Main Character Syndrome: Filming Yourself Crying

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One of the most therapeutic and sacred acts we can do as humans is cry for 3 hours straight and then get the best sleep in your life. Oversharing on social media is starting to become weird - Taylor swift fans are acting like they’ve witnessed a traumatic event, drive-thru workers are getting treated as therapists, and moments that should be kept to yourself are being used for likes and internet clout. This phenomenon is called sadfishing where you fish for attention from others by unloading on them, whether they consented to it or not. Celebrities will drop a vague upsetting teaser about something they’re releasing and it’ll turn out to be a skincare brand deal! We've moved past curated highlight reels and are now posting the worst versions of ourselves for authenticity's sake. Main Character Syndrome is Filming Yourself Crying #edvasian

[@briannakyse5167]

I get embarrassed when I catch a glimpse of myself crying in the mirror. The thought of POSTING IT…..

[@doggwater]

If I cry I won't leave the house for the rest of the day because I'm embarrassed that everyone that looks at me will know I've been crying when they see my puffy face and red eyes

[@MONARCH_FLIES]

FOR REAL when I cry I have this weird thing where I kinda smile at the same time?? Yeah I don’t think the internet needs to see that

[@mythologyseeker949]

I'm really embarrassed to cry in front of other people so even the thought of posting it to socmed is just horrific.

[@Gibmeprimogemss]

FOR REAL 😭😭😭😭

[@ambo9569]

Exactly

[@daneroberts1996]

The lady trauma-dumping and projecting in the drive-thru was so horrible to watch

[@Weird0Memer]

Let's get the likes to 69

[@robinkholmes7127]

I hate people who hold up lines

[@reirei1861]

Ikr that was painful to watch 💀😭

[@Sunset553]

“we need more kindness’ laugh cry laugh cry

[@nicholevimmerstedt6759]

The worst thing about that lady is supposedly the man she is talking about wasn’t even her husband and the family doesn’t talk to her other then to ask her to stop. I think I heard she dated the guy but it was a long time before he was killed. Obviously to date someone that is killed would be awful but to lie and trauma dump to people isn’t okay.

[@daydreamlover15]

The way the Taylor Swift girl's friends knew EXACTLY what was about to happen before the girl herself even knew

[@unrealis1ic]

true friendship lol

[@deen7530]

"Ah man get the tissues out before her makeup ruins your shirt"

[@goawayplease6456]

Imagine the convo. Hey let's go to this concert and record Me crying and screaming. Um ok sis?

[@vidarrimini5109]

I mean sure they knew their script xD

[@AngelicRamen]

Dude she knew. It was so on purpose and gross.

[@nekorina9011]

As someone who used to trauma dump because of a shitty home life and not being able to handle my emotions, YOU GUYS NEED TO STOP DOING IT. You need to stop expecting people to unpack your emotions for you. I know, you might want companionship, but you need to be able to lift yourself up, too. Dumping shit on people all the time is going to ruin your relationships and it won't make you feel better in the long run.

[@astellaholloway]

Agreed.

[@Charlie_exe777]

Yeah, my best friend vents to me about their very horrible home life and I can’t ask them to stop because I’d sound like a dick. I’m honestly so tired. Please listen to the first comment, trauma dumping drains people.

[@Hi-en7xx]

@@Charlie_exe777honestly if they’re your friend they should understand as long as you explain how you feel, but you could also suggest journaling or if it’s an option look for a professional to talk about it with.

[@amonkey9]

@@Charlie_exe777 You should still talk to your friend. They probably don’t realize the toll it takes on you. I have a very long time friend who went through trauma and she started to trauma dump on me to the point that I found myself actually dejected at the idea of hanging out. I let her know that I will always be her friend no matter what, but that she needed to let up on how she would share her traumas. I explained to her that I couldn’t carry the weight of her struggles AND my own. She was very receptive of it and we even came to a compromise where I told her if she needed to let it out, to send me the text, but to realize I probably wasn’t going to read it. It was helpful for her to know I wasn’t going anywhere, but gave me the freedom to put up safe guards on my own mental energy to tackle my personal issues too.

[@astellaholloway]

@@Charlie_exe777 it really does. as someone who used to be guilty of this. it took me loosing two friends to realise that i was the one who drained them and they had every right to say enough is enough. friends should support you, yes. but they want to be friends to have fun with you and hangout not sit there and listen to you talk about how shit your life is they are not your therapist. To the person who’s comment i’m replying too. if it gets too much for you set clear boundaries with them and let them know that if they cross those boundaries cut them off. it’s a very hard life lesson to learn but hopefully it would give them the wake up call they need to get out of the cycle and work on their mindset so they grow as a person.

[@youwokeuplate]

I thought the Taylor swift one was bad but The drive thru one made my jaw drop😭😭😭😭

[@noellefritz5678]

yes the Taylor swift one were such horrible actors it was so cringe

[@killerwasp102]

and yet the guy wasn't even her husband

[@HeavenlyiceDream]

@@killerwasp102 TRUE. and was the EX boyfriend

[@finnrogue9435]

that one at least was kinda funny, the drive thru one... I had to fast forward@@noellefritz5678

[@suicideshy451]

It was the first one too... 😂😂 I wasn't expecting this at all...

[@meatofmink]

that taylor swift fan reacted like people did on 9/11 jesus christ

[@AmbassadorKat]

😂

[@emperorlizZ]

Lmaoo

[@tarotsushima3332]

Without context you'd have thought she just got news that someone died

[@LyntzbartzkyPerez]

Bro Exile isn’t even that good the feature she put on it is ass

[@andieallison6792]

OMG

[@gabiausten8774]

I was once driving through my little town, when I saw this familiar woman who always greeted me, walking down the road, crying and bawling her eyes out. So, I stopped and asked what was up and if she wanted to sit with me in the car (she was around 60 years old and absolutely no danger). I helped her in, and we talked. She had the worst day of her life. Her husband had a heart attack and was in the hospital, and her daughter had lost her job, all on the same day. I hugged her and asked if her husband would be alright; he would be. I told her that her daughter would find a new job soon and that her husband would come home soon too. I told her to let it all out and that it's totally okay to let yourself feel all emotions. She started smiling after five minutes of crying and said she felt so much better. We sat for a long time, and I brought her home after. Her daughter found a job that paid her double the wage she had before, and it turned out that her husband was totally fine but had suffered from a rare, but in the end, "harmless" heart problem that was misdiagnosed. So, everything was totally fine, just not in that moment. We all need a shoulder to cry on; what we don't need is attention-grabbing, fake crying online.

[@scribblebee9549]

tysm for being that person for her :')

[@MikuHatsune159]

we all need somebody like you in our short lives, but a lot of us don't get it so easily which is a real shame.

[@nasywaaabidin]

you are a lovely person!! thank you for genuinely being there for her and helping her in the moment

[@Isthisjoebiden]

God bless your beautiful soul

[@miriamhavard7621]

Amen!

[@SilvrRazorFeather]

I, a 30 yo guy, also broke into tears when my favorite band played the song that changed my life for the better. I wasn't filming myself, and was in the midst of a screaming crowd. I'm saying the crying over a song isn't the cringe part, it's the staged camera and decision to upload the moment to the Internet that makes it cringe.

[@TheRisingIcarus]

Oh yes. I've definitely cried at gigs. But it's a special, private moment showing how much you care about this band or song. No one should ruin that by starting to film themselves and sharing it with a bunch of strangers for clout

[@lilyisacat29]

This also happened to me recently at a concert, during two songs which I was already recording. I feel embarrassed to just hear my wavering voice singing along in the background, even though you can’t really tell I’m crying in them.

[@HoneyBadgerxo]

Yeah, I think not judging people for whatever they do is a good reason to let people be. No one knows anyone anyhow.

[@WithoutException]

Working in retail means getting trauma dumped by strangers almost every day

[@RachelJayne92]

Oh my god, I made the mistake of asking my customers what they were doing for Father’s Day. Never ask.

[@deadinside8781]

I wish because then they would appear human. Being respectful or just doing nothing is the most minor form of proof of humanity and they couldnt do that.

[@hel2722]

I make a little bit of small talk about the products or topical things around it 😅 Is that bad? They seem to laugh at my jokes. I see them quite often for groceries.

[@once.upon.a.time.]

​@@hel2722that's perfectly fine and probably welcomed. Now what's not fine is when a cashier asks how you're doing and you reply talking about how your husband just died or something that is best handled by a therapist 😩

[@doggwater]

I'm a housekeeper/cleaner for a hotel and last week I knocked on a man's door with the usual "housekeeping! Can I get anything for you sir?" And no joke his response was "a therapist would be great" and started truma dumping. I stood there staring at him with the dumbest look on my face before cutting him off with "sorry sir but I'm not a therapist. I clean toilets for below minimum wage, I could use a therapist myself" and left

[@zidan40o0]

the lady trauma dumping at the drive-thru is actually lying. the guy who she claims to be her husband is actually not. and she is not related to him in any way. his family pleaded her to stop with the non-sense but apparently she still posts these videos.

[@Raincloud_.]

oh yeah! I heard about this, but I don't remember what video it was anymore

[@PeteyThePenguin]

Social media is a breeding ground for mental illness

[@limonagrio7777]

I dont know if being nothing is worse than had being a couple more than 10 years ago and then say they were a marriage until death took them apart

[@Mintimiruku6369]

WTH that's so disgusting! Can he sue her?

[@AmbassadorKat]

@@Mintimiruku6369the guy she’s talking about did get murdered, but she’s lying about being married to him etc

[@saoliath5000]

Yeah, if someone wants to film themselves crying, my empathy is going out the window. Talk to your friends or family rather than basically marketing it to random people online.

[@ani-ma-tion5326]

This right here, of course everyone always hates on me the moment I comment “But why are you recording yourself crying?”

[@Synfulz.]

I feel like they talk to their friends and film themself crying lol.. I’ve seen people say “ Make trauma dumping ok “ even though the people who do it overdo it by everytime they see a friend that’s the main target of conversation legit nothing else. It’s like going in circles and it’s honestly draining feels like I’m Getting trauma or cptsd 😅.

[@ratrat9241]

i mostly agree but some people do not have those outlets. i’m not emotional in the slightest but if i was, i wouldn’t really know who to talk to

[@marce.4277]

​@@ratrat9241 exactly plus some people don't have those outlets, no actually supporting family members may be in danger at home, just no friends, that's why people resort to this crap, it's just when you get older it's gotta be known that not every conversation has to be about your trauma per say (ive known people that's all they talk about and nothing else, not music or interests so i just have to awkwardly exit) i do feel bad, they are mentally hurting but at the same time not everyone can handle this type of draining information

[@docryujivt]

i will never understand why people think baristas are therapists like please let me just make your drink and get you out of my store and call it a day 😭

[@mcd08]

I've been a server and bartender for 10 years At this point I ask where my psychology license is 😂

[@cataguti0]

That’s mean

[@marce.4277]

​@@cataguti0 No.. it's not, you shouldn't trauma dump on people, that's a habit i didn't understand was wrong as a kid and i unintentionally made some of my friends uncomfortable because i just thought i could go to them for comfort, but everyone runs out of energy, not everyone can take care of you, and that's ALL anyone is saying, you just can't, especially when it's a stranger that's even more weird, and i had never done that, but people do, and that's what this video is about, not trying to be rude im just saying as someone who used to do this no it's not actually okay, have a good day:)

[@cataguti0]

@@marce.4277 no I’m saying if they trauma dump like don’t judge let them trauma dump it all depends on their intentions is all

[@cataguti0]

@@marce.4277 it’s not weird?

[@Bom.3d]

If i ever film myself crying and post it just know I am being threatened

[@cathrynesten4364]

Bruh or having a stroke

[@shortiebae152]

😅

[@Ms.MD7]

Lmao

[@Mr.Eggplant69]

The only time I'll understand recording yourself sobbing is if you see the most blasphemous, shocking, jaw dropping, and concerning comment on the Internet

[@bobbobbo5278]

I will only do such tomfoolery if Jesús appeared before my eyes bc it either means im dying or have gane crazy

[@yuki97kira]

I would if im being chased or whatever..if i die at least i got them on canera

[@Wassupmeh]

Even then it's cringe to me.

[@alienjesus796]

Even then bruh why feel the need

[@Mr.Eggplant69]

@@alienjesus796 at least it's in a satire way and you're not showing smth that should probably be kept private

[@zanaonline]

I remember in my liberal arts college, public crying was pretty common, so I guess no one took it seriously 😂 because I got the call my dad died and I was crying, and a girl asked me to move her heavy ass trunk downstairs with her. I spent a good 5 minutes walking down rickety stairs with her shit, sobbing, and she didn’t ask me once why I was crying. Kinda kept it casual. Honestly one of the funniest memories of my life.

[@jennifertorres-morales4505]

I’m glad you can laugh looking back at that, but that girl was an ass to ask you for help while you’re sobbing 😭😭

[@melodysafo5437]

That’s selfish

[@OwletSovicka]

I’m a big crybaby, all my friends saw me holdi back tears…honest crying is something different than what’s being shown in the video. I hate that we have to establish that

[@Mandyb05]

Sorry for you loss hun. That must have been heartbreaking. Losing a parent at such a young age can't have been easy. ❤

[@lany127]

3:33 i genuinely don't know what's worse: her screaming, crying, throwing up, kicking her feet, etc. or the fact that she's sitting on the FLOOR wearing WHITHE PANTS

[@lauriepenner350]

I was once trapped in a Safeway line by a lady who decided that since I was buying a lot of tampons, I would want to hear all about her uterine cancer and hysterectomy. THEY ARE ON SALE WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME.

[@mightymeatymech]

🥴🥴

[@mizmiza.]

WTH 😀

[@catedempsey5707]

I was told by some 60+ year old woman about her vaginal possibly fungal infection. We were in a queue and she just felt like confessing and asking me, some rando with a then 15 year old, for advice. Because everybody knows the best medical advice comes from random women in a queue... Strangers trauma dump on me all the time - am I being mistaken for a sin-eater?

[@lauriepenner350]

​@@catedempsey5707Now I really want to imagine it was the same lady.

[@phabiorules]

I think she wanted you to listen about her uterine cancer and hysterectomy.

[@msjkramey]

I don't mind as much if people trauma dump online (as long as they put a short and sweet TW). But don't do it at the drive thru or where you have someone who can't escape. Also, just don't film people without permission, even with the camera pointed away

[@mightymeatymech]

yeah sometimes a lil trauma dump feels good. TWs are a beautiful thing, i love em. edit- i have nothing to say about filiming people covertly because i just think it's gross and it's just not something me or my family and friends do. i don't go out in public much anymore anyways.

[@Raincloud_.]

yeah, I feel so bad for that drive thru worker

[@saltydinonuggies1841]

Yeah it can be healthy to vent online in moderation and when done in ways where people can leave before the vent begins. Is it cringey? Yes. Does that make it wrong? No.

[@SireneKalypso]

TW are stupid 😂 Don't trauma dump on anyone unconsentingly

[@destinedinspector7556]

Yeah I have a whole side account for it on Twitter and I pinned a TW for the entire account just to be safe

[@pirlipat6508]

It's okay to cry in public, you can't always make your life so that feelings only hit at home, and sometimes it's all too much. But the performative aspect of filming it AND publishing that just crosses the "not okay" line.

[@LolaTarantula]

As a drive-thru barista, I can guarantee that Starbucks employee told every other employee in the store after that video was taken. We treasure moments like these because on hard days we can make fun of those people all over again and keep the story of every crazy interaction alive into perpetuity.

[@sparklepugtea]

Personally I could never. I feel awful as it is crying in front of my friends and family, heck no to doin it in front of strangers 💀

[@kuroroedamame]

Real 💀 i RUN HIDING when i started cry

[@dontxtalk]

For real I feel so embarrassed when I've cried in front of someone I know. Imagine the feeling of strangers seeing it :/

[@Raincloud_.]

eyy same, I hate crying in front of people even with my family, It's better to cry by yourself honestly

[@Dani_7077]

Yeah, I get it, I don't really cry in public as I don't like the attention.

[@fidelestevaniofrank4035]

Yes!! Haha. My sister used to laugh at me for serious stuff. Yet, she gets sympathy for her balling sessions. LMAO Fuck the world. No tears here 🤣🤣

[@zigzaglychee7324]

What worries me is people posting this stuff alongside their actual names and faces. Once upon a time this sort of thing would have been restricted to a Tumblr side blog with 3 followers. And sharing actual names, ages, pictures of yourself, etc was out of the question. But now people will not only use their real identity online, they'll share this extremely private stuff.

[@chrystal884]

Lmaooo I had 0 followers and I still felt embarrassed posting anything personal 💀

[@vegasa2067]

I feel like I’m the only person who uses different names for everything so no one can triangulate who I am from my social media lol this shit is WILD

[@doggwater]

Jokes on them, next time they go to apply for a job the people hiring them will know that they are unstable after a quick google search

[@savorysnot8604]

​@vegasa2067 it's cool keep doing this, but one can still see your ip adress from just your email... Shit is scary)

[@kuritheking]

I think it’ll be cool when we someday live in a world where people are less bold about attacking people over what they do online in the event that it isn’t harming others. That being said every one of these posts was insane

[@bmet102]

I'm a social worker. People think I want to spend all my free time listening to the worst thing that ever happened to them. I'm looking at you random man at a bar who told me that he's haunted by his brother's ghost.

[@Seeitall728]

Far more interesting then mine as a therapist lol

[@duckzilla6897]

Lol yay! There's the other mental health workers. Mines always worse when I go to hair salons. Captive in a chair while my stylist shares all her horrific stories and gets upset I won't give out free therapy

[@CheerfulNihilism]

I'm a big fan of the Mob Psycho 100 method of emotional processing where I suppress everything until an incident triggers a near-psychotic breakdown that I wouldn't be able to post because I can't actually see the phone screen.

[@UserHandle454]

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[@hemmmmmmeh578]

didn't know they had lego paintings lmaoo that looks cool

[@imberrysandy]

they also have plants now

[@Frutebrute69]

@@imberrysandythe Lego flowers are so pretty!

[@user-jh6xq5xl8b]

gotta recommend the lego cherry blossom tree too its beautiful

[@mimihan7328]

Wq​@@imberrysandy

[@sparklepugtea]

Ooh I have the orchid set, it’s nice!

[@ToureTaylor]

Modern Society really said "Main Character > Self-Awareness."

[@violetasettle4419]

Imagine being a dead husband and having your wife disrespect your memory like that. The most embarrassed ghost.

[@daydreamer7729]

Fr

[@theunderstatement6842]

they weren't even dating when he got killed 😭

[@vday16]

My mum works in retail and you're not kidding when you say its a part time therapist gig. The amount of trauma customers dump on her unprovoke is insane She's heard everything from family deaths to SA and terminal diagnosis. Straight up comforting ppl crying at the till while they're paying for shopping. Loneliness is becoming more prevalent especially among the elderly so a part of her is happy to lend an sympathetic ear to them but it also effects her mental well-being too. There's also the problem with customers violating her boundaries by asking for her phone number and wanting to meet up with her after her shift. Its gotten so bad she wants to transfer out to another branch I know therapy is expensive but please remember your local cashier is not paid enough or equipped to handle rude customers and your trauma dumping

[@lizek3515]

“This is like torture for nosy people” literally me💀

[@sarab3888]

Teatok is fun because you get all the details

[@disturbedmarshmallow8484]

Trama 👏 dumping 👏 is 👏 RUDE 👏

[@charlie1296]

It's not just rude it's downright toxic, and I'm not even using that term like it is online. It's commonly used by people to either guilt trip or manipulate someone. An example is a mother trauma dumping on her children in hopes that the children will feel bad about being upset about future toxic behaviours by the mother

[@Lynnie2005]

If it's not a genuine cry for help or an answer to a question, don't trauma dump. Talk to someone who can say "no, I don't want to hear that." Edit: I 100% mean in the context of avoiding triggering other people. You don't know what mental illness someone has. As someone with a whole COLLECTION of mental illnesses, I don't like when people trauma dump to me because it feels like they're competing to see who is sicker. No thank you.

[@velvetinedrapes4359]

@@Lynnie2005 agreed but even then sometimes they don't take no for an answer. I've literally had that where I'm repeating and getting louder "I DONT WANT TO HEAR IT" but they just take a quick breath and loop back to the start of the sentence.

[@Widdekuu91]

And I want to highlight that it is part of trauma. Trauma is not a normal state of mind. I am not saying it is okay, I am simply stating that if we had more therapists available, maybe this would not happen.

[@kuritheking]

@@Widdekuu91tired of people commodifying genuine friendships and empathy but let’s keep pushing the therapy is going to work for everyone hopefully idea

[@CandyThePuppy]

meanwhile I can't even cry in front of myself without getting embarassed

[@pearlsupremacy3901]

Fun fact: the lady in the drive through wasn’t even dating the guy she was talking about according to his family, she barely knew him and was just using his death for ppl to buy her book

[@charlotte3794]

Oh god

[@ashlovestoshop]

Naw, the Starbucks encounter is outrageous. People are absolutely unhinged.

[@gaykidsexisttoo]

and she wasn’t even married to the victim. she wrote a book lying about it just to make some cash.

[@magicknight13]

Ikr that was sooo embarrassing and painful to watch

[@alicegaiba]

That CEO could have just reduced his own salary in order to avoid firing anyone

[@AW-gj4ji]

@@artsyygameryou mean the average CEO making anywhere from 100x to 10000x of an average employee? 😅

[@SilverDragonJay]

noooooo he can't do that! How could he possibly afford his new 5 bedroom 10 bath cabin in Tahoe then?! /s

[@velvetinedrapes4359]

@artsygamer noooo come back! I didn't get to read your comment

[@laneybobaney7415]

if it's a small business, the CEO/owner could easily not be making very much. but yeah the post was in incredibly poor taste

[@caydenh.4393]

@@velvetinedrapes4359literally my thoughts lmaooooo 😂

[@Cierra_yo]

I literally left Tik Tok because i was tired of seeing everyone crying on there

[@elin_]

I think it's amazing that the "bad" emotions gets more normalized.. I hate toxic positivity with all my being. But there is a limit you shouldn't cross ☠️

[@zbun8067]

when i worked at build-a-bear i had a woman come in and record her husbands voice for a bear and i was sad you know, obviously, an then she went on a 30 min dump about how her husband died, like full detail...like ma'am i am so sorry for your loss but there are 5 children waiting behind you😭

[@HeavenlyiceDream]

that girl (chin up sunshine) was proven to be a fake ass liar. she was his EX girlfriend when he died. she goes about trauma dumping on people that can't just walk away from her all the time

[@ebel-mt2dm]

I mean idk if this is true but like theres something.... not right about this whole scene of recording herself doing a 'nice thing' for others on a special day and breaking down AND recording the drive thru cashier. Then she posted it.....Its something extremely EXTREMELY performative.....

[@potato-whiz]

@@ebel-mt2dmher whole page is performative. She’s a strange one.

[@gaykidsexisttoo]

that’s so nasty and manipulative. i’d just ask her to leave since she’s holding up people if it’s in a line. since that’s the most common place to trauma dump

[@PerryPictures]

She says in that clip "I record these things" which tells me she does in fact do this trap and trauma dump on strangers for clicks thing regularly and on purpose. It seems very disingenuous

[@Benji-ig6xw]

That's why I have headphones on lol

[@lauralanthalasa7]

When last month my mom almost died in the hospital and I thought I saw her for the last time I cried in the staircase and a cleaning lady saw me. Never felt this embarassed in my life. This is crazy to me 😬

[@daydreamer7729]

Yeah and the fact that people POST themselves crying for multiple random people to see. Like, I’d be embarrassed if ONE random person saw me crying but multiple ? Ppl really want attention SO badly 😭💀

[@jellopy24]

Sorry about your mum that must’ve been hard

[@gemfem777]

As a survivor of abuse that is no-contact out of safety and fear for my life, if someone randomly started recording me I’d be extremely uncomfortable. America needs to work on public recording laws and right to your own image Like I understand we have a mental health crisis in the entire world, I struggle with mental health issues so I understand but..please seek help and stop recording strangers

[@spinfoks4550]

We have it in Europe, the rights your image and personal data, so it's really doable. You can't post someone's face without their consent (does not work for mass parties), when I was working at the summer camp, we needed to have parents to sign up the paper that they allow us to take photos of their kids, so they could have memory photo albums at the end and If parent didn't agree, we had to ask the kid to move out of the frame when taking photos (kinda sad if you ask me). This law of course made A LOT of new paperwork, but now we're just used to it, we have to sign papers that we allow to use our personal data and image literally everywhere.

[@zeepzoop4466]

SAME

[@PoisonEngene]

I agree. As an abuse survivor that dresses alt, I am so scared to go in public these days bc everyone is a walking film crew that could just decide to wreck your day/life for no reason. You're not allowed to have a bad day or make a bad decision anymore. Cuz you'll get cancelled and any changes in behavior will be ignored and apologies will be "not accepted". You're not allowed to do or look anything out of what people deem "acceptable" or else it's camera time.

[@inusocials6295]

I just… I can’t imagine pulling out my phone and recording when I was in my most emotional and vulnerable moments. Has the pursuit of internet clout poisoned people this much? Edit: clarifying that video recording like a journal can be really therapeutic. But posting something that personal and vulnerable especially in a heightened emotional state seems to me to be very unhealthy.

[@biguattipoptropica]

Yes, and more.

[@mmaantj]

I do this to watch myself back its like looking in the mirror when youre crying but you can watch it like 20 times and realise that maybe its not that deep

[@user-qx1om2wj1h]

Yes.

[@noellefritz5678]

thats obviously not done for clout, maybe uploading it is though

[@mightymeatymech]

@@mmaantj you're a braver person than i am, i never wanna see myself crying after the fact lol. then again i already know i be crying over dum stuff

[@Lovinia1]

If someone does that in public, take their hand and say “imma pray over you”. It either comforts them or scares them away.

[@maddyc2412]

Don't touch people you don't know in public, that's so weird and creepy, you come up to me and do that you're getting bitch slapped

[@lanadelrio-op6xz]

All fun in games until they are a skydaddy freak

[@oliviacoover8602]

@@lanadelrio-op6xzyou seem annoying

[@_vinvin_vince]

the trauma dumping on the drive-thru legitimately made me start tweaking

[@caithenry8429]

We need to peer pressure the "trauma dumping to retail workers" trend out of existence

[@M-un5yl]

I mean I'm glad that song saved her life, but why did she feel the need to set it up, press record, wait for her to break down and then upload it 😭😭

[@certifiedduck9124]

that part of the concert is different every night, so it’s common for people to film their reactions to the surprise songs.

[@ZombiePepperoni]

@@certifiedduck9124but why?

[@bornagainchristian3742]

So I could talk about it with you. Just saying hi from the Netherlands 👋🏽

[@mun3698]

She probably had this delusional belief and hope that maybe Taylor Swift would comment on her video or some shit

[@certifiedduck9124]

@@ZombiePepperoni it’s just a fun thing people do lol

[@yuki97kira]

If my friend asked me, to sit in front of a stadium for a concert, to film a tik tok of them crying, i would have asked what is wrong with them (and maybe we should go get counselling for them)

[@bgodseverywhere]

It was your "trying to be a good friend but feeling awkward about all of this" hand pat for me

[@aw8951]

You can tell when people fake cry / setup shots for crying its so cringe...

[@PeteyThePenguin]

It's like a child throwing a tantrum for attention

[@psychonauty2020]

literally anyone recording themselves crying is doing it for attention

[@pochachii_]

@@PeteyThePenguinchildren dont "throw tantrums for attention", but i get what you mean.

[@rhythmandblues_alibi]

I'm so glad more people are becoming aware of how much shit online is set up, like, who do you think filmed that and how did they know to do so before whatever happened happened?

[@XemeraldXD]

The only good reason i can think of to film yourself crying is if youre crying tears of joy, like maybe you just got an incredibly exciting package in the mail, or your partner proposed to you, or you got your dream job. Something like that.

[@neff6185]

or one of those silly satirical videos of people crying over something and then they reveal it’s something like that video of a piece of bread falling over. I love those videos 😭🙏

[@pizzashits]

Even crying from being upset is fine. like if you’re talking about something that’s just naturally upsetting to you, and you’re still able to compose yourself, talk clearly, and arent going to send yourself into a spiral. And there’s specific stories/issues/etc you’re trying to bring attention to. But recording yourself clearly going through a ton of emotional distress/having an episode/etc is… something else. Maybe if it was to bring awareness to something or actually for educational purposes about mental illnesses/disorders…?

[@kyrus4989]

So only happiness is a socially acceptable emotion? Because this idea of hiding every uncomfortable emotion is ultimately more harmful than some random person crying into a camera. There are people out there who want to bring awareness to things like depression and other mental illnesses, and they do so sometimes by filming themselves on their bad days.

[@109367]

7:40 omg I used to work at a pharmacy, not as a pharmacist mind you, just a starry eyed 16 year old working the register up front where I sold mostly cigarettes, Mt Dew and candy, people would come in and tell me about lancing their own cysts, their genital warts and their lice infested children ... traumatizing

[@chromachan]

😫 thank you for your service, similar job. I love it but dang, it’s hard. I also have health issues that are invisible and unfortunately cannot keep hidden for long (severe chronic pain). I try to educate rather than trauma dump.

[@SproutiusShrubiusthe16th]

Respect. We all gotta make a living sonehow 😔

[@peachylemon5613]

“Cosplaying as a sad baby” I wasn't ready 🤣🤣🤣

[@mirkwoodFaerie]

Wow that was the best use of the "stop it, get some help" clip that I've ever seen.

[@r.muller8289]

I had an internship (and still volunteer) in the toxicology department of a hospital's ER, so for 20 hours a week during an entire year, about half of my cases were s*icide attempts or severe cases of substance abuse. I still NEVER had someone traumadump on me the way these people are traumadumping random strangers. And I WAS getting paid for it, as little as it was!! I'm not even getting paid anymore but at least I can put this on my resume and use it to find a paying job later!! And I still never had someone snap at me like that, not patients, not worried or angry relatives, none of that came even close! Oh my god!!

[@mightymeatymech]

i will say, as someone's who's been in for multiple attempts, once we get there we just feel freaking guilty for inconveniencing you. or maybe that's just me. last thing i want to do is talk about whatever made me attempt LOLOL i already feel terrible that i'm there 😭😭 sorry it's not funny, i'm only laughing at myself for the record.

[@limarba9062]

⁠@wrendoesnothing It’s okay to use humor as a coping mechanism. If I didn’t, I think I’d be worse.

[@projectjupiter5523]

​@@mightymeatymechhonestly, I feel like what constitutes trauma dumping on social media is acceptable and necessary if you go to hospital for reasons related to mental health, especially for a crisis like that, as to best help you, the staff need as good an idea as possible of what factors in your past contributed to your current situation, the triggers of the act, things in your life that need changing to help prevent you from doing so again or thinking of it - all of that is informed in large part by one's past, which itself is heavily shaped by trauma. please do not feel guilty for being an inconvenience, hospital is a place where people who are not well go get better, and a mental health emergency such as that which you mentioned is absolutely deserving of treatment and care, as much as any other physical or psychological health condition. I hope things have already improved for you and that they continue to get better ❤

[@mightymeatymech]

@@limarba9062 I just don't want anyone thinking I'm laughing about a situation regarding their loved ones... Humor helps trust me I agree. But sometimes people see us joking and they get hurt because they've lost someone. That doesn't mean we can't still joke though, idk it's complicated lol. I just don't want anyone feeling badly tbh.

[@mightymeatymech]

@@projectjupiter5523 that's true but it's a bit more complicated. For example if I go to ER for an attempt, the doctors are equipped to save my life but they might not be trained to handle my psychological issues. That's usually where a social worker comes in and asks questions (why did you attempt, if we let you leave will you try again, do you have easy access to firearms, etc, these are the typical questions in my experience) The doctors might only be equipped to handle the medical side of things, not the psychological side. But I will say, there have been times after I attempted where I talked to a nurse and they were so sweet and understanding, they listened and cared. So ultimately you are right, they're there to help. I'm just so afraid of putting more onto someone than they signed up for (even though I know ER nurses DID sign up for the job, idk, I just hate making anyone feel like my ideation is their problem to solve.)

[@chanmarr8118]

I don’t even like seeing my crying reflection. The fact that people can record being so emotional and post it is insane to me. The Taylor Swift one looked genuine and I heard it was a surprise song, not part of the actual playlist set for the concert. She saw her the night before and she didn’t sing it. But I would keep the recording for me as a memory or something.

[@maddyc2412]

It didn't looke genuine it looked cringe, it was already set up to film it, she is beyond self absorbed

[@misspollysdolly]

I was crying and went on snapchat and when I saw my face I started recording because it looked so funny. I couldn't stop laughing and I'm gonna try do that whenever I cry lol cause you can't keep crying when you see yourself cause then you just look stupid lol

[@pinkaddiction13]

He's calling everybody out..AND I LOVE IT

[@lucynyu333]

I was embarrassed crying in front of my fiancée when my grandmother died, I cannot imagine doing it in front of strangers while recording it and posting it online for others to see. I guess it's cheaper than therapy but still very cringe and toxic.

[@xXx___xXx]

why on earth would you be embarrassed of crying in front of your partner?

[@Can_I_Live_]

Right? Being embarrassed to cry in front of your partner is kind of sad, especially if you're engaged....and someone died. That's not a virtue.

[@elijahtthayer]

​@Can_I_Live_ Crying is more sensitive for some more than others especially when it's like real and hurtful thing that caused it😂

[@limarba9062]

I don’t like to cry in front of anyone, friend or family. I don’t want people to think that I’m weak or a crybaby. Yeah, it’s kinda dumb but I’ve been that way for most of my life.

[@Momo642VIP]

Crying doesn't mean you are weak. ​@@limarba9062

[@maygirlisnosyagain]

If I get to a video where someone is sobbing I scroll as fast as I can to the next vid. There are only two possibilities: Either it’s faked or it shouldn’t be on camera and aired to the world. When you’re in a difficult and traumatic situation you don’t think about filming yourself. You are much to busy with your emotional and mental state and the life event which caused it.

[@doggwater]

Thinking back on times where I've been in severe mental health crisis', the last thing I would ever even think of is getting a camera. I've thought of doing a lot of stupid things in the heat of the moment, but I've never thought of taking a video of what's happening. If I took a camera out I probably would've calmed down tbh because my thoughts would've been distracted. Like I'd probably stop crying because my monkey brain would be like oooooo wow, phone, distraction

[@jasminejohnson5130]

okay, thats YOU. however lots of people may be looking for community, sympathy, just someone to see their pain by posting themselves in crisis. I have BPD and I’ve never posted myself crying, but I honestly don’t understand why y’all have so much hate and disgust for people that do. Happiness shouldn’t be the only acceptable emotion.

[@flameron1]

@@jasminejohnson5130it’s not that it isn’t acceptable. It’s just vapid and pointless. It’s one thing to film after crying or falling tears during speaking about some sad things. It’s another to be in a full mental panic attack and one of your first thoughts is to grab your phone, record yourself while it’s happening with sad music in the background. It’s the epitome of social media toxicity 😅. The strangers that comment on those videos aren’t your emotional ad mental support and never should be.

[@CLUMSY101]

They took the infamous "Crocodile tears" to a whole new level. 😅

[@Spencerwithahat]

The only reason I would record myself crying is if I’m telling a story of something that just happened and I’m still upset over it

[@Spencerwithahat]

But that goes on my rant story on snap not the general public

[@Sammy2phones]

When I worked in a drive thru I’d get people asking if they could pray for me. I’d just say no. One lady asked regularly and but one day asked why I always say no. I said Jesus said to pray alone. I’m happy that awkward interaction was not recorded.

[@AmbassadorKat]

I guess I don’t really mind if ppl want to pray *for* me, just don’t ask to pray *with* me 😖

[@avigailomichael]

🤔some Christians can be awkward, I know. But wait. Did Jesus really say to pray alone, though? He didn't. To pray in private is not the same thing as "to pray alone". The apostles were together praying when the Holy Spirit fell on them. The Apostle Paul said to bear one another's burdens. It's okay to not want Christians to pray for you or with you in public in public. What's not okay is for you to say that Jesus said it's wrong to pray for or with somebody in your company who is praying together with you.

[@lanadelrio-op6xz]

​@@avigailomichaelno one cares about your cult rules

[@UnaGorriona]

The first no should have been sufficient, more than that is considered harassment. You can pray for someone privately without them knowing. Praying should not always be done publicly, some people just want to be seen or known just like the Pharisees, gotta be careful with that ego.

[@ayomichanisapalestinesuppo8729]

@@lanadelrio-op6xz yes, I do care about their faith. Whatever right have you to judge? You’re being rude in case you don’t know.

[@Jennilynne]

I absolutely hate getting super emotional/crying in public. I can't imagine putting it out there on purpose. People are wild

[@calliastah4115]

Seeing people like these actually have friends sorta makes me less socially-anxious.

[@Buko_pandan]

“You'd have the same or worse reaction from seeing jungkook rip off his shirt” LMAOO💀😭😭

[@lawnmowercum]

i used to trauma dump on yahoo answers, and then people in the comments would call me a bot and tell me to kys lmao

[@mightymeatymech]

🥴🥴🥴🥴😭😭 i'm so sorry---

[@xce7ecx]

naurr why did i do the same thing help ksjfndbdb

[@mun3698]

Ah the good old days 😂

[@geealion]

throwback lmao

[@NoProblemoBob]

so what life lessons did you learn? 💀

[@tapemo]

I liked when we used to post obscure emo lyrics as our Facebook status. It would be like a game between friends to figure out what song it was from (because it was harder to figure out back then on the internet lol).

[@triplesixcrow]

CAN WE PLS RETURN TO OUR ROOTS (this)

[@KoumoriKoumori]

One time when I was doing a chemo (no need to comment on it I'm totally fine now) and it was a sharing room so they were 4 patients in total. One of the girl next to me started to cry softly while talking on the phone and I felt bad for her but didn't do nothing because I thought she was on a call and I'm shy... BUT SHE WAS NOT TALKING TO SOMEONE, she was posting a video somewhere of herself crying. How do I know? Because she rehersed the things 2 times and returned to a normal expression inbetween takes. It was very weird to saw that.

[@bleakaf]

The Kendall clip will never fail to make me turn fully inside out. I, a super rich supermodel, am the same as you. We are the same.

[@french.25princess]

That video in the Starbucks drive thru was so cringe. I already tip them for just having to be nice.

[@Raincloud_.]

This happened to me recently, I was teamed with this girl for a school project and out of no were she started trauma dumping her life story, like I barley know you, this is the first time we've talked outside of class. I didn't even know her last name before I knew she was token away from her parents...

[@namkia205]

Is her name Jelena?

[@deen7530]

I had a similar thing at work, I went on break at the same time as this new guy and he spent the whole time telling me about how he was bullied as a kid and stuff like that, and eventually he was like "Sorry, was that awkward?" And I just had to tell him that yeah, it was.

[@jellopy24]

@@deen7530I feel bad for him Guys usually don’t do that maybe he just wanted someone to listen

[@deen7530]

@@jellopy24 Yeah so did I. But man it was so awkward

[@jellopy24]

@@deen7530 Yea I get you A girl in this school thing I go to waited for me outside to go home together and she started the conversation by telling me her mum died I was nice about it how couldn’t I be but it’s definitely not a conversation starter especially when you only talked to that person once before 🥲

[@coffee5276]

IMAGINE BEING THE DEAD SPOUSE IN HEAVEN HAVING TO WATCH YOUR WIDOW FISH FOR SYMPATHY AND USE YOU AS THE BAIT.

[@notericforeman]

not his widow lmao they dated and broke up years before his death 😂

[@lilsoggins]

@@notericforeman💀

[@LifeWithBanka]

I’m sorry the girl SCREAMING CRYING at Taylor swift singing SENT MEEEEEEE

[@nrm___17]

bro the last time I was crying uncontrollably in public someone called the ambulance on me because they thought I was gonna hurt myself and now people do it online and everyone is just like… werk

[@Chillikilli]

Right one time I was crying uncontrollably in public and I was so embarrassed. Like I hate crying in front of people crying and recording it is crazy lmao

[@nrm___17]

@@Chillikilli exactly!!!!! I can’t imagine getting on your phone, opening TikTok, hitting the record button and then crying. I’d be so embarrassed if someone from the neighborhood just came up to me like “hey I saw you sobbing”. I feel like a lot of these people post BECAUSE they know strangers will see it so they think there won’t be any repercussions or recognition, but also forget that it can reach people like teachers, neighbors, workers in their neighborhood, other people around it… like they will see it too. 🙃

[@ToureTaylor]

And that is why I don't trust or associate with people who base their identity off TikTok. Thanks for teaching us about the term Sadfishing.

[@user-ng7qc3ti4k]

True 😂😂😂

[@NeoZeta]

I say this all the time. There is absolute no reason to cry on camera, unless it's live and it just happens that you cry. But recording yourself cry is always a no-no.

[@carlafrancisco590]

No emotion is real when you plan the moment you're going to share it

[@AwesomeVidzChannel]

Ive seen a video of a girl crying and then a man fell down some stairs and she started cry laughing lol

[@vyxera13]

that swiftie is me hearing "BREAK THE WALL" outside an ateez concert on a real note, i get it, and get really emotional over music, i STILL cry for MCR but my god i would never film it T_T

[@LyntzbartzkyPerez]

Bro but Exile really isn’t even that good 😭

[@Master_of_muppets]

bro i will ALWAYS sob for the black parade album 💀💀😔

[@potato-whiz]

@@LyntzbartzkyPerezyeah but that song didn’t LITERALLY save your LIFE

[@LyntzbartzkyPerez]

@@potato-whiz I know some songs have convinced me to not go through with some bad decisions but at the end of the day it’s something more than just one song that probably saved her life

[@poisonkatz]

i mean i understand how someone could say music saved their life. i get it. i have songs that are soooooo important to me too. i just...getting that hysterical in public seems like...i think you need professional help not to sit outside a taylor swift concert and cry with your friends if you are THAT emotional over it you know?

[@fenixdanee5308]

I’m so happy you made this video because I talk about this all the time.. such a weird vibe to put out there

[@sssssssssnakes]

3:37 bro this reminds me of when i went to a metallica concert years ago and i broke down when they performed "one". because the song is very emotional and its the only song that truly resonates with me. its honestly probably still the best and most embarrassing concert experience i've ever had. looking back, even just a minute after the song ended, i cringed so much at how i acted. and i'm glad no one posted it (as far as i know) i hope the other people at the concert forgot about how weird i was too lol. edit: but fr though, this video is why i think people should be there for their family (and friends) so they have somewhere to vent (healthily) instead of posting it online. i admit i used to do that, vent about my traumas online to strangers when i couldn't afford therapy and didnt really have a support system, but doing that ain't healthy and it honestly made me feel even worse in the long-run. i agree with 11:12

[@oglovski]

YOO FELLOW METALLICA FAN your break down is totally reasonable because One by Metallica is actually a sad song with a heavy message. But you sound like you've suffered a lot I hope you're okay

[@chloechen2449]

😅.ee 3dfrr

[@sentientplant9658]

if any of my friends started doing this bs I'm straight up walking away or calling the cops about a public disturbance. like holy shit. go home.

[@sunnysunflowers328]

"She has now been promoted" had me cackling😂

[@RoyaleMusical]

4:35 it’s odd but honestly people do like to film their reactions to the “surprise” songs…but her reaction is just insane

[@MenInSkirts_official]

7:03 There was a case where there was a woman who k*lled her husband and made a book about how to cope with grief. Is this the same woman or am i trippin bc the way she said "BRUTALLY MURDERED" so casually..?

[@once.upon.a.time.]

That's a different woman, however other commenters are saying that she is lying about the relationship between her and the victim.

[@MenInSkirts_official]

@once.upon.a.time. Woah! Why would you- wow.

[@Radiant_Allomancer]

I believe she’s still in jail right now, but I agree, this other person DOES give off the same vibe

[@jwyluvs]

The fact she had 2 sons and still did it...psycho..

[@MenInSkirts_official]

@@jwyluvsTruly.

[@mariross-russell450]

Since I do not do social media I am very grateful to you. You provide all the content I think I will ever need. 😊

[@hennyyyyyyyyyy]

such a good video, very well-articulated!!

[@missdenisebee]

Honestly can’t imagine having the presence of mind to whip out my phone for content in the middle of something emotionally devastating. For example, I had to put my cat down in 2022, after a long battle with cancer. That ride to & from the vet was full of ugly crying, and never once did I think, “hmmm I should share this with strangers”. I didn’t even want to talk to my mom or best friend that night. I needed to process it alone first. Which is generally how I feel in any emotionally charged situation. How are people able to even THINK about creating content in these moments?!

[@Authorthings]

Reminds me of the MySpace days where we all posted our crying emo selfies ... 👀 😳

[@Mandyb05]

The one tear falling! Cringe.

[@sophielaboissonniere4132]

I love how you are in your work, you're hilarious and relatable at once. Your millennial twists aligned with your humour regarding delicate social topics makes your vids prime to watch. Thanks man :)

[@elliotoliver8679]

Edvasian is on point as per usual and love how the black hair is back, the swiftee girl with the occasional pat on back is so glad the cryee fell the other way

[@indirapurnami]

Nah man, the crying glow fr so good 😂

[@mightymeatymech]

my under eyes be perfectly exfoliated after all that salt water 😭😭

[@Virtual_Xili]

Omg its so weird being early to an edvasian video

[@DaemonCraze123]

I know, right?

[@Luna_loves_bayonetta]

Fr tho

[@zaeliouss]

I think you brought up a really good point about how viewing people crying can desensitize us to people in the real world crying. I never thought about that before! I feel like the world could use a little more empathy at times when I'm online, but it's easier for people to be mean when they're hiding behind a screen.

[@scoutdias4160]

I think it’s understandable to make a video or post about a traumatic experience in order to bring awareness to something, but this stuff is on a different level.

[@TwoBs]

It’s awkward. I don’t even want to talk to people when working with the public, no way would I want someone to trauma dump on me during it when I’m just wanting you to leave already. The types of people that used to do this in the early 2000s were just called emo lol. Instead of high up MySpace angled selfies of someone posing and looking sad, it’s carefully tailored selfies and videos with specific aesthetics paired with some sort of emotional song and text about how this sad thing happened to them for max gullibility - I mean max exposure for views to get the “oh you poor thing, that’s so sad!!” comments. Seek a therapist. Go through counseling. That route is way more beneficial when it comes to trauma dumping - _not_ the general public who honestly, truly, deep down … most definitely doesn’t really care and will forget about it in 5 mins.

[@abzifrannie]

I once filmed myself after having a panic attack. But I could never dream of letting anyone watch it, let alone posting it online for randos to see 😮

[@SteviiLove]

Ngl, I have turned to my phone when I felt the need to unload/vent/trauma dump but I have never posted it. It's more like a video diary for myself than anything else. I can't imagine sharing it with the entire world, that sounds terrifying.

[@bhelliom3]

first video of yours that was recommended to me, and it was great. Looking forward to more.

[@hikkipedia]

Those ancient celebrity instagram posts were oddly comforting to see

[@rs-mt6kl]

4:52 "what am I gonna do now??" ?????? Wdym??? Girl GET HELP like she sang a song??? You need to chillllll

[@shay8502]

I love the clips and references you edit in. laughed out loud multiple times 😌👌 not sure why I've never seen your videos before, but I'm subscribed now!