10 Mistakes I've Made as a Mother (and the lessons I've learned from them)

[@koningjessica]

I'm not a Christian, and I wasn't raised religiously, but I do find your video's calming and comforting. All these things you shared (accompanied by matching scripture) apply to any mom, those who follow the Bible and those who don't. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@dirtyoranges]

Such a blessing to hear that from a non believer❤

[@Stormfal]

❤

[@GardensOfChina]

I agree with you. As she mentioned she had been more concerned with religion as time went and it is starting to be a central aspect of the videos that did not seem to be before. I relate to her on everything else but that change makes jt harder for me to relate - trying to keep an open mind.

[@koningjessica]

​@@GardensOfChina I agree, I do find myself skipping a video once in a while because the Christian way of living does not seem too relatable at that point. And I do find myself rewatching older videos on this channel every now and then. But everytime I do hear a scripture being recited, I just can't help but think: this is such a valuable lesson for me as well. 😊

[@rebeccacerise1322]

This is because truth is truth is truth 🥰

[@JessicaWarner-t4j]

When I thought critically about how THE DAY is my kids' WHOLE LIFE then I stopped LONGING for the END of the day and night alone. I needed to start looking at the DAY as my biggest blessing and to not waste that time trying to GET THROUGH. Ginger Hubbard's book ws incredible. I feel like I'm now equipped with the WHY and how to explain through scripture why the kids should do this or that.

[@micaelablogs]

You are so right!! I keep meaning to read Ginger's book!

[@nicky2908]

Im try to grasp the why…

[@sophiebrown6744]

Which book?

[@elisabethcuningham3526]

Which book is this? I think she has a few?

[@springlady8337]

I know you might prefer it to be quiet in videos, but let me be the first to say that you don’t need to pressure yourself. You are a mom of four and we completely understand if you have a baby fussing or kids laughing or fighting over toys. Those sounds are blessings to be heard. We wouldn’t care at all!!

[@kristynabrazdova9325]

I think it's mostly a concern about editing - when you have a lot of background noise or music, it becomes harder to edit the footage so that it flows nicely...

[@daisy346]

I think for me it just would be hard to focus on what I'm trying to say😅 so even though yes those are beautiful sounds, I understand.

[@clareking4434]

I sometimes feel you judge yourself to harshly. You are a lovely person who obviously loved their family x

[@ilahvernor]

Please do more like this! I’m pregnant with my first but have watched for awhile and feel so enriched by this

[@joenahjoyce2133]

I’m a Muslim but I’m a big fan of your videos even though we both have different faith. I learn so much about homemaking and motherhood. Your vids are very comforting and an inspiration especially because I’m a first time mom of twins.

[@mirandacronin6823]

Seriously one of your best videos, Delilah! I can see myself returning to watch this when I need these biblical reminders.

[@foofookachoo1136]

I know, right??!

[@Amber-kc1gt]

This video really spoke to me. I’m 26, Christian SAHM to my 14 month old daughter and currently 5 weeks pregnant with baby number two. Delilah I can’t tell you how much I look up to you as a godly wife and mother and I wish I had a friend like you in my life to lean on. I have no community, my husband and I are the only believers in our family, and my walk with the Lord has taken a backseat for so long now. I felt incredibly convicted by most of your points in your video and I desperately want to be back in the word and serving the Lord. I’ve been in a state of hopelessness regarding my faith for so long now that I’ve wondered if I was ever really a Christian. If you see this comment, please pray for me. You’re such an inspiration to me and your videos genuinely bring me joy.

[@micaelablogs]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Praying for you in this moment 💕

[@Amber-kc1gt]

@@micaelablogs Thank you so much!

[@melindaedgington9925]

I'll pray for you too. Try to find connections at a good church. A mother's group or Bible study or something. I like you have no one following Jesus in my family. Not even my husband. Being well connected to the family of God is a must. Also get up early if you can and read your Bible and pray.

[@alissadewolf3447]

See if you can find a Mops group (now called the Mom Co) in your area (or a Bible study that lets you bring your kids). That helped me a lot to find a good community of like minded moms early on.

[@beansprout594]

Praying so hard for you! I am also 26 and due with my first little girl mid September, walking a very similar path to you in regards to feeling a bit lonely within my family and friend circle. Becoming a part of a church community has done wonders - Although I still sometimes feel a little on the outskirts being the youngest mama in our parish. Sending you and your babies lots of love

[@CortnieJudith]

Delilah this is your best video yet. The amount of times I said “yes so good” was like I was in church. As a ftm, I appreciate this video so much. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🫶🏻

[@BenjaminPerson-nn8ow]

This video was very encouraging! I think I am in a similar stage of life to you, I am a young mom, I have 4 children, ages 9-2.5 (plus a 5th on the way!), we homeschool. This video was very convicting as many of the things you are talking about are things I am still wading through. (Obviously, I recognize that you haven’t “mastered” them either, we are all on a journey, but I feel as though I am maybe a step behind on growing through these struggles), and was very encouraged and given hope for myself, that I can grow, I can change, I don’t have to always be stuck in this place: living for time away from my children, negative thinking, behavior focused rather than heart focused, and then wallowing in the anger and resentment of it all. Thank you for your lovely content, I recently discovered you through a several year old postpartum wardrobe video, and have been watching your channel since.

[@micaelablogs]

I LOVE this list! The internet needs more people sharing the positive side of motherhood and a godly perspective. I'm so thankful to have you as one of those role models!

[@BallroomJenni]

I love how you anchored all of these in scriptures!

[@Gabster819]

My husband wonders what Zach’s version of this video would be as well!!!!

[@markiebailey2091]

Yes Delilah 🙌🏼 Love hearing your chapter and verse references! It’s been such a joy to see the Lord sanctify you over the years. And so encouraging.

[@sadie6586]

I think self care has become something people do too much to the detriment of those people in their lives. Taking care of ourselves is good but shouldn't be all consuming!

[@micaelablogs]

You are so right. It's gotten really out of hand

[@GardensOfChina]

However self care tends to be something related to women but men’s hobbies are rarely criticised. I am ok with changing to serve family if it is a standard held for dads too. Clearly for her family that is the case ! Both are very involved

[@mrs.noneyabuisness5025]

​@@GardensOfChina I stopped comparing what I do vs. what my husband does. Because it just brings fighting and pushes us apart. I just want to take care of him, and I don't expect him to help me with what I do in the home. Because when I take care of the home, I do it because I genuinely want to care of him. I will say, my husnand feels the love I'm giving him and he comes home happier and he just starts helping me without asking ❤ My husband loves cooking and cleans as he goes, and he cooks more for me even though he works 6 days a week 12hr shifts. 2-3 times a week. He will take out the trash before leaving for work, not all the time bit most of the time when he has the time. He gets 1-2 hrs before having to go to bed after work and most times I let him destress and get his anger out on a video game the whole time especially when he has a bad day.

[@LadyAndieJane]

Agreed I also think what is considered self care is a little blurred too. I think there a big difference between working out vs getting nails done… we should discern what will benefit our families the most, not just ourselves.

[@ZoeKnebel-tu8hm]

Delilah! This video is absolutely beautiful! Love you connecting these points back to scripture! It’s beautiful to see God at work within you and using your experiences to share His wisdom with other mamas! What a blessing! Thank you!

[@corinnedeschamps5268]

I’m watching this video on my television with my baby sleeping in my arms and a coffee (I haven’t slept very much last night) - my morning starts with so much peace in my heart : your words are sincerely a blessing to me 🤍 , thank you and amen!

[@lisabildner2673]

This is so encouraging and speaking to my heart in so many ways! And in such a peaceful, loving, yet disciplining way, truly led by the Holy Spirit. I seldomly see such encouraging and faith-fueling videos. Thank you Delilah! Love to hear you share about faith in your videos 🫶🏻 you have more wisdom to share than you think! I always leave your videos with a full heart.

[@525firefly]

Soooooo much good, biblical truth in this video! Yes and amen. Very encouraged by this. As a fellow believer, I’m so excited to see you use this space to share straight from the Word. Wonderful 💕

[@lindsey2302]

These words were so encouraging and so wise! Thank you for sharing ❤️ I’m a mom of two and today was a hard day but this really reminded me of my responsibility to give every moment of my day to the Lord

[@mi-jk4wz]

This video convicted me so hard it’s not even funny. Here I am wasting my days away staying up late (it’s almost 5am), waking up later and doing nothing to help anyone but myself. I’m on summer holiday from med school and have been using the tiresome exam season as an excuse for my idleness. Thank you Delilah! Like many people have said, one of your best videos! Really appreciate the biblical backing and the little insides into your personal experiences. Have a great week everyone! 🕊️❤

[@jocelynerodriguez7779]

It’s beautiful to see how our Heavenly Father has been guiding you through out your life🌸

[@debbiezimmermann6303]

What a blessing this video is. I can relate to most of what you said, like feeling guilty if I wasn’t entertaining my son. I raised him before the internet when we basically had the parenting magazines giving us advise. You are definitely planting seeds, even with the comments saying they can’t relate. With God all things are possible. God bless you.

[@brittanytrader8567]

That was one of my favorite videos from you ever. Thank you for opening up on mistakes you have made. it was so relatable and encouraging. But most of all i loved all the scripture you added. It was so humbling and helpful to rehear those verses again in correct context. You have been so wonderful in this space and am so greatful to be able to hear from you and watch your videos as you grow into the wife and mother you have become.

[@Amber-kc1gt]

Amen! ❤

[@Asphaltrebellin]

I loved this Little Bible study ☺️🤍

[@Naturefixx19]

The mouth speaks what the heart is full of!

[@Kay-tt9wd]

#3: Amen to that! #5: It's also easier to have independent play when you have multiple kids. People have told me that they don't want more than one child because it's too much work. I beg to differ! A single child takes all of your time while a child with a sibling is always busy! P.S. this is one of my favorite videos of yours! I loved the biblical explanations. Super helpful ❤

[@jkp62]

We all evolve as women, wives and mothers and mistakes and trusting in some wrong people or ideas is also common. Don’t beat yourself up, wisdom & experience = making mistakes and LEARNING FROM THEM and not repeating those mistakes. You are doing so good and your marriage and children are a reflection of that.

[@beetany145]

Wow almost 400k I have been watching you since El was 4 months old. Watching you grow in Christ has brought me the joy of Jesus and I’m now a Christian 🙏 thank you

[@mrsbronk]

Thank you Delilah, as a new mom your channel has become such a wholesome place to come and grow and be inspired. ❤

[@megancox9549]

I think it's good to focus on the positive, especially with impressionable children looking up to you. But everyone still has struggles so don't feel the need to sugar-coat every struggle!

[@peachukit]

Thank you for making this beautiful video, Delilah. I really enjoy hearing this honest advice from you and I love hearing the knowledge you have to share. It helps me now and for when I will become a mother. Your video today really opened my heart and mind. You have a pure heart, Delilah. I am so very grateful to you and the Lord. I hope you have a wonderful day. ❤

[@katienasiatka6365]

I really like your factual content because I’m wanting to become a mother with just one baby if I am lucky while maintaining the career I’ve worked so hard for that I love. I’m a little saddened that it’s hard to surround yourself with like-minded people that maybe aren’t faithful… I grew up catholic but unfortunate experiences including bullying from the church has led me to lead my spirituality non-conventionally and completely solo. I hope that there still is room to bring in like-minded people with same goals even if their faith or spirituality differs. I’ll never go back to the church but I know God has saved me at my worsts and I communicate in my own way that others would frown upon because it’s different.

[@PLENTYGREEN]

As an atheist mom that has both atheist, Christian and Muslim mom-friends.. it’s possible!

[@PLENTYGREEN]

Just adding: I feel like morals, being and doing good is what’s important. I would never make my religious friends do anything against their beliefs. If my Muslim friend sends me a photo without her hijab on, I make damn sure my husband doesn’t see it. I make sure that my friends are comfortable around me and we can bond over motherhood, gardening, cooking, fitness etc. there is so much more to us than only speaking of what we believe in.. cus in the end we all believe in “loving our neighbor” and being nice and caring people, where this belief stems from is not something we have to go in depth on. And my friends (even the religious ones), respect that I listen to metal music, have piercings and decide not to drink alcohol or being rude to people- not because of God, but because of morals.

[@HerCupOfSIMPLE]

I loved every bit of this video, as a mom to 6 and one in Heaven... thank you so much for sharing these beautiful reflections ✨️🙏

[@saradresdner6146]

I’m so sorry one is in Heaven my dear !!! 😢

[@nataliabisch9300]

You have been a wonderful mentor for the last 5 years thank you for sharing your growth

[@emiliakohut7595]

How to stay consistent and not grieve if I have to do everything- home and kids- alone, working... 😓 I pray but do not see answers. It is beautiful to hear you are loving each other so much. ❤️

[@layslife5830]

You have to pray and trust!!! You can’t just pray and have doubt. I don’t know if that’s the case but just in case it is because that was my problem in my life. I had little faith even though I was praying. And half praying

[@isabelwall1714]

May God bless you for humbly sharing. May God continue to soften your heart. You definitely have grown. I’ve been watching you for a long time

[@elizabethrose6853]

I needed this one! Especially with the negativity and blessing not cursing.

[@nickischroeder6048]

Only on your first mistake and YES… already sitting here going “yup, yup, amen! Praise God!” My oldest just turned 7 also and have been doing the same reflecting. Thanks for sharing.

[@ingridjohannessen4214]

Loved this! I am definetly going back to note down all the verses you mentined to study them closer ❤ as a first time mom I see this as super encouraging, thank you for sharing!

[@ageofreason11]

Thank you so much for such an encouraging, vulnerable and honest video! You have such a gift for sharing biblical truths, and I can't wait to hear more from you!💛

[@newlinarts2959]

i needed this! i’ve been struggling so much being a stay at home single parent always longing for self care time. my son is 16 months but I know it will get easier with time

[@Dana-mb1hd]

Delilah ❤ i LOVE q and a videos with you- you help me feel not so alone as a mom and always encourage me THANK YOU ❤ Ps I loved your merch- still have the mother goose Shirt -PLEASE BRING IT BACK ❤❤❤❤

[@homeofsecretmarae3058]

This was so encouraging! I just had my 2nd baby and I’m learning how to navigate parenting my 3 year old while taking care of another child. I love your heart ❤️

[@Keine_alte_Sabine]

I feel like as the heart of our families, us women influence the moods and ways the most. Many men are conflict avoidant nowadays and that makes our influence even stronger. We generally are the ones with more self reflection and psycological insight. I am 25 with almost three little ones and I can only agree that young women like myself often come from a very selfish place. Lets start reflecting on our behavior as early as possible because once you realise how you have put yourself before your spouse and kids it REALLY. REALLY. HURTS. ALOT. I also had to learn this the hard way. I am thankful that I had real friends who told me when I sometimes got lost in sin. Lets always be careful, awake and aware. ❤

[@Gabster819]

Wow. I have also been reflecting on these exact themes as of late. This is a beautiful video. Thank you!!

[@adrianaklosterman2020]

I much appreciate you + your post! It’s so refreshing to hear this perspective from someone else, confirming what’s been on my heart. The Lord bless you and keep you (and continue to) make his face shine on you (Numbers 6:24-25). Also, can you share where your Bible is from? Blessings 🧡

[@LoeppkysLife]

Hey! Here is the link for Delilah’s Bible: www.amazon.com/dp/1433590468/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_SMX6CYKZYA50K02VKMSQ?linkCode=ml1&tag=loeppkyslif06-20&fbclid=PAAaZLPvX8FGJafj0Y-kq30K-zE1pqkb1JB0YeuEnWJPgfrrg79Uu3EqbkAdo_aem_AZTS0cAgwylckOo--32d8A2BxvL86wqCjj2vjkEwiS3ULCVQ-Wp2XWPv_H_8KoWEFJs Alicia On behalf of Delilah

[@allison_diehl]

I’m preparing to become a mama this fall and have been seeking biblical motherhood to prepare myself. Thank you for this! I can’t wait to have this baby and introduce them to Jesus. ♥️

[@Amber-kc1gt]

Congratulations! I hope the rest of your pregnancy and delivery is safe and healthy. Being a first time mom is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through, but it will get easier. I hope you have a great community around you, never be afraid to ask for help. ❤

[@silverscapes9628]

Thank you. I’m a mom of 3. My eldest will be 3 in October, and I am struggling. Thank you for your words of wisdom.

[@ShailP]

I was feeling so blue today. You inspire me. You made your mistakes and imperfections seem like a part of your growth and not as something you cry or crib over. Lots of learning from you today. Thank you. You were so right about the negative thoughts...you become a person like that.Discipline and persistence is the key ❤

[@saramikkelson8859]

Congratulations!!! Love this! Exactly the kind of thing I needed to hear as we wait for our second birth any day now!

[@RyleeMcWilliams-vf4rm]

Oh my goodness I looooce these type of videos! Reminds me of Milena’s and I am obsessed with being uplifted by like minded women since I am still searching for that community in my life! ❤

[@paytonmcfann7701]

THANK YOU so much for making this. I am currently waiting for my second child to make their grand entrence and then I will have 2 under 2! I am always looking to more experienced mamas for wisdom, and you tying all of these to scripture made these all the more simple to grasp!

[@brennapetersen8522]

I was not raised in a Christian household, but my parents raised me very strictly. That was always hard for me. And now I would be the parent that isn't strict on their kids. You do your best and that's what matters

[@SabrinaD-d9f]

I dont think you need to have the same religious beliefs but definitely same values, and of course friends should uplift you. Very good advice, thank you!

[@jessmercedes2669]

I commend you for such a vulnerable and helpful video, Delilah. I think there’s an aspect of sharing online that makes you more susceptible to the pressures of “perfection” but of course there’s no such thing as perfection, we are all gods children and are always learning, growing and being refined through Christ. I think of Jesus’ radical compassion for us and unconditional love for us, remind me daily to embody these qualities as well, for others and also for myself. the idea of perfection will always lead us down a shallow, materialistic path, where true love and compassion will take us down the “straight path” to gods kingdom. Don’t over complicate or flog yourself for making mistakes, I wasted years doing that, it only causes so much more pain and shame and separation. Take the lessons, give yourself so much grace and love because there’s SO much you’re doing RIGHT, and onward we grow ❤️ compassion is very important, there’s not enough of it in this world.

[@theserenewedroots]

Delilah with the scripture receipts!! More of this! I love this, I would love to do a community Bible study ❤❤❤

[@ajdenabrajde]

On the one hand, you say that as a new mother you had no experience (quite normal), but on the other hand, you say that you should have trust your maternal intuition. Intuition is also gained/built through experience. On the one hand, you say that you don't regret your mistakes because you learned from them (very true!), on the other hand, you conclude that you were not a good mother and partner. You were probably as good as you could be at that moment. And that's quite enough if you're willing to learn along the way. And as you can see, there is no such thing as perfection. In 10 years, you will probably think again about what you could have done differently/better during this period. Our children are not sinners, but above all they are our teachers and the mirror of our sins.❤

[@Amber-kc1gt]

Children, just like every single one of us, are sinners. It’s important to recognize that when disciplining a child. We all have sin in our hearts that needs to be addressed constantly. I say all of this out of love.

[@elizabethlobdell8090]

Thank you for this video! I needed these reminders in my own life. So often things you talk about working on in your life mirror's my own, and it's encouraging to me to see your perspective.

[@mori.kurogawa7936]

I don't know, I watched your old vlogs when they were there still and I've never noticed you putting anybody down.

[@springlady8337]

Yeah I honestly don’t understand what she is saying. I think she is putting way too much pressure on the idea of being perfect.

[@stephanyjablonofsky9749]

You do realise that her videos are highly edited right?

[@daisy346]

Wow i loved this video, thank you for sharing. I too, am a busy mother of 5, my eldest turned 7 this year. So much i could relate too. I think we would be good friends if we'd live closer ☺️

[@AbiCoates]

Thank you so much Delilah, really enjoyed this video and found it a helpful reminder! Especially about taking the time to prepare for our household and children. Love your videos and your encouragement ❤

[@anon13580]

My husband and I are doing some family planning, we've prayed daily for months about this. God has placed it on my heart to have my IUD removed next month and to let go and let God. Does anyone have any pre pregnancy tips? We don't have a lot of family around us- the only ones we feel safe interacting with live over two hours away. We moved recently and the church we loved is now nearly an hour away. We've gone to many churches around us and none of them feel like home like our old one did. All that to say we don't have a village to rely on right now. We are also a Gluten Free family, my husband is a celiac and I don't want to harm our future baby by eating gluten, I'm trying to completely cut it from my life. I have a hard time reading the Bible on my own. Usually I have my husband read to me so I can ask him questions about it. I wasn't raised Christian but I've always believed and loved God, it wasn't until I met my husband that I really engaged with Christ. I love seeing Delilah reading her bible and how close it gets her to God, for me personally I get filled with such sadness and rage when reading. It makes me so hurt and angry that such horrible things had to happen and that I can't so anything about it. I know, dumb things to feel but I'm working through it. Any pre pregnancy tips or early pregnancy would be nice.

[@annewithane7876]

Looking back, my first trimester of my first pregnancy was harder than any other point in either of my pregnancies. At the time, it was super discouraging because I thought it would only get worse from there. So if you have one of those pregnancies where you just need to sleep, give yourself some slack and realize it will pass! I relate to the struggle with reading the Bible. It's an older text and it's frankly impossible for anyone to fully understand just by reading it on your own. The "sola scriptura" idea (that the Bible is all you need to understand Christianity) is why we have so many different denominations because without understanding historical context etc you could come to many different conclusions while reading. So what's helped me is 1. always pray first to ask the help of the Holy Ghost and 2. find commentary on the chapter im reading from saints and theologians

[@peachukit]

I don't have any pregnancy tips, but I have some tips about reading the Bible. Don't worry about how you feel when reading the Bible, it will always be a struggle no matter what. Focus on listening to God's word and don't interpret it to your own understanding but to His understanding. What can also help is watching videos on KZbin of women sharing their knowledge on scripture. Milena Ciciotti is one that I watch but there are a lot of videos out there. I hope this helps.

[@catdt8920]

CW: miscarriage Please wait a full cycle after getting your IUD removed to start trying to conceive. The uterus takes time to recover, both with hormonal and non-hormonal IUDs. My husband and I got pregnant immediately after having my IUD removed, a very much wanted pregnancy, but I miscarried. I will always wonder if waiting would have helped. I do have my beautiful rainbow baby now, conceived only 3 months after the miscarriage, so we have a happy ending, but my missing baby weighs on my heart.

[@anon13580]

@@annewithane7876 That is so insightful. Thank you for sharing. We will definitely wait as I've been told by many people to do so to avoid all sorts of complications. Better safe than sorry.

[@micaelablogs]

The most important way to prepare for pregnancy and motherhood is spiritually 💕 second to that I would say is nutrition. I'm sorry reading the Bible feels hard and heavy right now. Do you pray? Even if all you have are angry or confused words right now, you can talk to God. Tell him your concerns, ask him to help you find a community, and ask him to bring you clarity when reading his word. A great way to prepare your body is by evaluating your nutrition. Don't overthink it, but Beef liver supplements are great for whole body support and fertility! You could also start taking prenatal for a few months before you plan to conceive.

[@KatieJane31]

Delilah: don’t be idle Me: watching this video on the couch 🫣😳

[@iolan3]

So many of these click together, I feel... Like, feeling you have to constantly entertain your kid would certainly feel like a burden, which would surely heighten the yearning for escape and alone time, and the temptation to complain!

[@wendymassey9963]

What a wonderful world it would be if everyone could embrace these biblical principles. Thank you for these wise reminders!

[@AplHead]

Your old videos always felt super loving to me! Don’t be too hard on yourself. I think you put out some really kind and positive content that had a positive influence. ❤

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

I see so many comments here saying that you shouldn't be so harsh on yourself, and it actually makes me kind of sad. As a fellow devout and fervent Chrisitan young woman, I can tell that you _really care_ about doing right by God. THAT'S why the mistakes you inevitably make weigh on your heart! Many people call themselves Christians, but their sins don't really bother them THAT much. And so they're not _burdened_ by them enough to change. I used to be like that. Thank GOD He saved me. Also, I relate so much to a lot of these, but especially surrounding oneself with like-minded people! My best friend drifted away from me and has stopped talking to me since I got married a couple years ago, and I have cried over that. But then I had to realize that she stopped treating me like a friend because she didn't like how I'd changed. And I moved closer to God. I love her dearly, but she was going from boyfriend to boyfriend, sleeping with them and eventually breaking up, and I stayed a virgin til I got married. She doesn't see marriage as a sacred union like I do, even though she claims to be Chrisitan -- she thought I should spend just as much time with her as I always had (many hours multiple times a week), and that friendships should come before a partner. I fundamentally disagree, but we didn't have to DEAL with that until I got married. Then, I set up new boundaries around my time, and started telling her that I wasn't going to do certain things with her anymore because my husband didn't like them, and I was going to put his desires before mine, OR hers. And she started telling me that she thought he was controlling, that he wasn't good for me, etc etc. I felt torn because I love her, but I _knew_ that I was just living a biblical submissive marriage. We moved to a different state a few months later, and she stopped talking to me. And now I realize that she was SUCH a bad influence after I got married, because she selfishly didn't want to lose our friendship the way it was before. But I'm _not_ myself anymore! I'm ONE with another person! She just didn't like that. And I get it, and I feel for her... but I was better and our _marriage_ as better when she stopped talking to me and basically cut me off. Sometimes it's SO HARD to lose someone like that, but if you're going through that... know that you will almost certainly be better for it once their influence is gone.

[@watersfakeplants]

Really needed a video like this as I navigate a 4 year old and 7 month old 💕

[@MajikAce]

As a mom of 4 with us preparing for our last child I have to say this is all so true. I would ad in that something we didn't practice in the beginning was showing each other (my husband and I) affection around the children. Now my husband and I often hug, kiss, and cuddle so that the kids have healthy expectations for their spouses to come. Example example example, always think, what example am I setting for my child. It has really changed me, that thought.

[@myprettyredrose]

Thanks for this video! I'm a grandma of four and really agree with you on all ten! They are all mistakes I've made too and am still working on them!

[@CharlottesWright]

I love these types of videos, Delilah! I have a 1½ year old & I look up to you SO much as a mother model!

[@andreanittel2240]

...thanks, Delilah- Andrea here from White Rock, B.C. We have lived here on the coast for 3 years and are now attending Peace Portal Alliance Church. We cont to be members of Willow Park Church in Kelowna. I am thinking of how the circle of life is addressed in Ecclesiastes. Our kids are grown, we have grandkids, we are retired, so our days look a lot different than yours at this time. I have to admit that I spend a fair bit of time being "idle". I am 65 and what I do each day is far less than during the parenting years. I think that is OK though. We moved to W.R. because our daughter, her husband and our grandkids live10 min over the border. Because of that we are fairly involved in all their lives. We often go to their sporting activities, we babysit, we have sleepovers here. I guess what I mean is that we are less busy on a daily basis and I like that. I am ready for more quiet times, rest, etc... I like how u r ministering to other moms through your page, providing them with biblical references, exact quotes. You are seeing that this page allows you to be a role model for others. You are likely bringing some moms to Jesus for sure. I have watched your videos prob since u first started posting. Yes, you have gained wisdom over these years of being a mom- and that's the thing about wisdom- it takes time. We likely gain our best wisdom through the mistakes we make. Have a great rest of the summer with your family!!!!!

[@Graceinmotherhoodblog]

Don’t put yourself down. I haven’t watched the video but based on the intro and the title, just wanted to share that 🙏🏻💕

[@jillianbridges935]

This video really helped me. Thank you so much! I too have trouble holding my tongue in frustration. These verses helped me a lot! And to know I’m not alone. ❤

[@moonandsons]

This is all sooo true! In the midst of still learning through all of these mistakes everyday..❤

[@ashlovesmaker]

would love a video about the things you've learned as a young christian married couple over the last years! :)

[@Rebeccabebeify]

Thank you So much for this. I know this was coming from a self sharing but this was such a good and merciful lesson.

[@skoeplin1]

Thank you for this video! Such wonderful, godly encouragement!❤

[@kaylastern799]

I love watching your videos. Annie is a couple months younger than my first. Now pregnant with my second. I’ve really tried to fill my brain with Christian moms, both videos and podcasts, (and in person, lol). It feels like a virtual Titus 2 mentorship.

[@emilyshanks5778]

I missed your Q&A on Instagram so here I am in your comments! Lol. I would love to know how you entertain or go about your day when mama is sick with littles. Im currently pretty down and as a SAHM, with high energy boys, I’m struggling to find ways to keep them busy while allowing me to move at a slower pace.

[@MissQuite]

Wish I’d had you as an inspiration when I was a young mother. ❤ I recognise myself in many of your points for improvement.

[@aliyahabdul5041]

Love these inspirational and encouraging videos! SO many great points to reflect on!

[@TheMennomilist]

This is very beautiful. I enjoyed all the scriptures you used. It is convicting and important.

[@rosevlogs4210]

I love the message, but how can I be more positive if I’m suffering from childhood trauma. The Bible’s messages are so inspiring and have touched me many times but I struggle to have faith. I’ve asked god many times to forgive me from my sins and save me, but I felt nothing change after. I struggle to believe god is real. I want to him to be real though. Do I need to join a church to finally know he is real?

[@rosevlogs4210]

On top of childhood trauma, I am deep in the throws of PPD. I’m 6 months postpartum with my second, and still can’t see the end of this

[@rosevlogs4210]

Really great video. It was a breath of fresh air in a world full of judgment, toxicity, & jealousy

[@alexwegner4221]

I just can't imagine not placing a career / job over everything, it's just not financially viable not to, and I know most others I know are in the same boat. The question is never about whether I want to put the work into being a mother, it's just if it's even an option. Sad but true. I enjoyed the video, and some really great insights in there for any mother, religious or not.

[@thewolfsdenDIY]

Please make a video about your at home date nights! We struggle with this so much

[@lemon92314]

this was so helpful, thank you for your honesty and sharing your expereience 🥰

[@Sotfreakgrill]

I was googling Delilah to find her blog recently and found a weird reddit of her. I was absolutely appalled by how many people think that it is okay to bad mouth someone simply because they disagree with them. if any of you are reading it, I hope you find peace in life. Delilah is a human, she is not your idea of what is perfect. She is doing the best she can, she is a wonderful mother and a wife. I pray y'all heal and find compassion.

[@arielsrios]

The first few minutes in, and I'm crying... emotional. But also, where is this dress from? ❤

[@stevischultz8286]

It’s in the description with a discount code!

[@kylahollingshead1907]

Thank you so much Delilah for pointing put that the way your respond to situations is how your kids will copy your behavior. I really need to work on that myself. Thank you for bringing that to my attention and now I can try to be better at the way that I take on situations.

[@katicaj11]

Delilah I LOVED this video SO MUCH!!!❤

[@AddieMae]

Amen sister! This video was so convicting in the best way. Iron sharpens iron! 🤍

[@aleamajz]

Is it possible to be confident in my abilities to be do my best at being a mother when I have yet to have kids? I plan to become a mom within the next few years. I am in my mid twenties and feel ready to enter this chapter of my life. I am often told that I will have no idea and won't be prepared for what motherhood is until I experience it. I suppose I just want to know if I can both know I will have a lot to learn and am confident in my ability to be open to learning.

[@CandiWare]

Wonderful video so much to take a way and to implement in my own life with a 2.5 year old thank you so much Delila

[@teruldacz]

Hello, I'm 21, single my whole life, wishing to become a mom one day. I really struggle with the topic of faith. I don't know in what I believe. My family ,as well as most of the contry I was born and live in, are not Christian. But watching women like Delilah, Millena Cicioti (sorry if I messed up her name) and Sarah Therese before she quit (I was watching her since i was 15), just watching these women has been like a calling for me to be more like them (rolemodels). How do I start thinking about faith or anything like that? I want to follow the rules of the Bible as I think their the most basic rules of being a good human, but I'm missing the part of actually believing in God. I'm very confused and lost. I don't even know why I'm writing this or if anyone will read it or if I'll remove in later on. I just needed to share this.

[@TardisTumnal]

I believe the Lord is pursuing you and wants you to come to know and love Him. This desire in your heart is good and beautiful! Continue to do research and learn more about Christianity. Some people I’d recommend are Fr. Mike Schmitz who has podcast that goes through the whole Bible! St. miriam james heidland is a beautiful woman who has an amazing conversion story and a wonderful heart. The KZbin channel Word on Fire has a video called Who is God and that whole channel has great recourses as well as Ascension Presents. I hope this is helpful and not overwhelming! Baby steps and continuing this path toward God is one I truly believe will bring such joy to your life. God bless 🙏

[@michaelajones2307]

I’m not Delilah, but I HIGHLY recommend reading the Bible, AND attending a good Bible teaching church. Seek someone who is a godly Christian, someone (in person) who can maybe explain things better, answer your questions, teach you, shepherd you, help you! It’s one thing to believe, but it’s another to know and truly understand what you believe in.

[@jozlynglander3125]

You’re not alone. I’m a mom of 2, 22 years old. My husband is strong in his faith while I don’t have any. I have the morals of a Christian and believe in that way of life but struggle to have a relationship with God and really believe in him. We go to church weekly and I’ve recently started reading the Bible. I try to pray even though I feel like I’m doing nothing and talking to nobody. I struggle but I’m trying to put in some type of effort. Only time will tell.

[@rebeccacerise1322]

Hey baby girl 💓 beautiful heart of wonder you have 💕 if you want to grow closer to God and grow in faith in Him a great start would be reading His love letter to you, the Bible 🥰 I know it can seem overwhelming but there’s so many great resources available here in KZbin depending on what you need. 💖💖As for where to start in the Bible I personally would encourage reading John first. 🌟 The 4 gospels are Matthew, Mark, Luke, & John. John is the perfect place to start… then you can choose to go back and read the other 3 gospels OR you can continue in reading the New Testament (NT). From there you can go into the Old Testament starting with Genesis. Then you can get the history of the world and better understand Gods character. 💕 Since you will have read the NT, by the time you get to the OT you can get a better idea of WHYYYYY we need Jesus 🥲 then that will naturally take you back to the gospels 🥰 I’ve heard it said like this “the Old Testament tells us God will defeat death, the NT tells us how” ….. psalms and proverbs are great too! I’ve had a cousin tell me that she likes to add in 1 proverb with every Bible read to help her grow in her faith- this could be done with psalms too… you can easily go in order with those side quests…. Psalms and proverbs have lots of condensed wisdom so by reading 1 a day(or per read) you will have this wisdom spaced out instead of trying to Jam Pack it all in- which is great in its self of course, just sharing some insight 💕 There’s a channel on here called the Bible project… they give GREAT break downs of each book, which can be useful to intro and/or close out a book you will read/just read 🤓 I hope this helps sister 💕💕💕

[@PolkaDotSunglasses]

Sarah Therese is back on KZbin!

[@ericarachel8964]

So encouraging 😭thank you for sharing. I could relate to a lot of these. Many are realizations that the Holy Spirit has been convicting me of slowly

[@TRNoble77]

Regarding idleness, you would love the book Respectable Sins by Jerry Bridges. Highly recommend! Very convicting!

[@ameliawaga4558]

Tkanka for that video! I agree with you in 100% I believe that children are given to us to make us rise and became better people

[@ksplash-d4q]

So relatable and edifying, thank you!