things I no longer believe in.

"The lotus cannot be there without the mud. Likewise, happiness can not be there without suffering. Looking deeply into our suffering, we gain an understanding of it, which gives happiness a chance to blossom. Thus, the lotus does not have to reject the mud, and the beauty of the lotus actually gives value to the mud."
Thích Nhất Hạnh
📝 note: these are my personal opinions and knowledge from past experiences!
🎵 Music: Lovely Piano Song
Musician: Rafael Krux
Site: freepd.com/
License: creativecommon...

[@kristinethevideo]

1:22 typo: instead of “a necessary” read as “unnecessary”

[@animenmusic16]

Had a question. You said attachment is unnecessary but can you say you truly love somebody without being attached to them? Can a child feel the connection to his parents without being attached?

[@nguyengiorno9026]

are you a vietnamese by any chance?

[@kristinethevideo]

@@animenmusic16 Great question! In my view you can love someone deeply and show compassion, but learning detachment is challenging because it’s part of being human. While it may not be what everyone wants to hear I believe that keeping the end in mind allows us to live more meaningfully. It’s not about stopping love but rather about being at peace with letting go-leaving the world and the people in it to follow their own paths, without clinging or control.

[@animenmusic16]

@@kristinethevideo but does attachment mean always to control? Do you believe that your view on this might change in the future in order to keep growing as a person and seek the truth a/c to you at the end or is this your final view limit?

[@acoldsweater]

​@@animenmusic16 i'd say control can be a toxic part of attachment that doesn't always come with it and it depends on you, but to me, the possibility of being able to be attached to someone means more than everything and is the reason i continue everyday, but even if not toxic there are such huge risks that come with it (the more attached you are the more you might get hurt) but accepting is what i 'chose' to do and it's a pretty personal decision, and a risky and dangerous one

[@james__..]

KZbin is really weird, yesterday I was just watching a programming tutorial and now I am listening to a woman about her opinions in life and being captivated by her

[@yuvraj_singh27]

bro no way, me too 😂 😂

[@RedMi-vs9zt]

You're not alone brother😂

[@sonny凡]

bruh fr 🤣 they be recommending outta pocket videos

[@jeremiahscott2032]

Fr😂😂😂😂😂

[@arkoarko9559]

And you know what..... I'm all here for it, guess KZbin knows how to take care of my Psyche

[@myleg1359]

this part of KZbin feels like a safe place

[@_Siloam_]

Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” 😊👍 James 4:8 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” Repent of your sins to God, my friend! ❤😊

[@antistraightmen]

@@_Siloam_ no

[@TeaFanguy]

@@_Siloam_ Why are we sinful just because we exist? What makes us so horrible, according to you? Everything good is God, and everything bad is me? What makes Christianity so different from any other religion? It's all blind faith.

[@atsushiiis]

@@_Siloam_amen

[@JackAnderson232]

Why does every comment section turn into a religious debate 😭

[@nongthombamsanathoisingh]

This is the kind of media I pay my internet bills for

[@differentone_p]

since no one replied to this one - i will.

[@Zaya20]

Dat part!!!🫰🏾🫰🏾

[@nongthombamsanathoisingh]

@@differentone_p thank you! I have never gotten this much like too.

[@realvxx]

This is valuable content

[@nongthombamsanathoisingh]

@@realvxx yes

[@whoiszainanyway]

change is scary, but staying the same is scarier

[@Hellbot]

I disagree. It may be worse, but it's not scary.

[@The_SSSlopper]

@@craigularjoe3Not so much scary for me, but I’ve grown complacent with it. When you go through the motions so much it’s all you know, and feeling like a spectator in life becomes comfortable.

[@toobadforlo]

@@Hellboti mean, it really depends on the person i think. imo, i get sick of a pattern, because i feel like im not worth anything else. i think scary risks of change are better

[@raafayali850]

Staying the same is scary because it doesn't scary you everyday then one day 10 years past and you never changed, then you just lose your mind and by then the damage has been done. The only way you can "fix it" is simply to start.

[@ProtoIndoEuropean88]

wrong, staying the same if that sameness is good is perseverance.

[@deadlystalker7483]

I feel like this will pop up 15 years later again. I dont know, but its just a feeling

[@Ruby0liz]

Same

[@samasaleh1409]

yeah..

[@Klaudjaa___]

Possibly, we’ll see

[@Muskan-es2ey]

You and me will click on it again

[@davie8409]

honestly, it looks, sounds and feels like it was actually made 15 years ago lol! I think we might be stuck in a time loop. . .

[@loucimm6895]

bro something about the quality makes me feel warm and comfortable

[@pointseventhree]

yess its so aesthetic

[@d.on.in.a]

It's the yellow subtitles and dim lights

[@suasans]

and her voice so calming 😭🧡

[@qlockwerk553]

it's coming back! I got recommended a grainy video of this goth lady talking about school. deep vibes (her channel is called hailey)

[@maelyschan3105]

I looks like a vidéo send from a close one

[@B_razzer]

She said “Hello” and it felt like I could listen to her talk forever.

[@m1ye492]

bro.... she isn't even real. you have created, in your mind, a micro-form of the self based off of your pre-conceptualizations of what she is. just let it go bro.

[@amil7441]

@@m1ye492 let the brother live 😭🙏

[@skoppy6240]

things just got deep ​@@m1ye492

[@xAemyedits-oe3nx]

​@@m1ye492thank you

[@crank93]

Incel detected 🚨🚨🚨

[@preranakandpal3006]

"while it's important to love and appreciate those around you its equally important to recognize that everything in life is temporary ".

[@Baggerz182]

repent to God Christ be with u

[@deez3451]

“we come into this world alone and we leave alone.” i felt dat one😞

[@LisztEtude6]

@@Guufet I interpret it more so that people will always have themselves for their entire life. People will come into your life and you can connect with them. But, ultimately people will come and go and the only person that can support you your entire life is you.

[@knguyen284]

@@Guufet it means you come into this life alone and you dead alone.. so basically, everyone is living their own life and nobody live for someone or dead for someone.

[@gg.strawbrry]

@@Guufet i feel like it’s more about how you’re the one who’s always with yourself. only YOU spend all the time with yourself

[@leftshotta]

Not all of us I’m a twin lol

[@jessesyellowspiral]

You neva alone while u on galaxy gas 🎉

[@someguyonabus439]

From the depth of the self-hating “it’s so over” I’ve pulled myself into the inner-peace of “we’re so back”

[@arch523]

Real.

[@islixxn]

🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓

[@Leo4me]

YES REAL

[@BOLLCAPS]

AHAHAHAH one of the best comments i've ever read

[@genewang8826]

underrated comment

[@klooopie]

“the only thing that doesnt change is change itself” let me cry 😭

[@L0TUS_FLXWER]

same 😭

[@bowlofwhiskey]

@@L0TUS_FLXWERomg it’s a lotus flower

[@vaez]

Let me cry 😭 let me cry 😭

[@steviemolina2855]

i literally said damn. . . by myself, in my room at 4am LOL WE ALL GONNA MAKE IT FELLAS DO NOT WORRY

[@Nanamizlover]

Can someone explain this to me please 🙏

[@saikirangoud5137]

"over time I've realised that growth required shedding old perspectives that no longer serves you'' damn i needed this

[@Lochoeo]

The screen blacking you out into an unrecognizable silhouette the moment you said “everything in life is temporary…” accidentally poetic, love this.

[@skyfeelan]

1:54

[@cookies123ajajajajja]

yeah bc she turned into batman

[@xulqarnaen]

Fine youtube, after recommending this video over 40 times, i finally clicked on it

[@San-pv]

same lol

[@sehajbal10]

lmao samee

[@Hazardreem]

KZbin was like bro i promise is good

[@Gay_shit-z4n]

Same

[@Withmayagad]

😂😂😂

[@egiesaycon7751]

mythical fyp pull

[@KyubeTheSleepy]

Once in a year typa thing

[@justeelo7238]

On my soul🙏🙏🙏

[@YehudiNimol]

Who tf calls the recommended page "fyp"?

[@rocks4brainzz]

@@YehudiNimolpeople who use instagram

[@santiagomalagon9554]

@@YehudiNimol Tiktok addicted people

[@June-l2e]

I needed to hear this. My girlfriend and I broke up recently. It was my first real relationship, and I thought I would be okay. I love her very much, but she is moving to a place I am not willing to go. This helped heal the wound quicker, now I'm letting time do its thing.

[@petiscarabe1583]

very wise and real. Knowing you're allowed to break up and when to do it is something I wish I knew before dating, learning it bit by bit

[@kylebos6442]

me too, i feel that a lot

[@BakangPrivv]

Start by disassociating her with the notion of her being your girlfriend

[@qj2003fall]

It sounds like you don't love her very much. Otherwise, you will figure out a plan together.

[@malnourishedman7192]

@@qj2003fall only from your perspective. for them, they have probably talked about the situation very thoroughly with their partner and have decided that was the right choice

[@niacoreee]

sounds like she cried her eyes out before recording this. I dont know what youre going through but im so proud of u girl. Youre already on a positive path. Take all the love man i hope u have a great day

[@JuriRita]

Yh i kinda noticed that too actually

[@grapefruitsyrup8185]

no way she did. she looks really hot and beautiful, and you know people with pretty privilege like her never suffer in life. so stop making up bs, her life is prolly a bed of roses thats why she have the time to think of all these philosophical things and get views from it.

[@Mikamichae]

Yes she sounds like she is about to burst into teara

[@AliensHunterr]

lol 😂​@@Mikamichae

[@copyninja8756]

hmm idk

[@Creed11]

Unlearning is difficult but it’s essential for growth.

[@m3m3lord61]

I scrolled on this comment just as she said it lmao

[@dillemaaaa23]

@@m3m3lord61 Same

[@slofo6260]

@@m3m3lord61me too

[@wonders.spedup]

​@@m3m3lord61same

[@Maxid1]

You should put this in quotation marks.

[@renzrenzrenzrenzrenz]

Legendary 2am algorithm pull. I fw this heavy. Keep making this type of video

[@dale.6933]

My time is 1:50 am HAHAH

[@sunaez]

I pulled this literally at 4pm am i cooked?

[@adrielmejia2009]

its literally 2AM rn. WTF

[@stickman2012]

3:45 actually

[@maharkashif5930]

2:20 am bro😎😎

[@chago1711]

"Using someone as a rebound only causes more pain for everyone involved" That broke me.

[@Baggerz182]

repent to God Christ be with u

[@johnacker4959]

My fiance and i broke up four weeks ago…she left me after being best friends since 13, and being together for six years. We had two cats and a house….thank you for this. This was made for me. Her and I used to exchange the saying “from the mud, like a lotus.” I truly needed these words from a stranger. Thank you.

[@xxstar553]

I can relate. My boyfriend and I of 7 years just broke up a week ago. We've known each other since high school, and my whole life revolved around him. He was so hateful towards me when we broke up, Im not even sure what I did. When I asked, he wouldn't talk to me. I don't really have any other friends, so I've been on my own. Trying to find self-love and worth is so hard right now, especially not being able to connect with people and talk out my feelings. Hope you're doing okay though, just know you're not alone.

[@Venuseeza]

​@@xxstar553 Oh my god, it's so heartbreaking to even read, I can't even comprehend how you might have felt. I'm so sorry that happened. Hope you're ok

[@johnacker4959]

@@xxstar553 im so incredibly sorry to read this. Your situation parallels my ex fiances in almost all regards except for the hatefulness and lack of communication. My ex and I are on good terms and still see each other regularly. Its tough because it hurts me but is healing for her. Hang in there- none of this is easy. But you are indeed not alone

[@etanol.]

I feel sorry for you and the person in the comment just below. I hope both of you move on, and find a way to be happy even during tough times. everybody deserves someone who loves them deeply and that would never abandon them - not everyone has the opportunity to meet such person or to love such person back though- so I truly hope you guys can find this person, and be happy together with them :)

[@megcut2531]

One day at a time… it will all make sense someday♥️ hang in there.

[@cvampaul]

"Growth requires shedding old perspectives that no longer serve me." Exactly! Our perspectives should serve 'Us', and not the other way around. If only more people understood this.

[@silikaspider]

thanks vegeta

[@cvampaul]

@@silikaspider at your pleasure 😅

[@PraiseGodyt]

Jesus loves you and true fulfillment comes from him

[@Obv1tzNahla]

“The only thing doesn’t change is change itself” girl you are so wise.💕

[@iluvcat]

in africa every 60 seconds, a minute passes

[@lifeishell5284]

she is just quoting buddhist wisdom

[@Obv1tzNahla]

@@iluvcat no really?! 😨

[@iluvcat]

@@Obv1tzNahla I’m so wise 💕💕

[@Old_Star30]

This quote reminded me of entropy and that I have a physics exam after 3 days

[@holysol]

this gives 'someone broke up with me and im trying desperately to seem zen about it' energy

[@Gerg589]

Who else randomly found this?

[@THENKINGMr]

I was watching a lot of meme videos and then suddenly being recommended by KZbin lol

[@Yukinyax]

It's so random I love it, ❤

[@tomomihisaya]

Me

[@stanleysarjali8108]

Yea, the cat videos dragged this into my home too

[@emc8020]

🤚 🙋‍♀️ ❤

[@Lian0035]

1:57 "Everthing in life is temporary" like that light source 😂

[@pereirastalin]

The timing of reading this comment couldn't be more perfect 😂😂

[@awanmax]

That light source must've been her phone/tablet she used to read the scripts 😂 Guess she forgot to reset her device's screen wake-up time setting

[@Outofblueberry]

The soft warmth in her voice is so calming and relaxing

[@tomomihisaya]

She sounds like an American version of my friend lol

[@Zehraaygl4847]

I have never been so glad to hear someone sharing their disbeliefs with me. I have been forever feeling so guilty of not believing in some anymore, it felt as if I was betraying a friend. Your speech was such a relief for me. Thank you :)

[@milanpaudel9624]

this is how i was when i was trying to be positive after breakup.

[@anthonybarnes7667]

😅 when you know, you know…

[@leonitawijaya6314]

Me at 2am self talking into the mirror after crying from breakup few days ago be like

[@Kiara_kh]

Damn yall are lucky someone ever wanted to date you

[@Renn_ZLK]

@@Kiara_kh you'll get there. time will take you there, just wait

[@personalaccount1862]

Literally lol video is fake af. Happy music. Nothingness phrases and belief changes. All censored.

[@ashriya1294]

i ABSOLUTELY ADORE this video. it gave me some consolation in this dark, scary world. "we come alone and leave alone" is something I needed to hear. Death constantly haunts me, and what scares me more is having to do it alone. be it myself or family. the fact that death is something so inherently unknown to us, and it is yet something all of us are forced to go through. Life is beautiful, and I'm extremely grateful to God that I was given a chance to even take a single breath and experience living. all in all, I love this video and hope you continue.

[@jcdeton72]

We are scared of death because we exist but if you really think about it theres nothing to be scared of once we do not exist.

[@thwartificer]

What if I create a tulpa(for anyone unfamiliar - a fully conscious thoughtform very similar to an imaginary friend)? Will that count as not leaving alone?

[@noxplay4906]

@@thwartificer I wouldn't recommend it good chance you'll be inviting something very dark into your life, that's just my view as a Christian, and it's also what God would tell you. Anything spiritual that is outside of God's divine authority that you conjure up, it's probably gonna backfire really, really badly.

[@thwartificer]

@@noxplay4906 Uhh, just to make sure we're on the same wave, do you know what a tulpa is?

[@PluralPolyglots]

I don't think you want, as a singlet person, to create other forms of consciousness in your brain purposefully. Being plural isn't all fun and flowers, and I would strongly advise you to stay away from plurality. It's not marked as a mental ILLNESS for nothing ToT Some communities have religious forms of plurality, but that would also be cultural appropriation... So if you are singlet, best that you stay that way, because living with other people in your brain doesn't come with just pure happiness, FAR from it ​@@thwartificer

[@johanaon]

1:58 the light from your display was like "I'm temporary too!" :DDD loved the video thank you for posting your voice is so soothing

[@ASMR_Orangely]

Hello Johana 🤗

[@aufgeschlossen5110]

감사합니다.

[@DustinAgerbeek]

For some weird reason, this video showed up in my recommended when I needed it. Thanks for these wise words.

[@skylxght]

There's something magical about the way she speaks.

[@creatancremanova7097]

it sounds incredibly artificial.

[@jpmercado5775]

True thattt

[@中華蕎麦-g7g]

I don't believe this kind of cynicism. We get attached to something we love, and we cry more when we lose it, but that's not bad. Feelings make us stronger.

[@stalinisballin7]

I was thinking the same thing

[@MCKejml]

I'm not sure if the video can be taken literally, but likely in context. Another commenter mentioned "sounds like she cried her eyes out before recording this. I dont know what youre going through but im so proud of u girl. Youre already on a positive path. Take all the love man i hope u have a great day" - of course you would tell yourself that attachment is bad. Of course. But in the end, we are all wired to be social creatures. No man is an island...

[@automatic5]

agreed

[@keepingupwithkaami]

Agreed!

[@Baggerz182]

repent to God Christ be with u

[@fjoboebeef]

"the only thing that doesn't change is change itself". this whole video is extremely beautiful and i so desperately wish it were longer. that quote right there changed the trajectory of my life, im sure.

[@nickwarren2768]

when you said “in the end you’ll find a way” and smiled that made me smile too ❤ thanks for the video

[@Outlier68]

Accepting that you don’t have all the answers is a key to happiness. Admitting that to yourself and being okay with it opens doors both within and without. We don’t have all the answers and we never will.

[@nerfmia]

If you obsess over making the ‘right’ decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision; there is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.

[@tomomihisaya]

Living in this world you are punished early on for making the “wrong decision” so that’s what causes the issue you’re talking about

[@nerfmia]

@@tomomihisaya something is only a punishment if you view it as such

[@nicolecardinal3303]

i completely agree, but i think we can perceive other peoples decisions as right or wrong too

[@nerfmia]

@@nicolecardinal3303 of course :)

[@saph6521]

can I quote this ? do I credit you as “nerfmia” ? or would you like me to put your preferred pen name ?

[@enkephalin1788]

My mother had a heart attack, I had to do a cardiac massage to help her while the emergencies arrived. It was a week ago, and it still feels like it happened an hour ago. This video made me feel comfortable for the first time since then. Thank you.

[@trin5563]

I’m so sorry. That sounds so hard. I hope your mom is okay and that you’re taking care of yourself 💜

[@Baggerz182]

repent to God Christ be with u

[@thinkaboutpatty]

this video feels like a warm hug

[@dokjamybeloved562]

The quality of the video makes me feel comfort because of the softness of her voice

[@PhilipTomisi]

Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.

[@RobertRyan-q7b]

Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.

[@PhilipTomisi]

Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?

[@RobertRyan-q7b]

His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.

[@PhilipTomisi]

Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.

[@split_jcgg9613]

Keep trying to invite someone new but good. Give someone who’s interested in you a real chance.

[@RKBOSS-8055]

You know its a legendary video when it has no thumbnail and just a short title

[@brightsmiley]

That was absolutely breathtaking, truly a breath of realism blown in my face. I find myself often realizing what my lotus is, telling myself I will water it later. Only to realize my lotus is the very essence of "later". Waiting to take action on things I know I need to do now. Thank you for your words I will do my best to carry them forward with me every second from now to grow my lotus into a tree.

[@siddarthsaravanan7020]

youtube can never go down when we have content like this

[@jisookim-c8h]

I think it feels so safe and comfortable cause it looks like you’re on a late night video call with a close friend.

[@UnidentifiedFlyingSquirrel]

About attachment, sure, things fade and get lost, but that doesn’t mean that being attached to something is inherently bad, what is bad is that feeling after not having something. What ya gotta learn is how to not have that feeling, it’s just as difficult as learning to not get attached, but remember that having and losing things is how we work, it’s how you grow and learn, it leads to temporary suffering for a greater growth after. That’s my take, no need to accept it, this is just how I view things and how I grow as a person

[@slowdncnintherain]

this made me move over my cat. he ran a way nearly 3 years ago, and i still kept myself attached to him. i no longer feel upset that he's not here, but i feel upset that i can't get myself upset anymore when i think of him. i don't feel like that anymore. maybe it's okay to move on. he'll still be very special to me, i love him very much, where ever he is now.

[@aevasther]

rest in peace to your cat ❤ stay strong, ily!!! you got this!!!

[@22oreos]

i've held beliefs and approaches like this for a while, but it was refreshing and warm to hear someone else share very similar, if not identical ones. thank you for spreading this lovely message. i deem it a blessing to be here

[@orangescloud]

I could hear her all day long... I really love how she gave us a peace of her mind, her perspective about things she believes. I hope more people like you exist in this world.

[@Kysnoow]

This video feel me nostalgia, idk just i like this kind of videos, no montage, no script, no budget just a real person behind this camera.

[@Flosseveryday]

Well she is reading you can tell by her eye darting left to right but who cares lol

[@Kysnoow]

@ yeah who cares ? Ahah

[@PixelGabe11]

@@Flosseverydaystill nostalgic

[@mario64DD]

your voice sounds so calming it’s UNREAL. like I’m listening to an old cassette tape it’s so..nostalgic

[@LaurentiuBadea]

I don't know what corner of youtube this is, but it feels like 1999.

[@beastmodegaming2441]

If this pops up for people in a couple years, remind me to come back

[@8thdayindependentfundament454]

Preyz Gord for this wisdum and discernment 🌠👋

[@DwightLivesMatter]

It's been a month, time to come back lol.

[@mckennalynn1916]

One of the best videos if not the best video I have ever watched on KZbin. Going through all the stuff she mentioned, trying to unlearn, build better perspectives, and working on myself. It's a lot, but so worth it.

[@someguywithawooperpfp3163]

The lighting, the music, the voice, the aspect ratio... the vibes are just immaculate

[@evanlee93]

I love this video, but I have one problem. 2:30 yes it's important to love yourself, but we are social creatures. it's only natural for us to desire someone to accompany us, whether it be friendship or a life partner. People who have insecurities or doubts about themselves are not unlovable, and are not incapable of finding love. I think what's more important is to realize your flaws, and work on them. You don't have to be the perfect and most secure person in the world to find love from others, and sometimes it takes someone's love for us to realize this and to help us grow into the person we were meant to be.

[@AnnabelleHiggins-u5y]

That's what I thought

[@moshrom]

I think this is what they mean by "finding the missing piece". The piece can't be found in other people, only in yourself. You can be helped by others to search for the piece, but if you search outside of yourself you won't find it. Others may show you clues by showing themselves or tell how they found their pieces, but your pieces are still within you.

[@iamjustaSaiyan]

love this

[@zellyrizpah4613]

I was alone and even when i'm not, i'm lonely, still is. But as @moshrom said, slowly but surely i'm not as lonely as it was, it's started with a delulu tho. But no worries, i realized that i know the feeling of lonely, so instead of me finding company from other, i'll do my best to be someone company, the one to tell them that, "you are feeling lonely, but you do have company". Us humans are strange, they need help, but they can't be help if themselves don't want to be helped.

[@marioo849]

Wholeheartly agree

[@reinster8746]

Wow everything you said is so true, feels like this is just for me. Especially when you said: "Unlearning is difficult, but it's essential for growth." My mind blew up. Its hard, and going through that time was rough, still going through it but way better, and I've genuinely became so much more knowledgeable about the world around me.

[@tateparkerr]

Took a break from my binge of art history documentaries and found a woman sharing her perspective on life and the gift of release. How beautiful.

[@PriyadarshiniChowdhury]

I no longer believe in fearing to be in solitude. Almost killed myself trying to be with people, I'm learning who I am now.

[@mshaw1002]

3:15 *"The only thing that doesn't change is change itself"*

[@bennelong8451]

War never changes

[@whitepillu4895]

That’s wrong, change changes. It’s the second derivative. Its upto you if that change is leading in a good thing or bad thing. Then we have the final 4 cases: good end: positive double derivative: the best case, good end: negative double derivative: let the value be good enough to reach the end. Bad end: negative double derivative: may the value be least so it don’t reach the end. Bad end: positive double derivative: you’re done. I must sleep its 8 am

[@gm91742]

there's nothing wrong with finding happiness in other people too: friends, family, a stranger you pass by. it is normal and rewarding to have connections with other people. self love is great but you don't have to do everything alone

[@quinnj3679]

Yeah the one thing I disagree with her to an extent is, humans are social creatures that create bonds, and crave to share & connect with others. I agree that you should definitely have your own back first, and you shouldn't weigh/bet everything on any single person/pet etc. but yeah, you shouldn't do everything on your own & there is a such thing as healthy attachment. Getting hurt/experiencing sorrow is unavoidable, events will happen, people will be lost along the way. You can either try to minimize it/avoid it & get hurt eventually somehow anyway, or you can live a more fruitful life closely, with loved ones, & just accept that loss is inevitable. It's never easy, but you learn how to lose, you miss them, you cherish them, you gain perspective, you practice gratitude & you love even harder the next time, until it's your turn to be missed.

[@Lakshmipraneetha-006]

@@quinnj3679 true🤍

[@ShiinaHiyori]

​​@@quinnj3679 sometimes other people can make us grow even more as a person

[@Emmanuel-mc9bd]

​@@quinnj3679well said 👍

[@Crispy-TNDRS]

This is probably one of the best simple videos ive ever come across. Glad to see this format making a return and this is one really good advice and a healthy outlook to have in life

[@rajansangha8476]

Quite possibly one of the most human videos I’ve seen in a while. Thank you for sharing and creating community in this warm corner of the internet. Have a good one :)

[@altejeda4642]

These are the lessons i've learned from 25 to 29 in my self love journey after a 7 year relationship ended. I also have a tattoo of the lotus flower that blossomed from the mud I went through. The newest lesson i've learend is that, Sacrifice can lead to Love or Suffering and Joy is what sets them apart.

[@michealmotor]

I don’t understand the last part

[@exp-io853]

i listened to this while in a call with someone (muted) and the quality is chef's kiss...i know i needed something like this to remind myself

[@arthoseok1754]

I'm actually gonna cry. I'm so happy this video exists.

[@isaaaiah]

I watch this video whenever I feel sad because your voice gives me comfort.

[@LordKeram]

I agree with everything except for the part about attachment. Certainly there are bad ways to get attached to someone or something. But attachments and connections are also very necessary, maybe the most necessary thing in our lives. In my view not getting attached stems from a fear of loss and a desire for control, not the other way around. Does loosing someone hurt? Of course, but there is no joy without suffering. To live life to the fullest we need to risk failure and heartache.

[@jm7578]

Imagine if we human communicated like this face to face, instead of online. Best to you.🙏

[@gumisse]

this is probably the one time youtube actually recommends me something that I’m interested in. This was insightful, thank you for sharing!!

[@charliegold3227]

This is unironically one of the best fyp I’ve ever had.

[@amaritzbleu]

yes to everything, but i think it's important to recognize attachment isn't the problem, unhealthy attachments are the issue. now, that can be considered subjective for some. an example of an unhealthy attachment would be codependency or relying on someone external for emotional support/validation. there is something to be said about mastering the grieving process when going through loss. we all experience loss in our lives; i find it highly reductive that one would keep others at a distance to avoid feeling loss. as you said, it is inevitable. to love is to risk loss. that is largely the human experience. again, i definitely agree with the other points & i believe one should not look for other people to fill any gaps in their life. at the end of the day, you have to be there for yourself. you have to be okay being alone.

[@sunsothy4755]

This video found me and it literally changed 80% of my perspective

[@gaizkapath]

I feel like if I had people like you around i’d feel waaay less lonely. I really loved every single word that you said

[@zeezeewhy]

出淤泥而不染 is what comes to my mind when you talk about lotus. Great video

[@annoying_flower6415]

This kept popping up on my fyp for a week straight everytime i refresh,her words were needed

[@Icarus6783]

Nothing but the truth, in every sense. I hope this message reaches as many people as possible.

[@Trex_Matcha]

youtube really do be recommending stuff like this when it's 3:00 in the morning (perfect timing)

[@ouriya_bl]

thank you so much for this. i’ve been going through a hard time after being hurt and discarded by those i let close to me, and am learning to let go of people who are no longer good for me. this video really helped me towards reconciling with this situation. i hope you have a lovely day :)

[@MasonHeaux]

idk who you are, but the youtube algorithm working in your favor lol. thank you for this message, being courageous enough to shed old beliefs and sharing your growth progress with the world to learn from. it’s people like you that are a beacon of light and inspire hope for others to learn from. congrats on your journey! 🎉🫂

[@shreshgundoju]

It’s okay to remind yourself of or write about the struggles and ridicule faced by someone you once loved. This serves as a reminder of when to end things and how to navigate similar situations in the future. You can keep it as part of you and still move on. "To each their own". Loved the poem/writing!

[@i_am_toki21]

There are many takeaways in this video. Every perspective inspires me a lot. As someone said, when you look back at this video in retrospect in the future, you must feel proud and your higher self feels a sense of accomplishment.

[@san-myun]

Her voice is so comforting

[@acoldsweater]

w video, only one thing for me, the possibility of having that attachment is what's keeping me here, and I'm more than willing to change with that one person, everything else was so nice, thank you for uploading this

[@IRXONMUSIC]

Thanks, I needed this, this was like my therapy booster!

[@Sashigu-]

I am so glad I didn’t refresh my page, this video is probably the best thing I’ve seen today ❤

[@Sxklllll]

This video looks like one of a movie scenes where the protagonist records herself in laptop camera talking some deep shit. Before the movie turns into most traumatic suspense thriller.

[@sofia-ju8pj]

LOL

[@kleom]

true🤣🤣

[@christopherstein2024]

The middle of the video is literally the jedi ideology from star wars: "The fear of loss is a path to the dark side. Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you that transform into the force. Mourn them do not. Miss them do not. Attachment leads to jealousy. The shaddow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose." - Yoda After that Anakin sacrifices the republic and murders a bunch of his friends in a vain attempt to save his wife. And in the end it's not an outside force that causes her death. It was his will to do evil things to save her. As he becomes evil, driven by fear she loses the one she loved, and this suffering is what brakes her and she fades away during childbirth.

[@greasymood03]

Hi friend, since I watched the full video I just wanted to say it feels like I am talking to a friend...its been a while I actually listen and watched a video without checking the timestamp and I guess I heard whatever I need to hear long time ago....I hurted alot of people that I love in the past...I blamed myself alot for it..and now it will be me finally moving on...thank you for the video...

[@kyhlo]

I had the worse breakup experience and this is the best video I have came by across I’m healing and growing and learning.

[@danpandanpandan]

Hey. I wanted to tell you that this video has hit me with particular importance. I'm living a particular time of my life and I rarely encounter someone that shares the same perspective on things as I do. This video made me cry, completely wetting my face already from the few lines, because you've basically said everything I needed to hear and that I probably wouldn't have found elsewhere if not from inside me. Thanks for making me resonate with you for 3 minutes.

[@antsalmon]

I love this!! I think it's a great thing to normalize reflecting on how our views change and the reasons for that change. Too often people get stuck into the idea that you form a belief/opinion and that's it. You stick with it and it never changes and it should never change. However, for most beliefs this isn't how things happen generally. Thank you for sharing your changes with us!!

[@dp12064]

This is really , like ur talk was magnetic and before i could have a thought i JUST STUNTED BY THE POINTS U DESCRIBED IN THE WHOLE VIDEO, AND yes “THE ONLY THING WHICH DOESNT CHANGE, IS CHANGE ITSELF””

[@psychoticrexx]

i love these types of vids that just randomly come on my feed. It's like it was meant for me to see 😭😭

[@hillarys.4738]

This video feels like a message sent on perfect timing, it’s just right

[@dianaasyura1711]

I'm glad this is the first vid that shows up in youtube on new years. It makes me look forward to another year of living to the fullest in this world.

[@Donut-0123]

From the bottom of my heart, thank you for sharing this. 🙏🏽♥️

[@pluvvio]

i loved your previous video and now this one, the ambience, the lighting, the music and your voice. it's all so perfect and the way you articulate yourself/words is incredibly moving, thank you for sharing this ! :) im glad youtube recommended me your previous video & now this one