I Was on OnlyFans and I Regret It

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[@Brad14397]

Proud of her vulnerability here. Hopefully she’ll be my nurse one day! “Let the one among you who is without sin cast the first stone”

[@tylersones6661]

Hospitals don’t want pornographers.

[@dabd8175]

I'm throwing stones right now boy

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@tylersones6661I was a stripper for two weeks at 19, about 22 years ago now. I quit, eventually met and married my husband as well as becoming a nurse myself. I have spent the last 18 years of my life working as a CCRN and homeschooling our children since 2005 when my eldest was in 1st grade. Needless to say I disagree, it is ALWAYS a good thing when someone turns AWAY from sin. Always a good thing.❤

[@Brad14397]

@@dabd8175 mmm hmmm. Maybe my memory is failing me but I don’t recall reading about “dabd8175” in biblical prophecy.

[@dabd8175]

@@sarahalderman3126 yeah but you're not on Google kid LOL the caller will be forever

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Jenna, if you see this you are a ROCKSTAR. Yes, as John said you violated your core values but you made it right, quit, and now are on a path to help people and save lives! Wish nothing but the best for you in the future! 😊

[@dabd8175]

I'm surprised John didn't ask for her of

[@phoenixxsoul]

​​@@dabd8175 John is an actual grown up man he isn't a pos why would he ask for that

[@CharBar07]

@@dabd8175 Didn't a caller call "dropped" when John asked what kind of content his wife has on OF?

[@scrimbo5319]

@@dabd8175 he’s married

[@Topsigmaboost]

@@dabd8175 you're weird

[@Magdalene952]

Proud of Jenna for being able to say, "I made a mistake and regret it, but I want to be better for my future partner". So many people are not like that anymore and I think she's going to find everything she wants in life.

[@lith4498]

Agreed. There are moms out there moving their kids schools due to them being bullied for having a parent with an OF and they see nothing wrong it. Good on Jenna

[@Veracityseeker7]

Agree and I hope so for her.

[@nunnunnunyabizzie2345]

She should be better for herself, not for her partner.

[@conradmcbee611]

@@nunnunnunyabizzie2345 Everyone should want to be their best self. But sometimes it is good to gauge how well you're doing based on how good of a partner you are, OBJECTIVELY. Not subjectively.

[@Mckeigan]

I hope so, but I doubt any man will want her after selling her coochi and spreading the roast beef for anyone to see. Bring a chick home for my dad to just go online and see her fully exposed. Let alone your future kids, your friends and lack of drive since she resorted to this to begin with. Some things can’t be undone, and finding a man will certainly be a struggle.

[@chris00nj]

"I learned I was horrible at performing on the internet". I think she redeemed herself in that comment alone.

[@danarib]

😂

[@Mmmmkaaay]

I always joke that God made me chubby to keep me off the pole. 🤣

[@anacorreia8058]

She’ll only be redeemed once she takes personal responsibility. She said a lot of stuff like “I had to do it” or “nobody supported me” or “other people said” etc

[@Bob-mw2sm]

@@anacorreia8058You’re missing the context surrounding the things she said. She was painting a picture as to how she felt during that time and John acknowledged as much. You don’t get to decide who is and isn’t redeemed based on your subjective opinion.

[@Blacknight6577]

@@Mmmmkaaayu haven’t seen the world cus that doesn’t matter at all 😂

[@perladelao]

One of my fave personality traits is someone who can say i did something wrong. I regret it and i wanna know what i can do to move on. Nobody is perfect. We will all make mistakes. What a beautiful soul she has. I felt what dr john said immediately, you seem like someone id like to hang out with.

[@divinecrime]

Every time I’ve heard a man criticize a woman for “not being able to take a joke,” I found out later he was actually harassing her and saying rude and/or sexist things.

[@Jikrin]

I'll tell you that often people say "so and so can't take a joke" after saying something that wasn't a joke at all and was meant to be hurtful. I've heard people when I was younger say that same phrase to me and any attempt to call out their poor behavior was met with "you can't take a joke" even when I or someone says that same thing they said back to them.

[@kdphotos4691]

That's always the case. I have yet to see the case being otherwise and I've been on this earth over 50 years. The key is the phrasing. "take" a joke. Jokes aren't something you take. Jokes are meant to be shared and enjoyed by everyone.

[@Veruska75]

@@JikrinIkr. I always say ”a joke is supposed to be funny”. Saying hurtful stuff is never funny.

[@isaiahdavadi4396]

I think it’s easy to say that without realizing everyone is different. Some men and women truly use that to downplay a hurtful comment, but what’s “hurtful” can be subjective a lot of times and depending on the person a simple joke/comment can be taken as such. I think intention matter in a lot of cases but not all

[@holliee8070]

It's also a form of narcissistic abuse as well as Gaslighting

[@purelightapologetics4930]

For the guys passing judgement on her, you’d better not have watched any pornography ever or you are the pot calling the kettle black. As a woman who has done none of this stuff, I believe in grace, forgiveness, and redemption. I choose to offer grace to others, knowing that there will be times where I need grace extended to me.

[@JOYRIDEUS]

A man watching porn is hardly the same as a woman being a prostitute what are you talking about. Judgement? She exposed herself online not only her sexuality as an object for men to play with themselves to. She also exposed herself here online publicly on KZbin. You women need to get over this don't judge me bs. Humans judge. Just do better and certainly stop exposing yourself. There's a reason this shameless society is crumbling Soo fast, or had you been too busy with that pot to notice reality?

[@john1425]

No reason to shame her but of course a large % of good men are going to hard pass on putting a ring on that.

[@saladboy1465]

Uhhh not even close. She sold her body to millions of people. That is not even close to watching pornography. Would you want your son marrying a prostitute?

[@CrystalM1917]

​@@john1425 what's your definition of good? Men who pursue on a daily basis voyeurism which is a person who gains sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity, which is equivalent to a consumer and supporter of the industry....yet looking down on the very women they're watching.....but us women not involved at all are supposed to be attracted to you...bc you're a "good" man? That's not adding up. If she's not a good woman, you're not a good man.

[@CrystalM1917]

​@@john1425 what's your definition of good? Men who pursue on a daily basis voyeurism which is a person who gains $*%ual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in $%&ual activity, which is equivalent to a consumer and supporter of the industry....yet looking down on the very women they're watching.....but us women not involved at all are supposed to be attracted to you...bc you're a "good" man? That's not adding up. If she's not a good woman, you're not a good man.

[@LauraSnow-in3nx]

You made a bad decision but you have CHANGED that & walked away! God forgives you & loves you! Learn to forgive yourself & love yourself too! 🥰 Praying for you!

[@deusexmachina9776]

one is never fully changed unless they accept the future consequences of their past actions.

[@samuelvanpeursem2865]

I love the spirit of your comment Laura. But the Bible is clear there is no forgiveness outside of repentance and faith in Jesus. Cleaning up your life on your own doesn’t reconcile you with God. If we are honest we can’t tell people they are forgiven unless they come to Jesus.

[@artisseriechicken]

​@@samuelvanpeursem2865respectfully, the Bible isn't the only scripture out there. So maybe your God won't forgive her without Jesus, but my God sure will. I wish you and your God well!

[@patty-pat-pat]

​@@deusexmachina9776youre the type that jerked to her OF content.

[@patty-pat-pat]

​@@samuelvanpeursem2865and i bet you never rubbed one out to mature content. 🤡

[@fairyprincess1]

I was someone who behaved in a manner very unlike the real me when I was in college. I have carried so much shame and guilt since then. This call helped me so tremendously. Thank you John!

[@ogolden8315]

Don’t bother answering any intrusive questions. IGNORE THE TROLLS (males). Many People do things they aren’t proud at some point in lives. As long as you acknowledge and are actively changing or have changed, then no need to continue punishing yourself.

[@tenaya20]

Don't be gross@@pandajin7772

[@nunnunnunyabizzie2345]

@@pandajin7772See, you are the exact problem. You and trash m*n like you. You listen to a beautiful, kindhearted girl open her heart and you come scumming and slithering around in the comments looking to shame other women who may have had something similar happen. You are a cancer and I pray for any woman that knows you.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I had a checkered past when young too, as so many do. It took me a long time to forgive myself and to let it go. It took no time for God to forgive me and let it go though.

[@AmandaMo89]

Jenna from one nurse to another who lost my grandmother (my best friend) in 2021 to very aggressive lung cancer, girl I love you!!! You’re an amazing woman, and I’m proud of you!

[@lindsaymoussa2118]

From a stay at home mom of four kids (the last two came at once), I’d just tell the guy who called in that she’ll figure it out. She won’t need to put certain routines or structure in place that help things become easier during the day if she has you to fill those gaps. Just be plugged in during the times you are home, but she’ll get through the transition pains and everything will be okay.

[@sara-jonathanjerdan738]

Another SAHM - absolutely right. We all have to struggle to learn, and it was hard when my husband went back to the office. But I figured it out. I would also recommend he could offer to hire a babysitter or find a mom's group so she could have some help with the transition.

[@lauravd3113]

Amen. When my husband worked from home, I was a horrible mom. I knew he was there so I took my foot off the gas. I was horrified when he went back to the office, but then I learned that I was a better mom without him home all the time because I had to rely on myself. I figured it out. This mama will too.

[@susieare]

Agree. You just have to cut the apron strings. It'll be really hard for a while, but the only way to learn how to be a stay at home mum is to do it. The kids grow so fast and it gets easier and easier. It's a precious time. She's lucky to be at home with her babies and that they're not stuck in nursery. And that's possible because you provide! She won't develop into the amazing, experience mum she wants to be without going it alone. Trust me... I know! It's been a journey :)

[@mabuhayPinay]

I was a SAHM with a 3 yo toddler and a newborn. When hubby returned to work, I was nervous bc there was no one else to help me. It was difficult. But I built routines so there was a rhythm in the day. Even had homemade dinner on the table when hubby came home. Looking back, I should've given more to myself: breaks, alone time, group time with other moms, asked family to help out even if it meant traveling 40 mins to my house, more kid play dates, less worry about mess, etc. I gave much more than what came in. I kinda forgot about myself.

[@BernitaFord]

Kelly is SO quick-witted! Love it!

[@lillauren21]

I commend her for being honest. I tell women time and time again to stay away from this industry. A lot of porn stars had some sort of trauma and the men who watch it feeds not only her income but her unawareness that this isn’t normal. Your body belongs to *you* ladies. She can change her life, I have hope in people. It’s just her past that she can’t get rid of.

[@TEM14411]

The men watching have trauma as well. So it is the ultimate inversion of reciprocity. Strangers fueling and feeding one and others trauma.

[@kdphotos4691]

​@@TEM14411- No, men who watch it do not "have trauma." They live in a world where they have been taught for millennia that they are better than women and that women are objects to be consumed. They are free from the judgement of society. Women are not.

[@TMPS93]

As someone in management in a work from home position you have to create a separate dedicated workspace and commit to working. Be present at work during working hours, be present at home during off hours. Its WORK from home, not work from HOME.

[@marquisstrongchild7535]

2nd guy's wife is not trying to help out. A stay-at-home parent means you're taking primary and full ownership and focus on the home, while the other person's primary focus is work and income. If your husband loses his job due to performance, then you'll be broke.

[@Demigod8ether]

Yea, it is only 2 kids his wife is being absolutely & ridiculously selfish and lazy. She is willing to risk her husband’s job just to have him cancel his work and render her aid with the kids. Nuts 🥜!!!

[@TipTheScales27]

I still feel bad for parents here in the States. The burden of parenthood shouldn’t be on one person’s shoulders. It should be a community effort but we’ve lost it

[@mabuhayPinay]

@@TipTheScales27 It takes a village to raise a child. To have the responsibility all to one person is unsustainable. It breeds resentment and opposition. In this country, you gotta find and create your village bc family members are far, unwilling to help or just plain busy. It's a real problem if you don't have deep friendships to stand by as a parent or caregiver when parents need to step away.

[@Rosevalentine6]

Dr john I love your non judgemental way but also how you shoot straight

[@whitneyw.7919]

Your employer “having a relationship” with you means absolutely nothing in the corporate world today.

[@Seamonkey1981]

i like JD but if he thinks some manager seeing you at a water cooler is going to stop a layoff, he is DREAMING.

[@Wallucks.]

I like JD, but him and Dave Ramsey are very old school,

[@MP-fv8ef]

I think many people absolutely underestimate the value of connections. Having the out-of-work connections and nepotism absolutely makes you much safer than the average employee. If you don’t think this is true then you don’t have the connections that JD is talking about here. I promise you, if you get friendly with a higher up you are much safer. The misconception is that the HARD WORKERS are safe, and I’ll agree that’s not true. You can be the BEST of the best and you won’t be safe. But if you’re good and have connections, always better outcome

[@b7Hn4eX8yv4m]

Absolutely. Less than. Nothing. The shithole I just left is forcing employees (we're consultants and administrative project managers and all that) to justify their existence on a weekly basis via "utilization" metrics - essentially how many hours have you billed clients this week, and if it was light this week (because at any time our clients can have a sick day or have something else to do or any number of things) you'd get fired. My relationship with any given manager had less than zero impact on whether or not I'd have a job the following week. Manager seeing you at the coffee pot just isn't a thing that even matters when that manager isn't the one pulling strings, and it happens at C-Level in some other office in some other state.

[@churrymurray]

Thank you. My thoughts exactly. He works in a different type of world. Corporate doesn't give even a hit of af at all, ever

[@valaries.5944]

It's time to set yourself free. You live, and you have learned who you want to be. Don't let the past haunt you. You aren't that person that talks in your head.

[@tishataray]

Thanks John for making her and the rest of us feel not alone or disqualified in the experiences thar produce shame...much respect brother

[@jamiestinnett9872]

I wish young girls could all hear this story and others of regret. For those of us old enough to get the grace of growing up without the internet... thank god 🙌🏻

[@NORTAH85]

Agree 100%.

[@BradSnyder493]

There are others not of regret. It’s never the same. What needs to change is the judgement these girls face for everything they do

[@NORTAH85]

@@BradSnyder493 the judgment needs to be harsher and more prevalent! Judgement is needed in society

[@WTFBUTWHY]

@@BradSnyder493that will never happen. Just wait till these Of girls kids friends find out. ohhh mannn

[@McDinkledorfM.D]

The normalisation of onlyfans is so so detremental to everybody involved

[@francestaylor9156]

Both my husband and I made terrible mistakes after losing our dads. Nothing can brace you for the loss of a parent. 21 is really young to lose a parent. I was 32, my husband was almost 40 and we still made really regretful mistakes. And we wouldn’t be the ppl we are today without having made those mistakes and learning from them. Forgiving yourself is probably the hardest thing to do. You betrayed yourself. But you can only heal if you forgive yourself. When you do, you’ll feel less anxious about yourself and the decisions you make.

[@LauraSnow-in3nx]

I have been working from home for 6 years now & hear me when I say “I LOVE IT!” People need to set boundaries though & say “I will be in my office from 8 to 4. The door stays shut & you don’t bother me with anything.” That second color just needs to sit boundaries with his wife, and she needs to have more respect for him than to constantly violate that and dump everything on him

[@OGA103]

Indeed. My husband works from home and aside from the occasional instance in which I know he's not busy, I leave him alone. People ask if we get tired of each other because we're both at home all day together but the fact is, I only see him a few times during the day when he comes out to get breakfast and lunch. I try to pretend he's not there.

[@CMM726]

Exactly. She is a STAY AT HOME MOM!! She does NOT WORK. So I gave no sympathy for her. She’s got a good man who wants to both provide and help her with the kids and she walks all over him. When he’s working, those kids and that household is her responsibility period!! I did it! I was a SAHM and took care of my kid, my nephew, and had kids from the neighborhood over all the time. I did all the housework and when my husband came home there was a hot meal for him. She’s just lazy.

[@susieare]

​@@CMM726I agree, but she's lazy because the husband always picks up the slack! He needs to work elsewhere or set some boundaries.

[@OGA103]

​@@susieareI don't think it's laziness. I think the wife just doesn't have the confidence that she can do it alone because she's never had to do it alone. Two small ones is really hard and I bet she's having a difficult time being convinced that she's good enough. The fact that her husband is there for backup only serves as a crutch to her own progress as a mother. Dad needs to leave the house during the day to FORCE Mom to fake it till she makes it.

[@susieare]

@@OGA103 I think we're on the same page... I look back at what I was like with two kids and now think I was lazy 😂 it just takes practice and time to build up the skills to parents small kids and keep a house running. It's a full time job and completely underappreciated by society.

[@Caferramarta]

Thank you Mr John because when you said “one day you will say to your daughter you don’t have to perform for me , I believe you and I love you “ just unlocked something deep inside of me and I am confident the relationship I have with my 3 daughters will forever benefit from this very moment. I am happily shook from this. Thank you thank you 🙏🏻

[@princessm6355]

I commend you for your honesty! Some folks are to prideful to admit they regret something. We need to normalize sharing this

[@Veracityseeker7]

Good for her for being accountable and introspective.

[@pattytramonto3103]

Yup! Another great bit of advice. I like how you don't shame people and admit your own shortcomings. So relatable.

[@silvermaple3580]

Please forgive yourself Jenna. You are a good human. Keep shining your light.

[@NORTAH85]

A psychiatrist could solely practice in OF girls regret and have work forever! This is going to be an epidemic here in 5-10yrs.

[@dancebrittany23]

Jenna sounds like a wonderful woman. These comments of "no man is going to want her" do not pass the vibe check.

[@dabd8175]

Her getting her cheeks clapped for money didn't pass the vibe check to

[@triplecheesemac]

Actually a lot men will want her. She will attact man for 1 thing. Men will not want her for LTR especially men with standards, values, morals, and wanting a good wife. There is a difference. It doesn't matter what women thinks what men should accept. It is up to us man to find a good potential partner as a mother and wife. There is too much at stake for men if we marry a bad woman. tyring to be in a LTR with a onlyfans or promiscuous woman is like bank loaning money to someone with low credit score. History says it will not work out well.

[@deirdremorris9234]

Better to be single and child free❤🎉❤

[@ykook7000]

Exactly 💯​@@deirdremorris9234

[@nunnunnunyabizzie2345]

@@triplecheesemacYou're one of those manosphere incels who hate women. Look, here's the deal, you're a homosexual and you're putting that inner anger onto other women. Leave women ALONE. You're not fit for purpose and have nothing to offer a woman. Stay away. All what you said is not Jenna and is not true. You are warped, and no woman will want you.

[@glee_again2594]

Having lots of littles at once is hard in many ways. I was using my husband as our “babysitter” in day time hours, having him miss work for the appointments and things needing done. When he finally told me one day that he would rather not miss work for those things, it on the one hand, but it forced me to interview and get to know babysitters. Hated paying the money, but having good babysitters turned into me being able to do something for me once in a while, like get my hair cut, or meet a friend for coffee. I also want to say it gets easier as they age. They start playing more with each other and doing more. But those first years are about survival. Lack of sleep, no way to do it all and do it all well. Prayers for the sweet and overwhelmed family. Both of them probably feel like they are failing, but they aren’t. They are trying to get through this best they can. It will be worth the perseverance. Won’t be easy, but a better season is ahead when all of the kids sleep at night. Also lowering expectations of how the home should be and look right now.😊

[@jessiemommy4477]

Jenna you learned that integrity is vital in your life, and you know with this hard lesson that you can never compromise your integrity in any way is what you tell your future husband.

[@jmk576]

Thank you for sharing this. We all have chapters in our life we wish to not reread. It’s so important that young women and men stop the naked videos and photos. It will come back to haunt you either personally or professionally. Congrats to this woman for speaking out. And for always bettering yourself. We can always strive to do better.

[@benascg-ll7sq]

If I had the privilege to coach Jenna, I would ask her what she was seeking when signing up on Onlyfans. And if I was dating Jenna and bout to falling in love with her, if she was to admit her Onlyfans episode, I'd say "my love, I see you for who you are, I am not reducing you to some dirty sequences in your life. And frankly, who am I to judge you, I 've gone thru less than glorious episides in my life as well"

[@nunnunnunyabizzie2345]

And for that, you are a man worth the time of a woman

[@dabd8175]

Ur a simp who's gunna raise another generation of weak beta males

[@therocinante3443]

And then it'll be, "it's okay that the kid I thought was mine isn't, that's the past and we can't judge."

[@benascg-ll7sq]

@@nunnunnunyabizzie2345 thank you! Means a lot. Will share with the woman I love.Ben

[@dabd8175]

Simp

[@Jss766]

I promise you it will be easier for the stay at home mom once he goes to work. I have been at home alone with my child at home basically since a week after birth. Somedays are hard but sometimes days that daddy pops in or has a day he is in and out are actually worse.

[@Lemieux_7]

Back in my day the shameful profession was stripper/prostitute. Now young people sell their bodies on line and the consequences last a lifetime 😢

[@Magdalene952]

My husband and I both work from home full time. We quickly learned through COVID that we needed separate office space to get work done. We also have an unspoken agreement that we leave each other alone during the day and catch up after work. We only interrupt to say something quick (hey the mortgage guy is asking for a copy of your DL) or to ask if we are ready for a break to go walk the dogs. That's it. We work 10 steps from each other, but act like we are in the office.

[@erikaannabosnyak9307]

Jenna, just know, there are people out there who don't care about that bit of your past. If my partner came to me confessing something like this, i would kiss them and hug them make sure they know it doesn't matter. I love them anyway.

[@yuvalgal-shahaf2782]

You owe no one nothing. The sex industry is tempting and is hunting women in distress and take advantage of them. Onlyfans seems a clean way for it. We can discuss for hours whether you were used or not, but it doesnt matter. Its an industry targeting women exactly like you. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You dont need to tell no obe nothing!!! You are a good caring women and what ever you have done in the past is on the past and is part of tge journey. You are not a bad object and you are worthy

[@debbiekoenig7376]

The same measure that you use to judge others will be used to judge you...

[@savannah5835]

Jenna seeing this eposide well after it aired. As a almost 50 yr old we all have made bad choices throughout our lives especially when we are younger and "in survival mode". I am hoping you have or will soon be graduating from nursing school. Best of luck. You deserve to be happy.

[@thixiemattel]

sometimes Dr. Deloney talks to people like a psychic as in makes statements rather than ask questions, and it’s super weird lol

[@fire12731]

I don’t think anyone is really going to judge Jenna for being on Only Fans for two weeks.

[@nunnunnunyabizzie2345]

And if they did they're a piece of sh*it.

[@K9Kelaroo]

This. Exactly!! Her only lasting 2 weeks says more about her character than anything. How quick people are too condemn. She barely got started. Her moral compass was strong from the outset. Good for her.

[@snowpz]

Exactly, she didn't make a career out of it she just did it briefly... nothing to even worry about. People that make a career out of it need a thick skin, and I don't judge people that DO make a career out of it especially in this system.

[@snowpz]

So you don't have a moral compass if you do OF? Lol in this system some people just don't fit into it, so they look for other ways and I don't blame them. @@K9Kelaroo

[@EricMoore790]

I was on Onlyfans and never made any money. It made me feel awful!

[@williamr4053]

OF is no different from anything else in life. It is just another slit in somewhat niche market. Takes no skill, so barriers to entry are non-existent. It would make me feel awful too, because the lack of funds in my account is showing that I’m not valued. Even in this dark and twisted way. Just imagine all the boundaries you would have to push with yourself to make money on the platform, while looking yourself in the mirror everyday. I’m sure there are women on the platform that have a following basically doing JC Penney type ad work and never have to be fully nude. What the platform doesn’t inform you of is that there’s levels to OF. Two people can be doing the exact same thing and one person makes $100 and the other person makes $10.

[@funicon3689]

you need to already be famous and then use OF to monetize your following to make money. there's not much discoverability these days.

[@brodbreiss]

If you had made money would you feel good about it?

[@glee_again2594]

Jenna, you’re so brave! Thank you for sharing. Your courage in the midst of trying to get past regret could save many others from starting an account or give them the fortitude to leave and move on as well. Knowing it’s not too late. Making even more beauty from the ashes. ❤😊 I’m saying a prayer for you, lovely girl!

[@lskarp]

I agree 110% on the challenges of working at home and separating home life and work life. Even though I can work from home a few days per week, I am lucky and live near the office and there are definite benefits to working there. Quieter, more adult interaction, and ability to concentrate on work. I really like the days when no one comes into the office as well as I can get a ton done without interruption. The pressures to help around the house when working at home is huge and you dont want to let your spouse or kids down. But you also have a clear obligation to your employer to put in an honest days work. I love my wife and family, but I also enjoy my work and the different satisfaction it provides (and the paycheck!)

[@LAWOODSTORIES]

We all make mistakes. It's part of our story but these mistakes don't have to define who you are, and what I can tell you just listening to you Jenna is that you are a good person who deserves to be loved. (ps: Did you know that your name means paradise in Arabic? It must means something.) God bless you. 🙏❤️

[@alyssao7276]

As a stay at home mom to two kids around the same age…I couldn’t dream of adding more stress to my husband while he’s out doing the hard job of providing for our family. He can do his job because he knows I have it handled at home. It is hard. But she’ll never gain the confidence to do it until she has to actually do it.

[@Westernkoala]

Feels like a response to grief in an impulsive 22 year old subject to peer pressure.

[@crathob]

What would the more *mature* response be in her situation then?

[@westcoastfrank]

@@crathobcompromising your morals for money is never a smart thing to do.

[@Mmmmkaaay]

People in sales do it. Lawyers do it. Bartenders do it. The only difference is that she did it nude. ​@@westcoastfrank

[@alexandramachavariani31]

KZbin adds every 2 minutes 😢 They will make me Dr. John's patient soon 😂

[@joanneconall]

Jenna, you are a brave young woman! Thank you for sharing your story! I wish you all the best in your nursing career!! ❤❤❤

[@melanieb2132]

Housekeepers are cheaper than divorce

[@chilloften]

Jenna is the love. She loves herself and that’s the best.

[@brightpage1020]

Jenna, we love you! You are loveable! The only one who won't forgive you is you. And your robbing the rest of us the experience of you at your best because you carry this shame. And you fear that it will follow you. It probably will some. But that's the risk you took during your vulnerable moment of life. And it's giving you an opportunity to realize you felt vulnerable and curious about an opportunity that seemed lucrative and tempting so you took it but realized it wasn't for you so you walked away like a mature adult. You actually handled it really well. A lot of people stay for the money and cope with other addictions because it turns their tummies. But you faced the discomfort head on and got out of the life - no easy feat! And now look how far you are coming! A nurse! What an incredibly generous and caring choice! You have so much to look forward to! Don't hold yourself back with regret over this. You can't change it. Poisoning yourself with shame will only make your future more difficult to achieve. So take the lessons you garnered from it - about yourself, your soul, and the world. Forgive yourself by recognizing the value of those hard earned lessons. And move forward armed with the fact that you'll know better than to try things that far out of your comfort zone next time you feel vulnerable to understandable economic temptations. You are clearly smart enough to figure out that's not the lifestyle you want and brave enough to change and move your direction away from that. You got through it. Stop raking yourself over the coals - because the only one you burn doing that is yourself. You're not scarfed for life. Even Monica Lewinsky got on with her life and she was the most recognizable blow job in the nation for at least a couple years. You're wise enough to listen to your soul when it got uncomfortable with OF. Score! Take that wisdom and apply it the next time something similar seems tempting so you can avoid the future shame that you don't deserve. For being human. Forgive you. And bless yourself with a life focused on the positive things you contribute to as a barber and a nurse. There are plenty of people in your shoes. I bet you aren't alone. Find those folks to find comfort with. Is there like an Ex-OF Gals support group? You've already redirected your path you just have to continue honoring yourself for the new choices you're making now. You are worth every step forward into the life you want. I celebrate that 🎉❤🎉

[@christinah.8504]

you talk too much.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@christinah.8504Her comments are very insightful if you read them. She offers good advice or feedback and is respectful while doing it.

[@brightpage1020]

@@christinah.8504 agreed. 👍 Thanks for this correction.

[@nunnunnunyabizzie2345]

I love that you wrote your feelings out, don't listen to low IQ folk who don't have enough attention span to be able to take in the lovely things you were saying

[@2daFull]

Regarding the last caller, you might want to find out the laws in your state for evictions. You usually have to give them 30 days notice before you can evict them.

[@allisone892]

You have words of wisdom. Thank you for your knowledge and kindness in helping us all out.❤❤❤

[@bres9977]

For the tech caller, does his wife not understand that being a SAHM is a PRIVILEGE? Does she not realizes if he does not put in enough hours as the sole breadwinner, he cannot provide for them? Unless she is willing to work part-time to cover the load, she needs to find an alternative support system.

[@CahliaShay]

This makes me so upset. I see this all the time. Women who stay home and still make their husbands do so much. What is wrong with these women. We get it, it's hard just like everything that is worth anything. Get over yourself and do your job!

[@Sunsetsnail99]

Haha not a privilege for me I’d be so unhappy. Part of the reason I had one to afford daycare because I’d be a shell of a person doing it alone all day.

[@Heidishereandthere]

Its not guilt, its shame.

[@michaelallen1154]

She's not experiencing guilt. She's experiencing shame. And probably fear that she will be outed someday.

[@notreallyafamousartist695]

She’s experiencing shame because she didn’t make any money 🤣🤣🤣🤣 if she made money she’d still have it

[@alwaysyouramanda]

That’s why I used to post every a$$ pic to my secret tumblr before selling it early on. That way, I could be like “they stole it off my tumblr.” It felt like I kept all of that power. You can’t blackmail me if I’m blackmailing myself 😂

[@ZukoTheShinigami]

Good. We need more women experiencing shame in my generation (gen Z)

[@vannhantran547]

@@alwaysyouramandawhy you freaked yourself that way mate?

[@geegee_509]

I think guilt was an appropriate word for her. From the sound of it, it doesn’t seem like her work got out to many people. It also doesn’t seem like she’s seeking fame online enough to be outed. Her guilt is coming from, “can I even be considered a good partner with this lingering in my history” Money doesn’t sound like a factor in her concern.

[@roxanneldeleon3801]

I just love to hear Dr. J's laughter

[@dav2386thor]

Can we get a cut of Kelly saying " that's true, your right, my bad" I could see that being used in voice over for various Instagram reels 😅 😂😂

[@brittneywelch2186]

I want to be friends with the first caller. :) ❤

[@MiscellaneousMeMe]

Its great that she is so open and gets to move on on her life. Im a RMN in London and if there is any type of proof of unscrupulous behaviour then you cannot register as a nurse, or can be removed from the register. If they have the same laws over there she needs to be careful who she tells this to. Nurses can be very nasty and there is a horrible bullying culture within most nursing professions.

[@snowflake2910]

I’m so thankful God rescued me before this only fans fad. 🙏 I sympathize I really do. Validation comes from God. Hope she reads this.

[@nailarttherapy2273]

The third caller comment: It’s really sad that they are making fun of a 26 yr old needing a roommate. It’s easy to say for the people who are deeper into life and are better able to take care of themselves but this economy is relentless to young kids just graduating high school or college and not making the salary they will in the future. Rent is at an all time high (around Tampa, FL) and it’s completely unrealistic for these young twenties kids trying to make it off the ground. It’s sad.

[@cheekysaver]

If my son who is a single father brought home a lady that was on only fans for 2 week... I would just hug her and say it is okay, make coffee, have her help and pass out cookies... then start telling stories to move on from it. If he brought home someone who was currently on only fans... the discussion would be different. If I found out on the spot I would not respond negatively. I would take a min or week or 2 to process the info. The biggest reason I would have a problem with it... my grandchild. I would not have a issue with the first lady.

[@DogmaGirlAD]

Possibly the wife of the second caller might need some parent coaching... Cause navigating more than one little one is a learned skill. And also, asked my husband to not be home if he's not able to give us attention sometimes (sometimes we can make it work but not always) and sometimes that means he's working in his cramped little truck just down the street... But, it's difficult for little ones understand space and limitations. It takes a little while to teach them these things.

[@aetank_yyteawu3436]

Let go of the regret and accept the consequences. It will help you deal with your new life better. You have to accept that this is your new reality. Once you can do that, you’ll be able to navigate and conform to your new life. Regrets keep you in the past, but acceptance will help you move forward.

[@squeezycakes]

we become new versions of ourselves periodically...past versions don't matter

[@jotilochun80]

Yes! What would be the point if we weren’t trying to be a better version everyday!

[@regularity2556]

Depends on what you want to do with your life, if you want to be a teacher for example you may not be able to if you are a former s€x worker. Basically any career that has morality clauses and public exposure, you can't always escape your past, so young women need to really think about what they are doing.

[@jotilochun80]

@@regularity2556 people will always judge. This is whether you are an angel or the devil. You are right that but this should never stop u striving to be better. Havent we all done something we now feel was awful? I don't feel that nursing is for everyone but this girl displays a desire to be better and do better

[@deusexmachina9776]

ok - waht do you say to sex offenders?

[@jotilochun80]

@@deusexmachina9776 I would like to hear that they were genuinely reformed. I dont however think that they should get jobs where they are dealing with people. I do believe that its fair to accept your consequences. I still want people to try to be better. I think you maybe can't hold these two things as true. I like that she has changed but that doesn't mean that if I were a man I'd marry her. I wish her well. Maybe she will meet a man who is regretful of his past too and they can be better together

[@RG-hf4et]

He needs to go to the local library & work from there if he wants to work from home. And show up at the office more. He cannot be under the same roof as a wife & 2 kids & produce quality work.

[@coly4ever]

Dr. John is so good.

[@Jarcano8]

Dr. John, For All the love, encouragement, wisdom, truth, guidance and hope you give others, May It Return To You Tenfold. ❤

[@aliciahernandez6203]

his wife is depressed and overwhelmed.

[@RustyShackleford051]

Awh she should mever have to do anything ever its so hard 😢

[@aliciahernandez6203]

@@RustyShackleford051 obviously not. She needs professional help.

[@nathaliebasile6168]

It is a possibility and if so she needs to get help and her husband cannot be the solution; the most important is that the boat does not sink ; he needs to drive, look ahead …

[@aliciahernandez6203]

@@nathaliebasile6168 Mental health issues are still very taboo and many people just go into denial.

[@360_tours]

I am a man. I am currently taking a break from work after paying off my home for years. Currently, Im remodeling the basement at the same time taking care of two toddlers. So... How is she overwhelmed?

[@adamm.6595]

For the first woman, she did it, can't change it. BUT she didn't do it forever or long term, so I dont couple her with the likes of those who do it as a profession or to be a free spirit. The fact she acknowledged early on that she wasn't happy and stopped it shows and should show to anyone that she does recognize a bad idea, situation, or mindset. I would entertain dating her, so long as other personal aspects aligned, personality likes and hobbies etc. We do stupid things all the time, especially when we hit a rough patch, and holding it over our head won't help, even if others do it to us. And today, young men but men in general need to accept that there are women they meet to date who have done it, but permit or accept a certain time stamp of participation. A few months means nothing compared to some who spend years. Otherwise, the hope for a truly clean woman is going to be difficult and a long wait.

[@ogolden8315]

Balanced pov. Also, I’d add if any guy wants to be highly judgmental of OF and similar types of women, then hopefully they aren’t also actively involved in consuming media from these platforms where these women perform.

[@singerg02]

There is no such thing as a truly "clean" woman. Or man. Every last person on this planet is sinful in some way, shape or form. The fact that you put more of a penalty on doing OF than lying or stealing or cheating or any other moral offense, is INSANE.

[@sjejsj7615]

The only reason she didn’t proceed to do it is because no one wanted to see her

[@user-hr1ql2fu3f]

I admire this man’s dedication to his wife and family. I also want to say, don’t worry so much. It will all work out and be ok. I had 2 babies 2 years apart almost to the day. I had 2 cesarean births. And I did everything by myself. My husband was not present for 95% of the time. It is possible to make it work and I think that with the love you have for your family, you and your wife will work it out. Best of luck. 🙏🏻

[@CaToRi-]

Be careful paying attention to what “friends “ say.

[@alexisballard1459]

Clenching my jaw everytime Taylor uses his filler word “right” a million times during one call 😅

[@juliewells8564]

❤ we all make mistakes. I admire you for stopping when you felt the guilt, you respected yourself enough to stop. You're a good person and you're worth forgiving yourself.

[@vickyoli]

I need to send this to someone I know. She has OF, she is successful but the people that actually love her tell her she will regret it. She is you g and doesn’t understand it :(

[@scrimbo5319]

Some people don’t regret it. Everyone’s different

[@jordanhowe5998]

It’s hard to build up muscles when you rely on a crutch.

[@rebeccamcelhaney]

My husband was the main breadwinner, so he needed to be at work. I cared for the 2 kids after work, worked my 8 hr day job, and cared for the home. My husband drove a truck but home at night & was at home with kids as much as he could be and helped me out when he could, but otherwise I cared for all that at home. It’s possible to do if the wife wants to. You both must work together in the marriage to make it work. It seems women now a days think they cannot do the things we mom/ workers did back in our day. If your wife doesn’t work or even if she works an 8 he day job she should be able to care for the kids and the home. There’s no excuse.

[@blueseptember2174]

A mom cannot work 8 hour shifts and adequatly care for young kids. Maybe school age but not younger. That's too much on anyone and we all have limited energy and health. Something has gotta give somewhere.

[@1NONLY27]

Most people dont have bosses that even care what's going on in their employees life.

[@lacuna_matata_9261]

I think with the second caller he really loves his wife and he really loves his kids from the things he mentioned that his wife says to him “im a bad mum ect “ she’s obviously struggling needing him to come home and help during his work hours and help I’m not saying it’s not normal but it’s not a good sign she’s struggling and as a parent I would worry I’d worry for my wife and I’d worry for my kids I think that’s why he was asking of how he can bring it up gently that’s she’s not a bad mum I think it’s very important that this woman gets time to be herself but also he does need to work to provide for the family but I’ll also say you are replaceable at work your not replaceable to your family I think it’s very important for this caller to get his wife some counselling and check for and postpartum issues I mean we know barley anything about her life before having children maybe her career was a very important part of her life maybe she was a very active person who got out a lot and now she’s shut in with no escape maybe if we had more information on her life before becoming a mother we could have a better idea of why she feels like she can’t cope and giving her a sense of self and freedom would make leaving her partner alone when working would be easier ??

[@DJRiyzen]

Im suprised he didn’t ask for the OF handle! 🤣

[@Amandapuhlease]

Lol I was waiting for that

[@scrimbo5319]

He’s married…

[@DJRiyzen]

@@scrimbo5319 he's done it before

[@nunnunnunyabizzie2345]

Because he's a mature gentleman who is dedicated to his wife. He's not a low life

[@DJRiyzen]

@@nunnunnunyabizzie2345 he has asked for a handle before.

[@caradonnelly7335]

May The Lord bless you Dr. John, I get a lot out of your shows and have been putting off getting a head doctor because im just so busy as a mom. But have felt at times my sanity being pushed towards a great ravine and almost lost it. I have only people like you to thank, other lightworkers and God for the fact im not completely gone. It appears to me that the world is thirsty for leadership, and a father figure we never had, or an older brother, so thanks a lot and keep up the good fight!❤

[@SteveInQLD007]

Good advice Doc, as a matter of fact, I could use that advice in my situation so thanks from me too!

[@mistermanman]

To Taylor... It's time to rent an office space and hire a nanny to help your wife. This is going to ruin your marriage if you keep it up for much longer.

[@msjoby89]

Jenna the right man will love you and will not care about your past. Hugs

[@boadecia1433]

I just love how he assumes your relationship with your boss somehow effects your employment. Your job is a transactional business and you should always treat it as such. Always keep another role in the pipeline and never get too comfortable. Your life means more than your job.

[@debbieodoan9637]

For the work at home dad from Boise: Public Libraries are free and quiet places to work, it could save the office rent money for that babysitter or housekeeper to help your wife.

[@eyme290]

I tried ❄️ for almost 2 years, a guy I was dating and I was so infatuated with pressured me into it. I never thought I would do that. I used to be super against it before he came into my life. I got off of it after I finally cut things off with him for good. But that’s something that violated who I thought I was and morals & principles I thought i had. I had to drop everything and re-learn who I am after that. Definitely lost 2 years of my life being in a fog and having low self esteem and self worth and losing my dignity behind men

[@Nickbronline]

I wonder if this is gonna be the wife of that caller from a few weeks ago

[@charleslefort8938]

That one seemed to disappear ?

[@samuelsyvrud8186]

I thought the same thing

[@LauraSnow-in3nx]

I agree!

[@SaystheTruth3]

Yeah! I was thinking that!

[@CrystalM1917]

I must've missed that call.

[@vicp99]

1. Stop beating yourself up. I agree, not the best thing to do for a few reasons. I’m sure many start and realize it’s not for them. 2. My husband works from home. He’s a high level tech engineer, and also constantly improves his skills and further certifications (or forget the better paid jobs or jobs at all 😂). When he’s working it’s work. He makes his lunch, coffee, etc and during work hours I clean up after (he cleans up after himself when outside of work hours) I will bring him food etc if it’s a very busy day. The guy does need to do his part as a father after work hours because mom gets no “time off” until the kids are older. So they need a system. It may be too late if he is getting poor Reviews. 😮 so yeahhhhh, y’all need to grow up. 3. Check tenant laws in your state before you do anything. Put everything in writing.

[@sabaabraham897]

Just pray please

[@lms2379]

Don't need the Kelly banter--just Dr. D and the callers.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

We NEED the Kelly banter! It helps bring light and levity to very traumatic and hard calls. John needs it too!

[@vannhantran547]

Onlyfans haunts you everywhere you go ladies

[@Mmmmkaaay]

Not if you delete it.🙄

[@Rakdaddy5]

I have a new birn at home and the days where I work from home, I get about 5 hours of work done compared to the 8 I need to. There are too many distractions at home. Go to work if possible.

[@NissySlim]

Aw Jenna, I hope and pray you truly realize your worth is in your uniqueness, in your humanity, in the beauty of your heart and soul in how God made you. Good for you girl!!! And take heart, nothing is cemented damage here. Your integrity shines through so brightly. I applaud you big time. I had shame over some past things and for me, what helped was growth and knowing Jesus has lifted all my shame. You're a beautiful soul Jenna! xo

[@Guts318]

The final call -- I wonder how he'd respond had the genders been reversed. Always an incompetent male, always a strong boss girl.

[@Trolly.Troll.]

A mistake was something you did without intention; A bad decision was made intentionally often without regard for the consequences.