationship..their spoiled whores💀

[@joshuaboy1]

If someone called in and said to her "if you're a woman over 200lbs then you're not ready to date" there would be an uproar

[@brianring-nu9dw]

Being obsese isn't the leading cause of divorce tho

[@IIDEADBIRDII]

@@brianring-nu9dw but financials only lead to divorce when it’s a 1 person bread winner situation. Or it’s when one sees it as a get rich quick scheme.

[@MissV301]

Damn right

[@fnonpm]

@@brianring-nu9dw Lack of self control + mental health issues

[@ThemindofOZIII]

@@brianring-nu9dw an just death and health issues that cause people to go broke due to health bills.

[@delicious_seabass]

Some of these women out here talking like they know what a 100k salary looks like. I make 100k+, but if you looked at my clothes, my car and my home, you'd think I'm barely getting by. The reality is I'm not an idiot with my money, and I'm certainly not going to waste it on some woman who shows zero appreciation.

[@mrpie1730]

What do you do? How long did it take you to get where you are?

[@SmashingProdigy]

I'm the same way. But I think that's partially because I don't have expensive tastes, and tend to enjoy simpler things in life. My hobbies also don't require constant spending.

[@tb8654]

Exactly, I make 80k a year, have a rental property where I stay in one of the units which brings my yearly taxable income to 120k, and I shop st H&M and have a $400 phone and a 2017 truck at 29 years old lol I'm still covering some other things in order to get ahead further in life so I don't have much "free income" but I'm home continue shopping at H&M and continue driving a car that's at least 5 years old whenever I decide to trade in my vehicle

[@thedude8526]

Same. I dress like a 90s skater lol. My truck is nice but outside of that, youd never know I made over 100k.

[@BrownCreature]

Yeah okay buddy. If you look like youre barely getting by it might just be you got shit taste. Go to a thrift shop and develop taste You can look damn fine for fuck all... brandless

[@teadoroguapo9994]

Built like a barrel and talking about the bottom of one is crazy 😂😂😂😂

[@pmoneylohan]

It got her a very rich white man doe .

[@renegade1491]

Yoooo 😂😂

[@nickruffin4622]

This Comment Right here, Officer, this the one that killed me

[@teadoroguapo9994]

@@nickruffin4622 ☠️☠️🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jayt4083]

Shawty a fullback talking like that. This world is crazy.

[@jasonhorton4778]

Bob Marley said it best… “Some people are so poor, all they have is money.”

[@Ghostisback24444]

Facts

[@MeggaMann_theBlueLion]

Facts

[@teamrocket1156]

Deep!!!!!

[@ChaosIadore]

Amen

[@antonydrossos5719]

I feel that.

[@joelharvey]

*"If you ain't got an IQ over 100, you're not ready to podcast."* - this literally slayed me. lol

[@digiwatt]

This was like a discount The View made into a podcast.

[@clancymamou]

Bruh

[@Geckoo-eh7wq]

facts just cuz people can speak their mind doesn't mean they need a mic lol. it's wild so many idiots wanting to make podcasts lol. if i made more than 200k i wouldn't date the walrus like what hahahahahaha

[@bobbanks6217]

Hasan Piker came to mind😅

[@supawithdacream5626]

Podcasters being the greatest thinkers of our time 😂

[@justinkamperveen3860]

She wants a guy who makes more than "just 100K" so that he can invest 10K into a business for her. And for what? So that she can be the 20th person on the block who does hair, nails, and makeup? And then when the business fails, she suffers none of the loss, because it wasn't her money to begin with. She's not a partner, she's an anchor

[@xelaander8429]

💯 Exactly!!! Start a business for me, give me money to buy Gucci etc etc... What did you do to earn that? Oh, sex? In that case we can all just patronise sex workers instead. The absolute transactionality behind everything she said is irritating for someone who brings things thag can be easily replaced by a callgirl

[@bestpiss]

Exactly, she’s not an investment because there’s no return. She’s a charity case begging for donations

[@brianring-nu9dw]

She's married.

[@samesamv1472]

oh shioioo

[@vondreclark]

“that’s not a partner, that’s an anchor” 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾

[@reginaldanderson7171]

Not once did any of those women mention spending any of their own money on dating. They're looking for sponsors, not husbands.

[@UdoADHD]

Usually she would be spending money looking her best for the guy. But if a guy isn’t taking me on dates, then he’s not spending money and likewise there is nothing for me to look nice for so I wouldn’t spend money either

[@TSSPDarkStar]

@@UdoADHD Do men not pay money to look good for women? This is such a disingenuous argument because guaranteed if a guy spent more money than you did on his clothes you would still feel the same way.

[@UdoADHD]

@@TSSPDarkStar it’s disingenuous to say men pay anything close to what women pay to look good 🙄 Accept that men and women are not the same. Men put value on a woman looking as good as possible. Women just want men to do the bare minimum to wash up.

[@TSSPDarkStar]

@@UdoADHD So even if that's true in general I'm asking you in the hypothetical case where a guy paid way more for his stuff than the woman did should she have to pay?

[@UdoADHD]

@@TSSPDarkStar That just doesn’t happen. When it comes to dating, we are talking about what actually happens because we are discussing a generalization and not a case by case event. Men do not spend even close to as much as women. A hypothetical that almost never happens is useless because in that case, we need to know ALL the factors involved since we are deviating from the norm.

[@chrisbeerguy1489]

$50K earner here. Married 12 years with two kids, a 9yr old girl and 11yr old boy. They both go to Catholic school, straight A students. I have saved over $30K for their college funds so far. My wife works too, she makes less than me, but together we have a good life. We’re not rich, but we’re not poor either. We rent a 3BR house on two acres of land. We are blessed, we love living in the country, and grow a lot of our own food. This is news to me that I’m not ready to date! 😆😂🤣. Young people: money doesn’t buy happiness! Family is everything!

[@Itsdeejayjay]

Appreciate your input! Gives the guys in their 20’s hope.

[@dfredankey]

@@Itsdeejayjaylike me -23 I spoke to a trade school so hopefully all can change/ get better

[@Shatnerpants]

You sir are rich with life. House, family and land make you more wealthy than any amount of cash can. Love this for you and wish your family all the happiness!

[@prepordietryin9119]

Sounds like you're in good shape. If I could make one recommendation though it is try to find you a piece of land to buy and then put a mobile home on it. People make fun of it but I live on a little over 3 acres of land and a old single wide and I own all of it. A lot of my friends tell me how lucky I am even though they live in houses. They're all penny pinched when it comes down to money yet I'm able to save or spend money and do what I want. Renting is fine and it sounds like you got a good setup but I would definitely start thinking about something long-term and permanent. I know some people just like to rent so I guess if that's your thing then keep doing it but long-term it would be nice to own something. Especially in this day and age it's so hard to have anything.

[@gottalottasocks3076]

Facts

[@V0ltron]

$50k for a single man, especially if he owns his own home and car, is pretty good. What these women are saying is absurd.

[@jamespaul6315]

Its more than pretty good lol. She doesnt deserve a guy like that

[@raeldri5867]

​@@jamespaul6315she can't get a man like that, not the prettiest not the nicest bet you 10 bucks she has this opinion because she usually date dead beats that live out of her

[@torriaevans2143]

Maybe she’s factoring in housing and child support etc Idk 🤷🏾‍♀️ ppl have unrealistic expectations on both sides and quite frankly it’s exhausting I’ve checked out

[@bobahop1232]

50k TAKE HOME is like 80k a year. Thats VERY good for a Batchelor 50k before taxes is only like 30k take home and thats a struggle to pay for rent, car, etc..

[@ElementalSk81]

@@jamespaul6315Exactly. Could have sworn the average income for a single man between ages 20-35 iirc in the us is about 25k-35k…. And that’s being generous. lol I recently started making around 38k-40k (after a few years of making a flat 28k)a year and I genuinely feel alright in terms of finances and being to afford my car, rent and buy little things I want here and there. It’s sad that some women even think the average everyday guy is making 50k minimum… just wow. They have no concept of reality and just what it takes to actually be put into a position to make even 30k+ a year for the average everyday man.

[@DolliMiu]

My husband *STRUGGLED* when we were dating. He had to drain his bank account and spend his savings to help his mom afford life-saving surgery and to get her out of Cambodia because her business failed. It was a shitty turn of events that left my husband broke because his life savings were gone in a matter of hours. Not once did I ever think “oh he’s broke I can’t date him.” I stayed with him and was there to support him every step of the way until he ended up in a better financial situation. His love and self-sacrifice was what showed me that he was worth staying for.

[@Megan6772]

Exactly!!! It's all about context. Your man was completely selfless and sacrificed for his mom ❤ it's much different than someone who just doesn't know how to quit frivolous spending

[@beautyallaround_]

The fact he sacrificed his life savings to help his mother is such an amazing quality. That's what a partnership is about when you're down he got you and when he's down you got him. That's what I want not this superficial thing they call a relationship. She is 35 and not focusing on real life stability and long term love/commitment. I can't take the woman in the video seriously at all. Also what is it with single people giving advice to people in my age group. It's not ideal and I hope no one in their 20's is actually listening to her.

[@ticiao]

And unlike his women you can say my husband.

[@DadsCigaretteRun]

My wife just looked at me watching this video and said “remember when you were a security guard making 35k a year? Boy times have changed” 😂 I make A LOT more now

[@kchikwete]

🙏

[@mateuszumamedeirosbria2652]

Saying "if you make 50k don't date" is like saying "If you are a middle class or poor MAN, you don't deserve a relationship, you don't deserve love, so stay and die alone", which is basically saying she hates middle class and poor MAN. And let's be honest, she probably thinks the same way about any MAN making up to 100k, which is even worst.

[@kykawaii803]

Fr like does she not know how much of the population makes under 100k??? Like girl bffr

[@kykawaii803]

The delusion is reeeal😭

[@jermo4099]

Yea cause she isn’t built off of love she is built to take a man’s money that’s her primary function she doesn’t want real love

[@Alassandros]

Don't date for potential. Don't date for money. Date for stability and character. Not everyone meets the potential YOU see in them, and money doesn't guarantee stability or character.

[@titanl23423]

This is facts. The women that date for money made it known and the men are okay providing.

[@Dev1cted]

LOVED THIS COMMENT

[@tobiaslawrence8928]

Agree and disagree

[@bcj842]

A man settles down where he finds peace.

[@sapowoman]

Agree on the not meeting the potential you see in someone. I couldn't even meet the potential I once had. Top of my class in high school, got an award first year of uni for being a top performer, only to drop out two semesters before finishing uni. No one should bare the burden of someone else's expectations, especially when they won't be there to help them succeed

[@nondescript5225]

Buy her funky logic, if men do wait until they're making a 100K a year to start dating, there is no way in heck that they are looking for someone like her.

[@theoneandonlynophoney1864]

It’s some that still wil ,always, that’s why they feel confident to talk like this

[@kln.b5631]

@@theoneandonlynophoney1864 Nah, they’re just delusional. Those same men you speak of are the “good men” they’re looking for.

[@savagethepunisher]

Translation if black men don't make 1000k are broke Translation she hates poor people unless they're name is Brad

[@zoflopanayya83]

😂😂😂😂😂😂facts!!!

[@edwin9210]

You are right, the young women are the ones getting picked

[@mitzy1135]

Dating?? My husband and I make 80k combined. And frankly, it's the best year we have had married (8 years now). We own our own home (no missed payments w/ 20 acres of land), raise our own food, just paid off our vehicle 3 years early, own horses, and raising 3 kids under 6 years old. Is it hard? Hell yes it is, but we sacrifice what we want for what we need and we are incredibly happy. I married my husband not for what he can give me in items but the kind of man he is and the kind of father I knew he was going to be. Ladies are off their rocker and will never truly find happiness like this and for that I feel sorry for them.

[@FightNChickN]

You’re definitely not doing that in any major city in America.

[@darnellwilliams8783]

@@FightNChickN facts she lying I live in Florida and 50k a year is homeless

[@adelok]

Blessings 🙌

[@nr1NPC]

Women☕

[@deniseclark1773]

Preach girl!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 you are living the dream!!!

[@FullofSouthernCharm]

Women who get men who make 6 figures plus aren't on podcasts talking down on men who don't make 6 figures or more. Sidenote: 50k a year is a fantastic income especially if you are a single man with no kids and have a good job or career and know how to manage your money

[@BillyJeanIsNotMyMother]

Most of us start dating our partners when they are making significantly less. You grow together.

[@Alxotaku]

it depends where you are but honestly 50k a year isnt great anymore with how bad inflation has become. Very rarely do i agree with what these people say but this one I agree with. If your bareley able to support yourself on that salary forget dating focus on yourself and then go into the dateing market

[@michaelangst6078]

Not that it matters, but without knowing anything about those women, I would say they for sure make at least 50k a year, so what they are saying certainly applies to them, just not dating as a whole.. I make over 100k and I would not date, let alone start a family with a woman wanting a free ride again. All these dudes saying they don't care how much their woman makes or how she looks probably are failing at life and feel like they have no desirable options....

[@SubwayFan83]

"If you ain't got a I.Q. over 100?, you ain't ready to podcast" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh shiznit!

[@aelh123]

👨🏾‍🍳 Aba cooking

[@myninjalife]

Pretty sure an IQ under 100 is a requirement for podcasting.

[@thrrax]

I'd raise the bar to 140.

[@damnnerves24]

I literally hollered!!! 😂😂

[@TheJarlath9]

bro il take 109 over this @@thrrax

[@halrox247]

Talking 'bout dating hustlers, overweight, materialistic, still single at 35. Anyone surprised? You can't make this sh!t up.

[@craftreesie]

She's married. Go watch that full episode.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

The leading cause of divorce is financial issues not obesity and tbf she's saying something a lot of dudes say all the time. You should be financially stable before dating.

[@HasanPikerIsADouche]

​​@@craftreesie Fiona found her Shrek

[@ronswanson1410]

@@craftreesie She was married to herself, he just an extra accessory

[@yojayuwannacomeouthere8519]

@@brianring-nu9dw must be a big black woman undercover lol

[@snafusofauq8297]

If you only make 50k you can't afford to feed this woman.

[@scaryanima9268]

You're being too kind. I was thinking 100k.

[@taosmith695]

Preach!

[@Deeptunester]

You're going to need an investment account that grows as exponentially as her waistline to keep up

[@reynaldoorellana1823]

She’s been fed enough she doesn’t need anymore food.

[@GlitchPredator]

And pay for her medical bills

[@libbyget5495]

You guys crack me up! That, or you’re really on point and getting us all worked up. 😊

[@superionmaximus9900]

Damn. Guess I'm gonna stay single then. I only make $65K, but my house is paid, my car is paid, and when it breaks I'll go buy a new one and pay for that one too. I have more then enough in the bank to upgrade to a bigger, fancier house, but I don't need that. Just like I don't need to take on a parasite who just wants to live free. I'd be happy to date a woman with her own means and assets and build for a really nice retirement somewhere warm and beautiful. But I am not looking to support an adult child of a human being buying a bunch of useless designer goods that hold no value.

[@xiii0722]

I always thought of this as common sense, but sadly I guess it isn't, when I see such weird videos/podcasts. And have another like btw.

[@aidanm.655]

@@xiii0722Same. Like who tf raised these people??? I never expected to marry some woman and just have her leach off me. I won’t date a girl that’s a deadbeat. At least be in school for a degree, or have some kind of job. I’m only 20, and finishing my 3rd year of uni, but I already meet people who are content doing nothing but smoking weed and playing video games all day. It’s crazy to me.

[@superionmaximus9900]

@@xiii0722 Absolutely agree.

[@LolitaBonitaaa]

People who put that much value on flashy stuff, fine dining, expensive gifts and dates, are huge red flags. Especially if they can't afford that themselves and expect other to provide that life for them. To me that just sounds like financial irresponsibility. Absolutely not.

[@shakiraS311]

Protect this man at all cost😂

[@aarongraham4264]

The problem is too many enter dating looking for a come up rather than a partnership. If you both make 50k your household income is 6 figures and yall doin alright.

[@londala]

She'd have to consider what she makes, if anything, apart of the household income. The way she talking, however, don't imply that she wants to contribute in that way...

[@LembeckIsStaying]

​@@londala Exactly. She wants to be taken care of not contribute.

[@maskedman5657]

Where is it implied that she even makes 50k a year?

[@constantin-adrianprisecari5379]

the point is she wants to live off the mans money and not work herself. a 100k/y guy is supposed to spend 50k+ to keep her ass home. modern women want conservative men.

[@sirennoir258]

Her food budget is 1200 just for her so.... why should she have to go on a diet?

[@leeeneas8529]

"He needed someone to hand him a water bottle during the race, not someone to hand him flowers after he's won" bars!!

[@dougsmith6262]

Straight wisdom right there.

[@IamINERT]

That shit was fire 🔥

[@khalilismail666]

Yes

[@marcusw7117]

🔥

[@teklacommissiong9098]

Yea that was a BAR 🍸

[@BumBBell98]

The lady who said if you don’t make 50k you shouldn’t date looks like a person I wouldn’t spend 10 dollars on.

[@web3wizard381]

she needs 50k for the ozempic treatment

[@jjm8224]

@@web3wizard381 🤣🤣

[@Laninafresa1245]

That’s fine but why get mad, just say ok and move on. It’s literally not that serious.

[@meyeneetuks4680]

@@Laninafresa1245we bringing shame back lol. Anyone talking like the women in the vid is delulu

[@champ1ontryymegaming304]

WOW! Met my husband when he was making entry level $$ and I kept him because he IS a high value man because of who he IS, how he treats others, his patience, his humor, his loyalty, etc.... Now that he is making more money, still not 6 figures, his value has not elevated because of his increased income. His value to ME is elevated because he continues to be the MAN I met and later married and kept his values. I would MUCH rather be married to my hubby with his regular income than a rich man who doesn't value and respect others, himself or me. That's JMO.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

Go watch the full clip, this lady is married to a high value man too.

[@ninairish763]

100 percent!!!!!

[@agamerjourney9146]

@@brianring-nu9dwListen to her comments high value man is not just about income. More so about character, morals, values that man has.

[@lexeiy1730]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@franklingoodwin]

@@brianring-nu9dw None of what you said changes the points she made that are correct. So, she's married, and what?

[@shadrachkoomson909]

4:16 “She 💁🏼‍♀️wanna make it with you when you already made it 🥇, They tryna show up at the finish line to hand you your flowers 💐 not recognizing that I needed somebody to hand me the water bottle 💧 while I was running 🏃‍♂️ the marathon.” THIS SHIT HIT DEEP 💯

[@timehgta_smg3058]

I been SO FORTUNATE to find my fiancé she accepts me for my autism and even tho she makes 3x more than me ITS NOT ABOUT THE MONEY, she loves me and I her. That aside her writing ✍️ skills is smoothing out my story telling skills so I say check back with me in 2 years!

[@londala]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 THE LIVING BREATHING WORD!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@nightfighter7452]

The added emojis made me lol

[@maskedman5657]

Yeah that's a deep quote. Ion get it da first time 😂

[@catlady3024]

Men don’t stay with the woman they struggle with, once they make it, they leave them for a gold digger anyway 🤷‍♀️

[@NarniaSydel]

"They tryna show up after the finish line to hand you your flowers. Not recognizing I needed somebody to hand me a water bottle while I was running the marathon." - Aba, 2024

[@albertrodriguez1999]

This mf philosophical with it

[@millicentlopez3592]

Jesse Williams

[@ldtdylm]

Put it on a T shirt

[@SlightlyMellow]

That this hit hard.

[@JJ-jn7ei]

❤❤❤❤

[@jonathannaab2887]

I wholeheartedly agree with Aba’s point: there needs to be an IQ cutoff for purchasing podcast equipment. It is becoming ridiculous

[@jesusnegrete6244]

Single women helping other women stay single.

[@johnny718bravo]

THIS

[@TomikaKelly]

As they should if all they are going to do is marry poor.

[@bugeye8749]

No way u males do a much better job at that ☠️

[@isaiahparker6170]

💯

[@bradleywilliams548]

​@@TomikaKellywell nothing changes cuz they poor themselves

[@SumtingWong343]

Social media is such a double edge sword... we live in an age where the ignorants, the pretenders and the fools can have a voice as loud as the wise. It's easy to listen to any idiots share their garbage opinion on any podcast. Anyone with an ability to communicate can now spread their misinformation to a large audience... I hate that people actually listen to this shit and agrees to it. Those wannabe Relationship experts, dating life connaisseur and whatever how they call themselves... it's sickening to me how much bullshit they are ready to say just to generate clicks.

[@sir_evergreen]

Exactly punks in realistically aka in life 🥱👀👍🏿🔥🔥🔥🥂

[@BinkyTheToaster]

I miss the days when being able to use the internet required somewhat significant intelligence, like owning an actual computer and being able to install and configure the connections manually.

[@martiwaterman1437]

@@BinkyTheToasterI miss the days when you had to read the instruction manual to assemble your home stereo system because the wires weren’t color-coded and the internet didn’t exist.

[@ll2323]

I’ve learned almost everything isn’t black and white, everything has nuances and complexity. U just have to remember ur life is only urs to live, why listen to anyone outside urself?

[@WorldlyAuras-ze9yf]

Social media has made dumbasses lots of money.

[@SeekerKC]

I actually saw that video on Valentine's Day, of all days, & posted my response on X: "Not long after my man & I began dating, he lost his job. We spent most dates back then going for walks, watching the planes fly in & out of our local airports while we talked, laughed, & listened to music, or we'd just hang out at my place watching TV. A couple of our dates were even just the two of us set up at a picnic table at some park on a nice day, stuffing & hand addressing dozens of envelopes to send out his resume. This year, we'll be celebrating our 30th anniversary (34+ yrs together). He's an amazing husband, a _solid_ provider, incredible friend, & and the best father to our child. The nice trips, restaurants, cars, etc. eventually came. What I had all along, tho, *from jump,* was a _good man._ I would've been the dumbest b*tch _alive_ had I put a wage minimum on our relationship."

[@Darth_Bateman]

Huh….. i really don’t have words to express how I feel reading this, just …. Wow.

[@bokrusher]

When he struggled, you struggled with him. You did it together. Companionship over comfort anytime.

[@TJ-ht3jb]

Nothing establishes a bond more than shared sacrifice. If someone will not help share any of life's burdens, there is no real bond to begin with.

[@foxduncam7671]

lemme not get too cheesy but this made me tear up i hope you had a happy valentines day and god bless

[@moonknight4053]

Wait did he pay for all the nice trips, cars, etc? If he did.. how come we don’t hear of women doing this? Genuine question

[@X5AVAGECABBAG3X]

Your point about the "luxury"brands is ON POINT!!! I have a clothing company and I really see this in us. We value the things that hate us and we ignore who seeks our love

[@Bk-hq5pc]

My wife and I have been together for over 8 years now. We met when she was an Admin making $12.50/hr while looking to pursue her Masters. I was a security guard making $11.50/hr…Now I’m a Data Analytics Dev making over 6 figures while my wife is making a lil under 6 figures. I’m also setting up other income streams for us so that she retires before 40 and never have to worry about working to survive. The key is to do what works for you and your partner and stop worrying about what others think.

[@normalguycap]

Going from those wages to that income in a short time is suspect. Never heard of an admin making that little either.

[@MrSheduur]

@@normalguycap it also does not say much about the issue in itself, because the problem is not making regular job money, but how some morons look at that and think you are broke for working a normal job and not earning top dollar. but I guess the programming is strong in americans that you are defined by your job and ONLY your job...

[@MaSa-bp5qe]

Respect to you my guy!

[@Plug042]

Damn that’s love still

[@donaldcodes]

I’m the Bay Area. I make a “low income” of 68k. I save half my paycheck, and still can afford random gizmos and gadgets. My car is paid in cash, have no debt. I’ve also seen multi six figure earners here who live paycheck to paycheck. income is only half of the equation

[@pr00009]

yup. if you cant save money , you are simply a broke working man. earning income is a skill. and so is saving it. both are required.

[@proudatheist2042]

Well said and well done! I have been to San Francisco three times in my life. Stay safe out there!

[@blackjackjester]

I bailed on the bay - too expensive, too dirty, too much traffic, too much insane politics. But yea, when you qualify for housing assistance, with a family of four, at $130k...you know there's a problem.

[@josephatkinson6280]

​@@blackjackjesterI couldn't even get housing assistance when I was working a $28k per year job 💀 that job sucked and glad i left lmao

[@Ryan-wx1bi]

Hold up.. where TF are you living in the Bay area and able to save half your salary at 68k?? Are you still living with your parents? The average rent in that area would put you spending more than 50% on rent alone Average rent is 3k a month... I'm calling BS on this post tbh

[@noodleMoodle253]

Those women are so wack. I’m glad they’ve exposed their lack of character. when I met my husband he worked at a gas station, a parking lot, and drove Uber while studying for his masters. We literally went to the park for most of our dates and I’d make a picnic so he didn’t have to worry about buying food since he was so broke. Walks are some of my favorite memories of our courtship🥹. If I’d blown him off because he wasn’t 6ft and made pennies then I wouldn’t have the most INCREDIBLE husband in the world. The type of person who takes a bus after three jobs and going to class to see me for an hour before going to the next job. Now he makes the salary these women think they’re entitled to, but they sure as hell don’t deserve it.

[@vicegripp]

AMEN! Say it louder for the haters in the back! Blessings to you & yours frfr.

[@LolitaBonitaaa]

Your last sentence. Chef's kiss. Amazing, bravo, say it louder!!

[@scaryguy101]

This should be pinned

[@brianring-nu9dw]

This sounds like this was written by a dude 😂 although nowadays women will brag about having kids with brokies because it makes them feel better than the rest that take raising a good family seriously.

[@avivastudios2311]

I always imagined going for a walk as a first date. Never understood the meal thing. You don't know eachother that well and now you're just gonna eat? 😅

[@gort8848]

Yo that swiss roll in spandex talking bout bottom of the barrel is out of pocket 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@pmoneylohan]

Her white husband who makes 7 figures a year loves it . That’s why she can speak facts . Black men will say you have to be fit and friendly. But she knows what true value is that’s why he married her. I think he’s in finance if I’m not mistaken.

[@kozmiic]

She isnt speaking facts 🤡 she got lucky and found a man desperate or ugly enough to chose her she is by no means good looking and that's all luck her marrying someone making that much but her marrying a man with money does not make what she says facts your a clown for even typing this comment 🤡

[@ChopperFlip]

A person willing to date you at your lowest point is not bottom of the barrel. That’s a soulmate.

[@titanl23423]

Doesn't work out for women at all. Most are done terribly and hurt. Don't do it.

[@lee87255]

Facts! They are so hard to find though!

[@ChopperFlip]

@@titanl23423 ever thought you’re looking for a date at the wrong place? If we look to our grandparents then they have stories of first meeting with an activity, city event, or friend introductions. Notice how these places known for not hooking up for 1 night stands? If you go to a club, then expect a short term situation-ship. If you want a traditional date, then go to a traditional place. You’ll meet like minded people at like minded places.

[@mtlmenace8590]

thats why u dont listen to women looll

[@vibez2806]

@@titanl23423 now show this study.

[@Zx6rBlue]

Im a female instrumentation apprentice, for the past 4 years ive been on 25k per year. If i get taken on this year ill be making just over 50k a year. My boyfriend makes just over 20k per year. We have been in a happy relationship for 2 years ❤. I feel like we are in a good place, money isn't everything. For me 50k a year is amazing in the area in which I live, and is more than I've ever earned in my life up to this point. These women are delusional and so out of touch with the financial reality of most couples.

[@skeeteronthewater1568]

How are yall even living? Making 45k a year together is combining for 22 bucks an hour I'm not hating on your relationship I'm happy yall are happy but man yall gotta be on the struggle bus

[@brianring-nu9dw]

If you had kids with a man making 20k a year, you will be working while in pain with your pregnancy 😂. People can come at this lady all they want and throw out unrealistic life scenarios but you can not survive off of that with kids. She's saying the same thing dudes say all the time "money before women."

[@brianring-nu9dw]

You're more delusional than she is 😂😂

[@MAruGGs]

I like hearing this because this is literally everywhere around us. Unfortunately these videos tend to turn into a lot of women/feminism bad comments. The truth is most people don’t make that kind of money, sometimes I think certain videos may be rage bait. I hope the best for you and yours !

[@brianring-nu9dw]

You're more delusional than her.

[@SirYeetus]

"If you weigh over 140lbs, you're too big to date!" Feminists: "REEEEEE!"

[@adamsneidelmann8976]

If you can’t pick ‘em up, don’t take ‘em home.

[@dat1slyguy501]

When your dating a girl over 170 your a whale hunting homie.

[@hoosiernative9668]

Damn bro what if you lift weights and can carry some weight we gotta get stuck with the big girls just cuz we can pick them up 😂. There by some slim thick girls that are busty as hell an weigh more than 140 cuz of it but they far from fat they phat 🤤

[@robertnguyen9493]

😂😂😂😂

[@SirYeetus]

@@hoosiernative9668hey, if they want to set unrealistic standards, why can't we? 😂

[@jamesbaggett7223]

My 2nd wife met me when I was working for my cousin as a laborer. A year after we got together I am back in University going for a 2nd degree, in training to become a teacher and she has her Masters degree and has lit a fire in me to make something of myself for us. She knows that I will not give up or stop. Women like this speaker remind me of my ex in Houston. She makes more than enough to take care of herself but dumped me because I didn’t make enough to pay her bills and mortgage

[@l19719]

Your ex was right. She didn't want a lazy man as the father of her children. This is how women become single mothers. The women in the podcast are very knowledgeable.

[@jamesbaggett7223]

@@l19719 wow so I was working 40+ hours a week and I was lazy? Seems like you have a limited view of the situation

[@KevinBell7]

She said “giving his girl $10,000” …..bro, who gives their girl $10,000?

[@RyanOblivion]

Simps?

[@willdegra317]

Pesos maybe

[@PharticusMcbutt]

50 year old men who date 20 year old women

[@NurmaBP]

Obviously simps. I watched a video about an OF model who get 10k from her 'No.1 fan', he get a pic with her, then she went vacation with her bf 😂 Bhad Bhabie earned 50 mil USD from her OF. It's cray cray out there.

[@theawesomest2850]

Tricks and Johns?

[@damefame8921]

“You’re not bottom of the barrel, you’re under it” That’s tough 😂

[@StevenLewis-z6c]

But they ugly af! You need to atleast be hot aswell as delusional to have those expectations...they just delusional.

[@christianscrogins663]

She’s the size of a barrel too

[@MixedBwoyOnDBeat]

Yoooowww 😂😂😂

[@dgladiuz8990]

😢

[@clevonriley]

Wild

[@GottaStayActive]

It's wild because they literally simp for brand name companies but won't simp for a man who provides...

[@alejandropacheco7832]

modern feminism and corporate female empowerment working at it's best!... it was never about women it was always about control

[@Kuhmodo]

I don't know why takes like this piss me off so much. Like I hate hearing dudes get disqualified because they don't make this or because they're short. No bullshit, if I ran into a profile on a dating app that said you had to be a certain height I auto swiped left. Even though I always met those requirements.

[@KNIGHTSFALLN]

@WarmSun_MGM Yes, that is what she said. She said too many women who get money see other women in these brands and blow their bank accounts trying keep up. But she also said she needs a rich man to put down money on her dreams. But the problem is there is never any reciprocation. And if he asks for some. She is considering the door. She got what she needed and she is willing to leave. A lot of women say they will take care of their man. But when push comes to shove… 80%…. Divorce. That’s not relationship behavior. That’s is a locust.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

You use the word simp, no one is taking you seriously man. 50k is barley enough to provide off of especially if you see yourself having kids. Imagine needing to work to maintain a household while pregnant 😂😂, jokes.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

​@@alejandropacheco7832Control for what? Most of you are whining about this because you haven't made 50k for 3 years of work.

[@polariswalls4477]

Here's the thing... living in atl I been make 50k from 2014-2019 I can sat the last year 50k was good compensation was in 2015. Inflation is real and if you're dating to find someone to marry and have a family with finances need to be evaluated. I changed my whole career to break out of the pay restraint I was experiencing. I want a family and in atl 50k is cool if your single but if you want a family 90k is the minimum and I mean the minimum

[@jensboettiger5286]

50k is above the median for a single earner of any age, and FAR FAR above the average for people under 35

[@MrProdigy810]

And pockets still be hurting

[@Abigailsoftball23]

Exactly. The average personal income in my town is like $20k. These women (using that term loosely since they act like children) are just materialistic with their unreasonable expensive lifestyles.

[@possiblyinsane6995]

a lot of women really don't understand wages. they never had a job

[@TheNezziah]

Wow... America is so grim. I live in Sydney Australia and 50k USD would put you in the broke category, it's only a bit over min wage. At 29 I earn equivalent $90k USD which is slightly over the avg, but not wildly so. It's so weird that Americans get less!

[@Jisim33]

I looked at my stubs. For once in my lifetime I made 50k last year so that made me really happy

[@TheBigJord]

Her contempt for the women who are willing to struggle with their partners is probably the most disgusting thing in this video to me. Everyone can have their delusions about salary their guy should make but to call women who don't prioritize disposable income "bottom of the barrel" is such a despicable take all I can think is that she knows she's not a woman that will ever experience a love like that a love that makes her want to stick through the tough times, she'll only ever love a wallet. There is a hollowness that can't be denied in that and people often chase further into the "addiction" to stave off the feeling of hollowness, it's why I think 100K has become the new "making it" bench mark by these people's standards cause it has to keep being more to make up for the hollowness that continues to be more prevalent.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

That's the best part for me. Don't have kids with a struggling brokie your gonna be working the day before you give birth 😂

[@MusMasi]

What happened to her Neck?

[@kclauren6052]

Exactly!

[@MikeBarbarossa]

" When I was 20 I dated broke guys. But I'm 35 now, he must come here correct and with a wallet" Gee, I wonder why men usually are looking for the younger, firmer ,more fun, less demnading slimmer 20s version of her, rather than her?? It's a Scooby mystery

[@kclauren6052]

I'm so glad you said that. "You wanna come when he's at the finish line but he needed you handing him a bottle of water on the way". My husband and I came up TOGETHER. We were making $20k a year just 10 years ago. He worked full time and went to school full time while I took care of the house and kids. Was it fun? No. It was hard. Really hard. But we're now making over $100k per year TOGETHER. These women also wonder 'why can't I find a good man!?". Honey, it's bc they don't trust you. Because of this behavior right here. Her attitude tells me that she will leave and take half at the first sign of rough waters. These women will be alone forever. They'll be 85 wondering why nobody ever loved them. Edited to add- we have money now and I never buy designer anything. That is a fake status symbol. We have REAL money in investments that are growing by the day. Typically, the people who buy Chanel are the ones who can't actually afford it. Real money folks dont spend it on that mess 😂

[@LolitaBonitaaa]

Love this. All of this. My husband and I also started from the very bottom together. Feels real nice to be now at the top together

[@jmh4ggg]

​@@Theworldismine5Not true. Me and my wife have the same story, and so do countless others.

[@carrethenry6237]

​@@Theworldismine5and that is why having values is so important, like Aba said most of y'all just judge based on financial circumstances and allow all your life's choices to be guided only by that. So at the first sign of greener pastures at any point in your life you dip, basically table hopping

[@titanl23423]

My mom dated, married, and supported broke men all her life and has nothing to show for it but despair. You had a 1 out of 100,000 man, not saying 50k is broke because it's not but women dating broke men are dealing with fights about the bills and things that aren't fun.

[@titanl23423]

@@jmh4ggg There's no benefit. Stop selling a false dream.

[@feliciasjourney]

When my husband and I got together and we were in school and broke. Now 10 years later we’re better off than most people I know. We have no debt, except our mortgage (which is also almost paid off). We are taking a weekend island trip this month, and a two week Europe trip in June… I say this to say, I don’t own a single name brand luxury item. The people I know with luxury items are drowning in debt and can’t afford to not work and take a trip. I handed him a water bottle while he was running 💁🏽‍♀️ Now I get to stay home with my two babies. Women don’t want to earn anything nowadays. They want instant gratification and their priorities are messed up.

[@scifirealism5943]

Beautiful 😊

[@quentonhorton1053]

Thank you for sharing your story.

[@RogueHero]

I've been making 48 - 55k ever sense 2018 , my sports car is paid off , i have 0 debt , my son hasn't missed a fancy meal and gets whatever he wants , i also vacation once every other year. People need to live below their means , because i personally have met people who make more than me on paper but are heavily in debt because they need every new smart phone , travel multiple times a year ,keep enrolling in school for dumb reasons and need to buy new cloths every pay check to impress with others who could give 2 shi*s about them in a long run.

[@MrSheduur]

yup you are making almost exactly the "average american income" for the current times. Everyone with that amount of money is going to be more than fine, because even people who make 10-15k less are fine too, they only cannot afford fancy stuff like vacations all the time.

[@dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof]

@@MrSheduurdepends on where he lives. $60k in DC is rooming with parents, multiple roommates in a basement, no son and no paid for car let alone sports car.

[@RogueHero]

@@dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof I live in Chicago , my sports car wasn't that expensive because I bought it used with 10k miles before car prices spiked and I saved 1 year before buying it , my son lives with his mom but I see him every other week. The cost of living here ain't terrible unless your trying to live in the nicest neighborhoods.

[@moonknight4053]

Howre u doing all that bro?

[@RogueHero]

@@moonknight4053 pre c19 I moved back in my family to get back on my feet so I saved like crazy ,b ought my dream car and paid it off in a year , I live extremely below my means so I rarely buy new cloths, I haven't upgraded my smart phone in 4 years and only really spend money when I go out to eat , hitting the dispersary or if my son needs something. So I did have help from family with my living situation however I could easily afford rent in the burbs and maintain the same lifestyle. The only difference would have been my car would have taken a little longer to get paid off.

[@ticiao]

I’m sorry but TEACHERS don’t make a lot of money. Definitely not a hundred thousand, But that’s where you’re dropping your kids off every day. What is she talking about.

[@bacongrits4155]

It’s these KZbin podcasters thats talking like this….

[@ajmj1234567890]

Most of not all these female podcasters think like this, pour minds, whorible decisions, just to name a few. All sex workers too, check em out yourself

[@Darkgod777]

Separate from what these women are saying, Teachers deserve six-figure incomes for all they do and put up with.

[@kylemack8864]

Teachers make above 100k in nyc

[@prettygemini3432]

What in the video suggested they said don't leave your children with broke people?

[@Sovereignty420]

I love it when Aba does that alternate accent. Always makes me laugh. I make $65K and my wife makes $56K. We live very comfortably. We both worked hard together as a team to get to this point. We both had low points, but we lifted each other up to give us the strength and confidence to get us where we are today. Couldn't ask for a better partner.

[@NiteStars24]

Out of curiosity, do you have kids?

[@rhyno8644]

The conversation needs to be practical if its going to have any continuity. On what planet and in what society does a man with money and resources doubling where this person pretends to be in life say to themselves I want a 6'0 260lb arrogant non feminine/domesticated live in partner? You ladies are a lot smarter than you look. Make an NFL linebacker in lingerie make sense to the man with the most resources. If she is married I want a picture of her husband to prove my fundamental point immediately.

[@Trappy-C]

@@NiteStars242 women can’t have kids

[@kwilliams3161]

What state you live in ?

[@mejoalarm3453]

How do you ask a rich man loyalty when you didn’t give him loyalty when he was broke, it’s all sand castles in the end 😂

[@vincentclark5739]

What Preach said at the end is so true. My younger sis by almost a decade is like this women and wants a rich man to take care of her basically. My brother said “well you better be ready to be quiet and come when he request and leave when he says. A lot of those men have a lot of control over things since they pay for everything”. You won’t be his equal, and you’re literally tradeable where you get dumped for a younger version. Leo does it all the time

[@weswolever7477]

What did your sister say to that?

[@vincentclark5739]

@@weswolever7477 she just laughed it off and we kept eating dinner

[@Zazalifted]

This the one ☝️

[@dynamichunter843]

Your brother knows how it actually works in reality, your sister is following a dream she saw on TikTok

[@Kholoured]

So dang true. Women who don't have their own money, their own career are at the mercy of the man "supporting" them. What happens when you need to leave or he throws you out? Do you have the ability to go work, do you have an education that you invested in? Do you have something to fall back on if amd when things go south? Because 75% of marriages fail, do you think all those couples said, well we will give it a few yrs but I'm sure we'll divorce. NO! no one EXPECTS to get divorced!! But it happens more often then not. Keep your options open, always keep your career, always have money set aside that only you have access too on both sides! This crap where my money is my money and your money is my money? No sir/ma'am that shit don't fly! Look out for yourself, take care of yourself, and hope things go well but always have a back up in case they don't! Don't ever expect someone else to pay for you in everything, that is where you'll get taken advantage of and you'll have to choose between safety or food/shelter.

[@indigocrayon520]

My husband and I met and started dating when we were 21. Went from making a combine income of 60k to me being a stay at home wife and mother, and he brings in 150k solo. Neither one of us were bottom of the barrel, we got the life we wanted just took time

[@arkeshn729]

According to her logic teachers rookie cops fighters or most people that aren't at the top of the pay scale are bottom of the barrel 😮‍💨

[@brianring-nu9dw]

You must be talking about a very different time this is 2024. Nobody can get jobs anymore. My friend is qualified with a degree and has experience from 2 previous jobs in the computer science field and he still can't find a job, I also have a friend that is a professor and he can't find a job either. It's less likely that you will strike it rich now than it was before and relying on money to get good in the future won't do anything for you or your family.

[@YakDPOY]

​@@brianring-nu9dwOhhhh so your "friends" arent lesser humans even though they dont have jobs. Very hypocritical of your "nude brianna"

[@indigocrayon520]

@@brianring-nu9dw ya unfortunately a lot of people went for the same fields. Our friends in trades that skipped college altogether are the ones doing the best.

[@nukesakuukasekun9050]

The floor creaking while bro walking when they hear some bs cracks me up 😭 it’s like the floor hear that bs and said “let me creak bro, this is preposterous”

[@aerickmon3350]

As they always said Floor the secret third member, when it starts talkin, it’s real shit

[@TreasureJanasia]

@@aerickmon3350😂

[@kameronwright9925]

Facts lolol​@@aerickmon3350

[@baph3963]

Ok I was wondering if it’s just me. Floor is creaky af

[@dynamichunter843]

They need to fix that floor, they make enough from KZbin lol

[@marckydasaint8730]

The sole PURPOSE of a date is to converse and get to know a person better. In Modern Times, It has been turned into something else.

[@adedamolaadeyemi6591]

“Bottom of the barrel” while being as deep as an oil reserve is absolutely ledusional😂

[@derrickm4652]

"Just 100k a year" seconds into this video is a bold statement that gave me significant pause to know all I needed to with where this was headed.

[@kylespevak6781]

JUST 10% or less of the population

[@IamBlackMagic03]

These are the same women who call a guy corny, lame because they're studying for school, or working a average job trying to come up. Then the minute that guy comes up and dates someone else they'll talk shit saying "oh now you're successful and think you too good for me/us!" but forget how they weren't good enough for them while he was grinding. They're hypocrites who contradict themselves at every turn

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

No they don't.

[@IamBlackMagic03]

​​@@LisaSoulLevelHealing that's all you got? These women are trash. They want to wait at finish line for the winners but don't wanna run the race with the guy as he comes up. Then they have the nerve to be talking about the man investing in her business, building off the back of the guy. Basically free loading. Then they got the nerve to call a woman who is willing to grind with a guy a "bottom of the barrel bitch"? These women are garbage. I only made 35k a year when I met my wife while she was making 95k a year. She stuck with me and now I haven't made less than 130k last 15 years. My take home this year after taxes more than doubled my wife's pay before taxes. She was there for me on my grind so now I make sure to take care of her now. These women in video don't deserve a good man. They can chase the bag on their own and leave the hard working dudes alone. They don't deserve that guy who grinded to success. They're looking for come ups, not companions. Trash morals, trash values, equals trash individuals!

[@IamBlackMagic03]

@@LisaSoulLevelHealing yeah they are trash. They don't want to help a guy come up, but expect a man to give them 10 bands to invest in their business? We call those types of people free loaders. Don't want to help you grind to achieve success but want to show up once you're successful. Then to call a woman a "bottom of the barrel bitch" because she's willing to grind with the guy? Garbage mindset. My wife significantly out earned me when we first met. $95k a year to my $35k a year. She saw I was trying and stuck with me and now I haven't made less than 130k a year for last 15 years. I doubled her income the last two years and for her sticking with me I make sure to take care of her. These women don't deserve a man who works his ass up from nothing to something because they don't wanna run the race with him. They just want to wait at the finish line for the winners. They've got trash morals, trash logic, trash values, and so that equates to being trash people.

[@IamBlackMagic03]

@@LisaSoulLevelHealing explain how they don't then? I can't wait to hear this.

[@IamBlackMagic03]

yeah they are trash. They don't want to help a guy come up, but expect a man to give them 10 bands to invest in their business? We call those types of people free loaders. Don't want to help you grind to achieve success but want to show up once you're successful. Then to call a woman a "bottom of the barrel bitch" because she's willing to grind with the guy? Garbage mindset. My wife significantly out earned me when we first met. $95k a year to my $35k a year. She saw I was trying and stuck with me and now I haven't made less than 130k a year for last 15 years. I doubled her income the last two years and for her sticking with me I make sure to take care of her. These women don't deserve a man who works his ass up from nothing to something because they don't wanna run the race with him. They just want to wait at the finish line for the winners. They've got trash morals, trash logic, trash values, and so that equates to being trash people.

[@milton7763]

I love when Preach peeks at the camera like “Here he goes…”

[@shanianottwain6917]

1. Courtship is a hell of a lot different than dating now days. 2. If YOU think a man has to make over 50K to be worthy of dating, the problem isn't him honey. The problem is YOU!

[@sync_mxlly5610]

I think he should at least plan on making more because if u live in the city, 50k will barely be enough to survive.

[@shanianottwain6917]

@@sync_mxlly5610 of course. You wouldn't want to be with someone with no ambition. But you shouldn't expect them to make a certain amount before even considering a date. If he has dreams and the ambition and dedication to make them happen, there's absolutely nothing wrong with what he's making when you first start dating. Especially when you're young. The older you are the smaller the dating pool gets and most of the men that make that type of money at the age of 30+ is already married or engaged. MOST (not all) of the men left for women around her age are going to be broke. More than likely she had her monitary standards set to high at a young age and didn't want to put the work into building up a man, motivating and standing next to him to support him in coming up in life.

[@77Creation]

@@sync_mxlly5610 Who says you have to live in the city? And if you can't live comfortably combining incomes with someone who makes 50 grand then something is wrong.

[@RH-xs8gz]

$50k a year isn’t enough to pay her food bill.

[@aliciaflores7095]

lol

[@michaelangst6078]

I mean, it's possible to spend $500 on restaurants everyday while eating a moderate portion for breakfast lunch and dinner

[@kevinchavez5766]

@@michaelangst6078yeah if you’re an idiot

[@pmoneylohan]

Her white husband chose to differ.

[@TomikaKelly]

It isn't enough to pay anyone's food bill in this economy....

[@crixusv2944]

I just bought my 5th property at age 28. I still buy clothes from goodwill to these discounted clothing stores because why should I pay $40 for 1 shirt when I can get 30 shirts for the same price. I remember my sister bought a Gucci bag for like $500 but kept asking me for money for gas and food. My other sister on the other hand showed places like these discounted stores to save money. I bought a pair of white shoes that looked really nice at Marshalls for $20. Only certain brands i will pay extra for like North Face. I bought a backpack for $150 and 8 years later that bag is still going strong with no holes and their jackets last long as well. I drive a 2007 Honda Accord because my neighbor only wanted $2000 for it. Takes me from point A to B and has AC.

[@iis3v3nii]

You got motion brother that’s all that matters

[@MortalArgon]

Bro is a whole vibe and I'm all for it

[@amark8786]

So what do you want a cookie? Are you frugal?are you ready to date? If your girl did want a $300 pair of shoes are you going to buy it for her because you are able to? If she wanted you to dress in more current clothes, it seems like on your fifth property you can do that, will you do that? Are you single now? sounds like a yes. There’s more to YOUR situation I THINK. I don’t really know what the point of your post was. And I would like to🙂

[@Cosmo6677]

Yeah we don't need your life story on a youtube comment section. A "this bitch is stupid" would have sufficed

[@tobeknow1197]

Stay focus young King 👑 ! You’re on the road to success.

[@tiden927]

I can’t stand these tasteless, classless women bashing other women for dating a man they deem broke because he earns 50k a year and who says that a man who earns that salary is worthless to date. It’s this type of trash on social media that make more and more people have high and unrealistic expectations when it comes to dating. Makes me wonder how different dating culture today could have been if people weren’t exposed to all this garbage smh.

[@dkainsworld]

She’s a 35 year old single lady carrying two salami rolls on her belly talking like she gonna get a real high earner lmao

[@kingg3259]

Dang bro she carrying two salami rolls. Man

[@trialillustrations]

😂😂😂

[@jordanmennie945]

Damn she only 35… the wall doesn’t miss

[@mastermeow1582]

My wife and I got together when I’d been community college for like 6 years with no AA degree. I didn’t drive, smoked a lot of weed, played hours upon hours of video games. Even though I tried to work out hard I suffered from extreme body pain and postural imbalance problems that were crippling. At first change was slow. Got my license, we had a baby, and graduated my university in 2020. Got rid of 95% of my body pain and 99% of my anxiety. I am already making 80k. I work hard but am very good at my job. Now we have two daughters and love our family and what the future holds.

[@nebleb6733]

I just want you to know that I'm really proud of you for pushing through the pain. Not many people know how difficult it is dealing with chronic physical illness, and so many people take health for granted. I'm sure it contributed to your anxiety as well, but I'm glad that you have moved past all that and I hope you'll enjoy your money in the future in good health.

[@chaosi17]

Your my inspiration❤

[@HellCat_Kenny]

Wagmi brah

[@basharalbutseggs8056]

I’m really glad you pushed through and became successful! But respectfully wouldn’t blame your wife if she had broken up with you back then because you sound like you were a bum. But good thing you changed your ways

[@prodigygamer5469]

Proud of you man, great dedication to your life and family. You’re a good person.

[@zacmitchell]

50k is broke? I make 50k a year. 33, no debt, no wife, no kids. Plenty of money in the back. It doesn’t matter how much money you make “to an extent “ it matters how much you save and invest. I’ve dated a lot but I’m not giving my money away just because someone feels entitled to it.

[@amalmo6593]

They are crazyyyyyy 50k is good! Not broke at all. Delusional 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@SunnyBear11]

50k isn’t broke, but it’s about average and really not much in this economy. Lots of comments are people saying “I have 50k it’s plenty!” And then going on to describe how they live with family, have no dependents, second hand goods, infrequent vacations, etc. Nothing wrong with that, but let’s not lie like that is a substantial income.

[@vikkidonn]

@@SunnyBear11thank you. I’m comfortable…. But nowhere near content and my mental and physical health isn’t good at all. Can’t afford better nutrition, can’t afford a day off to even take a walk and clear my head, don’t live alone and don’t have privacy. I’m increasing my income and building but that doesn’t feed the soul. $50k is chump change and poor in a lot of places

[@geeohard]

Talk yo shit!!

[@jamilsalih9724]

​@@SunnyBear11oh yeah definitely agree

[@zd2243]

I have been following you for years, and I am under zhe impression something substantially changed for Aba. He became so much more centered, grounded and mature... Seems like left the troll tendencies behind. Anyhow, such amazing work you too. Day in and day out. Well done.

[@bustercaps]

“90 percent of the men who just listen to you said ‘you’re garbage’” - well said gentlemen, probably more like 99 percent.

[@CordovanSplotchVT]

Nah, there's a few too many male feminist simps in the world for it to be 99%

[@itsascaryworld9788]

Sounds like she’s hurting with all that negative talk. I bet she’s not happy with herself. Likely goes home and hates her lonely life.

[@ruudvanderzanden8013]

​@@itsascaryworld9788the only men in her life are Ben & Jerry

[@pkway9394]

I grew up in that weird phase where some of my childhood was no social media then MySpace then the social media blow up…. And I can honestly say social media has ruined dating. It use to be cute and fun to date. Now we all have plenty of options and these standards have become ridiculous.

[@Ripside2]

This...

[@Thatguy-kn9xu]

Hahaah! That floor be cooking right along with them!

[@Darth_Bateman]

Bro, it’s insane because even when you finally measure up to people’s standards and they go out with you? You have a chance of running into a girl who STILL treats you like shit.

[@latonyanarcisse7112]

Yessssss

[@emeloj240]

Social media has completely skewed people's expectations and what's reality. The median individual income for the US is about 40K. If you throw stones in a room of regular people, chances are most of the folks youll hit make less than 100K. Not because they are lazy bums or not doing their very best, because shit is genuinely hard out here. You have mfers with advanced degrees still making less than 60K, in fields that contribute to societal progress. To say that these folks dont deserve to date or are being bummy is insane.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

I'm making a little more than 50k with a good budget and one kid and there are times where money is tight for me. I can only imagine having a kid in a household under 40k in 2024 😂.

[@Blueslyfox]

The median is pointless here. The number you are drawing from is all Americans ages of 15 and up (239,100,000 Americans) that make more than $1 a year. The mean which was the average of the entirety of that demographic was actually 59k a year. Which is reported everywhere. You're grabbing the median income when the group for this statistic starts at age 15. You see even more different numbers if you go from 25 and up, where most ADULT Americans are around the 50k mark. Look it up, you'll see that most americans ages 21 to 24 on average make around 30k a year, same for 16-19. With all of those in the mix at 15 and up, definitely do not go based off the median, because after 25 we see a drastic jump in individual income.

[@nekk-ra7080]

You also have to take into account a good number of these people promoting this are in big cities that are very expensive to live. 50K may be broke in NYC or Los Angeles, but in other areas you could live decently on that amount. If I made 50K, I wouldn't have to worry about money anywhere near as much; I'd be good.

[@agamerjourney9146]

@@brianring-nu9dwClearly don’t know how that low income family deals. Most good relationship that have low income. Make by simply being family and sharing responsibility of paying bills. Meaning not just mother or father being bread winner. Both people working together to rise children.

[@agamerjourney9146]

@@brianring-nu9dwDon’t get started family different types of family. As learn crazy stuff about how some people get by. Imagine father and mother making 40k each. Yet also live with other family members together in household. All together that household income is about million. This may experience living in New York City. Pay attention how people manage to make living in my city.

[@cb5056]

my parents make 200k combined and are miserable for every reason other than money. money does not equal a good or happy life.

[@Skywalker721]

“You are the protagonist of a Pixar movie” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@derrickevansjr3564]

I was dying laughing 😂

[@summerrose8110]

Shrek is DreamWorks not Pixar. Wrong company. Just saying.

[@Skywalker721]

@@summerrose8110 boooooo 😒

[@bighomiescrap9452]

Nawl fr 😂😂😂

[@summerrose8110]

@@Skywalker721 Sure boo me for correcting someone who said the right company who owns the franchise. So terrible, I should end my life right now. But I won't because I don't want to go to hell.

[@jemmrich]

There is so so much value in relationships when you tackle the world together, not against each other.

[@mr.duanesharpe]

That’s the problem. People don’t see it and it’s not practiced. Why? People make money when people are not together (apartments, divorce etc. ) those hyenas don’t care about the “it’s better with two” equation. It’s just about THEM and what THEY can get from a man that they don’t need.

[@IlLAD3LPH1A215]

@@mr.duanesharpeThis is what a Godless society looks like..Looks at families from the 1950 up until now..Especially black families were really tight nit in the 60’s and now you’d be hard press to find my fathers still in the picture..I’m white and I’ve never met my father but I refuse to live the same as I was raised..society encourages division based rewards that cause families to fracture.This is the long term plan of the elites.

[@tstyleartistry]

"If you're obese, don't date. If you can't manage the basic aspects of your health, you're not ready to manage a relationship." - me on that panel. See, had I been on that panel, I would have said that, and it would have been a major issue for them and a lot of other people. So, we can shame people and make absurd rules for them simply for making average money but not for being gross/large? I wouldn't be surprised if people throw a hissy fit for this comment despite the fact that I'm clearly making a point to say, STOP shaming people for being average. It's 'average' to work 40 hours a week and make $50K. It's not average to be obese.🤷🏿‍♂️

[@nateslice5429]

For real

[@Kamkazi-gc5be]

Lol fuck em if there feelings get hurt

[@samuelrigaud88]

🤷🏾‍♂️

[@Dameionaruto]

Ironically, in America, it's average to be overweight though

[@brianring-nu9dw]

That means half of Americans would stop dating 😂

[@hardybryan]

If normal people weren't busy being in normal relationships, maybe the weirdos who view relationships as transactional, status symbols, come ups, etc. wouldn't dominate this conversation online.

[@tracym8952]

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. That doesn't make it correct. The average yearly income globally is $8700

[@turkeyman631]

Yup. She's entitled to date someone who has the income that she wants, but guys are also entitled to not date her because she's broke or ugly.

[@Sira_Kackavalj]

The world has quite a few different places. Not every part looks or smells like america

[@easy6427]

Definitely entitled, but I can pretty much guarantee she's only thinking in terms of America where the median income for a single person is over $55k. That being said, IMO she's nowhere near attractive enough to even kinda have the standards she's talking about.

[@Butterflyyyxoxo]

@@easy6427 She can ask or want whatever it is that she wants. That isn't hurting you or me. If you think she's unrealistic so be it. It's not though, 50k where I live is very close to broke. My husband and I both make 6 figures but still would be considered lower middle class where we live.

[@P03ticJustice]

So we should want to purposely live in poverty?

[@Joesire]

I was making 36k, and ill be honest. I felt insecure, but you can still find people to be with regardless of your income. But the most important asset you have is ....YOUR CHARACTER. But you do have to recognize when your broke, i kind of agree with her. You get a girl pregnant when your broke, you're doing harm.

[@MrSheduur]

Why would you feel insecure about that? Unless it is right in new york city, where living costs are crazy high, this is basically a normal income. Cashiers and service workers make around that same money. The overinflated idea of some of these women is completely nuts. There is no need to be insecure about not making top dollar. I hope you have already realized this since.

[@Mort_Goldsheckle]

I work blue collar I don't make 36k.

[@moonknight4053]

If you have a job and trhen your girl gets pregnant, you have a job anyways so being broke won’t be an option. Broke means u got nothing left, etc if you can be frugal you will never be broke

[@Joesire]

@@moonknight4053 I was an accountant, so I definitely knew how to be frugal that's for sure. Yet, I live in LA, I was waaayy underpaid for what I was doing. Simply put if I had a kid then, I would not be able to provide the way I should be able to or would want to. I felt insecure because I wasn't secure. Though yet, single... I was comfortable because I did live frugal. No carnote, I got the best apartment I could get at the cheapest I could get, and I didn't buy things I didn't need all the time. I left that job and more than doubled my income though.

[@Lavbrown2016]

Someone who’s honest

[@yahoomcrazy]

Aba, my brother, That marathon analogy was a BAR!!!

[@kingcolga1293]

Average person not making 50k. You make 50k, your take home is more like 35k after taxes. I make over 6 figures here in Georgia after taxes but most people not making 50k in the south. That’s more like the household income for 2 or more people.

[@Darth__Malice]

Love that comment about running a marathon. My wife stuck with me while I was flat broke. Now I make over $100K a year and she doesn’t have an actual job, just gets to pursue her art dreams that I can now finance for her.

[@lobmob3235]

That’s wassup and most importantly she DESERVES that because she stayed down. I understand where some women have an issue with that bc not every man decides to make those improvements/better themselves but you also just can’t meet the man at the finish line and reap all the benefits for just existing either.

[@teamrocket1156]

I felt this💯👋🏾

[@jarrettbattle9295]

The irony of sitting in a room full of hearts hung on the wall, and not having even the most basic knowledge of what love actually is, is the most striking aspect of this video. And, the sad part is that they’re not the only people who think this way. Sad part is, I was used in exactly this same way. I was blessed to be making a lot of money, and my ex not only spent the loads of money I had given her, she also was out cheating on me. Lesson learned for me; there’s no way in hell I’m putting myself in a situation, where I have to spend tens of thousands of dollars on a woman, who is not my wife. This type of delusional nonsense, is exactly why falling in love is so hard. At that point, you’re not looking for a soulmate, you’re looking for a sugar daddy.

[@LolaKlein]

Don't worry though, there are thousands of women who are not interested in men for their money. You had a bad experience, but please don't think these superficial sad women there represent us all.

[@kris000]

3:20 Bro, you can't disrespect Shrek like that

[@bordertownmex8810]

"Well that's not very nice....he's just a donkey." 😂

[@khaliltribie8739]

If you're dating women like this, 50k a year will not be sufficient

[@poshpearls23]

Okay, I PERSONALLY make about 57k.....and even with rent being crazy high due to the economy, paying hospital bills and student loans, I still am doing just fine. No I drive a forgein car (shoutout to the Toyota people lol) and I dont own a home, but I'm doing okay. Yes, I do a lot of DIY self care, dont shop a lot and dont go out much and live a pretty quiet life, but that is because Im a huge introvert. But Im doing fine, and I always keep my head held high. I can only imagine if i was with a man and he made 50k, how much we could do together. How is 50k BROKE?! These women are absolutely delusion and it's so sad to see. Also, can we PLEEEEAAAASSSEEEE stop with the labels and brands?! Again....part of this is just my style, but can yall get a life?!?!?! Man, where is my Ross Dress for Less mafia at 😂😂😂😂😂 we rolling out!

[@maskedman5657]

Da delusions is getting worse

[@randomcitizen3939]

Ross and TJMaxx squad ❤❤❤😂😂😂😂

[@adinadade8167]

Outlets gang gang 😂

[@filthyapostate4217]

Dress For Less for life!

[@hoopslaa5235]

I’m a surfer living that lifestyle in San Diego and own 3 homes. I made it a job almost with asking for industry discounts and hookups, I dressed surfer fashionably well but went to the warehouses and asked for every hand out and perk. I’ve travelled around the world a few times and not for work, for fun, and flew first class free! How? Part time airline job for the flight benefits to support surf trips. 3 homes? Interest only stated no doc loans and have my appraisers and real estate license. I truly embody the working waaayyy smarter than anyone else spirit. People just don’t think, too lazy to think and talk all this big game but never do it. I actually do what I say. Walked the walk and none of this is hard! Airline ground job throwing bags and refueling isn’t glamorous but you still get free flights! No ged or high school education required. So why can’t you all do it too?? Because most are lazy and just drunk talk all this BS at happy hour and all the wrong women just eat it up all the lies. It’s hilarious. Mostly all women have no financial sense and discipline, self control and women lead CC debt and impulse buying. Need the funny cool tall man but over look the guys that actually do and did what all these fools you go for just talk about. I just sit back and let people talk and embarrass themselves. It’s quite entertaining. Yet everyone completely unsuspects me. 😉🤣

[@ropocat86]

Thank you, Aba! A lot of people out there putting other people down for not chasing superficial things.

[@princerak8881]

Basically al women

[@shydoll8063]

@@princerak8881I as a woman agree with the woman commenting it. Please stop letting bad people cloud your judgement my guy🤣.

[@antoniosuge1911able]

I will NEVER understand why you need someone to make you better as a human

[@CosmiicReport]

I think it’s because the self worth people bestow on themselves is usually lower than how much their partner is worth to them. So they end up doing more and being “better as a human” because they have an incentive to be better for the other person due to their worth.

[@daserfomalhaut9809]

Being cultured and humbled by learning how to pull your weight when others are dependent on you is huge. You learn how to sacrifice or doing more than you usually would and to be comfortable doing so. Building something with a partner only builds character in other ways beyond doing things for yourself.

[@adrianchatman5734]

I don't either. If you can't be better on your own, having someone damn sure isn't gonna make you better when it comes to relationships.

[@titanl23423]

Do people want women to depend on a man or not? Can't be independent but you can't want a man to depend on.

[@Justanothercog24]

Because society still sees being in a relationship or married as the ultimate status of "human acceptance". Being single is treated like some kind of social leprosy that somehow means "no one wants you." The irony is the unhealthiest types of ppl are the ones who are never single because they can't handle being alone & use other ppl as void fillers to avoid addressing themselves. Most ppl in marriages are miserably complacent & neglecting their own partners or are too selfish to be able to maintain a marriage.

[@devinp09]

Bro that 10,000 was invested in making the host face look like ms piggy Protangonist of a pixar movie is psych ward level

[@lancertelstar]

she 35 and still dating.... her reality speaks louder than any words

[@MelkorHimself]

35, visibly overweight, very average looking face...and she has demands. Sometimes the jokes write themselves.

[@Alexxluv]

Why is dating at 35 a problem?

[@lemmypop1300]

@@Alexxluv It's not. But at the same time, it doesn't make you an expert whose opinion should be heard, it's quite the opposite.

[@odin5188]

@@AlexxluvFor a woman, let's say, it will be....difficult I'm sure you can work out why

[@Mort_Goldsheckle]

​@@Alexxluvif you're a woman at 35 and looking for a man that wants to settle down and have kids, you're running out of time and fast. Not just for finding a partner that will give you that life, but also because the older you get the more complications will arise when it comes to having kids. May be harder to conceive at all the older you get.

[@rollinginthedeep6900]

"They're denigrating people who wanna struggle together because they love each other" real, when did the conversation around dating stop considering the fact that it's normal to be in love and not have everything together. When you're youngest is objectively when you're going to be the most poor unless you come from a rich family, so this mentality basically craps on anyone, specifically any woman who dates a man her own age. Crazy

[@MeetMariano]

They’re doing what?

[@jiggafro2000]

How yo neck gonna be bigger than my whole quad but you talking about don't date! Lol

[@lisablack4290]

🤣🤣🤣

[@nateslice5429]

On god

[@brianring-nu9dw]

She's saying what a lot of dudes say "money before women."

[@valeriapebble]

I laughed way too hard at this 😂😂😂

[@masimmomasimmo]

I resonate so much with the line of thinking of Aba

[@Chelle81]

“ You’re the antagonist in a Pixar movie.”😂😂😂😂😂

[@chrisp6339]

When I got married to my wife, I was broke. I was in the military and only making 17k a year. She did help build me up then and still does to this day. I now have been married for 18 years and we own and operate multiple businesses. A good working relationship doesn't take lots of money, it takes lots of work. Team work! It's much easier for 2 people to build an empire than one.

[@Dementia.Pugilistica]

Damn man only $17k for military?? Thought it'd oay way more than that. Which country?

[@chrisp6339]

@@Dementia.Pugilistica US Army enlisted.

[@Dementia.Pugilistica]

@@chrisp6339 damn man I thought it was like double that starting out. Though I guess there's some benefits and you get room/board covered right?

[@LolitaBonitaaa]

Many blessings to you both. These beautiful love stories warm my heart. My husband and I also started at the "bottom of the barrel", our first "place" together was a room we rented at his aunt's house. At that point, we felt on top of the world because we finally had a place we could call ours. Today our combined income is welllll in the 6 figures, every single thing and penny we have, we earned together, and we have a beautiful son. Strong supportive couple are still here. We're still here. I wish you and your wife the very best.

[@chrisp6339]

@@Dementia.Pugilistica yes you get a room , and food. They take care of all your needs.

[@madmyro]

Blue collar men that sustain society get so much hate for no reason🤷🏽‍♂️

[@dynamichunter843]

Because they have never worked a physical labor job for 12 hours a day in their life

[@slimjimmy6767]

​​​@@dynamichunter843da fuck u talking about. You literally just proved his point. Doesn't matter if a blue collar man works 12hrs or not... without men like us, society would collapse in a matter of days. Instead of being a prick, why don't you back your fellow brothers. All this hate ain't necessary.

[@fuerstmetternich1997]

Without those men society collapses. Without most women working nothing happens.

[@sometimeslifehandsyouapple1085]

This such an important comment and concept. Our economy and world would crash without blue collar people

[@boodrowwilson1894]

I'm working class and women consider me the scum of the Earth, even if they are also working class, or make less than me.

[@Ihaveabundance___]

Lol nine times out of ten the woman handing you the water is a placeholder. You disrespect that woman cheat on that woman and mistreat her like she is supposed to stay during your come up. Then when you finally “made it” you leave her for the woman you really want. Stop it!

[@StoicBehavioR]

4:25 _”Women don’t care about a man’s personal struggles, they hang out at the finish line and pick the winners.”_ Now don’t have a problem with women who use this strategy. I have a problem with their attitudes when it comes to it. They don’t understand there is a plethora of other women cheering on that 10% man. But they “feel” those 10% men should still have to compete for them instead of the other way around. When they see they’re not getting chose, they go on the internet and do their bitter rants(where are all the good men at). Which if they spent a little time doing little self evaluation of themselves and ask what are those other women doing that I am not doing to get that 10% man, they’d realize their flaws. But nope they’ll continue down the road of shaming, insulting, and guilting those men into picking them. Which by far hasn’t work and will never work because those 10% have more option then them.

[@SavantPete]

The audacity of a below average women saying the average is not enough for them should be studied

[@titanl23423]

Worse looking men get on camera and say worse. This is probably more self help than rp claim to be.

[@bomboclaat-man]

And documented.

[@HellCat_Kenny]

It is, it’s called Women’s Studies. You can literally pay to take a major where you must convert yourself to this view in order to pass, or at least put on the image of such.

[@kylespevak6781]

They're legit always a 2

[@titanl23423]

There's men that resemble Shrek saying worse things on podcasts everyday. All this woman said was that some men shouldn't date until they have their money up. boo hoo.

[@GORJ.E.S.]

DANG... My parents who were married 40 years, loved each other, were best friends, went on simple movie & lunch dates, sat & talked & laughed with each other daily, shared responsibilities of the home & family, supported each other, set an example of what marriage looks like for the whole neighborhood AND set the tone for my expectations of relationships... WERE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL‼️WoW 🤯🥴 My Daddy, rest his soul, used to say "IF I gotta dime, then you gotta nickel" cause he supported his family through it all 🙏🏾 💯 Folks please know that GOOD, QUALITY, HIGH VALUE men & women still exist... We just have to find each other 🤞🏾BLESSINGS ✌🏾

[@nippyqueen6425]

The sad reality is that people nowadays place value on superficial things. Money, cars, the house you own, status, the brands you wear, how attractive you are, and integrity and character are completely disregarded and not of importance anymore. It really does make it hard to find genuine people

[@majormasibo5143]

I agree