Is Aegosexual Tiktok A Thing? | Aegosexual Tiktok

[@lynnsaga1397]

I hope you all enjoyed this video! Be sure to comment if you knew about aegosexuality before this video or if you are aego what helped you figure out you were aegosexual?

[@jasonvoorhees6547]

The first thing I realized was that I had a lot of sexual thoughts, but when it really happened, I didn’t feel anything. (Google Translate, I'm in Hungarian)

[@faullus1352]

Well I enjoy watching porn but when I think of actually sleeping with someone im like „Eeh?“.

[@MangoTamtam]

I found aegosexual while I was figuring out that I'm ace at all, so it was kind of just a byproduct of me realizing I'm ace and wondering if any micro label fits me even more. Aegosexuality just sounded right, so while I usually simply say I'm ace I also know and could say I'm aego haha. Btw what helped me figure out I'm ace at all was partly thanks to your channel

[@Idiot_TaylorsVersion]

I just figured out I was aegosexual the other day and it really made me so relieved to find a label that fit me better

[@MangoTamtam]

@@Idiot_TaylorsVersion Awesome!!

[@TheNitpickChick]

Being Aego is actually the reason it took me so long to realize I was Ace. 😅 It took me until last year, right before my 30th birthday, to actually properly reflect on all of my past crushes and my one romantic relationship in High School, and to realize that I’ve never actually been sexually attracted to anyone in real life, even my celebrity crushes. It’s always just been a strong aesthetic attraction and/or sensual attraction. (Basically, I don’t particularly want to have sex, I want to stare at pretty people and cuddle with them lol) I realized I’ve only ever, sort of, experienced sexual attraction vicariously, through the eyes of non-ace characters in smutty fanfics and such. lol 😂 It was quite the revelation, to say the least, but a lot of things suddenly made a lot more sense. 😅

[@kaiyodei]

wouldn't of been great if there was a book for 12 year olds explaining these things? 6 might be to young. while we're "saying gay". maybe we should also be saying "asexual and aromantic spectrum, and how amatanormitivty(or however it is spelled) hurts those people"

[@NekoShogun]

Good lord, so much this. I just learned of this fact about myself and Aego sounds like me pretty much spot on. I'm currently 36 and figuring this out about myself too.

[@emmalang4954]

Oh my, this sounds just like me, think my label might be shifting a bit....😅

[@ravewithyou]

For real! Now that I know about this identity label, my whole life just makes so much more sense, and I live more confidently because of it.

[@angelawesneski5029]

I'm 25 and also just figuring myself out for all of these reasons. I think I'm also aegoromantic, so yeah, lots of stuff discovery happening. 😅

[@angelamccollister]

I am aegosexual but the word always makes me crack up. I hear 'Leggo my Eggo' in my head. Lol

[@lynnsaga1397]

I love it!

[@Lestaticate]

New flag incoming! 🧇

[@ragedeeann644]

I say I'm 🧇sexual.

[@Rinnieleuckzmothz]

I imagine eggosexual when i see it typed out

[@kordeliiius9821]

The “a” and the “e” are two different syllables lol

[@vortex3010]

I wish I had ran across this mircolabel earlier cause I spent nearly 10 years being like "I can't be ace, I read a lot erotica and yaoi! I must be some kind of freak." The first time I ran across this term was 2021 in an OT video on Ace memes and it had the explanation of various microlabels using cereal that was posted on AVEN. I literally cried for like half the rest of the day knowing there were other people out there like me and I wasn't that much of an outsider. So ya, I think micro labels are supper helpful. I hope now that these words are out there people can find them and can feel good in their own skin sooner.

[@kaiyodei]

but you didn't project yourself onto the character right? like "wear them".

[@skelepuns8781]

SAME, I found out about aegosexuality through that same video. OT is the best 💕

[@vortex3010]

@@kaiyodei no I'm never involved when I am the consumer but when I write it's impossible not to project myself into a character so I can see how that is also an aspect of it.

[@MelonHere20]

Same!! Although at the time I didn't realize it from the cereal explanation lol, it took me a while later on some website I found to realize it actually

[@mikaelat3272]

While I myself simply use the umbrella term “asexual” when talking about my identity to other people, I also know that aegosexuality is the label that specifically and more accurately describes my experience. It’s so so important for people like me to know that this is a thing, and it’s so incredibly validating when people discuss it. Thank you so much for doing this!

[@alexa4201]

I do the same!! :D I refer to myself as ace but I’m more specifically aegosexual

[@MelonHere20]

Same here! It makes it slightly easier for people to understand lol

[@LibraryofAcousticMagic3240]

can you help me figure out if I am aego? Any sites or sth?

[@ebtrollfan]

Same!

[@captenarii3938]

Ever since discovering more about the aegosexual in the ace spectrum (because I identify as asexual but feel the arousal on the concept of sex as well smuts but never really get to see myself in that action at all its a no go) makes me feel more comfortable that I can still be identified as ace! also Im very happy there are a bunch of people who are aegosexual too!

[@kizetherz]

as a proud aegosexual myself i was a bit afraid of hate or invalidation from this video, but i was glad to see you having fun learning about my sexuality!! it brought me a bit of joy!! i really enjoyed this video, you seem very sweet! :D

[@kellabdjfoo]

Same!

[@If-loki-was-a-fox]

Hmm, I've done a teeny tiny bit of research on Aegosexuality before, but I think I'm going to do some more after this because some of this sounds like it might fit me.

[@lynnsaga1397]

I'm definitely gonna be doing another video on Aegosexuality because I wanna learn more!

[@thornbushy]

Back in December of 2021, I watched a video by One Topic going over r/Lgbt memes. One of them was a tumbler post going over each sexuality and describing sex as bowls of cereal. Ageosexuality was described as "Wanting to make a bowl of cereal, but not wanting to eat it (my wording isn't correct because I don't remember it exactly)". For me, that caught my attention. I thought "That's exactly how I feel about sex! What is this? More! I need to know more please!". So I paused the video and looked it up. Learned about the history and where the word came from, the meaning of the flag, and checked out the sub reddit of r/Ageosexual. Now I call myself a frozen piece of waffle because Ageo sounds like "Lego my Ego" the catchphrase of the frozen waffle brand.

[@creativedesignation7880]

I remember that post from OT's video aswell! I always struggled with losing interest in anything sexual with my partners after a while. It doesn't happen super fast, but it always happens eventually. I felt really bad about it and thought it meant I could never really have a long term relationship that continuously involved sex and I thought that was terrible and that I was somehow broken. "Fraysexuality: You enjoy a bowl of a brand of cereal you never had before and then you watch the cereal's commercial on TV and after getting to know the mascot of the cereal well enough, you no longer wanne eat the cereal, for reasons you can not explain." (Something along those lines.) Turns out the solution is to have partners who are ok with me occasionally eating different brands of cereal :)

[@MelonHere20]

I always say "I'm Lego my ageosexual" to my friend lmao to make the same joke XD good to know I'm not the only one

[@LibraryofAcousticMagic3240]

too much information but this explains some dreams

[@Theretheret]

i got to know what aegosexuality is in a tik tok i watched before [today] and as soon as i understood what it is i just went: "I CAN FINALLY SAY I LOVE GARLIC BREAD AND NOT FEEL LIKE A LIAR" so yeh i cried out of happiness

[@Barbie.da.stoner420]

Preach My friend

[@Theretheret]

@@Barbie.da.stoner420 im atheist so i don't really preach lol

[@Barbie.da.stoner420]

@@Theretheret my bad dude

[@Theretheret]

@@Barbie.da.stoner420 i really don't understand what you mean?-

[@Omneyvdwatering]

I think we respond so much stronger to the cuteness because we don't get distracted by the sexual tension. In this way it indeed is a super power

[@rin-cp2mj]

This just made me realize that I might just be aegoromantic. Before, I thought I was biromantic because I’ve had crushes on people from multiple genders. I’ve never really felt like I needed to get together with them, I just liked liking them and didn’t want anything to come up from it. I thought this was just me being stupid and shy and not having enough time for a relationship. My crush just asked me out last night and I didn’t know why I wasn’t like… jumping for joy like my other friend who had the same experience did. I still haven’t replied yet and I’m not sure how to do that. Anyway, thanks for helping me realize this!

[@DarkSpriteGirl]

I found out that was missing within my life in April 2022, and after some studying upon the internet and the realization of that I never want a love-relationship with a partner, I came to discover that I fall in both microlabels "Aegoromantic Aegosexual". Like what they say about it, completely fits me. I felt more attracted and drawn to fictional characters than I ever did with a real boy/man in my entire life (XD). I thought for a long time that there's something's wrong with me and stuff like "I needed to be in a relationship like my sisters and to have grandkids, society and everything etc" but that truly turned me off and the idea of it terrifies me. Since I've seen the video of Jaiden Animations being Aroace, I thought of maybe I am that too. But then I found out about those two microlabels. Honestly, I never felt happier about myself since I found this. I don't need to be in a relationship (and never will either) to be happy (like I always thought I needed to be to follow an example like my sisters), I'm perfectly happy now as I am and that's enough for me. This new me feels never better before and I'm totally embracing this

[@Zay_M.]

As someone who is aegosexual it makes me very happy to see you do a video on it! Thank you so much Lynn!

[@errohaze2683]

There was brief period where I thought I was aegosexual, but on further reflection that wasn't true! I actually just have very strong aesthetic attraction and I occasionally enjoy seeing physical intimacy between characters that are in love. Not a fan of actual porn/smut.

[@liamodonovan6610]

So excited to see you lynn always love your videos you are a very comforting person love you as you are your amazing great to hear about the lesser known sexual orientation awesome video lynn you are one of the few channels that makes videos on the lesser known part of the lgbt

[@cineful]

I recently found out I fall under this micro label and I've never been happier. I feel so seen. Thank you for this video!

[@ryn2844]

At this point I'd consider myself a bit of an elder ace because I've been active in the community for over 7 years, and I have to say that seeing words shift in meaning just really annoys me. I know feeling like that is not helpful because it won't change anything, but still. It's just frustrating to see influencers so authoritatively say things that 7 years ago would've been laughed away. Aego means something so much more vague than it did when I first learned about what autochoris was. But at this point is it even useful to correct people? They're going to do whatever anyways. Autochoris wasn't an orientation in itself. It was a descriptor for the tendency to have a certain type of s3xual fantasy, specifically the type in which the person having the fantasy wasn't involved in it. A third person fantasy, like internally watching a movie about other people doing it. It literally translates to 'self-without' (Greek). It's not about smut. It's not an orientation. It's a type of fantasy. This was a common experience among aces, but not exclusive to aces. The term was coined by researcher Anthony Bogaert in his book about aces. There's some pretty cringy stuff in the book unfortunately, which is part of the reason people wanted to call it something different, and aego was coined. Cupio is a lack of attraction, but a presence of desire to engage in activity. The opposite of that would be a lack of desire with a presence of attraction, and the word for that is orchid. Sometimes lith/akoi (often misspelled akio) is posited as an opposite to cupio, but it's not a perfect opposite, because lith/akoi involves attraction fading when it's reciprocated so there's no desire to follow through, rather than just straight up presence of attraction with absence of desire. Also, aego is incorrect Latin. It should be anego, which again translates to 'without self'. Grammatically, there has to be an 'n' between 'a' and 'ego'. But well, words are words, which means they'll forever be subject to change. At this point saying 'x is defined as y' is more of a prescriptive statement than a descriptive statement, as in you're really saying 'my opinion is that x should be defined as y'. By saying 'x is defined as y', you're spreading that definition of y, and depending on how much influence you have, you might just make that the most widely accepted definition.

[@LibraryofAcousticMagic3240]

thank you this helps my understanding.

[@ceciliapugliese6265]

I recently discovered I´m greyromantic aegosexual and seing this video made me feel more confident of my identity, gracias.

[@JaraTheCat]

5:36 Bless you! Person in the background.

[@sofiaspeakman8086]

Microlabels are valid

[@captenarii3938]

seeing other aego alternative flags are interesting to see too! (aside from the asexual flag with the triangle and ace colors are upside down within the flag)

[@123eggolivr]

Thank you so much for making these videos! I've been trying my best to understand more about Aegosexuality especially since I've been wondering if I am demisexual or aegosexual and even though I don't understand aegosexuality as much as I would like to your videos help A lot and I just wanted to say thanks! 💙

[@cushmanarmitige2369]

How did i miss this video? Love the channel an i'm aego, how did that happen? Great takes all round.

[@xxbiahbrazilxx2132]

Loved the video as always! Also I'm thinking of using the nb name Bee! I think it's pretty cute! 🥰💛💛🐝

[@anvithequarsonist]

It is :D I see a non-binary bee in the background too in the video itself!

[@DanikaThing1]

I didn’t know how I was going to come out as Aego to my friends, but the way you kinda described it (after the first tiktok) is perfect, I’m going to say it like that when I decide to come out!

[@kaylabutcher3565]

I literally made a song about how I love anime men more than real men lmao

[@bryn8946]

This one was new to me too. Thanks for posting all that you do Lynn!

[@samskelly]

Just discovered your channel! Subscribed :)

[@Andromedaaa_]

I'm aegoromantic, it's really difficult to find someone like me, but I'm always happy to see my aegosexual buddies

[@NekoShogun]

Huh, learned a bit today. Wasn't expecting a new descriptor for myself. Lol. Also Ace Dad is awesome!

[@j8521]

Hi Lynn. I'm so glad to have seen your video today I've had a horrible week including a family death but your video's helped to cheer me up so thank you so much :)

[@kellabdjfoo]

I’m aegoromantic and aegosexual and I didn’t realize it until I randomly found it on the aroace wiki

[@Cosmo22_star]

So basically, i’ve already known i was Ace at that time. A video about asexual microlabels popped up on yt, and i wanted to know mine :) And boom, i’m Aegosexual 😎

[@espresso_foryour_depresso3294]

* seeing content about my sexuality *- * happy dancy dance *-

[@vintagecrayon4504]

Yeeeee same! :)

[@fuzzydays5699]

Personally found out about aegosexuality through this video. An interesting revelation. Thank you for this video! :)

[@robmob2.095]

5:01 it's not really the popularized aego flag😅 I'm glad to see you interested in our orientation 😁 A Nice aegosexual internet traveler

[@lynnsaga1397]

Yeah I've heard it has multiple designs, I'm not sure which one is the most common so if you wanna lmk I'd love to learn more as I'm working on merch rn and want to have a aegosexual pride design!

[@megamusicmessenger]

I like the flag that is shown on the thumbnail the most and it's similar to the ace flag .

[@robmob2.095]

@@lynnsaga1397 the popularized one looks a lot like the asexual flag! It should be easy to find it if you search on google, hope this helps smh 😁😁😁😁

[@ryttyr14]

I would like to say that I kinda always knew, but that would be a lie. I've never been attracted to having sex, but since I enjoy self-pleasuring I figured that I just hadn't found someone I was attracted to yet. However I came across the term aegosexual on some LGBTQIA+ wiki whilst researching labels for one of my (many) made up characters and my reaction was just: Oh, that's me, well that explains a lot. I found out that I'm arospike as well in a very similar way, just stumbling across a label that perfectly described me. (Right now I can't remember if that was before or after finding out that I was aegosexual though.)

[@korok_05]

i love how much i learn from this channel :)

[@marymaker6225]

Yaaaay new video thanks for educating us!

[@KogetaiKid]

2:49 🤓 Um actually, aegosexual is NOT the opposite of cupiosexual. The opposite of cupiosexual would be orchidsexual (A grey-sexual micro label in which someone does feel sexual attraction but doesn’t want a sexual relationship or encounter). Here are the definitions of all these three labels Aegosexual: Someone who feels a disconnect between themselves and the subject of sexual arousal Cupiosexual: Someone who doesn’t feel sexual attraction but desires a sexual relationship or encounter Orchidsexual: Someone who does feel sexual attraction but doesn’t desire a sexual relationship or encounter As you can see, aegosexual ISN’T the opposite of cupiosexual. Don’t believe everything you see on Tiktok🤓 (I know I put nerd emojis, but as an aegosexual myself who doesn’t experience sexual attraction, I thought I should bring this up. I hope this helps, as you stated that you don’t know everything about the LGBTQ community. I don’t know everything about it either :)

[@pinjakauppinen4692]

Hey!! This is me!! I'm aegosexual

[@lynnsaga1397]

YAY! I hope you like the video!

[@pinjakauppinen4692]

@@lynnsaga1397 I loved it!

[@acereporter266]

OK I was 53 years old before I discovered I was Ace and this was why.... Microlabels weren't a thing, and the definition of asexuality wasn't expanded until I was 44 ... and it was another decade until I heard about any of it. I cannot hear the first 2 videos, though.

[@chococandy396]

Wow! That's a different aegosexual flag (4:47)! I had no idea it existed! I had usually seen the other one 🌼

[@AnthroFiend]

Welp…I think I’m Aego. My comfortability with sexual content definitely varies, but this also sounds a lot like me. Being Aegoromantic also seems possible. THANK YOU for sharing these Tiktoks! I wouldn’t have known enough about this identity to know that it suited me otherwise.

[@cocobeebunnied7371]

I also love learning about parts of the community I’m not a part of, I didn’t know much about this :D

[@heytheresport]

ive been wondering if im bisexual or biromantic but i couldnt really pin down on what part of the asexual spectrum i was on. i think im aegosexual, but its a bit embarassing just saying it here on a video ABOUT it for me lol. like to anyone else ill just say asexual or whatever but im pretty sure im aegosexual, so uh yeah 😅

[@RRW359]

Aegosexuality is the exact reason microlabels need to exist. You don't feel the kind of sexual attraction most people seem to feel but you definitely feel sexual attraction (or at least something that seems a lot like it); the vague description of asexuality of "little-no sexual attraction" is completely unhelpful when you feel it and may even feel it often and makes you feel like you don't belong, when you see a description of something that's considered asexual and is close to if not exactly what you are feeling then you know where you stand and feel confidant calling yourself a member of the community.

[@artvulture456]

I honestly don't know if I'm aegosexual or just afraid of sex 😂

[@ltheoddboy]

when i found thiz label i waz fucking thrilled. like i waz so happy. i felt so lozt and confuzed becauze i didnt want anything sexual perzonally, but i still FELT it and i still FANTASIZED about it. so being asexual juzt... never quite fit. i found the label after an artizt i like talked about it and i googled it. i literally couldnt stop smiling, id never felt more found before.

[@Morpheus451]

The term aegosexual always irks me because whoever coined it made a linguistic mistake. It is made up of the prefix “a” (not) and “ego” (I) to describe people who do not want themselves involved; but when “a” stands before a vowel it should become “an” (as in “anarchy or “anorexia”), in this case forming “anegosexual”. Without the “n” people combine the vowels to pronounce aegosexual like “agosexual” or even “egosexual”, the latter being the opposite of what is intended.

[@vintagecrayon4504]

It's fine. Most people just look it up anyways. (It's like eggosexual).

[@INGIE32]

Well... I might have figured something out about myself.

[@jasonhollins4493]

Thank you for what you are doing you are the coolest person

[@tastyeyes7]

So happy there ageosexual video!!

[@s.h.4818]

So I'm *early* early now

[@lynnsaga1397]

It's ok I'm normally early early too

[@nixie_chan]

I feel so seen on this one.

[@amoris5202]

I can't figure out what part of the ace spec I am or if I even am so like somebody please help!!! Thoughts on seggs/risque behavior/the idea: Yeah it's cool. Very aesthetically pleasing (Lucifer on Netflix is good) I like women being comfortable in their own body! A good example of this is my reaction to Harley Quinn in suicide squad on the stripper pole in the beginning Thoughts on the action: Eh- I feel very indifferent on it Would I do it: Maybe??? Like on a scale of 1 to 10. 1 being completely ace and 10 being allo I'm like an 8 or a 7 maybe PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP!

[@megamusicmessenger]

I am curious how people pronounce it . As in Ago or Ego

[@kaiyodei]

I would assume, the "A "and the "EGO" seperate, otherwise it sounds like "eggosexual"

[@vintagecrayon4504]

Eggo. Like the waffle. :)

[@nova_beloved]

Pride month is just around the conner and I'm so excited 💖💜💙

[@lynnsaga1397]

Same! I've super excited about it this year

[@nova_beloved]

@@lynnsaga1397 ya I'm gonna try to come out to my family sense there the last people I need to tell. Do you have any idea of how I can come out to them so it makes sense to them?

[@hhqg0]

aegosexual tiktok is a thing??? omg:DD

[@eredemia5912]

For some reason I pronounce it angiosexual.. which is definitely not right.

[@anvithequarsonist]

You mean flowersexual? Lol, I think angiosperms are flowers

[@kaiyodei]

mirolabling is bad because "I think I'm asexual or something, 98% of the time I only desire fictional men. It hurts I can't be with my anime or videogame Husbandos, I'm cis-ish, I can say I'm queer right?"

[@vintagecrayon4504]

When was that whole bit in the video? That's fictosexual (not touching that cause it's controversial and idk). Aegosexual is a microlabel of asexual that means one can have sexual fantasies, enjoy sexual content, and all that, but not feel sexual attraction towards people and/or not want to have sex. Microlabeling is used to better label yourself if you choose to do so, and isn't harmful at all. (It's still really funny to me that I found you under this video lol)