how I stopped overthinking and started living my most confident life.

[@Harmoniousteak]

“Seeking approval from other people will only have people who don’t matter approving of someone you actually aren’t.” YESSSSSSS!!!!!

[@juliecarter1465]

That is so true!

[@priscillajaldi6146]

the "what r u doing" is what made me subscribe a few weeks back

[@927file_s]

saw the title and clicked immediately I NEEDED THIS

[@ohislovely]

Same!!

[@opheliamojica1779]

Sameeee😁

[@ruaflwr]

In 2021-2023, I genuinely had such bad anxiety and depression to the point I couldn't even go out without feeling panicked, but what I began to do was tell myself that what I was going out to do was going to be okay, that I'm not going to be sick and that I am strong enough to not let these feelings that are stopping me from enjoying life to take over. I tell myself now that if I am feeling anxious, I should take deep breaths and remember that I am going out to get these things done and to get it over with so I may return home. Also, telling myself that if I still didn't feel okay and still like I wanted to go home in 10 or 20 minutes, I would, and I never had to. Anxiety can be really tricky sometimes, but just remember you are always going to be okay and you overcome whatever is weighing you down because you are strong.

[@YourFavoriteBackgroundMusic]

The last one hit me deep. I always watch these videos and tell myself to forget about what other's think then I hesitate 😭

[@juliecarter1465]

So true!

[@Alia2341-K2e]

YAYY, the queen posted. Anxiety is seriously no joke, I've struggled with anxiety almost my entire life because of insecurities and just not wanting to get out of my comfort zone, a huge part of it is the the strict house hold I grew up in. I'm getting better and I'm glad to hear that a lot of ppl share the same story and in the end we're all working through it! Thank you lena for another amazing video I'm so excited to watch 💗🖤

[@lenalifts]

I completely agree thank you for sharing that ❤ much love!

[@Kimluna2389]

Beating my anxiety is the most difficult thing!!! For me......and when it came from past traumas it's even more difficult!!!! But i really wanna be succesful and prove everybody what i can do!!! So i am sure this video is gonna help me for sure!!! Thanks for uploading videos for us💜💜💜❤️❤️❤️

[@lenalifts]

ugh i completely feel you I've had anxiety for as long as I can remember and its just always a work in progress ❤❤ we got this!!

[@BTSarmy-gz5ii]

Girl u got this u have Lena and our boys by ur back💜 Borahae

[@Kimluna2389]

@@BTSarmy-gz5ii 💜💜💜

[@dorkakadas13]

“The fear of looking stupid is holding you back”- Alchemai❤️

[@kellyhopchin2922]

I'm finally getting out of that "what will other people think" phase. I feel like it's because after I moved out, I lost touch with most of the "friends" that would always make me feel so insecure about myself. It does make me sad to think of the life I could have had and all the things I missed out on, but I'm trying to focus on the fact that I can do a lot of that now. It's tough but I know it can happen!

[@ceciliaissoweird]

Lena you are SUCH a lifesaver💗💗!! As one of the most anxious people ever (😭) ,, I thank you SOSOSOSO much seriously I appreciate you SO much girl🌷💗!!

[@c.lineofficial]

I like how you said that we need fear to survive but not let us get the best of us! When I was a Christian myself, I was often taught in church that fear is the enemy. But you put it in such a healthy way! Thank you for that message! 🎉

[@lenalifts]

aww thank you for pointing that out!! such a great message

[@c.lineofficial]

@@lenalifts any time! 💯

[@cupitorimps]

'life moves on and it's really not that deep' this sentence make my day.Thank you Lenaaa.i love you sooo much💓

[@elainaw.1308]

i didn't know how much i needed this 😭 i'm in such a weird but super important transition period applying for colleges and getting closer to becoming an adult and i can't stop worrying, thank you so much for this

[@TheBritPrincess]

THE QUEEN HAS POSTED!!! ❤️

[@lenalifts]

MISSED YOU ❤

[@NosiphoMzindle]

Hey Lena, this video is really helpful because girl I relate on that part "chronic procrastinator" and asking people's validation doesn't really help because as long you know yourself well, you don't need people's opinion about you. Love you Girl from South Africa

[@BabyCakes713]

I’m listening to your video as I’m walking in the park. There’s a bunch of ppl still out here and my anxiety was high because I have MS and my balance can be off, so I think ppl can see me all wobbly but I pushed myself and I feel good about it. It truly isn’t that serious. I don’t even know anyone out 😂😂 thank you for this video. Right on time❤❤❤

[@lenalifts]

I am so proud of you! ❤

[@Jasminemusic5]

I wanted to share something my therapist told me, “ the goal isn’t to rid of your anxiety bc that would be suppressing it. The goal is to learn to coexist together.”

[@charmazelrightbackatyou2479]

Lens just never dissapoints!!!!😇😇 Thank you so much for being such an amazing person! You have truly helped me a lot in my life!

[@carolinesromancereads]

My twenties have absolutely sucked and been traumatizing, and my anxiety over my physical health issues is starting to get in the way of my professional life. I tend to spiral when these things happen and it always brings up the same exact thoughts and brings me to a bad place because of things in the past that’s happened to me. I love your videos! ❤

[@tam_kaurmindset]

I started watching u few months ago and now I obsessed with ur videos love u gurl and i appreciate u the most ✨

[@TANVISHA_PANWAR]

I usually don’t go and comment on any video but you are literally one of my favourite KZbinr.I tried watching similar content from other KZbin channels too but I always come back on yours.I don’t know whether it’s the way you speak or what but your words have power on my mind.🎀🌸

[@hayleysheroky4166]

One thing that helped me was understanding time and that it is constant. If you're worried about a meeting you have at 1:00 and it's an hour long meeting, you need to understand that no matter what 2:00 is going to hit. Whether the meeting goes good or bad, 2:00 is going to happen and you will no longer be in that meeting. :))

[@sandyred2025]

This video is very helpful and came just at the right time! I worry about what other people think about me, and I have self-doubt that I cannot achieve something. I am currently on summer break and during these months I want to improve my confidence and mental health! You are very inspiring! Continue to be you. You are very special to this world!

[@PinkJG619]

I can’t wait for that notebook!! I’m so glad I saw this today, I’m stressed about my daughters graduation and I’m over thinking and doing all the wrong thinking. This whole morning I’ve been stressed. I had to go redo a blood test and was shaking about to panic but decided to try and write left handed and doodled a bit on the paper to occupy my thoughts. I totally forgot about the sigh, and I forgot that when you have big things that stress you out, you do things in segments of what stresses you out rather than look at it all together. Thanks for all the reminders and helpful tips! When is that notebook coming?!!

[@lenalifts]

omg congrats on your daughters graduation and such a wonderful thing you're doing my getting a blood test - thats exactly how i found out i had pcos. sending u sm love during this stressful time you got this! ❤

[@MamaSwole]

Girl you always make me feel better🥹❤️

[@ramonagrbesa]

The iconic “ what ru doin’? What ru doin?” Gets me every time 😭🤍

[@poppycalliope]

I woke up very anxious today and my day has been a bit off...this video is definitely what I needed ❤

[@lenalifts]

aww im so glad this video came at a great time ❤ i feel you on the anxiety part girl sending u sm love you got this!!

[@Aashuuuu918]

Honestly i have my exams after 4 months and i just failed in my mids but now i have so much anxiety to even study bcz of the fear of being a failure but after watching this it helped me so much thank u baby girl lena love u smm💫💫🤍🤍✨

[@alinnabung]

ik a couple other people said this too but i honestly needed to hear this ! anxiety definitely isnt easy to deal with but we gotta keep pushing and do whats best for us and achieve our goals

[@lenalifts]

aww well im so glad you decided to comment this bc i know it helps people with anxiety feel less alone ❤

[@lisirahhunter2845]

I just bought your journal. I’m on a journey to improve my mental and physical health. I have tried journaling in the past and never knew what to write about. I’m excited to try your journal

[@mayabullock4014]

All love from MD!! I am going to start my senior year in hs and Lena, you are the first self-help KZbinr I have come a crossed my whole life. I can’t wait to use all of ur tips for my last year, and thank you for being you because without you, my world is definitely not complete! ❤🥰

[@lenalifts]

you have no idea how much you help inspire ME! love and appreciate you ❤

[@DaliaHassan-kb4hi]

I NEEDED THIS THANK YOUUUU!! lately my anxiety has been so high and I kept on overthinking about people’s opinions❤❤

[@LindaThao]

Babe, not you calling me out! No for real, it’s already June and we have the rest of the year to make this OUR YEAR!! You got this 💗😭🫶🏼

[@trinidadbaranao7728]

Yes!!! The best year

[@lenalifts]

YESS CLAIM THAT! ❤ its our year

[@OfficiallyTalia]

BABE STOP I NEEDED THIS !!! You literally called me out so much in this video!! You are such an inspiration Lena and I love watching your contact. You just motivate me to become the best version of myself. I love you and never give up 💗🌸✨

[@nataliepransky8811]

Great video! Another tip I have been taught is pretending to throw your anxious/unwanted thoughts into a trash can and then taking them out later when you want to process them

[@sandycheeks8175]

The detach from approval is so real

[@anon20902]

the way you explained everything and broke down complex stuff and made it simple...I really appreciate it as an anxious girlie.

[@JeeyaHussain]

I literally never comment on videos but I absolutely adore your content so much. Every time I'm having a down day, your videos rescue me. I Love how real you are. Could you please make a video about dating anxiety/ getting ghosted or not feeling like you're good enough? Either way I am a subscriber for life xxxx

[@lenalifts]

AWW Im so glad you decided to comment I appreciate you so so much. also i will definitely make a video on that!!

[@runaowo8757]

Okay I feel called out here but I need this, I just graduated college and I feel extremely anxious every day about starting my professional life. Lena bestie you always know what we need to hear😂 love you❤

[@lenalifts]

omg that post grad anxiety is so real!!! you are so not alone and i believe in you ❤

[@spititout12]

I was wondering how to overcome my fear of failure, which has been interfering with my daily life and making it hard to reach my goals. Then you shared this video, which is amazing!

[@witch-kx8oe]

Thank you, Lena, you have changed and improved my life is so many ways. I never comment on people's videos, but I just want to show you how grateful I am and how much of a good job you're doing

[@caitlinmason8918]

Literally clicked on this so hard when i read the words anxiety! Im so anxious all the freaking time. I wrote all of your tips down while watching. I literally watch you every time you post thank you so much! ❤😊

[@Preppyvolleyball18]

Girl tysm for doing a video about anxiety I have to have a high dose of doc prescribed medication for anxiety and I still have so much anxiety so Ty Girl love u 😊

[@JasmineAharchi-Miller]

This is my first time watching you and I’m already seeing myself in a different way 🥰

[@Alorajones19]

Girl i got into running last year in February and have really been wanting to join my local club. It’s on 2024 goal list. I’m such an introvert and I enjoy running alone but i been craving meeting people who enjoy the same hobby. My anxiety has stopped me from getting out there and doing it :(

[@susannakhachikyan6273]

Girlypop your videos literally saved me life. Your videos are truly lifechanging💖

[@AkaraSadiel]

The three questions at the beginning are a great trick! Thanks, Lena!

[@lindaluschei6970]

This was perfect timing, I have my final exams next week and I am STRESSED. Thank you :)

[@MorganRudisill]

Once again another great vid ❤️ one thing that I ask myself when I am overthinking an embarrassing or anxiety provoking situation is, is anyone going to remember this in a week, a month, a year or two? No, they won’t! And then I tell myself that I will be fine!

[@juliosMoves]

Girl you look amazing !! This hair is a vibe . I can’t wait to get my hands on this journal 📓 been inspired by you for a while now and I’ve been making moves , thank you !

[@ze_multistan_Jay]

Girlllll, I have been struggling with anxiety for sooo long tysmmm for this! Love you so much Lena ❤

[@BackpackwithJo]

Lena you’re absolutely killing this ❤ so proud of you making a journal. Please ship them to the UK I’ll take it with me when I travel again after Christmas ❤

[@stephdelafe]

Jon Acuff's book Soundtracks is so helpful! He wrote a version for teens with his high school daughters which I think is SO cool. The sooner we give teens the tools they need to battle their skewed thoughts, the better!

[@sadiyaanzum1094]

I badly needed a video on this topic thanks gurlllll 😭💅🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@Keana-Dowless]

I LOVE YOU SMMM!! I have non epileptic seizures from ptsd and stress… and you have helped me calm down so much

[@Keana-Dowless]

My seizures have gotten a lot better thanks to you btw!!! ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@ellietaylor6723]

literally overthinking will be the death of me 😭 i was panicking so much for an exam today eventhough ive been studying for it for ages and now ive finished and i smashed it and im wondering why i actually was panicking so much for it

[@binnieOW]

the physiological sigh is something i was doing without thinking about it 😭 when i start crying too hard or i feel an anxiety attack coming on my body just did it normally. i’m not saying it completely cured my anxiety (i am medicated) but it has definitely helped a lot

[@tammiflanagan1673]

Hey Lena All the way from South Africa ❤️ I am so happy I have discovered your channel. Have literally binge watched all of your NY videos in the span of 2 days. 🤗 I think you're so amazing and can't wait for many more to come. ❤️❤️

[@floradenoia]

girl u are so helpful 🩷 u are the best ever

[@Zainabakarim2010]

Oh myyy god , why us conquering the fear is the first tip , but its true , thanks lena , im procrastinating a lot

[@Just_Mbali2010]

I really needed this,not going to lie your videos actually lift me

[@MorganLoretta]

These tips are amazing and another one you could do if it’s getting to much give it to god just pray it really helps!!! I did right before I had to sing the national anthem in front of the everyone at a b-ball game and it helped sm I got through it without shaking or anything so GIVE IT TO GOD GIRL!!

[@maelisdelabarre9585]

The best video you've made so far It is so much inspiring and give hope that we will succeed to accept us as we are and to show it to the world ❤

[@tabithajones4803]

I love these sit down videos, I feel like I'm getting a FaceTime pep talk from my bestie! ❤

[@lenalifts]

aww im so glad you enjoy ❤❤

[@Amberlifts]

Thank you for your advice. I’m gonna start journaling now so then I can get all those anxious thoughts down on paper.

[@Luvinqkitty]

omgg its been a while, im so sorry! thank you, i really needed to hear this x

[@jxckalito]

find this video after i had one hell of an anxiety attack last night?? this is a sign

[@beaubenteploeg8463]

I just found your account and want to let you know that it’s so helpful. I love how honest you are, also about your past and your thoughts

[@juligamineofficial734]

Detach from approval is the one am currently fighting

[@Hazelnut867]

Fighting!!!!! Cheer up 🎈

[@juliecarter1465]

I have been waiting all day for you, glad to see you!!!😀

[@malisabrown7597]

I love that you are spreading the positive vibes out here. I wish I had you as a resource when I was going through my 20s! Thank you for all you do 🙏🏼

[@heyfanay]

Detach from the approval is so important and im currently dealing with it . Thanks Lena 💛 lysm 💛

[@billiehicks6587]

Thank you for sharing from a pure heart.❤ I admire you and it’s individuals like you that got me walking again.

[@by.Kasalina]

Love this. You speak the truth 🤍🤍🤍 you have inspired me to do my own thing!

[@strongerwithsam]

I missed you so much for the past 24 hours and here you areeeee..so happy to catch you before bedtime. Noted the pointers in my cute lil pocket notebook. Thank you, queen. Love you

[@coolazn1997]

Can’t wait for your journal! I def need it for this next chapter in my life. SECURED AND CLAIMING❤

[@mightywwfell]

It is also called self- sabotage when you believe what you think. Like I want to get healthy but I always find an excuse not to do nothing. I don't want to have a heart attack to realize I can walk my weight off. But for me personally it is doubt. I know what can do and overthink it.

[@richa_anurag]

this video came at the PERFECT time! truly Lena you are the gift that keeps on giving and I am so grateful for you!!!

[@lenalifts]

you are the biggest gift of all my girl love uuuu ❤

[@AddictedtoSobriety_]

Not me watching this while feeling sooooooooooooo anxious about starting a new job 😂😂😂 Lena!!! Love ya girl!

[@ilikekat]

Yay! Thank you for taking my note a few or more weeks ago! I believe it now! (Not sure if you remember but I said your voice sound goes low when you talk about your past but you kept the “singing” as they say..up!) I’ve always liked your advice and wanted to make similar style videos but I haven’t got around to making them. Mine is more for school though.

[@kieaysia]

whewwwww, you always post videos at the right time! i will get though my anxiety!!!! thank you for this 🩷🩷

[@brialexa526]

“be the boss of fear” greatest line ever so far 😮‍💨this video was much needed 😂 i am so excited for the journal tho, i keep checking my email to see when it’s released 😂😂❤❤

[@DianaMichelle]

Lena you queen! I absolutely love this video so much, you have spoken to my heart as an anxious person; thank you so much for posting this ❤

[@amethystrodriguez181]

I’ve always wanted to start a KZbin channel even sat down and wrote three months of content ideas picked a name. I never started I’m so scared my abuser will find it and figure out where me and my little one are. I dunno if it’s irrational but it’s definitely the source of my anxiety. On a separate note I absolutely love your videos and recommend you to EVERYONE!! And it’s super silly but I watch your videos and get ready for the gym like I have a buddy to go with me hahah.😊

[@PinkPolkaDots1011]

Lena, you have come so incredibly far throughout the time I’ve been subscribed to your KZbin channel, and it’s absolutely incredible to see how you’ve blossomed into the young woman you are today! Congratulations on all of your new ventures and blessings to you and your loved ones!💖

[@lenalifts]

aww im so honored you were with me along the journey i appreciate you so so much ❤

[@yasminscostas]

I'm using your videos to practice my english. Althought you speak so fast I can understand you pretty well. I love your videos and it helps me so much. 🥰🤩

[@KatDog7]

The breathing technique does help - think about when we are crying hard. We think we are "trying to catch our breathe" when we breathe those sharp inhales. After doing it a couple time, once we release the long exhale, we generally are able to calm ourselves down better.

[@fiene_csp]

You are literally my favourite youtuber and my idol❤ Every time you upload a video I know I'm gonna get a little better and little closer to my goals 💋

[@karinastanford5225]

Wowwwww I absolutely love the “and then what” it really helps with my over thinking. Like girl and then what you’ll be fine ! Love you and your videos are always calling me out i need to get my life together for real 🤣🫶🏼

[@lesedimkhize3459]

Thank you for your motivational viedos Lena. Changed my life, dont stop 😅❤ lv from South Africa

[@JazzySaint]

I like the idea of asking myself "then what?" after having anxious thoughts - it would be good to question my thoughts in this way instead of feeding into them further 😅 Thanks for that!

[@urmomishot-cs6vr]

WAKE UP THE QUEEN HAS POSTED AGAIN

[@urmomishot-cs6vr]

omg lena thank you so much for pinning it i have been watching you for ages omg thank you!!!

[@yourfaw.princess]

Lena THANK YOU SO MUCH this is gonna chance my life❤😭🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@joelimarie]

You’re amazing, I really needed this today! Thank you!!💖💖

[@n4diaxsq]

Lena always knows when to post

[@idamirton6743]

I love your videos but I am a 14 year old girl from Sweden and it is harder to do all of these improvements alone at home when I got my parents questioning everything I do. I’m also dealing with anxiety in school and in public and I can’t really ignore it because I will meet these people every day for years. And going to the gym is also very hard because I feel like everyone is judging me because I’m a kid that is trying to hard. So basically would I love a video about tips for younger people, and maybe you could give tips about what you wished you knew when you where about 14-15 years old? I love you and your content, it has helped me a lot and I’m very grateful that I spot you on KZbin, TikTok and instagram❤

[@Sofia.2025]

I want to be like you when I grow up, you are my inspiration! My drm is to live one day in NY like you 💓💖

[@trinidadbaranao7728]

Thank you so much ... as somebody with depression and anxiety.... This tips are really helpful

[@bydiksha]

Hi Lena please make a detailed video on how to visualize success as whenever i try to visualize instead of see my myself I visualize other people (which I saw in movies or dramas) and it frustrates me and becomes worse.

[@kaylaz.hebebrand6491]

Love this Lena! Would you be able to do a video about the anxiety/newness of living alone? Advice for those of us who are about to be on that journey?:)