IT WASN'T EASY! POSTPARTUM COMPLICATIONS // OUR STORY

[@brendawood3427]

I do not think the US has anything this special for parents to stay together with the baby. Every hospital should have this capability. You two are so strong and beautiful

[@victoriacannaday8960]

They have this Beautiful set up in Albuquerque USA Hospitals. They are birthing Suites.

[@VanetaRogers1]

Yes, they have this in the US in most hospitals but not all

[@sandygraetz5166]

We have this in Australia! And breast feeding nurses who help to make sure baby attaches correctly … and do mum can feed without pain. I trust you feeding pain has gone away! Your breast milk is good to smoothie over you areola area. Has healing properties! So sorry about the infection! I had mastitis blocked milk glands hard lumps which have fever in breast… you feel so bad! But your infection sounded really bad. So glad you are better and going home with baby Luca

[@helenholt1161]

Yes, they are pretty common now here in the USA

[@katalinas9264]

C'mon now. Smh. Of course we do.

[@Swede-m7q]

Breast feeding gets so much better after the first month! What a beautiful family you have created. Congratulations. 🌺

[@TeresaLibrary]

Watching this reminded me of how sad I felt when my own baby girl (who is now 21 years old) had jaundice and needed to wear a light blanket and get poked constantly. I also had a staph infection and was hospitalized for ten days. It was hard to stay positive. I could hear in your voices how hard you were working to hold it together and my heart hurt for you. Thank goodness it passes. It is a relief when you have your beautiful baby home! Sending you love and positive vibes!

[@ruataimmobiliare8606]

😍🥰💝

[@MegaBpop]

A pediatrician once told me “one of the hardest moments with a newborn and your new life are the first two weeks after the baby is born”. Sara rest a lot. Give yourselves a couple of months. You 3 have been through a lot. The household inside and outside projects can wait, until you both are better rested. I wish you lived near us, bc we would bring you food. God Bless you 3.

[@candacemeifert-polk7383]

So cute! She is precious. Happy Father’s Day Luca. ( March 19) and enjoy every moment💕🌟Sorry for all you had to go through. But the three of you are together and that is most important. Get well Sara! 🙏

[@wanya_telborn]

She is absolutely! Perfect! Pure sweetness

[@mothermedicinemusic]

Such beauty and love, as a midwife of 25 years - most all babies loose weight and they should regain their birth weight by the time they are 2 weeks old. Breastfeeding is the most wonderful relationship with your baby and the best food, makes life a lot easier. Nipples acclimate within two weeks, there is wonderful nipple creams to help you and if the baby’s got a good latch it will make nursing easier, so if you are experiencing a longer painful nursing make sure you see a lactation consultant. I know the world of discovery is magical during this time! So thrilled for your family!!! Blessings beautiful people - Nana Kelli in Florida

[@lwest5686]

fully agree on lactation consultant - it may seem that the latch looks okay - after all they're eating right? but it can be what seems like a really minor adjustment that corrects the nipple pain you won't believe it.

[@shepardlover5863]

Congratulations Luca and Sara! Luce is beautiful! You are wonderful, been following you for years. So happy for you!!

[@chillinwithdylan636]

Mother Medicine Music *lose weight 😎✌

[@pattimuscarella6369]

This is so true! I nursed both of my children for a year! By 5 months, they were starting to eat off the table and the feedings got less they slept through the night by 6 weeks and by the tenth month they only nursed in the morning and before bed at night! They are now 58 and 47! 🤣 I wouldn't have missed the experience as it was the best experience of my life! It's wonderful because you can travel and not worry about washing bottles and nipples! Now, with disposable diapers it's even better! Sarah, I'm sure you've been told already that the thing you must remember is to drink lots of water, or fluids and eat lots of food because you need at least 3,000 calories a day while nursing. I had the best figure of my life while nursing as my boobs were big and my belly was flat by 4 weeks. It was also wonderful that you nursed while you were ill as it helped your uterus do what it's supposed to do afterbirth! Enjoy your little princess! 💖 👸

[@gebi4pejo1]

Yes feeding was very painful at first I used Bepanthen creams at first never wanted cracked nipples and then all of a sudden the pain stopped in a matter of weeks this was a long time ago now my girls are going thru this feeding their babies 1 now and the other in a about 5 weeks a new baby arrives..

[@billfields9716]

I loved it I am a grown man and I cried almost the entire video thank you guys so much for sharing this beautiful chapter of your lives I have watched you since you renovated the truck camper and went to Alaska down to Ushuaia and got stuck during quarantine and this is was just beautiful thank you thank you thank you my day is made!🤗🌞❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@findingbeautyinlife-withtr4381]

I am sorry that you had such a rough start to parenthood, but seeing you home at Luckyland & so happy is the best thing ever!! CONGRATULATIONS

[@ThePjl110]

During my working life (as a librarian) when one of my coworkers was expecting, we always had a baby shower. My gift (always) was 5 frozen homemade dinners. (I always made a nice card to that effect.) I would talk with the mother-to-be afterwards and get any likes/dislikes. It was so nice to deliver the dinners as they were getting back home, knowing that they wouldn't have to worry about dinner for a while, letting them both rest and deal with the newborn. I would love to do that for you! :-)

[@davidirish2941]

You both will be fantastic parents. Wish you all the best for the future. Take care. 👍🇨🇦

[@debraroberts8126]

You are a beautiful family ,i love watching you all,thankyou very much for bringing your family to our homes,❤️❤️❤️

[@kkatmom]

Such a journey you’ve all had. Sometimes the happiest moments are met with trials. It’s good to see your beautiful family all together at the end. Sara, you’re so strong. While your body was fighting the infection, you were still nourishing your beautiful Luce. Happy belated Father’s Day Luca! You are so caring and loving to your beautiful family. It’s a joy to be able to watch the beginning of your beautiful, precious family.

[@teresaacevedo1731]

New Subscriber today . In the US women are usually pushed out of the hospital within 24 hours . If a c section it’s 3 days . I’m glad you get to stay in the hospital longer . I feel women need a longer hospital stay to adjust . Fathers Day in the USA is in June each year . Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Congratulations

[@shadowdanzer4878]

Glad to hear that after a rough start everything is fine. She looks so cute with her headband at the end! She is the spitting image of Sara. So happy to come along on the journey with you!

[@lynnrenee8369]

It is so nice that they allowed Luca to stay in the room. Happy Father’s Day Luca and Prayers for healing and good health to the beautiful new Mother.

[@zerozilchnada5373]

The health care you received is so much better than what I recieved in Australia in 2005. Our baby girl Tessa and I went through the same with no re admission. They even later admitted in hindsight we both had required further hospital treatment. I have had two open surgeries & 3 strokes in the years since her birth.. But our precious now Miss 16yr old Tessa and I are blessed.

[@jennifermackinnon6982]

it is so apparent that Italy has very good hospitals. it seems as if you got the best care and that is great. a few hiccups but remember, as everyone told me when I had a tiny baby oh, it will get better. it will be crazy for a while but it will get better and then it will be the most fun you ever had. sending love and congratulations from Canada

[@8675-__]

Italy and France rank number one and two for best health care on earth!

[@es5392]

She’s adorable congratulations on the arrival of your beautiful girl, wishing Sarah a speedy recovery soon much love from Australia 🥰🎀🍼💕

[@arianahoule7223]

How adorable you all are together. Ah, those hiccups are even adorable. Oh, what a world we would have if everyone loved their baby and spouses so much. I pray for World Peace and the healing of our beloved planet. May everyone who reads these words be filled with peace and joy.

[@sunnyshine4621]

Aww..She woke up hearing daddy's voice 😊. Happy Father's day Lucca. Sarah you are looking very good Momma 😍

[@yvonnekneeshaw2784]

Aren’t we blessed with medical interventions & the much needed support. Continued prayers for full return to health. Happy DADDY day! Love name Luce light ☀️ 🇨🇦❤️

[@celiasnyman2885]

It's beautiful to see her being so close to you all the time, where she belongs. Luka helping the way he does is outstanding! So so beautiful.

[@sherrydaut4910]

There has never been a birth video I have watched that has touched me so deeply. (I am 67 yrs old). You have been through so much in a short time. Your precious baby is so very lucky to be born to such loving, caring parents. God knew you were meant to be together and soon the dreams you had waiting for her will be your reality. Enjoy your little family when you are home and have a routine. I can't wait for all the new videos to come and will continue to pray for good health and happiness moving forward. Thank you for sharing your journey. Love from the USA. 🥰

[@donnaking1795]

The closest bond is built during the difficult times. Hugs to you all during this adjustment time.

[@erikawile7782]

Sometimes jaundice happens when you do delayed cord clamping. It is still so good for them but they also have so much more blood in their system that they have a hard time flushing out.

[@rachelk5720]

with my first daughter, when she was born, she and I had high fever; I remember shaking and couldn't hold her until my body temp. became normal. My daughter is now 14, a tough teenager :) and smart too! Hang in there, it will get better. love and hugs from USA.

[@rimonagale1625]

Thankfully you are healed now Sara. When nursing - if the nipple is far enough in back of baby's mouth, the nipple won't get sore. When I had my baby 31 years ago, I got help/advice on nursing from a wonderful organization called La Leche League. This was in California. You all had a very rough beginning. I hope things are better now.

[@kellyvargas6986]

For your oral antibiotics to work correctly and avoid side effects please take them correctly. 3 x day = every 8 hours, 4 x = every 6 hours etc. This advice was given to me by a doctor at my local hospital when my son had a severe sore throat , unfortunately here in the UK they tell you to take them at regular intervals throughout the day instead of saying over 24 hours so most people take them morning noon and night but they are designed to work over a set amount of hours so if you leave a long period during the night without them the bacteria begins to grow again which delays the healing process. Also the side effects such as loose bowels are more common .Also, taking Kefir or probiotic yoghurt can help your intestinal flora to recover after taking antibiotics. Healing hugs of strength.

[@lesleyhubble2976]

That’s good to know my daughter had a terrible infection and the antibiotics made her vomit

[@aguabo]

Big yes, taking probiotics right after done taking antibiotics so Sarah and baby can build good bacteria and prevent from getting infected again. Also many mothers are aware not to give the baby too many immunization shots at same time. I think they are sharing their schedule with years ahead of plan on when child can wait a long time in between for next shot. Follow mother’s instincts not doctors… Probiotics and long intervals of in-between shots are very critical steps in healthy child development. Several friends of mine took a great pressure from the nurses, and didn’t follow other mothers advice, unfortunately they are still struggling with their children’s health issue. 😢

[@colliecoform4854]

My pediatrician forty years ago stressed this when my daughter was ill. He said wake her to take the medicine rather than fitting it into waking hours. I have done this ever since.

[@lyndaplancarte4895]

So glad that you and your family are finally home where you can rest and recuperate. Beautiful baby Luce!!...thank you for sharing this very exciting journey with us!!...hugs and much love to all 3 of you!!

[@ChicReal]

I completely relate to Sarah's postpartum ordeal. My baby was a month premature and after he was born, he had jaundice. I developed complications while breastfeeding as well. My heartfelt prayers go out to you all. Much love and prayers. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

[@tinamartin1267]

I never imagined when you said you all had a tough week, just how tough your weeks were. I’m sorry you all had such a rough start, but I’m happy everyone is doing better🤗 Two of our baby’s had slight jaundice, the doctor said to set them in a sunny window as much as possible. Luckily that was enough for them and they didn’t have to spend time in hospital. Also, I understand the painful/stressful breastfeeding. With our 1st, I would cry every time he would cry to eat, I was miserable. Then felt like a failure, after 1 month, when I couldn’t do it anymore and had to switch to formula bottles. I still tried to breastfeed our other babies, but wasn’t as hard on myself when I realized I couldn’t. Sara, you are so tough, to go through birthing baby, and taking care of your baby, especially when you were so sick yourself! You are already an amazing Mami!😊 And Luca an amazing Papi! So happy you all are home, healthy and together!! Welcome home precious baby girl, Luce!!🥳 Can’t wait to see the grandparents reactions next week!! ❤️

[@pizzamondo]

Bella Luce!! How happy I am for the name selection. She certainly will bring lots of Light to your lives, and this light will be more appreciated after the somber moments you inevitably have to endure through your family journey. Brava Sara!. I wouldn't expect you to speak to the camera or even be present in the video, but you are so strong and resilient. Love can beat it all. And Luca, you may feel tired, frustrated and a little left aside for a while. But you will be highly rewarded later, when little Luce call "Papa". A big hug from Patagpnia, Argentina.

[@SheriLatulip]

Welcome to the world beautiful princess Luce...

[@stevejobe9888]

Wow! What a roller coaster y’all have been on! I’m so, so happy that you have persevered through this trial, and yes, you are stronger having done so together! Congratulations on your beautiful, adorable Luce!! She is gorgeous!! 🥰

[@kathifoynm]

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story with us. As always, you present a full picture. See you next time.

[@beatrizithurralde3150]

Gorgeous!!! And the happiness in your faces is worth a million!! All the best from now on. Big hugs to the three of you.

[@AbiNomac]

Luca we couldn’t be happier for you. What a gift from God

[@karlstinger50]

My lord, you 3 are so incredibly perfect! Thank you so much for sharing these beautiful images! ❤️❤️❤️

[@hairyscotman]

HICCUP....while falling asleep...due to a "MILK COMA"....perfect! She is gorgeous....so glad everyone is doing better....so sorry you had to go through all of that....THIS made my day!!!

[@lucindalandauer1691]

So happy for you finally moving through those hard first days. We understand completely, our baby arrived at 26 weeks with an emergency cesarean section. We spent 96 more days in the hospital. I did not have the ability to recover properly. It’s a hard season for sure. Blessings to you and your sweet Luce!

[@cristinagutierrez547]

I’ll pray for and your family🙏🏻

[@canadragonniagara964]

Luce what a beautiful name for such a little angel! Glad you are all doing well. Lots of Love and Luce from Canada. XO

[@lsabby]

My daughter had the same thing and she had to go under the lights for 5 days. I also had the painful nipple problem and cried when my daughter nursed. I would even bleed. So I feel your pain but soon it will pass. Your daughter is here and that is a beautiful miracle. God bless you and your family.

[@cathyremchuk5819]

Well I did it again, cried through the whole video! What a "rollercoaster" your little family has been through. I have to admit, I was very concerned seeing Sarah in pain but I just knew by the end of the video she would pull through. You will have quite the baby story to tell little girl when she grows up. I LOVE LOVE LOVE her name, beautiful name for a beautiful girl. I'm looking forward to seeing the Nonas video next week❤ Thank you for sharing the real ups and downs of parenthood. Hugs to all❤

[@siamgirl31]

Wow, you have been through a lot! And still beautiful smiles!!!!❤️🥰😍🙏🌻👨‍👩‍👧

[@ThePresentDayParadox]

Thanks for sharing your experience. You all have been through a lot! The hospital in Italy 🇮🇹 looks amazing. You’re getting a lot of attention and care.

[@mickeyw0831]

Dear Sara and Luca, You certainly had a tough beginning. Bless Luca for helping right from the beginning, because mommy’s do get sick. Welcome Luce, the perfect name for your beautiful Baby Girl. Your video had a wonderful happy ending.❤️

[@jalieeen]

What an experience! Jaundice is common issue for newborns. You will always have a story to tell with your first birth. She is beautiful! Congratulations !

[@sheila6942]

Everyone will celebrate her birthday in Ireland and America. St Patrick’s Day!!

[@emmaderuiter5192]

I was hesitating to watch as I had a feeling it was not an easy one to watch but of course had no idea what you went through. Oh my, so much! So happy you are both alright and came through all the challenges. Luce is just adorable & so aware. Bless all of you & many happy days ahead are wished for you. Thank you for sharing this precious time with all of us. 🥰😍💞💓💕💖

[@demetramonocrussoPsyched]

@Luca & Sara, I feel for you. In the beginning, I had blisters and mastitis and depression, woke up every 2 hrs and fed my baby son every 2 hours throughout the day. Everyday I swore it would be the last I would breastfeed... Once we got past the 2-month mark, breastfeeding began to be super easy. Luca you are a super great dad and husband. Bravo! And Sara, hang in there. You're doing great! It's really tough... but... imagine that in a few months, you can Leave Everything and Wonder without worrying about having milk with you or clean bottles and warm milk, etc.! It is a liberating experience and a beautiful bond!

[@nicoleziegler6112]

My heart aches for you guys - nothing has gone easy for you - especially for Sara. Sara has shown such grace, grit and determination through it all....... And after having two kids I can tell you that the first few months after each of them are overwhelming!!!! But believe me it gets easier! Enjoy your baby - she is beautiful!

[@jeannettecrane3571]

So glad you guys are home with your beautiful Luce

[@lucymiranda1757]

Glad to see Sara fully recovered you guys make a beautiful couple and now with your beautiful daughter wishing you many blessings

[@charlottethien3749]

Take care. Hope you recover quickly and completely. The three of you will go home, and all will be fine and settled , and all will be ok .

[@judit1783]

So sorry you went through all that. Luce is adorable!! USA father's day is on the 3rd Sunday in June. Mother's day on 2nd Sunday in May.

[@DeeDee-vl1kt]

I remember how overwhelmed I felt after delivering my first baby girl 💗 I remember crying when I finally got a moment to myself.. .but you have an excellent support system and in a few days, there will be a routine and then everything will fall into place. If I could talk to my younger self of those days, I would tell myself "You have good common sense. Don't overthink things. What you feel is the best thing to do is probably the BEST THING TO DO.... for you AND BABY Lúce❤️💗💗💗❤️🙏🙏 Father God, I pray for good health, PEACE, joy, and healing 🙏🙏🙏🙏In Jesus'Name Amen

[@jessicabey275]

Happy Father’s Day Luca and your are an absolute gem! Lanolin amd cooling pads was a god send for me

[@ednaortega8881]

oh Sara so sorry you had to go through the hospital stay ... but so so happy you are both doing well. Now enjoy life you three!

[@lori_lady_Egg]

And the stars blinked as they were jealous of her shine- Atticus 🥰

[@colliecoform4854]

So sorry you got hit with so much for the first few weeks of your baby. My son required the lights to treat his jaundice. I had to stay in the hospital because of a hemorrhaging problem and just as I was able to go home my son had to get the light treatment. I was able to stay for the additional two days because of my blood count, received another transfusion, but was able to stay on the maternity floor with him. This was forty five years ago so it was not as open to mother and child not being separated. Husbands did not stay overnight a lot of scary times alone. Thankfully the times have changed and you are now home with your new little baby girl. She is adorable. Much love, laughter and light to you and your daughter as you start this journey. May she bring you a !lifetime of happiness.

[@nancysantamaria3924]

Soooo happy for you beautiful family!! Welcome Luce to this crazy and awesome world!!! Many prayers, blessings and much love from Canada 💗💗💗🙏🙏🙏

[@oghippiechick]

This is the second Sunday in a row I've cried...hard, watching your birth videos. I'm so glad everyone is home and healthy!

[@michellhuber3397]

Sending you hugs and support. I went through something similar with my son 31 years ago. It’s very difficult in those early days, but you are both such positive parents. Stay strong sweet little family! 😘😘

[@LeeLee-mb7ho]

My daughter birth was similar that infection hit me pretty quickly 48 hours after my daughter was born. I contributed the infection to , too people in the cookie jar, lol. I had to go back into the hospital for IV antibiotics it happens you guys hang tight. Your family is beautiful, congratulations 🎉

[@rolandestrandquist6038]

Awwww she is adorable

[@sophialewis5642]

Praying this is the last of the extreme challenges for Sara and baby girl and you Luca. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@amac3502]

Absolutely beautiful, your princess of light. Luce

[@lauraalexander9810]

Happy Fathers Day! Enjoy time with your beautiful baby Luce and gorgeous wife. 💖🦋🌸

[@elizabethvictor9620]

She is BEAUTIFUL!!!💗

[@robindorrell9347]

Dear Sara & Luca, you two are awesome and inspiring! Thanks for taking us on your journey. And your baby girl is beautiful, precious, all the good things. Congratulations 💕🌟 🌈

[@makalapuamegs1056]

You are so right that pregnancy goes way beyond the 10 months but I have faith that you three will make it through. We have a saying here in America; what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! Sarah you can only do what you can do, and that’s okay! Love you so much! Be happy and once this passes you’ll look back and remember the miracle that has transpired.

[@jimlundstrom2986]

So happy for this beautiful family. After a rough start it was wonderful for your closing smiling faces, although one with hiccups. Luce, a beautiful name for this precious little one. 😇

[@lindamcgough3645]

I was a maternity nurse in the US, and I have to say, the Italian set up is beautiful, sensitive. ❤

[@lileelisamc.4722]

Congratulations and blessings! So happy for you both. Welcome to the world baby girl!

[@whirltraveller1350]

Wonderful dear people. It has been great to share in your wonderful moments and we wish all three of you God's blessings. Caio Luce, Sara and Lucca. Roger and Jeanette, Calgary.

[@spellru23]

Luca and Sara - You both are warriors. Always remember LEAW motto, as Sara has always said, we work to solve problems. You will be fine, and in a few days, all of this will be behind you with a beautiful future ahead, raising your baby girl.

[@doitee52]

Guys....from America....we are praying for you every day. Many blessings on all three of you. God bless.

[@michelelynn6914]

So happy Sara & Luce are both doing well. Such a beautiful family.

[@AbiNomac]

What a blessing this hospital was, in all ways. They lived up to promise.

[@jenboyles5381]

You guys are doing a great job! This is a tough transition even for the 2nd or 3rd kiddo. You're all looking well despite the challenges. ❤️

[@barbarasloman6188]

So glad you are better and now the 3 of you are together……stay well and be happy…..Mazel Tov!

[@sandrabutcher1961]

Belated Happy Fathers Day Luca, sending you ALL LOTS OF LOVE from the UK x

[@omavic9560]

Luce! Light! What a beautiful name! …May your days continue to illuminate your lives! We love you!

[@angelagentry562]

Here in the United States Father’s Day is in June. Happy Father’s Day Luca! My oldest son had jaundice as well. He was fine after a few days. He was also under the lights I send you love, it will be ok. Welcome to the World Luce!!! ♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗

[@lauradeluca6520]

Luce😍😍benvenuta! Fast recovery sara🙏forza a tutti💪💗

[@Malla222]

So glad you’re all back home and doing better. Luce is simply beautiful. Truly, la vita bella! ❤️

[@memmar1]

Beautiful Light that shines so bright. Y'all are the best family in the world! Shine bright like a diamond. Sarah I'm sorry you went through so much. And Luca I'm sorry you watched your family suffer. Welcome home with your bundle of joy. She's beautiful! Just like her parents.

[@judidigregorio9287]

So pleased you three are home safely rest up and enjoy every minute of baby girl. I am sending much love ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@matrixio622]

Wish you all the best for the future. Take care

[@onedandylion]

What a journey you have all been on - and how wonderful to now be home, as a family. Luce is delightful and I look forward to watching her beautiful life unfold. Blessings to you all.

[@Ski7440]

This update video was the best part of my evening . 💕🌹🌈😘😍

[@ZonDog]

So happy for you both everything turned out great for you and baby girl!! So wonderful,!💕💓👍🤶

[@brianfilkowski]

Welcome home!

[@annacifelli580]

Baby girl LUCIA e’ una Vera bambolina Iddio la Benedica ❤️❤️

[@joannemazza1657]

Tanti auguri sono caduta la prima volta sul vostro video 1 mese fa quando Luce aveva gia 6 mesi guardando vostri compagni THE NEWBIES che como voi viaggiono in furgone camper, con un bambino. Auguri carissimi💖🌺🥰💞🙏🙏🙏🙏💞💞

[@susanlombardo8444]

How BEAUTIFUL!!!! I am not sure if I missed it or not, the naming of the Princess! Hugs to you all!👍🇮🇹😘

[@mindyd952]

Lucia is her name

[@elenanicoleta6152]

@@mindyd952 Is Luce(light) not Lucia.

[@leaw]

Luce 🤩

[@Dawnc-7]

Ooops! got to the end of your video, "Luce", ' Light'... I Love It!!!!

[@johnstelluto9101]

What a beautiful baby, Sara, Luca and beautiful name. My sister's name is Lucia and I almost suggested that to you last week! I'm happy to hear you overcame all your challenges through the love and support of your family. Now you're back home and can't wait to see you work on your biggest project, Luce! Auguri to the both of you. Our father's day is in June. Ciao amici.😊

[@robinhoward4204]

I've missed seeing a lot of your videos as I have mainly been following your Sicily journey, but I am trying to catch up with earlier videos. The love you have for each other and your daughter is so amazing. It's like you two share the same heart and lungs - when one of you is going through a tough time, the other one does all the breathing and being strong for the other one.