Why? The R Spot Episode 20

[@miamayamo]

“Why are we teaching our kids to manage their misery ?” THIS! 👏🏾

[@5onediva]

"We don't get to tell people how to love us. We get to experience their loving and then choose if we want to participate" Honey you blessed me with this right here. I had to write it in my journal and post it on FB. Thank you for that. That little piece fed my soul so much!!!!

[@44Stephieb]

These videos are priceless! Thank you Ms. Vanzant for taking time out of your life to perform this service! And it's free!!!!

[@lornab7613]

I'm always amazed at how well you speak. No notes, no waffle, always the perfect way to get your point across. 💜

[@kitten8249]

Sometimes I listen to you Iyanla, and I feel like you're speaking directly to my life. Thank you.

[@Kiwiwanderer]

She’s honest and spot on.

[@kitten8242]

This is one of my favorite r spot videos to date. I've listened to it quite a few times. This topic has a direct connection to episode 6, "the relationship you are having with yourself". I am starting to discover that and it is helping me to understand why I am in some current relationships. Thanks Iyanla!

[@danjuvairthegod8881]

Truth! It doesn't make sense loving someone that doesn't love you back, it just don't make sense. And some men always go for looks but what they don't know it's not all the time a female that has model looks is ment for you or even someone good.... Having a good personality, Being honest, Being trustworthy is what helps to make up what i call a good woman.

[@petercord4300]

thank you god for sending us miss iyanla we all need this information.all of us men and woman .amen

[@boundsgarneff5157]

Peter Cord i agree with ur words. i love this woman and she helped me to change many things = fix my broken pieces.

[@petercord4300]

Bounds Garneff open-mindedness willingness these are gifts that I had gotten because I had in my life today I am willing to do anything for a positive new Rider better life

[@boundsgarneff5157]

Peter Cord me too, i have been working hard on myself since 2014; I feel 90% healthier in every aspect of my life. Cheers to ur progress 🍷 , have a good night im gonna sleep.

[@dovetales3]

Why? Because we are rooted in selfishness and we want what we want, even if it's not good for us. We crazy!!! but there is Hope. That hope is a willingness to be better, live better and to love better. Luv u Miss Iyanla thanks for the words of wisdom. God Bless

[@minecraftluva73]

where was this message 21 years ago? great message

[@ngwhite6251]

You got me over here 🤔 Thank you for the thought provoking questions.

[@ElizabethAnnYang]

Iyanla, as always, entertaining, insightful and honest. I especially appreciated your honesty concerning your own relationship missteps. Even someone like you has troubling figuring it out sometimes. I admire and respect you even more now. You are undeniably a breath of fresh air.

[@e.rachelfreelon5743]

thank you for this message so many will benefit from this... truly thank you.

[@barbaratraub2859]

Special Lady helping and guiding with warmth, understanding, love. Thank you

[@niecybaby1960]

Why! FEAR! But I'm working on it!

[@rebeccadakin3536]

Thank you. Just thank you for this series. The most insightful that I've found thus far! "Why? Just why? Why?" Man. I needed that.

[@belindakae724]

Awesome, encouraging, thought provoking, and crystallising as always Mother Iyanla. Thank you 😘

[@p_virtuous]

Preach! This is simply spot on....beginning to end.

[@trenaromain2817]

This was an old video but it helped me so very much in my current relationship. Thank you Iyanla for this.

[@Btheobee]

what a great video.. goes to my top five. thank you Iyanla.. and as I asked my self why I want to be in a relationship I found that I want to have someone to care for me to love me to be there every time I need him. it looks to me like I want to fulfill my self with another person, to absorve someones energy and I don't like that... but thank god I dont go into a relationship when I don't feel smt good is in there. it's hard to ask the why's but you must! Thank you Iyanla soooo much for your time..

[@asiadavis6402]

I've been divorced twice and I also took a lot of notes and did a lot of work on my self. And I stayed for all the same reasons..lol But I Grew and in greatful for that

[@latoyabrown201]

Right on time as usual Iyanla 👏

[@christinav620]

This was excellent thank you. Exactly what I needed to hear today!

[@toniquebarker5855]

You hit the nail on the head with all the reasons why you stayed, you spoke to me! WOW!

[@salamanderthedj]

oh iyanla honey, you are indeed a great mother! reading living through the meantime now, am.learning so.much about myself! thank you and may God continue to give you wisdom!

[@Darkempress45]

Taking me to church Queen Iyanla! I love u and have been following you since 2007. Your books have been my guiding force for 10 years. When I forget, I pull your books back out. I absolutely love this video! Please keep them going!

[@normabarros3124]

this is so anointed by God thank you search Revelation for me right now I've been divorced 2 times I thought I needed closure from my ex-husband the first one but after listening to you I don't he probably doesn't have the answers I can't force someone to love me the way I want to be loved and it's not even loving I love that thank you

[@rodrickwjohnson3818]

I have to say you have been all in my stuff. You are truly blessing to my spirit, heart and mind. I love you and the ministry your walking in. May God continue to bless you.

[@workinprogress3329]

Great video! Too many questions that I don't wanna hear but I kno need to be answered.

[@antonzanker]

thank you so much for this teaching, it is opening my inner eyes! Oh my goodness, is this precious!!!

[@raymundofantastico]

This has answered EVERY ONE of my "Why" questions.. Thanks so much for your outlook and perspectives Iyanla!!! You're a reminder that, Almighty God, Christ Jesus, has created EVERY ONE of us for a special purpose..

[@peaceful559]

Great question! Makes me think of a lot of things. As always thanks and God Bless!

[@stephenpughz]

This made me realize why I love my partner :) Thank you :)

[@astriutari]

I love you Iyanla. You shoot me in to the bottom. You wake me up. Thank you Iyanla. God bless you

[@sweetpotatoepieeee]

I just love you Iyanla:)

[@DavidJAmado]

This really did a number on me. "Why?" "Because I have become cynical, have lost hope for someon e better and I also have never seen a healthy relationship between two (black) men up close before. My desires feel abstract or too demanding so I settle.

[@karziflora]

Thank you Iyanla for sharing your priceless wisdom, Love and Blessings 😇💟🌈

[@charm491]

This is video is simply the best.....just what I needed.

[@temitadegold1961]

YOU'RE SIMPLY THE BEST!!! GREAT WORDS FROM THE THRONE OF GRACE. HALLELUJAH 🙌

[@ajajohari1]

Interestingly, this also applies to toxic/abusive parents

[@evangelistcharityshorter4884]

Wow Powerful! Why why why! I deserve better and i will get better. Thanks this just blessed my socks off. I can finally let go of this toxic marriage.

[@susanhanifin3397]

Thank you for all the work you do to bring me, and so many others thought provoking questions and encouragement to help along our journeys.

[@cocoloso030]

As always Thank You for your words of wisdom.

[@soniamanso8012]

Excellent 👏. I love you Iyanla. thank you so much

[@misshappinessveryhappy1507]

thank you miss Iyanla Vanzant

[@unapologeticfeminine]

Another powerful video! Whoo!

[@ladylacyjg]

that was deep!

[@clj8360]

Powerful!

[@delainalovell177]

Loving the R spot.

[@perfectlyimperfect6781]

This is one of the best video!!

[@jenniferwilson1661]

POWERFUL VIDEO! WOW!

[@mshunt18]

Thank you ❤️🙌🏽👍🏾

[@loveself6396]

They stay because they want to post pics on Valentine's Day to fool ppl into thinking their happy. When really their miserable and settled. I blame social media.

[@lilianoliveira5027]

Cherelle Spates Who is they!? Let's have compassion for others as it may be easy when it's not happening to us

[@carinebaptiste7386]

Lol

[@imanisankofa]

I so needed to hear this! Thanks Iyanla!

[@mrs.greene2495]

Thank you Ms. Vanzant you helping me!!!

[@Islamdeen22]

Beautiful

[@tomminelson8393]

lingering misery😨

[@isabelschroeder7633]

thank u for wisdom

[@edric01prim77]

great info.

[@stellaandreadou2017]

Wow that was great!!! You are amazing!!! I know that we All agree in all that you say but what are we doing in the end?

[@Hammsolo77]

Thank you so much. 🙏

[@tmitchell4692]

Hello, Perfect Question!

[@derrickbarber9958]

But God still doesn't give it right away just cause you ask it and during the wait it may become miserable and depressing!!!

[@GiuliasCookbook]

Thank you Ms. Iyanla!

[@laurendavis9695]

Thank you ☺

[@elenadelpino370]

you are so awesome!

[@bcvc3365]

thank you 😇

[@Renata10162]

Great to mention Michael Jackson as a philosopher! Appreciate that.

[@wannabenatural2012]

What happens when you ask why, but don't know the answer?

[@carinebaptiste7386]

wanna benatural keep asking, you will get the answer.

[@NikkiJayArtistry]

Wow this was good

[@lindahalsey9410]

thank you for this video get me a understanding about my relationship

[@mashudumashotha3799]

deep....

[@lwin1122]

How do you get over a relationship you worked so hard for 3 years. Please help me.

[@lilianoliveira5027]

Jade Naing love yourself first

[@carinebaptiste7386]

You should not be the only one working so hard for a relationship. A relationship is two ppl that wants to be together

[@kimturner1963]

Why stay in misery?

[@kimkimmie3435]

Why .....?! 👌🏼

[@camillechase6895]

♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥ Lovely Iyanla, your looking Amazingly Beautiful Unavoidable Truth Face it. ~¤~¤~◇◆◇~¤~¤~◇◆◇◆~¤~¤~

[@gowithin1116]

I love you! Can you be my mom? Lol

[@LauraRyan2007]

Why get into a relationship when in the end, we're both going to die & the Bible says there is no marriage in Heaven? Yes, we will be together in Heaven, but our focus will be on God. Why not just focus on God NOW & in Heaven? Why would God bring a man into my life (as He has many times) just to say "in Heaven, you can't have him anyway"?

[@flowerwayR]

Thank you a lot for your advices Miss Iyanla, it makes diffirens.