Leaving The Narcissist: What It's Like To Move Far Away From Narcissists. My Experience

[@christinapittman7565]

Is it me or do we all go through a spiritual awakening after narcissistic abuse?

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯🧡👑 we all go through it

[@TheMar0115]

Yes!!!

[@heathernewman5272]

I got much closer to God, and still am!

[@AuntLorasHouse]

i freakin did now i even more a mess lol

[@SportsEntertainmentEmpireTV]

We all go through it

[@infinitemight7040]

It's like a fresh start at life without all the nonsense.

[@TheRoyalWe]

🧡💯👑

[@LadyBug31705]

Life is too short to be distracted by all the mind games.

[@JihongLi-v4j]

so true, so true, so true

[@michaelwall1721]

I’m just glad to start a new life now. My abuse started at 24 years old I’m 30 now. No use looking back at what could have been. Just grateful for the future. Good people. Real relationship and new scenery.

[@shandawilliams4069]

Exactly 💯

[@SarahCees]

Physically far is good but the most important is no contact in order to heal - Thank you Kevin!!

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯👑🧡🧡🧡

[@cp9023]

PTSD is painful after a narcissistic relationship. My narcissist went to be with the Lord recently, now I finally can begin to feel safe and heal.

[@donnafoley2167]

Candice, If a narcissist never repents about anything, and they never do. They do not get to be with the LORD. It's GOD'S protocol.

[@cp9023]

It's God's decision not ours who belongs in heaven. God gives grace to the sinner at all times and in all ways. We are not to judge who belongs. I loved myself more than I loved the narcissist so I left him to save myself from a life of destruction. I don't believe that my faith in God is better because I'm a better person. We are all sinners just different.

[@cltheman1960]

@@cp9023 While it is true that we have no say in that, and that God does show mercy and blessing to both the just and the unjust in this life, He gives life-changing and life-saving grace to those who are willing to repent. God does not excuse the guilty just because He is love, because He is also just and will execute justice on the unrepentant and He will blot out sin and unrepentant sinners. Yes, God is the ultimate judge and we are not, but we should not just assume and presume things.

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

@@donnafoley2167 nope

[@God4Eternity]

I’m happy for you that you no longer have to endure that horrid way beyond a nightmare of abuse.. unfortunately I’m still trapped like a hostage after 20+ years.. I live my life for God & Jesus & as I’m still getting abused in all ways except physically ((That’s been about 4-5 years now since he hit me )) I’m praying for God to please please naturally take me off this earth as my husband has me down to nothing 😭😭😭But since I’m trapped, I have to be nice to him & his family & friends as they are manipulated by him acting like a victim.. HELLO 👋🏻 HOSTAGE HERE!! HOWS HE A VICTIM??? WHAT??? I’m sorry to say but if your perpetrator didn’t repent to God, he’s NOT with the lord Jesus.. he’s in hell.

[@deeanne528]

I moved to another state and it's amazing. The narcissistic person is friends with the group of friends so I had to cut everyone off completely. No contact with anyone because the friends would always try to get us to mend the friendship.

[@JihongLi-v4j]

me too

[@nancyermi4303]

I finally have a date to leave and move forward to a new location. This message came at a perfect time cause I find myself having anxiety about the move. I don’t understand why I am feeling this way I have been praying for this for years now. Why would I be scared to go where I have friends and family?

[@janicemontecalvo110]

You've got this.

[@stacyjaye6350]

Moving is second only to death of a loved one, in life's major stressors. Trust in God, and jump in the deep end! Prayers for you from Tulsa. ✝️♥️☮️

[@reginap942]

I ran away from home at 16 Moved to another country at 19 Moved back home after 42 years, thinking all is different now that we are all old Biggest mistake I made. Three years in the working now to move to another continent. Looking forward to it

[@alba7165]

I felt the same anxiety when I left the narc's house. I think it's fear of the unknown. We don't know what the next day holds in a life without the narc.

[@starlingswallow]

I had anxiety when I suddenly decided to move too. It made me realize that I was also finding my identity in the town I lived and in/through my family. It's awesome to live family and where you live but those external things don't define us!! WE do! God does! ♥️🥳

[@deadmanwalking2572]

In my experience, use the away time from the nasisist to heal. To discover who you really are, not what you've been told. Embrace your nature, spirit and beliefs and back yourself. No more doubts. No more repeating the negitves that echo in your mind. Face your bad points and except them. Work on your attitudes and triggers that make you doubt yourself. Endevour to be the best you you can. FIGHT FOR YOUR MIND. Because you will have to face these people, or people like them, again. So stand strong in the knowledge of who you are and those who tormented you in the past will be seen and pityed for what they are. Make no mistake these people will try any and all to entrap you again. Be wise and recognize their hooks. They never change, so predictable. So sad for them. Go on, give it a go. Free yourself and be you. Remember you were made exactly the way you are. Don't change for others, make your own choice. Choose freedom.

[@starlingswallow]

I had anxiety when I suddenly decided to move too. It made me realize that I was also finding my identity in the town I lived and in/through my family. It's awesome to live family and where you live but those external things don't define us!! WE do! God does! ♥️🥳

[@LittleTaiChiMermaid]

I'm at 1437 miles.... so far. Blessed Relief. No contact. While in marriage he ghosted me, now I'm doing the ghosting. I feel fabulous

[@TheRoyalWe]

🧡👑💯

[@shannons842]

I'm planning.. Because it's been 3 years and he's still breaking in my mail box multiple time's, rocks threw my window still coming at me with not taking care of orders. Fyi most states have Narc abuse under DV laws and will help you move + name change. Don't ever underestimate how dangerous a Narc is.

[@TheRoyalWe]

🧡👑💯

[@nataliatorkhova8793]

True. Gotta be careful.

[@shannons842]

@@nataliatorkhova8793 💗

[@afrobetty4847]

I left an ex-narc months ago & today we bumped into each other. he stopped to say hi but before he had his chance, i had rushed passed him. it felt sooo good. i guess i am healed from that mess. Amen!!... #narcfreeliving

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes Betty

[@helenwatson4494]

I live 100 miles away from narc family. It helps. I also moved same distance away from a narc ex after break up. He found out I was moving and it stopped the stalking. He never found out that I moved back closer after five months (offered a better job) but the step away was enough for him to move on and leave me alone. I am still in therapy but it means a physical break

[@gerberdaisy2388]

When the unbeliever leaves, you are not bound. We were married for 34 years and he just left me 8 weeks ago. He professed to become born-again, did the whole baptism thing and everything ... 12 years later ... nothing but rotten fruit. The Lord said, "enough" ... honour him with his wishes and let him leave. Even if he comes back, you are done. Move on. You do the same sister ... rebuild yourself in God and build your boundaries and go as no contact as you can. You have to arrive at your conclusion in your own mind and heart for it to be effective.

[@LadyBug31705]

This was over 15 years ago, but I struggled so bad with the thought that God would send me back to my ex husband. I used to have nightmares. Most of it came from pressure inside the church that hadn't experienced my 17 years of abuse. I pressed in and sought the Lord on the matter for several months. One day I sensed in my spirit my heavenly Father saying, " I will never give you something that will hurt you. You are free to move on." That word from God Himself set me free that day from the lies and pressures from other Christians to be abused and/ or isolated.

[@jinjin8263]

Kevin, I find your channel very helpful. I left a marriage of 23 years and the entire time stomped on by the ex-husband and ex mother in law. Moved away and never looked back. It's been two years since the divorce. I did however, get involved with another narc but left him as well. Been single going on five months now and I have never been so at peace. There are days when I do break down and those are days when I need to share my feelings with an understanding person. I would like to join.

[@stacyjaye6350]

Do it, ma'am. Life is so good when you're free!

[@uniquedavenport7232]

I'm going through this right now with my mom and a fake so called friend they hacked into my account and started harassing people I knew pretending to be me it was so strange and evil I'm In a whole new state starting fresh they have no clue of my whereabouts and I thank God for it everyday it still hurts that my mom and ex friend did this to me but it was meant to happen I was in denial about my mom because I just wanted her love and approval but I understand she's a sick person who doesn't have empathy for her only child my mom thinks im her enemy it's sad but I know im doing the right thing by cutting them off im still discovering myself and hope to go back to therapy soon these videos have been so helpful over the last year thanks

[@starlingswallow]

So glad you're out and have come to terms with your mom...I'm so sorry she is like that, that hurts bad 😞 Keep on the journey of healing! You're WORTH it!!

[@jodycasey4541]

I LOVE THIS VIDEO I could feel your ease with this conversation, you really shine here because you had fun with this message! You lived this! This subject is what brought you to start the Royal We initially. I know your story. This one is a special one different than I’ve ever seen you and I’m very happy to be able to comment on this today. Good job Kevin! I love it when you’re in the zone. You aced it.

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑💯🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@karmagal1796]

Thank you for this. The rumination is brutal. I was with my ex a total of 40 years. Since we were teens. I thought the years and the fact that we have children, Might make it so I would never be free. I have hope now.

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑🧡💯

[@more444store6]

I don't want to form any new relationships. It feels good to have a peaceful mindset. Priceless.

[@jodycasey4541]

FREEDOM, BABY!!!! Yeah!! You are so great! Good one, thanks for this!

[@TheRoyalWe]

🧡🧡🧡

[@shelleykapp9637]

I love this guy💕🙏❤

[@jimfolkers8463]

I nearly spit my drink out when you mentioned about moving to another planet. Thats what it feels like! Thank you so much for all your videos, you really have helped me out through the tough times.

[@angieash9560]

You have been a part of my healing journey ever since the first time I left him. I’m so thankful and grateful for your advice. And you’re right it takes a while but soon you’ll be out of the woods and into the sunshine. God bless you all!

[@kirstenpapp5030]

Don't forget the nightmares. As I was healing, I had nightmares of my creep breaking in and trying to kill me. Then they transformed into my beating 50 shades of crap out of them, killing them, to confronting them. I'm more okay now, have a restraining order against them.

[@joziem9751]

I moved but not far enough, the reality is I'll have to move again much much farther away.

[@triplekids3]

I moved 4 miles away 11 months ago and I’m finally finding peace,and freedom no eggshells on my floor

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑🧡💯

[@star3006]

It’s unbelievable !!! So peaceful so free .. I don’t know myself ... once you really really know these dark pits personality.,., you run 🏃‍♀️ far away from them never to be involved with them again

[@TheRoyalWe]

🧡👑💯

[@nataliatorkhova8793]

Still be cateful and better do not disclose your location and no contact absolutely, which you can be manipulated into with any weird reason like someone died, you got problems with property, police or whatever and urgently need to move back. They are tricky.

[@Canwe-j1f]

Thank you bro keep the good facts and work I like how your rowing a boat lol........bro

[@starlingswallow]

Congrats to you for getting away!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 I Moved 5.5 hours away and I've finally been able to _REST_ and few safe. The ex still lives in the same town as my family and that town has a lot of bad memories mixed with good....it's odd. Thank goodness my family are on my side. He never got to know them and begrudgingly went with me to some holidays with them. He called them lazy all the time to me, he even told me my nephew would grow up to be a college bomber! 🤯🤯🤯😡 Distance has helped my healing. So has being married to an amazing Godly man who's also been through Narc abuse (his parent) and who's walked with me and helped me heal. A man who actually sees me and loves me truly. Who talks to my body that still reacts some with Cptsd from the severe abuse: emotional, neglect, financial & sexual abuse. Praise God for him and distance!!

[@TheRoyalWe]

🧡👑💯

[@helenyates3951]

Its called grief!! Society doesn't actually acknowledge this is so. People are supported when a spouse dies but not with divorce or separation. Its a lonely lonely journey to be honest. Grace and compassion does heal.

[@nailazion2600]

I moved to a different zip code in the same town... I've had one hoover attempt....changed phone number....not on any social media...the only way anyone can connect with me is to come to my home....the narcs and the flying monkeys DON'T WANT NO SMOKE FROM ME.... I left them.... only a fool would disturb my PEACE... thanks for the video 👑👑👑👑

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑💯

[@marcusturner6361]

Peaceful that's what it's like😊

[@kingdomheiress177]

I can testify!! I moved to Florida a few years ago to get away from all the drama and toxicity and even though I was still dealing with extreme heartache and trauma I learned about NPD and my entire life changed! My mindset slowly started to take a different direction and healing finally began. As you said, if you have trauma it will follow you no matter where you go but just knowing you’re physically AWAY from those who continue to cause pain in your life helps tremendously. I’m a totally different person and have moved back to my hometown to be close to my parents even though this is where I initially got sick with an anxiety disorder but I am determined to overcome. I know who I am now and I’ve come too far mentally to allow anything or anyone bring me down. I no longer engage or give any energy to the B.S. Moving is a GREAT way to start over and HEAL! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@davinadel8450]

I’m planning to move away ! I’ve had enough of my narc family I’m already in no contact ! & going to therapy & I feel free but much more freedom once I physically move far away great video ! Thank you for this video ! 🙏🏻🌸

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you Kevin! I agree with every single word in this message. The entitlement, arrogance and lack of empathy make the narcisist think they have the power, when in reality, down on the ground , they have none! The Truth is the Way to Life!

[@TheRoyalWe]

🧡👑💯

[@OneHope4Heaven]

Dang it! I wanna be on that lake!

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯💯🧡👑👑

[@salonsavy6476]

I always wanted to move away,, but those darn narcissists are Everywhere!!,,, waiting to pounce on you!

[@TheRoyalWe]

🤔

[@jaklumen]

Gotta figure out a way to fight back wherever you are.. I think it starts with exiting out of a victim mindset, i.e. figure out how to exude confidence, even if you have little. You may still have body language that says "I am prey.. come feed on me." Not easy, no. My primary narc is my mother. I did move away, once, and met the woman who is now my wife. But then we had to flee a church leader ABSOLUTELY devoid of empathy. His brother had been in our ward, and I talked with him about his own move from my wife's and his hometown to mine. He told me he is now a stake president, after having been our calloused bishop (read: LDS pastor). My mother-in-law still resides in that stake.. she has no idea how evil he is. Even my own narc mother openly admits he has no empathy.. ironic, right?

[@nataliatorkhova8793]

Kevin, thanks a lot. True. Moving makes much sense. I first left my country but living up north of a new country close to the border have me still much headaches. Almost cost me life. Then I crossed the new country and went the utmost south where I feel much better, is a bustling and a beautiful place but still my triangulation is not over. I guess I need a new place to get completely better coz those still dont want to stop their classes, trainings and friendly reminders that they are many and they are "a circle" with will find me anywhere. Honestly I am pretty tired of they schizophrenic ideas) Thanks to your channel and other speakers I get lots of encouragement.

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑💯🧡

[@naturallyraw]

My narc fiance turned into a terrible monster when I stopped responding (grey rock) to his abuse. I had an hour to catch the mail plane and I flew from Alaska to West Virginia without most of my things, without saying goodbye, without any feelings of security or knowing what the future would hold. That was on June 15th, exactly 3 months ago. I am happy to say that I am so much better off without him. He was truly an ugly creature and I saw who he really was in those last moments.

[@ChristyHZija]

Wow! Needed to see this! You nailed it. This is where I'm at right now!

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯🧡👑

[@sonnyca]

I moved to a different country halfway across the globe. Their fuckedupness was too strong for them to let me suffer on my own. They had to add to my suffering.

[@jillclark4876]

Losing my family post a 22year marriage that ended in divorce was the hardest thing. It’s more devastating than the fear and the heartache and the financial/physical/emotional cost. I’m getting by with a lot of help from my inner circle and an amazing therapist. It gets better with time-not because the circumstance changes, but because the way I think about it is changing. We are what we think.

[@GA-nd8tz]

Awesome video , from Liverpool, thank you

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑💯

[@GA-nd8tz]

@@TheRoyalWe recently since moving away , this video helped clarify a few things

[@GA-nd8tz]

@@TheRoyalWe have you any more videos I can watch , to deal with , changing cities I do feel like I can't trust anyone ...

[@nosockaccounts9766]

Love this one........ he's good.

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑💯

[@r_ns7150]

The timing of this is CRAZY PERFECT. Been thinking of moving to another Country secretly alone for a month but im scared. Idk what’s Gods will, I feel like in the prophets shoes, going in completely blind. I’ve never seen any youtuber that understood me and the real depth of evilness of Demonic Narcissists like this channel. I have to truly say to you, God Bless you and I even pass my blessing unto you. Amen Brother, please keep doing your work in this earth. You are Literally saving LIVES!!

[@stacyjaye6350]

Really thank and praise God for finding Kevin.

[@brendaerdy2775]

I just love you Kevin. You have helped me while I've been rather isolated you know how we do after the trauma. I am so happy that you are in a beautiful place. I hope your own pain is decreasing.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Thank you!

[@JSquared1969]

Ruminating thoughts... my current struggle.

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯👑

[@maryannwilliams3893]

Kevin, I love this video!💗 I know you feel FREE! 💗 the intro!😂

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑💯🧡

[@Reevay762]

It's the happiest day moving away. Went from grey rock to no contact. So important to leave trauma behind too but needs some time. Yes ruminating thoughts comes and goes. My favourite line : Man, you talking to my parents now? You, punk lol. Rings so true hahahah

[@deborraholiveri6202]

Thank you Kevin snd this community ! Im 72...im leaving my narc ex after 22 years of hell. Im scared, excited, emotional tears, crazy emotions. Praying i get through this. Im moving states away . Im prepared for the changes, transition and healing. What kevin said about trust and forming new friendships is spot on. I need to find the new me ...I feel like I'm in a tornado funnel. My family who are trying to support me just dont understand. They seem to think once I'm in my new place I'll be fine. Unless one has been in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. there's no way to understand. Im also trying to get through physical pain from recent surgery. I feel my health has been hugely compromised over the years of emotional abuse. Im in chronic pain. I also believe that in time my health will improve with my focus snd hard work. Thank you for listening. Stay strong and please send me some good vibes, Prayers and luck. Serenity Deb 🌺

[@alinedupuis6717]

WOW ! No one has ever said it better Amazing ! and it's exactly what I did I moved from Ontario to British Columbia and shut down all my social media for good and changed my phone number , I think its a very healthy way of dealing with it ,, out of sight ! no one from my past can find me in any way and yes now it's time for me to heal and grow and learn and move on and all them narcassists can no longer hurt me

[@billiemunn]

Great video, Kevin! Well, I can’t move away from my husband‘s kids because he wouldn’t do that, but I can move away on Facebook. I just deactivated my account a month ago, and believe it or not, even that one change helped some. 💕🙏👍

[@AxlAX]

You are glowing in this video bro haha. Distance is always a good thing in a toxic relationship no matter who it is!

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯👑

[@LadyBug31705]

It is painful. And it is hard to find a safe community to heal in. And healing best takes place in community.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes this is true

[@danmcdonald8522]

In time you will get over the narc that's because you will eventually figure out that your partner was destroying your life the narc is a liar and a fake that is not a person you can trust with your future move on God bless

[@cbninastolt952]

Exactly! Never EVER trust a narc.

[@clock99times]

I love where you taped this. Made everything so real and gave encouragement. Thank you.🌼

[@TheMar0115]

Wow I was just thinking of moving to another state. After blocking the ex-narc’s, my brother and 2 friends over the last year - and all of them are smearing me - I think it'll be good. Thanks. Your video was a God wink for me.

[@stacyjaye6350]

I will be 65 years old in November. Moved a thousand miles away, from Michigan to Oklahoma, from my narc family. I found it very freeing being able to move about town, trying on the new me, not knowing anyone. Don't make more of it than it is. Requires sorting through and getting rid of a few things, pack and go. Plus we're on the clock here LOL, tick tick tick. Git 'er done, Wonderwoman.

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯👑🧡

[@TheMar0115]

@@stacyjaye6350 how do you know how old I am?

[@stacyjaye6350]

@@TheMar0115 I had no idea LOL, I was just like, if I can do it, I'm not the strongest person in the world, but you could do it too. Should we delete this so no one will know how old we are? 🤓

[@TheMar0115]

@@stacyjaye6350 lol. I'm not 60 yet. But thank you for your encouragement. I do think too much and should just do it!!

[@rachelf88]

You are seriously amazing!

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯👑🧡

[@nickiabbott5060]

Love the lovely sound of a paddle on the water - reminds me of my happy childhood ! So Thanks !

[@helenyates3951]

Very wise thank you It's very important to define this in detail Thank you Heleena

[@LR-yu3mx]

Years ago after the birth of my second child we moved 800 miles away.....pure bliss

[@LR-yu3mx]

Correct...the pain and ptsd follows you right into old age

[@wms72]

Lake looks SO healing.

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯🧡

[@wisewomanhealing]

I moved away once. The npd in my life made my life an even bigger hell. The problem? I didn't move far enough away. A few weeks ago (I now live back in same city with my husband, and same npd. Can't get husband to move.) that same npd threatened to jump out of my car while it was moving. Made a big scene because I wasn't taking the bait on her guilt trip. Just now she asked for ride to airport for she and dad. Told her I would take dad but not her because she threatened to jump out of my car when it was moving. Her reply? "Oh, please." Dry sarcasm. Then she texts me, 'I have no words for what you just said. We'll find our own rides.' My reply? 'Ok'. Oh how I know that this is not over. I know the punishment is coming. But hey, the moral of this story is stop with your garbage and act human! Especially if you might need favors from people.

[@agbvon9286]

That day is gonna come one day for me 💯🙏🏾✝️

[@sharibennett2071]

Woohoo! Moved from Tampa to Charlotte. Soooo much better. Healing very well and enjoying life

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Thought about moving very far away today actually.

[@MomDroogs]

Yep! Been there, got the t-shirt and went on home!!! Ruminating is the worst.

[@ShadowFai20]

This is a scary reality and I hate to admit this but this is absolutely true. I'm planning on moving myself but the true healing really does begin. I've officially moved on but the pain will always be there and even if I do move it will be there for a lifetime but I have to learn from it and learn not to expect that kind of abuse. Experience really does outrank everything. You grow from it. I just hope I get at that level someday

[@monalisa2662]

I would love to move far away... I feel stuck and can only dream now. I cannot tell you how envious I am that you were able to move away. I feel the energy of the narcissist in our shared home. My energy is very challenged and I struggle physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I cannot deny I feel better when he is gone.

[@nataliesimms8672]

I an moving and needed this.. Thank you

[@collie8]

great thoughts. Also, I know 2 guys who moved away after narc. abuse, one moved to the other side of a continent, the other to the other side of a planet. But as they haven’t got a point, they still let them selves be hoovered via whatsapp, even 5-10 years on!!! that’s unbelievable.

[@ellensilverman9141]

LOL Kevin, "FREEDOM BABY, YEAH!"

[@seameology]

I moved seven states away! Yeah, baby!

[@boseayinuola78]

You right 👍I'm gonna do that

[@natsdaley9615]

Damn I wish I was near that lake..... So calm peaceful beautiful a bit like how my life is now since I said see ya NARC ..... I thought it would break me but it actually made me....#Wearetheroyalwe :-)

[@BrandonJAllDay]

Your well spoken too my guy #thorough

[@CreoleLadyBug]

I’m not in a financial position to move. It cost me every penny I had to separate myself from this demonic presence in my life. Hopefully the new supply will keep them distracted enough to leave me alone. #She can have him. #I’m good.

[@divinelight4475]

Thank you, so true, every word. Great video, beautiful location. ✨

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑🧡💯

[@helenyates3951]

Not essentially I moved to another country married then left years later I had cut off from connections because of the narcissistic personality. I decided to stay because of my children. It's a really tough call. I had no family support when I left. A huge awakening to the pain and huge sadness having given so much of myself...I was emptied out. Now I am able creative living a calm and beautiful simple life. It has taken fifteen years. Intense process to rebuild physical ly emotionally spiritually. A life regained.

[@clock99times]

Congratulations, my story is very similar to yours except I never had children, wish I did though.

[@helenyates3951]

I'm very sorry to hear that clock99times. If you are a caring loving open hearted person then narcissistic people gravitate to us. My children dont really comprehend the depth of the loss and the spiritual pain. They are aged 40 and 38. They at times adopt the same attitude as the narcissistic person. That I'm a drama queen and a little crazy. Of course I am not those things. I've given up explaining with them because it goes nowhere. I pray that some day their blind spots about their father will become reality. Meanwhile I keep trusting in a healing outcome.

[@clock99times]

@@helenyates3951 It’s almost like we are the sacrificial lambs when we are in the world but not of it. Many are called few are chosen. God bless you.

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Thanks, Kevin.

[@TheRoyalWe]

💯👑🧡

[@susandulin6024]

It is true... far away from the monster

[@MaiRaven3]

You nailed it Kevin! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️✨

[@heathernewman5272]

He moved 2 hours away with his new supply. That works for me!

[@chevylynn9577]

The only good thing I think about moving away is freedom from my “cult like family” (which I have gone no contact with the “leader/narc” but still think I need to cut off the minions/other victims, which I think I can only do if I actually move out of state)

[@CoffeeGirl203]

🤣 I was laughing with you because I was thinking the same thing and then I clicked on this video without looking at the title first. 😂

[@SA-ud9nf]

Wow when you mentioned Bible study and That's All She wrote. I was looking into narcissism but in a godly sense because I prefer having someone with godly knowledge to help me. I am so glad that I ran into you. This is the second video I've seen of you. I'm trying to move out of my apartment because I'm getting sick they're from the toxicity. I don't have much time because a couple of apartments would like to rent to me and it's not easy getting an apartment with no smoking on the property and because I am older I am able to get into a senior home now and hopefully escape the toxicity I have been dealing with. I have already gone through abuse in my life and I so I don't need any more abuse even from this toxicity I have been enduring. It's very evident in my neighbor as her bringing in toxicity from cigarette smoke and more and I have witnesses but I'm not here to get anybody in trouble I just want to leave move on and get my own place. I have been going through this almost daily and I've suffered much agony and pain from it so I finally have the finances to leave soon. I may have to get an attorney to break the lease. I have witnesses that have smelled the toxicity and so if I have to leave I can get them to vouch for me hopefully. When my neighbors leave sometimes I start feeling better and there's no toxic smells in my home but once they come back they start smoking and more and bring in toxicity and I start feeling bad again. So it's definitely my neighbors. I just wanted to give your brief synopsis because it will help you understand a little bit. I'm very private but I don't mind sharing this in a very discreet manner. My mother is getting older and because I love her so much I'm very tempted to go and either stay with her or just live close to her which would be easier between us. I did go through a lot with her growing up and then taking care of her when she was ill because she does have some narcissistic behavior and it stressed me out so much and when I finally left I cried so much because I didn't want to leave her. When we talk on the phone it seems like we get along even though sometimes I do deal with her but I've gotten stronger and sometimes I think it's going to be okay but I'm really not quite sure but at least we get along mostly. However, Every time I end up staying with her she becomes the same way she was before and I get stressed. she said she cut down on her drinking and maybe she did because she is much older now but the last time that we spoke she didn't remember what we talked about and I thought maybe she's still drinking some. I have the opportunity to get an apartment somewhere close in my town away from cigarette smoke and toxicity but it's so hard because I want to honor God and I want to honor my mother and I also love her so much and I don't want our last years to be without a relationship. We have basically had a phone relationship but I do call her frequently and she can be supportive and she can be giving even though I've gone through stuff with her. Once I start getting more money I will be able to take the bus and visit her sometimes and hopefully I can get a car in the near future. I've been praying very hard to know what to do and it's not guilt I mean I'm sure that's part of it but it's more that I'm very saddened because I can't see my mom and I need to get vaccinated soon too because I've been so sick here I haven't been able to get anything done or go to the doctor. It has taken a toll on my life and my health. I want to get settled so I can take care of my health and finally get some rest and some peace and finally be able to be healthy enough to go see my mom. I am in good health it's just that I've been getting sick on and off so I get affected on and off and I been it comes and goes but I'm sure that I'm not completely in good health because I suffered for so long it's just that I've always been athletic and a very health conscious. and it's the grace of God that I've been able to persevere through this. so I can't wait to get out of here and get my vaccination and just start checking my house and going to the doctor. My neighbors smoke a lot of cigarettes and they smoke other stuff and are doing more stuff that brings in horrible toxicity and different smells and I have gotten horribly sick for quite a few years here. So once I can move into a better home, a better environment I can probably focus better but I just feel like now that I'm able to at least afford to leave finally that maybe I can get an apartment close to my mother's but at the same time I wonder if it's just going to be hard between us when I do that so it's just been very hard to know what to do. Sometimes I get sick feeling because I don't know what do I do. I feel like I need to really make a decision to go over there or not and I know that the Lord is coming soon and so I want to make sure that I'm settled and try to focus on my mom and other things in my life and especially for the Lord. part of me wonders if I should just think about myself and just get my apartment and just go and visit my mother and if it comes to me wanting to go over there then I can take my time and take my things over there because right now it would take a lot for me to take all my stuff over there because she lives at least almost 2 hours away. I succeeded in my life some ways but because I put a lot of things aside for people and my mom there's some things in my life that I didn't get to do and now at an older age I'm not too old to still accomplish some things. I have more of a chance now because I'm on my own and I don't have to work so hard like I used to and I can work on my dreams and my goals all the more. So I hope you can teach on narcissistic parents and whether we should live close to them or not and how we should go about taking care of them when they get old but I'm sure this can also be a subject for a relationships and friendships. anyway I don't want to write you too much and overwhelm you and I just want to tell you that I think you're extremely intelligent and you seem like someone who really cares about people and you have a good head on your shoulders. I like to know how much it cost for you to advise so I'm going to look into your website and all and into your Instagram. I can't thank you enough for all your help and you people who try to help people are beautiful people and the Lord will reward you for all you do because some of us don't have to support that we need out here and so I'm so thankful for people like you. May God bless you always. ❤️🥰❤️

[@meganpurcell8781]

Thanks for your video Kevin. God bless you

[@jeri5645]

Thank you, Kevin. I'm glad I found your channel, it's helped me alot.👍

[@monicaLynn7]

Spot on Video Kevin! Thank you! 😊

[@youtubeaccount-yr6hb]

My dream and goal. ❤ Great topic.

[@deepblue8081]

It helped that I have a schizoid type personality, lol, and didn't give away much about my other friends. It was already getting rocky before I moved but what was interesting is the gas-lighting, etc, started up after I'd moved, which is a bit weird but I've since gone no contact. p.s. good video!

[@correanne5366]

I'm doing exactly that...the person is really my Mum....yea, my children's father too but they don't trigger me as much...except that they are now bothering their own grown children. Yucky

[@TheRoyalWe]

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[@sharoncampbell4593]

That sounds like heaven, Kevin , it sounds really good 👍 to me

[@moscowcowboy_13]

Thanks for letting me know I am not alone. When I first had to chance to get away it was college, I had a perfectly good school in my home town, but I opted to move 100 miles away. That didn't last long, I came back and finished school in my home town, but I immediately moved 300 miles away at my first real job after college. That didn't work so I moved back home, had my own place, but in my home town. Didn't last long, so I moved 2,500 miles away to Boston, then Philly. That didn't last I ended up back home, my folks thought I had bipolar tried to get me committed so I moved across the planet, 5,327 miles to live in Siberia. After 7 years and the crash in 2008, yup, you guessed it, I moved back home again. Didn't last so I moved to Chicago, now in Florida, 3,000 miles away and I wish it were further. I am not going back to them anymore, I am happily married, sober and have a good job.

[@BrettELothrop]

Hi Moscow. I have an old friend that has always tried to be as far away from her hometown as possible. She went to college-2000 miles away from home and then successfully married and now lives in Jakarta Indonesia, 8,300+ miles away. No idea why she does this. She has excellent parents.

[@hamsterpoopie1]

I went totally over the rainbow- (and the international date line) from Alaska to Fiji, and there are still narcs - even on a tropical remote island! And the narc stowed away in my brain, but after being trapped in the island due to covid and then landing in in oz *as in Australia, I learned where home really was------being grounded in me and Him who is in me

[@hamsterpoopie1]

We did eventually get repatriated. What a wonderful learning experience!

[@uncleclaw171]

I moved to the other side of the planet. They do seem upset about that -- they cant sabotage my career in a foreign country, where few speak english. I presume, because it's in the tropics, their imaginations are running wild and they are jealous as I get to enjoy good weather all year round, beautiful beaches, and tropical waterfalls. In reality, working inside a building is the same everywhere, and I am not much of a beach person, but I do enjoy the jungles, forests, and food.... but let them have their jealous delusions. lol.

[@TheRoyalWe]

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[@akeller4647]

I recently got divorced from my abusive ex-wife. She severely traumatized and emotionally crippled me years before. I sold our house, split the money with her and even helped her move while she continued to be toxic and blamed me for everything. I started having major problems with my neighbors which started a chain of events that made the next 10 months a living nightmare where i was stuck in a high stress fight or flight mode. What I didn't realize was that my ex had moved into my neighborhood a little over a mile away from my apartment complex. I believe I was the victim of a 10 month smear campaign that ostracized and isolated me. I struggled with suicidal thoughts, people treating me like shit, and even active harassment from people I didn't even know. No one ever approached me or divulged what they heard, they just believe whatever they heard and made my life a living hell. After a trip to the ER my friends put me up at their place and I started to get better. Once the lease at the apartment was up I moved into a new place and am in the space you talked about in this video slowly healing. My friends, family, and even psychiatrist tried to tell me that it was all in my head but no one could tell me why it only happened in one part of town and nowhere else. It wasn't until I filed the divorce paper work and needed her address that I realized she lived so close. The same woman who traumatized me and emotionally crippled me two terms from graduation was living just over a mile or 4 min drive while I lived through the worse 10 months of my life. I'm pretty messed up still and have the occasional breakdown but it seems like the breakdowns are less intense and easier to bounce back from. Unfortunately, I am stuck in a place where I don't know if I will ever be able to love again. I don't know if I will ever feel safe around people again. I feel like there is no future that I am trapped in a nightmare I can't wake even though I am no longer experiencing the effects of the smear campaign.

[@JenreJohna]

Awesome video!

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

Yes, I went through it. It was hell.

[@maca5868]

"maybe even a different planet" 🤣 What a good laugh! Ty Kevin 😅💯

[@jodylesso7709]

Recap message , love from Colorado

[@TheRoyalWe]

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[@artskiwendy]

I MOVED AN HOUR AN HALF AWAY...BUT MY MIND IS STILL WITH HIM. I STILL FEEL GOD WANTS ME TO BE WITH HIM. SAD THAT I AM THAT PATHETIC.

[@donnafoley2167]

GOD doesn't want you to be with him. That's the devil honey. GOD wants better for you.😊

[@susanconner5303]

Amen brother!