How I Stopped Living For Others And Started Living For Myself ✨

Instead of letting life happen to us, I truly believe that we all have the power to start writing our own stories the way we see fit. So I hope you take advantage of what’s been handed to you to create a beautiful story that is uniquely yours.
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[@0Flow0]

I feel like the more I go my own path the more people close to me realize that they can't control me or affect my decisions.

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ yes!!

[@naimahnasir4386]

0+q++

[@aundriamorgan4210]

I love this for you. Establishing boundaries will often lead to others disagreeing with us. But that’s okay! I am learning to respect the desires of my own heart, even if that leads to my family not supporting my decisions. It’s my life. It’s not meant for me to live it for them.

[@jenaya_laila2442]

I love travelling, studying, art, meeting diverse people, deep conversations, Nature and good coffee...

[@MalamaLife]

Everything I love 😊

[@ShahrazadDesign]

Me too!✨

[@silviaschager7262]

So do I

[@emmaem7784]

Its great to see things in common with strangers 😊

[@lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment]

@@emmaem7784 When we find commonality, there is no longer a stranger in those we encounter.

[@DianaBelle1]

"When we determine what is enough for us, we can stop chasing what we lack and begin to just appreciate everything we have. It's not giving up on our goals or just settling but it's being content or choosing gratitude." Always grateful to this channel! Thank you Sofie!

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ Thank you so much Diana!

[@dee-deebe9256]

😊Yess and it's is profound 🧡🙏🏽

[@site_is_down]

I agree with this too! I also love the content; it's very informative and entertaining at the same time. So amazing to have found the right channel. 😊

[@MetalHeart8787]

Ive just Discovered this Channel i do like her, BUT The "Simple life Girl" is just another money maker. she has another channel that has 5 Videos, Less subscribers about 19,000 of them But hasn't posted anything in six Months. simply put this channel is producing More Money & the camera/ equipment links she makes Money from.

[@The_Real_Brent_Savage]

I love the purpose of this channel. I am currently trying to do the same. I started by reading Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty. Happiness is finding me instead of me trying to find it 😀🙏🏻❤️

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ thank you so much

[@The_Real_Brent_Savage]

@@MalamaLife keep it up. More people need to switch to this mentality

[@eliza6470]

I am heading on the same journey...this channel really took me out of the trap of wanting to have " perfect life". I have enough of leaving for others. I might read this book too thank you:)

[@raniaahabchane99]

I'm reading the same book but I realized it's not spiritual

[@eliza6470]

@@raniaahabchane99 then what is it about??

[@sacdaabdurhman]

“99% of the harm is caused in your head, by you and your thoughts. 1% of the harm is caused by reality, what actually happens and the outcome. Most of the time, the problem isn’t the problem. The way you think about the problem is.”

[@MalamaLife]

👌❤

[@MetalHeart8787]

although I do believe & agree our thoughts can & do have an effect on US, to say it's 99% "in your head" is BullSh*t.

[@didiervandijk9713]

Incorrect

[@panyasethi3293]

Well said

[@hananhano-vq9er]

thank sweetie

[@julielevesque2668]

Let go of the narrative...you got that right! My friends don't understand why I would downsize...they keep telling me you have to aim for more...I said NO...I want less, I deal and manage with anxiety, O.C.D. Highly sensitive personality disorder and ADHD....I want inner peace more then anything...empty the plate or just keep the plate at a manageable level....the more you have...the more things you have to think about.

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ good for you on knowing what you need and being unapologetic about it :)

[@Travelwiththennarasu]

try oshos dynamic meditation and yoga ....then after a year or two. just go with vipassana meditation or any other meditation technique which osho prescribed in his book (112 meditation)... pick any one technique from that and work with a guru. good luck...i know what you are going through and how it feels.

[@georgelyden]

I have realized that health is true wealth, and TIME is my most valuable commodity. I’m sending you all happy thoughts of peace and kindness.. 💙

[@MalamaLife]

This is so true! in the middle of all the madness, we need to remind ourselves what's truly important! thank you Keoki

[@josejoaquinbenitez6485]

There's a saying that goes "The richest person isn't the one who has the most but the one who needs the least". I try to keep that in mind to discern what do I really want.

[@MalamaLife]

👍❤

[@ShakeelAhmad-qj5rm]

The richest person is the one 🎉having friends who are always there whenever one needs

[@irisd.6288]

I've read a bunch of selfhelp books in the past few years and I can honestly say that this single video holds such an incredible amount of value! Thank you for touching upon every single topic I needed to hear about today! Every aspect of this video is absolute gold🙏✨

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ thank you Iris

[@therapywithlara]

I agree, they are gold! Such great shares and so helpful.

[@designalivearchitects282]

absolutely right

[@beebsblue]

This video is profound. It’s made me realise that I have enough. That I am enough. Thank you Sophie🙏🏽 💕

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ yes!! I love that you realize that

[@lisamaria4366]

Just to live for you! And try to ignore what others are telling you!

[@MalamaLife]

Yes 🙌

[@empoweringminds1473]

My mantra these days

[@donnapalma7058]

I am messed up. I was so depressed i want to get out from it and live a happy life. This video helps me to calm down. Thank you and keep going.

[@MalamaLife]

❤❤❤

[@LaureninGermany]

Just one tiny step in the right direction every day, no matter how small, will get you there, Donna. You will amaze yourself when you suddenly see how much you have changed ❤️

[@syedarushnaali6248]

Tell me a few tips more ?I have overthinking problem , I am fex up , My brain giving me pain😢

[@KristinaLovesJustin]

@@syedarushnaali6248 life is not always happy..everyone has ups and downs.. seek peaceful life, peace you feel inside you.. search how you feel in certain things, places.. for example i feel most peaceful when im praying, drawing, walking, taking pictures of nature.. Take step by step, they also make path

[@giannicharvari]

I found your channel just a couple days ago and you have changed my life. You have inspired me in so many ways to prioritize my self care and see different perspectives, to cleanse my space, start towards slow living, and start a capsule wardrobe! Thank you so much!!!

[@MalamaLife]

I am so happy to hear that ❤️ thank you for your lovely comment

[@PeachesSkinCare]

Having been raised in a home with fear and uncertainty I knew from a young age that if I pleased others I wouldn’t be left or hurt. I took that belief into my adulthood and I realized very quickly that good people would take from me but also give back where others would take and take until they drained me. My business is caring for others and so this can be difficult to escape. However as I aged into my 40s and 50s I started to LOVE me more and only surround myself with people that cared about me or maybe took but knew how to give, people that deserved me and my love and kindness and empathy. What a gift it has been. I do what brings me and my husband and adult children joy or just ME and I fill my soul and it is a huge change. I have empowered myself and it is a beautiful thing. I love the book Clarity & Connection and I highly recommend it to anyone here. Blessings to everyone here. Thank you for another beautiful video. 🍑🙌🏻🧡Lisa Be you! Don’t be who others expect us to be or look. We are unique and amazing 🙌🏻

[@MalamaLife]

I feel like I'm getting to know you better through your comments Lisa :) thank you for taking the time to always share and write such thoughtful comments.

[@PeachesSkinCare]

@@MalamaLife I think we are both similar spirits I hope that doesn’t sound silly. Come and visit me one day. I would love it. 🍑🙌🏻🧡

Thank you for this video! It really hit home 🤍

[@MalamaLife]

Chloé ❤️ thanks for watching. I love your videos

[@roseelliott2728]

I’m currently on vacation on Kauai such a lovely place to regroup and recharge. I’m enjoying your channel so much and share your videos with my daughter who is about to graduate college. The ideas you share apply to all ages. 🙌🏼

[@MalamaLife]

Enjoy your vacation :) and thank you for sharing my videos. Much aloha ❤

[@Our-cornwall-life]

This video couldn't have came at a better time the "don't hold yourself back part " xx

[@MalamaLife]

❤️

[@NathalieLazo]

Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness! ~❤️Nat

[@MalamaLife]

❤️

[@esteminor5145]

I always say that "simplicity is a keynote of a good life".❤️😊✌️🎶😘

[@pecoslife6681]

Thank you for uploading this video at just the right time for me. I turned to 32 today and still single, fighting with life. I was anxious about my career plan and having my own family. I was just feeling behind to everyone. But your video really made my day. Thank you!

[@jenniferma1982]

I feel the same and I am 39. Thanks for sharing! Take care!

[@yousefalabdulhai4016]

You're absolutely right, living for ourself, and focusing more in our own lives is important priority - we can't help and light other lives unless light ours. Your channel and its content are awesome!

[@hnnhml]

Couldnt agree more

[@luisszczurek3484]

Sometimes I feel like living for others is the main cause of all people's problems in life.

[@nicoleonfeels]

All the yes! It’s easy to get caught up in doing what is most acceptable or expected. Living life on your own terms and figuring out what that truly is is a gift 🎁

[@MalamaLife]

❤️yes!! so true

[@LaureninGermany]

Yes yes! Deciding what is enough and seeing what I have and really appreciating it has changed my mood. That’s actually happened since your last video. You are really worth listening to. You’re like a big sister to us all. I just have a slight problem with worrying that if I enjoy it, it‘ll go away. I think this is a Welsh thing. But I’m doing it anyway.

[@MalamaLife]

Thank you Lauren! maybe I'm Welsh too 😆 haha

[@LaureninGermany]

@@MalamaLife oh dear… I am glad you understand me, but also not! Btw you have been recommended by Jaime Tan - Enlightened Spoon and seconded by me to be a guest on Film Booth‘s „Best KZbinr in the world“ series. (In his community posts)

[@155books]

Thank you for sharing this!! I have just come to the conclusion that the job I do doesn’t not define me as a person. I’ve been living me life to work a job that makes me so unhappy just because to others it looks like I’m doing something ‘good’ or ‘better’. My job does not define me as a person wow - so I am going to look for something that is going to make ME happier. 💗

[@princepeterwolf]

I couldn't sleep past night, I got out of bed today at 6 am, and been in the bathroom feeling anxious and frustrated with my job and my life wondering where the hell am I going towards at. I don't feel like my life is going anywhere that is meaningful to me, I'm making more money now than I ever thought I would, but apart from the stability this money gives me I can't think of anything else that truly makes me happy about my job. I have good days yeah, specially the days I achieve goals and get my boss's approval which feels great, but it's like you said an extrinsic drive, and it wears out pretty quickly. I'm turning 32 this year and I don't feel like I am living my life the way I'm meant to. But at the same time I'm so scared of taking a risk...it's a never ending circle. I hope, truly hope, that one day, sooner than later, I'll be able to live my life in a way that brings me peace and fulfillment. I really do. Thank you for this video, you have no idea how much it calmed me today

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ wishing you all the best.

[@narzon1]

Hi Sophie, Great advice! A long time ago 30+ years - I always wondered why I looked up to certain people or why certain people seemed happier and/or more comfortable in there own skin. It's because they were true to themselves, and did not feel they needeed to be like somebody else to impress or be liked. It took me a while, today I am very comfortable with whom and what I am. I'm not bothered by what other people think ( I cannot control that) I am who I am - If you like me ( I think most people who know me do) great. If you don't for some reason - I am sorry but I cannot control that unless I did some harm. And the first rule of NIno is - "Do no harm" It's all good, Life is good, when you don't feel like you need to prove yourself to the world. I love your take on the world Take Care Nino

[@MalamaLife]

I love your life philosophies Nino :) Yes! life is good when you are just yourself! cheers to that

[@ramiadarbeb2069]

I REALLY LOVE YOUR LIFE STYLE AND THE WAY YOU LIVE , COMFORT AND HAPPINESS WE CREAT BY OWNSELF , DOESNT MATTER THE PEOPLE AND PLACE BUT REALLY MATTERS IS WHAT IS ISIDE US

[@JoamarJohnCanosa]

Another beautiful video. “There is no right answer in life so experiment and learn the lessons as they come.” I finally forced my self to go back to our pink home. Even though my partner left for heaven, I’m still going to fulfill the renovation of our pink home. Before I always wanted flashy things but now, I’ve realized the simple the better. Thank you, Sophie! You have no idea how I or we consider you a blessing for always reminding us the beautiful things in life. We love you!

[@kiratuba808]

I love being in nature, animals, moving my body, coffee, baking and journaling.

[@PowerAndBalance]

Love your videos. Your voice is so calming and therapeutic. You've made an amazing progress in the two years you've been on KZbin and it's very inspiring to see. I can absolutely relate to this video, the older I grow the more I break away from the things/behaviours that were taught to me to live my life the way I want to x

[@MalamaLife]

Thank you Karolina ❤️ It really means a lot

[@chelseal9195]

I really needed this today. I cried a little. Thank you.

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ aw thank you

[@jr1734]

I really liked how @ 06:55 you sprinkled more parmesan on your partners plate before your plate, the little gestures of love!

[@MalamaLife]

haha ❤️

[@ryantianaputriwmp9947]

You don't know how much your videos help me. I can say that my life is a mess, but I'm trying to be better little by little. It's really hard, but I won't stop. Thank you so much. Your videos really like medicine for me.

[@MalamaLife]

Sending you all my love ❤️ thank you for watching the videos and I'm so happy it's helpful

[@ryantianaputriwmp9947]

Thank you so much your words mean a lot. :)

[@ericeichstaedt2357]

Now that I recently turned 60 (Sagittarius ♐), nothing's really changed, making meanjng and purpose in my life, living life based on my values, just continues, obviously it's never-ending. I'm my late 30's/ early 40's it was all about my spiritual development and countless self help books and spiritual work. So it's a kind of life phase, we end up continuing to evolve. And all of life really, we are the same person, we have been always evolving. Sometime we need to just really focus on it though, for sure. The also say, the more I know the less I know, so that also speaks to the idea of continuing to be a student of life. I think I have less anxiety when I let go of needing to figure out what I'm "supposed" to be doing. I just keep asking what makes me happy, what makes life worth it in the end, when I look back did I have an amazing adventure. Its great to have your insights and inspiration!

[@MalamaLife]

can't wait to continue to evolve! thanks Eric ❤️

[@khalilahd.]

Oof I needed this video. This is something I’ve always had a problem with. I’ve lived for others and their happiness for most of my life and my goal for 2022 is to live life on my own terms as well. Such an inspiring video and concept 💜

[@MalamaLife]

wishing you all the best and all the love ❤️

[@namratamalik1911]

@@MalamaLife thanks

[@Thomasp671]

What a very lovely soul.... At 57.... I'm on the same path and journey at the moment just building the best me I can be.... Have a good day everyone....

[@ChannelJtotheD]

Exactly! Enough is Enough. I have thought others lessons for their own hurtful doings and interference in my life which was beyond my control to STOP them. I don’t owe them anything and have now chosen to love 💗 myself, be happy 😃 and is living for myself. We only get one shot at life to live our best selves. Every day we wake up is a gift. Nothing is promised, as we can see before our own eyes that it can be taken away at any moment, at any time, day, month, year and at any age from the day we were born.

[@Mausiska]

Beautiful message ❤

[@Jane-nm5dq]

Recognition motivates me. Recognition of my mind, personality, positive virtues. The opportunity to show off something and get praise for it, the expected words "you're well done." To be noticed motivates me and somehow stand out among others (No, I don't want to be special. Rather be noticed) Maybe it's because of self-doubt, or maybe because of the inability to notice one's own successes. I don't know.

[@MarmaladeOutdoors]

I just found you and subscribed and am binge watching your videos and just wanted to thank you for taking the time to create these videos and sharing your insight of what you’re doing and what you’ve learned.

[@leandro-santiago]

Love the great energy and content of your videos!

[@haajino1145]

Thank you for the message. So profound and beautiful!

[@solaremoonlove7462]

Thank you Sophie! This video is so good! 😊🙏🏽🌹

[@stacyburrell13]

I needed to hear this desperately..thank you 🙏🏽

[@pinkypanchal3439]

Such a beautiful video !

[@watitduful]

Why can’t one have appreciation for what they have yet aspire for greater? There’s a reason I ask the question this way. Often times, many get into conflating discontent with aspiration.

[@MalamaLife]

Yes! We can have both. Why not

[@KeerthanaR22]

so peaceful

[@94eleven90]

Thank you for this🌱🙏

[@police994]

Love all your videos!! It calms me!!

[@josedosanjos2200]

That's so nice to watch ! Thank you.

[@nadahesham3523]

I am so happy that I discovered your channel and came through this video❤️❤️

[@simpleextrovert]

When we determine what enough is for us, it’s makes us appreciate what we have more and not our seemingly lack. ❤️

[@heidih2260]

This was a beautiful video with a beautiful message❤️

[@Team920_]

I loved the simple life and still do . I was living so simple and enjoying it to the fullest . Wake up each day , read , look out the window at the beautiful view , sit on the porch with my cup of coffee in the sun. Play with my daughter , talk to my wife and set goals with her . I couldn't or wouldn't want nothing more . Then in September of 2020 I was affected by a Flouroquinolone Antibiotic that devastated my health . I am still dealing with the side effects til this day . Although I still love the simple things it's very hard now to fully enjoy them . Each day I'm trying to bounce back . Awesome video thank you 😊

[@anthonyalarcon4965]

Very encouraging and good words of positivity!!!

[@gretchenbelenchia781]

Loved this one!

[@Sandra-ge3wx]

So inspiring 💜💙✨thank you

[@tinbernas5947]

I think it’s so awesome that she makes videos she is genuinely so inspiring

[@shackeriabrown2378]

Well said and the visual is perfect 🥰

[@oceanveau]

Thank you for this! I was literally just going thru these same thoughts in my head about all the predictable stuff and doing what we have been programmed to do instead of actually being ourselves and not conforming to "the norm" which is not even normal at all, its like living by a script instead of organically and naturally because this is just what you think youre supposed to do to be accepted and considered normal. Well f that! Im right there with you and I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. 🙏

[@MalamaLife]

Thanks for watching ❤️

[@martinsmith125]

Your videos are always so relevant and calming. We all need more self reflection in our lives

[@ririzamel285]

Thank you for uploading this very inspiring video! " NOTHING IS ENOUGH TO THE MAN FOR WHOM ENOUGH IS TOO LITTLE" .

[@safwafiore]

Listening to you is so peaceful. Thank you

[@brianhanke37]

Thank you for being so honest. It really helps.

[@soniatorres2750]

Thank you! 💕

[@heyyy1325]

I love this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@therapywithlara]

Great message, thank you for sharing!! 👏

[@Antistylestyleclub]

I'm crying 🥲 Thank you for this ❤

[@CeilidhAngelEdits]

7:03-7:20 actually had me sit back in shock for 5 minutes a just think because I realised this is what I’ve been doing for so long. I was close to shedding a tear at the realisation I’ve been ‘acting’ as myself rather than simply being myself. I tried so hard ‘acting’ as me in order to find myself again but in the end it made me feel even more lost and now I understand why. This video was seriously needed thank you for another amazing video!🤍🙌

[@MalamaLife]

❤️

[@mish6568]

I needed this. Thank you so much ❤️

[@kazebaa]

Beautiful video!

[@surekag3844]

Wow marvelous video,no words

[@NYKIRA]

✨Enough is such a powerful word✨ when we take a moment to turn inwards we will really realise we are enough, truly. so soothing and inspiring thank you.

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ yes!!

[@annacarvalho7432]

What a powerful message! We have to have gratitude always, starting with the little things in life! Gratitude for giving us this message and showing us the beautiful nature of this place!You are enlightened! 🙏🏻🌞

[@saragaair575]

Thank you so much for the wonderful episode ❤️😭

[@krisztina_k]

Listening to your videos is a true therapy. :) ♥

[@lookswer]

Watching these videos make me feel so calm. I love it.

[@atqiyamaisha7116]

such a life saving video !

[@gainknowledgeandinsight]

Another amazing thought shared from an amazing and beautiful soul. Thank you 🙏.

[@_hana._____]

Thank you very much for this beautiful creation. 🧡🌾

[@michaeldemetriou3043]

Wise words from your professor 👏 thanks Sophie for sharing your thoughts and advice ❤️

[@goldenheartalchemy]

This was such a beautiful video, thank you, am saving to re-watch when I nerd a loving reminder. I love your voice, energy and videos they are so soothing, gentle and resonant. I am grateful for you 💗🌺

[@dalaov5258]

Great cinematography.

[@MalamaLife]

❤️ thank you so much

[@TacoTrucc]

This video is absolutely amazing!

[@miaballester3978]

Thank you. Your insight and inspiring video and commentary have struck a chord in my search for better understanding of what we each call our lives.🙏

[@queenphylldaily33]

Peaceful and beautiful ❤️🥰🙏🧘‍♀️

[@shivanikakade6487]

You really motivates me in all the ways ♥️ thank you for being there to share such valuable information.

[@pengthao5994]

Very touching video . thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings!

[@priya-wt4sr]

I Know self Love is important , But sometime for parents , Our Love force us to listen what they told us and what we want not to listen for ourself . At that situation what to do !!!

[@thedudenessquoting]

Thank you for the positive video and keep pushing!

[@yoorachel7696]

I was crying over the issue in my family and this vid comes as a blessing to me, feel blessed ❤️

[@dominika1203]

thanks for the video 🖤 every time I watch a video from you, it is just so calming 😊loved all of the quotes 🖤

[@sjtang3242]

Thanks for sharing .It helps feel hope again .

[@beyourself760]

Thank you for making me feel so good without even a therapy ❤️

[@cindyparker8264]

I only found your channel in recent days and it has already started to open my mind and clarify things. Thank you for all you do and share. I appreciate you. ♥️🙏

[@anamikapandey7533]

Such a beautiful video and great thought ❤️

[@TheImperfectReader]

This video just gives me so much clarity.

[@ValentinaGulpe]

Love your content! so inspiring , thank you for sharing !

[@PagAmuma]

Thank you always for your weekly videos Sophie. I watch your videos every Friday after the long work week as it is very therapeutic and gives me a fresh perspective to reset myself after a stressful week. Continue to inspire others and be a living example Sophie. ❤️☺️