Main Character Syndrome “Your Happiness Offends Me”

[@dreamcaught3876]

how do you see a golden retriever, a very standard looking dog, that is 2 whole hours away from you, and you’re so sure that it’s your lost dog that you doxx the person who found them. unbelievable

[@pamelam1101]

They must have a LOT going in their lives and a lot of issues to think any part of that is okay to do, nevermind to actually do all of it.

[@trompell0]

Yeah previous commenter is right misery loves company essentially. I've had people punish me for good deeds too but irl. People are sick man you can even prostrate yourself before them saying I'm sorry and they will still seek conflict lol.

[@NecrozmaJade]

Golden retrievers are expensive and they wanted a free dog. If you ever find a lost dog, make sure either they’re microchipped or the person saying it’s theirs has pictures.

[@Franniiv3]

No one questioned why the Dog ran away from them 'allegedly', we can see why though!

[@yatshie8717]

Doesn't the dog have a tag on its collar? I see a tag there and if they work the same where I live then the owner can be tracked by the id number embossed on the tag.

[@hyunjinsanity]

I think the most common cases of this are when a daughter shares a video with her dad and they're having a good time. They'll get comments like "good for you, my dad left" or "my dad died." Like, okay?? I feel bad for you, but you dont have to ruin a cute moment by trying to be a victim 24/7.

[@zerodegreescelsius]

@@hyunjinsanity that's the meat and potatoes of an MC 😉 "I wish I had [insert people or stuff you have that triggered them]". Classic, golden and evergreen. It's not a fight for the last place anymore...no need to compete about who has lesser. It's literally, "I'm the saddest by default because I don't even have it. Now beat that.".

[@cmaven4762]

Meanwhile my reaction is, Go, dad and daughter! such times are precious!!! Without the mention of my dead dad. Why? Because I can randomly enjoy their happy moments and want them to post more! Meanwhile some sniveling Nelly is whining in the corner, "but mah Daddie's dead or gone, boo hoo" .... smh Why can't they just let the good vibes flow? Once your dad's truly gone, all that's left is the nostalgia, and living vicariously is so uplifting.... KML

[@AshleyGrahamcracker-oq3pf]

@@cmaven4762they’re in Heaven

[@deano8894]

Almost any time someone posts about having a positive social relationship you bet there’s gonna be a ton of people trauma dumping if it’s about family or self deprecating about being “single” or “lonely” if it’s about your love life or your friends

[@ShendonV]

I just want to see a moment with a father and child without comments either pedestalizing him for being a parent or whining “privileged! I’m an impoverished little worker you should acknowledge your privilege! Daddy left me daddy left me” like a stupid “all men must cater to me” teen girl who actively makes her personality daddy issues.

[@user-mh7db7ei1s]

There was a video on Reddit of a woman saving her daughter from a rabid raccoon. Someone commented about how a mother's love is unmatched. A completely normal person replied, "well my mom neglected and beat me. How's that for a mother's love?" Another *completely* normal person commented, "well, fuck dads I guess. Dads aren't important anymore." Like... 😐 bruh. Nobody asked. Go to therapy.

[@gothgirl66673]

Saw people doing that on a video about a mother who attempted to save her daughter from a shark attack. That woman swam towards her daughter when she was surrounded by an entire group of sharks and being bitten by several of them and the water was visibly full of blood. Comments were all "how dare you suggest that was anything to do with being a mother, why do you hate fathers and by inference men in general?" The daughter died, her mother was able to get her to the beach and eventually help came but she had already lost too much blood. So then there were people going "well actually she didn't save her". How does a person get to the point where they're annoyed that anyone is praising someone who swam right into the middle of a shark attack in progress because (insert bullsh*t here)?

[@crazyfox9oh]

I just made a comment about an experience I had like this on Reddit. And I'm no longer on Reddit because of it.

[@itskindofemily]

Ugh I hate that so much... Stop oversharing and playing the main character!!!

[@Call-me-Al]

​@@itskindofemily while the way they said it was really not great, i think it's important to debunk that all parents instinctively want what's best for their kids. It both elevates those who actually do it right, and teaches people to be more vigilant and less dismissive of the red flags of parents who don't do it right.

[@chargenari]

​@@Call-me-Al sure, but you can do that on a separate post without invalidating the experience of the og post, like in that case. Or wording it better

[@michelleruss9877]

No body's mom is teaching them "If you don't have anything nice to say then keep it to yourself" anymore.

[@suncrestt4839]

Right! That’s the first thing that pops into my head whenever I see an unsolicited comment that could be perceived as rude/insensitive. It may be true but that doesn’t mean you need to speak on it.

[@ecupcakes2735]

hear hearrrr

[@DeadDancers]

Exactly. They’re all saying the opposite! “Please comment below!” Because engagement of any kind will help their video, their channel and their income stream. So even genuinely mean comments still feel like… you’re doing them a favour…😣

[@missmangopudding]

This is what happens when karens marry chads and have kids.

[@krk6216]

Yup. And if I couldn’t hold it in I’d say it quietly to myself when I’m alone. Completely alone. Because it needs to come out but not at a cost to someone else.

[@tei4724]

Another thing that frustrates me is seeing products made for people with disabilities, and then someone saying "bro who needs this?" or "we're becoming lazy". Like cool that you don't need it, but people aren't just gonna get over their hand tremors, arthritis or hand-motor coordination issues.

[@koraliee]

Yes!!! I saw a "khaby lame" style video (it wasn't him but the person who did the stitch had the same style of sarcasm) about a tool to help put on socks. Like "just bend down and put it on duh!" 🙄 Sir, you are not the target demographic for this product!!!

[@SilverRagaire]

I agree, but I feel like the issue is advertising in this sense. Like the Snuggie, for example. The design is perfect for people with limited mobility, but the ads would show able bodied people jumping around in them. Maybe there would be a clip of a person in a wheelchair wearing one, but the main sell was “never be tied up in a blanket again.” Normally, advertisers put their target demographic in their ads, but then you see a completely able-bodied 30 something year old white man fail at cracking an egg.

[@atarahbowman7233]

Just saw an instagram post about a product that uses some sort of labeled button contraption to hold down guitar strings to play the notes and most of the comments being about people not willing to learn how to properly -lay anymore. It clearly stated it was for people with difficulty playing without aids.

[@cantsalvagethis]

Oh this is the one that bugs me the most. 'Oooh, this is pointless overconsumption for rich people!' on videos showing life hack tools as if the creator has a gun to their head forcing them to buy it. If it's not useful for you, maybe it's not for you! But some people might not be able to open their curtains or slice veg or whatev. I mean we had to find a safety mandoline because my dad kept cutting himself. That's not an everyone problem, but I sure am glad the product existed lol.

[@chickenfoot2423]

⁠@@cantsalvagethisi mean its often the fault of the videomaker themselves, they often appear to cater towards rich people who love to overconsume amazon kitchenware. if they dont specify that its for disabled aid, which is easy to do, i can see why people assume its part of the hordes of people pushing 'lazy' dropshipped gadgets online. i think it may be purposeful for engagement, too. i say this as someone with disabled siblings.

[@PocketBroto]

How dare you tell me to have a good day

[@gershonford3513]

Ok have a bad day😂

[@JonahSupremacy]

@gershonford3513 HEY, FUCK YOU! HAVE A DAY!

[@CuteAnimalVideos2580]

she's really like that guy from Drake and Josh "have a good day" "dont tell me what to do"

[@windy-fei]

who made this about YOU, you need to think about ME and my POOR POOR children, UNBELIEVABLE!!!

[@janinebelleestrada7096]

​@@CuteAnimalVideos2580if you've seen the bird comic where a heterosexual bird couple told their (probably close) friend that they are having a baby and the author in the personification of the friend gay bird says they've not been pulling out for a while too. To me though the gay bird was a biatch. Only a few people tell their friends personally they are trying for a baby as it is a celebration for the couples who want to have them and that they tell their immediate close family or friends about it.

[@nehru.5429]

i think the problem is that social media algorithms have become so perfectly personalized. When everything someone sees is curated for them, the moment they come across stuff that isn't, they get mad or something lol. Yes your tiktok feed is "For You" but the algorithm sometimes throws random stuff in there so it can further fine-tune your interests. And ironically, when ppl interact with posts that don't interest them instead of just scrolling by, the algorithm infers that engagement as interest, so it just shows more of it

[@hitmanbangsyellowcrocs4213]

You've summed it up pretty accurately👍. The algorithm shows you content that ideally you SHOULD agree with. And when that doesn't happen you lose it!😅😅

[@ttthecat]

Wow, I think you might have figured it out! People now have a very low tolerance for info that isn't *exactly* for them. I had a genu epiphany reading your post!

[@LifeofBrad1]

Yup. Been saying this since around 2018 when I first noticed just how much the algorithm was ushering people into echo chambers. Nobody cared back then and most people still don't care now. I've come to the conclusion that there really is nothing we can do as individual citizens to change the course humanity is on as a whole.

[@PalitoSelvatico]

This is why it's fun to reply to hateful messages with "well if it's in your feed maybe you've been watching too many videos of this thing you supposedly hate"

[@leax7061]

Lol that's happens to me because certain topics don't interest me and I keep telling I'm not interested but they keep appearing...then I get mad 🤣

[@MyNameIsBrydie]

As soon as an animal is involved, everyone online is suddenly holier-than-thou

[@smolsheriff]

Fr, everyone suddenly thinks they are an expert on the animal and what the person is doing is wrong, even though they are trying to do what they can at that moment smh

[@wiswc]

And those are usually the same people who support the things that harm other animals the most while thinking nothing of it.

[@iloveumoreee]

This! Everyone suddenly become an expert when it comes to animals and kids

[@anntares172]

Never ask for advice on an animal care forum. You will be eviscerated whether you're doing everything right or not.

[@elyenidacevedo1995]

This comment reminds me of the people who let their cats run around their town. 😭​@@wiswc

[@ahmarindungu9010]

Not being able to relate to something so you make yourself some type of victim is narc behavior.

[@to_ur_heart]

I think with how much personalisation comes with social media, some people forget that not everything is for them.

[@ahmarindungu9010]

@@to_ur_heart so trueee!

[@DarleyHavidsun]

DARVA tactic bullshit

[@Lhene9]

I was very confused at how this was cop behaviour until I googled it and learned that "narc" has become a short form for "narcissist" instead of the old "narcotics unit". It's a good example of language that's not meant for me haha

[@Cryinginthecloudssss]

I dont know man I’ve meet narcissistic people and some of them are still better then what ever going on with people today and their hyper individuality

[@zoeyc5851]

Yes the fish should ideally have a bigger tank, but any tank is better than the fish being on the grass. Even if they do get a bigger tank, it needs time to cycle which can take around 6 weeks. (Not blaming the guy who saved the fish)

[@Shephardsatan]

FR. The whole situation reminds me of a friend I had that yelled at me out of nowhere on the school yard cuz my family's fish, a singular over 20 year old bottom feeder, "had a too small tank". She had just started her fish hobby and I guess she thought that gave her authority... over a guy who works at a specialized fish store who instructed us to get a stronger filtering system and said the tank size was fine. I'm a fish abuser because I didn't carry that fish in the middle of the night to her house in a suop ladle to a bigger tank I guess. So is the guy in the vid. I'm sorry if this is like trauma dumpy but this genuinly is uncannily similar of a case and both make me laugh. (,:

[@Prof9299]

@@Shephardsatan Okay but to be fair, fish stores are notorious in the fish keeping hobby for giving outdated or false information so they can make a quick buck and absolutely refuse to learn anything new. The regularly lie saying fish need smaller tanks than they need. I'm not saying that's the case for you, as I have no idea what specific species of fish you have or anything about what setup you have, just letting you know that just because someone has worked at a fish store for a long time doesn't mean they're correct

[@jadecoolness101]

Except the comment that was presented wasn't even bad? What are you supposed to do? Completely ignore that the tank is way too small. The comment shown never said he was evil, or bad, just that the tank is too small. Which is the truth. If he plans to keep the fish, he needs a bigger tank.

[@dakotawolf9091]

​@@jadecoolness101 if they commented "You are such a hero, thank you for saving this baby! If you're able to, I suggest investing in a larger tank with XYZ so the fish can thrive even more!" then your argument would make sense. If the literal FIRST thing you have to say to someone who rescued the fish is to criticize them for not doing it perfectly from the jump then you are being rude. yes ideally that fish needs a bigger tank but just commenting "that tank is too small you need at least a 20 gallon." is rude because you're not acknowledging the fact that he literally saved that poor thing from dying. Remember the clip about reading comprehension? Proper tone is part of that too, I suggest you learn how to distinguish it Jade.

[@Sugar735]

​@@jadecoolness101 Alice died so all the weird tank people can calm down now. Still unsure why people are judging a man who found a FISH in his YARD and probably didn't have a 50 gallon fish tank in his budget for the week. JFC y'all are too online

[@clown1165]

Actually, happiness killed my family :/

[@LioBiblio]

BECAUSE HAPPINESS KILLED MY GRANDMA, OK?

[@CuteAnimalVideos2580]

Happiness (1998)

[@eviltigerlily]

I'm sorry for your loss

[@to_ur_heart]

Actually, you saying that gave me a PTSD.

[@G36C-556]

​@@LioBiblio*DRAMATIC VINE BOOM SOUND EFFECT*

[@misuzu_dono]

This reminds me of that one video of a lady doctor giving cpr to a child who had been electrocuted and i think he was ultimately saved but it took a while so she was doing these chest thumps and stuff and there were people in the comments criticising her technique like ?!?!??! First off the amount of guts u need to take charge in that situation is a looot and then she was atleast trying her best too... Besides doctors say wrong cpr is better than no cpr. I swear people can be so cruel sometimes

[@sleepingisdifficult]

I also think about the fact that people don't often use enough pressure in CPR (they're scared to hurt the person), so I'm good with thumps too! I'm just glad that the kid is okay

[@madamaonyx8844]

It's easy for people to talk shit when they can watch from the sidelines.

[@clarabp2613]

​@@sleepingisdifficultas Dr Mike would say: A broken rib is better than being dead

[@saipat9118]

@@clarabp2613as my teacher said “I can fix a punctured lung but I can’t fix a dead brain”

[@jessieis]

​@madamaonyx8844 yup! Just be grateful someone gave a damn in the first place instead of just sitting there doing nothing.

[@phoenixgeyser]

person with chronic pain and illness here. i can't STAND when people use their chronic illness/pain to make a situation about them, or when they turn things into a "my life is worse than yours" contest with it. it spreads awful stigma that the chronically ill and/or disabled are too sensitive, easily offended, can't handle basic things, etc. it also spreads a fear into non-chronically ill people that they cannot say or do anything without putting like 100000 disclaimers in front of it first.

[@sarahthesarah2850]

Same. I appreciate accommodation but I do not expect everything to be curated specifically for me because I have challenges. Each person has their own lives and difficulties. Turning into a contest is based on fallacy because someone having it worse doesn't make what different folks are going through any better or easier for them. Sometimes I will say this won't work for me, however good job on making this. I will forward it to someone who can enjoy/use it better. I liked the part where____the best.

[@Dial8Transmition]

I hate that too, the stigma caused by the few that scream the loudest affect the millions of others who suffer more than they already are. I'm sorry

[@ZiggyonMars]

Literally I’ve never even thought of being mad at someone because they don’t have a chronic illness?? Like that’s so wild lmaooo how do people even get mad at people being happy 😭

[@phoenixgeyser]

@@ZiggyonMars right?? it's so insane

[@AA-ed6ek]

Oof lol.

[@bananamanchester4156]

Related story! I made a comment once about a lil parakeet called Beaker. He has a wife called Tinkerbell and he is very affectionate towards her. I commented to compliment him for being a good husband. My reply section was absolutely FLOODED with people who were upset with me for "expecting men to be perfect" and "judging men for being bad husbands when women are actually terrible wives and girlfriends nowadays". It was legit the funniest thing I've ever seen 😂 imagine being that insecure that you see a BIRD being complimented and take it as a damnation of your entire gender 😂😂😂

[@apocalypse.is.near.]

nooo it spread to beaker’s comment section too usually everyone there is so nice

[@paigemosher8697]

"Meninists" are some of the most chronically online, godawful, woman-hating troglodytes on the planet. Don't let those types get you down too much. They'll grow out of it eventually.

[@bananamanchester4156]

@@apocalypse.is.near. aww that's garbage! I don't care about people trolling me but I don't understand why they have to start poisoning the well in the rest of the comment section :(

[@marogmartz]

That sucks, the comments are usually so chill except on Instagram because is insta. But yes, I agree, he is such a diligent husband!

[@bananamanchester4156]

@@marogmartz it was so random! But sometimes it only takes one troll to derail an entire comment thread. Beaker is a lovely husband!

[@pinkysdumbmusic]

just like the one time I saw a video about an onion-based pasta dish, like the idea was to caramelize onions as the base of the entire dish. And someone commented "i don't like onions, so what could i use as an alternative?" And someone else commented "you should probably just make something else, this is literally ONION PASTA"😂

[@LadyBern]

The weirdest thing to me is that if you cook at all you can figure out how to alter a dish no problem. And if you can't it's not difficult to go online and look up something similar. My main character moment rant: I want to do an alternative take on Shepard's pie but I want to use sweet potatoes instead. First I look up if there are any existing recipes. If not I research and Frankenstein ideas and end up making Thai style sweep potato Shepard's pie.

[@cmauthor]

I got accused of having main character syndrome once. By middle schoolers. At the school I was working at. When I was literally doing my job. They were calling me names in the middle of math class (I was a para supporting my student in that class) and I simply asked them to stop calling me names. All of a sudden they laughed about "Haha, Ms. Corinne has main character syndrome!" Yeah, sorry your parents suck so much that they couldn't teach you basic respect for adults in your general vicinity...

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

Yep, sometimes buzzwords/terms become so diluted that it comes to mean "anything/anyone I don't like". I think MCS is real and definitely part of the internet culture, but it's become misused like so many other terms and concepts.

[@Kittylyne78]

If you do find a random dog or fish, do NOT post about it! You'll be the target of the chronically online unhappy people!🙄

[@riveramnell143]

I found a dog in a rainstorm, exhausted and shaking from the cold. I took it to the nearest animal shelter because I wasn’t able to keep it in my mom’s house. The dog was dried and warmed, given food and water. They found the owner… who promptly chewed me out for taking their dog off the street because they had to pay a fee. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I will do it again, for the comfort of the dog. Some people should not have pets .

[@estrella9944]

@@riveramnell143thank you for keeping the dog safe!

[@saipat9118]

I remember I found a baby bunny in my friends yard when they were remodeling her garage and I posted on Reddit asking for “tips on taking care of a bunny I found” and the very first response was “how do you know it’s a bunny. It could be a wild rabbit and if they are in a cage they will start to smash its head into the cage because it’s scared of humans.” There were a lot of ppl just being aggressive assuming I was picking up a wild rabbit when it was clearly a domesticated bunny because my city was having a problem with stray domesticated bunnies. I still posted a picture of the bunny asking if it was a stray or a wild rabbit and the comments were all saying it’s clearly a stray domesticated bunny. I just was shocked when everyone was attacking me for something that they could not prove.😭

[@Starscreamious]

@@saipat9118 It's best to ignore redditors that think they know what they're talking about but are actually just stubborn fools.

[@Honeymooncake]

​@@Starscreamiousthe Only reason I'm still on reddit is to work on my rejection sensitive dysphoria. Works wonders.

[@Krispea]

People are so miserable and love to expel it onto others.

[@theeBLANKspace]

I honestly don't understand what is wrong with people sharing positive or negative comments that is why social media was created 🤭 What type of social platform are you looking for, I can understand that I sometimes get annoyed but that is what makes it, what it is.

[@n.g.l.]

Listen…….. RUN away from miserable people these people hate the air you breathe for even showing a drop of happiness.

[@K_idk]

⁠@@theeBLANKspacemore like people can’t be happy for others anymore

[@juliajs1752]

"Whataboutism" isn't "what about me", but people trying to derail a discussion by pointing out other issues that are not part of the discussion. "Oh, you want to save the whales? What about the orangutans? You don't care about those?" or "oh, trans people get attacked on the streets? What about all the other people getting attacked, don't they matter too?" It's malicious and destructive, without adding to the discussion.

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

2 things can be true at once

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

Thanks for pointing that out! Whataboutmeeeeism is a little awkward, but it may have to be a term as well, apparently

[@keythealien]

or just the general inability to accept that they're part of a group being examined critically. You can't criticize white people or men without some 40 year old white guy getting all pissy because "I'M NOT LIKE THAT!! Feminists and leftists are the ones making all the assumptions!!!1!!!😤😤" Like alright, Kyle, we're obviously not talking about you, then, but thanks for butting into our discussion with your invaluable feedback I guess.

[@lc86_65]

You call it whataboutism... others call it pointing out the hypocrisy.

[@juliajs1752]

@@lc86_65 But it isn't pointing out hypocrisy. It's injecting a topic into a discussion that's not about that topic. Nobody says that the orangutans don't need rescuing or that nobody is being mugged in the streets. But that's not the point *right now*. You're a prime example of whataboutism, it seems.

[@screamlikecookies]

The Goldfish incedent: MAYBE a bird picked the fish up from a pond in a garden and dropped it for whatever reason? Props to the Goldy to survive this stuff😂

[@yatshie8717]

I'm afraid that it's fake just because it happened so much

[@murphychurch8251]

That could well be. Our neighbour once found a dead fish in her hedge. Must have been dropped by a heron, but at first she thought she'd gone crazy or was still sleeping and having strange dreams. 😂

[@FoxGameCZ]

Sometimes it's hard to tell what is genuine since people do fake these kind of videos.

[@screamlikecookies]

I mean, Yeah. Y'all right. I'm still glad, the gold-fishy survived. The other things we simply don't know.

[@gravyz2cute4u]

I thought that too, or maybe a cat or something. Good on him for looking after it.

[@Sycorix9]

On the literacy and reading comprehension bit. There are so many people who clearly can't read or just can't understand things. They need pretexts and clarifications and still will jump to conclusions of their own with or without them. Combined with a need to get angry, things to be this vs this or to try drag others down it just makes so many comment areas actual shit holes.

[@Kaybye555]

Exactly, some people just don't have the ability to do so and paired with others things. And it's usually a combination seen in multiple personalities. So many people have a combination of these traits

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

It also weirdly undermines people actually making necessary clarifications. I feel like it’s hard to keep your brain engaged with anything beginning, “I don’t mean this to apply to…” if you’ve been encountering a lot of “Do not take this as a professional psychological diagnosis, but here’s my grandma’s potato salad recipe” situations.

[@ecupcakes2735]

its no wonder teachers everywhere have been noticing media literacy is down in every grade.

[@Batz-on-paws]

​@@ecupcakes2735 it's terrifying honestly, we should not be getting dumber with media

[@roxyroxelle]

​@@Batz-on-paws but it gets money from the media illiterate folks

[@DarkPaleUnicorn]

back in the 90s when somebody said something stupid, we got to say "nobody asked" and everybody moved on. the internet allows people to be faceless and just say anything that crosses their mind bc they (usually) don't get called out on it. social media is actual purgatory; self inflicted torture

[@Rumade]

Now people post "no one cares" on other people's videos that they spent time making :(

[@Cynchronicity7]

Also, people will comment “nobody asked” or “nobody cares” on actually positive posts. Like some people live to spread misery.😢

[@brianaguilar8283]

I never liked that phrase, nobody asked. I don’t need your permission to speak. It’s my right

[@robertyeah2259]

@@brianaguilar8283that’s why i always just said “thanks for sharing” in place of “no one asked”

[@Imaginary_Ghost1]

Omg I'm so glad about that reading comprehension bit. I'm so sick and tired of people acting like a piece of text is discrimitory or rude when it clearly isn't talking about them or even mentioning them. Like I saw this one post of someone complaining about picky eaters, they clearly weren't talking about anyone with conditions that restrict eating, and yet there were comments of people assuming they were talking about those people. Did they say they were? No, they weren't Edit: Also, to add on to my point, I also hate how everytime I'm trying to say my point, I have to use words like, "I'm not talking about ____" or use words like some, not everyone, most people, and more because they can't just sit down and realize that I'm not talking about everyone or those people. Incredibly infuriating!

[@missdenisebee]

If I could like this comment another 50 times, I would. Because YES😭

[@chubbydinosaur9148]

I'm autistic and last week I almost cried in the charcuterie isle because they didn't have the sandwich meat I always use for my ham toasties. I don't want anyone to "fight" for me, please just don't. Being 32 and almost having a meltdown in public because of something so stupid was bad enough I don't need some twitter sjw to make it more embarrassing. Let's just be happy that I'm slowly getting over my crippling hate for proteins by at least eating ham toasties 🎉

[@ushiima]

That post opened something new for me. glad that I was able to see it!

[@chiaraa1468]

Istg they can't think critically 😭😭

[@thisperson8441]

@@chubbydinosaur9148 legit same, how do the people with known issues understanding social cues have far better comprehension than these people commenting??

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

I’m fully convinced social media is the worst invention humanity has ever created. Too many opinions from too many people whose opinions shouldn’t be shared publicly.

[@randomfan4966]

It was supposed to be a good thing but no, people had to twist it.

[@aribahossain6234]

@@randomfan4966 people twist everything good into something bad....there's no escaping it until Doomsday predicted by scientists or something like that ends humanity

[@whatkaeread]

Agreed

[@b666rchd5]

Endless cycle of the stupid

[@jjs5072]

Weeeeell... maybe not the WORST, but it's def in the top10

[@ailen.notalien]

i literally sigh every time i open the comment section of a video that mentions the word "dad" because i KNOW what the top comment will say. even the sad ones, like someone says "im sad because my dad passed" and there's always someone that's commenting "well at least you HAD a dad, mine ran away" 😭

[@angies_diamondsandpearls]

Fr😭

[@zombieedrea]

That is so nutty 😭 I don't have a relationship with my dad, but good lord, I would NEVER say that after someone said their dad died! Some people need to stop venting in comment sections and get a freaking journal.

[@hitmanbangsyellowcrocs4213]

And the moms that post their babies too. You just KNOW there's people in the comments who will go off on her for doing ....xyz... all wrong! 🤦‍♀️

[@murphychurch8251]

And the next one posting "be glad that yours died and ran away, mine beat me up every day"...🤷‍♀️😂

[@Cryinginthecloudssss]

And they wonder why he left

[@happy_bubble7]

The internet is wild. I laugh at these weird comments. I wrote a short post about Mexican Food being notoriously cheap to make and got multiple comments complaining about how beans dont work for them. OK.?! Mexican food isn't just beans?!

[@chubbydinosaur9148]

I like mexican food for its flexibility, don't like beans? Use ground meat, don't like meat (I don't) use beans. I feel like this is learned helplessness or it hurts when they use their brain.

[@hazeldavis3176]

NO TACOS ONLY BEANS

[@smallestcat]

Taco Bell is good for vegetarians cause they can enjoy fast food and sub meat for beans

[@emobitch99]

LMAO YEAH!! I eat a lot of Mexican food because my area is very like Hispanic immigrant dominated and I'd say most of it doesn't have beans as a main component

[@jamie1602]

I get it. It's difficult to get people to take your dietary problems seriously so it feels like you constantly have to be defensive... But let go of that feeling and just eat the "safe" foods you have. I'm in that camp. I get it. But going "no thank you" or even joking "Oh I'll eat it but then my fiance has to put up with me!" makes it a lot easier. Be aggressive with the pushy people in your life and in person. Get aggressive if people get aggressive with you. You don't have to act like that all the time.

[@Pindolene]

As a chronically ill person, I do understand the anger/resentment. You're forced to live a life so limited while the world moves on without you. I used to be a dancer, but now I can't do any dance at all, and it sucks! HOWEVER... Bringing other people down for not being in our shoes will not make us feel better. Bitterness and resentment only add to the disappointment of not being able to live a "normal" life, and reduce the time you have to take joy in what you can do. Instead of expressing vitriol at those who are able to cherish their time spent with a loved one, why not enjoy the moments of peace and love you can afford in your daily lives? Life is so much nicer when, despite the constant pain, fatigue, the headaches and nausea, you can still smile at the way the sunlight trickles delicately through the leaves of a tree.

[@reid3031]

Heaven help you if you say "watch something else" to them either

[@Dial8Transmition]

Don't tell me what to do!

[@TonyMaynard-SD]

emma chamberlain literally sells metal straws 😭 is she supposed to just have one

[@duonopocky]

That's a great point! And, maybe she has friends that come over. Maybe she only runs the dishwasher when it's full. I'm sure she has more than 1 cup and plate too!

[@Shephardsatan]

Maybe she likes to have parties or gatherings at her place and offer straws for people to use. That was my first thought.

[@Chachixo]

@@duonopocky and don't get me started on forks and spoons lmao.

[@sagetusk]

You have to get a permit to own more than one, so yes

[@Lostboy811]

Yes how many straws do you actually need. I mean don't get me started on plates why are you using them when you could just eat out of your only pan like normal person

[@lugalzagesi91]

lmao, I once asked in a skincare sub about how to get rid of pores, added a selfie just for reference. The crowd of people telling me how they had actual problems, the “that’s it, I’m leaving this sub”, omg did you know I have skin cancer? Did you know I have cystic acne and been suffering my whole life? Like, how t f I’m I supposed to know that? I just wanted some cream or laser recommendation, ended up getting roasted.

[@larashore1000]

Skin texture is pretty much genetics from what I understand, but it might help to see a dermatologist. My skin got a lot better and more clear once I did that. She recommended I get Sebamed products because my issues are related to having super sensitive skin.

[@iwantabiscuitplz]

Grrr some people are infuriating!! Agree with the first comment on here though, go see a dermatologist and you might be able to get medical-grade treatment for it if needed (not sure if your problem is that you have clogged or just wide pores but ya they'll have a solution I'm sure!)

[@mariaking9802]

Similar experience except I asked how much I should expect to spend on a routine and the first comment was berating me for being cheap lol

[@chubbydinosaur9148]

Bruh... I have psoriasis and had melanoma surgery, the acne was low-key fun though, I liked to pop those tiny beads out of the pimples and none of it has to do with your problems, like just... aaaahhh! Anyway I'd suggest a vitamin c routine, face wash, serum and moisturiser. Just keep a heavy duty moisturiser around because my skin tends to get dry from just using vitamin c products or put a thin film of vaseline on the dry patches, those are under eyes and cheeks for me.

[@pinkdarkman]

To be fair, there are a TON of people who have good skin who will absolutely destroy it with products in the search for perfection. Using skincare products unnecessarily can damage your skin and give you a lot of issues that you don't even realize are caused by the products. Also, I think they might have thought you were joking, since "getting rid of pores" is impossible, since we need pores for basic skin function lol. You might have gotten a better response if you asked how to minimize or shrink pores.

[@mollyapteros]

The bank teller story reminded me of when I was a receptionist and since it was late December I politely said "happy holidays" after I was finished dealing with a lady. She very pointedly turned to me and was like "IT'S MERRY CHRISTMAS". I hope she had a very unhappy holiday.

[@trilbynhiss]

"Okay, merry Christmas. And may your New Year suck ass."

[@LavenderCucco]

I actually had that happen to me a couple of times but the other way around. "Merry Christmas!" "HAPPY HOLIDAYS UGH" Edit: This has only happened online to me.

[@BreakofDawn]

Omg me too, working retail! I’m like ok, but merry Christmas and happy new year is really long to say. And I don’t f-ing know if you celebrate Christmas

[@batwithahat312]

"The least fucking marginalized group in the world - people who celebrate Christmas." -Grayfruit

[@Clerzinha1]

Didn't this whole "happy holidays" shit start because of whataboutism? It was exactly people that didn't celebrate Christmas being all like "what about me?"

[@overthinkingkpop]

The degree to which bank teller me would have been like, "have a day," as the lady left

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

“How dare you tell me to have a day, when for half the people in the world, it’s actually night! Did you ever think of that???”

[@Seun_7]

"How dare you tell me to have something?! Are you saying I need charity?! Are you insinuating that I'm poor? How insulting!"

[@RhetoricProject7]

From some other commenter somewhere, I learned "have the day you deserve". Which I thought was a great way to encourage someone to evaluate their own behavior.

[@AkaironoUnko]

"Well then! Continue your day, buhbye"

[@bellarina]

"you shouldn't wish everyone a great day cos they might not have a great day" yeeee cos they had to deal with that lady LMAO

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

I’d be tempted to tell her don’t worry, we’ll waive the fines and penalties if you don’t have one. If you think about it way too hard, it is odd that we say “have a good/nice/great day” constantly, to strangers, with no context. Same with asking strangers how they are, and saying we’re fine regardless of whether we are… Weird that we do that, so much weirder to chew out a randomly selected person as if they invented it 😬

[@bellarina]

@@WhatWouldLubitschDo so true hahah formalities are kinda strange, but someone being like "this offends me" as if you were just doing the most randon thing... i will need a spray bottle for these randos that do not pass vibe check!!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@TenApplesforTime]

10:04 As someone with OCD, there's no such thing as "OCD medication". Some people with OCD take anxiety meds/SSRIs/antidepressants to help, but the fact that this person doesn't even specify shows they aren't bothered to think about their own condition, let alone other people.

[@lucituci97]

I hate how when a couple posts something online, especially instagram, it!s filled with su1cidal comments like “guess I’ll go take a bath with my toaster!” It’s not even funny but if I try to call it out there’s a bunch of people like “it’s just a joke” or “you’re so sensitive I can’t even💀”. Like, who cares, let them be happy, heal yourself as a person, then you’ll actually have a chance at love.

[@v_bunny]

SOMEONE SAID IT!!

[@rainpooper7088]

Instagram is full of unfunny pornsick losers anyways. I'm just there for the animal photography and people *still* find a way to "hear me out" on videos of fish to a concerning degree.

[@emily_8687]

Omg I HATE this! If an objectively non-offensive post upsets someone, they should just scroll on. Interacting with a post they don't like is just actively contributing to their own misery

[@marogmartz]

YES! Especially the comments under videos of couples. They're so bad, filled with unfunny SH jokes to the poimt they're annoying.

[@kyoril.42]

“Heal yourself as a person, then you’ll actually have a chance at love” was a little too much but I get your point 😂

[@tiredsnailtrail]

This is why I love the word "sonder." It's a nice reminder to be realistic and humble in my self perception. Also, I have chronic illnesses and if someone told me about their wonderful morning, I wouldn't be upset about it - I would be HAPPY for them! I wouldn't wish my health issues on anyone. Someone else having a good morning isn't a bad thing, and I wouldn't expect other people to have the same circumstances and routines as me.

[@Dial8Transmition]

It takes empathy, respect and humility to show happiness and support for others than yourself, something a lot of us lack these days. Be proud that you have that

[@wowieitssam9457]

Lol this reminds me of looking on online recipes and some reviews will be like "one star. I replaced half the ingredients with random substitutes and the texture and taste were off". 🤦‍♀️

[@ahmarindungu9010]

I guess I have hit the line between online and chronically online because the way I cringe at the comments trying to humble someone happy 😬

[@Widdekuu91]

It depends on whether the person is actually happy or is pretending to, while she is holding her influencer-sponsor's products and recommends you buy them. I want that bullshit to be called out asap.

[@ahmarindungu9010]

@@Widdekuu91 I agree

[@lonewolf8667]

@@Widdekuu91 A cousin of mine used to post several "happy" post a day to cope with some sort of mental illness. These posts got more and more intense over time, the last posts I read before taking a long break from facebook was her conclusion that "Everybody should know how to live a perfect life like she did." It took a long time for other family members to realize that she was not well. I knew she wasn't ok, but how do you address pretend happiness without being accused of being a Debbie Downer that hate someone's happiness?

[@Widdekuu91]

@@lonewolf8667 Well, you wouldn't post it in public, probably, you'd find her in real life and see if she is willing to open up about her problems. I am always the Debbie Downer btw, so I don't care haha I'm the kind of person that says; 'Happy Birthday! Bytheway, weird random fact, did you know that most people die either right before, right after or right on their birthday? It is because old folk try to make it to their birthday and then they can relax, teenagers start partying very wildly and might have an accident or drink themselves to death and babies get birthdaycake and in the chaos, nobody notices if they choke on something or get a burn from the fire, there's just a lót more possibilities for things to go wrong on such a busy day! Anyway, hope yours is great, try not to die, bye!'

[@billyb6655]

@@Widdekuu91 wow ur so quirky.

[@TheRainAbove]

‘Hoorah, he’s back!’ we all say in unison

[@lunaasashi9391]

Hoorah, he’s back!

[@Pratt11]

Hoorah, he's bac- WHERE HAS HE BEEN??!

[@to_ur_heart]

Actually, I am mute :/ Pls don’t be so insensitive-

[@TheRainAbove]

@@to_ur_heart I used ‘say’ as a general term of expression, not just speaking. You can express your happiness that he’s back however you like/can. 😊🫶

[@to_ur_heart]

@@TheRainAboveIt’s a joke! I thought it would fit with the context pf the video 😅

[@Cryinginthecloudssss]

It’s hard to feel close to anyone who is hyper individualistic. they don’t care about anyone but themselves and they’re so lonely too. they have no idea how it feels to be in an actual community where you help each other or just simply talk to each other. And it reflects in their behavior and how they act towards other people having good things happen to them. they want it all for themselves

[@whatkaeread]

EXACTLY

[@vertanishock7900]

I use to work at a Vegan Caffè, the amount of people who asked for meat was just depressing

[@CallmeMelinanow]

As a 49 year old white woman from the US, I think that your voiceover work is spot on. This video was not made for me, and yet I thoroughly enjoyed it. Sometimes I think people forget that they can keep thoughts inside their head, and look away if something doesn’t interest them. I’m glad younger people are learning to be more intelligent. ❤

[@margonaut]

This! There is no need to weigh in on everything.

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

This is a perfect example of "what about me"

[@notaspeck6104]

Yeah I don’t know how people are so self centred that they can’t appreciate the fact that not everything is about or for them. You can choose to put yourself outside your comfort zone and consume diverse types of content, or you can just stick to what you relate to or enjoy. No one’s forcing you to do either, you’re free to keep scrolling lmao. I will say I understand being annoyed about overexposure but again, just leave.

[@mister_manager]

I blame algorithms. People used to take more of an interest naturally in things that weren't about them, but now that they're served up content that's so specifically relevant to their interests, they're taken aback when something isn't in their wheelhouse. Just anecdotally, my niece is 21 and she and her friends only just heard of David Bowie, whereas people that age 20 years ago were commonly aware of music from the 50s, 60s and 70s-Led Zeppelin was huge in college dorms-even if that kind of music wasn't directly from their time periods and played on "Top 40 hits" stations. It's been said that those who read fiction tend to develop greater empathy since they're putting themselves in the shoes of others with differing backgrounds and personalities, and I wonder if it takes more curiosity now than in the past to seek out experiences and opinions that aren't your own, and if social media is making us less empathetic.

[@baddie1shoe]

I recommend that someone could visit one of the forest preserves we have in the state I live in..and they told me how they talked about my comment in group therapy and complained to me about how my comment upset them because they would need a car. No..they need a job and can take public transportation if they are that pressed. People are becoming absolutely insufferable. I was trying to help… They thought my recommendation was privileged :( I can see that in a way..but they know that wasn’t my intention. WTH.

[@riel4553]

I'm seeing this a lot in Pinterest. Pinterest used to be a pretty chill place, since the original idea is that you want inspiration to craft something, not look for drama. Lately I've seen a lot of these comments of "I don't like this, this is BS!!" "The OP likes it, no need to throw insults." "Well if they didn't want comments they should put this in a private board where I won't see it!"

[@aribahossain6234]

damn...people are really insane sometimes..just because they didn't want to see that pin doesn't mean others didn't

[@Shaytan.666]

I once read the comment of a post which was a male gay version of Cinderella I swear the comments were unbelievable stupid and homophobic and the cherry on top was that they wrote "I'm not homophobic though ❤️" Like girl what? What are you on about you just wrote the most insane homophobic comment and you still have the audacity to write that you aren't homophobic

[@frankieloinandgroin]

@@Shaytan.666 Omg not femboy Cinderella, I remember those reposts too.

[@zerodegreescelsius]

Thanks to your video, I finally learned what had been triggering me for so long: main character syndrome. I have three recent examples that goes like: 1. A video about a kpop idol group debating on the ideal vacation during a variety show (they were given that topic to debate on by the programme). There were comments like, "I wish that that was my greatest worry", "I wish I had money to go on an actual vacation", etc. 2. A video about a woman sharing her recent trip experience to a certain city. Comments like, "You clearly do not know the real [city]", "I have never experienced/heard of [insert shared opinion]", "Are you sure you've even been to [insert name of place shared by poster]", etc. would fill the comment section. 3. Videos about a particular disease/disability. The poster would share the symptoms, experience, and daily life with the disease. The comments would be full of, "I have this disease too, and my symptoms were worse", "Your pain is not as bad as what [I/a friend/a friend of a friend] have to live with on a [day-to-day/hour-to-hour/minute-to-minute] basis", "at least you have [parents/friends/loved ones[ with you", etc. And of course, the example you shared in your video about the woman, husband, coffee and hours spent together really takes the cake as one of the worst I've seen. If I'm not happy with my life, then it's my job to change it. There is always something I can do about it. Pulling others down will not change my absolute situation. Note: (I'll be waiting for snide replies to my comment along the lines of, "Well, I wish I was able to change my situation", "You clearly do not have [insert truckload of problems]", "Let's see how you can change your situation if you're like me, with [insert boatload of issues]", etc.)

[@legallyrequired]

I love the addition of ur note like someone is going to disagree with your opinion after watching an entire video that shares this exact opinion lol Srry had to put that in there to poke fun a lil, but man the convos around trauma online are also awful. People trying to share their horrible life experiences only for someone else trying to win the trauma olympics sharing an even more horrific story. It’s rampant even irl too, everyone wants to be the main character with the most tragic medical condition or saddest backstory.

[@zerodegreescelsius]

@@legallyrequired if you're free to scroll through the replies to other comments, you'll see exactly why I added that note. There are countless people who would not disagree with the main video, but will still try to become the main character in someone else's comment. A main character has the power waltz into your house and claim it as theirs. Still, I appreciate your sharing.

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

I think it's important to recognize privilege in some cases, but without gatekeeping suffering or neglecting to realize its objective. I have disabilities and I'd NEVER tell anyone they aren't allowed to feel pain even if I or someone else have it "worse". As for changing one's life, there are factors in your control and factors that aren't. Sure, there are people who refuse to change and make excuses. But there are also people who can't always work their way out of poverty, illness, disability, etc - especially not with ease. There sometimes is the expectation that you can "push through" illness or depression by trying hard, and that's not necessarily the case. It is also important to recognize the societal factors that may changing your life harder, often connected to privileges like systemic issues. For instance, therapy (something that could use to change their lives) is often inaccessible or unaffordable. It's a nuanced issue.

[@BugHazard]

the goldfish does genuinely need more space than that 1 gallon(?) tank but I think it's weird and stupid to harass someone over it when they just surprise adopted a random goldfish off their lawn; they should just have politely informed him and that's it

[@Ariel-lol]

Exactly lmao. He/she has probably never cared for that type of goldfish, maybe even a fish, before, obviously you won’t know what to do if a fish is just in the grass. Eventually upgrade to a bigger tank, but they had nothing in their house to well, house, a fish.

[@scribblecloud]

@@Ariel-lol completely genuine & non malicious question but why do you specifically go thru the effort of typing out he/she when you just use they later anyways lol

[@m_217]

I'm a frequent instagram reels scroller (bad habit I know) and the comment sections are just... genuinely wild. Insane cases of 'what about me 😢' comments but also so much sexism, racism, transphobia etc. It wasn't like this like a year ago and I really wonder what has made people so disconnected from others that they think it's okay to say such weird things to each other all the time...

[@bellindajane8452]

This phenomenon always baffled me. I don’t like beans, so when I see a bean recipe I just scroll. What a wild idea.

[@cantsay2205]

People like that make me strive to be happier. To quote Doja Cat, "my happiness is all of your misery", and if I'm making hateful people mad by being happy, I'm gonna keep being happy. It might just be the cure for my depression, spite is an amazing motivator.

[@natas3301]

If i am not happy, you are not happy too. We are equal

[@the-weak-alternative]

actually doja cat killed my whole family; your comment needs a trigger warning, do better :-/

[@brianaguilar8283]

Spite is often a bad thing though, let’s not forget that

[@Dial8Transmition]

This is why I deleted all social media years ago, so many people there will find ways to be angry about literally everything and it's just depressing to see

[@charizella]

@StarryWaters-gq1oj is youtube the same kind of social media as twitter is?

[@try9749]

​@StarryWaters-gq1ojthey deleted social media to escape people like you 💀 reading comprehension!!!!! what do we think they were referring to? the answer: tiktok, instagram, twitter, etc. youtube is more or less different. ur smart ass comment was completely unneeded

[@Dial8Transmition]

@StarryWaters-gq1oj I see your point, I just never saw YT as social media as it's less about people and more about content, depending on how you use it of course.

[@RED-my9hl]

​@Dial8Transmition sorry about all the stupid people in this reply section

[@RED-my9hl]

@StarryWaters-gq1oj imagine being so mad that u replied to someone who didn't even reply to u in the first place💀

[@cmaven4762]

The comments about comprehension are seriously valid. So many comments and responses to comments illustrate people's inability to process basic aspects of what they're hearing / seeing. So many people react on the basis of their personal emotions, situations or triggers instead of what is actually being shown in the video content. Things like audience and tone have become apex skills some people just can't interpret anymore.

[@nicematerial]

Respectfully, 'what aboutism' is a lazy debate tactic. This is the 'what about me effect'. Two different things. Happy you uploaded today, Ed!

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

🙏

[@user-kk9hp6sf3t]

The part about people lacking reading comprehension is so true. People really will watch the same video I do and yet come out with a completely different understanding of it. The influencer could say “I don’t like apples” and one person will respond with how “woke” that person is for hating all types of fruit. It’s ridiculous. I don’t have a TikTok account but I’m also not surprised that comprehension is a huge issue given their popularity among a young age demographic. There’s so many teachers now complaining of poor reading skills and a lack of reading comprehension among today’s generation that I only see this problem getting worse, not better.

[@cmaven4762]

Short attention span, too. They really struggle with longer pieces, even in the comments. Sad.

[@playdoh658]

@@cmaven4762this. The amount of times I see people ask questions in the comments that has literally been answered later in the video is more than enough

[@TicTocRobotSnot]

This happened to me a few years ago. I set up an elaborate Halloween area up a small hill at my front door. It’s quite scary and loud. From the street it isn’t loud but you get the idea of what to expect. An angry mom came up to my door and chewed me out because her small autistic child couldn’t come to my door. Lady, there are 30,000 other houses around here. maybe my house isn’t for you.

[@1slandB0y77]

It's a sad world we live in now where not only does no good deed go unpunished, but people lacking basic critical thinking skills, self awareness, manners and self control are able to vomit all over the Internet, stirring up trouble, strife and dissent wherever they go. I've made it a point to avoid people like that as best I can throughout life, as they add nothing to its quality or enjoyment. I know I make mistakes and sometimes say dumb things, but I don't need the entire planet to dog pile on me when that happens, nor do I expect to "return in kind". It's well overdue for us all to grow up and treat each other with a bit of basic respect. How does that saying go? Oh, yeah, "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it" (ascribed to Voltaire, but he never actually said those words).

[@WaffleSalad]

5:39 and this is why we have people cancelling other people for liking media that “romanticizes or glorifies something bad”. Depicting something doesn’t automatically make it positive. People seem to not be able to critically analyze anything

[@AyaDragonheart]

YES this exact thing drives me absolutely insane. I struggled through symbolism and literary analysis in english class but by god I'm still glad it was part of the curriculum because I feel like I can engage more deeply with and understand media that I actually care about.

[@chubbydinosaur9148]

God the hate I get when I like a villain/bad person because they're well written and have a banger story.

[@wowieitssam9457]

Yes!! I hate hate hate when people dogpile on a media or character for being immoral. To tangent a little, same sentiment for when a character is just unlikeable (when it serves a purpose). That's the point. That's the point of the character. Character faults are interesting and often necessary for a story to say something about either why or how they are bad people, especially if they have character growth. First few to come to mind are Andrea from The Walking Dead, Skyler and Marie from Breaking Bad, or the entire book Catcher in the Rye. All of these have/are characters that aren't even necessarily bad people, just actively genuinely hated by the audience because they are unlikeable at times. The thing is, they all serve a purpose for why they are who they are. 🤦‍♀️

[@WaffleSalad]

@@wowieitssam9457 it’s like how they changed Sokka in the latest avatar the last airbender remake. They took out all of his misogyny, so now his character doesn’t grow and it makes certain scenes just make no sense. Not every character has to be 100% like-able especially if they’re supposed to grow and change in their story

[@wowieitssam9457]

@WaffleSalad Yes!!! I was so mad with that character change. He was a teenage boy who did start off with a "girls are weak" mentality. He grew out of it by watching the strong women around him, and also grew out of his insecurity around not bending, which were definitely intertwined. Without that, he becomes a one-note comedic relief. Sokka was so much more. 💔

[@Zippsterman]

"Whataboutism" is not that, it's bringing up bad things about other groups to distract from the discussion about something you yourself has done.

[@z_bennet4208]

ok but what about

[@ecupcakes2735]

thats NARC behaviour

[@w.urlitzer1869]

yeah, what about that.

[@WaffleDoge]

The term is supposed to be "whataboutmeism" for self centered behaviors / a play on the normal "whataboutism"

[@Zippsterman]

@@WaffleDoge Well that makes a lot more sense then

[@gisellealvarez2941]

I worked as a cashier, and I remember I had a customer get angry when I wished them a good day, haha. Some people just want to bother others.

[@puppiesgacha2948]

I always find the competing for who's life is worse odd. Like my health isn't the best. My genetics kinda suck so I got a lot of weird conditions. Do I feel the need to compare it to others? No. I know I don't have it that bad and I'm GLAD!!! I don't want to wallow is my conditions I'd rather look at the bright side and go "hey it could be much worse. I'm glad I am still able to walk and function and have a job." I don't get people who want to have their life suck and they want to always be talking about how much it sucks

[@Ccl2tb]

IKR! Oppression Olympians are really hard to be around. It's like they have to piggyback off your suffering as a springboard to segway into a rant about their own suffering, because otherwise no one would care! Everyone's got our own problems and they are important to us and it's irritating when others try to overshadow yours and make them seem small compared to theirs.

[@chubbydinosaur9148]

I have learned a lot about medications and supplements because of my chronic illnesses and I'm always happy to share my knowledge with others who have yet to figure out why some meds don't work for them. It would never cross my mind to be mean to someone because they can run 10 kilometers. I'm just happy that I can do 3 kilometres on my Hometrainer with supplemental oxygen 😂 also the cycling community is the nicest and most helpful community I've ever come across, they've helped me more than all the cardiologists combined.

[@TheMightyAerodrakon]

@@Ccl2tb“Oppression Olympians” has been added to my online lexicon

[@AKA253]

i have chronic pain and used to be around other folks that LOVED a "whose life is worse" competition, whether you signed up for it or not. every damn time, someone got corrected with "well at least you slept at all last night" "at least you can eat [insert food] today" i started just responding with an 'okay' and then changing the subject bc if i'm not allowed to talk about myself then you aren't either. started some drama at least once in that circle bc i "didn't want to hear people out" no i just didn't want to have to sit through an hour of someone relaying all their problems bc i said i was getting dinner downtown the next day.

[@Kazoeyy]

I know I'm really late to this video but I work at a cat cafe and I've had multiple people tell me they don't like cats or are offended they're not allowed to bring their dogs inside :')

[@riel4553]

I've seen the advice of showering before bed. I've seen the comments saying "you're shaming the people that can't shower before bed."

[@lunamita]

This video is so prompt omg I just watched a KZbinr i loved who post about how she managed to achieve her bucket list at age 24 and some comments saying the same thing ‘ what about people who are disabled? Have mental disease? Have chronic pain ? Also i don’t have any money ‘ ……I’m so afraid these people gonna make really brilliant people stop sharing their stories and methods because they can’t bother

[@lonewolf8667]

One of my favourite goth youtuber had to take a long break from youtube because she was piled on for doing fashion reviews. I found her reviews very helpful, she put a lot of effort in to find the pros and cons of a product, but a lot of her audience freaked out because they couldn't afford x and y items. A lot of young people back then didn't seem to understand what a review is.

[@billiechristine4034]

I watch a lot of homesteading content, and this kind of stuff is always in the comments. Some people have different lives and circumstances. They don't need to hide it to appease you.

[@tshepison8907]

I honestly think it’s a combination of main character syndrome and also, we have to say it out loud at some point but society is becoming more stupid. I honestly think too many stupid people raise even more or e stupid people with zero comprehension skills. Because this is so strange and makes no sense.

[@Piecesoftheshadow]

Unfortunately if you look at history at the masses, humans have always been mostly stupid but social media has just brought them to the forefront and have brought them together.

[@msSweeTae]

When someone comments on a comment I wrote I often have to ask things like "have you even read my comment completely " or "go back and read it again. What did I write?", people want to push themselves into the center and it's getting more. I once watched a video about dating and what can make it hard for you. I commented something like "be yourself and don't try too hard, because that comes off as desperate", another user got very upset with that comment, because what he understood was, that men in general can't be desperate even when they deal with money or health problems... and of course, it was about him. All I told him was that I'm sorry AND that he has to go back and read my comment.

[@itsafroggytime]

i've seen more and more comments nowadays where op/the original commenter will tell others to go reread the original comment instead of engaging with them. it's pretty refreshing and funny

[@threeraccoonsinatrenchcoat8863]

We have a leash law were i live and last summer i found a poor doggy panting and hot. it was a small breed, he jumped right in my car. I pulled over and took pics of him and gave him water and some cooked chicken i had and you could tell he was out from where ever for a long time the way he drank that water. so before i even pulled off i posted in all my local groups a pic of the dig and in my description i put i could not afford to keep him or temporarily house him for more than 24 hours, and if i didn't find the owner in that time then i would find a good home for him. i took him to see if he had a chip and he didn't. also no collar. 24 hours came and went, in the meantime i shared it everywhere in every local group, lost pet groups...etc. Noone came forward. I had him with me when i went to walmart and a little old lady asked if she could pet him (he was super sweet) so i was like yeah and i told her how i had come across him and how i was looking for a home for him. she said really and told me her daughters dog that looked like him had passed on from old age recently and wanted to know if they could have him. she promised she would take him in and care for him if the daughter didn't want him. It was perfect. i gave him to her and left. i didn't get the womans name or anything or even see what vehicle she came out of. 3 days later the owner messaged me wanted to pick him up. She told me she just let him out to use the bathroom earlier that day and he just didn't come back. It was 5 pmish when i found him. she lived in my neighborhood. i told her what happened and she was insanely pissed. had her family messaging me and threatening me and then told me her family worked at the sheriffs dept and they would arrest me. mind you, we have a leash law, you aren't supposed to just let your dog out the front door to wander the neighborhood to pee cause you are too lazy to care for them. And our neighborhood has a bunch of aggressive big dogs that are strays cause people use our neighborhood as a dump site for unwanted dogs. they threatened to come burn the house down, beat me, you name it. i just blocked them all and my dad sat outside waiting to deal with anyone that showed up. i get being upset but every post i made stated i would find him a new home if the owner wasn't found in 24 hours. I have cats and i just couldn't keep him for longer than that. The way i see it if she'd cared about the dog at all it would've at least had a collar and a tag, and she wouldn't let him just outside to pee without a leash or a fence.

[@chubbydinosaur9148]

Had the same situation with a cat but I kept it and nursed it back to health, a year and 4k bucks in vet bills later the owner suddenly wanted his cat back. Sir... why was your cat laying half dead in my parents' front yard in the first place?

[@threeraccoonsinatrenchcoat8863]

@@chubbydinosaur9148 people are crazy man. Glad you found the cat! It probably wouldn't have made it if you hadn't. Some people just shouldn't own animals.

[@idkman6496]

Do you not have shelters in your area? Or rescues?

[@threeraccoonsinatrenchcoat8863]

@@idkman6496 we have shelters but they are refusing to take any animal and have for the last few years. They are at double capacity, and when it rains there is a foot of water in the place. But I'm unsure as to why that had anything to do with anything in my case. The dog wasn't chipped and had no collar with no tag. I did the best I could.

[@idkman6496]

@@threeraccoonsinatrenchcoat8863 Was just curious, chill. I get you did the best you could, owner seemed like a prick but it was irresponsible to just give a dog to someone you just met after a day of having the dog. This isn’t an attack, just genuine advice as not vetting owners can lead to a dog in the hands of an abusive person or dog fighters. As a foster, I’ve seen stuff like this happen. Best advice if it happens again, reach out to someone that can foster the dog instead of shelters if they can’t take them in, there’s a lot of private rescues that will take in dogs as well and place them with fosters. The app Pet finder is a great tool for not only finding pets but small rescues near you.

[@jaggedfangsthebear2321]

That’s the first time I’ve seen “THATS MY OPINION” without the filter 😂 m shoook 😭

[@Sageoftheforest7]

I believe truly happy people simply don't post anything personal online 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@mauvebelly]

“As an emotionally stunted person” 😂 attacked

[@thomasken]

I have been saying "no good deed goes unpunished" for a while now as I've experienced this kind of kindness backfiring as well.

[@nightwingnoir]

I had a teenage coworker that got screamed at by an older woman for “being rude,” because she “wasn’t smiling enough” and didn’t tell her to have a good day when their transaction was done.

[@liliebilie]

Media literacy and reading comprehension rates are so low and it’s scares me

[@pgree68]

A weird way I’ve seen this manifest is through like gate keeping grief bc they’ve experienced something “worse”

[@cyrus2395]

I actually can't believe someone watched a video about a recipe for bean soup and said "what if I don't want to eat this?" EAT SOMETHING ELSE, THEN!

[@justine8387]

This reminds me of "I didnt have eggs" where people would completely brutalise a recipe then complain about the outcome in the recipe blog comments.

[@MimouFirst]

Okay, I laughed so much at this video. These comments are so typical. Especially the debby downers that have to remind everyone that some people have it worse and therefore you should shut up about your okay life 😂

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

Annoyingly gets applied to all situations too, cause if someone’s doing well, they go “That’s great for you, but what about everyone who’s doing worse?” And if someone’s struggling, they say “That’s too bad, but what about everyone who’s doing worse?” I think the moral is, unless you’re stranded at sea with no hope of rescue, don’t talk about your life? I guess?

[@paigemosher8697]

Just remember that people who actually have it worse will seek to improve their lot in life rather than wallowing in self-pity and whining about their circumstances.

[@AA-ed6ek]

@@paigemosher8697 True. I kind of understand why people react the way OP is talking about.

[@Lexiz2902]

10:05 BOOOO 🍅🍅🍅 as someone who is chronically ill and has chronic pain: shut up and let people be happy~ if you believe your misery should impede or be prioritized over the happiness of random people who have nothing to do with you then you are a bad person~ 🥰

[@UnholyEllie]

I feel this video 100%. I was stuck in “happiness makes me angry” for a while. Took some therapy and shit but I’m much better. People can really be bitter. From experience. 😅 These people just need to stay off their phones when they’re angry 😂😂😂

[@shadowsoulless6227]

I have legitimately experienced this stuff whenever I was looking up gluten-free recipes for stuff to make for my mother because she literally cannot have gluten it causes her body to attack itself because of an autoimmune issue, she hadn't had cinnamon rolls in a while so I was looking up how to make gluten-free cinnamon rolls for her for mother's Day. I saw so many comments that were like "why didn't you tell us what to substitute for the milk I'm lactose intolerant!" Or "I can't have cinnamon can we substitute cinnamon with nutmeg???" And I saw like half the comments were just people crying that there wasn't 15 different substitutions listed in the video's description..... Like....guys.... This video was specifically about gluten-free cinnamon rolls.... If you need something super duper catered to you then go looking for something more specific....

[@MeridaEllaSinnottDBurtram]

Yes, it's also externalised responsibility and emotional vampirism. Learning to substitute is part of cooking and part of living with allergy /intolerance. It's a recipe, not a cookery course. Get a book, google substitutions.

[@Ginger8864]

I saw a video of some makeup guru guy getting mad because a pale girl complained Fenty didn’t have a shade of foundation that was light enough for her. Like bro… people can have problems and complain regardless of skin tone

[@riveramnell143]

When I was having chronic pain (herniated disc causing nerve pain down my legs) I actually sought out posts from happy people. It took me out of my current pain and gave me something positive to focus on, even for a moment. Sometimes when it was especially helpful, I’d tell the poster a little about my situation so that I could tell them thanks for posting, it helped me. I just don’t understand people’s negativity. Even when you’re going through the worst days of your life, it helps to get outside your own head and situation for a bit. Not everything needs to be about you. Idk 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@DSQueenie]

Is that an advert on the wall?! What in the Minority Report is this?!

[@whelkpeopleofdoom]

I like it better than spoken ads! But he did one of those too... it's cool though, get that cheddar, Ed

[@bitter_beets]

Yeah, if this continues I’m gonna unsubscribe.

[@hattiek-r]

at least he wrote it in the description too, i didnt notice until i read this comment🥲

[@kolonarulez5222]

Ok yeah I thought a solid black 1984 poster made for "interesting" wall decor

[@Toastybees]

@@bitter_beets You are not entitled to free content.

[@amandajoypanell3533]

I don’t see anything wrong with telling that guy the fish needed a bigger tank as long as you are polite. A lot of people genuinely don’t know that that size tank can severely shorten a goldfish’s life.

[@shadowgirl11]

I think the unfortunate thing about the internet is that a good majority of us are well adapted human beings but couldn’t be bothered to have much of a presence online. Then the rest of the dysfunctional people parade on the internet, giving it the feeling that humanity is doomed lmao

[@jamesclark7827]

People love misery more than they love happiness. The Internet is the land of misery and untreated mental illness.

[@grace_koh]

Don't like something? Can't relate to something? Allergic to a certain type of food? CONTINUE SCROLLING.

[@yourstrulyclee1341]

What I think is ppl try to press real life into the social media mold. For connection and attention. Turns out they’re small in a landscape of millions of users online a day. And ppl don’t like that. Often unaware of that they might be controlled by algorithms, by a device that’s constantly showing them something they might enjoy. You keep on scrolling and consuming and leave with more information and possibly less peace of mind. Real life and social media are different.

[@jumblingclouds]

no good deed goes unpunished

[@littleredfox2234]

1:06 I HATE YOU FOR MAKING ME WITNESSING THIS!!!

[@cataaki]

same, my skeleton almost walked out of my body

[@skywales3807]

Babe wake up, edvasian just dropped a video

[@emijliastarovic8524]

I can’t eat beans cause of ✨childhood trauma✨

[@missmangopudding]

This is the plot of Thunderpants. 😅

[@emijliastarovic8524]

@@missmangopudding omg I never thought I’d see a reference to this movie in the wild lmao 😂

[@TheMightyAerodrakon]

Must’ve bean a tough time for you.

[@naty8646]

My mom non ironically has childhood trauma with beans, it sucks for her but I can't deny the idea of trauma by food sounds kinda silly lol

[@emijliastarovic8524]

@@naty8646 I’m non ironically sorry to hear that

[@ffl99]

These people hating for no reason piss me off. Find something else to do

[@Dial8Transmition]

I guess they just have a lot of stress and sadness in their lives and no way to properly express it

[@paigemosher8697]

​@Dial8Transmition Sounds like a skill issue. Everyone has their baggage, them not being able to handle it properly doesn't mean they have it worse.

[@zerodegreescelsius]

@@ffl99 I wish I had the choice to find something else to do. 😉😉😉😉 can't go wrong with this template MC reply

[@Pratt11]

Brainrot and Internet has made some people too comfortable under their skin, like yeah love yourself and sh*t, but don't glaze yourself like a donut geez

[@Eddysig]

"ama rite? KiM kArDaShIaN!" LMAOOOOOOO

[@maef7026]

"Here is my recipe for carrots with carrot sauce, seasoned with carrot shavings" Anon:"Is there a carrot-free version of this?" Anon2: 'I don't like carrots. Create a recipe just like this but without carrots, just for me."

[@JPaterson8942]

Once i had a customer who, when i said "Have a good afternoon," said she was on her way to a child custody hearing with her abusive ex... Me: "Oh, good luck, I hope it goes well." That was the only 'not having a good day' response i I ever got. She burst out crying and thanked me before she left.

[@madalynelliott7699]

1:59 Not the Deku slander😭😭

[@MegaLpso]

9:08 I don't have a husband. Why would you show me this?

[@thisisnancybot]

If I remember correctly, the post about the woman spending enjoying time with her husband happened during the pandemic. At the time, I figured that the weird backlash was just because people were stir crazy. The fact that things have only got worse since then concerns me.

[@lonewolf8667]

Ah, that makes sense, a lot of people struggled with the isolation. In my country there was a young woman who got her complaints about missing intimacy printed as articles in our biggest newspapers. One of our ministers ended up replying to her through the newspapers. A lot of young people didn't respect the restrictions. Frankly I think a lot of them came off as spoiled.

[@favouro6344]

​@@lonewolf8667 young people live in shared smaller spaces, don't have family or partners at home and lost valuable opportunities from the pandemic. They hated the restrictions as research and studies have shown it affected them more. Stop with the bs. We have to work to take care of old people's retirement when you guys grew up in economic prosperity.

[@lonewolf8667]

@@favouro6344 "You guys"? I have lived in small shitty places my whole life, still do. The pandemic wasn't worse for teenagers and twenty-somethings than what it was for poor 40+ people. A lot of the youngsters would complain that they missed out if they couldn't party every weekend and constantly hang with friends. Me and my peers didn't party every week, going out was a luxury when I was a teen. The young people in my country (Norway) that arranged huge parties when the restrictions happened were mostly from the rich families, they didn't care if they spread the virus around.

[@favouro6344]

@@lonewolf8667 research has shown that people under 30 missed out on a ton of work experience and it halted or derailed people's careers. If your 40 plus and have no career after all the economic prosperity then that's a you thing. People of all ages skirted the rules not just youngsters. The 50 year old prime minister of UK was caught kissing his assistant while both were married. Again, this isn't about who skirted the rules but who was affected more. I'm sure you had family support during the pandemic so you didn't feel the effect of being alone 24/7 for over a year. You had a partner and kids around and friends. Rather than being alone at home doing homework online or online in a small apartment. You were in the cheap (when you bought it) but now expensive house you own. Young people are still suffering from a lack of social skills due to the pandemic. It was easier for older folks point blank period. You guys were more established at work and more able to keep jobs. Meanwhile everyone I know including me struggled to find entry level roles that disappeared. Now these same young folks are expected to have relational and work experience when none was provided during the pandemic.

[@Eddysig]

edvasian has a type of humor that I feel like is genuinely timeless, like how can you mix old and new memes like that, and a not-online 20 year old like me follows perfectly. Maybe it's the smart and sarcastic cadence or something too, idk I just LOVE his humor

[@Insanity-vv9nn]

It’s so common to see people with lack of comprehension skills that I feel like the only person with common sense