DIVORCE: My Wife's Response

[@Indecisivetacos]

“You shouldn’t be with someone as f*cked up as me” is a red flag- my ex used to tell me that “I deserve better” so I was forced to comfort him and looking back I have the ICK

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

Yeah, it's like essentially blaming Julia for "choosing" Eileen

[@Indecisivetacos]

@@pinkpotatowarrior THAT SOUNDS SO WRONG!! Your partner should never say that “you deserve better”

[@cam410]

Totally agree with this.

[@adelesmith7827]

Its called motivational empathy x ❤

[@TheDetroitblack]

She wants to be the innocent one here lol I don't like Eileen anymore

[@Indecisivetacos]

You deserve better = I’m not willing to treat you better

[@stephaniebaird6937]

YES omg

[@speakstrange]

💯

[@Lithrilla]

OMG YES!

[@lisaellis5213]

Exactly

[@jenniferrose2360]

She’s ticked every single narcissistic abuse box there is, get those divorce papers and RUN. SHE WILL ABUSE YOU EVEN AS A FRIEND

[@Jillinwonderhell]

Have the same thoughts.

[@samanthawhite3127]

It’s done and paid for already

[@LeahhhLux]

I’ve thought this since the beginning

[@shekinahmaimane]

I don’t think they should continue being friends. Eileen takes advantage of the fact that Julia is emphatic. She’s gonna keep coming to Julia and asking her to “bail her out”

[@TheDetroitblack]

Eileen should have been grateful to have such an amazing Spirit like Julia... she'll never have anybody like her in this lifetime.....she should have treated her better!!!!

[@Arinanotmarina]

The credit card conversation was so painful to watch.

[@rue353]

So many signs of manipulation here, the gaslighting. The sudden influx of tears that force you, the victim, to end up comforting the person that caused all of this. Wow…a hard watch

[@samalburn5487]

💯

[@Indecisivetacos]

You shouldn’t be with someone as f***** up as me.. yikes I’ve heard that before😭 my ex used to tell me “you deserve better”

[@butter-fly16]

​@@Indecisivetacossame I have been in an abusive relationship with a narcissist and heard the same thing

[@Indecisivetacos]

@@butter-fly16 narcissists are not for the weak! I would always communicate something I dislike and his response was either “you deserve better” or “sorry I’m such a bad guy”

[@EmileeBreeana19]

Like we don’t want to see this. We’re done w that lady

[@brittcarter7812]

She had a warrant, and didn’t think she was gonna get arrested? That’s a wild concept for a woman of her age.

[@Nikkistrict]

Somehow, it makes sense here. Shes good at playing stupid and spinning things, as a narcissist does

[@nibbler2945]

Ya an old woman

[@ItsNaeBihhh.Daaah6]

Women her age dating so young is not all the way there just like the men 💯💯 so im not surprised

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

"You married someone without any resources" is almost like Eileen putting the blame on Julia for choosing her, and Eileen not taking any accountability for her actions...

[@nunyabusiness8000]

Eileen is a shitty person but Julia isn't agentless, she did choose who to marry, she proposed. Both these women are deeply damaged.

[@erica5513]

I cringed when Eileen said something about a bomb going off on both of them. Like lady, **you** were the bomb. Both made their own choices to get here, but Eileen playing dumb is wild

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

@@erica5513 100%!!!! She was the BOMB! 💣

[@Rebecca_Bailey]

It really shows Eileen’s true colours here. I quite liked her when Julia started going out with her but now she’s a master manipulator and gaslighter, she never once said sorry or ‘you’re right’. Everything Julia said was wrong according to Eileen

[@louwinters508]

Yeh it's like aww. You chose me so ultimately it's your fault I chose not to pay you back what I owe you because I have no resources. You knew what you were getting into when you married me. I don't have any money and I can't be arsed earning any even though I'm very capable. But I just need to do me. And if you can't deal with that you shouldn't be with me.

[@4scotto]

Ive learned if someone tells you that you deserve better, believe them

[@burymewithabook]

❤

[@lisaklozenberg6408]

Liking that! Well said and well spotted!

[@okayokeyokai]

100%

[@heltae]

TOTALLY

[@AzothDee]

Yee

[@perlapeguero8612]

Feels like she was gaslighting the entire time and making excuses.

[@samalburn5487]

Very much so - it's heartbreaking and telling because Julia is being honest and pure.

[@perlapeguero8612]

@@samalburn5487 it truly is, my heart hurts for Julia. She didn’t deserve any of this

[@teijaflink2226]

I watched some of their first videos, honestly she had this type of behavior from the beginning, like way too much saying positive things about Julia (doesn't feel genuin but more like to trap her). I don't want to say she's a bad person, I have no idea but I feel so incredibly bad that Julia got stuck in this toxic relationship (though she herself probably has had her problems too), lots of red flags.

[@Jillinwonderhell]

Yeah, breaks my heart to watch 😢

[@jackie2070]

Facts, sounds like she’s in court saying her side

[@abbyhoneywaffles]

The absolute audacity of committing a crime & going to jail, making your spouse pay the bail fees, then refusing to get a job to pay it off after. WTF. I can't even fathom how Julia lasted as long as she did.

[@SadeLewis22]

And then too say while smirking well it was worth the money tho because they dropped all charges . Wasn’t you’re money Eileen !!! She’s free to come and go to America as she pleases now Julia has cleaned up her mess , probably what she planned all along

[@Soraine_]

Poor Julia was just leeched off of. My heart breaks for her.

[@DawnT0065]

And Julia couldn’t even attend her grandfathers funeral because she didn’t have money to go to Brazil because she was in debt after paying the bail fees for Eileen that is just wild!

[@lisave10]

Right? She is beyond belief. Such a piece of work

[@amiianectar]

So after Julia Bailed Eileen out and missed her grandpa’s funeral because of it , Eileen Repays her by maxing out two credit cards??? This woman never loved Julia. She used her in more ways than one. This is a human leech.

[@20BabyGirl19]

And then denys julia paying the card off absolutely ridiculous

[@Astral_Clover]

So sad…. The old lady is a narcissist and is UNABLE to love. She’s out for herself! This has no bearing on how the young girl should ever view herself or her intelligence. She needs to RUN far far away

[@ravynwoods5902]

💯

[@pibawww]

She shows signs of clear manipulation and had manipulated her from the start

[@whatheavensaid]

Please try to understand addiction. She's not a bad person. She's a sick person.

[@karenalbright9836]

Julia needs a “who tf did I marry-Uk edition” series. Bless your heart baby girl

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

The gaslighting to Julia about the credit cards, omgggg 💀

[@ItsMeJen30]

Yes!! 🤦‍♀️

[@Lawzika]

I know, its disgraceful

[@EmileeBreeana19]

Right like , ok if Julia didn’t pay them off, who did ?? Eileen has no money

[@caitlinb828]

My thoughts exactly. “Julia that’s not true, idk what you’re taking about, you didn’t pay any of it. I’m sorry I disagree with you I have a real understanding of what I’ve used those credit cards for and there was, you know, you have had nothing, I’ve gotten you copies of the card” Julia “but I remember paying for a card cuz I was worried about credit scores” “No, really? If it had gotten to that point, I think I would’ve stopped. If you were then sharing with me that you were so concerned about it affecting your credit.” Julia “ that’s how I remember it but maybe I don’t know I was a bit under stressed at that time” Eileen “ you’re welcome to your perspective, but I can say that I know and own the crap I’ve done but that isn’t part of the crap I’ve done” 🤯 ⛽️💡

[@erikagough683]

Julias definitely lying about paying that card ​@caitlinb828

[@SmilingMathEquation-ww2we]

Between Eileen making poor excuses for herself, playing victim, gaslighting you, etc... this is literal abuse behavior. I literally have a PhD in psychology and my entire focus of study was on abusive relationship dynamics. I'm so glad yall are divorcing this video was hard to watch.

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

100%!!!

[@courtney9899]

It’s great to hear someone with a psych PhD validate everything everyone is seeing

[@n.zsofiaszabo479]

Am i the only one who think Eileen refuses to answer honestly? 😅

[@samalburn5487]

It's more of a tell- Eileen really has some major immaturity, selfish, and narcissistic issues.

[@ExplorewithSarahlouise]

I think it’s a place of defence. Most of society is this way when challenged defend immediately it takes a lot of work to acknowledge criticism and own it.

[@Clarksavannah]

Idk. It’s a cop out in my opinion - she admits to being wrong and being the problem but says it was never intended behavior. You choose how to behave. Nobody else can make you behave the way you should.

[@alessandrajackson3768]

1000% you can tell she was lying

[@ExplorewithSarahlouise]

@@Clarksavannah I mean that’s not rly true not everyone is ready to change or can change in a short time period. No one gets into debt like that for fun or on purpose but saying that it’s absolutely not up to Julia to constantly bail her out either or be expected to.

[@cwisteenor2394]

I feel like I just watched the whole cycle of abuse play out. She starts with DARVO - deny (no I remember that differently, that's not what happened), attack (YOU married someone without resources so it's your fault), Reverse Victim and Offender (Im the victim here and you are wrongly accusing me) then when the gaslighting didn't work she turned on the guilt inducing tears to get Julia to comfort her, then we saw the love bombing right at the end (you're perfect and there's nothing negative I could say about you). Its an emotional rollercoaster for Julia, caught in the fog of fear, obligation and guilt. Hold your head up high Julia. This dynamic is so hard to work your way out of, and you have done it. It's ok to cycle through so many different emotions. But space for a while is so important so that you can heal.

[@jenniferrose2360]

Imagine trying to gaslight someone in front of hundreds of thousands of people. When Julia has proof FOR IT ALL

[@csmith8404]

Eileen has no accountability. Even pointing out her own flaws, she still implies it is still Julia's "fault" for choosing Eileen as a partner. Total narcissist. "You borrow money from our friends. And then YOU pay it back...which is already unfair" I really think she feels like it is Julia's debt for paying for Eileen to get out of jail. Her wording implies no grasp of the situation.

[@pibawww]

Eileens abuse is her abuse and her fault. Julia is a victim and Eileen has no excuse

[@heatheralice89]

Yeah, I agree

[@clareguy7682]

And to say it was well worth the money Julia’s money not even hers

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

You were financially abused, whether it was intentional of her or not.

[@watchthisheadspace]

Exactly. She's old enough to know what she was doing

[@tjarcify]

Blödsinn

[@moniqua9123]

That literally doesn't make sense! Abuse is ALWAYS intentionally!

[@watchthisheadspace]

@@moniqua9123 sometimes people are genuinely oblivious which is a whole other problem

[@CrystalmarieGrz]

Yep there are all kinds of abuse that may not be intentional abuse. Manipulating to get your way, spending money and putting your partner through anxiety also not intentionally to abuse Julia but that’s still abuse.

[@sophievictoria7337]

Get a lawyer and make sure you have receipts for all her debts you paid for. After watching this video, I wouldn’t be surprised if she tried to extort more money out of you from the divorce.

[@Ramuna-ip4qy]

For sure!

[@Skzcore367]

Eileen is so manipulative and I’m glad Julia stands up to her

[@bbhdd6181]

in like 10 years Julia is gonna look back on this relationship with SO much clarity on the abuse. Love that for her.

[@cincristi7837]

She’s a professional scammer

[@liquidmoonizze]

haha yeah, the reason she couldn't get another job is because she was already scamming full time

[@CherryDreamer96]

Sadly this is true. She has gone by so many names over the years. I remember when this information first emerged on the Internet I was really worried for Julia

[@nyceexo53]

@@CherryDreamer96 yea what is up with that? What was the reason she gave for the name changes, was she married before or something?

[@amandaprice87]

And her soft voice helps her be a bigger scammer

[@Jess-Rabbit]

Exactly. Who other than criminals has changed their name a million times like her? Its shady af

[@jamesrodgers8182]

That older lady is an immature narcissist that lies by omission. She said sorry for you and kept talking while you were having a coughing fit. Absolutely incredible how insincere she is

[@nanoe6250]

Amen!

[@WildScotAurora]

Best comment.

[@suneelandrey4476]

I saw gaslighting, mental & emotional manipulation, deflection & stonewalling. I would think that I woman at that age would be more properly put together and shame on her for exploiting someone much younger with less life experiences. She needs therapy to deal with these issues she she doesn't hurt someone else.

[@MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts]

Don’t forget about the weaponized incompetence 😒

[@Ramuna-ip4qy]

Therapy doesn't work on narcissists. You just have to cut your ties completely and get far far away from these toxic people.

[@Bluetrekkie]

I think we overestimate maturity levels in older people tbh. Nowadays, I see WAY more maturity from people in their mid 20’s and 30’s than from anyone 50+.

[@st4rryblossom]

if she was mature she wouldn’t have married a 23 year old. that woman is sick in the head

[@arie2455]

This video should be called *Eileen gaslighting Julia for 19 mins straight*

[@emsyfk]

Be glad you’ve got rid of her. You might not see it now, but you’ll eventually realize that this relationship wasn’t healthy. Please take care of yourself. Sending hugs.

[@easton1354]

100%!!!

[@Grettss]

I bet shes gonna try to claim spousal support

[@Lawzika]

I have Complex PTSD from narcissistic abuse and this was an incredibly difficult watch for me. Eileen is deflecting to make herself look and feel better. She is incredibly emotionally immature and denying someone’s version of events even where there is proof involved is gaslighting. Why on earth Julia wants to remain in her life is beyond me.

[@__elise333]

Me too. I went thru this exact same thing. It’s like textbook at this point. I feel Julia’s pain

[@Lawzika]

@@__elise333 so sorry you can relate ♥️

[@friedafrances2100]

@@Lawzikashe wants to stay in contact because she hasn't realized that abuse fully like as we outside persons have. Probably because she is not ready to believe that she was abused and that Eileen isn't the person she thought she was and she fell on love with. It takes time to realize and to heal, I hope she reaches out for the help she needs

[@beanmurphy]

we need a psychiatrist that reacts to this

[@Poseidonblue123]

Psychologist, psychiatrist, neurologist, I need all of them. Good lord. This was a very hard watch!!

[@ReneM246]

The red flag guy

[@heyits_kat]

Yes or one of the body language guys lol

[@Machoquesadilla]

I’m a psychologist. Eileen exhibits traits of undiagnosed adhd.

[@cadavher]

​@@Machoquesadilla as someone with adhd, I resent this lmao. I'll spend my own money, never my partners. She strikes me as a hard-core Narc.

[@bellabee8235]

I'm a psychiatry registrar and this is extremely hard to watch. Watching Eileen cry every time she is confronted for her wrong acts is toxic, how she turns it around so that Julia ends up apologising. Eileen desperately needs psychology, before she hurts others with her narcissism

[@sophierusk9704]

"I own the crap I've done" whilst keeping two warrants quiet. 😑

[@jacliveshere]

That part was just astounding. Every person who lives in the USA knows what a warrant is. Yet she tells Julia she thought a warrant would only lead to a hearing? No, no she did not think that.

[@donnamckinley9807]

​@@jacliveshereshe didnt own up to all the money she stole until she got caught. What else was she going to do. The word narcissist is thrown around a lot, but Eileen is one of the worst I've ever seen.

[@jacliveshere]

@@donnamckinley9807 agreed! Yes, it bothers me a lot when people use the word narcissist too freely. But the kind of behavior coming from her is only found in Cluster B personality types (narcissists, ASPD etc). You're spot on. The stress I felt watching this made me realize even more why Julia's mental health had suffered so much during this relationship.

[@Dsaysalot]

And opening multiple credit cards (and maxing them out) in your spouses name. What a psycho

[@_leave.a.mark_]

The trauma of missing your Grandfather's funeral alone never mind the disrespect from the person that "loves" you is torture. While it might not feel like it, this is your lucky escape Julia. We are all sending you so much love and strength 💓

[@watchthisheadspace]

You missed your grandads funeral for bailing her out thats awful

[@tonyaboggs5367]

Oh my God they were married and it's naughty big f****** deal. Have you women on here leech off your men so don't act like it was wrong they are supporting each other because they're any marriage Julia had money and Eileen did it and that's how it is in a lot of marriages

[@watchthisheadspace]

@@tonyaboggs5367 sorry what does any of that say? I got the jist you're justifying financial.abuse because some women do it to men? Missing a funeral because you had to bail your wife out of jail for her lies and her refusing to pay you back is kind of a big deal

[@ghostinthecity]

@@tonyaboggs5367 the way men have nothing to with this situation and you still brought them into it for some reason 😭

[@jamalazero2353]

@@tonyaboggs5367 aha thats crazy but try making it make sense next time!

[@Cyhcg5uhgb]

​@@tonyaboggs5367 did you google translate this or something?

[@Selitos676]

The gaslighting is insane, whether she’s just defensive and has a hard time admitting stuff or she’s malicious, you’re better off without her in your life.

[@MariBased]

The weaponized incompetence... I really don't want to be rude, but some of the things Eileen said are so elusive. I dislike the way she keeps saying "YOU married someone without any resources" "YOU married someone with maladaptive episodes", as if you marrying her meant you agreed to her not putting work into doing better, instead of her actively doing it to you.

[@MN-mz5pd]

100% Eileen is a grifter for sure. She played Julia and wanted to sit around and have Julia to work. Eileen took advantage of her.

[@user-su9py5qm6f]

Yes! It’s so manipulative because she makes it sound like she’s admitting her faults but still evades any responsibility.

[@mylene_b]

Eileen refused to even help pay for the loan from friends and family that Julia took to literally get her out of prison. WTFFFFF!!!! Talk about being ungrateful. What a burden!

[@melisa4302]

I have no idea how Eileen is gonna survive on her own in London if she doesn’t wanna get a job and maxes out credit cards 🤔

[@alwayssavage9592]

She’s not accepting responsibility and she’s clearly been like this her whole life. It’s probably why she got with someone so young to begin with, older people catch onto the red flags faster. It’s awful that she’s getting her to post this stuff.

[@RebeccaDanielle93]

Yikes... this was a very hard watch. How dare Julia be upset that Eileen maxed out 2 credit cards after just spending thousands on Elieens bail... (this is sarcasm, btw) Eileen is a total narcissist. "Yes, I maxed them out, but not right away." Like as if that makes it any better 🤦‍♀️

[@Skzcore367]

Eileen has a victim complex..

[@samalburn5487]

💯 accurate

[@LeahhhLux]

Narcissist

[@firefly_365]

Agreed

[@FrankyTorres-h7t]

Nan

[@amazonionavalon8252]

Julia has

[@caitlinb828]

Anyone who has to repeatedly say “trust me”, “honestly” or “I’m being honest” should not be trusted. No accountability.

[@thefangirlfromhell9627]

Bank/card statements don’t lie…

[@Emjay-jb4db]

She saw Julias naivety and jumped. She is a total narcissist. It's all me,me, me,

[@watchthisheadspace]

It was abuse. It doesnt matter the intention. She should have realised and she saw she upset you

[@__elise333]

Can’t tell if Eileen is like just downright clueless or dangerously manipulative.

[@brittanyanderson325]

This is so triggering. I remember situations in my life when someone disrespected me and/or hurt me in some way and I confronted them about it. The way Eileen is talking to Julia is very similar to those past situations I have had. I might need to go for a walk and breath after this video. The future is going to be much brighter for Julia if she never involves herself with this kind of person again.

[@samalburn5487]

Agreed I felt it too--- Eileen was majorly trying to come off in a better light. She's not fully accepting everything in these clips and it's really telling.

[@Clarksavannah]

It took me days to watch the other video of both of them talking about this because every word that came out of Eileen’s mouth was bull shit in my opinion. I kept having to stop it to calm down.

[@Aphrodite12003]

She got to think before she marrys someone again just for the sake of love. It's more than just love when you marry someone. They both have to have what someone wants to receive and give. It can't be one sided.

[@Peachyy87]

Agreed. This reminds me of me and my mother. She gaslights me constantly, steals my money, denies everything. :(

[@burymewithabook]

❤ to you

[@jenholder376]

Julia, this is ABUSE!! There are no if, ands or buts. We've seen everything at this point and she is gaslighting, manipulating and deceiving you. You are doing the right thing, don't even try and stay friends. You deserve much, much more. Sending you SO much love

[@Lilliemarshalls1991]

like this button if you think Julia is being too nice to Eileen

[@HereIsWhatWeKnow]

No

[@Zoricalukic-qr2zk]

Da bas je dobra kao oluja😂😂😂

[@missycitty9478]

Julia is a hard-core empath. I know because I am one as well. She's just being her true, authentic self. Being an empath can sometimes be a curse. 😢

[@jessethefairy]

@@missycitty9478 theres no such thing as being an empath, every human is empathic . it seems julia is being manipulated into giving into this person and their abusive tactics

[@missycitty9478]

@jessethefairy Every human being has empathy?? REALLY? Oh Sweetie, you have SOO much to learn. So much. No. Not EVERY human being has empathy. Not even close. You live in a "Fairy" dream.

[@Mouse-]

You need to cut all ties and go no-contact. You need to go to therapy yourself and ENSURE that you do not get taken advantage of again. You are very likely predisposed to seeking this sort of partner out based on past trauma.

[@JLM498]

Yikes ! This is so triggering for people who’ve been gaslit and manipulated.

[@pibawww]

the audacity eileen has to lie to your face while you literally know the truth. the gaslightingg

[@Zoricalukic-qr2zk]

Dal je ona glumila da je bogata a zapravo je prevarant bez novca ?😂😂😂

[@pibawww]

​@@Zoricalukic-qr2zk I dont know but I wouldn't be surprised

[@janjagalatejahudeludis3157]

​@@Zoricalukic-qr2zk Ona se nikada nije predstavljala kao da je bogata

[@Jillinwonderhell]

Feeling so sad for Julia 😢

[@Zoricalukic-qr2zk]

@@janjagalatejahudeludis3157 opa nisam jedina koja prati ih govoris nas nego kako se prestavljala kako to da odjednom Julia presjece i razvede se od nje?

[@Rebecca_Bailey]

“You married someone without any resources” So this is Julia’s fault now? Oh hell no, none of this is her fault. Eileen really needs to start taking the blame here, not try and gaslight Julia.

[@Ghostywiththemosty]

The deflecting from Eileen’s side and defensiveness to your pain from the whole granddad situation made me so uncomfortable I’m happy your moving on 🥺I hope we get the happy Julia back as time goes on

[@samalburn5487]

Agreed --- it's showing.

[@Ghostywiththemosty]

@@samalburn5487 ya the abuse really starts to peep through 😞especially the whole smiling while talking then the getting mad as it continued and saying theirs two different perceptions mines right your obviously wrong but it’s fact she’s had secret credit cards too Julia will forever have to grieve she wasn’t able to go to her grandads funeral cuz of Eileen

[@teijaflink2226]

Has Eileen ever payed back the money Julia payed to get her out of jail?

[@Ghostywiththemosty]

@@teijaflink2226 no she hasn’t I think Julia has speaked about this a few times

[@wawa5610]

She never will. She doesnt have a job, refuses to work and stacked up debt.... julia eats all the money she put into the relationship@@teijaflink2226

[@torrikunkelman5397]

Eileen knew exactly what she was doing. You can tell by the way she smirks.

[@wawa5610]

I agree- I think she knew exactly what she was doing.

[@helenknight7653]

I've had to stop watching as this has made me feel physically sick. It took me over a decade to realise I couldn't help my ex partner. I spend thousands bailing her out of the choas she created. I would strongly advise Julia to cut all contact when divorce is finalised.

[@ReneM246]

Yes I feel nauseous, that was textbook abuse

[@Aly_224]

It’s making me so upset. She blames her the entire time with zero accountability. It’s making my blood boil

[@GoddessOfLoveEnergy333]

The gaslighting is outrageous.

[@moeoverthere3640]

It’s almost hard to watch! Like each statement even Julia is convinced what happened Eileen tried to twist it.

[@dawnriddler]

"I'm not saying anything different from you", this seems to be the biggest issue, lack of awareness. Julia is talking about how her partner wasn't transparent with her and not once tried to address her own problems, but dragging both of them into it, and then not even feeling the slightest need to fix the issue. And Eileen is like "I understand that if I had money, this would've never happened". No, if you had common sense and even the slightest bit of care about yourself and your partner, this wouldn't have happened.

[@victoriamalone6184]

YES this drove me up the wall. Julia rightfully tried to say even someone without resources could have acted better and lessened the negative ci sequences, but Eileen acted foolishly and selfishly and THATS the issue. Eileen is just saying that if she were rich her foolish and selfish actions wouldn’t have hurt Julia, but they would have eventually just in different ways.

[@dawnriddler]

@@victoriamalone6184 it also blows my mind how someone can be that old and still act like a teenager. Imagine not working on yourself and addressing your issues for 30+ years. Wild!

[@victoriamalone6184]

@@dawnriddler oh I know, but a few years ago I was friends with someone in his 30s and he acted just like this! Totally unwilling to have even the smallest conversations around growth and change, it’s wild what people will do to avoid having to work on themsleves

[@kylohepburn]

Anyone else noticing how Eileen keeps trying to gaslight Julia? (Her entire demeanor, the way she keeps denying any argument of Julia, the zero responsibility when she just says "You shouldn’t be with someone as f*cked up as me" as if that fixes anything at all...)

[@Rebecca_Bailey]

“You married someone without any resources” is a prime example

[@kylohepburn]

@@Rebecca_Bailey exactly. It's such a classic tactic to steal the attention and direct it to herself, in order to make Julia feel guilty for her own actions...

[@steliroxs]

If she truly felt that way, she would have said no to Julia at the altar

[@seggyyy]

Eileen: it was a terrible situation **smirks**

[@irenekay7934]

She's such a narcissistic

[@stxrryd]

"I couldn't see myself going back to work". ??????????? She couldn't see you getting arrested and paying the consequences of it either!

[@Hollyann312]

We will now be able to watch Julia recover. Julia this was the best decision you ever made! You were to nice to your ex! She used and abused you at so many levels.

[@samalburn5487]

Yes and Eileen was honest when she finally admitted to manipulating Julia--- the BEST HONESTY I HAVE SEEN FROM HER THROUGHOUT THIS WHOLE VID. The only time I believed Eileen's words.

[@lydiaspelman8278]

@@samalburn5487 Eileen victimised herself in every way, she wasn’t honest because of that. She tried to lie infront of all the people watching. She isn’t honest. She only admitted to some because she got caught out too far for the point of return.

[@driskey82]

Eileen won’t admit she’s lazy

[@clareguy7682]

Has she worked since being in the uk and she is not even retirement age my mum works 50 hours a week she is 65

[@dggfddgdrfdddgd2124]

Shitty country. Not something to brag about

[@dggfddgdrfdddgd2124]

Most people have to work to be poor then can’t even retire

[@l-boogs1063]

I think Eileen talks “smart” as a manipulation tool.

[@EmileeBreeana19]

Yes especially because she knows English is not Julia’s first language

[@jenniffercabrera4949]

Literally, ever since they first started dating always felt bad for Julia because I feel her, English isn’t my first language either and sometimes it’s hard finding the right words to describe my feelings, but I try, Julia is so smart and sweet. 😢

[@emi7916]

"I wish I hadn't filmed this, I feel really bad" then proceeds to upload it any way lmao

[@jacliveshere]

I think you missed the part where Julia said it was filmed 3 months ago and they did decide to not upload it. The only reason they're doing it now is because they broke up. When they made this video they were still together (which is why we never saw this video when it was made several months ago). Julia didn't need to feel bad and she knows that now.

[@mirandafitch1013]

I think all of this is very private to be on the internet … it’s crazy to me that people broadcast this stuff

[@zoooejenkins]

This channel is about Julia’s life, and she has the right to post what she wants to post.

[@LoriArchambault-p2p]

I agree! But again, Julia makes money off of this. It’s unfortunate that she has to share the details of this part of her life; for the wrong reasons. Julia apparently has no respect for Eileen. And maybe that’s due to the past issues. Either way I don’t agree with the broadcast of “Eileen’s issues”. I’m sure Julia has skeletons in her closet too. “Friends” wouldn’t do this to other friends. I like Julia but I think I may have to skip these type of videos. I do enjoy her other content though. Sending much love and prayers for the both of them during this time.

[@Jess-Rabbit]

Well they've already addressed everything on the channel so whats the difference

[@CherryDreamer96]

Same tbh but Julia has always been very open and vulnerable on her channel

[@jennifernelson83]

Why are you watching?

[@bdstairways]

This needs to be the last video you do with Eileen in it. This has red flags all over it. She has major issues. She is not responsible for her actions and did not learn or grow. Unbelievable.

[@angelineg2350]

Julia you are a catch. Eileen is immature and couldn’t grasp the seriousness of what she was doing to you financially. Honestly? The fact she’s in the position she was just shows she’s foolish with money

[@mirandafitch1013]

Omg when Eileen was arguing she didn’t pay for the credit card… I felt so bad for Julia because I believe Julia.

[@angelineg2350]

@@mirandafitch1013 I honestly can’t fathom a grown adult saying they won’t pay for their own debt. I know it’s harsh but I don’t think Eileen truly loved Julia.

[@pibawww]

Julia is over 30 years younger yet way more mature

[@nyceexo53]

Seriously, her gaslighting Julia about paying off the credit cards…meanwhile she got the cards without even letting Julia know in the first place! That alone is so deceitful when you’re married to someone wtf

[@melb4116]

I think Eileen married her just to scam her

[@caitlyngeiler8755]

I REALLY wanted to listen to Eileen's side with an open heart and mind.... But I found myself saying "Oh FUCK OFF, Eileen!" at least a dozen times through this video. I hope she gets whatever help she does need. And I'm glad you found the strength to love yourself enough to walk away, Julia. All my love to you

[@juliafothergill815]

Same, I’ve always been so open minded with this relationship but she couldn’t one up to faults without trying to excuse her actions.

[@SadeLewis22]

When she said it was worth the money tho in regards too the lawyer , but it wasn’t your money Eileen! She knew this would happen going to America too she tricked Julia . It’s all sorted now tho she can go back as much as she likes 🙄 and then to have the audacity to say she should of been more Mature to know it wouldn’t work because of the age gap, what a slap in the face for Julia none of the problems here were age gap related they were all Eileen being a awful person related

[@katleger8484]

She was financially abusing you sadly

[@carvalhobela]

this is too personal 😢

[@Daria.Sergienko]

Eileen is a hell of a gaslighter.

[@samalburn5487]

💯

[@ellie8785]

I don’t remember this I don’t remember that… classic signs of someone’s lying and not admitting the truth

[@miscmaddie]

Two thing. 1. Handling situations like these with grace, much like you are, is always so difficult. Props to you for staying strong and taking the high road. It shows true character and integrity and is admirable. 2. I heard that "y'all", you've been spending a lot of time in GA haven't you?! ❤😂

[@k_spats]

E is so full of shiz. I seriously can't take it. I'm 56 years old and see through her nonsense, crystal clearly. I'm just so glad that Julia is getting out of this toxic situation/relationship. *Julia deserves the world!!!* She is so pure and good. ✨️

[@Clarksavannah]

I just got to the part where she is denying Julia’s reality of paying her credit card bill. 😮

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

Eileen doesn't work, she doesn't even want to do youtube... so how was she expecting them to be paid? Of course she wanted Julia to do it 💀 smh

[@cjxo6]

Once they got to America Eileen immediately started applying for credit cards and spending like a crazy person 👀 She’s a master manipulator

[@cat0707]

Right. Like what is she buying???

[@InterstellarDreams]

No, she is NOT saying the same thing! She is gaslighting you! And she seemed annoyed when you objected to it, and refused to be gaslit by her. If she had any sense of respect for you, whatsoever..? She should have just-straight up apologized! Her misplaced self-righteousness is incredible. And you should in NO way have to APOLOGIZE for disagreeing with her! Look at who is not at all apologizing to YOU, unless it's to make herself look good. Just saying. Also, "I couldn't see myself going back to that" = "I'm too good for that sh*t, and I'm going to keep leeching off of you, after you've already gotten yourself into DEEP sh*t to save my ungrateful @ss." And again, her angry self-righteousness here is UNBELIEVABLE. You seem sorry, and like you're trying to reach a mutual understanding, while she just keeps making up excuses, and getting angry when you call her out on it. And you know what, Julia..? You do NOT have to excuse her sh*tty behavior, one bit! You do NOT have to be accommodating and forgiving! Which, that was what really bothered me in this video.. When for ONCE, she was actually truthful, and said the ONLY completely truthful thing she's possibly said, during this whole argument? Namely: "I'm f*cked up, and you shouldn't be with someone as f*cked up as me"..? You leaned over and hugged her, and DISAGREED with her, and told her NOT to say that! Which is also f*cked up, in its own way! I'm glad you're escaping her, and no longer letting her abuse you. But seriously, Julia.. You need to learn how to stand up for yourself more. You seem very codependent, here, and while the abuse still isn't your fault..? You have probably enabled it, and accepted it, allowing it to continue, for FAR longer than it should have. When she tells you she's f*cked up..? You should AGREE with her! When people tell you who they are, in a rare slight of honesty..? BELIEVE them!!! I think another honest thing Eileen said here..? Is that she's a MANIPULATOR. Which indeed she is. And you were an easy victim for her to use. That's all it ever was. Speaking as someone who's been in a past relationship with a similarly emotionally and financially abusive, (never physically abusive, thank heavens), addict. And I'm no longer excusing his sh*t, one bit. He was a BAD, selfish user, who did not give a sh*t about my needs and feelings. And he also said, when given an ultimatum of his drugs and credit cards vs. me, that he chose the drugs and credit cards. I never excused it back then, and I still don't excuse it now. He was a BAD person. Eileen is a BAD person. End of. Stop infantilizing her, stop excusing it, and stop denying it on the rare occasions when she DOES actually speak the truth. That's how you've let her get away with this sh*t, for ALL this time. Uggggggh. Harsh words, maybe, but they are TRUE. Best of luck with everything, going forward, Julia.

[@samalburn5487]

Honestly? Well said. It was tough to read but you said some of the same things I've been replying with others and sent to Julia myself. Thanks for also sharing how a lot of us feel- Julia really is a rare human being - she's even better than I am--- it's why Eileen is so triggering - like how? I just couldn't- all in all- Julia - you're doing the right thing.

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

100%!!!!

[@ILoveLamp_1995]

Eileen has a unique way of manipulating Julia, and it's truly sad to see. She is really good at twisting every situation to make herself less responsible.

[@sammarie36]

I just think in my opinion that she is not taking any responsibility for her actions and behavior. Eileen is just gaslighting her to believe what she wants to believe. and Julia you are such an amazing person I hope that you can heal. ❤❤❤❤

[@funnymusicfreak]

„I guess I was manipulating the situation.“ Proceeds to manipulate the situation…

[@elenamariaasmr1036]

She is so over her and I’m so proud of her. Been here since day 1 Julia , you’ve set boundaries and you are stronger ❤ you needed this experience to grow and stand up for yourself cx

[@lauracarley8669]

The entitlement with the job is WILD. She “couldn’t see it” - I’m sure Julia couldn’t see bailing you out of jail with all of her savings. Sooo ignorant and selfish. Good riddance

[@mirandamariiie]

Julia just to watch this was exhausting, and brought me back to some really dark times in my own life. I recognize that look on your face, how tired you must be. I truly hope this next chapter of your life can be focusing on you and spoiling yourself and finding yourself and YOUR happiness and peace. As someone who has been here and rooting for you BOTH from the start, I know your love was real for your wife. I hope that this doesn’t stop you from finding love again and letting someone in to trust them. I believe you will find your way and everything will work out and I’m so proud of the woman I watch on screen today. In addition I also hope Eileen can figure out her own life and challenges and working through her manipulation of the truth etc. No ill will to her I just hope this can be a hard wake up call for her….if nothing else was. Love you J you’re gonna be fine and we’re so proud of you 💗💗

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Great Video. There is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. There are no formulas to these things. What works for Adam might not work for peter. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..

[@oglaskubuot]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.....

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

I know its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@oglaskubuot]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now.... I hope this works for me too, I really miss her....!

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

You definitely should.

[@vero9348]

Do they really need CASH that bad to expose every single aspect of their intimacy? YIKES

[@butter-fly16]

Not just her but lots of you tubers do that, it's the new normal

[@natv6294]

When I saw the video I felt the same lol

[@friedafrances2100]

I think it is good for people wo are stuck in similar abusive relationships to realize that

[@cookie________]

This is a painful watch. Eileen is gaslighting HARD. Holy shit.

[@duckiepops8756]

At the point you were like… I paid because I didn’t want you to get beat up, I immediately knew that is what must have been said to you in jail phone calls… “I am so scared I am going to die in here” Eileen is opportunist and latches on to an opportunity that benefits herself and will never see past that.. she doesn’t have the ability to see beyond herself and let’s be honest the issue is.. she doesn’t want to. You kept repeating about principle.. her priorities and choices were wrong. She forbids herself from wanting to look like a bad person and cries when she has to face a fact that she has been. She expects to be looked after.. unfortunately she has yet to hit rock bottom due to the kindness she looks to exploit, until then she won’t change.

[@teijaflink2226]

I'm just thinking how scared Julia must have been when that happened.

[@duckiepops8756]

It would be scary but it won’t have been like what she probably imagined or what it was portrayed to be.. that’s one of the things that’s the most irritating because even though that was a consequence of Eileen’s choice.. only Julia suffered a true life consequence from a time and memory spent grieving the loss of family.. a prison sentence of her own.

[@nicoler2872]

I rarely comment on youtube videos, but Ive been following you for a while. Eileen reminds me so much of my mother in this video. My mom is a lifelong scammer and a narcissist. She has stolen over 200k from her own mother and stolen my inheritance from my grandparents. Anytime I've confronted her about it, along with receipts, she tries to worm her way out of it. It makes your head spin, just the same way Eileen tries to find any reason to excuse her behavior. I am so glad you are getting away from this. People like this need serious therapy, and to not be around kind loving people who they take advantage of.

[@Staaaarrr0]

You can really see what kind of person Eileen really is in this video… gaslighting everythingggg.. soo toxic.. excuse for everything. Hope you can see past this relationship Julia.. I know it’s not easy.. tbh it would maybe be best to be alone especially in the beginning after the break up and focus on yourself.. find yourself again 💞 sending you lots of love ❤️ I think Eileen was just mirroring you in the beginning of the relationship tbh.. now you see her true self.. be happy that you’re free now and never look back!

[@NickBI-e8i]

Most abuse isn't intentional julia.... that doesn't make it not abuse. Most abusers dont realize the damage they are doing till its done and some never learn just because they have good intentions doesnt make them a good person.

[@beautifulplaces2703]

Most abusers don't care about the damage they cause to others.

[@missycitty9478]

Bottom line, Eileen lied and kept secrets from the start. I hope They BOTH learn from this. Eileen- Become a grownup finally, and be honest from here on in. Julia- please be more aware from here on in. And Be happy like you deserve. Love you both and truly wish you both nothing but happiness. ❤❤

[@CorvinusAnimus]

Finally, a positive response. I wish them both the best as well.

[@missycitty9478]

@@CorvinusAnimus ❤️❤️❤️

[@MSR_Ma]

She needs to pay her back. It wasn’t her debt to pay. This lady was just being lazy and comfortable with this young woman’s money.

[@alessandrajackson3768]

Do not co-parent with her! You will need to go cold turkey/no contact from her. She doesn’t seem to have an ounce of remorse. I’m watching you cry and relive all this pain, and she is just stoic and obviously lying. The lack of remorse over your grandfather’s funeral, and trying to paint you as the bad guy or a gold digger. It was sickening.

[@alessandrajackson3768]

For your divorce hearings, please get copies of you paying off the credit cards and her bails.

[@alessandrajackson3768]

The one honest thing I saw her say is that she is fucked up, that’s why she started crying.

[@bethanysmith8418]

I agree I know it’ll be hard as you love the pets but absolutely every link needs to be cut

[@erinhawkins5984]

I wish on a bejazezled star that nobody will ever say ‘parent or co-parent’ when referring to pets again. They’re pets, even if they’re lovely and beloved. 🫨

[@JeffreesLipGloss]

I agree, the problem wasn't the age gap. It was a maturity gap. Julia behaving like a grown up, using her money wisely and being honest in the relationship. Eileen wants to be the child. Gets credit cards she can't pay for, running away from the law and then as a last resort says " oh sweetie it's because I'm so fucked up" but I don't have "resources". If you don't have resources you don't take out credit cards. She expected Julia to just sort out her mess. She won't own her part, she's deceitful and to be honest she doesn't make an effort appearance wise anymore. The old Eileen was vibrant and took pride in herself. I'm not meaning to be shallow but she looks like a frumpy old lady. I can't handle watching how she tries to be so manipulative. Im glad you are leaving her, even though it hurts like hell. She does NOT deserve you and she will never ever be as lucky to find someone like you again. That's for sure !

[@carrienicholasxo415]

I never saw this side of Eileen til now. Sheesh. She really gaslit.

[@samalburn5487]

Exactly - it's heartbreaking and really telling

[@carrienicholasxo415]

@samalburn5487 it felt like she was trying to blame her age on her "bad memory" that she truly remembered

[@erinhawkins5984]

This is the endgame of when your life becomes content.

[@stephaniebaird6937]

I feel like the failure of this relationship has more do with Eileen's lack of accountability for all her transgressions than Julia being an influencer.

[@teijaflink2226]

At the same time she has proof of her ex very toxic behavior towards her but I wouldn't personally put things like that on the internet but many others are more open and put everything out.

[@meganbrooks8237]

How was Eileen financially supporting herself before she met Julia? And living in Chelsea which can't be cheap

[@HelenFranklinBell]

Benefits. That's why she came to the UK. She had the eligibility for housing and free money. She says in this video that she hadn't worked since she got here.

[@Astral_Clover]

Nobody would of beat her up! She was in JAIL… not PRISON! I hope the younger wife gets into intensive therapy and learns what a healthy relationship looks like! Or this pattern is going to follow!

[@flav2689]

What’s the difference? I’m not a native English speaker so I’ve thought those are synonyms.

[@Amyyy637]

@@flav2689jail is usually temporary, prison is once convicted and it’s more permanent I think

[@Astral_Clover]

@@flav2689 prison is for criminals that have seen the judge and are sentenced to do their time. Jail is for criminals waiting to see judge or that have a sentence less then 1 year. Basically 😃

[@jodyrafter]

So how does Eileen support herself without work?

[@Poseidonblue123]

I think she receive a monthly amount of money from the government, especially for seniors. Sorry I don't know the English word for it

[@CherryDreamer96]

She probably claims benefits due to disability (im not saying that's a bad thing if she is really entitled to it) but unfortunately I think she also has a history of scamming.

[@irenekay7934]

​@@Poseidonblue123retirement 😊

[@clareguy7682]

I did think she is retirement age

[@clareguy7682]

Don’t

[@monologodejess8296]

"I guess I remember that" GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLL the way I rolled my eyes

[@Nobody-dp5xo]

I think we all remember the airport arrest incident. I think most of us the viewers we were so angry that she knew she would potentially be arrested and went anyway. She then let her young wife deal with everything. I can not imagine how stressful that would of been for Julia. Like that must of traumatized her and all because of something that her wife caused. Is someone loves you they would NEVER put you in the position that Julia was in. Im so freaking relieved they are finally getting divorced. Julia deserve peace.

[@Intentionally_jodie]

She’s dangerous in a manipulation way and the way she acts like a victim is clever because ur believing her and making excuses for everything that she’s done to u

[@irenekay7934]

Julia is a sweet and pure soul

[@Maria-n6t2d]

Well, she was in jail……

[@martymcfly8731]

17:25 “I shouldn’t have filmed this, I feel really bad.” Films anyways and posts it to KZbin.