Q+A | Love, Betrayal, Marriage, Substance Abuse + Forgiveness | Part 1

[@KristenHoffman]

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[@loriwhinery3210]

Our son Ryan lived in the streets of Tacoma Washington for at least three years. It was unbearable, he would show up and pitch tents in our back yard and bring stolen stuff to our home, lost a very good job , his wife and kids .he was shooting up fentanyl, heroin and meth, almost dying a few times. The Lord was there and it’s a long story but he’s in Florence South Carolina at the house of Hope of the pee Dee. He was baptized a few weeks ago and is living for the Lord . He still needs prayer but he’s on the right track.

[@KristenHoffman]

Praise GOD!

[@vickiwills9950]

Praying for your son Lori!❤️🙏

[@cynthiadelgado3688]

❤

[@yvettewalshe9130]

Praying for him and all of you! God bless

[@loriwhinery3210]

@@yvettewalshe9130 thank you so much. I love this community ❤️

[@ardicesaugar5475]

In a world where it's so easy to walk away it's good to hear that you worked your issues out. May GOD bless you both.

[@KristenHoffman]

Yes! Thank you!

[@nattyophelia7879]

I lost my little sister at age 27 to fentanyl. Addiction doesn’t discriminate and it consumes. So so glad you were able to escape, Josh! Many arent so lucky. You have a strong spirit and a solid foundation with Kristen! ❤

[@mreed71]

Y’all are so brave to be so open about your lives. Other struggling couples could learn so much from y’all.

[@thetreasureinthefield]

This is so beautiful. Im so proud of you Kristen for standing by your husband through this and praying those prayers over him. Wow. What an example. Very relatable to feel you’re the one spiritually leading your family, and having to struggle with respecting your spouse. Prayer works. So proud of Josh for overcoming this battle. You two are so authentic and real, beautiful marriage and couple. Such an example to your children and others watching. I appreciate the honesty in this video. It’s amazing what the Lord can do. 🤍

[@debrap947]

I am so proud of Josh! It is no small feat to kick an addiction! Only God can deliver an addict and only God can help a wife be strong and truly love someone through recovery. My former husband is an alcoholic, lost, and homeless as write this. Sadly neither of us were Christians at the time, so I just gave up and had to walk away, as it was starting to affect my health. I pray for the blessings of Abraham for you Josh and Kristen and that our heavenly Father uses you both mightily for His glory!!! Hallelujah Jesus.

[@so.2ndvintage243]

Honesty, so good to hear. We have 44 years in. Everyday needs to be led by God and love.

[@DSRd4d]

44 years for my husband and I also...it hasn't always been an easy path, but it has always been a blessed path. Thank you, Lord Jesus Christ, for walking our path with us.

[@dorothypacheco4018]

I’m floored 😮. Thank you for sharing such a sensitive, private part of y’all’s life with us. Just wow! The pictures at the end just sealed it for me. “Through God every thing is possible”. Gods hand has been over you since the day you both became one. May our good Lord continue to bless you all. ❤ thank you again sincerely.

[@judybryant3880]

Josh, I would never guess you faced addiction. I love how you said if you take something out of your life you have to fill it with something. Makes a lot of sense Having been through addiction with someone, I know what it does to everyone. It is hard so I applaud Kristen for not giving up on you.

[@CB-pf7go]

Love hearing about successful marriages as there are so many failed ones, stay the course in bad and good, put in the work and remember the grass can be greener right where you are.

[@teresaortiz9902]

Our stories are so similar. My husband and I have been married 23 years. When I met my husband I had no interest in him but he kept asking me out. We were best friends for several years before we started dating. Soon after we got married our marriage hit a rough spot and proceeded to get worst for several years. Like you I carried our relationship and family. I prayed for my husband. Things started to get better then dip again. As his faith developed and grew our marriage got better and better. I’m so thankful our marriage survived because our relationship is the best it’s ever been and our faith is stronger than ever. Thanks for sharing your story because so many couples can relate. ❤

[@elizabethronces1377]

Thank you for being authentic. I was born in a Christian family and married a Christian man, but we still struggled for the first five years of our marriage. I feel that we also needed to learn how to be selfless. Thank you for sharing your experience!

[@KristenHoffman]

It is a PROCESS!

[@lianeabeyta4515]

I wish so many couples fighting these struggles could sit and really listen to your story and your hearts. You are a testament to for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. The faithful will see their just rewards. Bless you both and your sweet girls.

[@beverlywells6193]

I love to hear you talk too Josh! Praise God you both are where you are today and blessed with 3 beautiful daughters. It seems addictions are happening in even younger kids today and it’s so sad. I pray for all of them and for those dealing with it in marriage. NO marriage is perfect but with God as head of our homes and our salvation through Christ we can go to Him for guidance. ❤

[@Regirl75]

The photos at the end are so sweet! But I had no idea about this part of your relationship and marriage battles. So many people that don’t believe in God judge Christian faith because they feel as if we live this perfect life but we all are not perfect but I strongly believe we all are given a purpose and the dedication you both have to make it work is so uplifting. God is using your husbands addiction to help those that are calling out for help and God is using you to show that, even in the struggles, you reached out with prayer. We all have a story to tell!

[@cynthiadelgado3688]

Couldn’t of said it better myself. I used to really get defensive when ppl would say their thoughts about being a Christian. Now I don’t get defensive I pray about it and know that I’m blessed with a forgiving god who loves each and everyone one of us . Just need to open up our hearts ❤️

[@KristenHoffman]

God wastes nothing! Even our moments of shame and disparity.

[@judywyse7088]

That was unexpected !! I had no idea of your struggles (how would I ? ! ), but what a glory to God and to all who struggle. Christ provides a way through and out of difficulty. Thank you for your testimony and transparency. Keep up the good work !!

[@KristenHoffman]

Yes! Thank you!

[@marydumois4242]

I’ve been married 35 years to a guy who barely speaks. This generation of married couples seem to need apps and constant validation and “ communication”. Just love and respect each other and keep it moving.

[@CateHammers]

That’s my kinda man too, don’t like over talker.

[@amyhoover214]

Wow...I loved this video. It seems more now than ever couples are divorcing over the most ridiculous things. This is proof that if you don't give up on your partner and put in the WORK, you can have a love greater than ever! God Bless you both and Josh's sobriety journey ❤

[@KristenHoffman]

Well said

[@underthemermaidmoon]

If there is abuse involved, you should absolutely leave.

[@betsyopdyke6120]

Rosie's smile looks JUST like Josh! I love the way you two can communicate.

[@yolandagort3646]

Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities and it's so wonderful to see how your faith ( and hard work) has restored your marriage .

[@KristenHoffman]

God is good!

[@kcotjo]

God bless you Josh and Kristen for your honesty and openness. Too many times people cover their struggles and we all have them. I have been married for 43+ years and there were many many hard times but we have persevered. I totally rely on the grace of God. Substance abuse is in our family as well and it has been nothing short of a miracle how God has saved a family member. Continued prayers for the both of you to keep moving forward and living one day at a time. Thank you for this authentic video. God bless each of you!!!

[@monalingan9523]

You too are so brave to open yourselves up like this to your KZbin family. You are a blessing to us.

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@llnut4775]

Thank you for your honesty. My husband and I are coming up on 25 years & I can tell you life and marriage is full of ups and downs! You have to both be committed & present. And yes, when one falls the other can carry them temporarily.

[@melindaferreira9879]

Oh. Man. God is a God of restoration. Thank you for your transparency. It gives me hope for a family member.🙏🕊️

[@suehess6846]

thank you for your transparency. I always love when people share their stories because I know it helps someone else not feel alone in their own struggles. God is the redeemer! All praise to Him.

[@jenfandrey1528]

I respect both of you so much for your honesty and transparency! These are real life issues and it’s so good to learn how you two have navigated through these issues. This video may also be helping someone who is struggling so you are doing a good thing! Can’t wait to see part two❤️

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@judyrogers9313]

Thank you for this video ❤. You two remind me so much of my husband and I . 30 years married ,this May ! In the past year, we have found our way back to church and we’re baptized ( again). I didn’t think our relationship needed anything- now , I see , with God, it can be beautiful ❤.

[@lsbond80]

You are both very brave! I pray this video reaches the right people, those who need it most 🙏🏻

[@KristenHoffman]

I hope so!

[@fawnwolf]

You compliment each other so well. I love the calming and authentic energy you two share with us. 🤍

[@KristenHoffman]

Yay, thank you!

[@sheilaclarke5276]

Soo true “ It’s not what you say, It’s how you say it”. Fair play 👏👏👏

[@carolineholly7996]

Always love when you both hop on together-Josh’s pastoral heart shines thru. Some solid advice about chosing a sober life for yourself and not based on others…but also filling your heart with the things of God. Keep using your platform to point others to Christ. Also loved Kristin your heart on this-that prayer sheet and your commitment. Thanks for being real and vulnerable as always!

[@KristenHoffman]

Our pleasure!

[@katen1228]

You are SO BLESSED participating Josh, but yes she is beautiful. It does take a LOT to get thru all the sh*t of life, we can only do this with supportive people and faith. So very glad you did this view of your life. We love you all too.

[@rhondahall782]

Thank you for sharing. Our son has struggled with alcohol for years. When Josh said when you take the addiction out there’s a void that you need to feel with something else and his is church and god.

[@SharonWilsonJauquetta]

I just found you today. You both are a testament to God's grace. Kristen, during the lowest point of your life, the vow you made before God - you kept. For better or worse! Thank you for sharing. God's grace is amazing. Josh, thank you for being willing to share your trials with others. We need more men willing to do this and to show that God is truly the Healer.

[@chrisprpich3278]

What a beautiful video. I know all about this. My stepson went through a long road with alcoholism , he spent a year in a rehab center and through there he found god. We are so proud of him he is doing so well now. He is a totally different person today. Unfortunatly his wife did not stand by him and help him , but looking back now it was for the best, for him. You are both to be commended for staying together and working through all of it. God was looking out for you both and your families. And i must say your wedding pictures are absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing this. 😊❤️🇨🇦

[@CarolSmall-dy6mi]

Love how you are sharing your struggles and being so honest. It is so true that you don't start at the bottom and then everything is up from there. You have up's and down's in life and my favorite quote is The Best Thing To Hold Onto In Life Is Each Other. We will celebrate 47 years of marriage this year and he's still the one.

[@KristenHoffman]

Congratulations!

[@ozarkview928]

Wow ! I admire you guys so much for sticking it out ! So encouraging! My husband and I are married almost 42 years now and empty nesters, now is when the relationship that we build is really important!

[@roughdiamonds8282]

Thank you for your openness and vulnerability and sharing your story. And please never apologize for showing emotion. That is strength beyond measure ❤

[@vickiwills9950]

Thank you both for your transparency! With God all things are possible and bless you for using your life experiences to help reach others who are hurting or going down this same path...sometimes they listen more to sharing Gods word when they know you've been where they are at the moment! You are both a beautiful and Godly example to your little girls!❤️🙏😊

[@karenfriesen1123]

Don’t apologize! Wow, what an incredible story. Goes to show you never know what is going on in someone’s life. I know this is gonna make a difference in many ppls lives. Thank you for being so vulnerable. God is good! ❤️

[@kbj3504]

Very impressed by you both. Thank you for being so real and sharing your story. God bless you.

[@KristenHoffman]

Our pleasure!

[@renatecromwell3493]

Thank you both for sharing parts of your story! Such a beautiful thing to share - already reading some comments, there are people who are encouraged by it. I’m praising God for the work He has done in you both and for the encouragement you’ll be to others who know you and hear your story. Life is so tough sometimes and we all struggle in different ways. God uses all things to grow us doesn’t he?! My name means “Reborn” and that is what God has done in my life. He makes all things new and redeems. So thankful for His grace. ❤

[@kathypeterson526]

So beautiful, open and inspiring. So many couples need to hear your message.

[@kathymchale8817]

We have the same name, was my maiden name.

[@KristenHoffman]

I hope so!

[@cherylferrell6687]

Thank you for sharing your experiences. That takes so much courage but is so meaningful and compelling to those hearing them. The light shines so strongly through you two. May God continue to bless you.

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@BengeFamily98]

Thank you so much for sharing what real relationships look like. God is so good! My husband and I have been married for 25 years. The first two were rough. His addictions were tearing us apart. Praise God that my husband heard His voice, and things started to turn around. It was a struggle for a good while, but it's now a part of our testimony, and we've been able to counsel many couples who have walked that same road. So many blessings have come from what could've been the end of our marriage.

[@KristenHoffman]

God is so good!

[@rachelwalker2508]

Thank you guys for being honest. Life is hard but great things come from it.

[@melindagordon5278]

I'm looking at Josh, he is a grown up Rosie.❤ Thanks for sharing such a personal side of your lives. I'm looking forward to Part 2. God continue to Bless both of you!🙏🙏

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@Sunworshiper-l7z]

Thank you for sharing such personal information. We never know what goes on behind closed doors. You're both brave, and God definitely has your back. Life is hard, but it makes us stronger. Prayers x

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@katealison6087]

Thanks for being so honest and open. That was very interesting and inspirational to watch. You have an amazing relationship and it's great to see people sticking together through the bad times as well as enjoying the good ones.

[@KristenHoffman]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@dazed_and_amazed1296]

Thank you so much for scaring this. Really, truly. What a testament of love and patience. My husband I have a similar story and I relate to feeling insecure about my affection and love for him being perceived as a coverup or faking our love. It is nothing like that and I realize I owe no one an explanation.

[@KristenHoffman]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@liiiisssaa]

Our story is very similar, I love that you shared this. ✨

[@KristenHoffman]

Oh wow!

[@marcicook3166]

Thanks for sharing the more personal side of your lives. It’s a testament to your faith that you could weather all that you’ve been through and come out stronger on the other side. I’ve been married 33 years and have no doubt in my mind that God and faith helped us get this far through so many ups and downs in our marriage. Bless you both and your beautiful family. Loved the wedding photos!

[@KristenHoffman]

I appreciate that

[@meganblasco2]

You and Josh are such an encouragement to so many people on so many levels❤ love you both

[@shannonhall1811]

Thank you sharing your marriage testimony. New here and going through a marriage struggle currently. Y’all give me hope and ideas of what to continue to pray for my husband. Blessings to you!

[@elexysrose7070]

Thank you so much for this… my husband and I have been married 3 years and have had many ups and downs with his substance abuse, this has been so hard for me with growing up with an addict for a father. God has given us so many words that my husband is in a time of forming before he is given his calling, this has given me hope that God will carry us through.

[@katemoore6249]

I just recently found your channel. I loved your honesty and your grace. And I love your home and decorating style. I did not know your husband's name or anything about his past (or present, for that matter). When I watched this video, I was very surprised. I now admire your courage! You are an amazing young woman! I also admire your husband for turning his life around. That is a very brave thing he did. God bless you and your family.

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@sharonpaul912]

Thanks for sharing, didn’t know it was going to be so personal. But I’m glad you did talk about it together. Dealing with some things and it really helped to hear a Godly couple’s perspective. Especially what you said Kristen about praying over Josh the way you did with Scripture. Such a beautiful marriage that I’m sure not only blesses others hearing y’all’s story but what a blessing for your children.

[@teresadeforge2911]

Hi Kristin, so proud of you both for putting this all out there. This video is going to help so many people and families! God bless you both!

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@karolhenderson8888]

Josh. Proud of you. Breaking addiction is one of the hardest things in life. Kristen … good job fighting for a healthy family.

[@k.crosbie261]

Your honesty and transparency are amazing. I am so impressed with Josh and how open he is

[@KristenHoffman]

I appreciate that!

[@dmcmanus07]

This was so BEAUTIFUL!!!! GOD IS SO GOOD... He has most certainly kept you two through alot and that's just what you decided to share. I pray that His hand stays over this union as together you two are awesome witnesses -apart as well I am sure, but stronger together ;). I will be waiting on part two! Your wedding pictures were so pretty ( and you looked like a model!!) - timeless!!! Funny how our plans are not always God's plans... but His are ALWAYS better anyway. Stay blessed Hoffman's!

[@deborahjohnstone1688]

My grown son has an addiction and I’m beside myself! I know he has to want to get sober! Listening to you is comforting to know there is hope for him! Thank you!

[@KristenHoffman]

Praying for him in this moment. 🤍

[@gaylemccarter7170]

Thank you for your raw honesty Kristen and Josh. I hear you and see you! God bless from Australia 🇦🇺

[@KristenHoffman]

Our pleasure!

[@ClassyTransitionLady]

I love this sooooo much. I can relate 100%❤️

[@lakelady7793]

I feel like this was a testimony delivered from God for me to hear. Thank you for so much for sharing! God bless you both.

[@KristenHoffman]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@HeyJaimeKennedy]

Loved this Q&A… I have been a subscriber for a long time, love your bin hauls, decorating & more but recently your words have spoken to me more about how you & your family live for Jesus. Then seeing this and where you guys have come from makes me more drawn to your content especially being in recovery. My hope is to tell my story one day to maybe help someone still suffering. God Bless you & your family❤

[@ambersnyder4983]

Thank You for your Honesty ! God Bless

[@angelanapier4248]

Wow Kristin, you were a beautiful bride and you still are. Thanks for letting us get to know Josh.

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@josephinegiuffrida2802]

What a absolutely beautiful video. Thanks for sharing I felt like I wanted to give Josh a big hug and tell him how proud of him I am that he is clean and found God. Kristen you came through this because of your love for Josh and God❤❤

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@TizzyLisch]

This is a beautiful video. I can sense the depth of several things as you two sit and speak together: struggle, love, and faith. And those are the 3 main things in life. You are both beautiful people, inside and out. Continued blessings to you and your family. 🙏❤️

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@Mo-mr8vv]

Amazing testimony! God is good💯

[@lanaonish2561]

Thank you for being open and sharing about the hardships in your relationship! Real life challenges that are encountered in marriages are not talked about enough. It truly is encouraging to hear!

[@KristenHoffman]

Absolutely!!

[@karenacox8932]

I just saw this video. Ohhhh I didn’t know any of this but I’m so proud of you Josh. And both of you for that matter. I’m glad that you’re moving forward. You can help others with your story about what you went through. You’re an amazing couple and I know that God stands by you ❤️

[@karenholdingmyown]

Beautiful wedding pictures. You are blessed with the love you have for each other! God bless!

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@kathleenjamieson7550]

This was a wonderful episode! Thank you both for being so transparent! God Bless You!

[@tessab.2065]

The amazing power of prayer! Wonderful Q&A!

[@KristenHoffman]

Yes! Thank you!

[@lesliemckinley9615]

Thank you both for your transparency. Lord bless you.

[@mro4967]

Thank you for sharing your hearts so openly. It is awesome to see how the Lord has and is blessing your marriage. Your wedding photos are beautiful! Thank you for sharing them with us!

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@montyshinn8704]

May Gods continue to bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing your testimony. I’m sure it will be a ble Less to many!

[@michelleadams4728]

Can i say that Josh is an amazing soul?????? For those that fight demons and need support, I know how special it is to have loved ones around!!!! God bless u both, i am not religious(church wise) but i have a great relationship with God!!! Kristen u and Josh are very special and life isn't easy but marriage is all in and supporting each other.......I am alone in my struggle but my faith is what i rely on...

[@KristenHoffman]

Praying for you right now

[@laurielansue4131]

Thank you! I already felt the kind, authentic aura you give Kristen, but this has cemented for me why I tune in so readily, and want this channel to grow by leaps and bounds. I’m not driven by antique content (been to so many antique shows as a kid, would never go to another) but I am driven by kind aura. Same for Josh-even in his slightly abrasive self, you can see what a kind, courageous family man he is.

[@KristenHoffman]

He is such a hunk! Haha.

[@SharonHayduk]

I love your honesty. It’s true Josh had to make his decision for himself. You guys are just an inspiration ❤

[@berniliphart946]

You guys are so cute I love hearing your story God Bless you both

[@dianerobinson9248]

Wow! I had no idea what you have had to deal with. You're both brave to share. Marriage is hard work! 💕

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@juliechartier8689]

I think that you both are such a help to show people who are in need of support and understanding that it’s possible to get out of a tough spot if you put in the work and love one another you can get give each other a hand up. I’m thankful for your channel and I respect you both for sharing your journey. This will help others.

[@garnetdudding936]

Whoa, this was so heart tugging, I’ve been married 37 years and we have been some super tough times! I am beyond thankful for my husband, he’s such a wonderful man!!!❤

[@lorijulian8368]

God's strength and your commitment will see you through. Josh, continue to pull His strength to be the man He knows you are. Kristen, continue your commitment to seeing God through your partner. Great video

[@cindyharris4030]

just a beautiful video and thank you for sharing. I always say "love is grand, love is great, and passion is wonderful"....but you really have to like the person you are with. You really like each other and it shines through. thanks for sharing this.

[@KristenHoffman]

Well said!

[@genac4561]

Ok, in this video I am suddenly seeing how much your oldest daughter looks like daddy. Its so precious

[@judyellen4412]

I am in recovery for many years now. I think when you said you had to want to do it for yourself, that that was a pivotal point for your long term sobriety. I am happy you knew that. Love this type of video.

[@KristenHoffman]

Well said!

[@melindacurfman8259]

You are two of the sweetest people. Life is a struggle- and you are working together to make a wonderful life for your kids. Nobody is perfect- however how you decide to address the issues can be the greatest adventure. Keep doing what you are doing! Thank you for sharing.

[@KristenHoffman]

Thank you so much!

[@toricarrillo5165]

It is SO refreshing to hear y’all talk about the realities of your marriage in the past. Thank you for sharing for those of us that have also struggled with similar issues. The devil attacks us where it hurts the most, but God is good. All these things work together for the good of His children. ❤ Praying the Lord continues to bless you.

[@KristenHoffman]

God is so good!

[@jomarch1]

I just want to thank you for your honest transparency and being authentic when it could be so hard to be vulnerable. I don't feel like enough Christian couples to share hard parts of marriage in fear of judgment. However, you are both so helpful in me not feeling alone. My husband and I were not following Christ at the beginning of our marriage. 10 years later, we have children, and I am the spiritual leader, and we are dealing with his substance abuse. But God is still good, and he will carry us when I feel alone. Thanks for your story of hope!💗

[@KristenHoffman]

You are not alone!

[@donnawade961]

Wow ...thank you so much!!

[@Psalm3124]

Beautiful testimony of the faithfulness of the Lord! Sent to your channel by Amy Fritz, so glad that I came.

[@KristenHoffman]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@sharonslocum8000]

I'm glad I decided to click this on. I am old enough to be ya'lls parents😊. If you guys were my kids, I would be so proud. People give up on marriage so easy these days or just even relationships when they get hard. You guys took the best steps to get the help you needed. We all struggle with something because we are inperfect people but Jesus Christ came to save us so we can have a happy life depending on Him. Brought tears to my eyes as I watched this. So Happy you guys did not give up!

[@amsnp20]

Thank you for being so transparent! This gives me a bit of hope for my marriage.

[@KristenHoffman]

You got this!

[@user-zg3uv3jg3q]

Thank you for sharing this list! ❤️🙏🏻

[@crazydoxylady7169]

You two are so awesome....together forever! That is great and I LUV the wedding pics!