Letter to Our Exes (Ep. 04)

[@tmreaves1]

I apologize to myself for not being honest with myself. For being so desperate to be loved that i would allow myself to loved in the dark or behind closed doors. For demanding to be loved out loud and seen by someone who constantly chose not to. I have grown and learned and will continue to do so.

[@TheTourSavant]

You are already forgive, Love ! I wish you light, love & peace 💛

[@beautyinkeish5229]

“It’s hard to get your self esteem back… It is hard to stop blaming the person that broke your heart” Baby, that’s a word… I’m working hard on me!!

[@TheTourSavant]

May your healing be swift and filled with real love !

[@NiijiSunGoddess]

The vulnerability is so beautiful. Thank you Shellas for sharing.

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

Thank you for watching 💪🏾

[@SugarPlumMamas]

When she said that it’s hard to get your self esteem back and to find yourself again I agreed. I know the feeling to well.

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

🙏🏾💪🏾

[@Musiq3031]

that is one of the hardest journeys to get yourself back

[@TheTourSavant]

💜

[@nicolethenor29]

I’m so happy you guys came back. Your content really helps me a lot. Thank you guys for being you. Please keep the videos coming. 🙏🏽♥️🙌🏽👑💐🌞

[@marsha_rose]

This is some grown people shit and I love it!

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

💪🏾 Thanks for supporting 🙏🏾

[@tmreaves1]

Loving women hurt so much and damn it i cant stay away because i know as much as it hurts it can be so rewarding. I just want that without all the trials and tribulations.

[@priceccp]

Dear first Ex…thank you. I was not broken. I was broken open. 🙏

[@looneylooney2411]

I’m 23 and I been watching ever since before you guys rebranded yourself. Man y’all really give me some advice that I can’t get as a black masculine presenting women. I don’t have any stud friends or anything like that. Nobody to kick it with or learn from and it be nice to sit and learn and listen to different perspectives from ppl that look like me. I’m glad I’m a subscriber fashoo

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

We appreciate you embracing us on your journey!

[@Latashalawler]

This episode is by far the best one.. I always wish that my exes would apologize to me in a sense of knowing it was not just me.. but also I realize now that it’s not for me that needs it it’s really ego.

[@lightitup]

Loved the transparency of this episode. So how about...a letter to your NEXT... Like your hopes for your next relationship. I hope this makes sense 🫶🏾

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

It’s in our list of topics already ❤️

[@kei7682]

I Like This. Thats Nice That Yall Are Acknowledging Your Mishaps And Can Hold Yourselves Accountable.

[@Bougiesmokee]

The connections we make as lesbian women.. Beautiful video the growth..

[@janedoe6234]

This was the best episode of any podcast you both were a part of. Simple and clean in delivery and no talking over the other person. Being real in front of the world isn’t easy and grace was giving to all parties. Moving forward this sets a bar. ❤

[@Musiq3031]

that “emotionally selfish” will always rattle a nerve. I have said that to someone recently and she wanted to take my head off

[@TheTourSavant]

Proved your point, run hun !

[@kei7682]

This Topic Is So Heavy But I Appreciate Yall Being So Open. Thank Yall For This 💐👏🏾🙏🏾

[@lanoshajordan6722]

This episode was totally beautiful. I adored the vulnerability and honesty.

[@TheLeslieMichelle]

Very sincere. I appreciate how honest you both felt. It's not easy to forget the connections you make, meaningful and otherwise.

[@Cable796]

I love that y'all get str8 into the topic

[@NyrishaThaA1singer]

The openness the vulnerability the insight from the past with future eyes was everything to me. I definitely enjoyed hearing both of yall views. And I understand nelcia a lot being a water sign and being more sensitive to things even tho we doing shit ourselves. (Low key toxic but don’t see it at the time) I am a Scorpio. And i do this in my head all the time with tearing down the old rebuilding the new and seeing things with a fresh set of eyes. So I can appreciate the vision of this show. Keep it up I love both yall💜❤️💜❤️💜🥰🥰😘😘

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

Very low key toxic 😩😂 but I can correct it once pointed out. Thanks for supporting 🙏🏾

[@NyrishaThaA1singer]

@@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast that’s the thing, they don’t say nothing so how I know🙄😒🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ I literally have to think about it when it’s over like damn I did kinda act a damn fool there 🤣😂🤣😭😭😭

[@latashajordan2893]

Actually there are 2 songs called, my First Love, one by the R&B Singer Faith Evans, & the other one by Keke Wyatt, & Avant, but it was Originally made by Midnight Star. I Sung 🎤 both of those songs before, and they are Beautiful Songs🎼🎵🎶🎙

[@infinitekharisma]

I enjoyed this episode. Loved the introspective, self evaluation and accountability not everyone is able to do this. Growth is amazing especially when you can see it in yourself. It was my 1st time watching the new podcast and I look forward to seeing what comes next. 🍾🥂To New Beginnings! ✨💜💜💜✨

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Thank for supporting us!

[@zerandrianmorris]

I would love to see The Queen Maker as a guest. I feel like her and Aina would vibe out.

[@Ana_theeofficial]

I can definitely appreciate this level of accountability and transparency! ❤

[@angelabrockington4817]

I believe we all live and learn and each person we invite into our lives we learn from each and everyone .we live learn and grow and in the end prepared for our future from our mistakes

[@kellirai35]

I’ve watched this episode two or three times it was so heartfelt and vulnerable. It helped me realize that apologizing for your part in past relationships will help me show up the way I strive to in future relationships. I feel so blessed to have found this podcast it speaks to me every time I listen to it. Thank you

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

We are blessed to have your support! Thank you!

[@msjohari3218]

I really enjoyed this.. Thank you both for sharing your letter's with open and honesty.. It's hard sometimes to be able to acknowledge the fact that and ex really played some importance in our lives rather good or bad.. But being able to say thank you for what they done or what you done by recognizing..I appreciate this.. Blessings to you both..loved this podcast 🙌💯💥

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Much love to you!

[@AeliciaMechele]

I want to apologize to myself for losing myself 💯

[@bubblegum56756]

Thank you both for being vulnerable, so open and allowing us in. I can relate to what was being said and how people we encounter in our lives can impact our lives in soo many ways

[@dyshemaross]

I loved this, it’s like hearing some of the things I wish I would have heard from past partners. Thank y’all for being so open and I am excited for the next episode.

[@Wiisewoman]

I loved this concept and conversation

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@WonderZoneFree]

One of the most touching topics here I needed this episode fr✅🖤

[@JuscallmeRobbie]

Such a great episode. The transparency displayed was a testament to your self awareness. Thank you for sharing.

[@djvlive305]

I love the rawness and honesty. It’s refreshing. 💫

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@crystalrios3192]

👏🏼👏🏼absolutely great..each week its better than the week before 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 THANK YOU!

[@the4lightz]

41:53 I can agree. I'm Leo and free spirited. I'm not ever jealous but them spidey senses though haven't failed me yet. Lol honestly this was a great podcast and a great way for many to healing frfr from past relationships and spiritual internal growth. Much love and keep shining ✨️

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Thanks for tuning in!

[@Vicky_Vill]

Wow, love this conversation. I really enjoyed this episode. This made me sit down and think

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

Thank you for supporting 🙏🏾

[@GiGiDupris]

Y’all being grown GROWN! Love it!!!!! 🙌🏽

[@Musiq3031]

ohhh this one made a lot of repressed memories come up and a lot of anger that I thought was gone. I love this video nevertheless I appreciate hearing the growth in the both of you. I met both of you during one of those stages in your lives I won’t say which stage lol but I have pics 😂😂 I love the growth .

[@crissyrichy]

I’m already 3 min in and y’all got me thinking. Gone make me cry

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

Thanks for watching 🙏🏾

[@shemicaposey8277]

I’m interested in knowing how are your exes doin mentally ?? Yes please each of you invite an ex.. I would love to hear their perspective .

[@Musiq3031]

ending question: I’ve never been one to have an issue with someone I’m dating talking to or being friend with an ex. Everything in perspective and RESPECT if I can see someone has ill intentions so can you and at that point it’s your job to rectify that and if you don’t i remove myself

[@Nikki_Vida2023]

Very good episode. It was helpful for me to hear a lot of what was said. I feel that I need to do the same in order to heal from some of the things I don’t talk about.

[@JoyCook]

Beautiful ❤🙏🏾

[@tmreaves1]

Im a Leo too...i can be selfish and selfless.

[@leelee5593]

Great episode

[@Kozette007]

Powerful Question: What do you forgive yourself for? I forgive myself for dating a woman with children that was one of my rules and I spent 13 years in that situation. Lesson learned.

[@tmreaves1]

I forgive myself for accepting crumbs and loving her more than myself.

[@simonehoward7701]

I needa come ND get on ya podcast cuz man...😅

[@Etheranne]

I love this

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

We glad you do!

[@kei7682]

Yall Bout To Make Me Cry 😭

[@shinethreu]

Lovely video❤❤❤❤❤

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

Thanks for supporting 🙏🏾

[@venomhefner1]

💜

[@nicolethenor29]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@ayanaancil7151]

All Things Feminine April Mason.... note to my damn self all rights reseved

[@theselfcenterllc]

That's understandable. Being cordial with an (distant) ex maybe even two is cool. But when they're "cool/friends" with almost every last one of them.. At 37, I kinda side-eye because why can't either of y'all let go? Is there some level of codependency-enabler behavior cycles going on? Cause if so, I would prefer to remain in the "friend/acquaintance" zone at this stage in the game. Respectfully 🙏🏾

[@tmreaves1]

I see your point...I think it's hard as women to let go of women. I learned of the mother wound that I had/have that wouldn't allow me to let go.

[@theselfcenterllc]

@@tmreaves1 Totally understandable. I mean, our mother is literally our first home before we took our 1st breath ya know? Oan: I've been reading this book called Intimate Communion and he mentions how "we often unconsciously seek sexual (in terms of Female/Male or Masculine/Feminine, for context not necessarily the act of sex itself) energy in all kinds of ways.." and can even use places/geographic locations as sexual substitutes. And it completely blew my mind. I mean, it's the subconscious right? So of course it's hidden til our mirrors i.e partners, family, etc reflect it back to us. At any rate, there's a clear distinction between codependence & interdependence. And until we're faced with that reflection via maternal/Paternal wounding behavior patterns, we think codependent behavior is healthy. When in reality, you're standing still.. And for the record, I'm only speaking from personal experience as a recovering enabler. And I really look forward to experiencing more interdependent relationships be it non-romantic or romantic, on this side of the healing journey. Shit, I aint doing all this shadow/subconscious work just to die without experiencing healthy love in ALL its forms dang it! 😅 Anywho, Thanks for engaging. Peace. 🖖🏾

[@theselfcenterllc]

*Intimate Communion by David Deida, its a blue & white book with a little bit orange, for anyone is interested

[@tmreaves1]

I just hope and pray we all heal. I talk to too many women who have been hurt by men and other women. I want a happy, healthy, healing relationship.

[@TheTourSavant]

@@theselfcenterllc Absolutely, I totally get what you mean. Our mother is like our original home - the place where we started even before taking our very first breath. It’s such a profound connection, right? I've been thinking alot about this lately. The book you mentioned, "Intimate Communion," sounds deep! The idea of seeking sexual energy beyond just physical acts but in various aspects of life and even in places, that's mind-blowing. The subconscious is a mysterious place indeed, hiding all sorts of influences until they're reflected back at us by those around us. It truly takes facing our own patterns, often influenced by our parents' behaviors, to really see the difference. It's a journey of self-discovery, & shadow work. Speaking from my own journey of recovering from enabling behavior, I can say firsthand that realizing what's truly healthy in relationships is a game-changer. Here's to embracing interdependence and experiencing authentic love in all its beautiful forms! Ain't nobody got time for doing all this inner work just to miss out on a healthy love, right!!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Peace out Sister

[@theselfcenterllc]

Nelcia said she was outsiiide! 😅🤣🤣 *before her 30s

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

😅😅😅😅

[@TheTourSavant]

Caged in a zoo is more like it !

[@ayanaancil7151]

Dear Future Wife Podcast

[@tmreaves1]

Question for you as a Leo...I really do believe we love hard...I believe we feel everything with heaviness. When you talk about ego or lack of vulnerability do you think that is because we love hard and we are protecting ourselves from getting hurt. The amount of hurt I feel I know is the depth of the love I gave.

[@NAhuufeloo]

First love😢hurt so bad I had to stop watching a bit

[@TheTourSavant]

Bless Yr ❤

[@tmreaves1]

I hear yall taking accountability but have the others done so?

[@TheTourSavant]

Karma is going to uphold acccounabilty to the others like a gun ! "It's a stuck up not a rat race!!!"