"If You Make 50k, YOURE TOO BROKE TO DATE"

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[@Abymilde]

Please, women don't owe men shit! Y'all show time and time again that you are unloyal and always put yourself and your wants first even if it hurts a woman. We're smartening up now. No more Barbara The Builders for you!!!😝

[@AbaNPreach]

Who hurt you? Was it necessary to call women with different standards bottom of the barrel because she had bad experiences with men? I notice you are quick to defend a woman who demeaned other women as bottom of the barrel.

[@deogooden5329]

Just said a whole lot of nothing

[@jasonandres2917]

Real talk, who hurt this person?

[@Hajun554]

I feel like a lot of these people just make comments like this for the pin lol. Same with people wanting more likes and stuff

[@jo2651]

Who hurt you?

[@prezzlola]

These women are insane. I met my husband at the bottom of the barrel, we were both there lol. Fine dining for us was Applebee's. Most dates were walks, free events, pizza and Subway. He had my back and I had his. I'd go to his place, bring groceries and cook so he had lunch for the next 2 days. Some days he sent me $30 bucks when I was 5 hrs away doing my masters broke af. This man took a bus for 6 hrs to attend my graduation. Picked me up with all my crap in his dad's car to move me back home. Today we have a combined income of 200k+ and a beautiful son. This could be you too but you crazy.

[@valeriapebble]

You are living my dream life, kudos to you and your husband!! ❤ me and my boyfriend are 21 and at the "bottom of the barrel" right now 😂 I just started off in hairdressing and barely make $9/hour before tips, and my boyfriend is working food service and retail to make ends meet while being a caregiver to his elderly nana. We are saving so we can move out together, then he can go to school. We have been dating for 4 years, and we definitely both have made stupid decisions with money lol. 😅 our plan is to eventually save up enough for a homestead, we want to live as sustainably as possible on a couple acres. Wish us luck 🙏

[@nabeelkhan1054]

Congrats Miss you are a real gem of a lady.

[@BengaliMartyMcfly]

To quote Aba & Preach - “Bars. Straight bars”

[@brianring-nu9dw]

She's insane for not wanting to have a long term relationship with someone that can be financially unstable where kids can be involved? She's more sane than most people in this section and most people in life arent gonna go from making 20k to 200k. It's not 1950 anymore you can't live off of apple bees discounts every Tuesday and 20k a month while raising a family 😂.

[@Cheeszze]

@@brianring-nu9dwbut they aren’t looking to start a family or a healthy relationship..their spoiled whores💀

[@joshuaboy1]

If someone called in and said to her "if you're a woman over 200lbs then you're not ready to date" there would be an uproar

[@brianring-nu9dw]

Being obsese isn't the leading cause of divorce tho

[@IIDEADBIRDII]

@@brianring-nu9dw but financials only lead to divorce when it’s a 1 person bread winner situation. Or it’s when one sees it as a get rich quick scheme.

[@MissV301]

Damn right

[@fnonpm]

@@brianring-nu9dw Lack of self control + mental health issues

[@ThemindofOZIII]

@@brianring-nu9dw an just death and health issues that cause people to go broke due to health bills.

[@jesusnegrete6244]

Single women helping other women stay single.

[@johnny718bravo]

THIS

[@TomikaKelly]

As they should if all they are going to do is marry poor.

[@bugeye8749]

No way u males do a much better job at that ☠️

[@isaiahparker6170]

💯

[@bradleywilliams548]

​@@TomikaKellywell nothing changes cuz they poor themselves

[@teadoroguapo9994]

Built like a barrel and talking about the bottom of one is crazy 😂😂😂😂

[@pmoneylohan]

It got her a very rich white man doe .

[@renegade1491]

Yoooo 😂😂

[@nickruffin4622]

This Comment Right here, Officer, this the one that killed me

[@teadoroguapo9994]

@@nickruffin4622 ☠️☠️🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jayt4083]

Shawty a fullback talking like that. This world is crazy.

[@jasonhorton4778]

Bob Marley said it best… “Some people are so poor, all they have is money.”

[@Ghostisback24444]

Facts

[@MeggaMann_theBlueLion]

Facts

[@teamrocket1156]

Deep!!!!!

[@ChaosIadore]

Amen

[@antonydrossos5719]

I feel that.

[@delicious_seabass]

Some of these women out here talking like they know what a 100k salary looks like. I make 100k+, but if you looked at my clothes, my car and my home, you'd think I'm barely getting by. The reality is I'm not an idiot with my money, and I'm certainly not going to waste it on some woman who shows zero appreciation.

[@mrpie1730]

What do you do? How long did it take you to get where you are?

[@SmashingProdigy]

I'm the same way. But I think that's partially because I don't have expensive tastes, and tend to enjoy simpler things in life. My hobbies also don't require constant spending.

[@tb8654]

Exactly, I make 80k a year, have a rental property where I stay in one of the units which brings my yearly taxable income to 120k, and I shop st H&M and have a $400 phone and a 2017 truck at 29 years old lol I'm still covering some other things in order to get ahead further in life so I don't have much "free income" but I'm home continue shopping at H&M and continue driving a car that's at least 5 years old whenever I decide to trade in my vehicle

[@thedude8526]

Same. I dress like a 90s skater lol. My truck is nice but outside of that, youd never know I made over 100k.

[@BrownCreature]

Yeah okay buddy. If you look like youre barely getting by it might just be you got shit taste. Go to a thrift shop and develop taste You can look damn fine for fuck all... brandless

[@RH-xs8gz]

$50k a year isn’t enough to pay her food bill.

[@aliciaflores7095]

lol

[@michaelangst6078]

I mean, it's possible to spend $500 on restaurants everyday while eating a moderate portion for breakfast lunch and dinner

[@kevinchavez5766]

@@michaelangst6078yeah if you’re an idiot

[@pmoneylohan]

Her white husband chose to differ.

[@TomikaKelly]

It isn't enough to pay anyone's food bill in this economy....

[@shanianottwain6917]

1. Courtship is a hell of a lot different than dating now days. 2. If YOU think a man has to make over 50K to be worthy of dating, the problem isn't him honey. The problem is YOU!

[@sync_mxlly5610]

I think he should at least plan on making more because if u live in the city, 50k will barely be enough to survive.

[@shanianottwain6917]

@@sync_mxlly5610 of course. You wouldn't want to be with someone with no ambition. But you shouldn't expect them to make a certain amount before even considering a date. If he has dreams and the ambition and dedication to make them happen, there's absolutely nothing wrong with what he's making when you first start dating. Especially when you're young. The older you are the smaller the dating pool gets and most of the men that make that type of money at the age of 30+ is already married or engaged. MOST (not all) of the men left for women around her age are going to be broke. More than likely she had her monitary standards set to high at a young age and didn't want to put the work into building up a man, motivating and standing next to him to support him in coming up in life.

[@77Creation]

@@sync_mxlly5610 Who says you have to live in the city? And if you can't live comfortably combining incomes with someone who makes 50 grand then something is wrong.

[@V0ltron]

$50k for a single man, especially if he owns his own home and car, is pretty good. What these women are saying is absurd.

[@jamespaul6315]

Its more than pretty good lol. She doesnt deserve a guy like that

[@raeldri5867]

​@@jamespaul6315she can't get a man like that, not the prettiest not the nicest bet you 10 bucks she has this opinion because she usually date dead beats that live out of her

[@torriaevans2143]

Maybe she’s factoring in housing and child support etc Idk 🤷🏾‍♀️ ppl have unrealistic expectations on both sides and quite frankly it’s exhausting I’ve checked out

[@bobahop1232]

50k TAKE HOME is like 80k a year. Thats VERY good for a Batchelor 50k before taxes is only like 30k take home and thats a struggle to pay for rent, car, etc..

[@ElementalSk81]

@@jamespaul6315Exactly. Could have sworn the average income for a single man between ages 20-35 iirc in the us is about 25k-35k…. And that’s being generous. lol I recently started making around 38k-40k (after a few years of making a flat 28k)a year and I genuinely feel alright in terms of finances and being to afford my car, rent and buy little things I want here and there. It’s sad that some women even think the average everyday guy is making 50k minimum… just wow. They have no concept of reality and just what it takes to actually be put into a position to make even 30k+ a year for the average everyday man.

[@justinkamperveen3860]

She wants a guy who makes more than "just 100K" so that he can invest 10K into a business for her. And for what? So that she can be the 20th person on the block who does hair, nails, and makeup? And then when the business fails, she suffers none of the loss, because it wasn't her money to begin with. She's not a partner, she's an anchor

[@xelaander8429]

💯 Exactly!!! Start a business for me, give me money to buy Gucci etc etc... What did you do to earn that? Oh, sex? In that case we can all just patronise sex workers instead. The absolute transactionality behind everything she said is irritating for someone who brings things thag can be easily replaced by a callgirl

[@bestpiss]

Exactly, she’s not an investment because there’s no return. She’s a charity case begging for donations

[@brianring-nu9dw]

She's married.

[@samesamv1472]

oh shioioo

[@vondreclark]

“that’s not a partner, that’s an anchor” 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾

[@reginaldanderson7171]

Not once did any of those women mention spending any of their own money on dating. They're looking for sponsors, not husbands.

[@UdoADHD]

Usually she would be spending money looking her best for the guy. But if a guy isn’t taking me on dates, then he’s not spending money and likewise there is nothing for me to look nice for so I wouldn’t spend money either

[@TSSPDarkStar]

@@UdoADHD Do men not pay money to look good for women? This is such a disingenuous argument because guaranteed if a guy spent more money than you did on his clothes you would still feel the same way.

[@UdoADHD]

@@TSSPDarkStar it’s disingenuous to say men pay anything close to what women pay to look good 🙄 Accept that men and women are not the same. Men put value on a woman looking as good as possible. Women just want men to do the bare minimum to wash up.

[@TSSPDarkStar]

@@UdoADHD So even if that's true in general I'm asking you in the hypothetical case where a guy paid way more for his stuff than the woman did should she have to pay?

[@UdoADHD]

@@TSSPDarkStar That just doesn’t happen. When it comes to dating, we are talking about what actually happens because we are discussing a generalization and not a case by case event. Men do not spend even close to as much as women. A hypothetical that almost never happens is useless because in that case, we need to know ALL the factors involved since we are deviating from the norm.

[@mrbarahona78]

The lady who said if you don’t make 50k you shouldn’t date looks like a person I wouldn’t spend 10 dollars on.

[@chrisbeerguy1489]

$50K earner here. Married 12 years with two kids, a 9yr old girl and 11yr old boy. They both go to Catholic school, straight A students. I have saved over $30K for their college funds so far. My wife works too, she makes less than me, but together we have a good life. We’re not rich, but we’re not poor either. We rent a 3BR house on two acres of land. We are blessed, we love living in the country, and grow a lot of our own food. This is news to me that I’m not ready to date! 😆😂🤣. Young people: money doesn’t buy happiness! Family is everything!

[@Itsdeejayjay]

Appreciate your input! Gives the guys in their 20’s hope.

[@dfredankey]

@@Itsdeejayjaylike me -23 I spoke to a trade school so hopefully all can change/ get better

[@Shatnerpants]

You sir are rich with life. House, family and land make you more wealthy than any amount of cash can. Love this for you and wish your family all the happiness!

[@prepordietryin9119]

Sounds like you're in good shape. If I could make one recommendation though it is try to find you a piece of land to buy and then put a mobile home on it. People make fun of it but I live on a little over 3 acres of land and a old single wide and I own all of it. A lot of my friends tell me how lucky I am even though they live in houses. They're all penny pinched when it comes down to money yet I'm able to save or spend money and do what I want. Renting is fine and it sounds like you got a good setup but I would definitely start thinking about something long-term and permanent. I know some people just like to rent so I guess if that's your thing then keep doing it but long-term it would be nice to own something. Especially in this day and age it's so hard to have anything.

[@gottalottasocks3076]

Facts

[@SubwayFan83]

"If you ain't got a I.Q. over 100?, you ain't ready to podcast" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh shiznit!

[@aelh123]

👨🏾‍🍳 Aba cooking

[@myninjalife]

Pretty sure an IQ under 100 is a requirement for podcasting.

[@thrrax]

I'd raise the bar to 140.

[@damnnerves24]

I literally hollered!!! 😂😂

[@TheJarlath9]

bro il take 109 over this @@thrrax

[@FullofSouthernCharm]

Women who get men who make 6 figures plus aren't on podcasts talking down on men who don't make 6 figures or more. Sidenote: 50k a year is a fantastic income especially if you are a single man with no kids and have a good job or career and know how to manage your money

[@BillyJeanIsNotMyMother]

Most of us start dating our partners when they are making significantly less. You grow together.

[@Alxotaku]

it depends where you are but honestly 50k a year isnt great anymore with how bad inflation has become. Very rarely do i agree with what these people say but this one I agree with. If your bareley able to support yourself on that salary forget dating focus on yourself and then go into the dateing market

[@michaelangst6078]

Not that it matters, but without knowing anything about those women, I would say they for sure make at least 50k a year, so what they are saying certainly applies to them, just not dating as a whole.. I make over 100k and I would not date, let alone start a family with a woman wanting a free ride again. All these dudes saying they don't care how much their woman makes or how she looks probably are failing at life and feel like they have no desirable options....

[@mateuszumamedeirosbria2652]

Saying "if you make 50k don't date" is like saying "If you are a middle class or poor MAN, you don't deserve a relationship, you don't deserve love, so stay and die alone", which is basically saying she hates middle class and poor MAN. And let's be honest, she probably thinks the same way about any MAN making up to 100k, which is even worst.

[@kykawaii803]

Fr like does she not know how much of the population makes under 100k??? Like girl bffr

[@kykawaii803]

The delusion is reeeal😭

[@mitzy1135]

Dating?? My husband and I make 80k combined. And frankly, it's the best year we have had married (8 years now). We own our own home (no missed payments w/ 20 acres of land), raise our own food, just paid off our vehicle 3 years early, own horses, and raising 3 kids under 6 years old. Is it hard? Hell yes it is, but we sacrifice what we want for what we need and we are incredibly happy. I married my husband not for what he can give me in items but the kind of man he is and the kind of father I knew he was going to be. Ladies are off their rocker and will never truly find happiness like this and for that I feel sorry for them.

[@FightNChickN]

You’re definitely not doing that in any major city in America.

[@darnellwilliams8783]

@@FightNChickN facts she lying I live in Florida and 50k a year is homeless

[@adelok]

Blessings 🙌

[@vipr1142]

Women☕

[@deniseclark1773]

Preach girl!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 you are living the dream!!!

[@joelharvey]

*"If you ain't got an IQ over 100, you're not ready to podcast."* - this literally slayed me. lol

[@digiwatt]

This was like a discount The View made into a podcast.

[@clancymamou]

Bruh

[@Geckoo-eh7wq]

facts just cuz people can speak their mind doesn't mean they need a mic lol. it's wild so many idiots wanting to make podcasts lol. if i made more than 200k i wouldn't date the walrus like what hahahahahaha

[@bobbanks6217]

Hasan Piker came to mind😅

[@supawithdacream5626]

Podcasters being the greatest thinkers of our time 😂

[@consumerdebtchitchat]

1:11 ... "If you're making 50k don't date." .... Says a woman who looks like a stuffed pomegranate. I'm 56 and make in the mid-60s. Debt free. Condo paid off. 10K savings account. 812 credit score. Fitness fanatic. No kids. No credit card debt. Save 60% of my take home income each month (not a typo). Could afford a luxury auto if I wanted. And by the way, I'm a school teacher who will have a full 30-year pension in 12 years, social security and a six figure personal savings. To think that if I were a guy you wouldn't consider me good enough for you. 😂😂

[@libbyget5495]

You guys crack me up! That, or you’re really on point and getting us all worked up. 😊

[@DolliMiu]

My husband *STRUGGLED* when we were dating. He had to drain his bank account and spend his savings to help his mom afford life-saving surgery and to get her out of Cambodia because her business failed. It was a shitty turn of events that left my husband broke because his life savings were gone in a matter of hours. Not once did I ever think “oh he’s broke I can’t date him.” I stayed with him and was there to support him every step of the way until he ended up in a better financial situation. His love and self-sacrifice was what showed me that he was worth staying for.

[@Megan6772]

Exactly!!! It's all about context. Your man was completely selfless and sacrificed for his mom ❤ it's much different than someone who just doesn't know how to quit frivolous spending

[@beautyallaround_]

The fact he sacrificed his life savings to help his mother is such an amazing quality. That's what a partnership is about when you're down he got you and when he's down you got him. That's what I want not this superficial thing they call a relationship. She is 35 and not focusing on real life stability and long term love/commitment. I can't take the woman in the video seriously at all. Also what is it with single people giving advice to people in my age group. It's not ideal and I hope no one in their 20's is actually listening to her.

[@ticiao]

And unlike his women you can say my husband.

[@DadsCigaretteRun]

My wife just looked at me watching this video and said “remember when you were a security guard making 35k a year? Boy times have changed” 😂 I make A LOT more now

[@kchikwete]

🙏

[@snafusofauq8297]

If you only make 50k you can't afford to feed this woman.

[@scaryanima9268]

You're being too kind. I was thinking 100k.

[@taosmith695]

Preach!

[@Deeptunester]

You're going to need an investment account that grows as exponentially as her waistline to keep up

[@reynaldoorellana1823]

She’s been fed enough she doesn’t need anymore food.

[@GlitchPredator]

And pay for her medical bills

[@gort8848]

Yo that swiss roll in spandex talking bout bottom of the barrel is out of pocket 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@pmoneylohan]

Her white husband who makes 7 figures a year loves it . That’s why she can speak facts . Black men will say you have to be fit and friendly. But she knows what true value is that’s why he married her. I think he’s in finance if I’m not mistaken.

[@kozmiic]

She isnt speaking facts 🤡 she got lucky and found a man desperate or ugly enough to chose her she is by no means good looking and that's all luck her marrying someone making that much but her marrying a man with money does not make what she says facts your a clown for even typing this comment 🤡

[@jneal18]

Your point about the "luxury"brands is ON POINT!!! I have a clothing company and I really see this in us. We value the things that hate us and we ignore who seeks our love

[@ChopperFlip]

A person willing to date you at your lowest point is not bottom of the barrel. That’s a soulmate.

[@titanl23423]

Doesn't work out for women at all. Most are done terribly and hurt. Don't do it.

[@lee87255]

Facts! They are so hard to find though!

[@ChopperFlip]

@@titanl23423 ever thought you’re looking for a date at the wrong place? If we look to our grandparents then they have stories of first meeting with an activity, city event, or friend introductions. Notice how these places known for not hooking up for 1 night stands? If you go to a club, then expect a short term situation-ship. If you want a traditional date, then go to a traditional place. You’ll meet like minded people at like minded places.

[@mtlmenace8590]

thats why u dont listen to women looll

[@vibez2806]

@@titanl23423 now show this study.

[@nondescript5225]

Buy her funky logic, if men do wait until they're making a 100K a year to start dating, there is no way in heck that they are looking for someone like her.

[@theoneandonlynophoney1864]

It’s some that still wil ,always, that’s why they feel confident to talk like this

[@kln.b5631]

@@theoneandonlynophoney1864 Nah, they’re just delusional. Those same men you speak of are the “good men” they’re looking for.

[@savagethepunisher]

Translation if black men don't make 1000k are broke Translation she hates poor people unless they're name is Brad

[@zoflopanayya83]

😂😂😂😂😂😂facts!!!

[@edwin9210]

You are right, the young women are the ones getting picked

[@efiniGTX]

A friend of mine was dating a woman that said to him “if you don’t have money to date, you shouldn’t be dating”. They were about to be engaged, and he couldn’t afford to go out all the time so she complained. Meanwhile she never paid for anything, and complained if he spent money on himself. That was such a red flag, and now they are divorced.

[@TheAcad3mic]

Its a shame you didn't save your stupid friend from a divorce.

[@efiniGTX]

@@TheAcad3mic yea, but how do I break up someone’s relationship without them hating or blaming me forever?

[@marckydasaint8730]

The sole PURPOSE of a date is to converse and get to know a person better. In Modern Times, It has been turned into something else.

[@Applebottompants]

Man I cannot come online without getting hit with some major depressing news. 50k is too broke? Are we just supposed to crawl into a hole and die because we’re unworthy of someone’s time, love, and affection? This kind of thought process is ridiculous. Does this mean love has a monetary value? What if you get sick and can’t work? My dad was the breadwinner until he shattered his wrist. My mom stepped up and started to work until he got back on his feet. My dad did the same for my mom when she had her heart attack. People who make these ridiculous claims truly conflate money with love and it’s gross. Edit: I’m a woman.

[@Vergil14]

I don’t think they conflate money with love. I think they’re expressing ideas that sound like that but at the core they’re just selfish.

[@Nanomachines5on]

Just because these women have a camera and mic doesn’t mean they speak for the majority. Most women don’t think like this. These broads are usually from sick places like Miami, Atlanta or LA

[@iefsuprai4057]

If i need to make a hundred k to make you happy you need a gym membership you whale🤣

[@agamerjourney9146]

Some women actually consider money as love. They normally taught this by broke single mothers.

[@titanl23423]

If she said 20k, 10k, 30k people would still find a way to be mad. You don't have to listen to the advice or take it personal.

[@SirYeetus]

"If you weigh over 140lbs, you're too big to date!" Feminists: "REEEEEE!"

[@adamsneidelmann8976]

If you can’t pick ‘em up, don’t take ‘em home.

[@dat1slyguy501]

When your dating a girl over 170 your a whale hunting homie.

[@hoosiernative9668]

Damn bro what if you lift weights and can carry some weight we gotta get stuck with the big girls just cuz we can pick them up 😂. There by some slim thick girls that are busty as hell an weigh more than 140 cuz of it but they far from fat they phat 🤤

[@robertnguyen9493]

😂😂😂😂

[@SirYeetus]

@@hoosiernative9668hey, if they want to set unrealistic standards, why can't we? 😂

[@FeliciaBerryVlogs]

When my husband and I got together and we were in school and broke. Now 10 years later we’re better off than most people I know. We have no debt, except our mortgage (which is also almost paid off). We are taking a weekend island trip this month, and a two week Europe trip in June… I say this to say, I don’t own a single name brand luxury item. The people I know with luxury items are drowning in debt and can’t afford to not work and take a trip. I handed him a water bottle while he was running 💁🏽‍♀️ Now I get to stay home with my two babies. Women don’t want to earn anything nowadays. They want instant gratification and their priorities are messed up.

[@scifirealism5943]

Beautiful 😊

[@jonathannaab2887]

I wholeheartedly agree with Aba’s point: there needs to be an IQ cutoff for purchasing podcast equipment. It is becoming ridiculous

[@halrox247]

Talking 'bout dating hustlers, overweight, materialistic, still single at 35. Anyone surprised? You can't make this sh!t up.

[@craftreesie]

She's married. Go watch that full episode.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

The leading cause of divorce is financial issues not obesity and tbf she's saying something a lot of dudes say all the time. You should be financially stable before dating.

[@HasanPikerIsADouche]

​​@@craftreesie Fiona found her Shrek

[@ronswanson1410]

@@craftreesie She was married to herself, he just an extra accessory

[@yojayuwannacomeouthere8519]

@@brianring-nu9dw must be a big black woman undercover lol

[@aarongraham4264]

The problem is too many enter dating looking for a come up rather than a partnership. If you both make 50k your household income is 6 figures and yall doin alright.

[@londala]

She'd have to consider what she makes, if anything, apart of the household income. The way she talking, however, don't imply that she wants to contribute in that way...

[@LembeckIsStaying]

​@@londala Exactly. She wants to be taken care of not contribute.

[@maskedman5657]

Where is it implied that she even makes 50k a year?

[@constantin-adrianprisecari5379]

the point is she wants to live off the mans money and not work herself. a 100k/y guy is supposed to spend 50k+ to keep her ass home. modern women want conservative men.

[@sirennoir258]

Her food budget is 1200 just for her so.... why should she have to go on a diet?

[@tanyamilewski5700]

If people overlook the messenger and focus on the economy does she have a point? Because I don’t see houses for people earning $50k , raising kids is getting more and more expensive, used cars, college etc why is the discussion always about looks not the state of the economy? I think people shd focus on what can be done to make living more affordable for everyone. Because what will happen to her is some guy will impregnate her and skip taking care of the child because he can’t afford to , or he can only afford $300 per month she has to come up with the rest. So she has a right to talk about the economics of dating even if she looks a certain way . When people are dating next thing is babies who need homes to live in and diapers and healthcare and many more things which aren’t free or easily accessible to low income people. So why shd she date to put herself in poverty or make herself a single mom struggling on her own because the guy skipped? I never get this “delusional” argument because at the end of the day it’s the woman who is left with costs and bills of dating if the guy is poor, I actually think it’s tone deaf to characterize it as being delusional. It’s realistic. Because how many single moms work 2 jobs to support kids on their own because they are barely getting anything from father or nothing. And how many men say I want to but can’t afford to support my kids? So women should just sacrifice themselves and be unsupported single mom’s? Where is the delusion in saying poor men shouldn’t date? Because I don’t see where the delusion is . If it’s in numbers of well off vs poor men then I think it’s a misogynistic perspective. It shows a lack of care for the welfare of women and children and a lack of sympathy for struggling single moms. So much so it doesn’t even register to people what happens when people date , babies, and who shoulders the cost if father is poor or what is the trajectory of a relationship where there are responsibilities but no money to cover them? Because women get left holding the bag if dating becomes more trouble than it’s worth aka if there are responsibilities. Hence why women aren’t delusional to talk about a guys income. The women who go around saying I don’t care how much a guy earns you find most of the bitter , angry, overworked and single being mocked for being used up , unattractive and blamed for not choosing better. What does choosing better mean? Isn’t how much a guy can earn part of that equation of choosing better? Sooner or later than guy will leave because he can’t cope with the responsibilities. That’s how women become bitter single moms.

[@jamesbaggett7223]

My 2nd wife met me when I was working for my cousin as a laborer. A year after we got together I am back in University going for a 2nd degree, in training to become a teacher and she has her Masters degree and has lit a fire in me to make something of myself for us. She knows that I will not give up or stop. Women like this speaker remind me of my ex in Houston. She makes more than enough to take care of herself but dumped me because I didn’t make enough to pay her bills and mortgage

[@l19719]

Your ex was right. She didn't want a lazy man as the father of her children. This is how women become single mothers. The women in the podcast are very knowledgeable.

[@jamesbaggett7223]

@@l19719 wow so I was working 40+ hours a week and I was lazy? Seems like you have a limited view of the situation

[@shadrachkoomson909]

4:16 “She 💁🏼‍♀️wanna make it with you when you already made it 🥇, They tryna show up at the finish line to hand you your flowers 💐 not recognizing that I needed somebody to hand me the water bottle 💧 while I was running 🏃‍♂️ the marathon.” THIS SHIT HIT DEEP 💯

[@timehgta_smg3058]

I been SO FORTUNATE to find my fiancé she accepts me for my autism and even tho she makes 3x more than me ITS NOT ABOUT THE MONEY, she loves me and I her. That aside her writing ✍️ skills is smoothing out my story telling skills so I say check back with me in 2 years!

[@londala]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 THE LIVING BREATHING WORD!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@nightfighter7452]

The added emojis made me lol

[@maskedman5657]

Yeah that's a deep quote. Ion get it da first time 😂

[@catlady3024]

Men don’t stay with the woman they struggle with, once they make it, they leave them for a gold digger anyway 🤷‍♀️

[@Alassandros]

Don't date for potential. Don't date for money. Date for stability and character. Not everyone meets the potential YOU see in them, and money doesn't guarantee stability or character.

[@titanl23423]

This is facts. The women that date for money made it known and the men are okay providing.

[@Dev1cted]

LOVED THIS COMMENT

[@tobiaslawrence8928]

Agree and disagree

[@bcj842]

A man settles down where he finds peace.

[@sapowoman]

Agree on the not meeting the potential you see in someone. I couldn't even meet the potential I once had. Top of my class in high school, got an award first year of uni for being a top performer, only to drop out two semesters before finishing uni. No one should bare the burden of someone else's expectations, especially when they won't be there to help them succeed

[@masimmomasimmo]

I resonate so much with the line of thinking of Aba

[@polariswalls4477]

Here's the thing... living in atl I been make 50k from 2014-2019 I can sat the last year 50k was good compensation was in 2015. Inflation is real and if you're dating to find someone to marry and have a family with finances need to be evaluated. I changed my whole career to break out of the pay restraint I was experiencing. I want a family and in atl 50k is cool if your single but if you want a family 90k is the minimum and I mean the minimum

[@NarniaSydel]

"They tryna show up after the finish line to hand you your flowers. Not recognizing I needed somebody to hand me a water bottle while I was running the marathon." - Aba, 2024

[@albertrodriguez1388]

This mf philosophical with it

[@millicentlopez3592]

Jesse Williams

[@ldtdylm]

Put it on a T shirt

[@SlightlyMellow]

That this hit hard.

[@JJ-jn7ei]

❤❤❤❤

[@damefame8921]

“You’re not bottom of the barrel, you’re under it” That’s tough 😂

[@user-sf4se1oe5w]

But they ugly af! You need to atleast be hot aswell as delusional to have those expectations...they just delusional.

[@christianscrogins663]

She’s the size of a barrel too

[@MixedBwoyOnDBeat]

Yoooowww 😂😂😂

[@dgladiuz8990]

😢

[@clevonriley131]

Wild

[@bandaidsandshoes]

lol. This reminds me of my ex so much. I was a lowly tradesman, at the that point I had been in it for ten years. I couldn’t keep up with a lot of her friends and her friends boyfriends who were predominantly street pharmacists. Fast forward another ten years and I go to a wedding that she was attending as well. I had started my own business and it took off. She saw me pull up in the one luxury item that I always wanted which was a Cadillac. For some reason I was the most interesting man to her that night and “we should really get together and catch up!”

[@TashaFierce111]

Idk. I took it as if you make 50k don’t date because it’s an unnecessary expense. And I agree. Making 50k in today’s world is not much so do you really want to spend your hard earned coins on someone who may or may not stick around? In my state after taxes 50k is only 39k a year. That’s rough when you have to make three times the rent (don’t even think about buying with that salary) I think she was trying to help but we are all so easily offended by truths these days, a lot of us missed that.

[@leeeneas8529]

"He needed someone to hand him a water bottle during the race, not someone to hand him flowers after he's won" bars!!

[@dougsmith6262]

Straight wisdom right there.

[@IamINERT]

That shit was fire 🔥

[@khalilismail666]

Yes

[@marcusw7117]

🔥

[@teklacommissiong9098]

Yea that was a BAR 🍸

[@champ1ontryymegaming304]

WOW! Met my husband when he was making entry level $$ and I kept him because he IS a high value man because of who he IS, how he treats others, his patience, his humor, his loyalty, etc.... Now that he is making more money, still not 6 figures, his value has not elevated because of his increased income. His value to ME is elevated because he continues to be the MAN I met and later married and kept his values. I would MUCH rather be married to my hubby with his regular income than a rich man who doesn't value and respect others, himself or me. That's JMO.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

Go watch the full clip, this lady is married to a high value man too.

[@ninairish763]

100 percent!!!!!

[@agamerjourney9146]

@@brianring-nu9dwListen to her comments high value man is not just about income. More so about character, morals, values that man has.

[@lexeiy1730]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@franklingoodwin]

@@brianring-nu9dw None of what you said changes the points she made that are correct. So, she's married, and what?

[@laurenbauman3517]

The internet has completely rotted our brains…

[@mejoalarm3453]

How do you ask a rich man loyalty when you didn’t give him loyalty when he was broke, it’s all sand castles in the end 😂

[@superionmaximus9900]

Damn. Guess I'm gonna stay single then. I only make $65K, but my house is paid, my car is paid, and when it breaks I'll go buy a new one and pay for that one too. I have more then enough in the bank to upgrade to a bigger, fancier house, but I don't need that. Just like I don't need to take on a parasite who just wants to live free. I'd be happy to date a woman with her own means and assets and build for a really nice retirement somewhere warm and beautiful. But I am not looking to support an adult child of a human being buying a bunch of useless designer goods that hold no value.

[@xiii0722]

I always thought of this as common sense, but sadly I guess it isn't, when I see such weird videos/podcasts. And have another like btw.

[@aidanm.655]

@@xiii0722Same. Like who tf raised these people??? I never expected to marry some woman and just have her leach off me. I won’t date a girl that’s a deadbeat. At least be in school for a degree, or have some kind of job. I’m only 20, and finishing my 3rd year of uni, but I already meet people who are content doing nothing but smoking weed and playing video games all day. It’s crazy to me.

[@superionmaximus9900]

@@xiii0722 Absolutely agree.

[@prezzlola]

People who put that much value on flashy stuff, fine dining, expensive gifts and dates, are huge red flags. Especially if they can't afford that themselves and expect other to provide that life for them. To me that just sounds like financial irresponsibility. Absolutely not.

[@shakiraS311]

Protect this man at all cost😂

[@SeekerKC]

I actually saw that video on Valentine's Day, of all days, & posted my response on X: "Not long after my man & I began dating, he lost his job. We spent most dates back then going for walks, watching the planes fly in & out of our local airports while we talked, laughed, & listened to music, or we'd just hang out at my place watching TV. A couple of our dates were even just the two of us set up at a picnic table at some park on a nice day, stuffing & hand addressing dozens of envelopes to send out his resume. This year, we'll be celebrating our 30th anniversary (34+ yrs together). He's an amazing husband, a _solid_ provider, incredible friend, & and the best father to our child. The nice trips, restaurants, cars, etc. eventually came. What I had all along, tho, *from jump,* was a _good man._ I would've been the dumbest b*tch _alive_ had I put a wage minimum on our relationship."

[@Darth_Bateman]

Huh….. i really don’t have words to express how I feel reading this, just …. Wow.

[@bokrusher]

When he struggled, you struggled with him. You did it together. Companionship over comfort anytime.

[@TJ-ht3jb]

Nothing establishes a bond more than shared sacrifice. If someone will not help share any of life's burdens, there is no real bond to begin with.

[@foxduncam7671]

lemme not get too cheesy but this made me tear up i hope you had a happy valentines day and god bless

[@moonknight4053]

Wait did he pay for all the nice trips, cars, etc? If he did.. how come we don’t hear of women doing this? Genuine question

[@cloak1408]

I’m more disgusted with the women sitting there agreeing with her instead of setting her straight and that’s where the problem comes in. These women ain’t holding each other accountable anymore.

[@serious7179]

These type of people who look at relationships in a purely transactional fashion are NEVER happy. Sure, they may pretend they are, but it's a lie.

[@seansantiago6249]

It's wild because they literally simp for brand name companies but won't simp for a man who provides...

[@alejandropacheco7832]

modern feminism and corporate female empowerment working at it's best!... it was never about women it was always about control

[@WarmSun_MGM]

She didn’t even praise brands. She said men who make quick money are. And so are their girls. But they’re not putting that money where they should and investing.

[@Kuhmodo]

I don't know why takes like this piss me off so much. Like I hate hearing dudes get disqualified because they don't make this or because they're short. No bullshit, if I ran into a profile on a dating app that said you had to be a certain height I auto swiped left. Even though I always met those requirements.

[@KNIGHTSFALLN]

@@WarmSun_MGM Yes, that is what she said. She said too many women who get money see other women in these brands and blow their bank accounts trying keep up. But she also said she needs a rich man to put down money on her dreams. But the problem is there is never any reciprocation. And if he asks for some. She is considering the door. She got what she needed and she is willing to leave. A lot of women say they will take care of their man. But when push comes to shove… 80%…. Divorce. That’s not relationship behavior. That’s is a locust.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

You use the word simp, no one is taking you seriously man. 50k is barley enough to provide off of especially if you see yourself having kids. Imagine needing to work to maintain a household while pregnant 😂😂, jokes.

[@Bk-hq5pc]

My wife and I have been together for over 8 years now. We met when she was an Admin making $12.50/hr while looking to pursue her Masters. I was a security guard making $11.50/hr…Now I’m a Data Analytics Dev making over 6 figures while my wife is making a lil under 6 figures. I’m also setting up other income streams for us so that she retires before 40 and never have to worry about working to survive. The key is to do what works for you and your partner and stop worrying about what others think.

[@normalguycap]

Going from those wages to that income in a short time is suspect. Never heard of an admin making that little either.

[@MrSheduur]

@@normalguycap it also does not say much about the issue in itself, because the problem is not making regular job money, but how some morons look at that and think you are broke for working a normal job and not earning top dollar. but I guess the programming is strong in americans that you are defined by your job and ONLY your job...

[@MaSa-bp5qe]

Respect to you my guy!

[@Plug042]

Damn that’s love still

[@secret2mistakes]

I understand the guys and I wanna be there for a guy no matter his money situation - but. Maybe it's a trust issue now, but I've been burned by the guys that you build with. Those guys don't want a woman that has seen them at their lowest. As soon as they started doing better for themselves, they found someone else yk. Started cheating once they felt like hot shit, whatever. Nevermind the dates I covered, the support I gave them, etc. Guys don't like dating when their money isn't right, outliers are just that - outliers. So yeah, if you can't afford to date, don't. Have your shit together. I don't disagree with these ladies despite their delivery lol

[@IronBotTactics]

this applies to the international dating market the do it for the growth of their platform, they arent wrong about the equity increase moving to six figures if you dont want to live a basic 5 kids 1 house you finally pay off when you die & inherit to your kids type of dating life, for everyone else who aspires to that just ignore what she says, go shack up with someone of trust and ride off into the sunset its not that deep if the two can handle teamwork & effort during the hard times, as for everyone else when you here these stats pipe up its game time put up or shut up.

[@ticiao]

I’m sorry but TEACHERS don’t make a lot of money. Definitely not a hundred thousand, But that’s where you’re dropping your kids off every day. What is she talking about.

[@bacongrits4155]

It’s these KZbin podcasters thats talking like this….

[@ajmj1234567890]

Most of not all these female podcasters think like this, pour minds, whorible decisions, just to name a few. All sex workers too, check em out yourself

[@Darkgod777]

Separate from what these women are saying, Teachers deserve six-figure incomes for all they do and put up with.

[@SumtingWong343]

Social media is such a double edge sword... we live in an age where the ignorants, the pretenders and the fools can have a voice as loud as the wise. It's easy to listen to any idiots share their garbage opinion on any podcast. Anyone with an ability to communicate can now spread their misinformation to a large audience... I hate that people actually listen to this shit and agrees to it. Those wannabe Relationship experts, dating life connaisseur and whatever how they call themselves... it's sickening to me how much bullshit they are ready to say just to generate clicks.

[@sir_evergreen]

Exactly punks in realistically aka in life 🥱👀👍🏿🔥🔥🔥🥂

[@BinkyTheToaster]

I miss the days when being able to use the internet required somewhat significant intelligence, like owning an actual computer and being able to install and configure the connections manually.

[@martiwaterman1437]

@@BinkyTheToasterI miss the days when you had to read the instruction manual to assemble your home stereo system because the wires weren’t color-coded and the internet didn’t exist.

[@ll2323]

I’ve learned almost everything isn’t black and white, everything has nuances and complexity. U just have to remember ur life is only urs to live, why listen to anyone outside urself?

[@WorldlyAuras-ze9yf]

Social media has made dumbasses lots of money.

[@zbeatza9910]

1:09 this has the same energy as "if you can't afford to tip, you shouldn't order food".

[@Somewherethinking]

3:25 protagonists of a Pixar movie is hilarious 😂

[@nukesakuukasekun9050]

The floor creaking while bro walking when they hear some bs cracks me up 😭 it’s like the floor hear that bs and said “let me creak bro, this is preposterous”

[@aerickmon3350]

As they always said Floor the secret third member, when it starts talkin, it’s real shit

[@TreasureJanasia]

@@aerickmon3350😂

[@kameronwright9925]

Facts lolol​@@aerickmon3350

[@baph3963]

Ok I was wondering if it’s just me. Floor is creaky af

[@dynamichunter843]

They need to fix that floor, they make enough from KZbin lol

[@lancertelstar]

she 35 and still dating.... her reality speaks louder than any words

[@MelkorHimself]

35, visibly overweight, very average looking face...and she has demands. Sometimes the jokes write themselves.

[@Alexxluv]

Why is dating at 35 a problem?

[@lemmypop1300]

@@Alexxluv It's not. But at the same time, it doesn't make you an expert whose opinion should be heard, it's quite the opposite.

[@odin5188]

@@AlexxluvFor a woman, let's say, it will be....difficult I'm sure you can work out why

[@Girth_]

​@@Alexxluvif you're a woman at 35 and looking for a man that wants to settle down and have kids, you're running out of time and fast. Not just for finding a partner that will give you that life, but also because the older you get the more complications will arise when it comes to having kids. May be harder to conceive at all the older you get.

[@_..-.._..-.._]

“I don’t know many rich drug dealers” let that sentence sink in 😂 🤦‍♂️

[@MarkFirstList]

Thank you! We need more people calling out these crazy status obsessions. Like Preach, I’m not going to say they need to be different. But it’s ok for me to say that I don’t like it and I don’t want it in my life. My friends and I had no money as graduate students. We had a great time spending very little and we all have had really good careers. Without designer goods!

[@Skywalker721]

“You are the protagonist of a Pixar movie” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@derrickevansjr3564]

I was dying laughing 😂

[@summerrose8110]

Shrek is DreamWorks not Pixar. Wrong company. Just saying.

[@Skywalker721]

@@summerrose8110 boooooo 😒

[@bighomiescrap9452]

Nawl fr 😂😂😂

[@summerrose8110]

@@Skywalker721 Sure boo me for correcting someone who said the right company who owns the franchise. So terrible, I should end my life right now. But I won't because I don't want to go to hell.

[@Sovereignty420]

I love it when Aba does that alternate accent. Always makes me laugh. I make $65K and my wife makes $56K. We live very comfortably. We both worked hard together as a team to get to this point. We both had low points, but we lifted each other up to give us the strength and confidence to get us where we are today. Couldn't ask for a better partner.

[@eneiban6503]

Out of curiosity, do you have kids?

[@rhyno8644]

The conversation needs to be practical if its going to have any continuity. On what planet and in what society does a man with money and resources doubling where this person pretends to be in life say to themselves I want a 6'0 260lb arrogant non feminine/domesticated live in partner? You ladies are a lot smarter than you look. Make an NFL linebacker in lingerie make sense to the man with the most resources. If she is married I want a picture of her husband to prove my fundamental point immediately.

[@Trappy-C]

@@eneiban65032 women can’t have kids

[@kwilliams3161]

What state you live in ?

[@user-rf5nj7qj6v]

Tell the TRUTH!!! Keep up the amazing work!!!!

[@coolstuffinc5412]

Aba got that floor talking...

[@bustercaps]

“90 percent of the men who just listen to you said ‘you’re garbage’” - well said gentlemen, probably more like 99 percent.

[@CordovanSplotchVT]

Nah, there's a few too many male feminist simps in the world for it to be 99%

[@itsascaryworld9788]

Sounds like she’s hurting with all that negative talk. I bet she’s not happy with herself. Likely goes home and hates her lonely life.

[@ruudvanderzanden8013]

​@@itsascaryworld9788the only men in her life are Ben & Jerry

[@dkainsworld]

She’s a 35 year old single lady carrying two salami rolls on her belly talking like she gonna get a real high earner lmao

[@kingg3259]

Dang bro she carrying two salami rolls. Man

[@trialillustrations]

😂😂😂

[@ingeniousmaultasche6602]

And not even ONCE she is thinking that maybe she is the bottom of the barrel.

[@jordanmennie945]

Damn she only 35… the wall doesn’t miss

[@mdmapp]

So it depends. Average salary in the US is just south of 60k and 50k I think is within one standard deviation. If you are in Houston then you should be fine too because the average salary is at just north of 50k. However you do have some areas like NYC, California, or DC where 50k is definitely not enough to date

[@AmbrosiaBrennen-nx7ry]

I like the analogy of trying to hand off flowers after they crossed the finish line and the people who were handing in the water as they're running the marathon .

[@IamBlackMagic03]

These are the same women who call a guy corny, lame because they're studying for school, or working a average job trying to come up. Then the minute that guy comes up and dates someone else they'll talk shit saying "oh now you're successful and think you too good for me/us!" but forget how they weren't good enough for them while he was grinding. They're hypocrites who contradict themselves at every turn

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

No they don't.

[@IamBlackMagic03]

​​@@LisaSoulLevelHealing that's all you got? These women are trash. They want to wait at finish line for the winners but don't wanna run the race with the guy as he comes up. Then they have the nerve to be talking about the man investing in her business, building off the back of the guy. Basically free loading. Then they got the nerve to call a woman who is willing to grind with a guy a "bottom of the barrel bitch"? These women are garbage. I only made 35k a year when I met my wife while she was making 95k a year. She stuck with me and now I haven't made less than 130k last 15 years. My take home this year after taxes more than doubled my wife's pay before taxes. She was there for me on my grind so now I make sure to take care of her now. These women in video don't deserve a good man. They can chase the bag on their own and leave the hard working dudes alone. They don't deserve that guy who grinded to success. They're looking for come ups, not companions. Trash morals, trash values, equals trash individuals!

[@IamBlackMagic03]

@@LisaSoulLevelHealing yeah they are trash. They don't want to help a guy come up, but expect a man to give them 10 bands to invest in their business? We call those types of people free loaders. Don't want to help you grind to achieve success but want to show up once you're successful. Then to call a woman a "bottom of the barrel bitch" because she's willing to grind with the guy? Garbage mindset. My wife significantly out earned me when we first met. $95k a year to my $35k a year. She saw I was trying and stuck with me and now I haven't made less than 130k a year for last 15 years. I doubled her income the last two years and for her sticking with me I make sure to take care of her. These women don't deserve a man who works his ass up from nothing to something because they don't wanna run the race with him. They just want to wait at the finish line for the winners. They've got trash morals, trash logic, trash values, and so that equates to being trash people.

[@IamBlackMagic03]

@@LisaSoulLevelHealing explain how they don't then? I can't wait to hear this.

[@IamBlackMagic03]

yeah they are trash. They don't want to help a guy come up, but expect a man to give them 10 bands to invest in their business? We call those types of people free loaders. Don't want to help you grind to achieve success but want to show up once you're successful. Then to call a woman a "bottom of the barrel bitch" because she's willing to grind with the guy? Garbage mindset. My wife significantly out earned me when we first met. $95k a year to my $35k a year. She saw I was trying and stuck with me and now I haven't made less than 130k a year for last 15 years. I doubled her income the last two years and for her sticking with me I make sure to take care of her. These women don't deserve a man who works his ass up from nothing to something because they don't wanna run the race with him. They just want to wait at the finish line for the winners. They've got trash morals, trash logic, trash values, and so that equates to being trash people.

[@indigocrayon520]

My husband and I met and started dating when we were 21. Went from making a combine income of 60k to me being a stay at home wife and mother, and he brings in 150k solo. Neither one of us were bottom of the barrel, we got the life we wanted just took time

[@arkeshn729]

According to her logic teachers rookie cops fighters or most people that aren't at the top of the pay scale are bottom of the barrel 😮‍💨

[@brianring-nu9dw]

You must be talking about a very different time this is 2024. Nobody can get jobs anymore. My friend is qualified with a degree and has experience from 2 previous jobs in the computer science field and he still can't find a job, I also have a friend that is a professor and he can't find a job either. It's less likely that you will strike it rich now than it was before and relying on money to get good in the future won't do anything for you or your family.

[@ScottieDPOYY]

​@@brianring-nu9dwOhhhh so your "friends" arent lesser humans even though they dont have jobs. Very hypocritical of your "nude brianna"

[@indigocrayon520]

@@brianring-nu9dw ya unfortunately a lot of people went for the same fields. Our friends in trades that skipped college altogether are the ones doing the best.

[@SolomonGulbranson]

Some people are so lost on reality I’m a team lead at Walmart aka basically a manger and I make 110,880 a year before taxes and that’s pulling 4 hours of overtime on top of my already 9 hour shifts and to hear these people say just a hundred thousand is mind boggling I feel like they have no idea how hard people work to make there money these days it’s really sad if this is what the dating scene has become and I’m only 20 this is just going to make people want to not ever date until they stop being delusional

[@theFallenMarvel]

We're talking about the average person. That's most people in the country. That means your odds of actually finding someone to do what you're asking, the odds are not favorable. Depending on the cost of living, 50k for one person is damn near on the poverty line.

[@kris000]

3:20 Bro, you can't disrespect Shrek like that

[@bordertownmex8810]

"Well that's not very nice....he's just a donkey." 😂

[@RogueHero]

I've been making 48 - 55k ever sense 2018 , my sports car is paid off , i have 0 debt , my son hasn't missed a fancy meal and gets whatever he wants , i also vacation once every other year. People need to live below their means , because i personally have met people who make more than me on paper but are heavily in debt because they need every new smart phone , travel multiple times a year ,keep enrolling in school for dumb reasons and need to buy new cloths every pay check to impress with others who could give 2 shi*s about them in a long run.

[@MrSheduur]

yup you are making almost exactly the "average american income" for the current times. Everyone with that amount of money is going to be more than fine, because even people who make 10-15k less are fine too, they only cannot afford fancy stuff like vacations all the time.

[@dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof]

@@MrSheduurdepends on where he lives. $60k in DC is rooming with parents, multiple roommates in a basement, no son and no paid for car let alone sports car.

[@RogueHero]

@@dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof I live in Chicago , my sports car wasn't that expensive because I bought it used with 10k miles before car prices spiked and I saved 1 year before buying it , my son lives with his mom but I see him every other week. The cost of living here ain't terrible unless your trying to live in the nicest neighborhoods.

[@moonknight4053]

Howre u doing all that bro?

[@RogueHero]

@@moonknight4053 pre c19 I moved back in my family to get back on my feet so I saved like crazy ,b ought my dream car and paid it off in a year , I live extremely below my means so I rarely buy new cloths, I haven't upgraded my smart phone in 4 years and only really spend money when I go out to eat , hitting the dispersary or if my son needs something. So I did have help from family with my living situation however I could easily afford rent in the burbs and maintain the same lifestyle. The only difference would have been my car would have taken a little longer to get paid off.

[@memphismadetez]

Spray expanding foam between those floor boards it will stop the squeaking

[@devon012345]

I feel like in todays society everything is expensive. Us as men should probably put more time and energy into finding ways to make more money than to worry about dating. If we meet someone during the process than thats cool to.

[@vincentclark5739]

What Preach said at the end is so true. My younger sis by almost a decade is like this women and wants a rich man to take care of her basically. My brother said “well you better be ready to be quiet and come when he request and leave when he says. A lot of those men have a lot of control over things since they pay for everything”. You won’t be his equal, and you’re literally tradeable where you get dumped for a younger version. Leo does it all the time

[@weswolever7477]

What did your sister say to that?

[@vincentclark5739]

@@weswolever7477 she just laughed it off and we kept eating dinner

[@Zazalifted]

This the one ☝️

[@dynamichunter843]

Your brother knows how it actually works in reality, your sister is following a dream she saw on TikTok

[@Kholoured]

So dang true. Women who don't have their own money, their own career are at the mercy of the man "supporting" them. What happens when you need to leave or he throws you out? Do you have the ability to go work, do you have an education that you invested in? Do you have something to fall back on if amd when things go south? Because 75% of marriages fail, do you think all those couples said, well we will give it a few yrs but I'm sure we'll divorce. NO! no one EXPECTS to get divorced!! But it happens more often then not. Keep your options open, always keep your career, always have money set aside that only you have access too on both sides! This crap where my money is my money and your money is my money? No sir/ma'am that shit don't fly! Look out for yourself, take care of yourself, and hope things go well but always have a back up in case they don't! Don't ever expect someone else to pay for you in everything, that is where you'll get taken advantage of and you'll have to choose between safety or food/shelter.

[@SavantPete]

The audacity of a below average women saying the average is not enough for them should be studied

[@titanl23423]

Worse looking men get on camera and say worse. This is probably more self help than rp claim to be.

[@baf00nery]

And documented.

[@HellCat_Kenny]

It is, it’s called Women’s Studies. You can literally pay to take a major where you must convert yourself to this view in order to pass, or at least put on the image of such.

[@kylespevak6781]

They're legit always a 2

[@titanl23423]

There's men that resemble Shrek saying worse things on podcasts everyday. All this woman said was that some men shouldn't date until they have their money up. boo hoo.

[@melvins516]

Ok fellas real talk if you consider your self a Provider & make 40-50k you should work on your self & your earning potential before dating. If you’re ok with 50/50 more modern dating than 50k is ok to date. But you can’t call yourself a provider & think 50k, with out motivation to earn more is acceptable its not fair to your girl/wife

[@natalyaakselaleksander4502]

My husband is smart and educated but man!! We struggled in our first two years of marriage to a point where we had to ask his parents for bailouts even though he absolutely didn’t want to ask them for anything. There are months where we had no idea how everything was going to be covered but somehow we would make it and managed to escape debt during that period. Never once did I ever think about leaving him. In fact because of our struggles, we fell in love with each other more because he was so much more than the money he made. His character and love are priceless and no amount of money could have replaced that. Thank God today he is doing great and I get to be spoiled by him. We always remember those days and sigh in relief…

[@saisohan2409]

"Because he was so much more than money"😂 women and there tendency to compare their husband with money feeling sorry for that guy hope he finds better woman

[@natalyaakselaleksander4502]

@@saisohan2409 the conversation was about women dating for money. So of course I said that I love him not because of his money. Bro do u understand context?😂 You’re sad human who needs help and pity. I love my man with or without money because money is not what attracted me to him but his character and values we share in common. What’s not there to understand?

[@zacmitchell]

50k is broke? I make 50k a year. 33, no debt, no wife, no kids. Plenty of money in the back. It doesn’t matter how much money you make “to an extent “ it matters how much you save and invest. I’ve dated a lot but I’m not giving my money away just because someone feels entitled to it.

[@amalmo6593]

They are crazyyyyyy 50k is good! Not broke at all. Delusional 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@SunnyBear11]

50k isn’t broke, but it’s about average and really not much in this economy. Lots of comments are people saying “I have 50k it’s plenty!” And then going on to describe how they live with family, have no dependents, second hand goods, infrequent vacations, etc. Nothing wrong with that, but let’s not lie like that is a substantial income.

[@vikkidonn]

@@SunnyBear11thank you. I’m comfortable…. But nowhere near content and my mental and physical health isn’t good at all. Can’t afford better nutrition, can’t afford a day off to even take a walk and clear my head, don’t live alone and don’t have privacy. I’m increasing my income and building but that doesn’t feed the soul. $50k is chump change and poor in a lot of places

[@geeohard]

Talk yo shit!!

[@jamilsalih9724]

​@@SunnyBear11oh yeah definitely agree

[@derrickm4652]

"Just 100k a year" seconds into this video is a bold statement that gave me significant pause to know all I needed to with where this was headed.

[@kylespevak6781]

JUST 10% or less of the population

[@kingcolga1293]

Average person not making 50k. You make 50k, your take home is more like 35k after taxes. I make over 6 figures here in Georgia after taxes but most people not making 50k in the south. That’s more like the household income for 2 or more people.

[@Itssolomonburns_]

She speaking facts honestly

[@madmyro]

Blue collar men that sustain society get so much hate for no reason🤷🏽‍♂️

[@dynamichunter843]

Because they have never worked a physical labor job for 12 hours a day in their life

[@slimjimmy6767]

​​​@@dynamichunter843da fuck u talking about. You literally just proved his point. Doesn't matter if a blue collar man works 12hrs or not... without men like us, society would collapse in a matter of days. Instead of being a prick, why don't you back your fellow brothers. All this hate ain't necessary.

[@armingleiner5292]

Without those men society collapses. Without most women working nothing happens.

[@sometimeslifehandsyouapple1085]

This such an important comment and concept. Our economy and world would crash without blue collar people

[@boodrowwilson1894]

I'm working class and women consider me the scum of the Earth, even if they are also working class, or make less than me.

[@mastermeow1582]

My wife and I got together when I’d been community college for like 6 years with no AA degree. I didn’t drive, smoked a lot of weed, played hours upon hours of video games. Even though I tried to work out hard I suffered from extreme body pain and postural imbalance problems that were crippling. At first change was slow. Got my license, we had a baby, and graduated my university in 2020. Got rid of 95% of my body pain and 99% of my anxiety. I am already making 80k. I work hard but am very good at my job. Now we have two daughters and love our family and what the future holds.

[@nebleb6733]

I just want you to know that I'm really proud of you for pushing through the pain. Not many people know how difficult it is dealing with chronic physical illness, and so many people take health for granted. I'm sure it contributed to your anxiety as well, but I'm glad that you have moved past all that and I hope you'll enjoy your money in the future in good health.

[@chaosi1753]

Your my inspiration❤

[@HellCat_Kenny]

Wagmi brah

[@basharalbutseggs8056]

I’m really glad you pushed through and became successful! But respectfully wouldn’t blame your wife if she had broken up with you back then because you sound like you were a bum. But good thing you changed your ways

[@prodigygamer5469]

Proud of you man, great dedication to your life and family. You’re a good person.

[@kingzingo1784]

13:36 PREACH LOOKING LIKE HE'S BEING YELLED AT 😭😭

[@TrentJordan7]

Work at a hospital and see people at the end of their lives. Youll quicklu realize whay actually matters. Character is what you look for above all else. Thats what sticks by you when going thru it.

[@emeloj240]

Social media has completely skewed people's expectations and what's reality. The median individual income for the US is about 40K. If you throw stones in a room of regular people, chances are most of the folks youll hit make less than 100K. Not because they are lazy bums or not doing their very best, because shit is genuinely hard out here. You have mfers with advanced degrees still making less than 60K, in fields that contribute to societal progress. To say that these folks dont deserve to date or are being bummy is insane.

[@brianring-nu9dw]

I'm making a little more than 50k with a good budget and one kid and there are times where money is tight for me. I can only imagine having a kid in a household under 40k in 2024 😂.

[@Blueslyfox]

The median is pointless here. The number you are drawing from is all Americans ages of 15 and up (239,100,000 Americans) that make more than $1 a year. The mean which was the average of the entirety of that demographic was actually 59k a year. Which is reported everywhere. You're grabbing the median income when the group for this statistic starts at age 15. You see even more different numbers if you go from 25 and up, where most ADULT Americans are around the 50k mark. Look it up, you'll see that most americans ages 21 to 24 on average make around 30k a year, same for 16-19. With all of those in the mix at 15 and up, definitely do not go based off the median, because after 25 we see a drastic jump in individual income.

[@nekk-ra7080]

You also have to take into account a good number of these people promoting this are in big cities that are very expensive to live. 50K may be broke in NYC or Los Angeles, but in other areas you could live decently on that amount. If I made 50K, I wouldn't have to worry about money anywhere near as much; I'd be good.

[@agamerjourney9146]

@@brianring-nu9dwClearly don’t know how that low income family deals. Most good relationship that have low income. Make by simply being family and sharing responsibility of paying bills. Meaning not just mother or father being bread winner. Both people working together to rise children.

[@agamerjourney9146]

@@brianring-nu9dwDon’t get started family different types of family. As learn crazy stuff about how some people get by. Imagine father and mother making 40k each. Yet also live with other family members together in household. All together that household income is about million. This may experience living in New York City. Pay attention how people manage to make living in my city.

[@networknomad5600]

$50k is so far from broke, it's hilarious.

[@kwamd.1461]

Most people don’t make $50k….why are they acting like that’s the average

[@TheJessCasonBrand]

Thissss!!!! They don’t know how hard it is to even get that!

[@AnyaEightySeven]

That's 35k after government and state tax which is like 2900 a month take home. That's not a lot of money after living expenses.

[@introvertedweirdgirl2687]

I make nearly 60 and I live in Alabama. I feel broke

[@beautifulvibes301]

Ughhh yes it is depending on where you live.

[@serd1drfe]

Thank you abba for saying that. I’m not bottom of the barrel because I can appreciate and love a hard working man. These boss babe and bad bissssh def live in delusional lane.

[@kole0429]

THIS is why I love yall

[@pkway9394]

I grew up in that weird phase where some of my childhood was no social media then MySpace then the social media blow up…. And I can honestly say social media has ruined dating. It use to be cute and fun to date. Now we all have plenty of options and these standards have become ridiculous.

[@Ripside2]

This...

[@Thatguy-kn9xu]

Hahaah! That floor be cooking right along with them!

[@Darth_Bateman]

Bro, it’s insane because even when you finally measure up to people’s standards and they go out with you? You have a chance of running into a girl who STILL treats you like shit.

[@latonyanarcisse7112]

Yessssss

[@Chelle81]

“ You’re the antagonist in a Pixar movie.”😂😂😂😂😂

[@cxd1]

Who can decide my right to date besides the person I’m asking out? Please stop trying to make me and other people believe your only worth is your bank account.