My fear of having babies...

Why I've never wanted kids.
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[@LillieKane]

My background & childhood story video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o6fCdWaoipubqM0

[@bakekay21]

Thank you for being strong to share the vulnerability. I can relate slightly! Love seeing your Post Traumatic Growth!!! 💖🙌

[@briano06000]

Lillie this is 49 yr. old Brian. I was a single father. I raised my two boys..one was 3 months old, the other a little over a year. My ex abandoned me and my kids and left to use Meth. My kids are now in their early 20's. The ex wife maybe spent a total of two weeks with them over the first ten years of their life, and maybe 2 birthdays when they were young, and a few Christmases The past 10 years, they did not even hear an "I love you" from my ex. I realized over the years that it really didn't effect them, but it had effected me. I blamed myself for many many years, and I now know the reason why I have not been in many relationships is because of the hurt of what she did. Deep down I felt like it could happen again. Over a year ago, I found her online and sent a picture of the boys to her, telling her that it wasn't too late to have a relationship with them. She told my ex mom in law, (who I get along with), to tell me "to not send her any more pictures of the kids"and that if they wanted to speak to her then they will". So, I've learned that some people only care for themselves. And I've learned to let go of the feeling that it was my fault. Sometimes the heartbreak we go thru propels us into new areas and things we never thought we could accomplish. Now that I've got my weight goals down,...down to 154 today... finances are next. Thanks for sharing your story. You guys will raise great kids. Be blessed.

[@DispensationalTimes]

It is a blessing when someone from an abusive family breaks the cycle, creating a whole new generation who thrives and will make a positive impact in our world.

[@melissaannboone3639]

Amen! ❤🎉

[@Chief-]

Lillie never asked to be the smartest and sweetest person on KZbin but here she is absolutely crushing it. ❤

[@TonyMoze]

Okay ladies and gentlemen, let's recognize the amazing video quality and editing that Lillie has done over her past years. Today is the day I see she's reached another peak! Let's go, Lillie, let's go!!!!! 🔥

[@LillieKane]

You are so awesome! You’ve been leaving the most uplifting comments over the years and I have always appreciated your support and encouragement. Your comments always bring a smile to my day! Take care my friend 😊🫶🏻

[@TonyMoze]

Keep that fire burning! @@LillieKane 😎

[@godperfectedyou4093]

@@LillieKane Ashhadu an la ilaha illa Allah ❤ wa ashhadu anna Mohammadan rasolu Allah salamu Allah alaihi wa alih, see if your lovely great husband can read this too 😊

[@godperfectedyou4093]

@@LillieKane you are the awesome one & your husband too

[@gailspooner7356]

Well I am balling !!! You go girl!! You and your hubby are such a beautiful couple and will be the best parents ever❤

[@shrubjr893]

As a divorced dude who is lookin down the barrel of 40, let me tell you, my dream from the time I was a small child was to build a strong family. I have failed, and it is starting to look like that will never happen for me. I'm sad about it almost every day. All I can do now is say learn from me, learn from my experience. Get married, hold onto your family, make beautiful babies!! :) thank you for the inspiring story Lillie! It sounds like you've already overcome so much! I hope you can go on to be a great mom! Thank you for the inspiring video, I hope that it touches lots of young people out there who still have a chance! 🙏❤️

[@MWear-x8t]

If you don't have any substance abuse issues, are in reasonable shape, have a job, are willing to do work on yourself, you know the kind of man someone would want as the father of their children, then go out there and meet someone who wants kids. The advantage of being a man is you have more time. If you are an unhealthy alcoholic, get out there to an aa meeting and start taking care of yourself and turn yourself into who you want the father of your kids to be.

[@emilykaris]

It's never too late!

[@lizforbes8022]

Use th e affirmation technique….. I attract the mother of my children. I will have a child by July 2028 MAKE SURE TO WRITE IT DOWN AND POST IT SOMEwhere u can see it every day

[@cynthiaproffitt8326]

You made me cry, Lillie. You are not only beautiful on the outside, but more importantly, inside. You will make a wonderful mother someday and Bryce will be a terrific dad. And, it is true that the love you feel after giving birth to your child is beyond imaginable. Like the Grinch you can feel your heart expand beyond measure. Thank you for sharing your heart with us today. ❤❤❤

[@youaremysunshine2368]

❤

[@Danuxsy]

Of course that is evolutionary programming, all species have the drive to procreate.

[@JulieConkle]

I am 65, never wanted kids. Not even when I was little and playing house with dolls did I think, I want to grow up and have a real baby. I love animals, and I can mother a puppy or kitten till the cows come home, but a baby? Nah. My sister, is the exact opposite. She had 4 kids, and has a multitude of grandkids and great grandkids, and loves it. To each their own. But I am happy you have reached the place you want to be in. Truly.

[@beltranmaru]

Did your husband want kids?

[@martinlouden9005]

You're a far better person than the person your mom became due to her addiction. I think you'd make a great mom if that's what you chose to do!

[@vickistanton8007]

So beautiful!

[@isagoldfield7393]

💕🙏🏼💕

[@hotwheels1838]

Why? Maybe she doesn't want kids?!

[@martinlouden9005]

@@hotwheels1838 did you actually watch the video?

[@ANYHOO0]

​@@hotwheels1838that's why they said "if that's what you chose to do".

[@sherrywheat3550]

Your growth and transparency to live is helping so many people! Thank you!

[@micolade]

I don't need kids even though I have lovely parents. I just don't need to explain myself. That simple :) Women don't need to have any excuses for not having a child. I'm with you 😘

[@zzygyy]

You will be very lonely when you get old.

[@carmenlatham4136]

I agree.should not be judged for that decision

[@carnivorepolice5-0]

​@@zzygyybullshit

[@crux321]

@@zzygyy yep this is becoming quite common

[@missyperry9510]

@@zzygyy. Not so fast, tons of lonely old people in nursing homes, put there by their kids who never visit.

[@rhondalyn100]

You are a precious young woman who not only survived but thrived from the lemons life threw at you. Congratulations on your ability to have learned to trust love. 🙂

[@catherinemahone8841]

Lillie, My father died before I was 6 & I was raised by a narcissistic mother. All I ever wanted was to be loved. I’ve been married 40 years and have 5 (yes, five!) children. They are all wonderful people. You are so much fun & always so positive! I think you would make an awesome mom when the time is right for you! ❤

[@ambersummer2685]

This is why I can’t and don’t judge people for not wanting kids. You never know what someone is going through

[@simplehealthyliving4681]

No. She most likely wasted time during college years with "sexy" guy who then walked on in his life and she parted ways with fond memories and then met this present guy with money and married him. All her talk is about him loving her but barely any is about her love for him, let alone any heartfelt serving feminine love for him. And all these years all she and this man have done is live only for fun and consumption instead of diligent and affectionate domestic life. The pattern is mostly the same among most women in today's world whether or not their childhood had unkind parents.

[@ambersummer2685]

@@simplehealthyliving4681 I thought her bringing up how much he cared about her was to add context to how she’s currently feeling about having kids. That’s how I saw it. She also mentioned the fear of not being a good mother.

[@crand20033]

I never felt secure enough in a job to have kids. I wouldn't want to bring a kid into the world where I can't even support myself.

[@MySistersAlive]

@@simplehealthyliving4681 what does the guys she dated in college have to do with this video?

[@simplehealthyliving4681]

@@ambersummer2685 Thank you for clarifying but honestly speaking it is amazing how we never see majority women talking about how they love and serve their man (who also has his responsibility towards her), but all about how much this man does for her, whether or not their childhood had lack of love. As if men don't face double amounts of loveless childhoods. To be clear, minority numbers of women are femininely loving and femininely responsible towards their men. These do deserve male affection.

[@PatrickMartinez1]

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18)." I'm so proud of you Lillie! This was such an amazing and inspiring video! It's awesome to see how much you're growing, not just in your fitness and nutrition, but you're growing as a person (perhaps Bryce has something to do with this :D). You are growing in discipline, humility, and wisdom. It takes a lot of guts to make a video like this. It takes a lot of humility to admit that you were wrong and you see things differently now. It's never a good idea to base your important life decisions on fear. We can't let our fears and anxiety dictate what we can and can't do in life. Decisions should be made with confidence, wisdom, and love.

[@praeeo]

💛💛

[@Blurp3]

Wow, this is such a wonderful comment 🙏🏻. I can attest to this... As someone who has let fear and anxiety rule over my life for the past 10 years. But, praise, God, I'm now fully submitting my all to, God. And learning to do everything in His strength, not my own!

[@PatrickMartinez1]

@@Blurp3 that's great to hear. The important thing is to always remember that you are entirely dependant on the Lord. Jesus said, "I am the vine, you are the branches. Without me, you can do nothing." All you need in life is to find and follow His path and then you won't have to worry about the outcome. If you're doing what He has called you to do, then you already have His assurance that it will all work out according to His plan.

[@jenniferibarra7737]

Amen.

[@Danuxsy]

The purpose of the Universe is to construct ever more intelligent machines, that is why we have an innate drive to create technology, glory to machines glory to the Universe.

[@mariepaukowits1709]

Have 3 kids and wish I had more. Don’t be afraid!😊

[@yvettec7650]

I never wanted kids until I met my husband. That was how I knew I met the man who was meant for me. We have been together for over 22 yrs now. Unfortunately, we were not able to have children but we have each other and our families

[@fzleadventures173]

This was beautiful Lillie! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this with us! I’m soo excited to follow your journey 💖 I too was abandoned from my parents at the age of 10 then abandoned by my foster mom at 14. But I am now 34 with 4 children and getting married this Saturday! I gave my life to God back in 2020 and I haven’t been the same since I’m very optimistic for my future. Blessings to you ❤️

[@anao7671]

My parents were both abused, neglected, and abandoned children. They met in January, and by September, they were married. Their children were their greatest achievement, I'm not saying that, they both would constantly say it to us. They broke the cycle, and became the greatest parents ever. You will be the greatest mom ever !❤❤❤

[@davidnormamendoza5206]

I am a mother of 3 and they are my entire world.. you would be a great mom lillie. My parents were never affectionate and I broke that chain.. I always show affection and love ❤

[@elinmansson5535]

She just said she doesn't want them.

[@davidnormamendoza5206]

@elinmansson5535 I said you "would" be a great mom not you "will" ... ugh always in someone else's business..

[@SusieQZee]

@@elinmansson5535you obviously didn’t watch the entirety of the video. 🤦🏿‍♀️

[@AnnA-jd4xm]

@@elinmansson5535 Her reasons are fear based.

[@katemiller7874]

Wonderful

[@idaUnchained]

I had a traumatic childhood as well and having a child has been incredibly healing ❤ and very motivating to working on myself! You’ll be great parents if and when you choose to have kids 🥰

[@johntravis7304]

new level of respect for lillie today. shouldn't be surprised though, she has put honesty + transparency at forefront from day one hold onto Bryce real tight, never take someone like that for granted.

[@CarnivoreDreamer]

Kids are a blessing, I wouldn't trade mine for the world! You're going to make a great mother. ❤

[@julienfroidevaux1143]

Children are self centred little narssiststs who than grow up to you guessed it .

[@jamesjessica21]

Your life story makes me want to cry. You discovering true happiness and love from someone demonstrating that to you.

[@sandymcallister7046]

As usual Lillie, keeping it real. That’s why we love you so much! 🤗

[@wcneathery3100]

Truth is Lillie you and Bryce are probably the best kind of people that should have children. That aside we all have free will and your choice is yours and yours alone. Continue to listen to your heart and continue to search for your truth. May God continue to bless to both.

[@Goosegirl]

This made me cry. I'm so happy for you! Such a beautiful message.

[@keithwilson8235]

You’re a better human being for going through that. Most people use abuse to justify their mistakes in the wrong ways. You are amazing in the right ways!!!

[@LillieKane]

Thank you so much for listening and understanding 😊 have a blessed day!

[@erinmewis1531]

You are a really good person. Most times I question humanity and this helped remind me there are still some really good humans.

[@JaykeMEllis]

Having a child is the closest thing I have ever experienced to “unconditional love”. I never wanted kids when I was younger either.

[@benhardless4186]

So true!

[@BlueSquad00]

Is that the only reason? "Unconditional love"

[@Danuxsy]

The reason you want children growing up is because evolutionary programming, your DNA is influencing you into procreating because that is the purpose of your existence, to make the DNA that created you be able to make it to the next generation, the unfortunate part of this is that you cease to exist.

[@katemiller7874]

@blue- yes

[@elizabethfaulkner1891]

‘. . . And the greatest of these is love . . .’ Wonderful video wishing you all the very best

[@missbuckeye]

This was so refreshingly honest & perfectly articulated. I never married or had children. And now that I'm in my 50's, I have serious regrets over those decisions. Thank you for being so open with us. This helped me figure out my own reasons for hiding from those 2 great joys in life.

[@christelchristely2816]

My kids grew up with only one grandma that lives far away. My neighbors could never have children. My children kind of adopted them and my neighbors became part of the family. Maybe you will become a grandmother too.

[@sweetbeep]

There is a crud ton of people who regretted getting married to who they did, and also to having kids.

[@umiluv]

@@sweetbeep- only psychos regret having kids. Even if the spouse is horrible, you don’t regret having your kids. Children are a blessing even if the circumstances suck.

[@sweetbeep]

@@umiluv ..I don't think you can put a blanket statement on that. Some kids are straight up PROBLEMS.

[@Conservative_carnivore]

​@@sweetbeepThat's why you raise them right so they don't become problematic. You seem really fun to be around. You must be the life of all parties

[@carychiasson9834]

Not sure why, I cried when I heard your story Lillie. I have had my battles with my mind on a lot of issues. For all the loss and pain that I have gone through. I can see the healing that carnivore helping me with. Thank you for being you Lillie. Love always wins

[@tiffanywatson7615]

Oh precious Lillie!! Thank you for this video. In my community I work with families who have experienced trauma, addiction and poverty. I can’t tell you how powerful this video is for so many. I’m 43 have 3 boys who are my world. Excited for you!! It’s your life to create. Please know we are cheering you on!!

[@blackbandit1290]

You are a beautiful soul Lillie Kane. I love the way you have re-invented your life and your health. Beautiful !!

[@evelyngruenewald4106]

This was perhaps the sweetest, most special thing you could have said, and I wanted you to know I was deeply moved by it. I'm still crying as I sit here writing this, and even though I know you aren't starting yet on having kids, I wanted you to know that your entire message was so precious... thank you for sharing this. 🏅

[@gabriellagrace4734]

I concur and I loved your comment as well. Thank you for sharing.❤️

[@ShannonGarvey-o8c]

I felt the same way. Was married for 7 years & my husband finally convinced me to try for a kid. We got pregnant only 2 months after trying, & we were both 37 years old. Can't imagine my life w/o my daughter now. Best thing that ever happened to me! You will be an awesome mother!

[@AnnA-jd4xm]

How old is she? does she ever wish for a sibling? I am in my mid 30's and planning on having one but im so old to be having multiples

[@ShannonGarvey-o8c]

Mid 30's is not old. I did stop after having only her, because I still had fears about having children/more children (I have a brother & a sister & my relationship w/ them has always been very stressful...they both got Messed up on drugs & alcohol in their teens). My daughter is 11 now. She is my only one, but I do have days I wish I'd had more. She tells me she loves being an only child. She has several friends who are also only children, because it is more common these days. You're still young enough to have more than one if that's what you want, but if you only want one that's good too! Your child will focus on the positive aspects of his/her situation if you teach them to focus on the positive aspects. @@AnnA-jd4xm

[@tracyhilt3442]

Similar story had a breast reduction early in 20's and then in early 30's hubby wanted to try for a kid. Got pregnant the next month off bc. I could not imagine my life without my son. He continually makes me grow and be a better human. I thank God everyday for my hubby's wishes on trying to have kids.😊

[@MichelleNovalee]

So many women today don’t want kids. And so many studies show how unhappy women are who don’t have kids. I too was raised in an abusive, alcoholic, drug rampant environment and also struggled with not wanting kids. I’m almost 40 now and have done a lot of research on women’s happiness and kids. Jordan Peterson is my favorite to turn to in this subject. As a clinical psychologist, he has had many motherless (by choice) patients in their 60s who have a void in their life now and are so unhappy. These are very successful women who make 6 figures. But it’s in our nature to nurture and raise little ones and when we become out of touch with our instincts, we lose sight of what makes us happy. So now for the first time in my life, I actually want kids. I think the trauma I experienced as a child is why I never wanted them, but the innate instinct inside of me (like all women) actually wanted them. Fortunately, that instinct was able to come to the surface and reveal itself after my many years of healing. I wish it happened sooner when I was 30. But I’m not giving up hope.

[@Hinz2005]

I was 40 when I realized that I was going to regret not having children. I had my tubes out when I was 34. So in order to have children, we would need to use IVF. We fully explored that option and decided it wasn’t right for us. Despite that disappointment and the regret, I’m able to accept the consequences and be a good wife, daughter and friend. I love to bake and keep a tidy home and care for my hubby and pets. We do fear aging without kids, but we take good care of ourselves and pray that all goes well. I do encourage people to have children if they can. But I am also proof that it’s possible to be content despite circumstances. There’s no perfect path!

[@brandongreenwood6005]

My father was an alcoholic, abused my mother. Left completely when I was 8 years old I'm 36 and haven't seen him since he disappeared and abandoned me even tho they were separated when I was 4. He didn't love me and I've accepted that. I've been through some other things but I don't complain too much.. Had a daughter 5 years ago it's SO much work especially when you don't have a lot of help. It's expensive but not as expensive as I was always told. It's stressful at times, it's more work than I could have imagined. IT WAS THE BEST THING TO EVER HAPPEN TO ME!! I love her so much and couldn't imagine this life without her. Wish I could have had her earlier but my timing was probably for good reason. She's changed who I am and my entire life. With the knowledge you have you would be a fantastic mother!! A lot times those of us who went through tough things early and were wild n crazy young kids end up making the best parents. A lot of times those who have a "perfect picture" childhood with everything given to them and no problems end up having problems in adulthood. Not always but in my life I see it all around me.

[@Livingtabitha]

You know what Lillie! I’m just so damn happy for you on so many levels. Mostly because getting to know your true self, your true motivations is the best thing anyone could ever do because this is what changes the world. Your happiness is contagious and no one can be truly happy if they don’t know themselves. That’s my opinion of course. I’m excited for your future. Our childhoods sound so similar. But unlike you it’s taken me 41 years to get to a place where I feel okay. Not necessarily happy but okay. I still have abandonment and attachment issues. I still struggle to trust people and the love they give. I did have children very young actually and I wish I had had the emotional and mental maturity to have waited. But I also don’t regret it. I just think I would have made a better mother had I spent more time getting to know myself and learning to love myself. Anyways, sorry this isn’t about me. I just felt I could definitely relate. Btw, lots of people travel with their children.

[@catsrus2890]

Great video, Lillie! I've also always wanted to go to Egypt! I had a really bad childhood too, so, I know exactly where you're coming from. I never wanted kids and didn't have them due to it. So glad that Bryce has brought so much love into your life. Whether or not you ever have kids, you have each other. Can't wait to see your videos when you do get to Egypt! 🤗

[@AnneMB955]

I didn’t want kids in my 20s, when some rude person said I should donate my ovaries. Grrr. Had 2 in my 30s. Perhaps having kids shows us what a blessing it is. They are my best friends. What a wonderful video, thx Lillie.

[@kobebiankabryant8682]

I would've told them the person without ovaries should just grow some🤷

[@sarahjaye4117]

Wtf, donate your youth 😮

[@davidross4139]

Lille, You are a very inspiring young woman. You are always upbeat and funny. I was married at 19 and have three children. My youngest daughter is close to your age. I have been married for 36 years. Your story is amazing because of your ability to share it the way you have. If you ever decide to have children I can assure you, they will have your attitude on life. Your children are a part of you that never leaves even when they live miles away. Yes, you do have a bond that is not understandable. The unconditional love that you mention actually comes back to you from your children as well. Wish you well.

[@keishamari]

Oh Lillie, now I love Bryce too! You have definitely got enough love to share. You just made my heart full! Thank you, girlie!!

[@BubbleBuster]

I pray you have many children. It's a sacred love that only mothers can hold. It can't be replaced or replicated. God bless you Lillie and your future family !

[@gypsyrider237]

Lillie Kane...you are just tooo adorable! You brought tears to my eyes..Rock on Rock star !! 💕🥰

[@nvfreefam]

Having a child might actually bring some joy to your life. You seem like a good person. I hope you are blessed with a child one day. You'd be a good mom

[@marneangel7]

Awww Girl, love you! THIS made me smile 🥰. Since my divorce, I've put 110% into myself and my children. I got married to an amazing man and we show my (our) kids everyday how amazing they are and how much we love and cherish them and you know what??? I asked my 16 year old daughter what she wanted to be when she grows up and she said "a mom!" I feel very proud that I healed myself enough to show her what a gift she is and that translated into her wanting to do what I do...be a Mama! With all your perspective, Lillie, you will be a magical mama!

[@paulcosta8297]

Part of your harmful brainwashing of your adult age daughter is fantasizing to her in this way that she's still a child when in fact she's been able to generate one for almost half a decade and is currently at the peak of her youth and attractiveness. You will ruin her future by projecting this infantilizing causing her to reject high value suitors as myself who won't be interested once she's 20 and MASSIVELY physically degraded; it's 2023 and you need to look around and observe actual real-world data.

[@splendid_kizmet9479]

This is beautiful. You are loved Lilly. Hope you can tick that off your bucket list soon.

[@amirhani22]

Oh my gosh Lillie, I'm from Egypt.. me and my wife are your biggest fans in here, you helped us a lot in our carnivore journey, and actually in having no guilt about perfecting it, we are about one month in .. I hope you enjoy your trip to Egypt and also your children to come. And what you said about "Love" ... I'm speechless.

[@youaremysunshine2368]

❤

[@annie22krm]

Thanks for sharing! I’ve been where you’ve have been. Now I have 2 kids who rock my worlds. It’s has its challenges but it’s a different kinda of love that you can only experience by having them.

[@denissepulido145]

This video is just BEAUTIFUL. ❤️" Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres". 1 Corinthians 13: 4,7 ❤️

[@wearethereeves8685]

SOOOO WONDERFUL!!! Babies are amazing and you will be a WONDERFUL POSITIVE AMAZING mother because you are already all of those things!

[@Mhelyssa_1]

I REALLY appreciate so much your honesty and that you're willing to share and talk about topics like this. God bless you ❤.

[@LillieKane]

Thank you for listening. Have a blessed day 🥰

[@ramooyeido1772]

@@LillieKane keep shining sunshine.

[@winniecash1654]

Sorry about all you endured. Me too. Both parents alcoholic, brothers stoned all the time, broken family. My children are a huge blessing to me. I decided the change was happening with me. My kids will not inherent the legacy of my family of origin.

[@TheTidyNest]

I am so sorry you had such a tragic childhood😢 I am 32, been married to my husband for 14 years and pregnant with our 7th baby. Having a baby is the most life changing experience you will ever have. They make you a better person in every way❤

[@evilbindahood]

7 babies who's paying for that? The state 😂😂😂😂

[@TheTidyNest]

@@evilbindahood 🤣 nope, my husband. I know it's hard to believe that people can have one dad for all their kids and he can go to work everyday to provide for them.... But it's like, a real thing.

[@SomeoneSomewhere1984]

My husband and I also have 7 kids and, like you, we never had government assistance. Children a such a blessing.

[@graftme3168]

​@@evilbindahoodMy son has eight kids, seven of them are girls! (Yes, same mother.) And, he works hard every day to provide for them, and he does a great job!

[@BohemiAnnA]

We are about to have our 35th anniversary. We have 7 kids, and our 4th grandbaby was born 3 days ago. Many people want lots of children and raise them well. I believe that Lillie will have so much love to give a baby, her little heart will beat so loud it will be audible!

[@SA-rs5pl]

Bless you Lilllie and you are stronger than you think!👊

[@EiffelFlower]

It makes me happy to know some day in the future there will be more Bryce and Lillie's in the world to spread the sunshine! ❤☀️

[@JewishKeto]

Thanks for this very personal video. When I had my health wake-up call… I knew I was ready to get help and so I lost 100lbs and decided to work on my bucket list. I did a few already and it’s so exciting

[@Kmc1316]

I absolutely love this!! You really are an amazing human, Lily! You are kicking butt stopping those “generational curses” as some ppl call them. I think you will be a great mom 💕

[@XFS540]

As someone who is still trying to get some areas of his life together, I can absolutely sympathize. Didn’t really have much of a fulfilling life; didn’t travel much, never really had a career or did any work that fulfilled me, and the list goes on. I keep thinking that I may not want to have kids because there is so much that I missed out on, and I don’t want to throw all of my dreams or plans away solely because of what is perceived as a societal norm. It might make it harder to find love as well, but it’s just something I’ll have to deal with.

[@juniorhdez9168]

Profound beautiful 😍 message & easy to understand. Pure love coming from your heart ❤️. U have grown spiritually. "Way to go"

[@diana4043]

Lillie, this was heartwarming ♥️. If I may share…I grew up loved and blessed with a solid foundation. Yet, the moment my son was born- I was filled with a feeling of completeness. He has been my greatest joy, my greatest love and my greatest gift from our Lord. Thank you for letting us into your heart. Your life is now absorbing all the blessings you missed as a child.

[@tiffanypelky64]

Oh my goodness I wonder how many people you made sob! You are beautiful Lillie!

[@HollyNoellecavalier]

God bless you Lillie Kane!! You have endured so much and have persevered. We all have a story and it’s just how we tell it. Whether or not you actually have children, you have shown all of us just how capable you are. Children are absolutely awesome! You raise them the way you wanted to be raised. My husband and I have two amazing boys who have made us that much stronger as a couple. We had difficult childhoods. I have friends who cannot have children, and they are an amazing God loving couple. God has a plan, and it isn’t the same for all of us. You are a bright light! Keep shining! Babies are truly little miracles…poopy diapers and all!!☀️❤️🙏🏻

[@karenlanteigne]

Awwwwwww lillie!! You made me cry when you said I AM pure love. This was an amazing vlog. Love you girl. So happy you found this out at a young age. Thank you for teaching me!

[@simplymattern]

Thank you for being so brave and bold to share your story. I hope people are nothing but kind. I'm so glad you've found Bryce and you compliment each other so well. May God protect and strengthen you both. Whenever and however your family building journey goes, praying it is a blessed one. 🫶

[@Eat_Some_More]

I’m sorry for what you had to go through as a child 😢 It’s amazing how you turned out totally opposite to you parents, by making the right choices for yourself ❤ You are the type of person that should have kids, you going to bring so much love and happiness to them and in return, I think you deserve their love and happiness they will bring to you…

[@agricolaregs]

My shitty childhood makes me a great mom. I have more than I could ever ask for. A husband, a kid, a house. We have a home for our family. It’s a amazing.

[@gigih.2169]

Something that can come from a very dysfunctional childhood is the desire to 'do it right'. Some of the best moms I know had rough childhoods and it was their driving motivation to create the family they wish they had as a kid.

[@anthrax565]

Oh Thankgod I found this video! My childhood was violent and toxic too. Not alcohol, but a cult religion. My father wasn’t involved in this cult, he was just angry and violent. It may have been her fault. I was always terrified of children. I haven’t been married OR had children. I never thought it would be the same (or similar) to you. I thought it might have been something evil and nasty that had been said to me... Thankyou for telling me your story. Annie

[@tysonelite9561]

We're they jehovah witnesses?

[@sharonnelson1548]

You go girl. You two will be amazing parents and your child/children would be so loved. Love to you❤

[@supagreatman2826]

To whoever is reading this keep going,you're doing fine! No matter how slow your progress each new week is filled with tiny steps forward. Be proud of yourself you got this!

[@supereasygardeningwithgran1547]

What a real, beautiful and authentic video ❤ Thank you. You will be a wonderful mother someday and enjoy your travels 🎊

[@nakitanash]

Lillie, Been there Things change You’re healing… The world needs and deserves parents like you ❤ The love inside you was always a part of who you are…

[@rondumesnil7838]

Having already heard your childhood story I just want to give you a hug. That would probably be awkward with Bryce. Just being you, you help so many. So happy to see your videos

[@GitDatPC]

Brice sounds like a good, solid Christian man. Living by example and showering you with love ❤ Excellent example, brother!

[@cynthia5399]

You were not the problem, we can’t help the way our parents are, but you can help the way we are, you are aware of those things and you do none of those things that your parents did. One of my clients years ago was it police officer and she was telling me about her parents who are major drug addicts and the life she lived was horrific, but she made better choices and became the opposite of her parents and is a wonderful mother now.

[@cynthia5399]

The pain is only temporary and afterwards there is so much joy.

[@gladisgamez9386]

I don’t understand why women now days want to put their desires and needs before having children. The truth is 90% of your eggs are gone by the age of 30, and most IVF treatments fail. I’ve seen so many women put their “dreams “ careers” and “aspirations “ only to end up childless and miserable. The truth is we are created to be mothers. Becoming a mother is the best and most fulfilling Decision any woman will make(especially if you are happily married and stable)Too many women wait too long and believe me pregnancy is so much harder at an old age.

[@AndreaJeanne88]

I'm so happy for you to be able to change your mind on the subject of having kids. I spent close to 20 years working for a humanitarian organization with my husband and with no kids. By the time I was 38 I couldn't suppress the urge for kids any longer. We basically started our lives over and at 41 I had my one and only daughter. I always wanted kids, but put my humanitarian work first. Once I had my daughter I couldn't believe how much MORE love I could give and have. It truly has made my life whole. I would have had more kids but I waited too long. Anyway, I'm happy with my one perfect amazing daughter! I am sure you will be an amazing mom and you will love it!

[@danielapopa2768]

Be a mom. Kids are the only blessings straight from heaven.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

I try to tell ppl to have babies They wait too long, alas So glad for ur one blessing

[@stacyhuston3910]

You are so inspiring. I am so happy you met your husband. I hope your future children know how lucky they are to have you as a mom.

[@dimpsthealien333]

Wow!!! That was so beautifully put. Wow! Thank you! I'm early 50s woman. Never wanted children so I never did. No regrets at all. But I think how you put your own experiences totally resonates. You are being true to yourself and growing too. So non judgemental and full of love. Thank you! ❤❤❤

[@videogamekitty]

I can tell you will be an awesome and loving mom when the time is right for you! Much love to you. I appreciate your videos.

[@johnnierichardson3289]

I was exactly like you. Then at 35 I accidentally got pregnant at the end of my marriage. I fell so madly in love with my baby that I immediately wanted another. I now deeply regret not having them earlier and not having more. It will be the worst mistake of my life. Being a mother has been the only thing that's ever fulfilled me. I will pray for you.🎉❤❤❤ Our Creator tells us to be fruitful and reproduce... we do truly become more blessed by following His laws.

[@AQBPlays]

Dad still about? Does he get that blessing too?

[@johnnierichardson3289]

@@AQBPlays no, he decided to cheat and divorce. 😭

[@TheLegendaryLore]

I'm so sorry for he childhood you had to go through. Truly heartbreaking. There's no doubt you'll be a million times better mom than your own mother, your willingness to self-reflect is evidence of that. As a father of three, each of them were the best decision my wife and I ever made.

[@debjayne3298]

Sometimes you have to feel and get love to know what it means. I am glad you found someone that had the patience to show you how to believe in love.

[@shiftingrealities4213]

I AM LOVE 💕 So beautiful and true, we are love, we are the gift, we are the magic. I feel like crying, thank you Lillie, you bring so much joy and love in this community and I am truly grateful and Egypt, will be amazing! 🎉🤩🥳💝🐫🐪 🇪🇬

[@janissevalenzuela]

I’m so IN LOVE with this video because I also grew up in a family where “children were always seen as a disturbance” and I cry because I realize I’ve been robbed of something that natural and part of our human experience ❤❤❤

[@Texasdonna]

I’m a mom - my sons are 19 & 22. The love is unquantifiable. Absolutely unquantifiable. Yes it’s true that travel becomes more difficult, so yeah now would be a great time. This video makes me so happy.

[@jamimiltenberger2371]

Oh, Lillie! You are such a precious human being. You are the picture of someone who has not allowed their circumstances to dictate who they are or who they will become. Rather, you have done the hard thing... faced your fears, disappointments and regrets head on and used those heartaches/challenges for the good. You exude pure joy and are a breath of fresh air! May God continue to bless you and keep you. May His face shine upon you and be gracious to you and give you peace.

[@farisalmousa4498]

Absolutely beautiful video. Lillie please make more of these ! the world needs it.

[@deannareisman]

Your video was very touching. I found your words to be perfectly communicated. I also appreciate how you tied everything together to who you have become (and why) and why you do what you do in helping your followers reach their potentials as well. It is okay to change and it is okay to be different. Thank you, Lillie.

[@blissfulluxurylife]

Oh, I’m so glad I didn’t comment too soon. I wish you all the best with your future family ❤ I’m child free but I think I’m going to stay that way.

[@tinakamins5898]

Wow Lillie, I couldn’t hold back the tears listening today. I’m so sorry for your childhood trauma but so glad you are living your wonderful life now. Obviously you are a very strong, and intelligent woman. You have “mothered” so many of us online. While it’s our own choice to eat what we like, you’ve gently lead by example, with kindness and humor. Should be become a mother, (🙏), you and Bryce will be terrific parents. And keep traveling. Children go where you go. Blessing to you both!

[@USDefcon1]

WoW! Not sure how you articulated that so well but you did it. I understand since I've felt similar.

[@MarigoldSundays]

If you want kids, cool. But if you’re equating not having kids with eating junk food, not cool or accurate. Junk food damages you, but not having kids doesn’t. And having kids doesn’t automatically nourish you either. Spiritual nourishment is an inside job with or without kids.

[@curious164]

She literally says that eating junk food or not having kids isn't necessarily a "wrong choice". She's just using it as a metaphor for how her mindset changed. She's learnt that she can be happy with kids, even if before she thought she couldn't. Just like she learnt she can be happy without sugar, even if previously she thought she couldn't.

[@MarigoldSundays]

@@curious164 If eating junk food isn’t a wrong decision, why change that decision? Because it IS harmful for you. So, if she’s using that metaphor to explain changing her decision about having kids, she’s implying not having kids is harmful. So, this isn’t just about being happy to have kids when she thought she couldn’t. It’s about justifying that decision by implying it’s superior to not having kids. She even called it the highest form of love…as if those who don’t have kids can’t reach this level of love. It comes off as spiritual snobbery. So, I’m saying how about we not make this a contest? You can experience the highest forms of love and give greatest amount of love with or without children in the mix.

[@dustincaso6781]

I would disagree. Countless women have reported feeling deeply empty inside after making the choice to not have kids.

[@MarigoldSundays]

@@dustincaso6781 Countless women have also reported feeling fulfilled in life, even in old age, without having kids. So feeling fulfilled in life isn't a cause-and-effect of having or not having children.

[@dustincaso6781]

@@MarigoldSundays uh huh

[@annebeck2208]

I grew up with a Foster Aunt...taken in by my grandmother, because her home was the same as yours...she overcame the statistic...she married, became a nurse, became a great mother and was one of my favorite aunts. Since then, I have seen others over come the statistics...You are an overcomer!!! I will warn you, the one thing my Foster Aunt learned to do was run from anything that felt even slightly like the home she grew up in... She said it kept her out of the trap....which seems strange...but I'll pass that along.

[@maryzdan3680]

Wow, Lillie! This was an AMAZING, heartfelt video……and one I needed to see today! Yes, Dear, YOU are LOVE shining brightly!

[@jeffsikes4246]

Your ability to reflect, grow and change is inspiring. You have obviously overcome a great deal of adversity. This is credit to you because it has ultimately made you into a beautiful soul. So glad you have a soul mate to share life with. You all well be wonderful parents!

[@nikkiwatson9824]

Oh my goodness.... brought tears to my eyes... I recognise myself in your message and wish I knew this 20 years ago. Too late for me now, my biggest regret. Thank you for all the beauty and love you bring to this world 💜